The Mental Frame & Specific Daily Actions to Succeed | Andy Stumpf

Pick the choice as often as possible Pick the choice as often as possible that is slightly more difficult. To me, that is slightly more difficult. To me, that is slightly more difficult. To me, it's the small stuff that nobody sees it's the small stuff that nobody sees it's the small stuff that nobody sees that makes the biggest difference in the that makes the biggest difference in the that makes the biggest difference in the world. Everybody knows the harder choice world. Everybody knows the harder choice world. Everybody knows the harder choice versus the easier choice. versus the easier choice. versus the easier choice. Everybody, Everybody, Everybody, to include myself, to include myself, to include myself, will look externally and say, "What do I will look externally and say, "What do I will look externally and say, "What do I need to do?" need to do?" need to do?" I know what I need to do, and so do I know what I need to do, and so do I know what I need to do, and so do they. They need to do the thing they. They need to do the thing they. They need to do the thing that even if it's microscopic, that they that even if it's microscopic, that they that even if it's microscopic, that they want to do less more often than they do want to do less more often than they do want to do less more often than they do the thing that they want to do more. the thing that they want to do more. the thing that they want to do more. Over time Over time Over time is the juice. is the juice. is the juice. >> Welcome to the Huberman Lab Podcast, >> Welcome to the Huberman Lab Podcast, >> Welcome to the Huberman Lab Podcast, where we discuss science [music] where we discuss science [music] where we discuss science [music] and science-based tools for everyday and science-based tools for everyday and science-based tools for everyday life. I'm Andrew Huberman, and I'm a professor I'm Andrew Huberman, and I'm a professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at of neurobiology and ophthalmology at of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine. My guest Stanford School of Medicine. My guest Stanford School of Medicine. My guest today is Andy Stumpf, a retired Navy today is Andy Stumpf, a retired Navy today is Andy Stumpf, a retired Navy SEAL and subsequently a member of the SEAL and subsequently a member of the SEAL and subsequently a member of the Red Bull High-Performance Team, where he Red Bull High-Performance Team, where he Red Bull High-Performance Team, where he was a wingsuiter, where they literally was a wingsuiter, where they literally was a wingsuiter, where they literally get into what some people call squirrel get into what some people call squirrel get into what some people call squirrel suits and fly. He set two world records suits and fly. He set two world records suits and fly. He set two world records wingsuiting, but today's discussion is wingsuiting, but today's discussion is wingsuiting, but today's discussion is not really prompted by his career in the not really prompted by his career in the not really prompted by his career in the military, nor his wingsuiting, although military, nor his wingsuiting, although military, nor his wingsuiting, although it does impact the discussion. Today's it does impact the discussion. Today's it does impact the discussion. Today's discussion was prompted by my reading of discussion was prompted by my reading of discussion was prompted by my reading of Andy's recent book called Drownproof. Andy's recent book called Drownproof. Andy's recent book called Drownproof. Now, there are a lot of books out there Now, there are a lot of books out there Now, there are a lot of books out there by former Navy SEALs, but upon reading by former Navy SEALs, but upon reading by former Navy SEALs, but upon reading it, I realized that this was a special it, I realized that this was a special it, I realized that this was a special book, and that Andy's experience and the book, and that Andy's experience and the book, and that Andy's experience and the lessons he shares, and most importantly lessons he shares, and most importantly lessons he shares, and most importantly the tools he shares, are both unique and the tools he shares, are both unique and the tools he shares, are both unique and indeed important for everyone to hear. indeed important for everyone to hear. indeed important for everyone to hear. For instance, he describes a tool in For instance, he describes a tool in For instance, he describes a tool in there that I now use every single week, there that I now use every single week, there that I now use every single week, which has allowed me and many other which has allowed me and many other which has allowed me and many other people, and I'm certain you, to separate people, and I'm certain you, to separate people, and I'm certain you, to separate out issues of concern versus issues of out issues of concern versus issues of out issues of concern versus issues of impact, meaning to allow you to actually impact, meaning to allow you to actually impact, meaning to allow you to actually be able to impact, perhaps not control, be able to impact, perhaps not control, be able to impact, perhaps not control, but certainly have an impact on certain but certainly have an impact on certain but certainly have an impact on certain things while ignoring the issues in life things while ignoring the issues in life things while ignoring the issues in life that distract you, that pull you into that distract you, that pull you into that distract you, that pull you into drama, and that can numb you out, and drama, and that can numb you out, and drama, and that can numb you out, and that essentially waste your life. Today, that essentially waste your life. Today, that essentially waste your life. Today, you'll learn what that exercise is and you'll learn what that exercise is and you'll learn what that exercise is and how to implement it in your life. You'll how to implement it in your life. You'll how to implement it in your life. You'll also learn a lot of other simple tools also learn a lot of other simple tools also learn a lot of other simple tools about how to take the slightly harder about how to take the slightly harder about how to take the slightly harder road in certain moments versus the road in certain moments versus the road in certain moments versus the easier road. You'll also learn from Andy easier road. You'll also learn from Andy easier road. You'll also learn from Andy about the most difficult things that he about the most difficult things that he about the most difficult things that he encountered in life and how he navigated encountered in life and how he navigated encountered in life and how he navigated them. And no, those weren't in the them. And no, those weren't in the them. And no, those weren't in the military nor wing suiting. It actually military nor wing suiting. It actually military nor wing suiting. It actually comes from his personal life, which he comes from his personal life, which he comes from his personal life, which he shares very candidly. shares very candidly. shares very candidly. And finally, we have a very serious and And finally, we have a very serious and And finally, we have a very serious and in many ways somewhat emotional in many ways somewhat emotional in many ways somewhat emotional discussion about suicide and mental discussion about suicide and mental discussion about suicide and mental health more generally. I do hope that health more generally. I do hope that health more generally. I do hope that that discussion will benefit all of you. that discussion will benefit all of you. that discussion will benefit all of you. I'm certainly we are certainly, I should I'm certainly we are certainly, I should I'm certainly we are certainly, I should say, very open to your input. That say, very open to your input. That say, very open to your input. That discussion, of course, raises more discussion, of course, raises more discussion, of course, raises more questions than it provides answers, but questions than it provides answers, but questions than it provides answers, but I think we can all agree that this is an I think we can all agree that this is an I think we can all agree that this is an extremely important and timely topic. extremely important and timely topic. extremely important and timely topic. The frequency of suicide is increasing The frequency of suicide is increasing The frequency of suicide is increasing significantly in all communities. So, significantly in all communities. So, significantly in all communities. So, for reasons related to the range and the for reasons related to the range and the for reasons related to the range and the nature of the specific topics that we nature of the specific topics that we nature of the specific topics that we discussed today, you're in for a very discussed today, you're in for a very discussed today, you're in for a very special episode. Thank you, Andy Stumpf. special episode. Thank you, Andy Stumpf. special episode. Thank you, Andy Stumpf. Before we begin, I'd like to emphasize Before we begin, I'd like to emphasize Before we begin, I'd like to emphasize podcast is separate from my teaching and podcast is separate from my teaching and podcast is separate from my teaching and research roles at Stanford. It is, research roles at Stanford. It is, research roles at Stanford. It is, however, part of my desire and effort to however, part of my desire and effort to however, part of my desire and effort to bring zero cost to consumer information bring zero cost to consumer information bring zero cost to consumer information about science and science-related tools about science and science-related tools about science and science-related tools to the general public. In keeping with to the general public. In keeping with to the general public. In keeping with that theme, today's episode does include that theme, today's episode does include that theme, today's episode does include sponsors. All right, my book is finally sponsors. All right, my book is finally sponsors. All right, my book is finally ready for release. ready for release. ready for release. Protocols, an operating manual for the Protocols, an operating manual for the Protocols, an operating manual for the human body, is coming out in 3 months. human body, is coming out in 3 months. human body, is coming out in 3 months. It's my first book and I've been working It's my first book and I've been working It's my first book and I've been working on it for many years now and it's really on it for many years now and it's really on it for many years now and it's really a reflection of decades of research and a reflection of decades of research and a reflection of decades of research and experience that came even prior to experience that came even prior to experience that came even prior to starting the book. My goal for this book starting the book. My goal for this book starting the book. My goal for this book is that it serves as an easy-to-use is that it serves as an easy-to-use is that it serves as an easy-to-use manual for dealing with any number of manual for dealing with any number of manual for dealing with any number of different pain points or performance different pain points or performance different pain points or performance goals that you might have in terms of goals that you might have in terms of goals that you might have in terms of mental health, physical health, and mental health, physical health, and mental health, physical health, and performance. It covers the science and performance. It covers the science and performance. It covers the science and most effective protocols for sleep, most effective protocols for sleep, most effective protocols for sleep, nutrition, exercise, focus learning and nutrition, exercise, focus learning and nutrition, exercise, focus learning and neuroplasticity, stress management, and neuroplasticity, stress management, and neuroplasticity, stress management, and much more. I'm super excited to share it much more. I'm super excited to share it much more. I'm super excited to share it with all of you. The launch date is with all of you. The launch date is with all of you. The launch date is September 15th. You can learn more about September 15th. You can learn more about September 15th. You can learn more about it or pre-order by going to it or pre-order by going to it or pre-order by going to protocolsbook.com. protocolsbook.com. protocolsbook.com. It's also available on amazon.com and It's also available on amazon.com and It's also available on amazon.com and I'm super excited that protocols is I'm super excited that protocols is I'm super excited that protocols is finally ready for release. And as finally ready for release. And as finally ready for release. And as always, thank you for your interest in always, thank you for your interest in always, thank you for your interest in science. And now for my discussion with science. And now for my discussion with science. And now for my discussion with Andy Stumpf. Andy Stumpf, welcome. Andy Stumpf. Andy Stumpf, welcome. Andy Stumpf. Andy Stumpf, welcome. >> Thank you for having me. >> Thank you for having me. >> Thank you for having me. >> I read your book, "Drownproof", >> I read your book, "Drownproof", >> I read your book, "Drownproof", recently. recently. recently. >> me nervous, by the way. Telling you that >> me nervous, by the way. Telling you that >> me nervous, by the way. Telling you that before we started. I've read it. before we started. I've read it. before we started. I've read it. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> A lot of books including a lot of the >> A lot of books including a lot of the >> A lot of books including a lot of the quote-unquote seal books. It's awesome. quote-unquote seal books. It's awesome. quote-unquote seal books. It's awesome. I'll mention a few of the reasons why I'll mention a few of the reasons why I'll mention a few of the reasons why it's awesome, but I'll let people read it's awesome, but I'll let people read it's awesome, but I'll let people read it for themselves, but just to really it for themselves, but just to really it for themselves, but just to really get right to it, one of the practices get right to it, one of the practices get right to it, one of the practices that you describe in the book is that you describe in the book is that you describe in the book is something that I decided to do right something that I decided to do right something that I decided to do right away and I've been doing every week away and I've been doing every week away and I've been doing every week since I listened to it. Now granted, I since I listened to it. Now granted, I since I listened to it. Now granted, I just listened to the book a few weeks just listened to the book a few weeks just listened to the book a few weeks ago, so that means twice, but I found it ago, so that means twice, but I found it ago, so that means twice, but I found it to be tremendously useful not just to be tremendously useful not just to be tremendously useful not just during the exercise, but in the days during the exercise, but in the days during the exercise, but in the days that follow and it's really that follow and it's really that follow and it's really remapped a lot of what I would call my remapped a lot of what I would call my remapped a lot of what I would call my unhealthy tendencies and given me much unhealthy tendencies and given me much unhealthy tendencies and given me much more sense of agency and my days are are more sense of agency and my days are are more sense of agency and my days are are just going so much better. In fact, I just going so much better. In fact, I just going so much better. In fact, I was on time today for the first time in was on time today for the first time in was on time today for the first time in my life. my life. my life. >> Influence versus concern? >> Influence versus concern? >> Influence versus concern? >> Yes. So, could you describe this simple >> Yes. So, could you describe this simple >> Yes. So, could you describe this simple exercise because I'll tell you having exercise because I'll tell you having exercise because I'll tell you having having done it, it is immensely having done it, it is immensely having done it, it is immensely powerful. I only wish I had learned powerful. I only wish I had learned powerful. I only wish I had learned about it like in junior high school. about it like in junior high school. about it like in junior high school. >> Story of my life. >> Story of my life. >> Story of my life. >> Yeah. So, first off, not my creation. >> Yeah. So, first off, not my creation. >> Yeah. So, first off, not my creation. This is something I don't remember and I This is something I don't remember and I This is something I don't remember and I think I said this multiple times in the think I said this multiple times in the think I said this multiple times in the book because I want to be very clear book because I want to be very clear book because I want to be very clear that of basically taking ownership over that of basically taking ownership over that of basically taking ownership over nothing in that book because they're not nothing in that book because they're not nothing in that book because they're not my unique ideas. They were things that my unique ideas. They were things that my unique ideas. They were things that were taught to me were taught to me were taught to me that I'm trying to pass forward. So, I that I'm trying to pass forward. So, I that I'm trying to pass forward. So, I don't remember exactly where I first saw don't remember exactly where I first saw don't remember exactly where I first saw this, but the way it was first this, but the way it was first this, but the way it was first positioned to me was your circle or positioned to me was your circle or positioned to me was your circle or sphere of sphere of sphere of influence, which is very small, and your influence, which is very small, and your influence, which is very small, and your sphere of concern, which for most people sphere of concern, which for most people sphere of concern, which for most people to include myself is very large. So, if to include myself is very large. So, if to include myself is very large. So, if it was the size of this table, that it was the size of this table, that it was the size of this table, that would be your concern, would be your concern, would be your concern, the influence would be the size of a pin the influence would be the size of a pin the influence would be the size of a pin drop on the table. And the exercise is drop on the table. And the exercise is drop on the table. And the exercise is actually really simple. Take a standard actually really simple. Take a standard actually really simple. Take a standard piece of paper, draw a line down the piece of paper, draw a line down the piece of paper, draw a line down the middle, middle, middle, concern on one side, influence on the concern on one side, influence on the concern on one side, influence on the other, and you just take the time to other, and you just take the time to other, and you just take the time to write down the things that are occupying write down the things that are occupying write down the things that are occupying your waking hours. So, I don't know if your waking hours. So, I don't know if your waking hours. So, I don't know if you're anything like me, you're anything like me, you're anything like me, I try not to set an alarm unless I have I try not to set an alarm unless I have I try not to set an alarm unless I have something really pressing that day, but something really pressing that day, but something really pressing that day, but if I do wake up and my brain does if I do wake up and my brain does if I do wake up and my brain does revolution, I have to get out of bed revolution, I have to get out of bed revolution, I have to get out of bed because otherwise I'm staring at the because otherwise I'm staring at the because otherwise I'm staring at the ceiling in the bedroom. ceiling in the bedroom. ceiling in the bedroom. And And And if I have really sticky things in the if I have really sticky things in the if I have really sticky things in the morning, I'll I'll usually do this about morning, I'll I'll usually do this about morning, I'll I'll usually do this about once a month or once every 6 months now, once a month or once every 6 months now, once a month or once every 6 months now, but almost every time that thought will but almost every time that thought will but almost every time that thought will be on the left-hand side of the column. be on the left-hand side of the column. be on the left-hand side of the column. It's just a concern. But why is it It's just a concern. But why is it It's just a concern. But why is it preventing me from going back to sleep? preventing me from going back to sleep? preventing me from going back to sleep? Why can't I let go of it? And it's Why can't I let go of it? And it's Why can't I let go of it? And it's social media, the world that we all live social media, the world that we all live social media, the world that we all live in. It's things you can't control. It's in. It's things you can't control. It's in. It's things you can't control. It's just all the stuff that you spend your just all the stuff that you spend your just all the stuff that you spend your energy and effort focusing on. And then energy and effort focusing on. And then energy and effort focusing on. And then you go to the other side of that paper, you go to the other side of that paper, you go to the other side of that paper, and I'm still yet to find more than one and I'm still yet to find more than one and I'm still yet to find more than one thing that you can write down, thing that you can write down, thing that you can write down, and that's the direct influence that you and that's the direct influence that you and that's the direct influence that you have. And all you really can write on have. And all you really can write on have. And all you really can write on that is yourself. Now, you can you can that is yourself. Now, you can you can that is yourself. Now, you can you can trunch that out and say your thought trunch that out and say your thought trunch that out and say your thought process, the way you speak to yourself, process, the way you speak to yourself, process, the way you speak to yourself, the way you plan your day, the way you the way you plan your day, the way you the way you plan your day, the way you manage your time, manage your time, manage your time, but all that goes back into things you but all that goes back into things you but all that goes back into things you can actually directly control, can actually directly control, can actually directly control, which leads you which leads you which leads you to the realization or leads me to the to the realization or leads me to the to the realization or leads me to the realization that I have no control over realization that I have no control over realization that I have no control over what happens to me in my life, but I what happens to me in my life, but I what happens to me in my life, but I have absolute and complete and total have absolute and complete and total have absolute and complete and total control over how I respond to it. And I control over how I respond to it. And I control over how I respond to it. And I think that speaks to the agency piece. think that speaks to the agency piece. think that speaks to the agency piece. And it helps me, especially when I have And it helps me, especially when I have And it helps me, especially when I have those sticky thoughts, those sticky thoughts, those sticky thoughts, it helps me at least take a step back. it helps me at least take a step back. it helps me at least take a step back. I'm not going to say I'm perfect and I I'm not going to say I'm perfect and I I'm not going to say I'm perfect and I can put down a lot of the things that can put down a lot of the things that can put down a lot of the things that I'm concerned with, but it will identify I'm concerned with, but it will identify I'm concerned with, but it will identify for me a healthy or an unhealthy for me a healthy or an unhealthy for me a healthy or an unhealthy attachment to those things, and it does attachment to those things, and it does attachment to those things, and it does help me cross back over to help me cross back over to help me cross back over to okay, I understand that this is okay, I understand that this is okay, I understand that this is scary or concerning, but being scared or scary or concerning, but being scared or scary or concerning, but being scared or concerned about it doesn't impact concerned about it doesn't impact concerned about it doesn't impact outcome. Everything on the right-hand outcome. Everything on the right-hand outcome. Everything on the right-hand side of the paper does. So, that's what side of the paper does. So, that's what side of the paper does. So, that's what it does for me. it does for me. it does for me. Man, you want to talk about developing Man, you want to talk about developing Man, you want to talk about developing some more efficiencies? It's a great some more efficiencies? It's a great some more efficiencies? It's a great tool. tool. tool. It's startling how much is going to be It's startling how much is going to be It's startling how much is going to be on the left and how little is going to on the left and how little is going to on the left and how little is going to be on the right. be on the right. be on the right. >> Yeah, it's been a game-changer for me >> Yeah, it's been a game-changer for me >> Yeah, it's been a game-changer for me because and maybe I misinterpreted the because and maybe I misinterpreted the because and maybe I misinterpreted the exercise a little bit because on the exercise a little bit because on the exercise a little bit because on the right-hand side of the right-hand side of the right-hand side of the page, I've been listing out the things page, I've been listing out the things page, I've been listing out the things that I can control and the things that I that I can control and the things that I that I can control and the things that I can do with my time. can do with my time. can do with my time. >> Listen, it goes back to you controlling >> Listen, it goes back to you controlling >> Listen, it goes back to you controlling the management of your time. That's the management of your time. That's the management of your time. That's totally fine. And with all these tools, totally fine. And with all these tools, totally fine. And with all these tools, I don't think there is a wrong answer. I don't think there is a wrong answer. I don't think there is a wrong answer. If it has the impact that you're looking If it has the impact that you're looking If it has the impact that you're looking for, again, you could titrate all that for, again, you could titrate all that for, again, you could titrate all that back up to you controlling yourself and back up to you controlling yourself and back up to you controlling yourself and what you do with your time. I think it's what you do with your time. I think it's what you do with your time. I think it's perfect. perfect. perfect. >> Yeah, again, just an awesome exercise. I >> Yeah, again, just an awesome exercise. I >> Yeah, again, just an awesome exercise. I really encourage everyone to do it. For really encourage everyone to do it. For really encourage everyone to do it. For me, once a week has been very helpful. me, once a week has been very helpful. me, once a week has been very helpful. And it just pops to mind anytime I'm And it just pops to mind anytime I'm And it just pops to mind anytime I'm thinking like I saw something in the thinking like I saw something in the thinking like I saw something in the news yesterday and and you start going news yesterday and and you start going news yesterday and and you start going down these rabbit holes and you're like, down these rabbit holes and you're like, down these rabbit holes and you're like, "Wait, what am I doing?" "Wait, what am I doing?" "Wait, what am I doing?" >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> They're like, "What am I doing?" And and >> They're like, "What am I doing?" And and >> They're like, "What am I doing?" And and we can blame the algorithms, we can we can blame the algorithms, we can we can blame the algorithms, we can blame the world, but ultimately, yeah, blame the world, but ultimately, yeah, blame the world, but ultimately, yeah, you know, it's you know, once you you know, it's you know, once you you know, it's you know, once you realize that you're being manipulated, I realize that you're being manipulated, I realize that you're being manipulated, I think the obligation is to not follow think the obligation is to not follow think the obligation is to not follow that that path. that that path. that that path. >> is real. I don't know what it means. >> is real. I don't know what it means. >> is real. I don't know what it means. I've listened to people argue about it I've listened to people argue about it I've listened to people argue about it ad nauseam, but I have the choice as to ad nauseam, but I have the choice as to ad nauseam, but I have the choice as to whether or not I interface with the whether or not I interface with the whether or not I interface with the algorithm. And that's where the power algorithm. And that's where the power algorithm. And that's where the power That's what I think the algorithm is That's what I think the algorithm is That's what I think the algorithm is trying to do is figure out a way to take trying to do is figure out a way to take trying to do is figure out a way to take that power away from you and put it back that power away from you and put it back that power away from you and put it back into their hands, but it's optional. into their hands, but it's optional. into their hands, but it's optional. >> You learned this some years ago. >> You learned this some years ago. >> You learned this some years ago. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> In the teens. >> In the teens. >> In the teens. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> But you still do it now about once a >> But you still do it now about once a >> But you still do it now about once a month. month. month. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. Yeah. [clears throat] Yeah. [clears throat] Yeah. [clears throat] >> it around with you? >> it around with you? >> it around with you? >> If you're anything like me, I spend a >> If you're anything like me, I spend a >> If you're anything like me, I spend a lot of time on airplanes. It's a really lot of time on airplanes. It's a really lot of time on airplanes. It's a really good time to occupy yourself with good time to occupy yourself with good time to occupy yourself with something that is, for me at least, something that is, for me at least, something that is, for me at least, productive as opposed to just tuning out productive as opposed to just tuning out productive as opposed to just tuning out and watching YouTube videos of sovereign and watching YouTube videos of sovereign and watching YouTube videos of sovereign citizens get arrested, which is one of citizens get arrested, which is one of citizens get arrested, which is one of my favorite pastimes. my favorite pastimes. my favorite pastimes. I highly recommend people get into it. I highly recommend people get into it. I highly recommend people get into it. >> These are the people that that say you >> These are the people that that say you >> These are the people that that say you can't arrest me, I'm a sovereign can't arrest me, I'm a sovereign can't arrest me, I'm a sovereign citizen. citizen. citizen. >> travel. >> travel. >> travel. >> Right to travel. >> Right to travel. >> Right to travel. >> the right, which they do have the right >> the right, which they do have the right >> the right, which they do have the right to travel, but you can't to travel, but you can't to travel, but you can't >> right to drive without a driver's >> right to drive without a driver's >> right to drive without a driver's license in all 50 states. license in all 50 states. license in all 50 states. >> Are they out there testing the law or >> Are they out there testing the law or >> Are they out there testing the law or are they hoping that they'll get, you are they hoping that they'll get, you are they hoping that they'll get, you know, flagged and and there'll be a know, flagged and and there'll be a know, flagged and and there'll be a video so they can promote the sovereign video so they can promote the sovereign video so they can promote the sovereign citizen thing or they or they just citizen thing or they or they just citizen thing or they or they just really into being sovereign citizens and really into being sovereign citizens and really into being sovereign citizens and living their lives? living their lives? living their lives? >> I think some of them fall into the first >> I think some of them fall into the first >> I think some of them fall into the first category and I think some of them category and I think some of them category and I think some of them actually just legitimately believe. actually just legitimately believe. actually just legitimately believe. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> And they >> And they >> And they There's amazing things on the internet. There's amazing things on the internet. There's amazing things on the internet. You shouldn't believe all of them. You shouldn't believe all of them. You shouldn't believe all of them. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Maybe even most of them. >> Maybe even most of them. >> Maybe even most of them. >> That's a fair point, actually. The vast >> That's a fair point, actually. The vast >> That's a fair point, actually. The vast majority of things you should take, I majority of things you should take, I majority of things you should take, I think, with a large dose of scrutiny on think, with a large dose of scrutiny on think, with a large dose of scrutiny on the internet. the internet. the internet. >> We're about the same age. So, late 40s >> We're about the same age. So, late 40s >> We're about the same age. So, late 40s for you, 50 for me. I was thinking about for you, 50 for me. I was thinking about for you, 50 for me. I was thinking about this in light of this concern versus this in light of this concern versus this in light of this concern versus influence exercise, which is, you know, influence exercise, which is, you know, influence exercise, which is, you know, that they created these like 10 and 20 that they created these like 10 and 20 that they created these like 10 and 20 and 30-year high school reunion things. and 30-year high school reunion things. and 30-year high school reunion things. I think for the reason that you have the I think for the reason that you have the I think for the reason that you have the choice to go back and learn about what choice to go back and learn about what choice to go back and learn about what people are doing and people are doing and people are doing and who's who's who's still married, who's still alive, who's still married, who's still alive, who's still married, who's still alive, who's thriving or what whatever. Whatever the thriving or what whatever. Whatever the thriving or what whatever. Whatever the reason is, we have these things called reason is, we have these things called reason is, we have these things called reunions. But with social media, reunions. But with social media, reunions. But with social media, there's this opportunity to be there's this opportunity to be there's this opportunity to be constantly aware of everybody you grew constantly aware of everybody you grew constantly aware of everybody you grew up with, them of you, people you knew 5 up with, them of you, people you knew 5 up with, them of you, people you knew 5 years ago in a job that you no longer years ago in a job that you no longer years ago in a job that you no longer think about. So, think about. So, think about. So, I feel like that left column now has I feel like that left column now has I feel like that left column now has grown tremendously, regardless of grown tremendously, regardless of grown tremendously, regardless of somebody's age, the opportunity to be somebody's age, the opportunity to be somebody's age, the opportunity to be aware of so many more things, not just aware of so many more things, not just aware of so many more things, not just distant in other countries and other distant in other countries and other distant in other countries and other other issues entirely, but like our past other issues entirely, but like our past other issues entirely, but like our past lives are very much like anchored to us lives are very much like anchored to us lives are very much like anchored to us now, unless we really now, unless we really now, unless we really literally draw that line and and sever literally draw that line and and sever literally draw that line and and sever from all that stuff. Cuz like, as much from all that stuff. Cuz like, as much from all that stuff. Cuz like, as much as I wish the best for all my classmates as I wish the best for all my classmates as I wish the best for all my classmates and all these people in graduate school and all these people in graduate school and all these people in graduate school and like, it it really a lot of it and like, it it really a lot of it and like, it it really a lot of it should not occupy one's mind. should not occupy one's mind. should not occupy one's mind. >> Do you ever wonder whether social media >> Do you ever wonder whether social media >> Do you ever wonder whether social media itself is making it harder to do this itself is making it harder to do this itself is making it harder to do this exercise? exercise? exercise? >> I think it could be. Do you know who >> I think it could be. Do you know who >> I think it could be. Do you know who Chad Wright is? Chad Wright is? Chad Wright is? >> Yes. I know of him and we've >> Yes. I know of him and we've >> Yes. I know of him and we've corresponded a little bit. corresponded a little bit. corresponded a little bit. >> He is >> He is >> He is hilarious. hilarious. hilarious. >> You want to we should probably describe >> You want to we should probably describe >> You want to we should probably describe a He does the same type of stuff that a He does the same type of stuff that a He does the same type of stuff that Goggins does. He's an endurance athlete, Goggins does. He's an endurance athlete, Goggins does. He's an endurance athlete, long red beard. I call him the Forrest long red beard. I call him the Forrest long red beard. I call him the Forrest Gump of the SEAL Teams, to his face, so Gump of the SEAL Teams, to his face, so Gump of the SEAL Teams, to his face, so I'm comfortable saying it. He's amazing. I'm comfortable saying it. He's amazing. I'm comfortable saying it. He's amazing. I've had him on the show a couple times. I've had him on the show a couple times. I've had him on the show a couple times. Knew him when we were in the Teams Knew him when we were in the Teams Knew him when we were in the Teams together. together. together. And he came on the show on my show in And he came on the show on my show in And he came on the show on my show in November. November. November. And I don't know how [clears throat] we And I don't know how [clears throat] we And I don't know how [clears throat] we started talking about it, but it was started talking about it, but it was started talking about it, but it was this conversation around screen time. this conversation around screen time. this conversation around screen time. It's like, all right, bud, It's like, all right, bud, It's like, all right, bud, >> [clears throat] >> [clears throat] >> [clears throat] >> let's pull the phones out. Let's see >> let's pull the phones out. Let's see >> let's pull the phones out. Let's see what we got. what we got. what we got. It's not awesome. I think it was 4 and It's not awesome. I think it was 4 and It's not awesome. I think it was 4 and 1/2 hours. 1/2 hours. 1/2 hours. So, we decided that in January of this So, we decided that in January of this So, we decided that in January of this year we're going to try to drive our year we're going to try to drive our year we're going to try to drive our screen time per day to under an hour for screen time per day to under an hour for screen time per day to under an hour for total phone usage. I think phone calls total phone usage. I think phone calls total phone usage. I think phone calls we were able to strip out of that. we were able to strip out of that. we were able to strip out of that. >> [gasps] >> [gasps] >> [gasps] >> I think the closest he got was about 90 >> I think the closest he got was about 90 >> I think the closest he got was about 90 minutes. And then the last week of minutes. And then the last week of minutes. And then the last week of January for me I got mine down to 30 January for me I got mine down to 30 January for me I got mine down to 30 minutes. Now, for clarity, I was still minutes. Now, for clarity, I was still minutes. Now, for clarity, I was still doing a lot of the stuff that I was doing a lot of the stuff that I was doing a lot of the stuff that I was doing on my phone, but I forced it over doing on my phone, but I forced it over doing on my phone, but I forced it over to my laptop, which was a really to my laptop, which was a really to my laptop, which was a really interesting experience because it's way interesting experience because it's way interesting experience because it's way less sticky on that platform. So, less sticky on that platform. So, less sticky on that platform. So, Instagram on your laptop sucks. [snorts] Instagram on your laptop sucks. [snorts] Instagram on your laptop sucks. [snorts] It It's not intuitive. The things that It It's not intuitive. The things that It It's not intuitive. The things that you would normally just do with your you would normally just do with your you would normally just do with your thumb, they don't exist, so you end up thumb, they don't exist, so you end up thumb, they don't exist, so you end up closing your laptop up. So, I'd get on closing your laptop up. So, I'd get on closing your laptop up. So, I'd get on there, post what I wanted to, and then there, post what I wanted to, and then there, post what I wanted to, and then just leave. just leave. just leave. My mental health was better in January My mental health was better in January My mental health was better in January than it had been in a long time. than it had been in a long time. than it had been in a long time. So, I 100% think that social media is So, I 100% think that social media is So, I 100% think that social media is not only designed to suck up as much as not only designed to suck up as much as not only designed to suck up as much as that left-hand that left-hand that left-hand portion of the your list as possible, portion of the your list as possible, portion of the your list as possible, but again, it it's it's it's optional. I but again, it it's it's it's optional. I but again, it it's it's it's optional. I mean, mean, mean, you create content, you have a massive you create content, you have a massive you create content, you have a massive platform. I create content, we can platform. I create content, we can platform. I create content, we can easily tell ourselves we have to exist easily tell ourselves we have to exist easily tell ourselves we have to exist on these platforms, which to a degree we on these platforms, which to a degree we on these platforms, which to a degree we do. The question I ask myself is, is the do. The question I ask myself is, is the do. The question I ask myself is, is the platform working for me, or am I working platform working for me, or am I working platform working for me, or am I working for it? And that's the healthy for it? And that's the healthy for it? And that's the healthy relationship. And I think actually that relationship. And I think actually that relationship. And I think actually that goes right back to that exercise. Am I goes right back to that exercise. Am I goes right back to that exercise. Am I targeting what I do with my time and targeting what I do with my time and targeting what I do with my time and being efficient with it, and then moving being efficient with it, and then moving being efficient with it, and then moving on, or am I just getting stuck into this on, or am I just getting stuck into this on, or am I just getting stuck into this thumb scroll of death, which is right thumb scroll of death, which is right thumb scroll of death, which is right before bed. I've heard you say it's the before bed. I've heard you say it's the before bed. I've heard you say it's the best time to have electronic device best time to have electronic device best time to have electronic device light. light. light. Yeah, [laughter] real bright in a dark Yeah, [laughter] real bright in a dark Yeah, [laughter] real bright in a dark room. room. room. >> Right before bed, right? >> Right before bed, right? >> Right before bed, right? >> really want to maximize, make sure you >> really want to maximize, make sure you >> really want to maximize, make sure you do it first thing in the morning, too, do it first thing in the morning, too, do it first thing in the morning, too, and don't get outside and look at the and don't get outside and look at the and don't get outside and look at the sun. Yeah. But it's so sticky. I'm sun. Yeah. But it's so sticky. I'm sun. Yeah. But it's so sticky. I'm telling you when I hopped over to my telling you when I hopped over to my telling you when I hopped over to my laptop, at first I couldn't even figure laptop, at first I couldn't even figure laptop, at first I couldn't even figure out how to post a picture. And it's so out how to post a picture. And it's so out how to post a picture. And it's so clunky and so not intuitive that you clunky and so not intuitive that you clunky and so not intuitive that you don't want to play with it. don't want to play with it. don't want to play with it. >> Are you still there now? >> Are you still there now? >> Are you still there now? >> Oh no, I went right back to using my >> Oh no, I went right back to using my >> Oh no, I went right back to using my thumb. thumb. thumb. >> What's Chad doing now with his social >> What's Chad doing now with his social >> What's Chad doing now with his social media? Is he still media? Is he still media? Is he still >> He's probably doubled it. >> He's probably doubled it. >> He's probably doubled it. >> He said the same thing, too, by the way. >> He said the same thing, too, by the way. >> He said the same thing, too, by the way. Man, this is amazing. Man, this is amazing. Man, this is amazing. >> We should do this more often. >> We should do this more often. >> We should do this more often. >> And just right back to being on your >> And just right back to being on your >> And just right back to being on your thumb again by probably March. thumb again by probably March. thumb again by probably March. >> So what's mind-boggling about this is, >> So what's mind-boggling about this is, >> So what's mind-boggling about this is, and you'll tell me no, we're just and you'll tell me no, we're just and you'll tell me no, we're just ordinary people who were trained to do ordinary people who were trained to do ordinary people who were trained to do extraordinary things, but you know, SEAL extraordinary things, but you know, SEAL extraordinary things, but you know, SEAL SEAL selection, you know, pairs down, SEAL selection, you know, pairs down, SEAL selection, you know, pairs down, you know, for every 100 guys, you know, you know, for every 100 guys, you know, you know, for every 100 guys, you know, maybe 15 get through, maybe 10, you maybe 15 get through, maybe 10, you maybe 15 get through, maybe 10, you know, consistently, right? Discipline is know, consistently, right? Discipline is know, consistently, right? Discipline is certainly a piece of that. Resilience, certainly a piece of that. Resilience, certainly a piece of that. Resilience, mental toughness, you know, what mental toughness, you know, what mental toughness, you know, what whatever language you want to throw at whatever language you want to throw at whatever language you want to throw at it. You have that, Chad has that. You it. You have that, Chad has that. You it. You have that, Chad has that. You guys were weaned in that, you were guys were weaned in that, you were guys were weaned in that, you were forged in that. Then you do high-risk, forged in that. Then you do high-risk, forged in that. Then you do high-risk, high-consequence work, right? And on high-consequence work, right? And on high-consequence work, right? And on minimal sleep, et cetera, et cetera, and minimal sleep, et cetera, et cetera, and minimal sleep, et cetera, et cetera, and here are two guys challenging each other here are two guys challenging each other here are two guys challenging each other to spend less time on social media, to spend less time on social media, to spend less time on social media, accomplish it by virtue of competition. accomplish it by virtue of competition. accomplish it by virtue of competition. Okay, cool. And then you say revert. Okay, cool. And then you say revert. Okay, cool. And then you say revert. What does that say, not about SEALs, What does that say, not about SEALs, What does that say, not about SEALs, >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> what does that say about the platforms? >> what does that say about the platforms? >> what does that say about the platforms? Cuz I mean, think about the rest of the Cuz I mean, think about the rest of the Cuz I mean, think about the rest of the world. world. world. >> says everything you need to know about >> says everything you need to know about >> says everything you need to know about the platform. The fact that you can like the platform. The fact that you can like the platform. The fact that you can like you just said, you can recognize all of you just said, you can recognize all of you just said, you can recognize all of those things. You can both text each those things. You can both text each those things. You can both text each other back and forth in your limited other back and forth in your limited other back and forth in your limited phone usage for the day. Man, this is phone usage for the day. Man, this is phone usage for the day. Man, this is awesome. And 60 days later you're back awesome. And 60 days later you're back awesome. And 60 days later you're back to the same behavior that led you to the to the same behavior that led you to the to the same behavior that led you to the November-December conversation. November-December conversation. November-December conversation. That's all you need to know about the That's all you need to know about the That's all you need to know about the platforms. platforms. platforms. >> Okay, I I have to drill into this. This >> Okay, I I have to drill into this. This >> Okay, I I have to drill into this. This is not where I thought we would is not where I thought we would is not where I thought we would >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> we would go first, but but it gets right >> we would go first, but but it gets right >> we would go first, but but it gets right to the heart of discipline and to the heart of discipline and to the heart of discipline and self-control versus influence and time self-control versus influence and time self-control versus influence and time and and time is everything. When you are and and time is everything. When you are and and time is everything. When you are on a social media platform and you're on a social media platform and you're on a social media platform and you're scrolling away, are you aware of the scrolling away, are you aware of the scrolling away, are you aware of the time that's drifting away from you? time that's drifting away from you? time that's drifting away from you? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Are you thinking, "Why am I doing this, >> Are you thinking, "Why am I doing this, >> Are you thinking, "Why am I doing this, but I feel compelled to do it?" but I feel compelled to do it?" but I feel compelled to do it?" >> Almost always. >> Almost always. >> Almost always. >> oblivious? Is it like being drunk, where >> oblivious? Is it like being drunk, where >> oblivious? Is it like being drunk, where you don't you you're not thinking about you don't you you're not thinking about you don't you you're not thinking about the the the fact that you shouldn't be the the the fact that you shouldn't be the the the fact that you shouldn't be doing it until you sober up? doing it until you sober up? doing it until you sober up? >> I'm aware. I am aware that it's not >> I'm aware. I am aware that it's not >> I'm aware. I am aware that it's not healthy, and I will actually sometimes healthy, and I will actually sometimes healthy, and I will actually sometimes I don't know if you're like this. I talk I don't know if you're like this. I talk I don't know if you're like this. I talk to myself out loud. I Somebody from the to myself out loud. I Somebody from the to myself out loud. I Somebody from the outside would probably think I'm a outside would probably think I'm a outside would probably think I'm a psychopath. But uh I would I will say to psychopath. But uh I would I will say to psychopath. But uh I would I will say to myself, "Why why are you doing this? myself, "Why why are you doing this? myself, "Why why are you doing this? This doesn't feel good." This doesn't feel good." This doesn't feel good." And just And just And just for hours. for hours. for hours. >> Not for an hour. An hour. 4 to 5 >> Not for an hour. An hour. 4 to 5 >> Not for an hour. An hour. 4 to 5 minutes. minutes. minutes. >> go that far. I I would I would feel as >> go that far. I I would I would feel as >> go that far. I I would I would feel as if I needed to take a shower if I went if I needed to take a shower if I went if I needed to take a shower if I went that far. But if I have 15 minutes, that far. But if I have 15 minutes, that far. But if I have 15 minutes, >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> man, it's it's enticing. >> man, it's it's enticing. >> man, it's it's enticing. