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Newest 10% Happier episode: You're Doing Relationships Wrong... with Adam Grant (October 14, 2026). Key takeaway, summary and previous episodes from 1% Better.
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You're Doing Relationships Wrong | Adam Grant
10% Happier with Adam Grant · Published · 1h 4m
Key takeaway
Make your care clear before raising a difficult concern. Choose a conversation you have been putting off. Before you begin, explain why the person and the relationship matter to you, then ask whether it is a good time to talk. Give them room to respond before offering your observations. Adam Grant argues that feedback can be difficult to hear when it makes someone feel judged by the person giving it. Explaining your intentions can help them understand why you are bringing the issue up.
Episode overview
A friendship can feel easy during shared activities and uncertain when you need to discuss something personal or difficult. Dan Harris talks with organizational psychologist Adam Grant about those moments, drawing on Grant's book Vibe. The conversation considers how people form connections, handle friction, and work together. Three ideas help organize it: - **Recognize the connection you need.** Shared goals, interests, and values can support different kinds of relationships. - **Practice difficult conversations.** Smaller disagreements and invitations to give feedback can create opportunities to learn. - **Create room for closeness.** A personal disclosure, thoughtful question, or shared experience can open a deeper conversation. Grant uses the terms allies, pals, and companions to distinguish these forms of connection. One person can fill more than one role.
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Previous 10% Happier episodes
- Why You Can Be Great at Work That Completely Drains You | Molly Graham
- Why Staying Calm All the Time Is the Wrong Goal | Nadia Narain & Katia Narain Phillips
- Why There's Nothing Wrong With Your Anxiety | Brother Phap Dung and Kaira Jewel Lingo
- Why Your To-Do List Is Killing Your Actual Life | Oliver Burkeman
- Why Your Response Is the Only Thing You Actually Control | Pascal Auclair
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