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> And I don't know what it is about it. I >> And I don't know what it is about it. I >> And I don't know what it is about it. I mean, I don't feel joyful after doing mean, I don't feel joyful after doing mean, I don't feel joyful after doing it. I try not to compare myself to other it. I try not to compare myself to other it. I try not to compare myself to other people. Good luck being on the internet people. Good luck being on the internet people. Good luck being on the internet and doing that. and doing that. and doing that. I try not to get caught in the the I try not to get caught in the the I try not to get caught in the the negativity aspect of it because I can I negativity aspect of it because I can I negativity aspect of it because I can I recognize the negativity bias in myself, recognize the negativity bias in myself, recognize the negativity bias in myself, where you'll get 99 like, "This is where you'll get 99 like, "This is where you'll get 99 like, "This is amazing." and one guy's like, "You kind amazing." and one guy's like, "You kind amazing." and one guy's like, "You kind of suck." and you're just like, "You of suck." and you're just like, "You of suck." and you're just like, "You mother mother mother That's [laughter and clears throat] the That's [laughter and clears throat] the That's [laughter and clears throat] the only comment you pay attention to. only comment you pay attention to. only comment you pay attention to. >> the brain is is uh wired for to identify >> the brain is is uh wired for to identify >> the brain is is uh wired for to identify those outliers. those outliers. those outliers. >> So, I refuse to be mean on social media. >> So, I refuse to be mean on social media. >> So, I refuse to be mean on social media. I won't make negative comments. Um what I won't make negative comments. Um what I won't make negative comments. Um what Don't get me wrong. You can insult Don't get me wrong. You can insult Don't get me wrong. You can insult people by not being mean. people by not being mean. people by not being mean. Just have to work your way around it, Just have to work your way around it, Just have to work your way around it, and it takes a little bit longer. But uh and it takes a little bit longer. But uh and it takes a little bit longer. But uh I know it's not healthy. I know I could I know it's not healthy. I know I could I know it's not healthy. 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It's not a social media platform. platform. platform. So, I have this theory that unlike being So, I have this theory that unlike being So, I have this theory that unlike being drunk drunk drunk or doing or doing or doing drugs of any kind, opioids or or or drugs of any kind, opioids or or or drugs of any kind, opioids or or or amphetamines or something where people amphetamines or something where people amphetamines or something where people exit the state of of intoxication and exit the state of of intoxication and exit the state of of intoxication and and they realize like, "Oh my god, like and they realize like, "Oh my god, like and they realize like, "Oh my god, like that was a huge waste of my time, my that was a huge waste of my time, my that was a huge waste of my time, my life. I made these mistakes, etc." life. I made these mistakes, etc." life. I made these mistakes, etc." Being on social media is different Being on social media is different Being on social media is different because because because there's this awareness that we're on there's this awareness that we're on there's this awareness that we're on there and we probably could or should be there and we probably could or should be there and we probably could or should be doing something else often. doing something else often. doing something else often. And I have this theory that it's the And I have this theory that it's the And I have this theory that it's the perfect addiction perfect addiction perfect addiction because because because it's what I would call low resolution it's what I would call low resolution it's what I would call low resolution enough that it doesn't occupy all of enough that it doesn't occupy all of enough that it doesn't occupy all of your mind. Like when people are really your mind. Like when people are really your mind. Like when people are really intoxicated, they're not thinking about intoxicated, they're not thinking about intoxicated, they're not thinking about the fact that they shouldn't be the fact that they shouldn't be the fact that they shouldn't be intoxicated. That's the state they're intoxicated. That's the state they're intoxicated. That's the state they're trying to achieve. This is a state that trying to achieve. This is a state that trying to achieve. This is a state that people come out of and report. There are people come out of and report. There are people come out of and report. There are data on this. They go, "Yeah, it didn't data on this. They go, "Yeah, it didn't data on this. They go, "Yeah, it didn't feel good being on there for the last 45 feel good being on there for the last 45 feel good being on there for the last 45 minutes or 30 minutes or I feel like I minutes or 30 minutes or I feel like I minutes or 30 minutes or I feel like I wasted a lot of time." So, they're aware wasted a lot of time." So, they're aware wasted a lot of time." So, they're aware of that even while they're doing it. of that even while they're doing it. of that even while they're doing it. Very unusual for addictions, right? Most Very unusual for addictions, right? Most Very unusual for addictions, right? Most addictions fall into the category of addictions fall into the category of addictions fall into the category of trying to erase the sense of time, lose trying to erase the sense of time, lose trying to erase the sense of time, lose themselves in the activity, forget the themselves in the activity, forget the themselves in the activity, forget the trauma if you think it's trauma related trauma if you think it's trauma related trauma if you think it's trauma related just forget everything else and just be just forget everything else and just be just forget everything else and just be in this moment. Gamblers will say this, in this moment. Gamblers will say this, in this moment. Gamblers will say this, right? It's that zone they they crave so right? It's that zone they they crave so right? It's that zone they they crave so much. This is different. Doesn't feel much. This is different. Doesn't feel much. This is different. Doesn't feel really good. You're aware that you're really good. You're aware that you're really good. You're aware that you're not supposed to be doing it quite like not supposed to be doing it quite like not supposed to be doing it quite like that or that much. that or that much. that or that much. So, I actually think it's it's the So, I actually think it's it's the So, I actually think it's it's the quote-unquote ultimate addiction because quote-unquote ultimate addiction because quote-unquote ultimate addiction because it's low-resolution enough that your it's low-resolution enough that your it's low-resolution enough that your brain circuits can get attached to it brain circuits can get attached to it brain circuits can get attached to it and keep doing it while you're and keep doing it while you're and keep doing it while you're monitoring yourself. monitoring yourself. monitoring yourself. And yet you can run these two tracks at And yet you can run these two tracks at And yet you can run these two tracks at the same time. So, you're not getting the same time. So, you're not getting the same time. So, you're not getting absorbed and coming out of it and going, absorbed and coming out of it and going, absorbed and coming out of it and going, "Oh my god, I didn't study for my final "Oh my god, I didn't study for my final "Oh my god, I didn't study for my final exam. Oh my goodness, I didn't pick up exam. Oh my goodness, I didn't pick up exam. Oh my goodness, I didn't pick up the kids from school." It's just the kids from school." It's just the kids from school." It's just low-resolution enough that you can still low-resolution enough that you can still low-resolution enough that you can still kind of tend to the the kids, kind of be kind of tend to the the kids, kind of be kind of tend to the the kids, kind of be in a conversation, sort of be on the in a conversation, sort of be on the in a conversation, sort of be on the Zoom, sort of like and Zoom, sort of like and Zoom, sort of like and >> Kind of still be driving your car. >> Kind of still be driving your car. >> Kind of still be driving your car. >> your life doesn't totally fall apart. >> your life doesn't totally fall apart. >> your life doesn't totally fall apart. Exactly. And so, in some ways because Exactly. And so, in some ways because Exactly. And so, in some ways because it's not so extreme, I think that's it's not so extreme, I think that's it's not so extreme, I think that's actually one of the problems. The other actually one of the problems. The other actually one of the problems. The other problem is of course our brains can but problem is of course our brains can but problem is of course our brains can but are not really designed to be split into are not really designed to be split into are not really designed to be split into these, you know, two different these, you know, two different these, you know, two different activities for for terribly long. It's activities for for terribly long. It's activities for for terribly long. It's not just an inability to multitask. I not just an inability to multitask. I not just an inability to multitask. I actually think that low-resolution thing actually think that low-resolution thing actually think that low-resolution thing is to you can kind of do it while you're is to you can kind of do it while you're is to you can kind of do it while you're doing other things. doing other things. doing other things. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> So, I'm just this is something that I >> So, I'm just this is something that I >> So, I'm just this is something that I actually want some laboratories to look actually want some laboratories to look actually want some laboratories to look at. at. at. >> Where does that lead if left unchecked? >> Where does that lead if left unchecked? >> Where does that lead if left unchecked? >> Well, for you and for me, the >> Well, for you and for me, the >> Well, for you and for me, the consequences are different and consequences are different and consequences are different and probably less immediate because we've probably less immediate because we've probably less immediate because we've already built our careers. There's the already built our careers. There's the already built our careers. There's the social detriment, you know, social detriment, you know, social detriment, you know, relationships to family and stuff that relationships to family and stuff that relationships to family and stuff that undoubtedly suffer somewhat, right? But undoubtedly suffer somewhat, right? But undoubtedly suffer somewhat, right? But they're doing it, too, right? So, they're doing it, too, right? So, they're doing it, too, right? So, there's that. I do worry now I really there's that. I do worry now I really there's that. I do worry now I really sound like I'm in my 50s like about the sound like I'm in my 50s like about the sound like I'm in my 50s like about the younger generation because younger generation because younger generation because I don't know whether I would have been I don't know whether I would have been I don't know whether I would have been able to escape this tunnel able to escape this tunnel able to escape this tunnel >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> had these devices been around. So, I >> had these devices been around. So, I >> had these devices been around. So, I think that otherwise incredible think that otherwise incredible think that otherwise incredible accomplishments and human beings and accomplishments and human beings and accomplishments and human beings and careers and families and everything in careers and families and everything in careers and families and everything in between, art and music is literally not between, art and music is literally not between, art and music is literally not going to be made. I fear this much more going to be made. I fear this much more going to be made. I fear this much more than I fear AI, to be honest. than I fear AI, to be honest. than I fear AI, to be honest. Yeah, I much, much more. Yeah, I much, much more. Yeah, I much, much more. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> In terms of taking away jobs and taking >> In terms of taking away jobs and taking >> In terms of taking away jobs and taking away careers, I think that because it's away careers, I think that because it's away careers, I think that because it's it's I'll tell you this, I am confident it's I'll tell you this, I am confident it's I'll tell you this, I am confident that it is way, way that it is way, way that it is way, way worse than the than the quote-unquote worse than the than the quote-unquote worse than the than the quote-unquote opioid crisis, which was already opioid crisis, which was already opioid crisis, which was already terrible. terrible. terrible. >> I think we're going to be okay. So, I >> I think we're going to be okay. So, I >> I think we're going to be okay. So, I have three data points, which happen to have three data points, which happen to have three data points, which happen to be my children. be my children. be my children. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> So, almost 18, almost 21, almost 23. My >> So, almost 18, almost 21, almost 23. My >> So, almost 18, almost 21, almost 23. My middle son has got it dialed. middle son has got it dialed. middle son has got it dialed. He's going to college in Bozeman. I He's going to college in Bozeman. I He's going to college in Bozeman. I think he's getting ready to start his think he's getting ready to start his think he's getting ready to start his junior year in mechanical engineering. junior year in mechanical engineering. junior year in mechanical engineering. He's doing an internship at a quantum He's doing an internship at a quantum He's doing an internship at a quantum computing laboratory. computing laboratory. computing laboratory. I don't know what that means. He tries I don't know what that means. He tries I don't know what that means. He tries to tell me, I'm like, he just talk to my to tell me, I'm like, he just talk to my to tell me, I'm like, he just talk to my wife. wife. wife. >> It's super cool stuff. >> It's super cool stuff. >> It's super cool stuff. >> He made a robotic hand. Of course, the >> He made a robotic hand. Of course, the >> He made a robotic hand. Of course, the first way he tested it was a middle first way he tested it was a middle first way he tested it was a middle finger, which I deeply, deeply finger, which I deeply, deeply finger, which I deeply, deeply appreciate. appreciate. appreciate. >> He is your son. >> He is your son. >> He is your son. >> 100%. He >> 100%. He >> 100%. He exists on social media. exists on social media. exists on social media. He downloads the app once per week, He downloads the app once per week, He downloads the app once per week, spends an hour on it, spends an hour on it, spends an hour on it, erases it. erases it. erases it. Because Because Because it's the pendulum going the other it's the pendulum going the other it's the pendulum going the other direction for him. direction for him. direction for him. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> My oldest keeps it on his phone, but >> My oldest keeps it on his phone, but >> My oldest keeps it on his phone, but uses it very sporadically, and it's uses it very sporadically, and it's uses it very sporadically, and it's almost at least almost at least almost at least uh the middle one is going to be 21, the uh the middle one is going to be 21, the uh the middle one is going to be 21, the other one's going to be 23. other one's going to be 23. other one's going to be 23. My oldest now is almost at the point, My oldest now is almost at the point, My oldest now is almost at the point, and I think his peer group is almost at and I think his peer group is almost at and I think his peer group is almost at the point a little bit of mocking people the point a little bit of mocking people the point a little bit of mocking people who spend You know what I mean? It's who spend You know what I mean? It's who spend You know what I mean? It's almost now it's almost almost on the almost now it's almost almost on the almost now it's almost almost on the other side like, "Oh, other side like, "Oh, other side like, "Oh, you're one of those." Even though they you're one of those." Even though they you're one of those." Even though they were raised with electronic devices in were raised with electronic devices in were raised with electronic devices in their hand. My daughter, on the other their hand. My daughter, on the other their hand. My daughter, on the other hand, hand, hand, surgically connected to her hand surgically connected to her hand surgically connected to her hand and is constantly consuming. So, I I she and is constantly consuming. So, I I she and is constantly consuming. So, I I she will get there as well, too, because will get there as well, too, because will get there as well, too, because when I can kind of pull her out of that when I can kind of pull her out of that when I can kind of pull her out of that digital world or we go places that have digital world or we go places that have digital world or we go places that have less than optimal cell coverage less than optimal cell coverage less than optimal cell coverage intentionally and somehow the Wi-Fi intentionally and somehow the Wi-Fi intentionally and somehow the Wi-Fi doesn't show up cuz dad unplugs the doesn't show up cuz dad unplugs the doesn't show up cuz dad unplugs the router but like, "Oh, there's no Wi-Fi router but like, "Oh, there's no Wi-Fi router but like, "Oh, there's no Wi-Fi at the house. That sucks." at the house. That sucks." at the house. That sucks." She can see the light, but my other two She can see the light, but my other two She can see the light, but my other two as they've gotten a little bit older, as they've gotten a little bit older, as they've gotten a little bit older, they have they have seen it and found it they have they have seen it and found it they have they have seen it and found it on their own. And I I think we're going on their own. And I I think we're going on their own. And I I think we're going to be okay because I think that to be okay because I think that to be okay because I think that generation now is really generation now is really generation now is really viewing these platforms with a little viewing these platforms with a little viewing these platforms with a little bit more of a wary eye. bit more of a wary eye. bit more of a wary eye. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> And I don't know why. But my middle son >> And I don't know why. But my middle son >> And I don't know why. But my middle son was the first one he just was like, was the first one he just was like, was the first one he just was like, "Nope, this is what I do. I'm on there "Nope, this is what I do. I'm on there "Nope, this is what I do. I'm on there for an hour. It's 100% for memes for for an hour. It's 100% for memes for for an hour. It's 100% for memes for him." And then he just deletes the him." And then he just deletes the him." And then he just deletes the thing. Great. thing. Great. thing. Great. >> No, I'm I'm I'm very reassured by by >> No, I'm I'm I'm very reassured by by >> No, I'm I'm I'm very reassured by by what you just said. what you just said. what you just said. >> That's at that a point of three though. >> That's at that a point of three though. >> That's at that a point of three though. So So So >> Well, it's interesting because that the >> Well, it's interesting because that the >> Well, it's interesting because that the data on for instance um smoking in data on for instance um smoking in data on for instance um smoking in teens, like when we were growing up a teens, like when we were growing up a teens, like when we were growing up a lot of people smoked, young people lot of people smoked, young people lot of people smoked, young people smoked you know that smoked you know that smoked you know that >> That'd be your first act of rebellion. >> That'd be your first act of rebellion. >> That'd be your first act of rebellion. >> There were all these campaigns to try >> There were all these campaigns to try >> There were all these campaigns to try and get young people to quit smoking and and get young people to quit smoking and and get young people to quit smoking and they did not work. It's going to give they did not work. It's going to give they did not work. It's going to give you lung cancers. This is your lungs you lung cancers. This is your lungs you lung cancers. This is your lungs after smoke None of that worked. What after smoke None of that worked. What after smoke None of that worked. What worked was the ad campaign that had worked was the ad campaign that had worked was the ad campaign that had these old white dudes these old white dudes these old white dudes cackling and talking about all the money cackling and talking about all the money cackling and talking about all the money they were going to make on these young they were going to make on these young they were going to make on these young kids smoking. So the rebellion of youth kids smoking. So the rebellion of youth kids smoking. So the rebellion of youth if you leverage it against the big if you leverage it against the big if you leverage it against the big industry platforms, industry platforms, industry platforms, no one likes to be manipulated. But when no one likes to be manipulated. But when no one likes to be manipulated. But when kids realize and teens realize that kids realize and teens realize that kids realize and teens realize that they're being manipulated, they'll push they're being manipulated, they'll push they're being manipulated, they'll push back in a way that can be really good back in a way that can be really good back in a way that can be really good for them, which is a little bit of what for them, which is a little bit of what for them, which is a little bit of what what we're hearing here. So So you know what we're hearing here. So So you know what we're hearing here. So So you know >> As a parent I can tell you they push >> As a parent I can tell you they push >> As a parent I can tell you they push back in ways back in ways back in ways super hard. Maybe almost pendulum the super hard. Maybe almost pendulum the super hard. Maybe almost pendulum the other way. I tell you what they're also other way. I tell you what they're also other way. I tell you what they're also pushing back on in my all three of their pushing back on in my all three of their pushing back on in my all three of their generation, alcohol consumption. generation, alcohol consumption. generation, alcohol consumption. Damn. Don't get me wrong. Damn. Don't get me wrong. Damn. Don't get me wrong. They They They there's a time and place for everything. there's a time and place for everything. there's a time and place for everything. We go to a yearly jiu-jitsu retreat in We go to a yearly jiu-jitsu retreat in We go to a yearly jiu-jitsu retreat in Costa Rica. Costa Rica. Costa Rica. The drinking age is 18. The drinking age is 18. The drinking age is 18. One of my sons is in college like I One of my sons is in college like I One of my sons is in college like I said. It's an interesting watching those said. It's an interesting watching those said. It's an interesting watching those two. two. two. That might be the only singular time That might be the only singular time That might be the only singular time they drink in an entire year. That was they drink in an entire year. That was they drink in an entire year. That was the opposite of me growing up and the the opposite of me growing up and the the opposite of me growing up and the the culture of the first community I the culture of the first community I the culture of the first community I went into. went into. went into. It is wild It is wild It is wild to see the push in the other direction. to see the push in the other direction. to see the push in the other direction. And now I talk peptides or And now I talk peptides or And now I talk peptides or it's my middle son. I told him I was it's my middle son. I told him I was it's my middle son. I told him I was coming here. He was just like, "Oh, I'll coming here. He was just like, "Oh, I'll coming here. He was just like, "Oh, I'll ask him what I need to be doing for ask him what I need to be doing for ask him what I need to be doing for sleep optimization." I'm like, "Oh my sleep optimization." I'm like, "Oh my sleep optimization." I'm like, "Oh my [laughter] god." Happy to send it to [laughter] god." Happy to send it to [laughter] god." Happy to send it to him. That's his generation. him. That's his generation. him. That's his generation. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> I was not I think I started looking at >> I was not I think I started looking at >> I was not I think I started looking at sleep optimization about last Thursday. sleep optimization about last Thursday. sleep optimization about last Thursday. You know, it just wasn't the thing that You know, it just wasn't the thing that You know, it just wasn't the thing that we were looking at. So, I actually we were looking at. So, I actually we were looking at. So, I actually as much as my children, I truly believe as much as my children, I truly believe as much as my children, I truly believe children are just designed to sharpen children are just designed to sharpen children are just designed to sharpen their teeth on the parents' bones. I their teeth on the parents' bones. I their teeth on the parents' bones. I also have a lot of faith on the next also have a lot of faith on the next also have a lot of faith on the next wave coming through. wave coming through. wave coming through. >> This is not a question I ever thought I >> This is not a question I ever thought I >> This is not a question I ever thought I would ask on this podcast as somebody would ask on this podcast as somebody would ask on this podcast as somebody who did an episode on alcohol that got who did an episode on alcohol that got who did an episode on alcohol that got some reach and got people rethinking some reach and got people rethinking some reach and got people rethinking whether or not they wanted to drink. And whether or not they wanted to drink. And whether or not they wanted to drink. And I should just quickly say I should just quickly say I should just quickly say the major response to that was one of the major response to that was one of the major response to that was one of three different um types. One was, "I three different um types. One was, "I three different um types. One was, "I don't like drinking and now I can don't like drinking and now I can don't like drinking and now I can justify not drinking." There were a lot justify not drinking." There were a lot justify not drinking." There were a lot of people who felt that they had to of people who felt that they had to of people who felt that they had to drink and now they had a justification drink and now they had a justification drink and now they had a justification not to. Other people who said, "Wow, I not to. Other people who said, "Wow, I not to. Other people who said, "Wow, I didn't realize that, you know, it can didn't realize that, you know, it can didn't realize that, you know, it can increase breast cancer risk or, you increase breast cancer risk or, you increase breast cancer risk or, you know, we have cancers in our family and know, we have cancers in our family and know, we have cancers in our family and that's a real thing." It's, you know, that's a real thing." It's, you know, that's a real thing." It's, you know, class one carcinogen, etc. And then the class one carcinogen, etc. And then the class one carcinogen, etc. And then the third category like, "You know, I wish third category like, "You know, I wish third category like, "You know, I wish you hadn't told me this information. I you hadn't told me this information. I you hadn't told me this information. I really enjoyed drinking and now my really enjoyed drinking and now my really enjoyed drinking and now my friends don't want to drink with me." friends don't want to drink with me." friends don't want to drink with me." Fair and I don't tell people what to do Fair and I don't tell people what to do Fair and I don't tell people what to do and I, you know, etc. But and I, you know, etc. But and I, you know, etc. But I have to ask do you think that your I have to ask do you think that your I have to ask do you think that your kids and their generation are possibly kids and their generation are possibly kids and their generation are possibly missing out by virtue of, you know, not missing out by virtue of, you know, not missing out by virtue of, you know, not drinking at all? drinking at all? drinking at all? >> That's a fantastic question. I mean, it >> That's a fantastic question. I mean, it >> That's a fantastic question. I mean, it is a social lubricant is a social lubricant is a social lubricant >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> for a degree. I was probably >> for a degree. I was probably >> for a degree. I was probably and still am antisocial in large crowds. and still am antisocial in large crowds. and still am antisocial in large crowds. Is there an aspect of that where it Is there an aspect of that where it Is there an aspect of that where it legitimately helped me not necessarily legitimately helped me not necessarily legitimately helped me not necessarily feel more comfortable, but maybe get out feel more comfortable, but maybe get out feel more comfortable, but maybe get out of my own way when I was younger? of my own way when I was younger? of my own way when I was younger? Yes. Yes. Yes. Did it lead to some bad decisions along Did it lead to some bad decisions along Did it lead to some bad decisions along the way? the way? the way? Yes. Did bad decisions and those Yes. Did bad decisions and those Yes. Did bad decisions and those consequences shape the human being that consequences shape the human being that consequences shape the human being that I would become along the way? I would become along the way? I would become along the way? Yes. Yes. Yes. I don't know where it it where it lands. I don't know where it it where it lands. I don't know where it it where it lands. I do think that there is a chance I do think that there is a chance I do think that there is a chance that yes, they are missing out on I'm that yes, they are missing out on I'm that yes, they are missing out on I'm not maybe not formative life not maybe not formative life not maybe not formative life experiences, but important life experiences, but important life experiences, but important life experiences. experiences. experiences. >> I think that the camera phones are a big >> I think that the camera phones are a big >> I think that the camera phones are a big concern with drinking now because people concern with drinking now because people concern with drinking now because people are so worried about becoming are so worried about becoming are so worried about becoming less inhibited and less inhibited and less inhibited and maybe not even saying or doing the wrong maybe not even saying or doing the wrong maybe not even saying or doing the wrong thing, but even things as trivial as thing, but even things as trivial as thing, but even things as trivial as like not everyone is an awesome dancer. like not everyone is an awesome dancer. like not everyone is an awesome dancer. They can get filmed, it can get posted, They can get filmed, it can get posted, They can get filmed, it can get posted, they can get teased, there's social they can get teased, there's social they can get teased, there's social shame. The other problem is that shame. The other problem is that shame. The other problem is that many, many people are awesome at certain many, many people are awesome at certain many, many people are awesome at certain things and those are the things that things and those are the things that things and those are the things that tend to be high amplitude also, and so tend to be high amplitude also, and so tend to be high amplitude also, and so people feel like they, you know, if people feel like they, you know, if people feel like they, you know, if they're going to be seen online, they they're going to be seen online, they they're going to be seen online, they have to be in some in impressive form. have to be in some in impressive form. have to be in some in impressive form. So, I don't really know. I I do worry So, I don't really know. I I do worry So, I don't really know. I I do worry about the cannabis thing because I'm not about the cannabis thing because I'm not about the cannabis thing because I'm not anti-cannabis, but I do think given a anti-cannabis, but I do think given a anti-cannabis, but I do think given a couple drinks a week versus smoking weed couple drinks a week versus smoking weed couple drinks a week versus smoking weed in terms of like the the overall in terms of like the the overall in terms of like the the overall risk-benefit, risk-benefit, risk-benefit, >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> alcohol seems less risky to me, but the >> alcohol seems less risky to me, but the >> alcohol seems less risky to me, but the the can Yeah, I think so. I mean, look, the can Yeah, I think so. I mean, look, the can Yeah, I think so. I mean, look, there are high high performers and there are high high performers and there are high high performers and people who can use cannabis and they're people who can use cannabis and they're people who can use cannabis and they're like not a problem. like not a problem. like not a problem. Young males in particular who have a Young males in particular who have a Young males in particular who have a predisposition to psychosis or bipolar predisposition to psychosis or bipolar predisposition to psychosis or bipolar disorder, disorder, disorder, >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> some of them smoke high potency weed or >> some of them smoke high potency weed or >> some of them smoke high potency weed or even low potency weed and they never even low potency weed and they never even low potency weed and they never come back from the psychotic episode. I come back from the psychotic episode. I come back from the psychotic episode. I know a lot of examples of that and know a lot of examples of that and know a lot of examples of that and that's in the data now. So, that's in the data now. So, that's in the data now. So, alcohol, yeah, you can drive off a alcohol, yeah, you can drive off a alcohol, yeah, you can drive off a cliff, you can run somebody over, you cliff, you can run somebody over, you cliff, you can run somebody over, you can say or do something really, really can say or do something really, really can say or do something really, really stupid, but assuming those things don't stupid, but assuming those things don't stupid, but assuming those things don't happen, the the immediate risks and happen, the the immediate risks and happen, the the immediate risks and long-term consequences of like long-term consequences of like long-term consequences of like having a having a couple beers or a having a having a couple beers or a having a having a couple beers or a couple drinks or maybe even a few more, couple drinks or maybe even a few more, couple drinks or maybe even a few more, try to get home safe. You don't say or try to get home safe. You don't say or try to get home safe. You don't say or do anything stupid like do anything stupid like do anything stupid like >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> You're not going to make yourself >> You're not going to make yourself >> You're not going to make yourself psychotic. psychotic. psychotic. >> I'm kind of in the same boat that you >> I'm kind of in the same boat that you >> I'm kind of in the same boat that you are. I'm not here to tell people how to are. I'm not here to tell people how to are. I'm not here to tell people how to live their life. I do think that they live their life. I do think that they live their life. I do think that they should pay attention to the risk versus should pay attention to the risk versus should pay attention to the risk versus reward. You know, live your life how you reward. You know, live your life how you reward. You know, live your life how you want. Your choices are going to have want. Your choices are going to have want. Your choices are going to have potential consequences and some of those potential consequences and some of those potential consequences and some of those can be pretty big. can be pretty big. can be pretty big. There's some things I deeply regret There's some things I deeply regret There's some things I deeply regret about my expressions of being a human about my expressions of being a human about my expressions of being a human being when I was drinking when I was being when I was drinking when I was being when I was drinking when I was younger. younger. younger. And there are some things And there are some things And there are some things that I feel like my life would be that I feel like my life would be that I feel like my life would be completely different without and that I completely different without and that I completely different without and that I would never want to give those would never want to give those would never want to give those experiences back. experiences back. experiences back. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> I don't know how you table that though. >> I don't know how you table that though. >> I don't know how you table that though. This is a fascinating conver- This is a fascinating conver- This is a fascinating conver- >> Didn't know we were going to go here. >> Didn't know we were going to go here. >> Didn't know we were going to go here. >> It's I mean I >> It's I mean I >> It's I mean I In my own life, I wouldn't give up those In my own life, I wouldn't give up those In my own life, I wouldn't give up those experiences. experiences. experiences. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> But I also don't feel comfortable saying >> But I also don't feel comfortable saying >> But I also don't feel comfortable saying you have to drink to have them. you have to drink to have them. you have to drink to have them. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> I don't know what the difference looks >> I don't know what the difference looks >> I don't know what the difference looks like though. Maybe later on as you grow like though. Maybe later on as you grow like though. Maybe later on as you grow into your I mean, I'm a more confident into your I mean, I'm a more confident into your I mean, I'm a more confident person now absent alcohol than I was a person now absent alcohol than I was a person now absent alcohol than I was a more confident person younger absent more confident person younger absent more confident person younger absent alcohol. So maybe time will help you get alcohol. So maybe time will help you get alcohol. So maybe time will help you get to this places where you could take to this places where you could take to this places where you could take those actions where you needed that those actions where you needed that those actions where you needed that social lubricant. But maybe not. I don't social lubricant. But maybe not. I don't social lubricant. But maybe not. I don't know, man. know, man. know, man. >> Well, it's like sleep is super important >> Well, it's like sleep is super important >> Well, it's like sleep is super important and I think it's great for everyone, and I think it's great for everyone, and I think it's great for everyone, especially young people to understand especially young people to understand especially young people to understand just how great they can feel and just how great they can feel and just how great they can feel and mentally and physically perform when mentally and physically perform when mentally and physically perform when they're well rested. I think it's also they're well rested. I think it's also they're well rested. I think it's also an important, not just right of passage, an important, not just right of passage, an important, not just right of passage, but experience to know just how terrible but experience to know just how terrible but experience to know just how terrible you can feel after a night of no sleep you can feel after a night of no sleep you can feel after a night of no sleep and still go take a midterm exam or go and still go take a midterm exam or go and still go take a midterm exam or go for the run you were supposed to go for. for the run you were supposed to go for. for the run you were supposed to go for. Not because it's quote unquote the best Not because it's quote unquote the best Not because it's quote unquote the best thing for you, but just because how do thing for you, but just because how do thing for you, but just because how do you explore the outer margins of your you explore the outer margins of your you explore the outer margins of your capacity unless you know capacity unless you know capacity unless you know how feeling really great feels and how how feeling really great feels and how how feeling really great feels and how let's just say not lousy, but how like let's just say not lousy, but how like let's just say not lousy, but how like minimally good you can feel and still minimally good you can feel and still minimally good you can feel and still complete something while you're complete something while you're complete something while you're completely crushed. Like I mean, like completely crushed. Like I mean, like completely crushed. Like I mean, like after a breakup, after two or three after a breakup, after two or three after a breakup, after two or three nights of poor sleep, in a very nights of poor sleep, in a very nights of poor sleep, in a very stressful time, not having eaten stressful time, not having eaten stressful time, not having eaten perfectly. Like perfectly. Like perfectly. Like it's good to understand what a workout it's good to understand what a workout it's good to understand what a workout or what going to class and forcing or what going to class and forcing or what going to class and forcing yourself to stay awake or having a hard yourself to stay awake or having a hard yourself to stay awake or having a hard conversation with your significant other conversation with your significant other conversation with your significant other feels like when it's like the the last feels like when it's like the the last feels like when it's like the the last thing your body wants you to do. I think thing your body wants you to do. I think thing your body wants you to do. I think there's utility there. You know, it's there's utility there. You know, it's there's utility there. You know, it's kind of like the ice bath of of mental kind of like the ice bath of of mental kind of like the ice bath of of mental experiences, right? experiences, right? experiences, right? >> Are you a fan of the ice bath? >> Are you a fan of the ice bath? >> Are you a fan of the ice bath? >> I am and >> I am and >> I am and >> What temperature? >> What temperature? >> What temperature? >> Cold. I It's on >> Cold. I It's on >> Cold. I It's on >> 34? >> 34? >> 34? >> It's on Rogan I said, you know, low 50s >> It's on Rogan I said, you know, low 50s >> It's on Rogan I said, you know, low 50s and he he like he was shocked and and he he like he was shocked and and he he like he was shocked and dismayed. He looked He seemed It was dismayed. He looked He seemed It was dismayed. He looked He seemed It was like an older brother or guy you respect like an older brother or guy you respect like an older brother or guy you respect looking at you like, "Oh man, should we looking at you like, "Oh man, should we looking at you like, "Oh man, should we even continue this podcast?" I was like even continue this podcast?" I was like even continue this podcast?" I was like >> I thought I knew you. >> I thought I knew you. >> I thought I knew you. >> And I quickly went to Yeah, but I go >> And I quickly went to Yeah, but I go >> And I quickly went to Yeah, but I go into the sauna at 220° F, you know, into the sauna at 220° F, you know, into the sauna at 220° F, you know, which I do. I'm very heat tolerant, not which I do. I'm very heat tolerant, not which I do. I'm very heat tolerant, not as cold tolerant. I like to do cold as cold tolerant. I like to do cold as cold tolerant. I like to do cold shower, cold plunge or or whatever. shower, cold plunge or or whatever. shower, cold plunge or or whatever. Like, you know, low 40s now. Like, you know, low 40s now. Like, you know, low 40s now. >> All right. >> All right. >> All right. >> To me there's nothing as reliable and >> To me there's nothing as reliable and >> To me there's nothing as reliable and provided you don't like jump into an ice provided you don't like jump into an ice provided you don't like jump into an ice hole or something stupid like that or hole or something stupid like that or hole or something stupid like that or do, you know, hyperventilation breathing do, you know, hyperventilation breathing do, you know, hyperventilation breathing and then jump into cold water which has and then jump into cold water which has and then jump into cold water which has killed people. killed people. killed people. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> don't do that, I I don't know of >> don't do that, I I don't know of >> don't do that, I I don't know of anything that is both safe and reliably anything that is both safe and reliably anything that is both safe and reliably can give you that adrenaline spike in a can give you that adrenaline spike in a can give you that adrenaline spike in a way that you can start to learn to work way that you can start to learn to work way that you can start to learn to work with what it's like to be in a highly with what it's like to be in a highly with what it's like to be in a highly adrenalized state. I think there's just adrenalized state. I think there's just adrenalized state. I think there's just value in having your but body flooded value in having your but body flooded value in having your but body flooded with adrenaline somewhat against your with adrenaline somewhat against your with adrenaline somewhat against your will but you're controlling some of it will but you're controlling some of it will but you're controlling some of it and learning I think it's a great space and learning I think it's a great space and learning I think it's a great space to explore to explore to explore Okay, do I distract myself? Do I lean Okay, do I distract myself? Do I lean Okay, do I distract myself? Do I lean into it? Like you can you can explore a into it? Like you can you can explore a into it? Like you can you can explore a lot of your own consciousness in these lot of your own consciousness in these lot of your own consciousness in these high arousal states and I do think high arousal states and I do think high arousal states and I do think there's carryover. And yes, there's a there's carryover. And yes, there's a there's carryover. And yes, there's a nice long wave of dopamine that lasts nice long wave of dopamine that lasts nice long wave of dopamine that lasts many hours, that's known. There's a nice many hours, that's known. There's a nice many hours, that's known. There's a nice long wave of adrenaline. But long wave of adrenaline. But long wave of adrenaline. But yeah, I think it's a great training yeah, I think it's a great training yeah, I think it's a great training tool. If you don't want to do it tool. If you don't want to do it tool. If you don't want to do it immediately after resistance training immediately after resistance training immediately after resistance training cuz it can cuz it can cuz it can it can reduce some of the the the quote it can reduce some of the the the quote it can reduce some of the the the quote unquote gains you would get because it unquote gains you would get because it unquote gains you would get because it it it vasoconstricts. You want blood it it vasoconstricts. You want blood it it vasoconstricts. You want blood flow. You want to perfuse the muscles in flow. You want to perfuse the muscles in flow. You want to perfuse the muscles in order to you know, get get the strength order to you know, get get the strength order to you know, get get the strength and hypertrophy and hypertrophy and hypertrophy benefits from in training but it benefits from in training but it benefits from in training but it provided you do it before or on off days provided you do it before or on off days provided you do it before or on off days or 6 hours after you resistance train, I or 6 hours after you resistance train, I or 6 hours after you resistance train, I think it's a really valuable tool. think it's a really valuable tool. think it's a really valuable tool. >> What protocol would you use? I like to >> What protocol would you use? I like to >> What protocol would you use? I like to have my cold plunge at about 80. What have my cold plunge at about 80. What have my cold plunge at about 80. What would you do? Like 10 in, five out, would you do? Like 10 in, five out, would you do? Like 10 in, five out, couple times? couple times? couple times? >> 80° Fahrenheit. It's great. >> 80° Fahrenheit. It's great. >> 80° Fahrenheit. It's great. >> I can bump it to 85 if you think that's >> I can bump it to 85 if you think that's >> I can bump it to 85 if you think that's a little too low. a little too low. a little too low. >> You know, team guys have this advantage >> You know, team guys have this advantage >> You know, team guys have this advantage that they did all that so they can be that they did all that so they can be that they did all that so they can be like, I did it, I don't want to do it, like, I did it, I don't want to do it, like, I did it, I don't want to do it, right? That's kind of like I went right? That's kind of like I went right? That's kind of like I went through that. through that. through that. >> It's like the people who are sleep >> It's like the people who are sleep >> It's like the people who are sleep deprived in medical school. They're deprived in medical school. They're deprived in medical school. They're like, yeah, I don't do that anymore. I like, yeah, I don't do that anymore. I like, yeah, I don't do that anymore. I get it. Like you guys suffered enough. get it. Like you guys suffered enough. get it. Like you guys suffered enough. When I went down to Jocko's, he he When I went down to Jocko's, he he When I went down to Jocko's, he he specifically had me do a heat cold specifically had me do a heat cold specifically had me do a heat cold protocol because I like to do three protocol because I like to do three protocol because I like to do three rounds of each. rounds of each. rounds of each. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> You know, heat at somewhere about, you >> You know, heat at somewhere about, you >> You know, heat at somewhere about, you know, 210, 215, maybe as high as 220. It know, 210, 215, maybe as high as 220. It know, 210, 215, maybe as high as 220. It was just hot, but I'm pretty heat was just hot, but I'm pretty heat was just hot, but I'm pretty heat tolerant. tolerant. tolerant. >> For how long? >> For how long? >> For how long? >> That'll be 20 minutes and then go into >> That'll be 20 minutes and then go into >> That'll be 20 minutes and then go into the You don't want to start right off the You don't want to start right off the You don't want to start right off with that, right? And then go into the with that, right? And then go into the with that, right? And then go into the cold. And so cold. And so cold. And so they packed the sauna, they cranked that they packed the sauna, they cranked that they packed the sauna, they cranked that thing up, and they kept resetting the thing up, and they kept resetting the thing up, and they kept resetting the clock. clock. clock. And literally, he'll tell you, I was And literally, he'll tell you, I was And literally, he'll tell you, I was down on the down on the down on the >> floor where it's you know, not cool, but >> floor where it's you know, not cool, but >> floor where it's you know, not cool, but it's still it's still it's still >> colder. Heat rises, obviously. And his >> colder. Heat rises, obviously. And his >> colder. Heat rises, obviously. And his daughters, they were laughing, his daughters, they were laughing, his daughters, they were laughing, his family, and then so everyone in there, family, and then so everyone in there, family, and then so everyone in there, young and old, male and female, was just young and old, male and female, was just young and old, male and female, was just laughing at me. So, he has what he calls laughing at me. So, he has what he calls laughing at me. So, he has what he calls the factory reset protocol, which is the factory reset protocol, which is the factory reset protocol, which is where you don't know how hot or how long where you don't know how hot or how long where you don't know how hot or how long you're going to be in there, and you you're going to be in there, and you you're going to be in there, and you don't know how cold or how long you're don't know how cold or how long you're don't know how cold or how long you're going to be in there. And that We'll going to be in there. And that We'll going to be in there. And that We'll talk about this a little bit about time, talk about this a little bit about time, talk about this a little bit about time, but I don't know. If you don't like the but I don't know. If you don't like the but I don't know. If you don't like the cold, you don't have to do it, but I do cold, you don't have to do it, but I do cold, you don't have to do it, but I do think most people can really benefit think most people can really benefit think most people can really benefit from it. from it. from it. >> I'm saying >> I'm saying >> I'm saying I'll develop a protocol for 80. I'll develop a protocol for 80. I'll develop a protocol for 80. The sauna will be at The sauna will be at The sauna will be at 97. 97. 97. Easy transition back and forth. Easy transition back and forth. Easy transition back and forth. Who knows? Who knows? Who knows? >> All right. Um speaking of the guy who >> All right. Um speaking of the guy who >> All right. Um speaking of the guy who jumps out of or off of mountains in a in jumps out of or off of mountains in a in jumps out of or off of mountains in a in a squirrel suit. Let's talk about the a squirrel suit. Let's talk about the a squirrel suit. Let's talk about the squirrel suit. squirrel suit. squirrel suit. >> Sure. >> Sure. >> Sure. >> And why in the world anyone who values >> And why in the world anyone who values >> And why in the world anyone who values their life, seriously though, their life, seriously though, their life, seriously though, >> Yeah, I know. I get it. >> Yeah, I know. I get it. >> Yeah, I know. I get it. >> would do this. And is there an off-ramp? >> would do this. And is there an off-ramp? >> would do this. And is there an off-ramp? Is there a parachute? And when you learn Is there a parachute? And when you learn Is there a parachute? And when you learn how to do this? how to do this? how to do this? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> How hard is it to learn? And what's the >> How hard is it to learn? And what's the >> How hard is it to learn? And what's the juice there? juice there? juice there? >> Okay, a lot of questions there. Okay, >> Okay, a lot of questions there. Okay, >> Okay, a lot of questions there. Okay, it's funny a lot of people call them it's funny a lot of people call them it's funny a lot of people call them squirrel suits. It's just a wing suit. squirrel suits. It's just a wing suit. squirrel suits. It's just a wing suit. Squirrel is actually a manufacturer of Squirrel is actually a manufacturer of Squirrel is actually a manufacturer of one of the suits, fantastic branding. one of the suits, fantastic branding. one of the suits, fantastic branding. They happen to be the suit that I jump. They happen to be the suit that I jump. They happen to be the suit that I jump. So essentially it is So essentially it is So essentially it is a human body turning into a nylon wing. a human body turning into a nylon wing. a human body turning into a nylon wing. That's really all it is. It's nylon, That's really all it is. It's nylon, That's really all it is. It's nylon, it's some neoprene around the wrists so it's some neoprene around the wrists so it's some neoprene around the wrists so you have a little bit of flexibility in you have a little bit of flexibility in you have a little bit of flexibility in the wrist. They're really actually the wrist. They're really actually the wrist. They're really actually advancing the leading edge technology advancing the leading edge technology advancing the leading edge technology with the fabric. It's just I mean it's with the fabric. It's just I mean it's with the fabric. It's just I mean it's crazy to look I don't know the name of crazy to look I don't know the name of crazy to look I don't know the name of the program but you're looking at all of the program but you're looking at all of the program but you're looking at all of these these these images from the side of wind angles and images from the side of wind angles and images from the side of wind angles and how the suits they're looking to reduce how the suits they're looking to reduce how the suits they're looking to reduce drag. Um and it's more than just the drag. Um and it's more than just the drag. Um and it's more than just the rigidity of your body. So at least the rigidity of your body. So at least the rigidity of your body. So at least the suits that I jump are modern suits. suits that I jump are modern suits. suits that I jump are modern suits. They are ram air inflated. So there is They are ram air inflated. So there is They are ram air inflated. So there is an outer layer on both sides an upper an outer layer on both sides an upper an outer layer on both sides an upper layer let's say for the your back and an layer let's say for the your back and an layer let's say for the your back and an under layer for your belly. In between under layer for your belly. In between under layer for your belly. In between it's much like a canopy. There's ribbed it's much like a canopy. There's ribbed it's much like a canopy. There's ribbed fabric with port holes and on the front fabric with port holes and on the front fabric with port holes and on the front and back of the wing and back of the wing and back of the wing as you as you as you give it air speed either exiting an give it air speed either exiting an give it air speed either exiting an airplane that's already in flight. It's airplane that's already in flight. It's airplane that's already in flight. It's most skydiving airplanes are probably most skydiving airplanes are probably most skydiving airplanes are probably doing 80 to 120 doing 80 to 120 doing 80 to 120 miles an hour or in the base jumping miles an hour or in the base jumping miles an hour or in the base jumping world and this is where it can get spicy world and this is where it can get spicy world and this is where it can get spicy as you have no air flow for about the as you have no air flow for about the as you have no air flow for about the first 4 seconds. first 4 seconds. first 4 seconds. >> Base jumping for those that don't know >> Base jumping for those that don't know >> Base jumping for those that don't know is is is >> Fixed up. Call it a fixed object. >> Fixed up. Call it a fixed object. >> Fixed up. Call it a fixed object. Building antenna span or earth is what Building antenna span or earth is what Building antenna span or earth is what the acronym stands for. You're probably the acronym stands for. You're probably the acronym stands for. You're probably not going to do it off of buildings cuz not going to do it off of buildings cuz not going to do it off of buildings cuz it's it you need time to get the suit it's it you need time to get the suit it's it you need time to get the suit actually flying. actually flying. actually flying. But it's a different experience because But it's a different experience because But it's a different experience because if you jump out of an airplane those ram if you jump out of an airplane those ram if you jump out of an airplane those ram air inlets fill up your suit is it's air inlets fill up your suit is it's air inlets fill up your suit is it's pressurized. You can feel it and you can pressurized. You can feel it and you can pressurized. You can feel it and you can already fly your suit. You can flip already fly your suit. You can flip already fly your suit. You can flip over. You can actually I've gotten above over. You can actually I've gotten above over. You can actually I've gotten above aircraft many time. You can basically aircraft many time. You can basically aircraft many time. You can basically translate that horizontal lift into translate that horizontal lift into translate that horizontal lift into power and go above them. Surely you're power and go above them. Surely you're power and go above them. Surely you're going to come back down going to come back down going to come back down um otherwise you'll stall the suit and um otherwise you'll stall the suit and um otherwise you'll stall the suit and it starts waffling down. it starts waffling down. it starts waffling down. But in the base jumping world it's a But in the base jumping world it's a But in the base jumping world it's a zero air speed exit. So for the first zero air speed exit. So for the first zero air speed exit. So for the first about zero to 4 seconds about zero to 4 seconds about zero to 4 seconds you don't have any air filling up the you don't have any air filling up the you don't have any air filling up the ram air inlets. So, if you don't go off ram air inlets. So, if you don't go off ram air inlets. So, if you don't go off in the right body position or if you go in the right body position or if you go in the right body position or if you go head low and are scorpioning or head head low and are scorpioning or head head low and are scorpioning or head high and then you pitch through that and high and then you pitch through that and high and then you pitch through that and there is terrain below you, that's how a there is terrain below you, that's how a there is terrain below you, that's how a lot of people die. But, the suit itself lot of people die. But, the suit itself lot of people die. But, the suit itself is is basically that. It's uh there's is is basically that. It's uh there's is is basically that. It's uh there's wings there's a large wing between your wings there's a large wing between your wings there's a large wing between your leg, a wing underneath your arm on both leg, a wing underneath your arm on both leg, a wing underneath your arm on both the left and right-hand side and they the left and right-hand side and they the left and right-hand side and they come in a variety of sizes. So, learning come in a variety of sizes. So, learning come in a variety of sizes. So, learning it it it is is is >> [gasps] >> [gasps] >> [gasps] >> it's simple, not easy. First off, >> it's simple, not easy. First off, >> it's simple, not easy. First off, skydive before you throw a wingsuit on skydive before you throw a wingsuit on skydive before you throw a wingsuit on in the skydiving world. I think I had in the skydiving world. I think I had in the skydiving world. I think I had 3,000 jumps before I put a wingsuit on 3,000 jumps before I put a wingsuit on 3,000 jumps before I put a wingsuit on the first time. the first time. the first time. >> Is it important that people do different >> Is it important that people do different >> Is it important that people do different types of skydiving? Uh by the way, I'm types of skydiving? Uh by the way, I'm types of skydiving? Uh by the way, I'm not versed in skydiving. So, what what's not versed in skydiving. So, what what's not versed in skydiving. So, what what's the most basic type of I I assume a the most basic type of I I assume a the most basic type of I I assume a tandem jump and you start doing tandem jump and you start doing tandem jump and you start doing individual jumps. individual jumps. individual jumps. >> Some people go I like I went right to >> Some people go I like I went right to >> Some people go I like I went right to the first time I did a skydive, I had an the first time I did a skydive, I had an the first time I did a skydive, I had an instructor holding on to me from for instructor holding on to me from for instructor holding on to me from for both sides until my parachute deployed. both sides until my parachute deployed. both sides until my parachute deployed. It's a very structured It's a very structured It's a very structured program that most modern drop zones will program that most modern drop zones will program that most modern drop zones will have. A lot of people will do a tandem have. A lot of people will do a tandem have. A lot of people will do a tandem first, which I recommend. If you're un- first, which I recommend. If you're un- first, which I recommend. If you're un- if you've never done it and you're if you've never done it and you're if you've never done it and you're uncertain about whether or not you would uncertain about whether or not you would uncertain about whether or not you would like it, I I think there's two really like it, I I think there's two really like it, I I think there's two really good options. good options. good options. One is a tandem. One is a tandem. One is a tandem. But, if even that idea makes you a But, if even that idea makes you a But, if even that idea makes you a little bit uncertain, there's now enough little bit uncertain, there's now enough little bit uncertain, there's now enough wind tunnels around, commercial wind wind tunnels around, commercial wind wind tunnels around, commercial wind tunnels. There's down There's Oceanside tunnels. There's down There's Oceanside tunnels. There's down There's Oceanside wind tunnel. There's one in LA. There's wind tunnel. There's one in LA. There's wind tunnel. There's one in LA. There's one in San Diego. They're all over the one in San Diego. They're all over the one in San Diego. They're all over the place. I was just in Virginia Beach. place. I was just in Virginia Beach. place. I was just in Virginia Beach. There's one in Virginia Beach. So, it There's one in Virginia Beach. So, it There's one in Virginia Beach. So, it simulates simulates simulates the sensation of falling through the air the sensation of falling through the air the sensation of falling through the air in an environment where you don't have in an environment where you don't have in an environment where you don't have to wear a parachute, you don't have to to wear a parachute, you don't have to to wear a parachute, you don't have to ride an airplane. You literally hop in ride an airplane. You literally hop in ride an airplane. You literally hop in there. They can hold on to you and it there. They can hold on to you and it there. They can hold on to you and it feels like skydive. feels like skydive. feels like skydive. >> Sounds like fun. >> Sounds like fun. >> Sounds like fun. >> It's leveled up what people can do in >> It's leveled up what people can do in >> It's leveled up what people can do in the air cuz it's this contained the air cuz it's this contained the air cuz it's this contained environment where you can see if you're environment where you can see if you're environment where you can see if you're moving a millimeter. moving a millimeter. moving a millimeter. The number of jumps I have had where you The number of jumps I have had where you The number of jumps I have had where you get out you jump out into the air where get out you jump out into the air where get out you jump out into the air where your only reference is another person your only reference is another person your only reference is another person that's moving around and you get you are that's moving around and you get you are that's moving around and you get you are sliding all over the place. Like, [ __ ] sliding all over the place. Like, [ __ ] sliding all over the place. Like, [ __ ] you. You were sliding all over the you. You were sliding all over the you. You were sliding all over the place. Neither of you know cuz your place. Neither of you know cuz your place. Neither of you know cuz your reference is the earth just flying reference is the earth just flying reference is the earth just flying around. And then you get in the wind around. And then you get in the wind around. And then you get in the wind tunnel and you're both up against the tunnel and you're both up against the tunnel and you're both up against the glass, and you're like, "Oh, we both glass, and you're like, "Oh, we both glass, and you're like, "Oh, we both suck." So, suck." So, suck." So, makes it a little bit more difficult. makes it a little bit more difficult. makes it a little bit more difficult. The most basic type of skydive would be The most basic type of skydive would be The most basic type of skydive would be just exiting the plane in flight, just exiting the plane in flight, just exiting the plane in flight, falling with your belly to the oriented falling with your belly to the oriented falling with your belly to the oriented towards the ground, and deploying your towards the ground, and deploying your towards the ground, and deploying your parachute on time. Skydiving is two parachute on time. Skydiving is two parachute on time. Skydiving is two parachutes, main parachute and reserve. parachutes, main parachute and reserve. parachutes, main parachute and reserve. Reserve is packed by an FAA rigger. Reserve is packed by an FAA rigger. Reserve is packed by an FAA rigger. And I believe it's For one period of And I believe it's For one period of And I believe it's For one period of time, it was 90 days in between pack time, it was 90 days in between pack time, it was 90 days in between pack jobs. I think it's 6 months in between jobs. I think it's 6 months in between jobs. I think it's 6 months in between pack jobs now. But, full they open it pack jobs now. But, full they open it pack jobs now. But, full they open it up, the reserve. They open the parachute up, the reserve. They open the parachute up, the reserve. They open the parachute up, they inspect it, they make sure that up, they inspect it, they make sure that up, they inspect it, they make sure that the canopy is good, the lines are good. the canopy is good, the lines are good. the canopy is good, the lines are good. Um the automatic activation devices, Um the automatic activation devices, Um the automatic activation devices, which are computers, which are computers, which are computers, sensing uh fall rate, barometric sensing uh fall rate, barometric sensing uh fall rate, barometric pressure, with a firing criteria, which pressure, with a firing criteria, which pressure, with a firing criteria, which will fire your reserve for you if you do will fire your reserve for you if you do will fire your reserve for you if you do nothing, which has hundreds of nothing, which has hundreds of nothing, which has hundreds of documented saves, by the way. documented saves, by the way. documented saves, by the way. Um for an unconscious jumper, or Um for an unconscious jumper, or Um for an unconscious jumper, or whatever it may be, or somebody is crazy whatever it may be, or somebody is crazy whatever it may be, or somebody is crazy as it is to say, as it is to say, as it is to say, somebody falling through the air somebody falling through the air somebody falling through the air forgetting to look at their altimeter forgetting to look at their altimeter forgetting to look at their altimeter cuz they're having so much fun. cuz they're having so much fun. cuz they're having so much fun. It happens. It happens. It happens. So, So, So, Cypresses or uh Vigils or just AADs, Cypresses or uh Vigils or just AADs, Cypresses or uh Vigils or just AADs, automatic activation devices, have saved automatic activation devices, have saved automatic activation devices, have saved hundreds of lives. hundreds of lives. hundreds of lives. So, that reserve parachute is packed by So, that reserve parachute is packed by So, that reserve parachute is packed by a rigger. Most civilian jumpers will a rigger. Most civilian jumpers will a rigger. Most civilian jumpers will pack their own main parachute. It takes pack their own main parachute. It takes pack their own main parachute. It takes 5 minutes for an experienced jumper, 5 minutes for an experienced jumper, 5 minutes for an experienced jumper, maybe 20 minutes for somebody who is maybe 20 minutes for somebody who is maybe 20 minutes for somebody who is learning. learning. learning. And you can go do And you can go do And you can go do I think the most jumps I've ever done in I think the most jumps I've ever done in I think the most jumps I've ever done in a day was probably 30. a day was probably 30. a day was probably 30. That was at at a at a an event called a That was at at a at a an event called a That was at at a at a an event called a boogie, where it's just as fast as you boogie, where it's just as fast as you boogie, where it's just as fast as you can go. And you're just jumping, can go. And you're just jumping, can go. And you're just jumping, jumping, jumping. An average day for me jumping, jumping. An average day for me jumping, jumping. An average day for me when I lived in San Diego would be six when I lived in San Diego would be six when I lived in San Diego would be six to eight jumps. to eight jumps. to eight jumps. >> I'd like to take a quick break and >> I'd like to take a quick break and >> I'd like to take a quick break and acknowledge our sponsor, AG1. acknowledge our sponsor, AG1. acknowledge our sponsor, AG1. 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So, if you're learning in Colorado or another you're learning in Colorado or another you're learning in Colorado or another Rocky Mountain state, Rocky Mountain state, Rocky Mountain state, you might only get you might only get you might only get 12 AGL because you might be up to the 16 12 AGL because you might be up to the 16 12 AGL because you might be up to the 16 to 18,000 ft. But, there's to 18,000 ft. But, there's to 18,000 ft. But, there's [clears throat] flying with your belly [clears throat] flying with your belly [clears throat] flying with your belly oriented to the earth. There's people oriented to the earth. There's people oriented to the earth. There's people who like to do it vertically, either who like to do it vertically, either who like to do it vertically, either feet down or head down. feet down or head down. feet down or head down. People who fly on their back. There are People who fly on their back. There are People who fly on their back. There are formation jumps where they'll get a formation jumps where they'll get a formation jumps where they'll get a bunch of people together. I think the bunch of people together. I think the bunch of people together. I think the world record is world record is world record is hundreds of people linked up in hundreds of people linked up in hundreds of people linked up in freefall. You can watch it from the freefall. You can watch it from the freefall. You can watch it from the ground. It's crazy to see. They'll have ground. It's crazy to see. They'll have ground. It's crazy to see. They'll have eight air cra- aircraft and you just see eight air cra- aircraft and you just see eight air cra- aircraft and you just see these just people bombing out of the these just people bombing out of the these just people bombing out of the back. And they'll make these snowflake back. And they'll make these snowflake back. And they'll make these snowflake configurations and people just sitting configurations and people just sitting configurations and people just sitting there on the ground watching with their there on the ground watching with their there on the ground watching with their naked eye or with uh naked eye or with uh naked eye or with uh with binoculars. And then they break off with binoculars. And then they break off with binoculars. And then they break off altitude, everybody's tracking away, and altitude, everybody's tracking away, and altitude, everybody's tracking away, and then all these canopies open up, and then all these canopies open up, and then all these canopies open up, and then on landing it gets a little bit then on landing it gets a little bit then on landing it gets a little bit wild. So, it can get as much as you wild. So, it can get as much as you wild. So, it can get as much as you want, and then um wingsuiting is just a want, and then um wingsuiting is just a want, and then um wingsuiting is just a part of that. But, you can jump a a part of that. But, you can jump a a part of that. But, you can jump a a smaller wingsuit. So, if the suits I smaller wingsuit. So, if the suits I smaller wingsuit. So, if the suits I ended up jumping had a lot of fabric ended up jumping had a lot of fabric ended up jumping had a lot of fabric because I wanted to have a nice glide because I wanted to have a nice glide because I wanted to have a nice glide ratio and I wanted to be able to extend ratio and I wanted to be able to extend ratio and I wanted to be able to extend the amount of time in the air. You can the amount of time in the air. You can the amount of time in the air. You can get suits with a smaller wing, which get suits with a smaller wing, which get suits with a smaller wing, which give you more maneuverability. give you more maneuverability. give you more maneuverability. And you learn in those and then get a And you learn in those and then get a And you learn in those and then get a little bit bigger, little bit bigger, little bit bigger, a little bit bigger and bigger and a little bit bigger and bigger and a little bit bigger and bigger and bigger. So, bigger. So, bigger. So, as safely as possible, graduating your as safely as possible, graduating your as safely as possible, graduating your way towards those larger suits that can way towards those larger suits that can way towards those larger suits that can have more consequence. have more consequence. have more consequence. Uh you can end up on your back in the Uh you can end up on your back in the Uh you can end up on your back in the wingsuits in flat spins. And I've seen wingsuits in flat spins. And I've seen wingsuits in flat spins. And I've seen people people people they can you can get out of it. You need they can you can get out of it. You need they can you can get out of it. You need to get out of it quickly, but we're to get out of it quickly, but we're to get out of it quickly, but we're talking fully blown uh red eyes when talking fully blown uh red eyes when talking fully blown uh red eyes when they get to the ground from centrifugal they get to the ground from centrifugal they get to the ground from centrifugal force. force. force. And pretty quick, too. That's the And pretty quick, too. That's the And pretty quick, too. That's the skydiving world. skydiving world. skydiving world. Two parachutes. The BASE jumping world Two parachutes. The BASE jumping world Two parachutes. The BASE jumping world is you're now down to one parachute that is you're now down to one parachute that is you're now down to one parachute that is packed very similar to a reserve, but is packed very similar to a reserve, but is packed very similar to a reserve, but it's packed now by the jumper who is it's packed now by the jumper who is it's packed now by the jumper who is doing the BASE jumping. doing the BASE jumping. doing the BASE jumping. And the reason for that is you are And the reason for that is you are And the reason for that is you are generally very close to the ground at an generally very close to the ground at an generally very close to the ground at an altitude where a reserve isn't going to altitude where a reserve isn't going to altitude where a reserve isn't going to save you because it does take a couple save you because it does take a couple save you because it does take a couple hundred feet for a reserve to open up. hundred feet for a reserve to open up. hundred feet for a reserve to open up. And um And um And um in the US, there's one place to legally in the US, there's one place to legally in the US, there's one place to legally do it 24/7 365. It's the Perrine Bridge do it 24/7 365. It's the Perrine Bridge do it 24/7 365. It's the Perrine Bridge up in Twin Falls, up in Twin Falls, up in Twin Falls, which is where I learned. It's, you which is where I learned. It's, you which is where I learned. It's, you know, the legality aspect is if people know, the legality aspect is if people know, the legality aspect is if people pursue to go that they want to go that pursue to go that they want to go that pursue to go that they want to go that way, um do your research because there's way, um do your research because there's way, um do your research because there's some cities that had some problems with some cities that had some problems with some cities that had some problems with it. So, they made it a felony, which it. So, they made it a felony, which it. So, they made it a felony, which will change your life if you want to will change your life if you want to will change your life if you want to test gravity off of a building. I don't test gravity off of a building. I don't test gravity off of a building. I don't know if the capital F is necessarily know if the capital F is necessarily know if the capital F is necessarily worth it. Vegas and New York are two worth it. Vegas and New York are two worth it. Vegas and New York are two good examples of that. good examples of that. good examples of that. Um Um Um most people start off at that bridge. Uh most people start off at that bridge. Uh most people start off at that bridge. Uh and then an antenna is of course exactly and then an antenna is of course exactly and then an antenna is of course exactly that, radio antennas. And there are that, radio antennas. And there are that, radio antennas. And there are other countries in the world where that other countries in the world where that other countries in the world where that is legal to do. And a lot of times is legal to do. And a lot of times is legal to do. And a lot of times people will travel. people will travel. people will travel. >> [gasps] >> [gasps] >> [gasps] >> Uh buildings, you can get permission uh >> Uh buildings, you can get permission uh >> Uh buildings, you can get permission uh depending um I know one of your guys depending um I know one of your guys depending um I know one of your guys worked with Red Bull, not for Red Bull. worked with Red Bull, not for Red Bull. worked with Red Bull, not for Red Bull. He clarified for us. Shockingly enough, He clarified for us. Shockingly enough, He clarified for us. Shockingly enough, if you write a large check, things that if you write a large check, things that if you write a large check, things that were once illegal were once illegal were once illegal can become legal for short periods of can become legal for short periods of can become legal for short periods of So, they will get permission to go off So, they will get permission to go off So, they will get permission to go off of buildings or you can go to Dubai of buildings or you can go to Dubai of buildings or you can go to Dubai where for I think it was a year they had where for I think it was a year they had where for I think it was a year they had this huge just it was fully just set up this huge just it was fully just set up this huge just it was fully just set up for legal base jumping off one of the for legal base jumping off one of the for legal base jumping off one of the top floors of one of those skyscrapers, top floors of one of those skyscrapers, top floors of one of those skyscrapers, which is unbelievable. which is unbelievable. which is unbelievable. And then Earth, which is obviously that And then Earth, which is obviously that And then Earth, which is obviously that and and and cliffs um my first cliffs um my first cliffs um my first uh base jump off of a uh base jump off of a uh base jump off of a uh uh uh actually it was from the bridge. I have actually it was from the bridge. I have actually it was from the bridge. I have actually I've done an antenna actually I've done an antenna actually I've done an antenna buildings buildings buildings not many bitty building not many not many bitty building not many not many bitty building not many buildings, but my first jump uh off the buildings, but my first jump uh off the buildings, but my first jump uh off the Earth was Monte Brento in Italy. Earth was Monte Brento in Italy. Earth was Monte Brento in Italy. Which Which Which you jump, open your canopy, land, walk you jump, open your canopy, land, walk you jump, open your canopy, land, walk across the street, and there's an across the street, and there's an across the street, and there's an Italian espresso just waiting for you. Italian espresso just waiting for you. Italian espresso just waiting for you. Perfect. It's basically heaven. Perfect. It's basically heaven. Perfect. It's basically heaven. And then we stayed there for 2 and 1/2 And then we stayed there for 2 and 1/2 And then we stayed there for 2 and 1/2 weeks and went into Lauterbrunnen in weeks and went into Lauterbrunnen in weeks and went into Lauterbrunnen in Switzerland. Switzerland. Switzerland. But I had been skydiving But I had been skydiving But I had been skydiving and and and flying a wingsuit, then I had to learn flying a wingsuit, then I had to learn flying a wingsuit, then I had to learn how to base jump, and then at some point how to base jump, and then at some point how to base jump, and then at some point you have to combine those two. So, one you have to combine those two. So, one you have to combine those two. So, one day you have to go from never having day you have to go from never having day you have to go from never having pushed off of a cliff in a wingsuit pushed off of a cliff in a wingsuit pushed off of a cliff in a wingsuit and having time flying it in the air and having time flying it in the air and having time flying it in the air to kind of bridging that gap where now to kind of bridging that gap where now to kind of bridging that gap where now you have this first 4 seconds that you you have this first 4 seconds that you you have this first 4 seconds that you have to deal with where the suit the have to deal with where the suit the have to deal with where the suit the suit feels really sloppy, it doesn't suit feels really sloppy, it doesn't suit feels really sloppy, it doesn't feel rigid, and you can't really do feel rigid, and you can't really do feel rigid, and you can't really do anything until it powers up anything until it powers up anything until it powers up and you can pull away. and you can pull away. and you can pull away. So, that's kind of the activities. The So, that's kind of the activities. The So, that's kind of the activities. The why I can't answer for anybody other why I can't answer for anybody other why I can't answer for anybody other than myself. than myself. than myself. But the why for me actually had nothing But the why for me actually had nothing But the why for me actually had nothing to do with the activity itself. And it to do with the activity itself. And it to do with the activity itself. And it is dangerous. There are some people who is dangerous. There are some people who is dangerous. There are some people who try to romanticize the danger of that try to romanticize the danger of that try to romanticize the danger of that and and and if people want to par- participate in if people want to par- participate in if people want to par- participate in things things things because they're dangerous and that's how because they're dangerous and that's how because they're dangerous and that's how they want to define themselves, I leave they want to define themselves, I leave they want to define themselves, I leave that to you. Um just, you know, be aware that to you. Um just, you know, be aware that to you. Um just, you know, be aware of the potential consequences you might of the potential consequences you might of the potential consequences you might get yourself into. get yourself into. get yourself into. For me, I got into that about 3 years For me, I got into that about 3 years For me, I got into that about 3 years after I got out of the Navy and I didn't after I got out of the Navy and I didn't after I got out of the Navy and I didn't realize what it was I enjoyed so much. realize what it was I enjoyed so much. realize what it was I enjoyed so much. But it was the mental reset associated But it was the mental reset associated But it was the mental reset associated with that. with that. with that. Um Um Um At about 1 minute out on a helicopter At about 1 minute out on a helicopter At about 1 minute out on a helicopter for me and I can only speak for me. for me and I can only speak for me. for me and I can only speak for me. Your entire you know we're talking about Your entire you know we're talking about Your entire you know we're talking about time. time. time. Your entire Your entire Your entire circle of circle of circle of concern concern concern goes away. goes away. goes away. Completely gone. Completely gone. Completely gone. And there are very few times in my life And there are very few times in my life And there are very few times in my life where I've ever been able to get into where I've ever been able to get into where I've ever been able to get into that headspace. that headspace. that headspace. But it might be the most powerful But it might be the most powerful But it might be the most powerful headspace I've ever been able to arrive headspace I've ever been able to arrive headspace I've ever been able to arrive into and my ability to find my way there into and my ability to find my way there into and my ability to find my way there lasted for months afterwards. Because lasted for months afterwards. Because lasted for months afterwards. Because overseas overseas overseas yeah, they ask you to do some some yeah, they ask you to do some some yeah, they ask you to do some some bizarre stuff. But you also likely at bizarre stuff. But you also likely at bizarre stuff. But you also likely at some point in your in your career will some point in your in your career will some point in your in your career will have [clears throat] a family. have [clears throat] a family. have [clears throat] a family. Maybe your first house, whatever it is Maybe your first house, whatever it is Maybe your first house, whatever it is and and and like talking the washing machine just like talking the washing machine just like talking the washing machine just broke and you're dealing with real life broke and you're dealing with real life broke and you're dealing with real life stuff. Did I did I write enough checks stuff. Did I did I write enough checks stuff. Did I did I write enough checks before I left the before the digital age before I left the before the digital age before I left the before the digital age did I write enough checks before I left did I write enough checks before I left did I write enough checks before I left to make sure that the rent was already to make sure that the rent was already to make sure that the rent was already paid. Now these are the things you're paid. Now these are the things you're paid. Now these are the things you're thinking about. Just normal everyday thinking about. Just normal everyday thinking about. Just normal everyday life. An argument with your spouse, your life. An argument with your spouse, your life. An argument with your spouse, your kids, the holidays you may have missed, kids, the holidays you may have missed, kids, the holidays you may have missed, all that stuff. all that stuff. all that stuff. Get on a helicopter and you start Get on a helicopter and you start Get on a helicopter and you start heading towards an objective heading towards an objective heading towards an objective and all that stuff starts to go away. and all that stuff starts to go away. and all that stuff starts to go away. And in about for me about the 1 minute And in about for me about the 1 minute And in about for me about the 1 minute and in until it lands or you're stepping and in until it lands or you're stepping and in until it lands or you're stepping off it becomes this focus on the next 3 off it becomes this focus on the next 3 off it becomes this focus on the next 3 seconds of your life. seconds of your life. seconds of your life. Is the only thing I was capable of Is the only thing I was capable of Is the only thing I was capable of thinking about. thinking about. thinking about. And that is such a beautiful place. God, And that is such a beautiful place. God, And that is such a beautiful place. God, you want to talk about you want to talk about you want to talk about the ability the ability the ability to perform to perform to perform and not feel like you're necessarily and not feel like you're necessarily and not feel like you're necessarily you're not trying to force it. You're you're not trying to force it. You're you're not trying to force it. You're just there's books been written about just there's books been written about just there's books been written about the flow state for lack of a better the flow state for lack of a better the flow state for lack of a better term. Incredibly impactful. term. Incredibly impactful. term. Incredibly impactful. And I didn't realize how much I needed And I didn't realize how much I needed And I didn't realize how much I needed that. that. that. And I didn't realize how much that job And I didn't realize how much that job And I didn't realize how much that job was providing for me until it was gone. was providing for me until it was gone. was providing for me until it was gone. And then the static of everyday life And then the static of everyday life And then the static of everyday life just is overwhelming. Skydiving just is overwhelming. Skydiving just is overwhelming. Skydiving I guess you could get that or maybe I I guess you could get that or maybe I I guess you could get that or maybe I got that when I first started, but after got that when I first started, but after got that when I first started, but after a few thousand jumps a few thousand jumps a few thousand jumps about everything that's going to go about everything that's going to go about everything that's going to go wrong, you're going to have your first wrong, you're going to have your first wrong, you're going to have your first cutaway, you're going to have a mal, you cutaway, you're going to have a mal, you cutaway, you're going to have a mal, you know what I mean? You're going to deal know what I mean? You're going to deal know what I mean? You're going to deal with your gear, your reserve is going to with your gear, your reserve is going to with your gear, your reserve is going to open. And so that that really narrowed open. And so that that really narrowed open. And so that that really narrowed focus it actually starts opening back focus it actually starts opening back focus it actually starts opening back up. up. up. The BASE jumping world, I remember the The BASE jumping world, I remember the The BASE jumping world, I remember the first time I was with the guy who taught first time I was with the guy who taught first time I was with the guy who taught me, he's like, "All right, let's climb me, he's like, "All right, let's climb me, he's like, "All right, let's climb over the edge of the rail here and over the edge of the rail here and over the edge of the rail here and you're looking at 486 ft. You test the you're looking at 486 ft. You test the you're looking at 486 ft. You test the wind by spitting. wind by spitting. wind by spitting. And if you and if it drifts past a And if you and if it drifts past a And if you and if it drifts past a certain point, you're good to go." certain point, you're good to go." certain point, you're good to go." So, [laughter] So, [laughter] So, [laughter] you can track your spit to where you are you can track your spit to where you are you can track your spit to where you are going to deck if you don't pull your going to deck if you don't pull your going to deck if you don't pull your parachute. Now, on the first one, he's parachute. Now, on the first one, he's parachute. Now, on the first one, he's holding onto the pilot chute, so it rips holding onto the pilot chute, so it rips holding onto the pilot chute, so it rips it off for you, so you don't have to it off for you, so you don't have to it off for you, so you don't have to worry about it. worry about it. worry about it. >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> But you want to talk about that >> But you want to talk about that >> But you want to talk about that right back into that space, holy cow. right back into that space, holy cow. right back into that space, holy cow. That's what BASE jumping was for me. That's what BASE jumping was for me. That's what BASE jumping was for me. I had some of the the deepest I had some of the the deepest I had some of the the deepest conversations with my friends on the conversations with my friends on the conversations with my friends on the 4-hour hikes that would lead to a 4-hour hikes that would lead to a 4-hour hikes that would lead to a 90-second jump. 90-second jump. 90-second jump. And And And 2 weeks of those 90-second jumps, I 2 weeks of those 90-second jumps, I 2 weeks of those 90-second jumps, I could get myself into such a more dialed could get myself into such a more dialed could get myself into such a more dialed head space head space head space for 6 months and be better at business, for 6 months and be better at business, for 6 months and be better at business, better at, you know, a more patient better at, you know, a more patient better at, you know, a more patient father, a more patient husband. That's father, a more patient husband. That's father, a more patient husband. That's that to me is why. that to me is why. that to me is why. And at some point And at some point And at some point it probably due to the death of my it probably due to the death of my it probably due to the death of my friends and I had found other activities friends and I had found other activities friends and I had found other activities that had started to provide that, it that had started to provide that, it that had started to provide that, it crossed the crossed the crossed the metric for me where the risk was no metric for me where the risk was no metric for me where the risk was no longer worth worth the reward. I I have longer worth worth the reward. I I have longer worth worth the reward. I I have been skydiving since 1999, I can take 5 been skydiving since 1999, I can take 5 been skydiving since 1999, I can take 5 years off and go jump out of an airplane years off and go jump out of an airplane years off and go jump out of an airplane and I'd be fine, but I can't do that in and I'd be fine, but I can't do that in and I'd be fine, but I can't do that in the BASE jumping world. The currency and the BASE jumping world. The currency and the BASE jumping world. The currency and competency piece is so important and competency piece is so important and competency piece is so important and then when I moved to Montana, my access then when I moved to Montana, my access then when I moved to Montana, my access to the drop zones and the ability to to the drop zones and the ability to to the drop zones and the ability to maintain currency and competency in that maintain currency and competency in that maintain currency and competency in that wingsuit really decreased. wingsuit really decreased. wingsuit really decreased. So, it got to a place where it just it So, it got to a place where it just it So, it got to a place where it just it wasn't worth the risk. Skydiving is wasn't worth the risk. Skydiving is wasn't worth the risk. Skydiving is still a bunch of fun, but I found other still a bunch of fun, but I found other still a bunch of fun, but I found other activities that I could kind of lose activities that I could kind of lose activities that I could kind of lose myself in. myself in. myself in. Maybe not to the same I don't think to Maybe not to the same I don't think to Maybe not to the same I don't think to the same degree. I I the same degree. I I the same degree. I I It's hard to describe zipping up in that It's hard to describe zipping up in that It's hard to describe zipping up in that suit suit suit with a maximal heart rate to the point with a maximal heart rate to the point with a maximal heart rate to the point where you're looking over your buddy where you're looking over your buddy where you're looking over your buddy like, "Hey, like, "Hey, like, "Hey, can Are you hearing my heart, too? Cuz can Are you hearing my heart, too? Cuz can Are you hearing my heart, too? Cuz it's pretty loud. It's about the You it's pretty loud. It's about the You it's pretty loud. It's about the You know what I mean? Like that thrush in know what I mean? Like that thrush in know what I mean? Like that thrush in your ears." your ears." your ears." >> That's informative to [laughter] hear >> That's informative to [laughter] hear >> That's informative to [laughter] hear that your heart was maxed out because I that your heart was maxed out because I that your heart was maxed out because I wondered if you you know, if adrenaline wondered if you you know, if adrenaline wondered if you you know, if adrenaline was low, if it was high, you know, was low, if it was high, you know, was low, if it was high, you know, something had had happened something had had happened something had had happened systematically over the years in the systematically over the years in the systematically over the years in the teams where your adrenaline was set too teams where your adrenaline was set too teams where your adrenaline was set too low. You need to crank it above a low. You need to crank it above a low. You need to crank it above a certain threshold. Sounds like you were certain threshold. Sounds like you were certain threshold. Sounds like you were right where any rational person would right where any rational person would right where any rational person would be, which was terrified. be, which was terrified. be, which was terrified. >> Cuz at some point you grab your little >> Cuz at some point you grab your little >> Cuz at some point you grab your little tail wing and you make a little nice tail wing and you make a little nice tail wing and you make a little nice little teepee with it and you get your little teepee with it and you get your little teepee with it and you get your toes to the edge toes to the edge toes to the edge and you check all your stuff and you check all your stuff and you check all your stuff and then you are just looking out into and then you are just looking out into and then you are just looking out into the abyss. the abyss. the abyss. And you have to make yourself rock And you have to make yourself rock And you have to make yourself rock forward past a point of no return that forward past a point of no return that forward past a point of no return that if you change your mind, whoopsies, that if you change your mind, whoopsies, that if you change your mind, whoopsies, that doesn't work anymore and then you need doesn't work anymore and then you need doesn't work anymore and then you need to have maximal human performance for to have maximal human performance for to have maximal human performance for about the next 4 seconds of your life if about the next 4 seconds of your life if about the next 4 seconds of your life if you want your life to continue. you want your life to continue. you want your life to continue. So, if you're not scared in that So, if you're not scared in that So, if you're not scared in that environment, I would recommend you stop environment, I would recommend you stop environment, I would recommend you stop that activity immediately cuz you're not that activity immediately cuz you're not that activity immediately cuz you're not paying attention. paying attention. paying attention. It was It was It was terrifying. terrifying. terrifying. And that's probably why I liked it so And that's probably why I liked it so And that's probably why I liked it so much. It was awesome. Don't get me much. It was awesome. Don't get me much. It was awesome. Don't get me wrong. Ripping down a mountain in wrong. Ripping down a mountain in wrong. Ripping down a mountain in Switzerland 6 ft off the ground almost Switzerland 6 ft off the ground almost Switzerland 6 ft off the ground almost playing tag with your shadow and then playing tag with your shadow and then playing tag with your shadow and then turning around and like carving through turning around and like carving through turning around and like carving through trees, amazing. trees, amazing. trees, amazing. >> So, you're actually pretty low to the >> So, you're actually pretty low to the >> So, you're actually pretty low to the ground just going very, very fast over ground just going very, very fast over ground just going very, very fast over steep ground. steep ground. steep ground. >> Yes. If you want to be. Not everybody >> Yes. If you want to be. Not everybody >> Yes. If you want to be. Not everybody chooses to fly that way. And you can you chooses to fly that way. And you can you chooses to fly that way. And you can you can have on the exact same jump can have on the exact same jump can have on the exact same jump I can think of one very I can think of one very I can think of one very specifically. It's at the far end of the specifically. It's at the far end of the specifically. It's at the far end of the valley in Switzerland. It's a 4-hour valley in Switzerland. It's a 4-hour valley in Switzerland. It's a 4-hour hike up and it's hike up and it's hike up and it's I mean, you're getting water out of your I mean, you're getting water out of your I mean, you're getting water out of your in your you know, canteen or Nalgene out in your you know, canteen or Nalgene out in your you know, canteen or Nalgene out of like these glacially just spouting of like these glacially just spouting of like these glacially just spouting out of the rocks and there's sheep and out of the rocks and there's sheep and out of the rocks and there's sheep and stuff and you know, it's it's like a stuff and you know, it's it's like a stuff and you know, it's it's like a postcard. You walk for 4 hours. postcard. You walk for 4 hours. postcard. You walk for 4 hours. You can have a really aggressive jump on You can have a really aggressive jump on You can have a really aggressive jump on that and fly for 60 seconds or you could that and fly for 60 seconds or you could that and fly for 60 seconds or you could flatten your suit out and just glide and flatten your suit out and just glide and flatten your suit out and just glide and fly for 2 and 1/2 minutes. Same jump, fly for 2 and 1/2 minutes. Same jump, fly for 2 and 1/2 minutes. Same jump, different choices. Not that, you know, different choices. Not that, you know, different choices. Not that, you know, necessarily flying farther out. You necessarily flying farther out. You necessarily flying farther out. You still need to pack your parachute still need to pack your parachute still need to pack your parachute correctly and all those things, but your correctly and all those things, but your correctly and all those things, but your likelihood of impacting a tree at 100 likelihood of impacting a tree at 100 likelihood of impacting a tree at 100 miles an hour with your face miles an hour with your face miles an hour with your face is a lot better than flying 6 ft off the is a lot better than flying 6 ft off the is a lot better than flying 6 ft off the ground around corners that hopefully ground around corners that hopefully ground around corners that hopefully you've done some test jumps on and you've done some test jumps on and you've done some test jumps on and gotten lower and lower and lower and gotten lower and lower and lower and gotten lower and lower and lower and lower instead of just flash point in lower instead of just flash point in lower instead of just flash point in that thing hoping for the best as you that thing hoping for the best as you that thing hoping for the best as you come around the corner. Which a lot of come around the corner. Which a lot of come around the corner. Which a lot of people do. people do. people do. >> How fast are you moving when you're >> How fast are you moving when you're >> How fast are you moving when you're above the ground? above the ground? above the ground? >> If you really bend those suits over, I'd >> If you really bend those suits over, I'd >> If you really bend those suits over, I'd say you could get them to about 120. say you could get them to about 120. say you could get them to about 120. Face first. Face first. Face first. >> You're a human missile. >> You're a human missile. >> You're a human missile. >> It's awesome. >> It's awesome. >> It's awesome. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> I can, you know, we can the those of us >> I can, you know, we can the those of us >> I can, you know, we can the those of us like myself listening to this can only like myself listening to this can only like myself listening to this can only wonder, right? wonder, right? wonder, right? >> feel [clears throat] it in the suit. So, >> feel [clears throat] it in the suit. So, >> feel [clears throat] it in the suit. So, again, the ram air inlets, again, the ram air inlets, again, the ram air inlets, when you're a little bit flatter, flying when you're a little bit flatter, flying when you're a little bit flatter, flying slow, you just It feels like you're on slow, you just It feels like you're on slow, you just It feels like you're on an air mattress. It's really what flying an air mattress. It's really what flying an air mattress. It's really what flying feels like. As you bend the suit over feels like. As you bend the suit over feels like. As you bend the suit over and you're just violently diving at the and you're just violently diving at the and you're just violently diving at the ground, you can feel the suit. It's ground, you can feel the suit. It's ground, you can feel the suit. It's almost like it's it's just your power almost like it's it's just your power almost like it's it's just your power meter is just all the way up. And so, if meter is just all the way up. And so, if meter is just all the way up. And so, if you get in trouble, you can flatten that you get in trouble, you can flatten that you get in trouble, you can flatten that out and that's how you that's your out and that's how you that's your out and that's how you that's your safety. You can disconnect from the safety. You can disconnect from the safety. You can disconnect from the terrain. terrain. terrain. Which is how, unfortunately, some people Which is how, unfortunately, some people Which is how, unfortunately, some people die. They're not paying attention to die. They're not paying attention to die. They're not paying attention to that sensation and they're slowly that sensation and they're slowly that sensation and they're slowly getting flatter and flatter and flatter getting flatter and flatter and flatter getting flatter and flatter and flatter and flatter. and flatter. and flatter. Then they encounter flat terrain and Then they encounter flat terrain and Then they encounter flat terrain and they don't have enough performance in they don't have enough performance in they don't have enough performance in the suit to clear it and they impact. the suit to clear it and they impact. the suit to clear it and they impact. But that, when you're pitched over like But that, when you're pitched over like But that, when you're pitched over like that and that thing is just that and that thing is just that and that thing is just and you and you and you it feels like you are licking the it feels like you are licking the it feels like you are licking the largest 9-volt battery you've ever largest 9-volt battery you've ever largest 9-volt battery you've ever licked in your life. licked in your life. licked in your life. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Uh would your uh would your parents say >> Uh would your uh would your parents say >> Uh would your uh would your parents say that this this is a window into the that this this is a window into the that this this is a window into the young Andy Stumpf or or is this a a young Andy Stumpf or or is this a a young Andy Stumpf or or is this a a departure or an an evolution devolution departure or an an evolution devolution departure or an an evolution devolution evolution? evolution? evolution? >> I don't know if they would have called >> I don't know if they would have called >> I don't know if they would have called that one. I don't think that one. I don't think that one. I don't think I I don't know if I would have called I I don't know if I would have called I I don't know if I would have called that activity. If I would have said this that activity. If I would have said this that activity. If I would have said this one was going to be interesting to me. one was going to be interesting to me. one was going to be interesting to me. >> Let me ask you this. When you were a >> Let me ask you this. When you were a >> Let me ask you this. When you were a kid, not recommending anyone do this, kid, not recommending anyone do this, kid, not recommending anyone do this, but when you were a kid and your and but when you were a kid and your and but when you were a kid and your and your guy friends [snorts] your guy friends [snorts] your guy friends [snorts] someone found one of the larger someone found one of the larger someone found one of the larger firecrackers available, were you the kid firecrackers available, were you the kid firecrackers available, were you the kid that would hold it that would hold it that would hold it after it was lit until the last second after it was lit until the last second after it was lit until the last second and then throw it? Cuz I knew that kid, and then throw it? Cuz I knew that kid, and then throw it? Cuz I knew that kid, but it wasn't me. but it wasn't me. but it wasn't me. >> Does he still have both hands? >> Does he still have both hands? >> Does he still have both hands? >> Uh yes, but the He was great >> Uh yes, but the He was great >> Uh yes, but the He was great skateboarder, by the way. Became pro skateboarder, by the way. Became pro skateboarder, by the way. Became pro skateboarder right out of high school. skateboarder right out of high school. skateboarder right out of high school. Um moved on to other things eventually. Um moved on to other things eventually. Um moved on to other things eventually. I think those things were correlated, I think those things were correlated, I think those things were correlated, right? I mean, he used to do big rails. right? I mean, he used to do big rails. right? I mean, he used to do big rails. Like he had a very very good Like he had a very very good Like he had a very very good relationship with confronting fear. relationship with confronting fear. relationship with confronting fear. There was another kid in our crew who There was another kid in our crew who There was another kid in our crew who would have been around the corner the would have been around the corner the would have been around the corner the moment the thing came out. Okay, I was moment the thing came out. Okay, I was moment the thing came out. Okay, I was neither of those kids, right? And then neither of those kids, right? And then neither of those kids, right? And then there's a distribution in the middle. there's a distribution in the middle. there's a distribution in the middle. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Where were you? >> Where were you? >> Where were you? >> My answer's not going to make sense to >> My answer's not going to make sense to >> My answer's not going to make sense to you because you because you because holding it that long sounds dangerous. holding it that long sounds dangerous. holding it that long sounds dangerous. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> It is dangerous, but but wingsuit >> It is dangerous, but but wingsuit >> It is dangerous, but but wingsuit >> I know, that's what I'm saying. It's not >> I know, that's what I'm saying. It's not >> I know, that's what I'm saying. It's not going to make sense. That sounds going to make sense. That sounds going to make sense. That sounds dangerous, but just for the sake of dangerous, but just for the sake of dangerous, but just for the sake of danger, which somebody could 100% say danger, which somebody could 100% say danger, which somebody could 100% say about base jumping as well. But I don't about base jumping as well. But I don't about base jumping as well. But I don't know if holding on to, say, an M80 and know if holding on to, say, an M80 and know if holding on to, say, an M80 and wondering, you know, how long you can wondering, you know, how long you can wondering, you know, how long you can provides for you provides for you provides for you that mental I mean, I'm talking about that mental I mean, I'm talking about that mental I mean, I'm talking about your canopy opens, you land, you're your canopy opens, you land, you're your canopy opens, you land, you're laying in a [ __ ] meadow in laying in a [ __ ] meadow in laying in a [ __ ] meadow in Switzerland on your back. Switzerland on your back. Switzerland on your back. Like Like Like it is a sense of ease and peace. it is a sense of ease and peace. it is a sense of ease and peace. I don't think you're getting that from I don't think you're getting that from I don't think you're getting that from an M80. an M80. an M80. >> No. The reason I ask is that, you know, >> No. The reason I ask is that, you know, >> No. The reason I ask is that, you know, there are a lot of questions that the there are a lot of questions that the there are a lot of questions that the scientist in me wants to know about, you scientist in me wants to know about, you scientist in me wants to know about, you know, resetting of adrenaline set points know, resetting of adrenaline set points know, resetting of adrenaline set points and you know, and because people can and you know, and because people can and you know, and because people can become desensitized to to um high-risk, become desensitized to to um high-risk, become desensitized to to um high-risk, high-consequence type situations. high-consequence type situations. high-consequence type situations. >> You see that in the wingsuiting >> You see that in the wingsuiting >> You see that in the wingsuiting community. I would say specifically the community. I would say specifically the community. I would say specifically the wingsuit base jumping community. The wingsuit base jumping community. The wingsuit base jumping community. The fatality rate is high. fatality rate is high. fatality rate is high. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> I would never tell anybody that it is a >> I would never tell anybody that it is a >> I would never tell anybody that it is a safe activity, but I think you can do it safe activity, but I think you can do it safe activity, but I think you can do it as safely as possible. There's still as safely as possible. There's still as safely as possible. There's still immense residual risk. So, you have to immense residual risk. So, you have to immense residual risk. So, you have to ask yourself, what is it worth? ask yourself, what is it worth? ask yourself, what is it worth? >> If we were to plot out um number of >> If we were to plot out um number of >> If we were to plot out um number of wingsuit jumps wingsuit jumps wingsuit jumps >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> and >> and >> and plot fatality time of fatality relative plot fatality time of fatality relative plot fatality time of fatality relative to first jump, right? So, so that the to first jump, right? So, so that the to first jump, right? So, so that the question like the area under the curve. question like the area under the curve. question like the area under the curve. So, are you getting to address what you So, are you getting to address what you So, are you getting to address what you just said? Are you getting more deaths just said? Are you getting more deaths just said? Are you getting more deaths the longer people have been doing it the longer people have been doing it the longer people have been doing it independent of the number of jumps, independent of the number of jumps, independent of the number of jumps, right? They can't really do that right? They can't really do that right? They can't really do that experiment. It's It's not a perfect experiment. It's It's not a perfect experiment. It's It's not a perfect experiment. The The question is, are experiment. The The question is, are experiment. The The question is, are people getting more dangerous to people getting more dangerous to people getting more dangerous to themselves because themselves because themselves because they need They're pushing further and they need They're pushing further and they need They're pushing further and further into further into further into the abyss, getting closer to the edge, the abyss, getting closer to the edge, the abyss, getting closer to the edge, uh taking risks, or is the novice more uh taking risks, or is the novice more uh taking risks, or is the novice more dangerous because they're a novice? dangerous because they're a novice? dangerous because they're a novice? >> I think the Dunning-Kruger effect is >> I think the Dunning-Kruger effect is >> I think the Dunning-Kruger effect is always always always >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> the most dangerous aspect of it. I think >> the most dangerous aspect of it. I think >> the most dangerous aspect of it. I think it would probably track You certainly it would probably track You certainly it would probably track You certainly see people see people see people especially in the especially in the especially in the content age, I've seen people reach out content age, I've seen people reach out content age, I've seen people reach out not to me, but to forums, "Hey, I just not to me, but to forums, "Hey, I just not to me, but to forums, "Hey, I just want to get into wingsuit base jumping want to get into wingsuit base jumping want to get into wingsuit base jumping as fast as possible." And everybody on as fast as possible." And everybody on as fast as possible." And everybody on there is like, "Whoa." there is like, "Whoa." there is like, "Whoa." >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> No, you need to go I mean, most people >> No, you need to go I mean, most people >> No, you need to go I mean, most people will recommend skydiving 200 jumps to will recommend skydiving 200 jumps to will recommend skydiving 200 jumps to even before you put a wingsuit on, which even before you put a wingsuit on, which even before you put a wingsuit on, which for most people who aren't doing it for most people who aren't doing it for most people who aren't doing it professionally, that's going to take a professionally, that's going to take a professionally, that's going to take a year or two. It's a slow progression. year or two. It's a slow progression. year or two. It's a slow progression. But that person reaching out saying that But that person reaching out saying that But that person reaching out saying that doesn't have time for that. doesn't have time for that. doesn't have time for that. So, you're definitely going to get some So, you're definitely going to get some So, you're definitely going to get some people early on. The guys who are around people early on. The guys who are around people early on. The guys who are around the longest, the ones that I know who the longest, the ones that I know who the longest, the ones that I know who are kind of the titans in the sport, are kind of the titans in the sport, are kind of the titans in the sport, it's not that I don't worry about them, it's not that I don't worry about them, it's not that I don't worry about them, I worry less. I think it's maybe more I I worry less. I think it's maybe more I I worry less. I think it's maybe more I honestly, I think it's that honestly, I think it's that honestly, I think it's that Dunning-Kruger curve where it's going to Dunning-Kruger curve where it's going to Dunning-Kruger curve where it's going to get people. Especially when get people. Especially when get people. Especially when let's say you do this amazing jump, let's say you do this amazing jump, let's say you do this amazing jump, right? You're ripping around a corner right? You're ripping around a corner right? You're ripping around a corner and and and things you learn later on, like, "Hey, things you learn later on, like, "Hey, things you learn later on, like, "Hey, is it ascending or descending thermals is it ascending or descending thermals is it ascending or descending thermals right now? Where's the wind coming from? right now? Where's the wind coming from? right now? Where's the wind coming from? What type of day is this? Is the slope What type of day is this? Is the slope What type of day is this? Is the slope I'm just jumped off maybe it was a I'm just jumped off maybe it was a I'm just jumped off maybe it was a western facing slope that I jumped western facing slope that I jumped western facing slope that I jumped towards and I felt this amazing uprush towards and I felt this amazing uprush towards and I felt this amazing uprush of air which is what you want to feel on of air which is what you want to feel on of air which is what you want to feel on an exit point. Same thing as why an exit point. Same thing as why an exit point. Same thing as why airplanes take off into the wind, it airplanes take off into the wind, it airplanes take off into the wind, it helps with performance. helps with performance. helps with performance. Well, as I am cruising down this Well, as I am cruising down this Well, as I am cruising down this mountain, am I thinking about the fact mountain, am I thinking about the fact mountain, am I thinking about the fact that 3/4 of it is covered in the shade that 3/4 of it is covered in the shade that 3/4 of it is covered in the shade and maybe the thermals have switched and maybe the thermals have switched and maybe the thermals have switched along the way and you're going to start along the way and you're going to start along the way and you're going to start feeling this pressure of almost a hand feeling this pressure of almost a hand feeling this pressure of almost a hand on your back? You You know, you do it on your back? You You know, you do it on your back? You You know, you do it The first time you do that jump The first time you do that jump The first time you do that jump and you survive and you survive and you survive the dangerous thing to say is the dangerous thing to say is the dangerous thing to say is nailed it. nailed it. nailed it. But did you nail it or did you get away But did you nail it or did you get away But did you nail it or did you get away with it? And that's what kills people. with it? And that's what kills people. with it? And that's what kills people. And that's that perfect Dunning-Kruger And that's that perfect Dunning-Kruger And that's that perfect Dunning-Kruger ascending line. ascending line. ascending line. >> Man, there's a a quote that should be >> Man, there's a a quote that should be >> Man, there's a a quote that should be stamped into everyone's brain young and stamped into everyone's brain young and stamped into everyone's brain young and old. Did Did you nail it or did you get old. Did Did you nail it or did you get old. Did Did you nail it or did you get away with it? Because away with it? Because away with it? Because >> There's a difference to a lot of areas >> There's a difference to a lot of areas >> There's a difference to a lot of areas of life. They could spare people a lot of life. They could spare people a lot of life. They could spare people a lot of pain and some important insights. I of pain and some important insights. I of pain and some important insights. I got away with it more than I nailed it. got away with it more than I nailed it. got away with it more than I nailed it. I'm I am I'm I am I'm I am >> being humble? >> being humble? >> being humble? >> No. >> No. >> No. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> No, you don't know what you don't know >> No, you don't know what you don't know >> No, you don't know what you don't know until until until you you you see somebody else get bit by the same see somebody else get bit by the same see somebody else get bit by the same thing. Or you're on a jump with somebody thing. Or you're on a jump with somebody thing. Or you're on a jump with somebody and only one of the three makes it out and only one of the three makes it out and only one of the three makes it out or two of the three makes it out and or two of the three makes it out and or two of the three makes it out and they all had the same idea and plan. they all had the same idea and plan. they all had the same idea and plan. >> And you describe some of that in your >> And you describe some of that in your >> And you describe some of that in your book. I don't want to give that story book. I don't want to give that story book. I don't want to give that story away but away but away but >> with Alex specifically. I wasn't there >> with Alex specifically. I wasn't there >> with Alex specifically. I wasn't there for Alex's jump but I had jumped with for Alex's jump but I had jumped with for Alex's jump but I had jumped with Alex enough for years. Alex enough for years. Alex enough for years. The The one thing I wish I could do The The one thing I wish I could do The The one thing I wish I could do looking back with him is I was there looking back with him is I was there looking back with him is I was there with him for some close calls that he with him for some close calls that he with him for some close calls that he had. had. had. A few were bad decisions A few were bad decisions A few were bad decisions that he that he that he I would like to think corrected for I would like to think corrected for I would like to think corrected for because there there is a phase in because there there is a phase in because there there is a phase in anything that you're doing anything that you're doing anything that you're doing that my that my that my uh instructor taught me how to fly uh instructor taught me how to fly uh instructor taught me how to fly helicopters. He's like, "Listen, once helicopters. He's like, "Listen, once helicopters. He's like, "Listen, once you know better, you can do better." you know better, you can do better." you know better, you can do better." But there's a phase where you don't know But there's a phase where you don't know But there's a phase where you don't know any better. And so you think what you're any better. And so you think what you're any better. And so you think what you're doing is correct until either somebody doing is correct until either somebody doing is correct until either somebody points it out or you watch something so points it out or you watch something so points it out or you watch something so horrific happen and you pay attention to horrific happen and you pay attention to horrific happen and you pay attention to an investigation afterwards or a debrief an investigation afterwards or a debrief an investigation afterwards or a debrief afterwards afterwards afterwards and you can learn from that. and you can learn from that. and you can learn from that. But with uh with Alex, I I wish I could But with uh with Alex, I I wish I could But with uh with Alex, I I wish I could go back and just honestly slap him go back and just honestly slap him go back and just honestly slap him around a little bit cuz that's what it around a little bit cuz that's what it around a little bit cuz that's what it would take for him to pay attention. He would take for him to pay attention. He would take for him to pay attention. He would be appreciative of it, I think, if would be appreciative of it, I think, if would be appreciative of it, I think, if he understood what it would save. he understood what it would save. he understood what it would save. But But But I I would associate his death directly I I would associate his death directly I I would associate his death directly also with that also with that also with that Dunning-Kruger curve and he had been Dunning-Kruger curve and he had been Dunning-Kruger curve and he had been doing it for years. doing it for years. doing it for years. That doesn't mean you're out of that. That doesn't mean you're out of that. That doesn't mean you're out of that. It's that middle area where you think It's that middle area where you think It's that middle area where you think you have everything dialed. you have everything dialed. you have everything dialed. I think he had gotten away with it more I think he had gotten away with it more I think he had gotten away with it more than he had nailed it and I and I had than he had nailed it and I and I had than he had nailed it and I and I had to. to. to. >> Would you let >> Would you let >> Would you let your kids your kids your kids squirrel suit? squirrel suit? squirrel suit? >> Do I have the right to stop them? >> Do I have the right to stop them? >> Do I have the right to stop them? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> No. >> Knowing the risk? >> Knowing the risk? >> I mean, I would do everything I could to >> I mean, I would do everything I could to >> I mean, I would do everything I could to prepare them as much as possible prepare them as much as possible prepare them as much as possible and and by that I mean scare the and and by that I mean scare the and and by that I mean scare the absolute dog [ __ ] out of them with the absolute dog [ __ ] out of them with the absolute dog [ __ ] out of them with the reality and confront them with the reality and confront them with the reality and confront them with the actual reality of it. Show them how long actual reality of it. Show them how long actual reality of it. Show them how long it would actually take. it would actually take. it would actually take. What they would need to do. What they What they would need to do. What they What they would need to do. What they would need to sacrifice in order to be would need to sacrifice in order to be would need to sacrifice in order to be able to get at that level. able to get at that level. able to get at that level. But then if they But then if they But then if they wanted to make that choice I don't feel like I have the right to I don't feel like I have the right to stand in between them and that desire. >> Appreciate the honest answer. I'm sure >> Appreciate the honest answer. I'm sure they I'm sure they do, too. I don't know they I'm sure they do, too. I don't know they I'm sure they do, too. I don't know if your wife appreciates that particular if your wife appreciates that particular if your wife appreciates that particular answer, but we'll ask her. I don't get answer, but we'll ask her. I don't get answer, but we'll ask her. I don't get involved in marital disputes. That's a involved in marital disputes. That's a involved in marital disputes. That's a that's a that's a that's a >> We don't have any. Our relationship is >> We don't have any. Our relationship is >> We don't have any. Our relationship is perfect. perfect. perfect. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Excellent excellent answer. Wait, you've >> Excellent excellent answer. Wait, you've >> Excellent excellent answer. Wait, you've been married before. No, that was a that been married before. No, that was a that been married before. No, that was a that was a joke. was a joke. was a joke. >> That is correct. I'll tell you what, I >> That is correct. I'll tell you what, I >> That is correct. I'll tell you what, I learned some stuff. I learned some learned some stuff. I learned some learned some stuff. I learned some stuff. stuff. stuff. >> You talk very openly in >> You talk very openly in >> You talk very openly in in the book. I mean, to the extent you in the book. I mean, to the extent you in the book. I mean, to the extent you don't reveal specifics, but about that don't reveal specifics, but about that don't reveal specifics, but about that the challenges of of uh the challenges of of uh the challenges of of uh of that the ending of that first of that the ending of that first of that the ending of that first marriage. marriage. marriage. >> Hardest thing I've ever done in my life. >> Hardest thing I've ever done in my life. >> Hardest thing I've ever done in my life. People think that being a SEAL is hard, People think that being a SEAL is hard, People think that being a SEAL is hard, and it is. and it is. and it is. Um but a lot of that is truncated with Um but a lot of that is truncated with Um but a lot of that is truncated with hey, we're going to go overseas for this hey, we're going to go overseas for this hey, we're going to go overseas for this short period of time, and time away, and short period of time, and time away, and short period of time, and time away, and it can be physiologically and it can be physiologically and it can be physiologically and psychologically challenging, but psychologically challenging, but psychologically challenging, but once you're in that community, once you're in that community, once you're in that community, I didn't encounter anything I didn't encounter anything I didn't encounter anything the military never asked me to do the military never asked me to do the military never asked me to do anything that that got me to a place anything that that got me to a place anything that that got me to a place where I was judging or asking myself where I was judging or asking myself where I was judging or asking myself what type of person I was, or if I was a what type of person I was, or if I was a what type of person I was, or if I was a good enough person to be able to good enough person to be able to good enough person to be able to continue going forward with anybody continue going forward with anybody continue going forward with anybody other than just myself. Like those other than just myself. Like those other than just myself. Like those questions I wasn't asking myself in the questions I wasn't asking myself in the questions I wasn't asking myself in the military. military. military. At the lowest points of a nearly 2-year At the lowest points of a nearly 2-year At the lowest points of a nearly 2-year divorce process that was very divorce process that was very divorce process that was very contentious. And quite frankly, the contentious. And quite frankly, the contentious. And quite frankly, the reason I I don't go into details is I reason I I don't go into details is I reason I I don't go into details is I have built a larger or a platform, and have built a larger or a platform, and have built a larger or a platform, and my ex-wife doesn't have one, and that's my ex-wife doesn't have one, and that's my ex-wife doesn't have one, and that's the fairest way to be about it. And I the fairest way to be about it. And I the fairest way to be about it. And I totally respect that. If you want to go totally respect that. If you want to go totally respect that. If you want to go talk with her, trust me, I know the talk with her, trust me, I know the talk with her, trust me, I know the story you're going to get. Enjoy it. story you're going to get. Enjoy it. story you're going to get. Enjoy it. Believe what you want to believe. I Believe what you want to believe. I Believe what you want to believe. I always tell people if you hear bad stuff always tell people if you hear bad stuff always tell people if you hear bad stuff about me, please believe it. about me, please believe it. about me, please believe it. >> That's what you tell them? Yeah. >> That's what you tell them? Yeah. >> That's what you tell them? Yeah. >> I mean, why not? It It I am certainly >> I mean, why not? It It I am certainly >> I mean, why not? It It I am certainly not everybody's cup of tea. not everybody's cup of tea. not everybody's cup of tea. There's no way to please everybody There's no way to please everybody There's no way to please everybody ever. ever. ever. >> Amen to that. >> Amen to that. >> Amen to that. >> So, if somebody is out there >> So, if somebody is out there >> So, if somebody is out there who wants to run me through the mud, who wants to run me through the mud, who wants to run me through the mud, cool. Just believe every word that you cool. Just believe every word that you cool. Just believe every word that you were told if you want to, but if you were told if you want to, but if you were told if you want to, but if you want to get the real spit, want to get the real spit, want to get the real spit, come hang out with me for a bit, and come hang out with me for a bit, and come hang out with me for a bit, and maybe compare and contrast those two maybe compare and contrast those two maybe compare and contrast those two things. But if you don't want to do things. But if you don't want to do things. But if you don't want to do that, cool. Yeah, that's on you. that, cool. Yeah, that's on you. that, cool. Yeah, that's on you. It took every tool that I wrote about in It took every tool that I wrote about in It took every tool that I wrote about in that book to get through that. Circle of that book to get through that. Circle of that book to get through that. Circle of influence, circle of concern, all the influence, circle of concern, all the influence, circle of concern, all the things that I was worried about, what things that I was worried about, what things that I was worried about, what can I do today? Breaking time down into can I do today? Breaking time down into can I do today? Breaking time down into the shortest chunks humanly possible, the shortest chunks humanly possible, the shortest chunks humanly possible, controlling how I talk to myself. It was controlling how I talk to myself. It was controlling how I talk to myself. It was absolutely soul-crushing. absolutely soul-crushing. absolutely soul-crushing. And And And 10 out of 10, do not recommend. 10 out of 10, do not recommend. 10 out of 10, do not recommend. Yeah, zero stars on Trip Advisor. Yeah, zero stars on Trip Advisor. Yeah, zero stars on Trip Advisor. >> Yeah, that portion of the book um >> Yeah, that portion of the book um >> Yeah, that portion of the book um stopped me. I I to say, and and I uh stopped me. I I to say, and and I uh stopped me. I I to say, and and I uh there were other parts of the book that there were other parts of the book that there were other parts of the book that that paused me where I was like, "Whoa, that paused me where I was like, "Whoa, that paused me where I was like, "Whoa, I didn't expect this coming." And you I didn't expect this coming." And you I didn't expect this coming." And you know, I take notes on what I listen to. know, I take notes on what I listen to. know, I take notes on what I listen to. I also read the hard copy. I should have I also read the hard copy. I should have I also read the hard copy. I should have mentioned that earlier. I like to do mentioned that earlier. I like to do mentioned that earlier. I like to do both. It's really helpful for me. both. It's really helpful for me. both. It's really helpful for me. I think maybe other people would benefit I think maybe other people would benefit I think maybe other people would benefit from that as well. But that segment from that as well. But that segment from that as well. But that segment where you said this is the hardest thing where you said this is the hardest thing where you said this is the hardest thing I'd ever been through and it was as you I'd ever been through and it was as you I'd ever been through and it was as you put it again, soul-crushing. And what I put it again, soul-crushing. And what I put it again, soul-crushing. And what I gathered was and I certainly can't say gathered was and I certainly can't say gathered was and I certainly can't say I've experienced this before in a I've experienced this before in a I've experienced this before in a different context that when different context that when different context that when other people's narratives start to the other people's narratives start to the other people's narratives start to the boundaries between other people's boundaries between other people's boundaries between other people's narratives and and your narratives and narratives and and your narratives and narratives and and your narratives and then and in your case kids were being then and in your case kids were being then and in your case kids were being affected which is affected which is affected which is which is huge. As a child of a divorced which is huge. As a child of a divorced which is huge. As a child of a divorced parents, I think it's also probably got parents, I think it's also probably got parents, I think it's also probably got to be somewhat different. to be somewhat different. to be somewhat different. I mean you talk very kindly of your own I mean you talk very kindly of your own I mean you talk very kindly of your own parents. Your story of parents. Your story of parents. Your story of of your relationship to your mom and her of your relationship to your mom and her of your relationship to your mom and her passing which we can also get to. That passing which we can also get to. That passing which we can also get to. That also stopped me. Also got me to call my also stopped me. Also got me to call my also stopped me. Also got me to call my mom. mom. mom. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> So she'll thank you, right? I called my >> So she'll thank you, right? I called my >> So she'll thank you, right? I called my mom. mom. mom. >> You know you I'm well, you know, time >> You know you I'm well, you know, time >> You know you I'm well, you know, time and you know, and and you know, and and you know, and >> You never know how much you have left. >> You never know how much you have left. >> You never know how much you have left. >> You never know how much time you have >> You never know how much time you have >> You never know how much time you have left. But left. But left. But what inspired you to talk about that in what inspired you to talk about that in what inspired you to talk about that in particular? I know you're not one of particular? I know you're not one of particular? I know you're not one of these guys and these guys and these guys and you know, I don't want to say team guys you know, I don't want to say team guys you know, I don't want to say team guys in particular, but not you're not one of in particular, but not you're not one of in particular, but not you're not one of these guys who wants to paint a perfect these guys who wants to paint a perfect these guys who wants to paint a perfect picture of himself. But talking about picture of himself. But talking about picture of himself. But talking about how a contentious divorce how a contentious divorce how a contentious divorce came close to you know, brought you came close to you know, brought you came close to you know, brought you really close to your edge. Maybe to your really close to your edge. Maybe to your really close to your edge. Maybe to your edge, but fortunately not over it. It's edge, but fortunately not over it. It's edge, but fortunately not over it. It's an interesting choice and one that I an interesting choice and one that I an interesting choice and one that I appreciate and I know readers will appreciate and I know readers will appreciate and I know readers will appreciate. You humanized the whole appreciate. You humanized the whole appreciate. You humanized the whole thing, but what at what point did you thing, but what at what point did you thing, but what at what point did you decide that you wanted that in the book? decide that you wanted that in the book? decide that you wanted that in the book? >> I mean probably from the beginning. I >> I mean probably from the beginning. I >> I mean probably from the beginning. I think one of the biggest mistakes people think one of the biggest mistakes people think one of the biggest mistakes people would make is if they would look at a would make is if they would look at a would make is if they would look at a job like the one I used to have and job like the one I used to have and job like the one I used to have and think that the people who do it are not think that the people who do it are not think that the people who do it are not normal people. I was talking with Chris normal people. I was talking with Chris normal people. I was talking with Chris Williamson about this and it's a mistake Williamson about this and it's a mistake Williamson about this and it's a mistake that people make. There's no Captain that people make. There's no Captain that people make. There's no Captain America shield America shield America shield and cape and cowl that you actually and cape and cowl that you actually and cape and cowl that you actually wear, wear, wear, the things they ask you to do are the things they ask you to do are the things they ask you to do are sometimes pretty nutty. sometimes pretty nutty. sometimes pretty nutty. But, But, But, after that, after that, after that, you go take your gear off, you go take your gear off, you go take your gear off, clean yourself up, get some food, clean yourself up, get some food, clean yourself up, get some food, get together with the guys, and you just get together with the guys, and you just get together with the guys, and you just talk about normal day-to-day [ __ ] If talk about normal day-to-day [ __ ] If talk about normal day-to-day [ __ ] If you were having an argument with your you were having an argument with your you were having an argument with your wife before you went out on an wife before you went out on an wife before you went out on an operation, you're coming back to that. operation, you're coming back to that. operation, you're coming back to that. If your If your If your house had burned down, house had burned down, house had burned down, which I wish I could say I didn't know which I wish I could say I didn't know which I wish I could say I didn't know somebody's house burned down, but I did. somebody's house burned down, but I did. somebody's house burned down, but I did. They got that notification shortly They got that notification shortly They got that notification shortly before we went out on objective. before we went out on objective. before we went out on objective. Hopefully, didn't allow that to invade Hopefully, didn't allow that to invade Hopefully, didn't allow that to invade their mental thought process during, but their mental thought process during, but their mental thought process during, but when they came back, when they came back, when they came back, that's what they're dealing with. Then, that's what they're dealing with. Then, that's what they're dealing with. Then, you come back from deployment, you come back from deployment, you come back from deployment, and you're presented with all of those and you're presented with all of those and you're presented with all of those things. things. things. It's just It is such a mistake to think It's just It is such a mistake to think It's just It is such a mistake to think that there are people out there that there are people out there that there are people out there who have everything figured out, or that who have everything figured out, or that who have everything figured out, or that are impervious to the things that are are impervious to the things that are are impervious to the things that are damaging damaging damaging to you as the person. to you as the person. to you as the person. I started doing Q&A I started doing Q&A I started doing Q&A sessions on Friday for my show because I sessions on Friday for my show because I sessions on Friday for my show because I kept getting just this volume and wave kept getting just this volume and wave kept getting just this volume and wave of emails. of emails. of emails. >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> And at first, I wasn't really trying to, >> And at first, I wasn't really trying to, >> And at first, I wasn't really trying to, you know, tranche them into buckets, and you know, tranche them into buckets, and you know, tranche them into buckets, and I thought if I started doing the Friday I thought if I started doing the Friday I thought if I started doing the Friday episodes, it would decrease, but episodes, it would decrease, but episodes, it would decrease, but instead, it multiplied them by orders of instead, it multiplied them by orders of instead, it multiplied them by orders of magnitude. And I realized there really magnitude. And I realized there really magnitude. And I realized there really were some deep themes. You know, one of were some deep themes. You know, one of were some deep themes. You know, one of them is, "I I just don't know how to get them is, "I I just don't know how to get them is, "I I just don't know how to get started on my goals." But, another one started on my goals." But, another one started on my goals." But, another one is, and this is the most dangerous one, is, and this is the most dangerous one, is, and this is the most dangerous one, "I feel like I'm alone. "I feel like I'm alone. "I feel like I'm alone. I feel like I'm the only person dealing I feel like I'm the only person dealing I feel like I'm the only person dealing with this. with this. with this. How can you give me some advice? I look How can you give me some advice? I look How can you give me some advice? I look at your life from the outside, and it at your life from the outside, and it at your life from the outside, and it seems like you just have, you know, seems like you just have, you know, seems like you just have, you know, you're able to do all these hard you're able to do all these hard you're able to do all these hard physical things. What would you do if physical things. What would you do if physical things. What would you do if you were me?" I'm like, "Dude, you were me?" I'm like, "Dude, you were me?" I'm like, "Dude, I am you." I am you." I am you." So, you have to put that in there. How So, you have to put that in there. How So, you have to put that in there. How can you not? I mean, at the end of the can you not? I mean, at the end of the can you not? I mean, at the end of the day, I don't know what I I to do with my day, I don't know what I I to do with my day, I don't know what I I to do with my life, but I want to try to help people. life, but I want to try to help people. life, but I want to try to help people. I don't think you can do that if you're I don't think you can do that if you're I don't think you can do that if you're trying to sell [ __ ] trying to sell [ __ ] trying to sell [ __ ] But I do think you can help if you can But I do think you can help if you can But I do think you can help if you can talk about your own personal experiences talk about your own personal experiences talk about your own personal experiences and your own mistakes and the whole and your own mistakes and the whole and your own mistakes and the whole thing the things that you have suffered thing the things that you have suffered thing the things that you have suffered with not always past tense because my with not always past tense because my with not always past tense because my life is certainly not perfect and I go life is certainly not perfect and I go life is certainly not perfect and I go through seasons in my life now as does through seasons in my life now as does through seasons in my life now as does everybody. everybody. everybody. Why not be honest about that? Why try to Why not be honest about that? Why try to Why not be honest about that? Why try to portray this portray this portray this you know, you know, you know, follow my 12-step program for $19.99 follow my 12-step program for $19.99 follow my 12-step program for $19.99 every month and you're going to have it every month and you're going to have it every month and you're going to have it all figured out. Those are some of the all figured out. Those are some of the all figured out. Those are some of the most unhappy people that I know by the most unhappy people that I know by the most unhappy people that I know by the way and often times not nearly as way and often times not nearly as way and often times not nearly as successful as they are presenting successful as they are presenting successful as they are presenting themselves. themselves. themselves. >> Definitely. >> Definitely. >> Definitely. >> I would rather just be like, "Listen, >> I would rather just be like, "Listen, >> I would rather just be like, "Listen, you think your life is bad? Why don't you think your life is bad? Why don't you think your life is bad? Why don't you put a seat belt on your chair? Got a you put a seat belt on your chair? Got a you put a seat belt on your chair? Got a little story for you." And then people little story for you." And then people little story for you." And then people hear that like, "What? hear that like, "What? hear that like, "What? You mean you guys deal with that stuff You mean you guys deal with that stuff You mean you guys deal with that stuff too?" It's like, "Yes, that's the whole too?" It's like, "Yes, that's the whole too?" It's like, "Yes, that's the whole point. You're not alone. You're not point. You're not alone. You're not point. You're not alone. You're not unique in this." unique in this." unique in this." So I think from the very beginning of So I think from the very beginning of So I think from the very beginning of deciding to write it I I didn't know deciding to write it I I didn't know deciding to write it I I didn't know necessarily that I would necessarily that I would necessarily that I would that I would use that particular that I would use that particular that I would use that particular example. example. example. But it was the most difficult thing I've But it was the most difficult thing I've But it was the most difficult thing I've done in my life, I'm obligated to put done in my life, I'm obligated to put done in my life, I'm obligated to put that in there and talk about it that in there and talk about it that in there and talk about it as openly as possible while maintaining as openly as possible while maintaining as openly as possible while maintaining the privacy of the other person the privacy of the other person the privacy of the other person involved. involved. involved. >> Yeah, I was impressed how you main >> Yeah, I was impressed how you main >> Yeah, I was impressed how you main maintained respect for your kids, for maintained respect for your kids, for maintained respect for your kids, for your ex-wife, your your current your ex-wife, your your current your ex-wife, your your current relationship, you know, and um and at relationship, you know, and um and at relationship, you know, and um and at the same time acknowledge that, you the same time acknowledge that, you the same time acknowledge that, you know, the the exchange was anything but know, the the exchange was anything but know, the the exchange was anything but cordial. cordial. cordial. >> It was anything but cordial and you >> It was anything but cordial and you >> It was anything but cordial and you know, as I've talked about this before, know, as I've talked about this before, know, as I've talked about this before, but and I don't know if it made it in but and I don't know if it made it in but and I don't know if it made it in the book, but I lost contact with my the book, but I lost contact with my the book, but I lost contact with my oldest son for 18 months. I was the one oldest son for 18 months. I was the one oldest son for 18 months. I was the one who initiated the end of the who initiated the end of the who initiated the end of the relationship relationship relationship and he was the oldest at the time and I and he was the oldest at the time and I and he was the oldest at the time and I don't know if it was a matter of him don't know if it was a matter of him don't know if it was a matter of him being in a certain phase of his own life being in a certain phase of his own life being in a certain phase of his own life and [ __ ] you know the deal being a and [ __ ] you know the deal being a and [ __ ] you know the deal being a a young man is not the easiest path nor a young man is not the easiest path nor a young man is not the easiest path nor is being a young woman by any stretch, is being a young woman by any stretch, is being a young woman by any stretch, but it's really interesting how but it's really interesting how but it's really interesting how adults forget how difficult it was in adults forget how difficult it was in adults forget how difficult it was in those years to just get through the day those years to just get through the day those years to just get through the day when you think that everything is you when you think that everything is you when you think that everything is you don't even know who you are. You're don't even know who you are. You're don't even know who you are. You're trying to figure it all out. trying to figure it all out. trying to figure it all out. But for 18 months, I I tried calling But for 18 months, I I tried calling But for 18 months, I I tried calling him. him. him. I tried texting him. I tried writing him I tried texting him. I tried writing him I tried texting him. I tried writing him letters to his mom's house. I would pull letters to his mom's house. I would pull letters to his mom's house. I would pull up next to him at a parking lot that he up next to him at a parking lot that he up next to him at a parking lot that he would go to before he went to work. would go to before he went to work. would go to before he went to work. And he would burn out [clears throat] And he would burn out [clears throat] And he would burn out [clears throat] out of the parking lot without even out of the parking lot without even out of the parking lot without even acknowledging that I was there and acknowledging that I was there and acknowledging that I was there and you think SEAL training's hard? Imagine you think SEAL training's hard? Imagine you think SEAL training's hard? Imagine something that you don't have the something that you don't have the something that you don't have the vocabulary to describe how much you love vocabulary to describe how much you love vocabulary to describe how much you love and thinking every day and thinking every day and thinking every day I don't know if I'm going to get this I don't know if I'm going to get this I don't know if I'm going to get this back. What else can I do? back. What else can I do? back. What else can I do? And now, thankfully, by staying the And now, thankfully, by staying the And now, thankfully, by staying the course, I think I have a closer course, I think I have a closer course, I think I have a closer relationship. And And not everybody has relationship. And And not everybody has relationship. And And not everybody has that that outcome. But our relationship that that outcome. But our relationship that that outcome. But our relationship is probably closer than it has ever been is probably closer than it has ever been is probably closer than it has ever been and he'll call and ask for my advice or and he'll call and ask for my advice or and he'll call and ask for my advice or just just just want to bounce stuff off of me, which I want to bounce stuff off of me, which I want to bounce stuff off of me, which I think is apparent. Like, if your kids think is apparent. Like, if your kids think is apparent. 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Well, I I will say um >> Wow. Well, I I will say um as the description of your your final as the description of your your final as the description of your your final moments with your mom led me to call my moments with your mom led me to call my moments with your mom led me to call my mom. I wasn't being facetious, I really mom. I wasn't being facetious, I really mom. I wasn't being facetious, I really did. You know, the description of the did. You know, the description of the did. You know, the description of the divorce process and the challenges that divorce process and the challenges that divorce process and the challenges that go there that, you know, I don't want to go there that, you know, I don't want to go there that, you know, I don't want to make this about my story, resonated in make this about my story, resonated in make this about my story, resonated in certain ways. I grew up in a very certain ways. I grew up in a very certain ways. I grew up in a very high-conflict divorce. What you just high-conflict divorce. What you just high-conflict divorce. What you just said now, said now, said now, uh uh uh I'm on good terms with my dad, but I you I'm on good terms with my dad, but I you I'm on good terms with my dad, but I you know, I'm familiar with being the son know, I'm familiar with being the son know, I'm familiar with being the son who wants to be protective of his mom, who wants to be protective of his mom, who wants to be protective of his mom, but still loves his dad, and being but still loves his dad, and being but still loves his dad, and being caught in the middle. caught in the middle. caught in the middle. >> And I would think about those two. How >> And I would think about those two. How >> And I would think about those two. How could you not? With all three of my could you not? With all three of my could you not? With all three of my kids, how And I have this conversation kids, how And I have this conversation kids, how And I have this conversation with with my wife now, with with my wife now, with with my wife now, who who who honestly is the only reason that I think honestly is the only reason that I think honestly is the only reason that I think I pulled out of that was I pulled out of that was I pulled out of that was the recognition and seeing from somebody the recognition and seeing from somebody the recognition and seeing from somebody else, like, "Hey, just so you know, else, like, "Hey, just so you know, else, like, "Hey, just so you know, like I know you're going through it, but like I know you're going through it, but like I know you're going through it, but this person sees something in you that this person sees something in you that this person sees something in you that is worth" I mean, I dedicated the book is worth" I mean, I dedicated the book is worth" I mean, I dedicated the book to my kids and to my wife for that to my kids and to my wife for that to my kids and to my wife for that reason. reason. reason. But we'll talk about this now because I But we'll talk about this now because I But we'll talk about this now because I mean it's like why why would they say mean it's like why why would they say mean it's like why why would they say that or why would they do that? And that or why would they do that? And that or why would they do that? And she's like listen, that's always going she's like listen, that's always going she's like listen, that's always going to be there mom. I'm like yep, got it. to be there mom. I'm like yep, got it. to be there mom. I'm like yep, got it. Totally nailed it. I understand now. And Totally nailed it. I understand now. And Totally nailed it. I understand now. And it re-centers and like okay. Doesn't it re-centers and like okay. Doesn't it re-centers and like okay. Doesn't make it any easier to deal with, but I make it any easier to deal with, but I make it any easier to deal with, but I understand. understand. understand. >> Sons and fathers have a certain dynamic >> Sons and fathers have a certain dynamic >> Sons and fathers have a certain dynamic and mothers and sons have a certain and mothers and sons have a certain and mothers and sons have a certain dynamic. And mothers and mothers and dynamic. And mothers and mothers and dynamic. And mothers and mothers and daughters and fathers I only know my own daughters and fathers I only know my own daughters and fathers I only know my own experience. I do have a sister so experience. I do have a sister so experience. I do have a sister so there's a parallel experiment there's a there's a parallel experiment there's a there's a parallel experiment there's a control experiment. She wouldn't control experiment. She wouldn't control experiment. She wouldn't appreciate me calling her the control appreciate me calling her the control appreciate me calling her the control experiment, but experiment, but experiment, but >> Did you realize in your parents divorce >> Did you realize in your parents divorce >> Did you realize in your parents divorce that it was going bad before it did? that it was going bad before it did? that it was going bad before it did? Before they got divorced? Before they got divorced? Before they got divorced? >> Definitely. >> Definitely. >> Definitely. And listen, I've done a lot of work with And listen, I've done a lot of work with And listen, I've done a lot of work with both of my parents to we're on great both of my parents to we're on great both of my parents to we're on great terms now. I can truly say that. My dad terms now. I can truly say that. My dad terms now. I can truly say that. My dad was on this podcast. I know you've had was on this podcast. I know you've had was on this podcast. I know you've had conversations with your dad publicly. My conversations with your dad publicly. My conversations with your dad publicly. My dad and I are quite close. dad and I are quite close. dad and I are quite close. You know, and I I now look at it You know, and I I now look at it You know, and I I now look at it differently. I I I'm living in a state differently. I I I'm living in a state differently. I I I'm living in a state of gratitude these days where I of gratitude these days where I of gratitude these days where I basically like okay, they gave me life. basically like okay, they gave me life. basically like okay, they gave me life. That's huge. Like you That's huge. Like you That's huge. Like you you can't realize that when you're you can't realize that when you're you can't realize that when you're younger cuz you're like, you know, F my younger cuz you're like, you know, F my younger cuz you're like, you know, F my life you know, at times but they gave me life you know, at times but they gave me life you know, at times but they gave me life so there's that. They gave me so life so there's that. They gave me so life so there's that. They gave me so many opportunities and then the hardship many opportunities and then the hardship many opportunities and then the hardship of those years I had my own story and of those years I had my own story and of those years I had my own story and version of it, but recently just because version of it, but recently just because version of it, but recently just because of some evolutions in my personal life of some evolutions in my personal life of some evolutions in my personal life which are all good. I'm like I'm going which are all good. I'm like I'm going which are all good. I'm like I'm going to put myself in my dad's to put myself in my dad's to put myself in my dad's try and put myself in my dad's frame try and put myself in my dad's frame try and put myself in my dad's frame where he was, what he was trying to do where he was, what he was trying to do where he was, what he was trying to do in his career and in his personal life in his career and in his personal life in his career and in his personal life and then my mom's frame. I confess it's and then my mom's frame. I confess it's and then my mom's frame. I confess it's a little harder to do that because my a little harder to do that because my a little harder to do that because my dad and I are both male and there's dad and I are both male and there's dad and I are both male and there's always going to be that, but my mom and always going to be that, but my mom and always going to be that, but my mom and I were still at home and he was living I were still at home and he was living I were still at home and he was living elsewhere. So elsewhere. So elsewhere. So I tried to really work through it in I tried to really work through it in I tried to really work through it in those ways and I keep coming back to those ways and I keep coming back to those ways and I keep coming back to this place where I I now I go, oh my this place where I I now I go, oh my this place where I I now I go, oh my god, that must have been so hard for god, that must have been so hard for god, that must have been so hard for them. them. them. Like not for me. Like I had I mean I had Like not for me. Like I had I mean I had Like not for me. Like I had I mean I had years of understanding about how hard it years of understanding about how hard it years of understanding about how hard it was for me. I go for them I'm like holy was for me. I go for them I'm like holy was for me. I go for them I'm like holy [ __ ] Like that's got to be so tough. I [ __ ] Like that's got to be so tough. I [ __ ] Like that's got to be so tough. I would I mean I was really hard on my would I mean I was really hard on my would I mean I was really hard on my dad. dad. dad. >> How old were you when you realized your >> How old were you when you realized your >> How old were you when you realized your parents were just people doing the best parents were just people doing the best parents were just people doing the best they could? they could? they could? >> Yesterday. No, I'm just kidding. >> Yesterday. No, I'm just kidding. >> Yesterday. No, I'm just kidding. >> No, but that I mean >> No, but that I mean >> No, but that I mean >> No, I No, I >> No, I No, I >> No, I No, I >> For a long time in life as kids though, >> For a long time in life as kids though, >> For a long time in life as kids though, your parents are your parents are your parents are what they say, gospel. And they have what they say, gospel. And they have what they say, gospel. And they have they must have the answers to everything they must have the answers to everything they must have the answers to everything because they're older than any human because they're older than any human because they're older than any human beings ever been. beings ever been. beings ever been. >> Oh, man. >> Oh, man. >> Oh, man. >> And then you realize they are out there >> And then you realize they are out there >> And then you realize they are out there making [ __ ] up on the fly, doing the making [ __ ] up on the fly, doing the making [ __ ] up on the fly, doing the best they can with the data set that best they can with the data set that best they can with the data set that they have in front of them. they have in front of them. they have in front of them. Not doing great most of the time. It's Not doing great most of the time. It's Not doing great most of the time. It's not because they're not trying to do not because they're not trying to do not because they're not trying to do great, they're just [ __ ] people. great, they're just [ __ ] people. great, they're just [ __ ] people. >> Yeah. Well, I can't speak for your kids >> Yeah. Well, I can't speak for your kids >> Yeah. Well, I can't speak for your kids and I wouldn't, but I can say that for and I wouldn't, but I can say that for and I wouldn't, but I can say that for me, I I joke yesterday, but it was me, I I joke yesterday, but it was me, I I joke yesterday, but it was actually very young because I I came to actually very young because I I came to actually very young because I I came to this kind of black and white conclusion, this kind of black and white conclusion, this kind of black and white conclusion, which was not the correct one, which was which was not the correct one, which was which was not the correct one, which was they don't know what they're talking they don't know what they're talking they don't know what they're talking about. And that led me to go elsewhere about. And that led me to go elsewhere about. And that led me to go elsewhere to look for answers, and I found a lot to look for answers, and I found a lot to look for answers, and I found a lot of answers to a lot of things that I of answers to a lot of things that I of answers to a lot of things that I wanted. I also found some wrong answers. wanted. I also found some wrong answers. wanted. I also found some wrong answers. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> I had great mentors throughout my life, >> I had great mentors throughout my life, >> I had great mentors throughout my life, and the day you realize that your PhD and the day you realize that your PhD and the day you realize that your PhD advisor doesn't have the answers, that's advisor doesn't have the answers, that's advisor doesn't have the answers, that's when you go get a post-doc advisor. And when you go get a post-doc advisor. And when you go get a post-doc advisor. And then you realize they don't have the then you realize they don't have the then you realize they don't have the answers, and you go start your own lab, answers, and you go start your own lab, answers, and you go start your own lab, and then you realize, "Oh my god, how and then you realize, "Oh my god, how and then you realize, "Oh my god, how hard their job was?" Cuz now you're hard their job was?" Cuz now you're hard their job was?" Cuz now you're dealing with graduate students that are dealing with graduate students that are dealing with graduate students that are like saying things like, "Do you even like saying things like, "Do you even like saying things like, "Do you even know what you're doing?" Until the paper know what you're doing?" Until the paper know what you're doing?" Until the paper gets accepted, and then they're like, gets accepted, and then they're like, gets accepted, and then they're like, "Oh my god, like you really know what "Oh my god, like you really know what "Oh my god, like you really know what you're doing." you're doing." you're doing." >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> My first graduate student will laugh >> My first graduate student will laugh >> My first graduate student will laugh when she hears that. She's actually a when she hears that. She's actually a when she hears that. She's actually a professor now with a She has two kids, professor now with a She has two kids, professor now with a She has two kids, she's happily married, she has super she's happily married, she has super she's happily married, she has super successful lab. So, but and I said, successful lab. So, but and I said, successful lab. So, but and I said, "Have you gone through that evolution?" "Have you gone through that evolution?" "Have you gone through that evolution?" And she's like, "Absolutely." So, And she's like, "Absolutely." So, And she's like, "Absolutely." So, I will say this, and I again, I can't I will say this, and I again, I can't I will say this, and I again, I can't speak for your kids whatsoever, but speak for your kids whatsoever, but speak for your kids whatsoever, but there was a real there was a real there was a real benefit to having that realization early benefit to having that realization early benefit to having that realization early that they don't know everything Yeah. that they don't know everything Yeah. that they don't know everything Yeah. Because you're Because you're Because you're you're forced to go look for certain you're forced to go look for certain you're forced to go look for certain answers elsewhere. There's also answers elsewhere. There's also answers elsewhere. There's also something really beautiful to the the something really beautiful to the the something really beautiful to the the reconnect, you know, that I have with my reconnect, you know, that I have with my reconnect, you know, that I have with my dad. And my mom and I were more constant dad. And my mom and I were more constant dad. And my mom and I were more constant over the years because our as you said, over the years because our as you said, over the years because our as you said, the relationship can be that much the relationship can be that much the relationship can be that much closer. Would you wish it on anyone? closer. Would you wish it on anyone? closer. Would you wish it on anyone? Would you wish a divorce on anyone? No. Would you wish a divorce on anyone? No. Would you wish a divorce on anyone? No. But at the same time, like, you know, my But at the same time, like, you know, my But at the same time, like, you know, my life wouldn't be what it was. So, that life wouldn't be what it was. So, that life wouldn't be what it was. So, that portion of the book I have to say portion of the book I have to say portion of the book I have to say surprised me. I know you're you're very surprised me. I know you're you're very surprised me. I know you're you're very humble, so please hear this as it lands. humble, so please hear this as it lands. humble, so please hear this as it lands. It impressed me that you were willing to It impressed me that you were willing to It impressed me that you were willing to put it in there in the way you did and put it in there in the way you did and put it in there in the way you did and how you handled it. And it really got me how you handled it. And it really got me how you handled it. And it really got me thinking about my relationship to my thinking about my relationship to my thinking about my relationship to my dad, my own family life now, where dad, my own family life now, where dad, my own family life now, where that's going, and that's going, and that's going, and and gave me a lot of uh and gave me a lot of uh and gave me a lot of uh hope and humility around like it's hard hope and humility around like it's hard hope and humility around like it's hard being a person, let alone being a being a person, let alone being a being a person, let alone being a parent. parent. parent. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> You know, [laughter] and >> You know, [laughter] and >> You know, [laughter] and and and and the kid the kid the kid and and and the kid the kid the kid and and and the kid the kid the kid piece is easy is easy to relate to, but piece is easy is easy to relate to, but piece is easy is easy to relate to, but it really opened my perspective. So, I'm it really opened my perspective. So, I'm it really opened my perspective. So, I'm grateful to you for putting that in grateful to you for putting that in grateful to you for putting that in there. there. there. >> Yeah, I didn't uh it to me it just >> Yeah, I didn't uh it to me it just >> Yeah, I didn't uh it to me it just seemed natural. I didn't even give it a seemed natural. I didn't even give it a seemed natural. I didn't even give it a second thought. second thought. second thought. >> Yeah, but you're also jumping out >> Yeah, but you're also jumping out >> Yeah, but you're also jumping out off mountainsides in squirrel suits. off mountainsides in squirrel suits. off mountainsides in squirrel suits. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> You know, you >> You know, you >> You know, you >> But I'm telling you if you've ever >> But I'm telling you if you've ever >> But I'm telling you if you've ever tasted that 9-V the way I did, you might tasted that 9-V the way I did, you might tasted that 9-V the way I did, you might you might actually be like, "So, what is you might actually be like, "So, what is you might actually be like, "So, what is this progression?" this progression?" this progression?" >> Let's talk about the wingsuit and the >> Let's talk about the wingsuit and the >> Let's talk about the wingsuit and the 9-V battery a little bit more because 9-V battery a little bit more because 9-V battery a little bit more because you talked about the state that you were you talked about the state that you were you talked about the state that you were in not just during but in the 6 months in not just during but in the 6 months in not just during but in the 6 months or so afterwards. or so afterwards. or so afterwards. >> So, >> So, >> So, that's not going to be the long tail of that's not going to be the long tail of that's not going to be the long tail of adrenaline, I'm guessing. I don't think adrenaline, I'm guessing. I don't think adrenaline, I'm guessing. I don't think you were walking around for 6 months you were walking around for 6 months you were walking around for 6 months like amped on life completely. like amped on life completely. like amped on life completely. >> Oh, no, the opposite. >> Oh, no, the opposite. >> Oh, no, the opposite. >> able to dial in. Could you talk a little >> able to dial in. Could you talk a little >> able to dial in. Could you talk a little bit more about that? Did you ever bit more about that? Did you ever bit more about that? Did you ever take some time to think about like, take some time to think about like, take some time to think about like, "What is this?" And did you get that "What is this?" And did you get that "What is this?" And did you get that after a gunfight? Did you get that after after a gunfight? Did you get that after after a gunfight? Did you get that after uh uh uh you know, a funeral? Uh you've gone to you know, a funeral? Uh you've gone to you know, a funeral? Uh you've gone to more than your fair share of those. more than your fair share of those. more than your fair share of those. Like, what do you think's going on Like, what do you think's going on Like, what do you think's going on there? there? there? >> It was the opposite of walking around >> It was the opposite of walking around >> It was the opposite of walking around adrenalized. Uh people oftentimes have adrenalized. Uh people oftentimes have adrenalized. Uh people oftentimes have asked me, you know, "What does it feel asked me, you know, "What does it feel asked me, you know, "What does it feel like to be an adrenaline junkie?" And like to be an adrenaline junkie?" And like to be an adrenaline junkie?" And I'd say, "I don't know. I don't feel I'd say, "I don't know. I don't feel I'd say, "I don't know. I don't feel like I am one. I might participate in like I am one. I might participate in like I am one. I might participate in some things that from the outside would some things that from the outside would some things that from the outside would be viewed as people seeking adrenaline, be viewed as people seeking adrenaline, be viewed as people seeking adrenaline, but I don't but I don't but I don't I don't like that hyper-adrenalized I don't like that hyper-adrenalized I don't like that hyper-adrenalized feeling where feeling where feeling where you know, well and it could be different you know, well and it could be different you know, well and it could be different for anybody and everybody whether it's for anybody and everybody whether it's for anybody and everybody whether it's at the taste and copper in your mouth or at the taste and copper in your mouth or at the taste and copper in your mouth or the heart rate or the you know, feeling the heart rate or the you know, feeling the heart rate or the you know, feeling your hair. I don't I don't like that your hair. I don't I don't like that your hair. I don't I don't like that sensation and that's not what I felt on sensation and that's not what I felt on sensation and that's not what I felt on the edge just was scared shitless quite the edge just was scared shitless quite the edge just was scared shitless quite frankly. frankly. frankly. It's not an adrenaline and it would be It's not an adrenaline and it would be It's not an adrenaline and it would be the opposite of walking around feeling the opposite of walking around feeling the opposite of walking around feeling like that. like that. like that. I would describe it as feeling I would describe it as feeling I would describe it as feeling settled settled settled or anchored. or anchored. or anchored. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> And the ability to just sit into it and think clear. It's It's sit into it and think clear. It's It's like having a stereo dial and the static like having a stereo dial and the static like having a stereo dial and the static and you're just and you're just and you're just twisting it down. twisting it down. twisting it down. And then the BS of life and it comes And then the BS of life and it comes And then the BS of life and it comes back up and it comes back up and it back up and it comes back up and it back up and it comes back up and it comes back up and you go on another one comes back up and you go on another one comes back up and you go on another one of those trips or I I should say I would of those trips or I I should say I would of those trips or I I should say I would go on another one of those trips and it go on another one of those trips and it go on another one of those trips and it would it would dial it down. would it would dial it down. would it would dial it down. After a gunfight it's not like the After a gunfight it's not like the After a gunfight it's not like the movies. Most of the time it is so fast movies. Most of the time it is so fast movies. Most of the time it is so fast but it's such a road decision. but it's such a road decision. but it's such a road decision. But it's high adrenaline. Presumably. But it's high adrenaline. Presumably. But it's high adrenaline. Presumably. Moderate. Moderate. Moderate. I think it would depend on how much time I think it would depend on how much time I think it would depend on how much time you had to make a call. I mean, it most you had to make a call. I mean, it most you had to make a call. I mean, it most of it is of it is of it is or in many times a broad example. Come or in many times a broad example. Come or in many times a broad example. Come around a corner binary threat or not around a corner binary threat or not around a corner binary threat or not threat. There's not a whole lot of time threat. There's not a whole lot of time threat. There's not a whole lot of time to get ramped I mean, you got to make a to get ramped I mean, you got to make a to get ramped I mean, you got to make a decision right there. I think maybe decision right there. I think maybe decision right there. I think maybe afterwards you might get an adrenaline afterwards you might get an adrenaline afterwards you might get an adrenaline dump dump dump or it it might catch up with you or it it might catch up with you or it it might catch up with you and I and I don't I can't really think and I and I don't I can't really think and I and I don't I can't really think of any anytime I've thought about an of any anytime I've thought about an of any anytime I've thought about an adrenaline dump or I've seen it is adrenaline dump or I've seen it is adrenaline dump or I've seen it is people actually kind of melt a little people actually kind of melt a little people actually kind of melt a little bit the far side of that where they just bit the far side of that where they just bit the far side of that where they just >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> their performance degrades for sure. >> their performance degrades for sure. >> their performance degrades for sure. They're on the other side of the bell They're on the other side of the bell They're on the other side of the bell curve of performance. curve of performance. curve of performance. I didn't see anybody I didn't see anybody I didn't see anybody experiencing that or maybe they were experiencing that or maybe they were experiencing that or maybe they were doing that when we were on a helicopter doing that when we were on a helicopter doing that when we were on a helicopter or vehicle on the way out. Not that much or vehicle on the way out. Not that much or vehicle on the way out. Not that much adrenaline. And again, it adrenaline. And again, it adrenaline. And again, it it's just not as much time as movies and it's just not as much time as movies and it's just not as much time as movies and TV shows make it out. It's just not that TV shows make it out. It's just not that TV shows make it out. It's just not that It's not that sexy. It's not that sexy. It's not that sexy. When you got back, I would say for When you got back, I would say for When you got back, I would say for myself, myself, myself, you know, if the if the optic of time you know, if the if the optic of time you know, if the if the optic of time starts coming in [clears throat] at starts coming in [clears throat] at starts coming in [clears throat] at about the 1-minute out, I would say about the 1-minute out, I would say about the 1-minute out, I would say as you were to get back as you were to get back as you were to get back and it and I would say for most guys and it and I would say for most guys and it and I would say for most guys it's more of a routine, it's more of a routine, it's more of a routine, but taking gear off a certain way, hang but taking gear off a certain way, hang but taking gear off a certain way, hang it up, uniform off, shower, food. I it up, uniform off, shower, food. I it up, uniform off, shower, food. I think you find that settling spot once think you find that settling spot once think you find that settling spot once the guys come back together, generally the guys come back together, generally the guys come back together, generally communally over a meal or back in your communally over a meal or back in your communally over a meal or back in your hut, whatever. Your team, you know, we hut, whatever. Your team, you know, we hut, whatever. Your team, you know, we would usually have it separated by team. would usually have it separated by team. would usually have it separated by team. I think you would find your way to that I think you would find your way to that I think you would find your way to that settled space as well, too. So, similar. settled space as well, too. So, similar. settled space as well, too. So, similar. I don't know if it was as powerful, I don't know if it was as powerful, I don't know if it was as powerful, though. though. though. >> Let me ask it slightly differently. >> Let me ask it slightly differently. >> Let me ask it slightly differently. Coming back from a wingsuit jump and it Coming back from a wingsuit jump and it Coming back from a wingsuit jump and it went well. Everybody lived, including went well. Everybody lived, including went well. Everybody lived, including you. Maybe learned a few things. Maybe you. Maybe learned a few things. Maybe you. Maybe learned a few things. Maybe some errors you were able to correct, some errors you were able to correct, some errors you were able to correct, which is also learning, but you you feel which is also learning, but you you feel which is also learning, but you you feel good about it. How do you sleep that good about it. How do you sleep that good about it. How do you sleep that night? night? night? >> Oh, so good. >> Oh, so good. >> Oh, so good. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> [clears throat] >> [clears throat] >> [clears throat] >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Yeah, probably better sleep. >> Yeah, probably better sleep. >> Yeah, probably better sleep. Um Um Um I see Trying to think about sleep. God, I see Trying to think about sleep. God, I see Trying to think about sleep. God, you mean you're going out so you mean you're going out so you mean you're going out so repetitively? Yeah. I mean, guys are Yeah. I mean, guys are Is it Well, Is it Well, Is it Well, wasn't an unhealthy reliance upon wasn't an unhealthy reliance upon wasn't an unhealthy reliance upon ambient. Is that sleep or hallucinating? ambient. Is that sleep or hallucinating? ambient. Is that sleep or hallucinating? >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> I mean, >> I mean, >> I mean, >> Ambient can induce >> Ambient can induce >> Ambient can induce some amnesia, some amnesia, some amnesia, but you know, it it has its place, but I but you know, it it has its place, but I but you know, it it has its place, but I it's not it's not the first line of it's not it's not the first line of it's not it's not the first line of attack. I you know, I I know SEAL Team attack. I you know, I I know SEAL Team attack. I you know, I I know SEAL Team guys like like to ambient and I think guys like like to ambient and I think guys like like to ambient and I think nowadays they're using things less um nowadays they're using things less um nowadays they're using things less um >> It's what they had available. >> It's what they had available. >> It's what they had available. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> And I mean, unrestricted in a bowl, take >> And I mean, unrestricted in a bowl, take >> And I mean, unrestricted in a bowl, take what you want. what you want. what you want. >> I know people who would take two. >> I know people who would take two. >> I know people who would take two. Unpackage another two, put them next to Unpackage another two, put them next to Unpackage another two, put them next to their bed with a little cup of water for their bed with a little cup of water for their bed with a little cup of water for the middle of the night when they woke the middle of the night when they woke the middle of the night when they woke up, but up, but up, but I don't think four is healthy. I'm not a I don't think four is healthy. I'm not a I don't think four is healthy. I'm not a doctor, but I don't think four is doctor, but I don't think four is doctor, but I don't think four is healthy. healthy. healthy. >> are better ways, but but when you're out >> are better ways, but but when you're out >> are better ways, but but when you're out with your wingsuit buddies and you you with your wingsuit buddies and you you with your wingsuit buddies and you you guys had a great jump that day and guys had a great jump that day and guys had a great jump that day and you're going back, everyone knocks out. you're going back, everyone knocks out. you're going back, everyone knocks out. >> You're wiped. You're just wiped. >> You're wiped. You're just wiped. >> You're wiped. You're just wiped. >> And so for that next 6 months you're >> And so for that next 6 months you're >> And so for that next 6 months you're feeling like you're in a you're in a feeling like you're in a you're in a feeling like you're in a you're in a really good space. really good space. really good space. >> You would feel it changing at like the >> You would feel it changing at like the >> You would feel it changing at like the 3-month mark, but for for a nice 3 3-month mark, but for for a nice 3 3-month mark, but for for a nice 3 months for me it was it was clean. You months for me it was it was clean. You months for me it was it was clean. You could just think better. could just think better. could just think better. And I I don't know the mechanism behind And I I don't know the mechanism behind And I I don't know the mechanism behind it other than maybe your brain it other than maybe your brain it other than maybe your brain gets better at parsing out the [ __ ] gets better at parsing out the [ __ ] gets better at parsing out the [ __ ] that doesn't actually matter and as you that doesn't actually matter and as you that doesn't actually matter and as you get that focus, so once it identifies it get that focus, so once it identifies it get that focus, so once it identifies it in that moment you hold on to it less. I in that moment you hold on to it less. I in that moment you hold on to it less. I don't know what's going on there. don't know what's going on there. don't know what's going on there. >> It's still a mystery. You know, I've >> It's still a mystery. You know, I've >> It's still a mystery. You know, I've spent some time looking at this in spent some time looking at this in spent some time looking at this in advance of this conversation and the the advance of this conversation and the the advance of this conversation and the the simple theory would be it raises your simple theory would be it raises your simple theory would be it raises your stress threshold. So the things that get stress threshold. So the things that get stress threshold. So the things that get you to secrete adrenaline like everyday you to secrete adrenaline like everyday you to secrete adrenaline like everyday trivial things, that's not happening trivial things, that's not happening trivial things, that's not happening anymore. Okay, that's a reasonable anymore. Okay, that's a reasonable anymore. Okay, that's a reasonable theory. That's actually what what the theory. That's actually what what the theory. That's actually what what the ice bath will do. That's what a morning ice bath will do. That's what a morning ice bath will do. That's what a morning workout will do. But turns out that's workout will do. But turns out that's workout will do. But turns out that's not what happens when in when people go not what happens when in when people go not what happens when in when people go into these flow states and you get this into these flow states and you get this into these flow states and you get this long tail of a of flow opportunities long tail of a of flow opportunities long tail of a of flow opportunities because the tendency when people's because the tendency when people's because the tendency when people's stress threshold goes up too high is stress threshold goes up too high is stress threshold goes up too high is that uh they tend to engage in a lot of that uh they tend to engage in a lot of that uh they tend to engage in a lot of meaningless behaviors cuz they're not meaningless behaviors cuz they're not meaningless behaviors cuz they're not stressful enough. You want the sensation stressful enough. You want the sensation stressful enough. You want the sensation of like that was a tough conversation of like that was a tough conversation of like that was a tough conversation and I've got to deal with it or that was and I've got to deal with it or that was and I've got to deal with it or that was a tough conversation. I just need to a tough conversation. I just need to a tough conversation. I just need to avoid this person, right? Like this is avoid this person, right? Like this is avoid this person, right? Like this is just not a healthy you know, it's stress just not a healthy you know, it's stress just not a healthy you know, it's stress is a good indicator of of pain and is a good indicator of of pain and is a good indicator of of pain and sometimes it's a psychological pain that sometimes it's a psychological pain that sometimes it's a psychological pain that we need to overcome ourselves. Sometimes we need to overcome ourselves. Sometimes we need to overcome ourselves. Sometimes there's psychological pain we need to there's psychological pain we need to there's psychological pain we need to exercise from our lives. So it sounds exercise from our lives. So it sounds exercise from our lives. So it sounds very different than that. And the reason very different than that. And the reason very different than that. And the reason I'm so interested in this is it's the I'm so interested in this is it's the I'm so interested in this is it's the exact same way that seems to come up a exact same way that seems to come up a exact same way that seems to come up a lot on this podcast that like Rick Rubin lot on this podcast that like Rick Rubin lot on this podcast that like Rick Rubin has described has described has described after putting together an album with after putting together an album with after putting together an album with some amazing artists where they've just some amazing artists where they've just some amazing artists where they've just been working and working and working. been working and working and working. been working and working and working. It's not just the time It's not just the time It's not just the time while doing the work, it's in the it's while doing the work, it's in the it's while doing the work, it's in the it's in the months that follow. It's like in the months that follow. It's like in the months that follow. It's like this peace. It's like it's the post flow this peace. It's like it's the post flow this peace. It's like it's the post flow state something. We don't have a name state something. We don't have a name state something. We don't have a name for this. for this. for this. >> And it's almost like it lowers your >> And it's almost like it lowers your >> And it's almost like it lowers your stress threshold. Not it because I agree stress threshold. Not it because I agree stress threshold. Not it because I agree with you. If if it just raised your with you. If if it just raised your with you. If if it just raised your stress threshold, stress threshold, stress threshold, I would have just continued to do I would have just continued to do I would have just continued to do riskier and riskier behaviors, but at riskier and riskier behaviors, but at riskier and riskier behaviors, but at the end, I feel like it lowers it and the end, I feel like it lowers it and the end, I feel like it lowers it and just strips away the BS stress, just strips away the BS stress, just strips away the BS stress, and makes you less likely to invest in and makes you less likely to invest in and makes you less likely to invest in those other potentially nonsense those other potentially nonsense those other potentially nonsense high-risk behaviors. I have no ability high-risk behaviors. I have no ability high-risk behaviors. I have no ability to describe it whatsoever. And again, I to describe it whatsoever. And again, I to describe it whatsoever. And again, I didn't realize what that headspace was didn't realize what that headspace was didn't realize what that headspace was giving me while I was in the military. I giving me while I was in the military. I giving me while I was in the military. I knew something was missing after I had knew something was missing after I had knew something was missing after I had gotten out, and I think a lot of guys gotten out, and I think a lot of guys gotten out, and I think a lot of guys find themselves in that kind of abyss of find themselves in that kind of abyss of find themselves in that kind of abyss of how do I replicate this? how do I replicate this? how do I replicate this? Spoiler alert, you can't really, and Spoiler alert, you can't really, and Spoiler alert, you can't really, and they have to deal with that and work they have to deal with that and work they have to deal with that and work their way through that. And I'm not their way through that. And I'm not their way through that. And I'm not recommending recommending recommending that wingsuit skydiving or base jumping that wingsuit skydiving or base jumping that wingsuit skydiving or base jumping is the path for guys getting out. And I is the path for guys getting out. And I is the path for guys getting out. And I specifically wrote about this. specifically wrote about this. specifically wrote about this. I've seen people who can do this in art, I've seen people who can do this in art, I've seen people who can do this in art, getting lost in creating something, or getting lost in creating something, or getting lost in creating something, or yoga, or meditation, or ice bath, or yoga, or meditation, or ice bath, or yoga, or meditation, or ice bath, or sauna, or I found a lot of it in the sauna, or I found a lot of it in the sauna, or I found a lot of it in the ability to detach and be in the moment ability to detach and be in the moment ability to detach and be in the moment in jiu-jitsu. in jiu-jitsu. in jiu-jitsu. Even though it's totally artificial Even though it's totally artificial Even though it's totally artificial violence, you're in the moment cuz it violence, you're in the moment cuz it violence, you're in the moment cuz it sucks when your friend chokes you cuz sucks when your friend chokes you cuz sucks when your friend chokes you cuz you want to choke your friend, you want to choke your friend, you want to choke your friend, obviously. But, obviously. But, obviously. But, you can find it It doesn't have to be you can find it It doesn't have to be you can find it It doesn't have to be prescriptive. prescriptive. prescriptive. But, if you can find your way there, I But, if you can find your way there, I But, if you can find your way there, I don't care that nobody can describe what don't care that nobody can describe what don't care that nobody can describe what it is. I am here to tell you it will it is. I am here to tell you it will it is. I am here to tell you it will change your life if you can find your change your life if you can find your change your life if you can find your way into that space. It really will. way into that space. It really will. way into that space. It really will. >> There's a wonderful book, um, in >> There's a wonderful book, um, in >> There's a wonderful book, um, in addition to yours. Uh, there turns out addition to yours. Uh, there turns out addition to yours. Uh, there turns out there's another great book out there. there's another great book out there. there's another great book out there. Um, Um, Um, >> How dare someone >> How dare someone >> How dare someone >> No no audio version, but it's called The >> No no audio version, but it's called The >> No no audio version, but it's called The Secret Pulse of Time, and it's about Secret Pulse of Time, and it's about Secret Pulse of Time, and it's about time perception. And so, the idea that time perception. And so, the idea that time perception. And so, the idea that comes to mind that maybe we could talk comes to mind that maybe we could talk comes to mind that maybe we could talk about is perhaps about is perhaps about is perhaps these these these endeavors, whether or not it's endeavors, whether or not it's endeavors, whether or not it's wingsuiting, or producing an album, or wingsuiting, or producing an album, or wingsuiting, or producing an album, or painting, or gardening, or whatever it painting, or gardening, or whatever it painting, or gardening, or whatever it is, jiu-jitsu, whatever it is that is, jiu-jitsu, whatever it is that is, jiu-jitsu, whatever it is that somebody does to access this flow state somebody does to access this flow state somebody does to access this flow state and get this gets this long tail of and get this gets this long tail of and get this gets this long tail of post-flow benefit, whatever we post-flow benefit, whatever we post-flow benefit, whatever we what whatever that is. We don't have a what whatever that is. We don't have a what whatever that is. We don't have a name for it, again. It seems to name for it, again. It seems to name for it, again. It seems to calibrate our time perception is one calibrate our time perception is one calibrate our time perception is one idea that perhaps brings us so much into idea that perhaps brings us so much into idea that perhaps brings us so much into each moment that it's almost like our each moment that it's almost like our each moment that it's almost like our ability to capture moments that becomes ability to capture moments that becomes ability to capture moments that becomes high fidelity. Again, you talked about high fidelity. Again, you talked about high fidelity. Again, you talked about getting the static out. Right? And then getting the static out. Right? And then getting the static out. Right? And then when we go back into everyday life, it's when we go back into everyday life, it's when we go back into everyday life, it's almost like we're perfectly calibrated. almost like we're perfectly calibrated. almost like we're perfectly calibrated. This is I'm stating a theory here. So, This is I'm stating a theory here. So, This is I'm stating a theory here. So, now you wake up the next morning, you're now you wake up the next morning, you're now you wake up the next morning, you're home, and your kid comes in and they're home, and your kid comes in and they're home, and your kid comes in and they're talking about something, and you're talking about something, and you're talking about something, and you're thinking, and we'll get back to toilet thinking, and we'll get back to toilet thinking, and we'll get back to toilet paper in a little bit. You'll be like, paper in a little bit. You'll be like, paper in a little bit. You'll be like, "Listen, dude, you're talking about "Listen, dude, you're talking about "Listen, dude, you're talking about this, but you didn't take [laughter] this, but you didn't take [laughter] this, but you didn't take [laughter] care of the toilet paper." This will care of the toilet paper." This will care of the toilet paper." This will become relevant in a moment. You read become relevant in a moment. You read become relevant in a moment. You read Andy's I've never thought so much about Andy's I've never thought so much about Andy's I've never thought so much about toilet paper rolls in the bathroom and toilet paper rolls in the bathroom and toilet paper rolls in the bathroom and how they're stacked. My girlfriend and I how they're stacked. My girlfriend and I how they're stacked. My girlfriend and I had a conversation about it the other had a conversation about it the other had a conversation about it the other day. It's because of Andy's book. That day. It's because of Andy's book. That day. It's because of Andy's book. That will all make sense in a few moments. will all make sense in a few moments. will all make sense in a few moments. But, it's almost like you can still be But, it's almost like you can still be But, it's almost like you can still be in that real world stuff, but your time in that real world stuff, but your time in that real world stuff, but your time perception is adjusted so that you know perception is adjusted so that you know perception is adjusted so that you know what you're doing. It's just that thing. what you're doing. It's just that thing. what you're doing. It's just that thing. So, then when you pivot to the next So, then when you pivot to the next So, then when you pivot to the next thing, you need to sit down and do some thing, you need to sit down and do some thing, you need to sit down and do some work, it's almost like you can adjust work, it's almost like you can adjust work, it's almost like you can adjust your your your frame rate appropriately. your your your frame rate appropriately. your your your frame rate appropriately. It's like it pulls you into that. It's like it pulls you into that. It's like it pulls you into that. >> It It allows you to sink into those >> It It allows you to sink into those >> It It allows you to sink into those things things things and digest better, to think better. and digest better, to think better. and digest better, to think better. The yeah, the clarity of thought was The yeah, the clarity of thought was The yeah, the clarity of thought was just and it would change how I thought just and it would change how I thought just and it would change how I thought about about about an argument or a conversation, and it an argument or a conversation, and it an argument or a conversation, and it would allow me to look at it from a would allow me to look at it from a would allow me to look at it from a different perspective. And I have no different perspective. And I have no different perspective. And I have no idea why that was the case, but I agree idea why that was the case, but I agree idea why that was the case, but I agree with what you're saying. I think there with what you're saying. I think there with what you're saying. I think there might be some aspect of that. The might be some aspect of that. The might be some aspect of that. The fidelity fidelity fidelity and the ability to truly see clearly in and the ability to truly see clearly in and the ability to truly see clearly in that moment, pulling you or anchoring that moment, pulling you or anchoring that moment, pulling you or anchoring you into that. There's something there. you into that. There's something there. you into that. There's something there. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. A really cool paper A really cool paper A really cool paper came out just the other day showing that came out just the other day showing that came out just the other day showing that when when when we're stressed, we're stressed, we're stressed, prior memories, while we can still prior memories, while we can still prior memories, while we can still access them, we can't make um insightful access them, we can't make um insightful access them, we can't make um insightful connections between things. And I won't connections between things. And I won't connections between things. And I won't describe the whole experiment. It was describe the whole experiment. It was describe the whole experiment. It was really cool. They basically have people really cool. They basically have people really cool. They basically have people reme- remember pairs of of objects, and reme- remember pairs of of objects, and reme- remember pairs of of objects, and then there's some link between the two then there's some link between the two then there's some link between the two pairs. So, like it would be like apple pairs. So, like it would be like apple pairs. So, like it would be like apple yerba mate, and there'll be a yerba mate yerba mate, and there'll be a yerba mate yerba mate, and there'll be a yerba mate uh wing suit. And then at some point uh wing suit. And then at some point uh wing suit. And then at some point later, you need to link, you know, the later, you need to link, you know, the later, you need to link, you know, the wing suit to the apple. Right? You know, wing suit to the apple. Right? You know, wing suit to the apple. Right? You know, it conceptually, not just that way. They it conceptually, not just that way. They it conceptually, not just that way. They they up from basic things like I just they up from basic things like I just they up from basic things like I just described. And And as you ramp up described. And And as you ramp up described. And And as you ramp up people's levels of stress, people's levels of stress, people's levels of stress, you essentially lose the ability to make you essentially lose the ability to make you essentially lose the ability to make these connected insights. And this these connected insights. And this these connected insights. And this speaks to the the hardwiring and the speaks to the the hardwiring and the speaks to the the hardwiring and the software that the brain uses. I almost software that the brain uses. I almost software that the brain uses. I almost wonder whether or not your stress wonder whether or not your stress wonder whether or not your stress threshold, as you said, is brought down threshold, as you said, is brought down threshold, as you said, is brought down so that you can now have novel insights. so that you can now have novel insights. so that you can now have novel insights. Like, "Oh, this conversation with my son Like, "Oh, this conversation with my son Like, "Oh, this conversation with my son about the toilet paper is actually about the toilet paper is actually about the toilet paper is actually important important important >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> in [clears throat] a way that isn't just >> in [clears throat] a way that isn't just >> in [clears throat] a way that isn't just me being annoyed." And and I feel like me being annoyed." And and I feel like me being annoyed." And and I feel like maybe maybe be fun to explore this as maybe maybe be fun to explore this as maybe maybe be fun to explore this as the science evolves with you you know, the science evolves with you you know, the science evolves with you you know, and and talk about it more cuz I think and and talk about it more cuz I think and and talk about it more cuz I think >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> the reason I'm so obsessed with this is >> the reason I'm so obsessed with this is >> the reason I'm so obsessed with this is for two reasons. One is navigating for two reasons. One is navigating for two reasons. One is navigating everyday life, everyday life, everyday life, which is which is which is a lot. It's a lot of what people are a lot. It's a lot of what people are a lot. It's a lot of what people are challenged with. It's so vital. The challenged with. It's so vital. The challenged with. It's so vital. The other is how to navigate the hard stuff other is how to navigate the hard stuff other is how to navigate the hard stuff in life. So, I want to get to both of in life. So, I want to get to both of in life. So, I want to get to both of those things and talk about some those things and talk about some those things and talk about some examples from your life and from your examples from your life and from your examples from your life and from your book. But before we do that, I feel like book. But before we do that, I feel like book. But before we do that, I feel like we're obligated to talk about toilet we're obligated to talk about toilet we're obligated to talk about toilet paper. paper. paper. >> The number of [clears throat] pictures I >> The number of [clears throat] pictures I >> The number of [clears throat] pictures I have received via email have received via email have received via email of people taking pictures of their kids' of people taking pictures of their kids' of people taking pictures of their kids' bathrooms bathrooms bathrooms and and basically saying, "I thought I and and basically saying, "I thought I and and basically saying, "I thought I was the only one." was the only one." was the only one." >> [laughter] >> All right, this is really seeming like >> All right, this is really seeming like an inside joke now for those that read an inside joke now for those that read an inside joke now for those that read Andy's. What you got? All right, we will Andy's. What you got? All right, we will Andy's. What you got? All right, we will get back to time perception and get back to time perception and get back to time perception and navigating the everyday and the hard navigating the everyday and the hard navigating the everyday and the hard things in life. I won't forget. We'll things in life. I won't forget. We'll things in life. I won't forget. We'll spin that plate in the background. It's spin that plate in the background. It's spin that plate in the background. It's spinning. spinning. spinning. The toilet paper section, yes, it made The toilet paper section, yes, it made The toilet paper section, yes, it made me laugh. It also made me think about me laugh. It also made me think about me laugh. It also made me think about the little things I do each day and the the little things I do each day and the the little things I do each day and the little teeny itty-bitty shortcuts that little teeny itty-bitty shortcuts that little teeny itty-bitty shortcuts that I'm taking and how those ratchet up. So, I'm taking and how those ratchet up. So, I'm taking and how those ratchet up. So, tell us about toilet paper. tell us about toilet paper. tell us about toilet paper. >> It always takes longer to do it wrong is >> It always takes longer to do it wrong is >> It always takes longer to do it wrong is the bottom line. And we all are tempted the bottom line. And we all are tempted the bottom line. And we all are tempted with these shortcuts. So, with these shortcuts. So, with these shortcuts. So, >> That's the mantra we have to remember. >> That's the mantra we have to remember. >> That's the mantra we have to remember. >> My children, their bathroom, >> My children, their bathroom, >> My children, their bathroom, if there was going to be an Ebola if there was going to be an Ebola if there was going to be an Ebola outbreak in the US, it might start outbreak in the US, it might start outbreak in the US, it might start there. I don't know anything about there. I don't know anything about there. I don't know anything about Ebola, but I feel like Ebola, but I feel like Ebola, but I feel like it might start there. So, it might start there. So, it might start there. So, as with most bathrooms, there's toilet as with most bathrooms, there's toilet as with most bathrooms, there's toilet paper rolls. And paper rolls. And paper rolls. And my kids my kids my kids when they finish a toilet paper roll, when they finish a toilet paper roll, when they finish a toilet paper roll, instead of popping it off the holder, instead of popping it off the holder, instead of popping it off the holder, taking it and going and getting a new taking it and going and getting a new taking it and going and getting a new one, they go get a new one. one, they go get a new one. one, they go get a new one. And they sit it right there. So, it's And they sit it right there. So, it's And they sit it right there. So, it's like like like empty toilet paper roll empty toilet paper roll empty toilet paper roll up against the wall. up against the wall. up against the wall. You would think You would think You would think that when this one is done, they would that when this one is done, they would that when this one is done, they would take them both. But, instead they do take them both. But, instead they do take them both. But, instead they do this. this. this. So, there's two against the wall, and So, there's two against the wall, and So, there's two against the wall, and then the other roll goes here. then the other roll goes here. then the other roll goes here. Now, I can't use this one cuz this is Now, I can't use this one cuz this is Now, I can't use this one cuz this is open. But, when this roll is done, you open. But, when this roll is done, you open. But, when this roll is done, you would think would think would think that they wouldn't create a pyramid, that they wouldn't create a pyramid, that they wouldn't create a pyramid, which historically, from my which historically, from my which historically, from my understanding of math, isn't great to understanding of math, isn't great to understanding of math, isn't great to balance things on. But, they will make a balance things on. But, they will make a balance things on. But, they will make a pyramid pyramid pyramid and then put this up here, and and then put this up here, and and then put this up here, and inevitably this roll goes forward, hits inevitably this roll goes forward, hits inevitably this roll goes forward, hits the ground behind the toilet, and then the ground behind the toilet, and then the ground behind the toilet, and then they start screaming from the bathroom, they start screaming from the bathroom, they start screaming from the bathroom, "I need toilet paper, Dad." To which I "I need toilet paper, Dad." To which I "I need toilet paper, Dad." To which I respond, "You got yourself there. You respond, "You got yourself there. You respond, "You got yourself there. You can figure it out on your own." can figure it out on your own." can figure it out on your own." >> This is all of your kids? >> This is all of your kids? >> This is all of your kids? >> Yeah, for sure. >> Yeah, for sure. >> Yeah, for sure. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And they're all your kids? >> And they're all your kids? >> And they're all your kids? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> All right. I'm not I'm not really saying >> All right. I'm not I'm not really saying >> All right. I'm not I'm not really saying anything. I'm just anything. I'm just anything. I'm just >> I'm [laughter] just just And so, the >> I'm [laughter] just just And so, the >> I'm [laughter] just just And so, the point of all of this is, if you don't point of all of this is, if you don't point of all of this is, if you don't want to be somebody screaming for a want to be somebody screaming for a want to be somebody screaming for a toilet paper roll, toilet paper roll, toilet paper roll, it actually takes less time to go and it actually takes less time to go and it actually takes less time to go and when you're out of toilet paper, when you're out of toilet paper, when you're out of toilet paper, disconnect it, throw it away on the way, disconnect it, throw it away on the way, disconnect it, throw it away on the way, and bring another one in. It's the same and bring another one in. It's the same and bring another one in. It's the same thing as laundry. Do you laundry? thing as laundry. Do you laundry? thing as laundry. Do you laundry? I'm not perfect at this by any stretch. I'm not perfect at this by any stretch. I'm not perfect at this by any stretch. But, do your laundry, fold your laundry, But, do your laundry, fold your laundry, But, do your laundry, fold your laundry, put it away. That always takes less time put it away. That always takes less time put it away. That always takes less time than do your laundry in a pile, then than do your laundry in a pile, then than do your laundry in a pile, then you're in a pinch, and you're looking you're in a pinch, and you're looking you're in a pinch, and you're looking for your t-shirt, or whatever shirt you for your t-shirt, or whatever shirt you for your t-shirt, or whatever shirt you want to wear. want to wear. want to wear. >> And I own a lot of black clothing. >> And I own a lot of black clothing. >> And I own a lot of black clothing. >> Oh, my god. I do, too. It's all blues, >> Oh, my god. I do, too. It's all blues, >> Oh, my god. I do, too. It's all blues, blacks, and the occasional red. The red blacks, and the occasional red. The red blacks, and the occasional red. The red ones are easy to find in that particular ones are easy to find in that particular ones are easy to find in that particular cohort. But, otherwise, you're in there cohort. But, otherwise, you're in there cohort. But, otherwise, you're in there to and it's socks inside out, so you to and it's socks inside out, so you to and it's socks inside out, so you don't know if it's got the right logo, don't know if it's got the right logo, don't know if it's got the right logo, there's socks coming out of the sleeves. there's socks coming out of the sleeves. there's socks coming out of the sleeves. Five x the amount of time that would Five x the amount of time that would Five x the amount of time that would take you as opposed to just wash your take you as opposed to just wash your take you as opposed to just wash your laundry, dry it, fold it, put it away. laundry, dry it, fold it, put it away. laundry, dry it, fold it, put it away. I have tried to express this message to I have tried to express this message to I have tried to express this message to my children to the limits of my my children to the limits of my my children to the limits of my vocabulary. vocabulary. vocabulary. I went into my daughter's bathroom I went into my daughter's bathroom I went into my daughter's bathroom before we came up here. before we came up here. before we came up here. There was three rolls of toilet paper. There was three rolls of toilet paper. There was three rolls of toilet paper. Two of them were empty and wedged on the Two of them were empty and wedged on the Two of them were empty and wedged on the side, and the third one was vertical. side, and the third one was vertical. side, and the third one was vertical. And I just closed the door and walked And I just closed the door and walked And I just closed the door and walked away, pretend like it didn't happen. away, pretend like it didn't happen. away, pretend like it didn't happen. They don't They don't listen to me. They don't They don't listen to me. They don't They don't listen to me. It always takes longer to do it wrong. It always takes longer to do it wrong. It always takes longer to do it wrong. And those are the little shortcuts that And those are the little shortcuts that And those are the little shortcuts that we all take. We tell ourselves, we all take. We tell ourselves, we all take. We tell ourselves, "I'll do it later." Or I I I don't have "I'll do it later." Or I I I don't have "I'll do it later." Or I I I don't have time to do it right now. You We all have time to do it right now. You We all have time to do it right now. You We all have the same amount of time. It's where the same amount of time. It's where the same amount of time. It's where you're allocating your time. you're allocating your time. you're allocating your time. Do it up front, and I assure you like Do it up front, and I assure you like Do it up front, and I assure you like the McRaven speech about making your the McRaven speech about making your the McRaven speech about making your bed. bed. bed. The number of parents that probably The number of parents that probably The number of parents that probably thought that was life-changing was just thought that was life-changing was just thought that was life-changing was just amazing. Like, "Yes, somebody else is amazing. Like, "Yes, somebody else is amazing. Like, "Yes, somebody else is telling my kid to make the bed." It's telling my kid to make the bed." It's telling my kid to make the bed." It's not actually about that. It's about not actually about that. It's about not actually about that. It's about having the discipline to do the little having the discipline to do the little having the discipline to do the little things, and it is way better at the end things, and it is way better at the end things, and it is way better at the end of the night when you're tired to come of the night when you're tired to come of the night when you're tired to come back to a bed that is made and ready for back to a bed that is made and ready for back to a bed that is made and ready for you to hop into than having to Well, not you to hop into than having to Well, not you to hop into than having to Well, not most people would do this, but make it most people would do this, but make it most people would do this, but make it first and then get into it. But it just first and then get into it. But it just first and then get into it. But it just gets worse and worse and worse. And in gets worse and worse and worse. And in gets worse and worse and worse. And in the end, it will take you longer to the end, it will take you longer to the end, it will take you longer to correct for that than the individual correct for that than the individual correct for that than the individual action of just doing it right the first action of just doing it right the first action of just doing it right the first time. What's your advice with respect to time. What's your advice with respect to time. What's your advice with respect to this? >> [sighs] >> [sighs] >> I mean, I can give you the advice, but I >> I mean, I can give you the advice, but I >> I mean, I can give you the advice, but I also don't follow it all the time, also don't follow it all the time, also don't follow it all the time, either. Every Every single decision that either. Every Every single decision that either. Every Every single decision that you have in front of you in your life you have in front of you in your life you have in front of you in your life will have a slightly easier and a will have a slightly easier and a will have a slightly easier and a slightly harder choice. Make the slightly harder choice. Make the slightly harder choice. Make the slightly harder one more often than the slightly harder one more often than the slightly harder one more often than the slightly easier one. And the thing I slightly easier one. And the thing I slightly easier one. And the thing I liked a lot about McRaven's messaging liked a lot about McRaven's messaging liked a lot about McRaven's messaging around the bed is that it started your around the bed is that it started your around the bed is that it started your day with an a small act of discipline day with an a small act of discipline day with an a small act of discipline that could seem meaningless, but then that could seem meaningless, but then that could seem meaningless, but then what if you pair another small one with what if you pair another small one with what if you pair another small one with that? And then another small one with that? And then another small one with that? And then another small one with that. I think that can really set you up that. I think that can really set you up that. I think that can really set you up for success in your day. And yes, at the for success in your day. And yes, at the for success in your day. And yes, at the end of the day, boom, your bed's ready end of the day, boom, your bed's ready end of the day, boom, your bed's ready to go, and you can hop back into it. It to go, and you can hop back into it. It to go, and you can hop back into it. It just feels better to get into a made just feels better to get into a made just feels better to get into a made bed. bed. bed. >> It took me a while to realize that most >> It took me a while to realize that most >> It took me a while to realize that most of the people that I of the people that I of the people that I could tell were really squared away in could tell were really squared away in could tell were really squared away in their jobs and because I happen to know their jobs and because I happen to know their jobs and because I happen to know their personal lives, too, also their their personal lives, too, also their their personal lives, too, also their personal lives, personal lives, personal lives, they're pretty tidy people. they're pretty tidy people. they're pretty tidy people. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Uh whether by sheer will or by reflex, >> Uh whether by sheer will or by reflex, >> Uh whether by sheer will or by reflex, they're just pretty tidy. they're just pretty tidy. they're just pretty tidy. >> I don't think it's everybody reflex. I >> I don't think it's everybody reflex. I >> I don't think it's everybody reflex. I think it's always by always by will. think it's always by always by will. think it's always by always by will. And it's not fun. And I'm Don't get me And it's not fun. And I'm Don't get me And it's not fun. And I'm Don't get me wrong. I'm not I'm not perfect at it, wrong. I'm not I'm not perfect at it, wrong. I'm not I'm not perfect at it, but if I can look back at my lives or my but if I can look back at my lives or my but if I can look back at my lives or my life at times where things were life at times where things were life at times where things were a little bit less a little bit less a little bit less effort involved in and being successful effort involved in and being successful effort involved in and being successful or making traction, it wasn't in chaos. or making traction, it wasn't in chaos. or making traction, it wasn't in chaos. It was in a little bit more of a It was in a little bit more of a It was in a little bit more of a controlled environment by me, again, controlled environment by me, again, controlled environment by me, again, controlling what I can control, which is controlling what I can control, which is controlling what I can control, which is my actions in the morning. You know, it my actions in the morning. You know, it my actions in the morning. You know, it If you sit down in front of a desk and If you sit down in front of a desk and If you sit down in front of a desk and you can't even find the thing that you can't even find the thing that you can't even find the thing that you're looking for to do the work on it, you're looking for to do the work on it, you're looking for to do the work on it, I I how I don't know anybody who has I I how I don't know anybody who has I I how I don't know anybody who has become ultra successful in life with become ultra successful in life with become ultra successful in life with that model. that model. that model. But, I think we could both sit down and But, I think we could both sit down and But, I think we could both sit down and talk about some people who are nailing talk about some people who are nailing talk about some people who are nailing it, and I think the vast majority of it, and I think the vast majority of it, and I think the vast majority of them would fall into that tidy category them would fall into that tidy category them would fall into that tidy category or disciplined category. But, it's micro or disciplined category. But, it's micro or disciplined category. But, it's micro discipline. They can make it seem as if discipline. They can make it seem as if discipline. They can make it seem as if you have this macro discipline, but you have this macro discipline, but you have this macro discipline, but that's not actually what it is. It's the that's not actually what it is. It's the that's not actually what it is. It's the little things that nobody sees. That's little things that nobody sees. That's little things that nobody sees. That's what leads you to that end state. what leads you to that end state. what leads you to that end state. >> It's interesting. Earlier we were >> It's interesting. Earlier we were >> It's interesting. Earlier we were talking about social pressure and um talking about social pressure and um talking about social pressure and um alcohol and social media. You know, it alcohol and social media. You know, it alcohol and social media. You know, it it's it's it's interesting to me that there seems to be interesting to me that there seems to be interesting to me that there seems to be some degree of social pressure to not do some degree of social pressure to not do some degree of social pressure to not do the slightly harder thing. You know, the slightly harder thing. You know, the slightly harder thing. You know, like [snorts] what we're what we're like [snorts] what we're what we're like [snorts] what we're what we're describing now, I never get into uh describing now, I never get into uh describing now, I never get into uh thinking about what the comments would thinking about what the comments would thinking about what the comments would be, but I be, but I be, but I I'd be willing to bet one pinky that I'd be willing to bet one pinky that I'd be willing to bet one pinky that a fair number of people are either a fair number of people are either a fair number of people are either thinking or commenting directly, thinking or commenting directly, thinking or commenting directly, "Yeah, like that's really neurotic. Like "Yeah, like that's really neurotic. Like "Yeah, like that's really neurotic. Like loosen up." loosen up." loosen up." >> Yeah, take a picture of your [ __ ] >> Yeah, take a picture of your [ __ ] >> Yeah, take a picture of your [ __ ] room and And it to me. I bet it looks room and And it to me. I bet it looks room and And it to me. I bet it looks like [ __ ] like [ __ ] like [ __ ] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Exactly. My dad's first generation >> Exactly. My dad's first generation >> Exactly. My dad's first generation immigrant from South America and and on immigrant from South America and and on immigrant from South America and and on that never forget when in it was in the that never forget when in it was in the that never forget when in it was in the mid-90s mid-90s mid-90s he was probably took me to a movie in an he was probably took me to a movie in an he was probably took me to a movie in an attempt to repair a relationship and attempt to repair a relationship and attempt to repair a relationship and eventually worked out. We're doing eventually worked out. We're doing eventually worked out. We're doing great. [laughter] Talk to him today. I great. [laughter] Talk to him today. I great. [laughter] Talk to him today. I called him today. We're on such great called him today. We're on such great called him today. We're on such great terms. It feels good to be able to say terms. It feels good to be able to say terms. It feels good to be able to say it. And I'll never forget we were at the it. And I'll never forget we were at the it. And I'll never forget we were at the movies and there were these people movies and there were these people movies and there were these people walking by and they were wearing kind of walking by and they were wearing kind of walking by and they were wearing kind of like baggy sweats and flip-flops or like baggy sweats and flip-flops or like baggy sweats and flip-flops or something and he stopped me and he's a something and he stopped me and he's a something and he stopped me and he's a very orderly guy and he said very orderly guy and he said very orderly guy and he said "See that? That's the beginning of the "See that? That's the beginning of the "See that? That's the beginning of the end." end." end." And I said, "What do you mean?" And I said, "What do you mean?" And I said, "What do you mean?" >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> And he said >> And he said >> And he said "I come from a third world country "I come from a third world country "I come from a third world country when people start going to the movies in when people start going to the movies in when people start going to the movies in their pajamas it's the beginning of the their pajamas it's the beginning of the their pajamas it's the beginning of the end." And I thought, "Hey, this is like end." And I thought, "Hey, this is like end." And I thought, "Hey, this is like you couldn't be more out He's I I you couldn't be more out He's I I you couldn't be more out He's I I actually think he's right." What he was actually think he's right." What he was actually think he's right." What he was talking about is that that the when the talking about is that that the when the talking about is that that the when the social pressure is not sufficient to social pressure is not sufficient to social pressure is not sufficient to like keep people feeling as if they need like keep people feeling as if they need like keep people feeling as if they need to show up as if they're in public, to show up as if they're in public, to show up as if they're in public, right? right? right? >> And he might have been a bit extreme, >> And he might have been a bit extreme, >> And he might have been a bit extreme, but you know, when when that social but you know, when when that social but you know, when when that social pressure isn't there, then the social pressure isn't there, then the social pressure isn't there, then the social pressure eventually erodes around what pressure eventually erodes around what pressure eventually erodes around what people can say, what they can do and people can say, what they can do and people can say, what they can do and then I do think that era of kind of then I do think that era of kind of then I do think that era of kind of Jerry Springer daytime television where Jerry Springer daytime television where Jerry Springer daytime television where people would watch people who were way people would watch people who were way people would watch people who were way more screwed up than them so they could more screwed up than them so they could more screwed up than them so they could feel a lot less screwed up. What's that feel a lot less screwed up. What's that feel a lot less screwed up. What's that called? Schadenfreude when you take called? Schadenfreude when you take called? Schadenfreude when you take >> pleasure in other people's pain? >> pleasure in other people's pain? >> pleasure in other people's pain? >> Yeah. Well, I think that there's that's >> Yeah. Well, I think that there's that's >> Yeah. Well, I think that there's that's that's the word for it for sure, but I that's the word for it for sure, but I that's the word for it for sure, but I think this is think this is think this is kind of adjacent to that where it's it's kind of adjacent to that where it's it's kind of adjacent to that where it's it's like giving yourself license to not feel like giving yourself license to not feel like giving yourself license to not feel that bad because like that bad because like that bad because like like either they're just so neurotic like either they're just so neurotic like either they're just so neurotic that I won't anything to do with that that I won't anything to do with that that I won't anything to do with that kind of world where everything's right kind of world where everything's right kind of world where everything's right angles or like well, at least I'm not in angles or like well, at least I'm not in angles or like well, at least I'm not in total squalor. And this is where I think total squalor. And this is where I think total squalor. And this is where I think that you know, we hear so much about oh, that you know, we hear so much about oh, that you know, we hear so much about oh, everyone's presenting them best self the everyone's presenting them best self the everyone's presenting them best self the their best selves on social media. Also their best selves on social media. Also their best selves on social media. Also a problem to seem perfect cuz no one's a problem to seem perfect cuz no one's a problem to seem perfect cuz no one's perfect, but I do think that there is perfect, but I do think that there is perfect, but I do think that there is this drift where we go well, like this drift where we go well, like this drift where we go well, like it's not going to crush my life with it's not going to crush my life with it's not going to crush my life with that toilet paper thing. Like if it were that toilet paper thing. Like if it were that toilet paper thing. Like if it were going to cost me my relationship or, you going to cost me my relationship or, you going to cost me my relationship or, you know, my allowance, you know, your kids know, my allowance, you know, your kids know, my allowance, you know, your kids might think about it differently, right? might think about it differently, right? might think about it differently, right? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> But, so I think but what I got from your >> But, so I think but what I got from your >> But, so I think but what I got from your book this this section of your book is book this this section of your book is book this this section of your book is that it's because the consequences are that it's because the consequences are that it's because the consequences are so small so small so small at the individual level, but the upside at the individual level, but the upside at the individual level, but the upside is so big is so big is so big >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> it when you, you know, collect these >> it when you, you know, collect these >> it when you, you know, collect these things together that the real incentive things together that the real incentive things together that the real incentive to do the slightly harder thing is to do the slightly harder thing is to do the slightly harder thing is there. there. there. >> I mean, the toilet paper is not going to >> I mean, the toilet paper is not going to >> I mean, the toilet paper is not going to cost your life. If it does, I'm going to cost your life. If it does, I'm going to cost your life. If it does, I'm going to need a case study on how that happened need a case study on how that happened need a case study on how that happened because I'm fascinated at this point. because I'm fascinated at this point. because I'm fascinated at this point. But, what if it the we'll call it what But, what if it the we'll call it what But, what if it the we'll call it what it is, either the lack of discipline or it is, either the lack of discipline or it is, either the lack of discipline or the laziness in the moment changes the the laziness in the moment changes the the laziness in the moment changes the trajectory of your life because you trajectory of your life because you trajectory of your life because you apply that to everything in your life apply that to everything in your life apply that to everything in your life because because because that's how you start your day and how that's how you start your day and how that's how you start your day and how you end your day. I get it. People on you end your day. I get it. People on you end your day. I get it. People on I could I'll take a picture of my room I could I'll take a picture of my room I could I'll take a picture of my room and send it out. Guess what? It's not and send it out. Guess what? It's not and send it out. Guess what? It's not hospital corners on the bed and there's hospital corners on the bed and there's hospital corners on the bed and there's probably something in the corner. I'm probably something in the corner. I'm probably something in the corner. I'm not saying that I'm perfect in this, but not saying that I'm perfect in this, but not saying that I'm perfect in this, but it's not being neurotic. it's not being neurotic. it's not being neurotic. It's doing the work that nobody sees. It's doing the work that nobody sees. It's doing the work that nobody sees. And for the people who can, you know, And for the people who can, you know, And for the people who can, you know, say, "Oh, it's, you know, that seems too say, "Oh, it's, you know, that seems too say, "Oh, it's, you know, that seems too neurotic for me." Like, let's neurotic for me." Like, let's neurotic for me." Like, let's let's have a cup of coffee. Where do you let's have a cup of coffee. Where do you let's have a cup of coffee. Where do you want to be in your life and where are want to be in your life and where are want to be in your life and where are you at in that journey? I would love I'm you at in that journey? I would love I'm you at in that journey? I would love I'm fascinated by fascinated by fascinated by and that and you know, like we're and that and you know, like we're and that and you know, like we're saying, internet's the best worst thing. saying, internet's the best worst thing. saying, internet's the best worst thing. People can People can People can find this conversation find this conversation find this conversation and then critique us to death and say and then critique us to death and say and then critique us to death and say that we're being neurotic, but I'd also that we're being neurotic, but I'd also that we're being neurotic, but I'd also love to connect with somebody and say, love to connect with somebody and say, love to connect with somebody and say, "Listen, "Listen, "Listen, why do you have the your an allergic why do you have the your an allergic why do you have the your an allergic reaction to that particular statement? reaction to that particular statement? reaction to that particular statement? Is it because perhaps you're living it? Is it because perhaps you're living it? Is it because perhaps you're living it? And if you are, let's talk about the And if you are, let's talk about the And if you are, let's talk about the potential impact that it's having." potential impact that it's having." potential impact that it's having." Because again, I didn't create this. I'm Because again, I didn't create this. I'm Because again, I didn't create this. I'm passing along, you know, one of the passing along, you know, one of the passing along, you know, one of the mantras in the teams, how you do mantras in the teams, how you do mantras in the teams, how you do anything is how you do everything. But, anything is how you do everything. But, anything is how you do everything. But, there's so many stupid small things there's so many stupid small things there's so many stupid small things that you do specifically in training that you do specifically in training that you do specifically in training that have nothing to do with anything that have nothing to do with anything that have nothing to do with anything except doing the stupid small thing. except doing the stupid small thing. except doing the stupid small thing. That That's it. I mean That That's it. I mean That That's it. I mean you know, this the you know, this the you know, this the 2-mi swim. You have a K-Bar knife in one 2-mi swim. You have a K-Bar knife in one 2-mi swim. You have a K-Bar knife in one of your hands and a CO2 cartridge in of your hands and a CO2 cartridge in of your hands and a CO2 cartridge in another, and you're wearing your life another, and you're wearing your life another, and you're wearing your life jacket, and we're like got a jeweler's jacket, and we're like got a jeweler's jacket, and we're like got a jeweler's loop out looking at the you know, the loop out looking at the you know, the loop out looking at the you know, the little uh twist-in section of the CO2 little uh twist-in section of the CO2 little uh twist-in section of the CO2 cartridge. cartridge. cartridge. God help you if I find a grain of sand God help you if I find a grain of sand God help you if I find a grain of sand or a fleck of rust. Guess what? The or a fleck of rust. Guess what? The or a fleck of rust. Guess what? The jacket's still going to function even if jacket's still going to function even if jacket's still going to function even if both of those things still exist because both of those things still exist because both of those things still exist because it actually has nothing to do with the it actually has nothing to do with the it actually has nothing to do with the knurling of the CO2 cartridge and knurling of the CO2 cartridge and knurling of the CO2 cartridge and everything to do with I told you to have everything to do with I told you to have everything to do with I told you to have nothing in this to make sure it was nothing in this to make sure it was nothing in this to make sure it was basically brand new because you have to basically brand new because you have to basically brand new because you have to follow the procedure because the follow the procedure because the follow the procedure because the procedure is what's going to save your procedure is what's going to save your procedure is what's going to save your life. Can you life. Can you life. Can you even when you're exhausted and you don't even when you're exhausted and you don't even when you're exhausted and you don't want to and you have limited time do want to and you have limited time do want to and you have limited time do what I told you to do because of the what I told you to do because of the what I told you to do because of the impact that it'll have. I mean, that impact that it'll have. I mean, that impact that it'll have. I mean, that exists in that community everywhere. So, exists in that community everywhere. So, exists in that community everywhere. So, it's not me. I'm just telling you. it's not me. I'm just telling you. it's not me. I'm just telling you. The most successful people that I have The most successful people that I have The most successful people that I have encountered are not becoming successful encountered are not becoming successful encountered are not becoming successful in chaos. Now, of course, there will be in chaos. Now, of course, there will be in chaos. Now, of course, there will be an uh somebody that can point to an uh somebody that can point to an uh somebody that can point to something and say, "Well, what about something and say, "Well, what about something and say, "Well, what about this person?" I'm not saying that this person?" I'm not saying that this person?" I'm not saying that there's not a What do they call it? A there's not a What do they call it? A there's not a What do they call it? A white elephant or a black elephant? white elephant or a black elephant? white elephant or a black elephant? Whatever it may be. Does that scale? No, Whatever it may be. Does that scale? No, Whatever it may be. Does that scale? No, it doesn't. So, if you're trying to it doesn't. So, if you're trying to it doesn't. So, if you're trying to replicate that, "Oh, they did it through replicate that, "Oh, they did it through replicate that, "Oh, they did it through chaos, so I'm going to as well." Live chaos, so I'm going to as well." Live chaos, so I'm going to as well." Live your life however you want to, but maybe your life however you want to, but maybe your life however you want to, but maybe you and I aren't being neurotic. Maybe you and I aren't being neurotic. Maybe you and I aren't being neurotic. Maybe we're just trying to help. we're just trying to help. we're just trying to help. >> Yeah, uh you said even when exhausted >> Yeah, uh you said even when exhausted >> Yeah, uh you said even when exhausted and limited uh in time. Those are the and limited uh in time. Those are the and limited uh in time. Those are the two times when these little I guess I two times when these little I guess I two times when these little I guess I used to think about them as extras. I'm used to think about them as extras. I'm used to think about them as extras. I'm trying to start thinking about them as trying to start thinking about them as trying to start thinking about them as foundational. That's when they become foundational. That's when they become foundational. That's when they become really tough. really tough. really tough. >> It's when they matter the most, though. >> It's when they matter the most, though. >> It's when they matter the most, though. >> Mhm? >> Mhm? >> Mhm? >> Because if you I mean >> Because if you I mean >> Because if you I mean >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> It's like this toilet paper roll weighs >> It's like this toilet paper roll weighs >> It's like this toilet paper roll weighs 2,000 lb. There's no way I can get it to 2,000 lb. There's no way I can get it to 2,000 lb. There's no way I can get it to the garbage if it's tired. That's the garbage if it's tired. That's the garbage if it's tired. That's exactly like the days you don't want to exactly like the days you don't want to exactly like the days you don't want to work out. Those are the most important work out. Those are the most important work out. Those are the most important days. Even if you do less, the mental days. Even if you do less, the mental days. Even if you do less, the mental victory there, victory there, victory there, in my mind at least, and I'm not an in my mind at least, and I'm not an in my mind at least, and I'm not an expert in any of this, far outweighs any expert in any of this, far outweighs any expert in any of this, far outweighs any of the physical aspect. It's the fact of the physical aspect. It's the fact of the physical aspect. It's the fact that you did and you didn't want to. If that you did and you didn't want to. If that you did and you didn't want to. If you stack that up over a lifetime, you stack that up over a lifetime, you stack that up over a lifetime, you're going to blow people away with you're going to blow people away with you're going to blow people away with what you can what you can what you can can accomplish. can accomplish. can accomplish. >> Yeah, and the >> Yeah, and the >> Yeah, and the generalizability of what you just generalizability of what you just generalizability of what you just described is definitely supported by described is definitely supported by described is definitely supported by science. People have perhaps heard me science. People have perhaps heard me science. People have perhaps heard me say this before, so I'll make it very say this before, so I'll make it very say this before, so I'll make it very brief, but there's this brain area, the brief, but there's this brain area, the brief, but there's this brain area, the anterior mid-cingulate cortex, which anterior mid-cingulate cortex, which anterior mid-cingulate cortex, which most neuroscientists that teach most neuroscientists that teach most neuroscientists that teach neuroanatomy, including me, didn't know neuroanatomy, including me, didn't know neuroanatomy, including me, didn't know what it did until a few years ago. A guy what it did until a few years ago. A guy what it did until a few years ago. A guy at Stanford, Joe Parvizi, is a at Stanford, Joe Parvizi, is a at Stanford, Joe Parvizi, is a neurosurgeon. He was stimulating this neurosurgeon. He was stimulating this neurosurgeon. He was stimulating this brain area and regions adjacent to it brain area and regions adjacent to it brain area and regions adjacent to it looking for looking for looking for foci in a patient. That's how they find foci in a patient. That's how they find foci in a patient. That's how they find out where the where to burn out the out where the where to burn out the out where the where to burn out the seizure site. And he's stimulating in seizure site. And he's stimulating in seizure site. And he's stimulating in the cingulate cortex and then he gets to the cingulate cortex and then he gets to the cingulate cortex and then he gets to this anterior mid-cingulate cortex and this anterior mid-cingulate cortex and this anterior mid-cingulate cortex and in every patient where he taps this in every patient where he taps this in every patient where he taps this region electrically, the person feels region electrically, the person feels region electrically, the person feels and reports, "I feel like there's a and reports, "I feel like there's a and reports, "I feel like there's a storm coming storm coming storm coming and I want to lean into it. I know I can and I want to lean into it. I know I can and I want to lean into it. I know I can go through it." Someone else might go through it." Someone else might go through it." Someone else might describe it as, "I feel like there's describe it as, "I feel like there's describe it as, "I feel like there's this like big thing about to happen, this like big thing about to happen, this like big thing about to happen, but I I'm going to but I I'm going to but I I'm going to persevere." So, it's amazing, persevere." So, it's amazing, persevere." So, it's amazing, [clears throat] right? So, this anterior [clears throat] right? So, this anterior [clears throat] right? So, this anterior mid-cingulate cortex turns out mid-cingulate cortex turns out mid-cingulate cortex turns out hypertrophies. Well, it grows in volume hypertrophies. Well, it grows in volume hypertrophies. Well, it grows in volume per maybe in number of connections, etc. per maybe in number of connections, etc. per maybe in number of connections, etc. Number of neurons, maybe, but certainly Number of neurons, maybe, but certainly Number of neurons, maybe, but certainly grows in volume grows in volume grows in volume when people successfully diet, when people successfully diet, when people successfully diet, when they take their existing exercise when they take their existing exercise when they take their existing exercise program and just add three 30-minute program and just add three 30-minute program and just add three 30-minute uh sessions of cardio, but here's the uh sessions of cardio, but here's the uh sessions of cardio, but here's the caveat, if they hate cardio. caveat, if they hate cardio. caveat, if they hate cardio. If [laughter] you love the ice bath, If [laughter] you love the ice bath, If [laughter] you love the ice bath, this your anterior mid-cingulate cortex, this your anterior mid-cingulate cortex, this your anterior mid-cingulate cortex, which by the way predicts successful which by the way predicts successful which by the way predicts successful dieting, predicts successful completion dieting, predicts successful completion dieting, predicts successful completion of any of other hard things, of any of other hard things, of any of other hard things, all of that relates to whether or not all of that relates to whether or not all of that relates to whether or not the thing that you're introducing the thing that you're introducing the thing that you're introducing is something that you do not want to do is something that you do not want to do is something that you do not want to do in the moment that you do it. And so, in the moment that you do it. And so, in the moment that you do it. And so, there's real science to this now. there's real science to this now. there's real science to this now. There's a long review that I can put a There's a long review that I can put a There's a long review that I can put a link to in the in the caption if people link to in the in the caption if people link to in the in the caption if people want to get into the science. So, this want to get into the science. So, this want to get into the science. So, this is in human studies and it goes just on is in human studies and it goes just on is in human studies and it goes just on and on. So, it's not the thing it's the and on. So, it's not the thing it's the and on. So, it's not the thing it's the thing you don't want to do. thing you don't want to do. thing you don't want to do. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And so, when people say, "I love working >> And so, when people say, "I love working >> And so, when people say, "I love working out in the final two reps of that set, out in the final two reps of that set, out in the final two reps of that set, that teaches me how to be hard in life." that teaches me how to be hard in life." that teaches me how to be hard in life." You're like, "Do you like working out?" You're like, "Do you like working out?" You're like, "Do you like working out?" They're like, "Love it." And you're They're like, "Love it." And you're They're like, "Love it." And you're like, "Ah, it's not doing anything for like, "Ah, it's not doing anything for like, "Ah, it's not doing anything for your anterior cingulate cortex." So, I your anterior cingulate cortex." So, I your anterior cingulate cortex." So, I think this is very important science, think this is very important science, think this is very important science, which is why I keep bringing it up on which is why I keep bringing it up on which is why I keep bringing it up on multiple podcasts. And and I think the multiple podcasts. And and I think the multiple podcasts. And and I think the toilet paper roll. So, your kids have toilet paper roll. So, your kids have toilet paper roll. So, your kids have this amazing opportunity. this amazing opportunity. this amazing opportunity. Uh other people have to uh I don't know, Uh other people have to uh I don't know, Uh other people have to uh I don't know, do whatever. Um you know, they seem like do whatever. Um you know, they seem like do whatever. Um you know, they seem like very uh uh hard-driving kids and um the very uh uh hard-driving kids and um the very uh uh hard-driving kids and um the way you describe them. Anyway, so it way you describe them. Anyway, so it way you describe them. Anyway, so it turns out that for them the the the turns out that for them the the the turns out that for them the the the toilet paper thing toilet paper thing toilet paper thing and no, uh your dad didn't pay me to say and no, uh your dad didn't pay me to say and no, uh your dad didn't pay me to say this. The toilet paper thing turns out this. The toilet paper thing turns out this. The toilet paper thing turns out to be your the the route to anterior to be your the the route to anterior to be your the the route to anterior cingulate cortex growth, which then cingulate cortex growth, which then cingulate cortex growth, which then translates to a By the way, translates to a By the way, translates to a By the way, growth of this structure is the defining growth of this structure is the defining growth of this structure is the defining feature of what are called super agers. feature of what are called super agers. feature of what are called super agers. Bit of a misnomer because these are Bit of a misnomer because these are Bit of a misnomer because these are people who maintain cognitive ability people who maintain cognitive ability people who maintain cognitive ability and many of their physical abilities and many of their physical abilities and many of their physical abilities relative to their peers into their 80s relative to their peers into their 80s relative to their peers into their 80s and 90s. and 90s. and 90s. >> That makes sense. >> That makes sense. >> That makes sense. >> So, it it's so it may even be related to >> So, it it's so it may even be related to >> So, it it's so it may even be related to the will to live. It may be this the the will to live. It may be this the the will to live. It may be this the tenacity structure in the brain, which tenacity structure in the brain, which tenacity structure in the brain, which people who successfully push back people who successfully push back people who successfully push back against certain uh you know, life against certain uh you know, life against certain uh you know, life confrontations and things and on and on. confrontations and things and on and on. confrontations and things and on and on. So, it's pretty it's pretty cool So, it's pretty it's pretty cool So, it's pretty it's pretty cool structure and it may be the basis of the structure and it may be the basis of the structure and it may be the basis of the toilet paper phenomenon. toilet paper phenomenon. toilet paper phenomenon. >> It's same thing as putting your dishes >> It's same thing as putting your dishes >> It's same thing as putting your dishes in the dishwasher when you're done as in the dishwasher when you're done as in the dishwasher when you're done as opposed to just dropping them in the opposed to just dropping them in the opposed to just dropping them in the sink for the next morning. The examples sink for the next morning. The examples sink for the next morning. The examples are everywhere. Not that that would ever are everywhere. Not that that would ever are everywhere. Not that that would ever happen in our house, but happen in our house, but happen in our house, but >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Uh >> Uh >> Uh we're going to get back to the time we're going to get back to the time we're going to get back to the time perception piece, but um you've perception piece, but um you've perception piece, but um you've mentioned jujitsu a few times. mentioned jujitsu a few times. mentioned jujitsu a few times. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> What's an aspect of jujitsu that for you >> What's an aspect of jujitsu that for you >> What's an aspect of jujitsu that for you is this thing, this friction point where is this thing, this friction point where is this thing, this friction point where you actually don't want to do or do you you actually don't want to do or do you you actually don't want to do or do you just love the whole thing? just love the whole thing? just love the whole thing? >> What I love about jujitsu is it can't be >> What I love about jujitsu is it can't be >> What I love about jujitsu is it can't be mastered. There's no way. I and I have mastered. There's no way. I and I have mastered. There's no way. I and I have been very fortunate enough now to train been very fortunate enough now to train been very fortunate enough now to train with people or be around them with people or be around them with people or be around them that have been black belts for damn near that have been black belts for damn near that have been black belts for damn near as long as I have been alive. And I love as long as I have been alive. And I love as long as I have been alive. And I love asking them, you know, what do they like asking them, you know, what do they like asking them, you know, what do they like about it? And it's these seasons and about it? And it's these seasons and about it? And it's these seasons and phases where phases where phases where they think they have it figured out and they think they have it figured out and they think they have it figured out and then they see something else and their then they see something else and their then they see something else and their realization is they haven't even begun realization is they haven't even begun realization is they haven't even begun to understand. And then so they build to understand. And then so they build to understand. And then so they build back up and something again and they the back up and something again and they the back up and something again and they the more experience these people have, the more experience these people have, the more experience these people have, the less they think it have they that they less they think it have they that they less they think it have they that they have it all figured out. And I have it all figured out. And I have it all figured out. And I I don't know what the key to aging is, I don't know what the key to aging is, I don't know what the key to aging is, but I love doing things that seem as if but I love doing things that seem as if but I love doing things that seem as if it is impossible to master them. it is impossible to master them. it is impossible to master them. I think that's the key to staying at I think that's the key to staying at I think that's the key to staying at least mentally as young as possible. least mentally as young as possible. least mentally as young as possible. Constantly learning new stuff. Constantly learning new stuff. Constantly learning new stuff. I would like to take a quick break and I would like to take a quick break and I would like to take a quick break and acknowledge one of our sponsors, Joovv. acknowledge one of our sponsors, Joovv. acknowledge one of our sponsors, Joovv. 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To learn more, visit Joovv, spelled j o o v v {dot} com Joovv, spelled j o o v v {dot} com Joovv, spelled j o o v v {dot} com {slash} Huberman. Again, that's j o o v {slash} Huberman. Again, that's j o o v {slash} Huberman. Again, that's j o o v v.com/huberman. v.com/huberman. v.com/huberman. >> I seem to be referencing your book a >> I seem to be referencing your book a >> I seem to be referencing your book a lot, but there's a great story in your lot, but there's a great story in your lot, but there's a great story in your book about some intense intestinal book about some intense intestinal book about some intense intestinal distress that that is not uh distress that that is not uh distress that that is not uh >> Is that what we're calling it? >> Is that what we're calling it? >> Is that what we're calling it? >> Yeah. That is not of the just the the >> Yeah. That is not of the just the the >> Yeah. That is not of the just the the diarrhea constipation type but like you diarrhea constipation type but like you diarrhea constipation type but like you described as the worst pain described as the worst pain described as the worst pain >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> you'd ever experienced. Which when most >> you'd ever experienced. Which when most >> you'd ever experienced. Which when most people hear a statement like that, they people hear a statement like that, they people hear a statement like that, they go, "Okay, well, what pain have you go, "Okay, well, what pain have you go, "Okay, well, what pain have you experienced?" experienced?" experienced?" >> I touch >> I touch >> I touch >> Turns out you also been shot. >> Turns out you also been shot. >> Turns out you also been shot. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Um turns out uh >> Um turns out uh >> Um turns out uh you were you know, your your job you were you know, your your job you were you know, your your job selection process involved a fair amount selection process involved a fair amount selection process involved a fair amount of of of immediate and long-term pain processes immediate and long-term pain processes immediate and long-term pain processes under, you know, uh limited sleep and so under, you know, uh limited sleep and so under, you know, uh limited sleep and so on. So, we we can check the box easily on. So, we we can check the box easily on. So, we we can check the box easily for you like understands pain and then for you like understands pain and then for you like understands pain and then this was the worst pain. What do you this was the worst pain. What do you this was the worst pain. What do you think about this notion? Maybe I heard think about this notion? Maybe I heard think about this notion? Maybe I heard this from Chad Wright that when you this from Chad Wright that when you this from Chad Wright that when you vocalize about how hard something is vocalize about how hard something is vocalize about how hard something is that you make it more real. I was that you make it more real. I was that you make it more real. I was wondering if in that moment where you're wondering if in that moment where you're wondering if in that moment where you're in the hospital, I don't want to give it in the hospital, I don't want to give it in the hospital, I don't want to give it all away. It's it's a great chapter all away. It's it's a great chapter all away. It's it's a great chapter actually uh and you're dealing with this actually uh and you're dealing with this actually uh and you're dealing with this worst pain of your life, not from being worst pain of your life, not from being worst pain of your life, not from being shot but from the other thing, that were shot but from the other thing, that were shot but from the other thing, that were you just cursing? Were you quietly you just cursing? Were you quietly you just cursing? Were you quietly cursing in your head? Do you think that cursing in your head? Do you think that cursing in your head? Do you think that we can make our physical pain and just we can make our physical pain and just we can make our physical pain and just challenges in general worse by talking challenges in general worse by talking challenges in general worse by talking about them? Or do you think holding it about them? Or do you think holding it about them? Or do you think holding it in makes it worse? in makes it worse? in makes it worse? >> I don't think you could make it worse >> I don't think you could make it worse >> I don't think you could make it worse by talking about it. I think if people by talking about it. I think if people by talking about it. I think if people were open and honest about let's just were open and honest about let's just were open and honest about let's just say pain in general, whether that is say pain in general, whether that is say pain in general, whether that is internal or external internal or external internal or external I think what they would be shocked to I think what they would be shocked to I think what they would be shocked to find is they're generally surrounded by find is they're generally surrounded by find is they're generally surrounded by people willing to do anything they can people willing to do anything they can people willing to do anything they can to help relieve that pain. So, I think to help relieve that pain. So, I think to help relieve that pain. So, I think you could probably make it much better. you could probably make it much better. you could probably make it much better. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> For anybody who thinks that I might have >> For anybody who thinks that I might have >> For anybody who thinks that I might have stuff figured out or I'm an intelligent stuff figured out or I'm an intelligent stuff figured out or I'm an intelligent person, here's a story for you. Here's person, here's a story for you. Here's person, here's a story for you. Here's how stupid I am. So, I was doing a how stupid I am. So, I was doing a how stupid I am. So, I was doing a podcast when I first felt the first podcast when I first felt the first podcast when I first felt the first little shift in my stomach. I had took a little shift in my stomach. I had took a little shift in my stomach. I had took a sip of coffee. I was like, "Huh, sip of coffee. I was like, "Huh, sip of coffee. I was like, "Huh, >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> that's weird." >> that's weird." >> that's weird." And I thought it was a gas bubble. And I thought it was a gas bubble. And I thought it was a gas bubble. My wife was teaching a jujitsu seminar My wife was teaching a jujitsu seminar My wife was teaching a jujitsu seminar at the time. We were just south of Salt at the time. We were just south of Salt at the time. We were just south of Salt Lake City. Lake City. Lake City. So, I got done with that. So, I got done with that. So, I got done with that. Couldn't really [clears throat] stand up Couldn't really [clears throat] stand up Couldn't really [clears throat] stand up straight. But, it was the open mat straight. But, it was the open mat straight. But, it was the open mat portion. So, throw the gear on, go roll portion. So, throw the gear on, go roll portion. So, throw the gear on, go roll for 90 minutes. for 90 minutes. for 90 minutes. Couldn't Couldn't Couldn't definitely could not stand up straight definitely could not stand up straight definitely could not stand up straight after that. So, I was just slouching in after that. So, I was just slouching in after that. So, I was just slouching in a chair, you know, to try to hide it a chair, you know, to try to hide it a chair, you know, to try to hide it from my wife who had at that point from my wife who had at that point from my wife who had at that point started looking over at me. started looking over at me. started looking over at me. And she's like, "What's going on?" I'm And she's like, "What's going on?" I'm And she's like, "What's going on?" I'm like, "Ah, I just got a stomach ache. like, "Ah, I just got a stomach ache. like, "Ah, I just got a stomach ache. It's not that big of a deal." It's not that big of a deal." It's not that big of a deal." And we were going to drive from Salt And we were going to drive from Salt And we were going to drive from Salt Lake City back to Kalispell, Montana, Lake City back to Kalispell, Montana, Lake City back to Kalispell, Montana, where I live, which should take a day. where I live, which should take a day. where I live, which should take a day. And she was saying, "Hey, let's get you And she was saying, "Hey, let's get you And she was saying, "Hey, let's get you some like, you know, gas medicine or some like, you know, gas medicine or some like, you know, gas medicine or something like that." something like that." something like that." And she wanted to go to In-N-Out. We And she wanted to go to In-N-Out. We And she wanted to go to In-N-Out. We don't have any In-N-Outs in Montana. For don't have any In-N-Outs in Montana. For don't have any In-N-Outs in Montana. For people who live around In-N-Outs, I'm people who live around In-N-Outs, I'm people who live around In-N-Outs, I'm here to tell you it's a really big thing here to tell you it's a really big thing here to tell you it's a really big thing to people who don't live around them. I to people who don't live around them. I to people who don't live around them. I don't know why. don't know why. don't know why. >> No, it's pretty darn good. >> No, it's pretty darn good. >> No, it's pretty darn good. >> Yeah, I'm I was raised by them or around >> Yeah, I'm I was raised by them or around >> Yeah, I'm I was raised by them or around them. So, to me, not that big of a deal. them. So, to me, not that big of a deal. them. So, to me, not that big of a deal. I'll grab them when I can, but also not I'll grab them when I can, but also not I'll grab them when I can, but also not going to totally detour off to go get going to totally detour off to go get going to totally detour off to go get one. one. one. So, she goes and gets her, you know, So, she goes and gets her, you know, So, she goes and gets her, you know, double-double, whatever it is. Pulls double-double, whatever it is. Pulls double-double, whatever it is. Pulls into the Walgreens. I'm in the passenger into the Walgreens. I'm in the passenger into the Walgreens. I'm in the passenger seat at this point. She First off, she seat at this point. She First off, she seat at this point. She First off, she tricks me. I drove her to the tricks me. I drove her to the tricks me. I drove her to the In-N-Out. She's like, "Just let me In-N-Out. She's like, "Just let me In-N-Out. She's like, "Just let me drive." I'm like, "Fine." We get to the drive." I'm like, "Fine." We get to the drive." I'm like, "Fine." We get to the Walgreens. Walgreens. Walgreens. I'm in a good amount of pain at this I'm in a good amount of pain at this I'm in a good amount of pain at this point. She goes inside to get point. She goes inside to get point. She goes inside to get Gas-X pills or whatever. She comes out. Gas-X pills or whatever. She comes out. Gas-X pills or whatever. She comes out. I am upside down in my seat trying to I am upside down in my seat trying to I am upside down in my seat trying to relieve the gas bubble cuz that's what I relieve the gas bubble cuz that's what I relieve the gas bubble cuz that's what I thought it was. So, my head was down by thought it was. So, my head was down by thought it was. So, my head was down by where you keep your feet. where you keep your feet. where you keep your feet. I didn't let her know I was So, I she I didn't let her know I was So, I she I didn't let her know I was So, I she comes back into the car and is like, comes back into the car and is like, comes back into the car and is like, "What are you doing?" Just fully "What are you doing?" Just fully "What are you doing?" Just fully inverted in the car. inverted in the car. inverted in the car. I'm like, "I'm fine. Just, you know, I'm I'm like, "I'm fine. Just, you know, I'm I'm like, "I'm fine. Just, you know, I'm just trying to see if I could get the just trying to see if I could get the just trying to see if I could get the gas bubble to dislodge." gas bubble to dislodge." gas bubble to dislodge." And she asked me, And she asked me, And she asked me, "What do you want to do? Do you need to "What do you want to do? Do you need to "What do you want to do? Do you need to go to the hospital?" I'm like, "I think go to the hospital?" I'm like, "I think go to the hospital?" I'm like, "I think we're going to be okay. Just start we're going to be okay. Just start we're going to be okay. Just start driving home. We'll be going through driving home. We'll be going through driving home. We'll be going through Salt Lake, so we'll get to a higher Salt Lake, so we'll get to a higher Salt Lake, so we'll get to a higher level of care if it gets worse." level of care if it gets worse." level of care if it gets worse." She got on the phone, She got on the phone, She got on the phone, Googled the nearest hospital, and drove Googled the nearest hospital, and drove Googled the nearest hospital, and drove me straight there. So, that's how smart me straight there. So, that's how smart me straight there. So, that's how smart I am when it comes to pain. I am when it comes to pain. I am when it comes to pain. I wasn't verbalizing I wasn't verbalizing I wasn't verbalizing how bad it was. and it wasn't It was how bad it was. and it wasn't It was how bad it was. and it wasn't It was incrementally getting worse, but that's incrementally getting worse, but that's incrementally getting worse, but that's an example of A, I 100% don't have an example of A, I 100% don't have an example of A, I 100% don't have anything figured out. That's how dumb I anything figured out. That's how dumb I anything figured out. That's how dumb I am. And B, keeping it to myself didn't am. And B, keeping it to myself didn't am. And B, keeping it to myself didn't help much, but she knew me well enough help much, but she knew me well enough help much, but she knew me well enough that it was time to go. I was able to that it was time to go. I was able to that it was time to go. I was able to walk into the emergency room, and then I walk into the emergency room, and then I walk into the emergency room, and then I ended up laying on the emergency room ended up laying on the emergency room ended up laying on the emergency room floor, mostly because it was cool, and I floor, mostly because it was cool, and I floor, mostly because it was cool, and I I was starting to sweat at that point. I was starting to sweat at that point. I was starting to sweat at that point. They bring me in, and They bring me in, and They bring me in, and uh did a bunch of imaging, and I had an uh did a bunch of imaging, and I had an uh did a bunch of imaging, and I had an intestinal blockage, which required intestinal blockage, which required intestinal blockage, which required emergency surgery the next day. The most emergency surgery the next day. The most emergency surgery the next day. The most painful portion of that, though, was painful portion of that, though, was painful portion of that, though, was about 6 hours when they gave me this about 6 hours when they gave me this about 6 hours when they gave me this fluid that you drink to constrict all of fluid that you drink to constrict all of fluid that you drink to constrict all of your intestines that they generally give your intestines that they generally give your intestines that they generally give to elderly people who haven't [ __ ] in to elderly people who haven't [ __ ] in to elderly people who haven't [ __ ] in weeks. weeks. weeks. So, what ended up having is I had a loop So, what ended up having is I had a loop So, what ended up having is I had a loop of scar tissue on the inside wall of my of scar tissue on the inside wall of my of scar tissue on the inside wall of my stomach that a piece of intestines had stomach that a piece of intestines had stomach that a piece of intestines had gone through, and it cinched. gone through, and it cinched. gone through, and it cinched. So, that particular red juice of death So, that particular red juice of death So, that particular red juice of death was the single most consistent pain that was the single most consistent pain that was the single most consistent pain that I have ever been in. I have ever been in. I have ever been in. I sweat like I sweat through all of my I sweat like I sweat through all of my I sweat like I sweat through all of my clothing. clothing. clothing. Uh my sister and I have a genetic blood Uh my sister and I have a genetic blood Uh my sister and I have a genetic blood abnormality where I don't process abnormality where I don't process abnormality where I don't process opiates the same way as people do, so opiates the same way as people do, so opiates the same way as people do, so morphine to me doesn't even do anything. morphine to me doesn't even do anything. morphine to me doesn't even do anything. I did not know that until I got to the I did not know that until I got to the I did not know that until I got to the emergency room in Baghdad after being emergency room in Baghdad after being emergency room in Baghdad after being shot. And I kept asking for more shot. And I kept asking for more shot. And I kept asking for more morphine, and the guy pulled out a chart morphine, and the guy pulled out a chart morphine, and the guy pulled out a chart and said, "This [clears throat] is what and said, "This [clears throat] is what and said, "This [clears throat] is what you weigh. you weigh. you weigh. This is your dosage. You are now at the This is your dosage. You are now at the This is your dosage. You are now at the threshold. If we give you more, your threshold. If we give you more, your threshold. If we give you more, your heart's going to stop." So, they stopped heart's going to stop." So, they stopped heart's going to stop." So, they stopped the morphine, the morphine, the morphine, put me on Dilaudid, put me on Dilaudid, put me on Dilaudid, barely touching the pain at the maximum barely touching the pain at the maximum barely touching the pain at the maximum dosage of Dilaudid. dosage of Dilaudid. dosage of Dilaudid. But, that was But, that was But, that was the worst pain I've ever been in, and the worst pain I've ever been in, and the worst pain I've ever been in, and it's funny that you ask about talking it's funny that you ask about talking it's funny that you ask about talking about it or not. about it or not. about it or not. My sister is a nurse. She's been in My sister is a nurse. She's been in My sister is a nurse. She's been in health care for quite some time, and health care for quite some time, and health care for quite some time, and they had just gone on vacation. they had just gone on vacation. they had just gone on vacation. And my wife wanted to get a hold of And my wife wanted to get a hold of And my wife wanted to get a hold of them. And I'm like, "Whatever you do, do them. And I'm like, "Whatever you do, do them. And I'm like, "Whatever you do, do not call them and ruin their vacation." not call them and ruin their vacation." not call them and ruin their vacation." What she was trying to do What she was trying to do What she was trying to do was understand what she needed to say to was understand what she needed to say to was understand what she needed to say to the staff so she could talk to them in the staff so she could talk to them in the staff so she could talk to them in their language because the dosages they their language because the dosages they their language because the dosages they were getting just wasn't doing anything. were getting just wasn't doing anything. were getting just wasn't doing anything. And I think to the degree they thought I And I think to the degree they thought I And I think to the degree they thought I was was was uh uh uh like seeking meds even though I think like seeking meds even though I think like seeking meds even though I think the athletic sweat might have been a the athletic sweat might have been a the athletic sweat might have been a little bit of a tell and the fact that little bit of a tell and the fact that little bit of a tell and the fact that I'm like I'm like I'm like writhing and the doctor's coming I'm writhing and the doctor's coming I'm writhing and the doctor's coming I'm like, "I don't care what it is, cut it like, "I don't care what it is, cut it like, "I don't care what it is, cut it out right now. We can just do sur- He's out right now. We can just do sur- He's out right now. We can just do sur- He's like, "Oh, we got to do imagery and like, "Oh, we got to do imagery and like, "Oh, we got to do imagery and you got to do paperwork." I'm like, you got to do paperwork." I'm like, you got to do paperwork." I'm like, "Sign my name. Let like let's just do "Sign my name. Let like let's just do "Sign my name. Let like let's just do the uh knock me out and cut this out of the uh knock me out and cut this out of the uh knock me out and cut this out of my body right now. I don't even care my body right now. I don't even care my body right now. I don't even care what's left." what's left." what's left." But But But I didn't even want to share that with my I didn't even want to share that with my I didn't even want to share that with my sister sister sister cuz I didn't want to ruin her experience cuz I didn't want to ruin her experience cuz I didn't want to ruin her experience with her family in another country and with her family in another country and with her family in another country and that didn't make anything better. that didn't make anything better. that didn't make anything better. Shortly after that Shortly after that Shortly after that right after I told my wife not to call right after I told my wife not to call right after I told my wife not to call her, she went outside and called her. her, she went outside and called her. her, she went outside and called her. And then I got switched over to the ICU And then I got switched over to the ICU And then I got switched over to the ICU where they hit me with ketamine and that where they hit me with ketamine and that where they hit me with ketamine and that did the trick. did the trick. did the trick. Almost to the point where they almost Almost to the point where they almost Almost to the point where they almost they almost pushed me into the K hole they almost pushed me into the K hole they almost pushed me into the K hole and I didn't like that at all. I could and I didn't like that at all. I could and I didn't like that at all. I could hear the hairs on the inside of my ears hear the hairs on the inside of my ears hear the hairs on the inside of my ears starting to move around. And it was a starting to move around. And it was a starting to move around. And it was a dead quiet room and I remember saying to dead quiet room and I remember saying to dead quiet room and I remember saying to my wife my wife my wife "Can you hear it? It's so loud in here." "Can you hear it? It's so loud in here." "Can you hear it? It's so loud in here." And she's like And she's like And she's like "It is "It is "It is completely and utterly silent." Right at completely and utterly silent." Right at completely and utterly silent." Right at the lip. To the point where I told the the lip. To the point where I told the the lip. To the point where I told the doctor, "Please no more ketamine doctor, "Please no more ketamine doctor, "Please no more ketamine regardless of what it takes." But then regardless of what it takes." But then regardless of what it takes." But then they went and did the surgery. they went and did the surgery. they went and did the surgery. All of that to say All of that to say All of that to say the more open and honest I was the more open and honest I was the more open and honest I was the better it got. the better it got. the better it got. And that time where I was trying to not And that time where I was trying to not And that time where I was trying to not share that or not talk about the pain, share that or not talk about the pain, share that or not talk about the pain, it was still just as real for me. it was still just as real for me. it was still just as real for me. But there was no benefit in being quiet But there was no benefit in being quiet But there was no benefit in being quiet like that. And I think that that's like that. And I think that that's like that. And I think that that's something that people can something that people can something that people can in my life and I'm not sure yours every time I've verbalized pain or grief every time I've verbalized pain or grief or struggle or struggle or struggle surrounded by people willing to help surrounded by people willing to help surrounded by people willing to help out. out. out. Why not talk about it? What's the Why not talk about it? What's the Why not talk about it? What's the potential downside if you look at it potential downside if you look at it potential downside if you look at it purely from a physical perspective was purely from a physical perspective was purely from a physical perspective was me suffering for a few more hours me suffering for a few more hours me suffering for a few more hours because I'm an idiot. because I'm an idiot. because I'm an idiot. >> [laughter] >> Well, I totally agree that when it's >> Well, I totally agree that when it's real pain real pain real pain it's important to it's important to it's important to share. Also, uh God bless your your wife share. Also, uh God bless your your wife share. Also, uh God bless your your wife for not listening to you around this for not listening to you around this for not listening to you around this particular issue. particular issue. particular issue. >> me figured out. It's everything up to a >> me figured out. It's everything up to a >> me figured out. It's everything up to a point she's like, "Nope, I'm we're going point she's like, "Nope, I'm we're going point she's like, "Nope, I'm we're going to we're going to go ahead and take the to we're going to go ahead and take the to we're going to go ahead and take the wheel from here." wheel from here." wheel from here." >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Once I got in uh >> Once I got in uh >> Once I got in uh uh before we came in here we were uh before we came in here we were uh before we came in here we were talking about dogs. Uh we'll get back to talking about dogs. Uh we'll get back to talking about dogs. Uh we'll get back to but you know, having owned a bulldog but you know, having owned a bulldog but you know, having owned a bulldog >> I must have you realized that they hide >> I must have you realized that they hide >> I must have you realized that they hide their pain. Like he you know, you know their pain. Like he you know, you know their pain. Like he you know, you know >> ran out to uh you know, two they don't >> ran out to uh you know, two they don't >> ran out to uh you know, two they don't have knees, right? But ran out to uh have knees, right? But ran out to uh have knees, right? But ran out to uh ACLs, right? I mean, he was his own ACLs, right? I mean, he was his own ACLs, right? I mean, he was his own worst enemy. But he would never quit on worst enemy. But he would never quit on worst enemy. But he would never quit on me either. So, it's like you kind of me either. So, it's like you kind of me either. So, it's like you kind of have to know [clears throat] that about have to know [clears throat] that about have to know [clears throat] that about bulldogs, right? So, there's enough uh bulldogs, right? So, there's enough uh bulldogs, right? So, there's enough uh bulldog in you. Uh bulldog in you. Uh bulldog in you. Uh you have a dachshund. you have a dachshund. you have a dachshund. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> dog. I know that they're very, very >> dog. I know that they're very, very >> dog. I know that they're very, very smart and they're kind of mischievous. smart and they're kind of mischievous. smart and they're kind of mischievous. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Right? But they're loyal. They like >> Right? But they're loyal. They like >> Right? But they're loyal. They like >> Um >> Um >> Um You are either one of their people or You are either one of their people or You are either one of their people or you're one of their enemies. you're one of their enemies. you're one of their enemies. >> Is that you? >> Is that you? >> Is that you? >> I'm his I'm probably his favorite >> I'm his I'm probably his favorite >> I'm his I'm probably his favorite person. person. person. >> No, I meant is that your your phenotype, >> No, I meant is that your your phenotype, >> No, I meant is that your your phenotype, too? Is that your you're either one of too? Is that your you're either one of too? Is that your you're either one of my people or you're one of my enemies? my people or you're one of my enemies? my people or you're one of my enemies? >> I don't think so. >> I don't think so. >> I don't think so. >> Okay. Yeah, you don't strike me that >> Okay. Yeah, you don't strike me that >> Okay. Yeah, you don't strike me that way. way. way. >> I am inherently distrustful of human >> I am inherently distrustful of human >> I am inherently distrustful of human beings just based off my own personal beings just based off my own personal beings just based off my own personal experience. experience. experience. >> All human beings? >> All human beings? >> All human beings? >> Not all human beings. Well, yes, the >> Not all human beings. Well, yes, the >> Not all human beings. Well, yes, the species but not every person that I that species but not every person that I that species but not every person that I that I meet. I am just aware I meet. I am just aware I meet. I am just aware that there is a subsection of who we are that there is a subsection of who we are that there is a subsection of who we are that is out there that is out there that is out there that ticks in the completely opposite that ticks in the completely opposite that ticks in the completely opposite manner with which I do and I'm not to manner with which I do and I'm not to manner with which I do and I'm not to say here to say that's right or wrong, say here to say that's right or wrong, say here to say that's right or wrong, but I've seen it enough with my own eyes but I've seen it enough with my own eyes but I've seen it enough with my own eyes that I can never forget that. that I can never forget that. that I can never forget that. >> You're talking about from your your time >> You're talking about from your your time >> You're talking about from your your time on deployments? on deployments? on deployments? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Just seeing beliefs and ideologies that >> Just seeing beliefs and ideologies that >> Just seeing beliefs and ideologies that are completely at odds with what my are completely at odds with what my are completely at odds with what my beliefs and ideologies are and beliefs and ideologies are and beliefs and ideologies are and sorry for anybody listening to this, sorry for anybody listening to this, sorry for anybody listening to this, whatever your belief and ideology is, whatever your belief and ideology is, whatever your belief and ideology is, there is an axis out there that feels there is an axis out there that feels there is an axis out there that feels that way. that's just the way that it that way. that's just the way that it that way. that's just the way that it is. It doesn't mean you should distrust is. It doesn't mean you should distrust is. It doesn't mean you should distrust everybody. I just remind myself that everybody. I just remind myself that everybody. I just remind myself that human beings are really capable of some human beings are really capable of some human beings are really capable of some gnarly stuff, but I also don't walk gnarly stuff, but I also don't walk gnarly stuff, but I also don't walk around around around snap judging everybody. But I try to snap judging everybody. But I try to snap judging everybody. But I try to enjoy my life, just like everybody else enjoy my life, just like everybody else enjoy my life, just like everybody else does. But yeah, for that dog, it's uh does. But yeah, for that dog, it's uh does. But yeah, for that dog, it's uh you can go from being one of his enemies you can go from being one of his enemies you can go from being one of his enemies to one of his friends though. If you to one of his friends though. If you to one of his friends though. If you have enough treats and spend enough time have enough treats and spend enough time have enough treats and spend enough time around him, then he gets super excited around him, then he gets super excited around him, then he gets super excited when he sees you. But they're amazing when he sees you. But they're amazing when he sees you. But they're amazing dogs. dogs. dogs. >> Yeah, I love dachshunds. I I don't know >> Yeah, I love dachshunds. I I don't know >> Yeah, I love dachshunds. I I don't know that I have the that I have the that I have the the tenacity to own one. But I mean cuz the tenacity to own one. But I mean cuz the tenacity to own one. But I mean cuz bulldogs are stubborn. bulldogs are stubborn. bulldogs are stubborn. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> But >> But >> But they're so food driven they're so food driven they're so food driven and and and they're not that smart. they're not that smart. they're not that smart. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Don't tell them that. I've had a bulldog >> Don't tell them that. I've had a bulldog >> Don't tell them that. I've had a bulldog long enough and now a second one to know long enough and now a second one to know long enough and now a second one to know that they're that they're that they're um and it's part of what makes them um and it's part of what makes them um and it's part of what makes them great. great. great. They they don't do advanced math on on They they don't do advanced math on on They they don't do advanced math on on their life experience. They're doing their life experience. They're doing their life experience. They're doing basic addition basic addition basic addition and sleeping. and sleeping. and sleeping. >> We have >> We have >> We have >> They'll die for you, >> They'll die for you, >> They'll die for you, but if your life isn't on the line, but if your life isn't on the line, but if your life isn't on the line, they're not doing [ __ ] at all. That's they're not doing [ __ ] at all. That's they're not doing [ __ ] at all. That's kind of like the bulldog. kind of like the bulldog. kind of like the bulldog. >> Our dog does puzzles. >> Our dog does puzzles. >> Our dog does puzzles. >> Yeah. So, right. That that's what I'm >> Yeah. So, right. That that's what I'm >> Yeah. So, right. That that's what I'm talking about. Yeah. talking about. Yeah. talking about. Yeah. >> And like we have an outside fetch ball >> And like we have an outside fetch ball >> And like we have an outside fetch ball that I thought didn't fit through the that I thought didn't fit through the that I thought didn't fit through the doggy door. It was in the house the doggy door. It was in the house the doggy door. It was in the house the other day. other day. other day. >> What's going on here? >> What's going on here? >> What's going on here? >> Right. Right. [laughter] Totally same >> Right. Right. [laughter] Totally same >> Right. Right. [laughter] Totally same same species, all completely different same species, all completely different same species, all completely different brain structures. brain structures. brain structures. >> Man. >> Man. >> Man. >> Well, and they were bred to be >> Well, and they were bred to be >> Well, and they were bred to be independent because they were bred to be independent because they were bred to be independent because they were bred to be at down in little tunnels going for I at down in little tunnels going for I at down in little tunnels going for I tell people they were bred to fight tell people they were bred to fight tell people they were bred to fight lions. Nobody seems to believe me. And lions. Nobody seems to believe me. And lions. Nobody seems to believe me. And I'm also not sure that that's true, but I'm also not sure that that's true, but I'm also not sure that that's true, but >> You need 75 of those. >> You need 75 of those. >> You need 75 of those. >> Yeah, like rats. Yeah, that's that's >> Yeah, like rats. Yeah, that's that's >> Yeah, like rats. Yeah, that's that's what I tell people. They hunt in packs, what I tell people. They hunt in packs, what I tell people. They hunt in packs, obviously. I would be terrified of 75 obviously. I would be terrified of 75 obviously. I would be terrified of 75 wiener dogs chasing me down. wiener dogs chasing me down. wiener dogs chasing me down. >> Absolutely. >> Absolutely. >> Absolutely. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> No, they're down down in tunnels and >> No, they're down down in tunnels and >> No, they're down down in tunnels and that's also why they bark so much and that's also why they bark so much and that's also why they bark so much and why their bark is so loud. It's so it's why their bark is so loud. It's so it's why their bark is so loud. It's so it's their handlers could track them as they their handlers could track them as they their handlers could track them as they went. So, a lot of that stuff makes went. So, a lot of that stuff makes went. So, a lot of that stuff makes sense. sense. sense. Not necessarily in an urban setting, but Not necessarily in an urban setting, but Not necessarily in an urban setting, but you know, it's fun to deal with. you know, it's fun to deal with. you know, it's fun to deal with. Your dog needs to do puzzles or he'll Your dog needs to do puzzles or he'll Your dog needs to do puzzles or he'll drive you crazy. drive you crazy. drive you crazy. >> Yeah, we do go down the the the >> Yeah, we do go down the the the >> Yeah, we do go down the the the conceptual rabbit hole of uh conceptual rabbit hole of uh conceptual rabbit hole of uh of dog breeds, but we won't because we of dog breeds, but we won't because we of dog breeds, but we won't because we left an important plate spinning that I left an important plate spinning that I left an important plate spinning that I want to return to. What do we leave? want to return to. What do we leave? want to return to. What do we leave? This notion of time perception to This notion of time perception to This notion of time perception to navigate everyday life more effectively navigate everyday life more effectively navigate everyday life more effectively and time perception and time perception and time perception to navigate the real really hard stuff. to navigate the real really hard stuff. to navigate the real really hard stuff. Your community by virtue of the work Your community by virtue of the work Your community by virtue of the work that you guys that you guys that you guys did and do lose a lot of people. did and do lose a lot of people. did and do lose a lot of people. Relative to other professions, there's a Relative to other professions, there's a Relative to other professions, there's a there's a high fatality rate relative to there's a high fatality rate relative to there's a high fatality rate relative to other professions, but in the larger other professions, but in the larger other professions, but in the larger outside world now, you know, we are outside world now, you know, we are outside world now, you know, we are seeing much more suicide. Let's just be seeing much more suicide. Let's just be seeing much more suicide. Let's just be real blunt. real blunt. real blunt. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Walking in here today, we were talking >> Walking in here today, we were talking >> Walking in here today, we were talking to one of our to one of our to one of our team members here, not SEAL team team members here, not SEAL team team members here, not SEAL team members, but editors, you know, somebody members, but editors, you know, somebody members, but editors, you know, somebody a real a real a real um um um a real luminary in the a real luminary in the a real luminary in the skateboarding world, you know, skateboarding world, you know, skateboarding world, you know, cause of death still unclear, but you cause of death still unclear, but you cause of death still unclear, but you know, like this yet another example of know, like this yet another example of know, like this yet another example of somebody highly accomplished, somebody highly accomplished, somebody highly accomplished, family, etc. I have a colleague who family, etc. I have a colleague who family, etc. I have a colleague who recently recently recently sadly took his own life. Like this just sadly took his own life. Like this just sadly took his own life. Like this just happens across domains, right? And it's happens across domains, right? And it's happens across domains, right? And it's not just men, it's women, too, but it not just men, it's women, too, but it not just men, it's women, too, but it does seem to be higher among men these does seem to be higher among men these does seem to be higher among men these days. You know, it raises some really days. You know, it raises some really days. You know, it raises some really complicated, but I think important complicated, but I think important complicated, but I think important questions around questions around questions around what what what is going through people's minds that is going through people's minds that is going through people's minds that would lead them them to think that it would lead them them to think that it would lead them them to think that it was or should be the end of the line for was or should be the end of the line for was or should be the end of the line for them them them for themselves. Goes against every bit for themselves. Goes against every bit for themselves. Goes against every bit of adaptive evolutionary biology. It of adaptive evolutionary biology. It of adaptive evolutionary biology. It goes against all religious doctrine in goes against all religious doctrine in goes against all religious doctrine in terms of what's adaptive. So, you know, terms of what's adaptive. So, you know, terms of what's adaptive. So, you know, there's no straightforward answer to there's no straightforward answer to there's no straightforward answer to this, but this, but this, but earlier we were talking about before we earlier we were talking about before we earlier we were talking about before we were recording, perhaps people get into were recording, perhaps people get into were recording, perhaps people get into a tunnel of the idea that the way they a tunnel of the idea that the way they a tunnel of the idea that the way they feel in a given moment is the way it's feel in a given moment is the way it's feel in a given moment is the way it's going to be forever. going to be forever. going to be forever. So, two guys sitting here who are not in So, two guys sitting here who are not in So, two guys sitting here who are not in that state to kind of wonder what that that state to kind of wonder what that that state to kind of wonder what that is is we can only speculate. But is is we can only speculate. But is is we can only speculate. But what do you think what do you think what do you think based on what you've observed and you're based on what you've observed and you're based on what you've observed and you're welcome to share if you like this from welcome to share if you like this from welcome to share if you like this from your book you talk about Dave. your book you talk about Dave. your book you talk about Dave. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Is there any understanding of of what's >> Is there any understanding of of what's >> Is there any understanding of of what's going on for people in the in the days, going on for people in the in the days, going on for people in the in the days, weeks, months, moments leading up to weeks, months, moments leading up to weeks, months, moments leading up to those decisions that you know, maybe we those decisions that you know, maybe we those decisions that you know, maybe we can do some good here. can do some good here. can do some good here. And help people identify if they're And help people identify if they're And help people identify if they're starting to enter that it's always going starting to enter that it's always going starting to enter that it's always going to feel like this mode. to feel like this mode. to feel like this mode. >> And there have been so many >> And there have been so many >> And there have been so many conversations about this and there are conversations about this and there are conversations about this and there are so many programs that exist to try to so many programs that exist to try to so many programs that exist to try to help. I'll I'll say guys because that's help. I'll I'll say guys because that's help. I'll I'll say guys because that's the community that I came from with the community that I came from with the community that I came from with this. this. this. The Green Beret community The Green Beret community The Green Beret community has now lost more people to suicide than has now lost more people to suicide than has now lost more people to suicide than combat operations since 2001. combat operations since 2001. combat operations since 2001. >> What? >> What? >> What? >> Yep. I don't know where the SEAL >> Yep. I don't know where the SEAL >> Yep. I don't know where the SEAL community is with that, but I bet you community is with that, but I bet you community is with that, but I bet you they're close. they're close. they're close. The numbers will eclipse for sure. The numbers will eclipse for sure. The numbers will eclipse for sure. So So So it is an issue, but it is an unavoidable it is an issue, but it is an unavoidable it is an issue, but it is an unavoidable issue. Every situation is different to a issue. Every situation is different to a issue. Every situation is different to a degree that they share some degree that they share some degree that they share some similarities. The So in speaking similarities. The So in speaking similarities. The So in speaking specifically of the SEAL teams specifically of the SEAL teams specifically of the SEAL teams I mean there's the biggest similarity, I mean there's the biggest similarity, I mean there's the biggest similarity, right? They came from that community and right? They came from that community and right? They came from that community and they probably had they probably had they probably had some semblance of shared experiences some semblance of shared experiences some semblance of shared experiences whether that be deployments, time away whether that be deployments, time away whether that be deployments, time away from family, the psychological and from family, the psychological and from family, the psychological and physiological stresses of the job. physiological stresses of the job. physiological stresses of the job. But it doesn't seem to impact everybody But it doesn't seem to impact everybody But it doesn't seem to impact everybody equally either. Everybody's experiences equally either. Everybody's experiences equally either. Everybody's experiences differ. You could be in a room I was differ. You could be in a room I was differ. You could be in a room I was going to say with six people, but it's going to say with six people, but it's going to say with six people, but it's unlikely you'll be in a room with six unlikely you'll be in a room with six unlikely you'll be in a room with six people just because uh people just because uh people just because uh we don't generally have that many people we don't generally have that many people we don't generally have that many people and we try to solve issues with as few and we try to solve issues with as few and we try to solve issues with as few as possible. Well, let's say four. I as possible. Well, let's say four. I as possible. Well, let's say four. I have no understanding why have no understanding why have no understanding why the same shared experience although the same shared experience although the same shared experience although maybe maybe maybe viewed from a slightly different angle viewed from a slightly different angle viewed from a slightly different angle in totality could break somebody, but in totality could break somebody, but in totality could break somebody, but not the other three or why everybody has not the other three or why everybody has not the other three or why everybody has a different volume of you know, a different volume of you know, a different volume of you know, somebody's got this much volume versus somebody's got this much volume versus somebody's got this much volume versus this much versus a thimble. And I don't this much versus a thimble. And I don't this much versus a thimble. And I don't I don't understand why I don't understand why I don't understand why those experiences those experiences those experiences seem to break some people. seem to break some people. seem to break some people. Or, in my opinion, I think they can, if Or, in my opinion, I think they can, if Or, in my opinion, I think they can, if you put the work in, make you an even you put the work in, make you an even you put the work in, make you an even better version of yourself. And I also better version of yourself. And I also better version of yourself. And I also think that you can pour some of the think that you can pour some of the think that you can pour some of the stuff out or drill a hole in the bottom stuff out or drill a hole in the bottom stuff out or drill a hole in the bottom and work through these things. and work through these things. and work through these things. Dave being the example, Dave being the example, Dave being the example, I The things that stick out would be And I The things that stick out would be And I The things that stick out would be And again, this is me This is me speaking. I again, this is me This is me speaking. I again, this is me This is me speaking. I can't speak for Dave. There was a huge delta, I think, between There was a huge delta, I think, between how he thought of himself and how other how he thought of himself and how other how he thought of himself and how other people thought of him. And in most of the funerals that I've And in most of the funerals that I've gone to that involved suicide, gone to that involved suicide, gone to that involved suicide, the number one question is the number one question is the number one question is why? why? why? Why didn't somebody reach out for help? Why didn't somebody reach out for help? Why didn't somebody reach out for help? Or, and maybe they did, because you Or, and maybe they did, because you Or, and maybe they did, because you don't you know, you don't I mean, I don't you know, you don't I mean, I don't you know, you don't I mean, I guess you could look at their electronic guess you could look at their electronic guess you could look at their electronic device or maybe it was a face-to-face. device or maybe it was a face-to-face. device or maybe it was a face-to-face. It's hard to say. It's hard to say. It's hard to say. But, the difference in But, the difference in But, the difference in what Dave left behind. He left behind what Dave left behind. He left behind what Dave left behind. He left behind some journals. some journals. some journals. And I think that there are pros and cons. pros and cons. If you are in a place where you have the If you are in a place where you have the If you are in a place where you have the opportunity to read somebody's what they opportunity to read somebody's what they opportunity to read somebody's what they have left behind and not, have left behind and not, have left behind and not, you may not want to know. It may make it you may not want to know. It may make it you may not want to know. It may make it more difficult because I've also seen more difficult because I've also seen more difficult because I've also seen people attach a a very immense amount of people attach a a very immense amount of people attach a a very immense amount of grief because they either think that grief because they either think that grief because they either think that what was written and left behind what was written and left behind what was written and left behind was specifically about them. Or, they Oh was specifically about them. Or, they Oh was specifically about them. Or, they Oh man, I was there and I could have, you man, I was there and I could have, you man, I was there and I could have, you know, the coulda, woulda, shoulda, which know, the coulda, woulda, shoulda, which know, the coulda, woulda, shoulda, which is all hypothetical and doesn't change is all hypothetical and doesn't change is all hypothetical and doesn't change the fact that it already happened. But, the fact that it already happened. But, the fact that it already happened. But, I've seen people deeply, deeply struggle I've seen people deeply, deeply struggle I've seen people deeply, deeply struggle with that. with that. with that. So, that would be the negative. The pro So, that would be the negative. The pro So, that would be the negative. The pro could be could be could be perhaps, I don't know, closure. So, it perhaps, I don't know, closure. So, it perhaps, I don't know, closure. So, it really depends on the person. Choose really depends on the person. Choose really depends on the person. Choose wisely as somebody who is a wisely as somebody who is a wisely as somebody who is a experienced that. experienced that. experienced that. Um my experience is it was a combination Um my experience is it was a combination Um my experience is it was a combination of both. I I felt a deeper level of of both. I I felt a deeper level of of both. I I felt a deeper level of understanding, but also a deep sense I understanding, but also a deep sense I understanding, but also a deep sense I wish I would have done more. wish I would have done more. wish I would have done more. >> [snorts] >> The internal struggles >> The internal struggles and self-talk and self-talk and self-talk and monologue and monologue and monologue I couldn't read it without crying. And I don't think he realized And I don't think he realized how highly how highly how highly other people thought of him. other people thought of him. other people thought of him. The gap between the two is just The gap between the two is just The gap between the two is just unbelievable. He He and not everybody unbelievable. He He and not everybody unbelievable. He He and not everybody is. is. is. He was isolated at the time. He was isolated at the time. He was isolated at the time. There was alcohol involved to the best There was alcohol involved to the best There was alcohol involved to the best of my knowledge. of my knowledge. of my knowledge. Which unfortunately, especially in the Which unfortunately, especially in the Which unfortunately, especially in the community that I come from, those two community that I come from, those two community that I come from, those two things are pretty often tied, not things are pretty often tied, not things are pretty often tied, not always, but often tied alcohol in that always, but often tied alcohol in that always, but often tied alcohol in that decision as well. decision as well. decision as well. And the stats are And the stats are And the stats are pretty well back about, you know, that pretty well back about, you know, that pretty well back about, you know, that alcohol being a You could speak to this, alcohol being a You could speak to this, alcohol being a You could speak to this, you know, but you know, but you know, but >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> central nervous system depressant. It's >> central nervous system depressant. It's >> central nervous system depressant. It's not like, "Yeah, yeah, I'm feeling the not like, "Yeah, yeah, I'm feeling the not like, "Yeah, yeah, I'm feeling the best I've ever felt." It generally will best I've ever felt." It generally will best I've ever felt." It generally will spiral you in the other direction. spiral you in the other direction. spiral you in the other direction. But when I look at Dave, he was and is But when I look at Dave, he was and is But when I look at Dave, he was and is to this day what I would consider to be to this day what I would consider to be to this day what I would consider to be the standard for a team guy. the standard for a team guy. the standard for a team guy. And what I loved about him so much is And what I loved about him so much is And what I loved about him so much is that not only did he expect that that not only did he expect that that not only did he expect that standard from other people, but he held standard from other people, but he held standard from other people, but he held it himself. And actually more than that. it himself. And actually more than that. it himself. And actually more than that. I think I would say he held himself to a I think I would say he held himself to a I think I would say he held himself to a higher standard higher standard higher standard than he would hold other people to. than he would hold other people to. than he would hold other people to. If you met his standard, you were going If you met his standard, you were going If you met his standard, you were going to get two thumbs up. Probably not a pat to get two thumbs up. Probably not a pat to get two thumbs up. Probably not a pat on the back, but you were going to get on the back, but you were going to get on the back, but you were going to get two thumbs up, and you were going to two thumbs up, and you were going to two thumbs up, and you were going to know you did a good job. know you did a good job. know you did a good job. If you did not meet his standard, which If you did not meet his standard, which If you did not meet his standard, which I tested many times, you were very I tested many times, you were very I tested many times, you were very specifically told specifically told specifically told where you were deficient in life and as where you were deficient in life and as where you were deficient in life and as a human being. a human being. a human being. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> And he God, he had a tongue like a whip. >> And he God, he had a tongue like a whip. >> And he God, he had a tongue like a whip. He was awesome. And uh He was awesome. And uh He was awesome. And uh I I at the end, and this is me speaking I I at the end, and this is me speaking I I at the end, and this is me speaking for him a little bit, for him a little bit, for him a little bit, I think he arrived at a place I think he arrived at a place I think he arrived at a place where he couldn't live with the reality where he couldn't live with the reality where he couldn't live with the reality that he couldn't hold himself to the that he couldn't hold himself to the that he couldn't hold himself to the standard that he had expected from other standard that he had expected from other standard that he had expected from other people, and I think it destroyed him. people, and I think it destroyed him. people, and I think it destroyed him. But I don't know if he shared that with But I don't know if he shared that with But I don't know if he shared that with anybody. I don't think so. Some of the anybody. I don't think so. Some of the anybody. I don't think so. Some of the last people that he spoke with last people that he spoke with last people that he spoke with knew that he was knew that he was knew that he was struggling for sure. He He had an struggling for sure. He He had an struggling for sure. He He had an alcohol addiction issue for sure. And alcohol addiction issue for sure. And alcohol addiction issue for sure. And for clarity, I mean, that's for clarity, I mean, that's for clarity, I mean, that's Dave would be pissed actually if I Dave would be pissed actually if I Dave would be pissed actually if I didn't mention that cuz he would never didn't mention that cuz he would never didn't mention that cuz he would never tolerate anybody else beating around the tolerate anybody else beating around the tolerate anybody else beating around the bush. He legitimately had an an issue bush. He legitimately had an an issue bush. He legitimately had an an issue with alcohol as with alcohol as with alcohol as some people do from that community. some people do from that community. some people do from that community. They knew that he was struggling. He's They knew that he was struggling. He's They knew that he was struggling. He's the only guy I know who did multiple the only guy I know who did multiple the only guy I know who did multiple treatments of treatments of treatments of I have zero experience in psychedelics, I have zero experience in psychedelics, I have zero experience in psychedelics, but from listening to people talk about but from listening to people talk about but from listening to people talk about ayahuasca and ibogaine ayahuasca and ibogaine ayahuasca and ibogaine rides that don't seem to be a very good rides that don't seem to be a very good rides that don't seem to be a very good time. time. time. And often times will instantaneously And often times will instantaneously And often times will instantaneously change the relationship they have with change the relationship they have with change the relationship they have with substances, whether it's substances, whether it's substances, whether it's opiates or alcohol. Not that you would opiates or alcohol. Not that you would opiates or alcohol. Not that you would never drink again, but their their never drink again, but their their never drink again, but their their relationship with it just shifts. relationship with it just shifts. relationship with it just shifts. They're like, "You know what? Uh, I They're like, "You know what? Uh, I They're like, "You know what? Uh, I don't even have the desire to do so." don't even have the desire to do so." don't even have the desire to do so." 72 hours later, 96 hours later, and it's 72 hours later, 96 hours later, and it's 72 hours later, 96 hours later, and it's not like he just tried once. not like he just tried once. not like he just tried once. He would go back. He would go back. He would go back. He would even facilitate He would even facilitate He would even facilitate treatment for other people. [snorts] But it wasn't working for him, but he But it wasn't working for him, but he wasn't he wasn't sharing that. And that wasn't he wasn't sharing that. And that wasn't he wasn't sharing that. And that isolation and loneliness isolation and loneliness isolation and loneliness and that difference between that and that difference between that and that difference between that standard and what he was able to do standard and what he was able to do standard and what he was able to do got him to that place got him to that place got him to that place where he put a gun in his mouth, you where he put a gun in his mouth, you where he put a gun in his mouth, you know, alone, know, alone, know, alone, isolated at his family home in Florida. isolated at his family home in Florida. isolated at his family home in Florida. And when everybody showed up at the And when everybody showed up at the And when everybody showed up at the funeral, it's like, funeral, it's like, funeral, it's like, "What could we What could we have done "What could we What could we have done "What could we What could we have done more?" And [clears throat] that And that more?" And [clears throat] that And that more?" And [clears throat] that And that happens at every Nobody's at a funeral happens at every Nobody's at a funeral happens at every Nobody's at a funeral saying, "I did everything I could." saying, "I did everything I could." saying, "I did everything I could." Never have heard that, by the way. To Never have heard that, by the way. To Never have heard that, by the way. To just God, I nailed it. I'm like, really? just God, I nailed it. I'm like, really? just God, I nailed it. I'm like, really? Exhibit A would like none of us nailed Exhibit A would like none of us nailed Exhibit A would like none of us nailed it. We all [ __ ] up. Or did we do the best that we could and did we do the best that we could and it's something that we can't stop. I it's something that we can't stop. I it's something that we can't stop. I don't know. I've have I've started to don't know. I've have I've started to don't know. I've have I've started to have pretty deep conversations with have pretty deep conversations with have pretty deep conversations with friends around from that community friends around from that community friends around from that community around what can be done. around what can be done. around what can be done. I don't think an absolutist approach is I don't think an absolutist approach is I don't think an absolutist approach is good. I think driving to zero is good. I think driving to zero is good. I think driving to zero is possible because is impossible because possible because is impossible because possible because is impossible because it's a it's a an affliction that strikes it's a it's a an affliction that strikes it's a it's a an affliction that strikes all of humanity. all of humanity. all of humanity. A reductionist approach I think is A reductionist approach I think is A reductionist approach I think is helpful. helpful. helpful. But at this point I don't know what else But at this point I don't know what else But at this point I don't know what else can be done. can be done. can be done. I mean, millions of dollars advocated I mean, millions of dollars advocated I mean, millions of dollars advocated towards these type of programs. Things towards these type of programs. Things towards these type of programs. Things like like like Ambio, you know, just south of the Ambio, you know, just south of the Ambio, you know, just south of the border or what Marcus and Amber border or what Marcus and Amber border or what Marcus and Amber compeller doing with the vets, which are compeller doing with the vets, which are compeller doing with the vets, which are largely an interface to the and there's largely an interface to the and there's largely an interface to the and there's portals and people and I'm on some of portals and people and I'm on some of portals and people and I'm on some of these groups where these groups where these groups where even the inkling even the inkling even the inkling somebody is in trouble or you need help somebody is in trouble or you need help somebody is in trouble or you need help like people are they're trying to get like people are they're trying to get like people are they're trying to get stuff done, getting connected. People stuff done, getting connected. People stuff done, getting connected. People are getting on airplanes and I was with are getting on airplanes and I was with are getting on airplanes and I was with mutual friend DJ, I think it was last mutual friend DJ, I think it was last mutual friend DJ, I think it was last week and one of his new guys who had week and one of his new guys who had week and one of his new guys who had become a team leader who had gotten out become a team leader who had gotten out become a team leader who had gotten out just killed himself. just killed himself. just killed himself. And both and And both and And both and we we sit there with faces like this we we sit there with faces like this we we sit there with faces like this with with with things that are un that we don't know things that are un that we don't know things that are un that we don't know what to say. And between us, I don't what to say. And between us, I don't what to say. And between us, I don't know. know. know. >> [sighs] >> [sighs] >> [sighs] >> I don't know what's going on there. >> I don't know what's going on there. >> I don't know what's going on there. >> Yeah, well I certainly don't know >> Yeah, well I certainly don't know >> Yeah, well I certainly don't know either. I think that um either. I think that um either. I think that um if we can if we can if we can borrow anything useful from other areas borrow anything useful from other areas borrow anything useful from other areas of of of uh mental health and neuroscience cuz it uh mental health and neuroscience cuz it uh mental health and neuroscience cuz it I think ultimately this is a brain I think ultimately this is a brain I think ultimately this is a brain issue. issue. issue. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Right? I don't think it's like a gut >> Right? I don't think it's like a gut >> Right? I don't think it's like a gut health issue, although that could impact health issue, although that could impact health issue, although that could impact it, right? I might be wrong. it, right? I might be wrong. it, right? I might be wrong. >> correlary. I mean >> correlary. I mean >> correlary. I mean >> Right, could be yeah. I mean that it >> Right, could be yeah. I mean that it >> Right, could be yeah. I mean that it could be but but I think it's a a could be but but I think it's a a could be but but I think it's a a thought process that leads to a decision thought process that leads to a decision thought process that leads to a decision that, you know, and that's in the brain. that, you know, and that's in the brain. that, you know, and that's in the brain. So, if we were to just take like start So, if we were to just take like start So, if we were to just take like start at ground truths, at ground truths, at ground truths, not to try and make this reductionist, not to try and make this reductionist, not to try and make this reductionist, we'd say maybe suicidality is not one we'd say maybe suicidality is not one we'd say maybe suicidality is not one thing. thing. thing. Just like we know that Just like we know that Just like we know that you can get a fever from a lot of you can get a fever from a lot of you can get a fever from a lot of things. Yeah. I don't want to say no one things. Yeah. I don't want to say no one things. Yeah. I don't want to say no one is immune because I do think that is immune because I do think that is immune because I do think that fortunately, it's, you know, fortunately, it's, you know, fortunately, it's, you know, not everybody, but maybe everyone has not everybody, but maybe everyone has not everybody, but maybe everyone has the potential to go there and there are the potential to go there and there are the potential to go there and there are certain buffers that we're not aware of. certain buffers that we're not aware of. certain buffers that we're not aware of. >> You might come out of the box immune to >> You might come out of the box immune to >> You might come out of the box immune to it, but I think either something it, but I think either something it, but I think either something psychologically or physiologically can psychologically or physiologically can psychologically or physiologically can happen that maybe could open a door that happen that maybe could open a door that happen that maybe could open a door that had started off closed. had started off closed. had started off closed. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> That's a guess. >> That's a guess. >> That's a guess. >> In all these instances, they're leaping >> In all these instances, they're leaping >> In all these instances, they're leaping to mind are to mind are to mind are unfortunately, real-life suicides. Every unfortunately, real-life suicides. Every unfortunately, real-life suicides. Every single one of the people um was a very single one of the people um was a very single one of the people um was a very high-performer at one point, highly very high-performer at one point, highly very high-performer at one point, highly very highly regarded, yeah, revered, etc. highly regarded, yeah, revered, etc. highly regarded, yeah, revered, etc. And so, I think you've really um And so, I think you've really um And so, I think you've really um touched on something important, which is touched on something important, which is touched on something important, which is that this notion of like it's lonely at that this notion of like it's lonely at that this notion of like it's lonely at the top. There there's It's true that the top. There there's It's true that the top. There there's It's true that there's there's there's people are busy, you know, there's not people are busy, you know, there's not people are busy, you know, there's not the general public is not so concerned the general public is not so concerned the general public is not so concerned about, you know, winners and their about, you know, winners and their about, you know, winners and their plight, you know, but when you hear plight, you know, but when you hear plight, you know, but when you hear about something like this, you know, um about something like this, you know, um about something like this, you know, um you realize that it people can be quite you realize that it people can be quite you realize that it people can be quite lonely and perhaps as the number of true lonely and perhaps as the number of true lonely and perhaps as the number of true peers that somebody has because they're peers that somebody has because they're peers that somebody has because they're in a leadership position over already in a leadership position over already in a leadership position over already ultra-high performers, the need to ultra-high performers, the need to ultra-high performers, the need to impress, the need to not have their impress, the need to not have their impress, the need to not have their their image shattered is it goes up and their image shattered is it goes up and their image shattered is it goes up and up and up and up. There might be up and up and up. There might be up and up and up. There might be something there. I think there's something there. I think there's something there. I think there's certainly important work to be done, but certainly important work to be done, but certainly important work to be done, but there aren't real data, I don't think, there aren't real data, I don't think, there aren't real data, I don't think, on the number of people who were kind of on the number of people who were kind of on the number of people who were kind of veering in this direction, but somebody veering in this direction, but somebody veering in this direction, but somebody reached out. reached out. reached out. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And then they're 6 months later saying, >> And then they're 6 months later saying, >> And then they're 6 months later saying, "Hey, thanks, you know, I you know, you "Hey, thanks, you know, I you know, you "Hey, thanks, you know, I you know, you really helped me back when." And maybe really helped me back when." And maybe really helped me back when." And maybe they weren't right at that edge. Yeah. they weren't right at that edge. Yeah. they weren't right at that edge. Yeah. So, we don't have data on what worked to So, we don't have data on what worked to So, we don't have data on what worked to keep people away from this edge, either. keep people away from this edge, either. keep people away from this edge, either. So, it's a really tough problem, but, So, it's a really tough problem, but, So, it's a really tough problem, but, you know, tough problems you know, tough problems you know, tough problems are tractable. are tractable. are tractable. >> Yeah, I worry less about the guys who >> Yeah, I worry less about the guys who >> Yeah, I worry less about the guys who are able to verbalize what they're going are able to verbalize what they're going are able to verbalize what they're going through. through. through. It's the ones who are It's the ones who are It's the ones who are more quiet. You know, you talk about, more quiet. You know, you talk about, more quiet. You know, you talk about, you know, lonely at the top. Dave I left you know, lonely at the top. Dave I left you know, lonely at the top. Dave I left Dave's military career largely out of Dave's military career largely out of Dave's military career largely out of it. it. it. He originally wanted to go to He originally wanted to go to He originally wanted to go to development group and didn't make it development group and didn't make it development group and didn't make it through the screen process. I think through the screen process. I think through the screen process. I think largely more due to a personality largely more due to a personality largely more due to a personality conflict with one of the instructors, conflict with one of the instructors, conflict with one of the instructors, which totally happens. You get on which totally happens. You get on which totally happens. You get on somebody's radar, somebody's radar, somebody's radar, you might have to come back through. But you might have to come back through. But you might have to come back through. But he ended up going to another JSOC he ended up going to another JSOC he ended up going to another JSOC command command command that works at an incredibly high level, that works at an incredibly high level, that works at an incredibly high level, very less known, very less known, very less known, often times often times often times by yourself by yourself by yourself in adversarial countries. And he crushed in adversarial countries. And he crushed in adversarial countries. And he crushed it there I think like 10 years. it there I think like 10 years. it there I think like 10 years. I mean like I mean like I mean like the top performer the top performer the top performer of performers. And then they contracted of performers. And then they contracted of performers. And then they contracted him to come back and teach guys in their him to come back and teach guys in their him to come back and teach guys in their own very long selection course. own very long selection course. own very long selection course. What I didn't realize What I didn't realize What I didn't realize is how much he was struggling is how much he was struggling is how much he was struggling just holding up that image though. just holding up that image though. just holding up that image though. >> A part of their selection course occurs >> A part of their selection course occurs >> A part of their selection course occurs out in Las Vegas. out in Las Vegas. out in Las Vegas. He had more than one incident where he He had more than one incident where he He had more than one incident where he thought his career was going to be over thought his career was going to be over thought his career was going to be over cuz he went out and got shit-faced and cuz he went out and got shit-faced and cuz he went out and got shit-faced and got arrested. got arrested. got arrested. They work so independently and They work so independently and They work so independently and individually so often, individually so often, individually so often, nobody even realized he'd gotten in nobody even realized he'd gotten in nobody even realized he'd gotten in trouble trouble trouble until his security clearance came back until his security clearance came back until his security clearance came back around and it popped on his security around and it popped on his security around and it popped on his security clearance. clearance. clearance. Which then, you know, leads to a whole Which then, you know, leads to a whole Which then, you know, leads to a whole variety of other things. But that variety of other things. But that variety of other things. But that happened to him while he was active and happened to him while he was active and happened to him while he was active and then after while he was out. then after while he was out. then after while he was out. But if you were look at the guy, But if you were look at the guy, But if you were look at the guy, you you mean you'd say to him, "How do I you you mean you'd say to him, "How do I you you mean you'd say to him, "How do I match your career exactly? What exactly match your career exactly? What exactly match your career exactly? What exactly are you doing to be able to do what it are you doing to be able to do what it are you doing to be able to do what it is that you're doing?" is that you're doing?" is that you're doing?" Then behind the curtain, holy [ __ ] Then behind the curtain, holy [ __ ] Then behind the curtain, holy [ __ ] Just suffering. You can see it in the writing. Just in You can see it in the writing. Just in the the the the shape and texture the shape and texture the shape and texture of the words. You can You can see it of the words. You can You can see it of the words. You can You can see it degrading degrading degrading towards the end. It's gnarly. towards the end. It's gnarly. towards the end. It's gnarly. And look, I'm not one of these people And look, I'm not one of these people And look, I'm not one of these people that thinks everyone should just go do that thinks everyone should just go do that thinks everyone should just go do Ibogaine, which is not a recreational Ibogaine, which is not a recreational Ibogaine, which is not a recreational experience. You know, right, but I was experience. You know, right, but I was experience. You know, right, but I was going to say the fact that he did that going to say the fact that he did that going to say the fact that he did that has worked. I'll just say this on I've has worked. I'll just say this on I've has worked. I'll just say this on I've said it publicly before, but I'll make said it publicly before, but I'll make said it publicly before, but I'll make sure I hammer this, you know, sure I hammer this, you know, sure I hammer this, you know, straight in the middle that I've been straight in the middle that I've been straight in the middle that I've been very supportive of Veteran Solutions very supportive of Veteran Solutions very supportive of Veteran Solutions because because because and the work that was being done at and the work that was being done at and the work that was being done at Stanford to support them. The arc of Stanford to support them. The arc of Stanford to support them. The arc of both successful escape from addiction both successful escape from addiction both successful escape from addiction and PTSD or whatever you want to call it and PTSD or whatever you want to call it and PTSD or whatever you want to call it through the proper use of Ibogaine through the proper use of Ibogaine through the proper use of Ibogaine medically supervised medically supervised medically supervised as well as the number of just tragic as well as the number of just tragic as well as the number of just tragic instances of people who didn't make it instances of people who didn't make it instances of people who didn't make it there. there. there. I happen to know Chad Wilkins' I happen to know Chad Wilkins' I happen to know Chad Wilkins' wife and talk to Sarah, you know, and wife and talk to Sarah, you know, and wife and talk to Sarah, you know, and you know, it's a painful thing to be at you know, it's a painful thing to be at you know, it's a painful thing to be at these things and hear all these these things and hear all these these things and hear all these wonderful stories of people that feel wonderful stories of people that feel wonderful stories of people that feel like they were rescued, their spouse was like they were rescued, their spouse was like they were rescued, their spouse was rescued and then rescued and then rescued and then um the spouses that are there are um the spouses that are there are um the spouses that are there are saying, you know, it's saying, you know, it's saying, you know, it's grateful this exists and I'm I'm grateful this exists and I'm I'm grateful this exists and I'm I'm frustrated that it wasn't there in time frustrated that it wasn't there in time frustrated that it wasn't there in time for their spouse or parent or you know, for their spouse or parent or you know, for their spouse or parent or you know, so or kid. So, many people have so or kid. So, many people have so or kid. So, many people have benefited, but some people just seem benefited, but some people just seem benefited, but some people just seem like they're refractory to it. like they're refractory to it. like they're refractory to it. >> Well, hopefully >> Well, hopefully >> Well, hopefully talking about suicide talking about suicide talking about suicide frankly will will um get people thinking frankly will will um get people thinking frankly will will um get people thinking about about about different avenues around it. I don't different avenues around it. I don't different avenues around it. I don't know the angle. know the angle. know the angle. >> Yeah, I don't know the angle. I mean, >> Yeah, I don't know the angle. I mean, >> Yeah, I don't know the angle. I mean, I've tried to focus sometimes on talking I've tried to focus sometimes on talking I've tried to focus sometimes on talking about about about the impact that it has on those left the impact that it has on those left the impact that it has on those left behind in the hopes that that would behind in the hopes that that would behind in the hopes that that would I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. Buy somebody a 1% Buy somebody a 1% Buy somebody a 1% maybe think about that for 1% maybe think about that for 1% maybe think about that for 1% [clears throat] and it changes literally [clears throat] and it changes literally [clears throat] and it changes literally the trajectory of their life. the trajectory of their life. the trajectory of their life. I don't understand I don't understand I don't understand the choice I will I will describe the the choice I will I will describe the the choice I will I will describe the choice of ending your own life as an choice of ending your own life as an choice of ending your own life as an irrational decision. That's irrational decision. That's irrational decision. That's I can't make any sense of it other than I can't make any sense of it other than I can't make any sense of it other than to say, like you said, it goes against to say, like you said, it goes against to say, like you said, it goes against every evolutionary every evolutionary every evolutionary everything that we can understand. So, everything that we can understand. So, everything that we can understand. So, somehow people are arriving at an somehow people are arriving at an somehow people are arriving at an irrational decision and considering it irrational decision and considering it irrational decision and considering it to be to be to be the only rational solution. the only rational solution. the only rational solution. Talking about the people that they left Talking about the people that they left Talking about the people that they left behind and the impact it's going to have behind and the impact it's going to have behind and the impact it's going to have doesn't seem to have impacted it at all. doesn't seem to have impacted it at all. doesn't seem to have impacted it at all. I don't I don't know what the answer is. I don't I don't know what the answer is. I don't I don't know what the answer is. Many times, you know, I Many times, you know, I Many times, you know, I whatever is left behind are text whatever is left behind are text whatever is left behind are text messages the world's better off with You messages the world's better off with You messages the world's better off with You know what I mean? Better off without me. know what I mean? Better off without me. know what I mean? Better off without me. They feel it. I'm not going to say they They feel it. I'm not going to say they They feel it. I'm not going to say they feel as if they're doing the world a feel as if they're doing the world a feel as if they're doing the world a favor. That's That's not what I mean to favor. That's That's not what I mean to favor. That's That's not what I mean to say, but often times the language is say, but often times the language is say, but often times the language is close to that. Like, close to that. Like, close to that. Like, "I'm doing this because you will be "I'm doing this because you will be "I'm doing this because you will be better off without me." And again, better off without me." And again, better off without me." And again, irrational decision as their only irrational decision as their only irrational decision as their only rational option. I don't I don't know. rational option. I don't I don't know. rational option. I don't I don't know. I do know that statistically it's way I do know that statistically it's way I do know that statistically it's way higher in the occupation that I came higher in the occupation that I came higher in the occupation that I came from. What I didn't realize and what from. What I didn't realize and what from. What I didn't realize and what I've started talking with a lot more I've started talking with a lot more I've started talking with a lot more about guys I served with is their time about guys I served with is their time about guys I served with is their time before the military, though. before the military, though. before the military, though. The trauma in in the military can The trauma in in the military can The trauma in in the military can certainly be unique, but I tell you certainly be unique, but I tell you certainly be unique, but I tell you what, the number of guys that I've what, the number of guys that I've what, the number of guys that I've talked to now that I didn't have these talked to now that I didn't have these talked to now that I didn't have these conversations with that I when I was in, conversations with that I when I was in, conversations with that I when I was in, they brought a full sea bag of trauma they brought a full sea bag of trauma they brought a full sea bag of trauma with them before. with them before. with them before. And if you layer that on top of And if you layer that on top of And if you layer that on top of everything that happens while you're in everything that happens while you're in everything that happens while you're in and you don't get a handle on that, and you don't get a handle on that, and you don't get a handle on that, >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> it's going to get a handle on you. And I >> it's going to get a handle on you. And I >> it's going to get a handle on you. And I think that's played itself out many think that's played itself out many think that's played itself out many times. A lot of the emphasis is on just times. A lot of the emphasis is on just times. A lot of the emphasis is on just the military aspect. And I'm not saying the military aspect. And I'm not saying the military aspect. And I'm not saying that everybody from the military world that everybody from the military world that everybody from the military world came in with the broken, shattered, fill came in with the broken, shattered, fill came in with the broken, shattered, fill in the blank in the blank in the blank bucket of trauma, bucket of trauma, bucket of trauma, but there's a lot of them the more that but there's a lot of them the more that but there's a lot of them the more that you dig into this. And that has to be you dig into this. And that has to be you dig into this. And that has to be addressed as well, too. addressed as well, too. addressed as well, too. It makes sense. If you had a jacked-up It makes sense. If you had a jacked-up It makes sense. If you had a jacked-up childhood or you were bullied, what childhood or you were bullied, what childhood or you were bullied, what better job than to be able to dispatch better job than to be able to dispatch better job than to be able to dispatch bullies or those that are preying upon bullies or those that are preying upon bullies or those that are preying upon others? Yeah, that's exactly what you're others? Yeah, that's exactly what you're others? Yeah, that's exactly what you're going to want to do. But that doesn't going to want to do. But that doesn't going to want to do. But that doesn't mean that the little suitcase you mean that the little suitcase you mean that the little suitcase you brought with you brought with you brought with you isn't going to meet you on the tail end isn't going to meet you on the tail end isn't going to meet you on the tail end of that journey. Then you pair that with of that journey. Then you pair that with of that journey. Then you pair that with isolation. A lot of times guys get out, isolation. A lot of times guys get out, isolation. A lot of times guys get out, they'll move uh you know, back to where they'll move uh you know, back to where they'll move uh you know, back to where they came from. So, away from their they came from. So, away from their they came from. So, away from their social circle. The uniform goes up in social circle. The uniform goes up in social circle. The uniform goes up in the closet. the closet. the closet. Identity and purpose struggle that we Identity and purpose struggle that we Identity and purpose struggle that we all have when you go from that all have when you go from that all have when you go from that occupation. occupation. occupation. Social isolation. Maybe they bring with Social isolation. Maybe they bring with Social isolation. Maybe they bring with them some unhealthy social habits. them some unhealthy social habits. them some unhealthy social habits. Alcohol, whatever else it may be with Alcohol, whatever else it may be with Alcohol, whatever else it may be with them, with that isolation, with those them, with that isolation, with those them, with that isolation, with those struggles, with that baggage. struggles, with that baggage. struggles, with that baggage. It's a lot, man. It's a lot, man. It's a lot, man. >> You make a very important point. I >> You make a very important point. I >> You make a very important point. I think, you know, perhaps one of the think, you know, perhaps one of the think, you know, perhaps one of the reasons they went into that profession reasons they went into that profession reasons they went into that profession is they were traumatized going in. But, is they were traumatized going in. But, is they were traumatized going in. But, of course, as you also pointed out, many of course, as you also pointed out, many of course, as you also pointed out, many guys are not. They guys are not. They guys are not. They >> I won the genetic lottery with my >> I won the genetic lottery with my >> I won the genetic lottery with my parents. They were spectacular. parents. They were spectacular. parents. They were spectacular. But, I I now But, I I now But, I I now I just I wish I had been mature enough I just I wish I had been mature enough I just I wish I had been mature enough to sit down with people when I was to sit down with people when I was to sit down with people when I was younger and be like, "Dude, younger and be like, "Dude, younger and be like, "Dude, like, are you okay? like, are you okay? like, are you okay? What was your What was your background What was your What was your background What was your What was your background like coming up? like coming up? like coming up? You know, You know, You know, tell me about your life before the tell me about your life before the tell me about your life before the teams." Cuz nobody ever asked about your teams." Cuz nobody ever asked about your teams." Cuz nobody ever asked about your life. Like, "Where are you from? Cool, life. Like, "Where are you from? Cool, life. Like, "Where are you from? Cool, shut up. You made it through buds, shut up. You made it through buds, shut up. You made it through buds, great. Go get your [ __ ] It's time to go great. Go get your [ __ ] It's time to go great. Go get your [ __ ] It's time to go do gangster shit." I'm like, "Okay, do gangster shit." I'm like, "Okay, do gangster shit." I'm like, "Okay, cool. Let's go do gangster shit." cool. Let's go do gangster shit." cool. Let's go do gangster shit." It's afterwards where I I would get to It's afterwards where I I would get to It's afterwards where I I would get to know these people better at a deeper know these people better at a deeper know these people better at a deeper level. I'm like, "I'm sorry, what? level. I'm like, "I'm sorry, what? level. I'm like, "I'm sorry, what? What situation did you come from?" What situation did you come from?" What situation did you come from?" Dave was a good example. Dave was a good example. Dave was a good example. He brought a lot with him. He brought a lot with him. He brought a lot with him. Again, that's a data point. I can't Again, that's a data point. I can't Again, that's a data point. I can't apply that broadly. apply that broadly. apply that broadly. But, in the anecdotal conversations I But, in the anecdotal conversations I But, in the anecdotal conversations I have had, it is trending past 50% of the have had, it is trending past 50% of the have had, it is trending past 50% of the guys brought a lot of stuff with them. guys brought a lot of stuff with them. guys brought a lot of stuff with them. >> Yeah, and the >> Yeah, and the >> Yeah, and the um um um the sort of hyper proclivity for alcohol the sort of hyper proclivity for alcohol the sort of hyper proclivity for alcohol might have been related to that. I mean, might have been related to that. I mean, might have been related to that. I mean, we can do a just-so story, but what we can do a just-so story, but what we can do a just-so story, but what you're saying, you know, it it you're saying, you know, it it you're saying, you know, it it ratchets together in in a logical way. ratchets together in in a logical way. ratchets together in in a logical way. And of course, everything we're talking And of course, everything we're talking And of course, everything we're talking about wicks out to the the world at about wicks out to the the world at about wicks out to the the world at large. I mean, checking in on people is large. I mean, checking in on people is large. I mean, checking in on people is no small thing. no small thing. no small thing. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> You know, I I like a few years ago I >> You know, I I like a few years ago I >> You know, I I like a few years ago I talked about how like, you know, this talked about how like, you know, this talked about how like, you know, this group of like people would just like group of like people would just like group of like people would just like check in in the morning and it seemed check in in the morning and it seemed check in in the morning and it seemed people like, "Oh, well, that's like it's people like, "Oh, well, that's like it's people like, "Oh, well, that's like it's supposed to be the health act." It's supposed to be the health act." It's supposed to be the health act." It's like, "Oh, no, there's one guy in my in like, "Oh, no, there's one guy in my in like, "Oh, no, there's one guy in my in my crew that like he's he's like every my crew that like he's he's like every my crew that like he's he's like every single morning. If we don't hear from single morning. If we don't hear from single morning. If we don't hear from him by 8:00 a.m. we're like, "He's him by 8:00 a.m. we're like, "He's him by 8:00 a.m. we're like, "He's dead." You know, dead." You know, dead." You know, >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> like you know, and then like 8:15 he's >> like you know, and then like 8:15 he's >> like you know, and then like 8:15 he's like, "Sorry, I'm late, guys." And you like, "Sorry, I'm late, guys." And you like, "Sorry, I'm late, guys." And you know, just by virtue of that group he know, just by virtue of that group he know, just by virtue of that group he sends out he's, you know, he sends sends out he's, you know, he sends sends out he's, you know, he sends around a little Bible passage, sometimes around a little Bible passage, sometimes around a little Bible passage, sometimes like a wish for the day for folks. like a wish for the day for folks. like a wish for the day for folks. Everyone checks in. It's like, it's a Everyone checks in. It's like, it's a Everyone checks in. It's like, it's a real thing. Like it's a real thing. It's real thing. Like it's a real thing. It's real thing. Like it's a real thing. It's not just that I'd be worried about him. not just that I'd be worried about him. not just that I'd be worried about him. I honestly I'd be worried about me if if I honestly I'd be worried about me if if I honestly I'd be worried about me if if he didn't send that. Now, is it am I he didn't send that. Now, is it am I he didn't send that. Now, is it am I completely dependent on it? No, but completely dependent on it? No, but completely dependent on it? No, but those small things, back to this notion those small things, back to this notion those small things, back to this notion of small things, they can really matter. of small things, they can really matter. of small things, they can really matter. They can they can really make the They can they can really make the They can they can really make the difference. I don't know, my mind goes difference. I don't know, my mind goes difference. I don't know, my mind goes to all these places and maybe I've to all these places and maybe I've to all these places and maybe I've spent more than my fair share of time spent more than my fair share of time spent more than my fair share of time with uh with uh with uh a our mutual friend Eddie Penny where I a our mutual friend Eddie Penny where I a our mutual friend Eddie Penny where I I actually think and and forgive me cuz I actually think and and forgive me cuz I actually think and and forgive me cuz I'm a scientist, but these days I talk I'm a scientist, but these days I talk I'm a scientist, but these days I talk very openly. I actually think that evil very openly. I actually think that evil very openly. I actually think that evil forces can hijack people's minds. forces can hijack people's minds. forces can hijack people's minds. I know it sounds crazy, it sounds like I know it sounds crazy, it sounds like I know it sounds crazy, it sounds like conspiracy, but I believe that inside of conspiracy, but I believe that inside of conspiracy, but I believe that inside of our minds we have a susceptibility to our minds we have a susceptibility to our minds we have a susceptibility to positive messaging and we have a positive messaging and we have a positive messaging and we have a susceptibility to evil messaging and it susceptibility to evil messaging and it susceptibility to evil messaging and it can come in in different forms and I can come in in different forms and I can come in in different forms and I think bad forces can work through us and think bad forces can work through us and think bad forces can work through us and they tend to come through the places of they tend to come through the places of they tend to come through the places of shame. They come through the things that shame. They come through the things that shame. They come through the things that we don't want to acknowledge. They're we don't want to acknowledge. They're we don't want to acknowledge. They're like the way it was described to me by like the way it was described to me by like the way it was described to me by someone far smarter than me is it's like someone far smarter than me is it's like someone far smarter than me is it's like a lighthouse that's, you know, a lighthouse that's, you know, a lighthouse that's, you know, spinning its um spinning its um spinning its um its illumination and then there's like its illumination and then there's like its illumination and then there's like there's still like some there's still like some there's still like some like dirt on the on the lighthouse and like dirt on the on the lighthouse and like dirt on the on the lighthouse and it casts this like shard of a shadow and it casts this like shard of a shadow and it casts this like shard of a shadow and that's where stuff comes in and gets us that's where stuff comes in and gets us that's where stuff comes in and gets us and if we can kind of see that stuff and and if we can kind of see that stuff and and if we can kind of see that stuff and really acknowledge it, that's kind of really acknowledge it, that's kind of really acknowledge it, that's kind of what the real trauma process trauma what the real trauma process trauma what the real trauma process trauma healing process is about. Once you own healing process is about. Once you own healing process is about. Once you own it, it's very different. Things can't it, it's very different. Things can't it, it's very different. Things can't get to you the same way. Now, I'm get to you the same way. Now, I'm get to you the same way. Now, I'm speaking in like riddles and metaphors speaking in like riddles and metaphors speaking in like riddles and metaphors here, So it So I want to be careful cuz here, So it So I want to be careful cuz here, So it So I want to be careful cuz I'm a scientist. I believe in biology, I'm a scientist. I believe in biology, I'm a scientist. I believe in biology, but I think that hopefully conversations but I think that hopefully conversations but I think that hopefully conversations like these will start to open up the the like these will start to open up the the like these will start to open up the the thought and maybe in the dialogue around thought and maybe in the dialogue around thought and maybe in the dialogue around this cuz I think the mental health this cuz I think the mental health this cuz I think the mental health community, but really the general public community, but really the general public community, but really the general public needs to start thinking about this needs to start thinking about this needs to start thinking about this >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> in a real way because the numbers as you >> in a real way because the numbers as you >> in a real way because the numbers as you mentioned in the SEAL Teams and other mentioned in the SEAL Teams and other mentioned in the SEAL Teams and other special operations communities are special operations communities are special operations communities are staggering, but it's growing. I mean and staggering, but it's growing. I mean and staggering, but it's growing. I mean and on and on and I don't believe anyone is on and on and I don't believe anyone is on and on and I don't believe anyone is completely immune just given the the the completely immune just given the the the completely immune just given the the the examples. These are people who examples. These are people who examples. These are people who quote unquote [clears throat] everything quote unquote [clears throat] everything quote unquote [clears throat] everything going for them and then some. So going for them and then some. So going for them and then some. So God willing this will have some positive God willing this will have some positive God willing this will have some positive impact. impact. impact. >> I think it's important that somebody >> I think it's important that somebody >> I think it's important that somebody like yourself as a scientist is open to like yourself as a scientist is open to like yourself as a scientist is open to other non-scientific other non-scientific other non-scientific answers or answers or answers or possibilities at least possibilities at least possibilities at least because we clearly don't have [snorts] because we clearly don't have [snorts] because we clearly don't have [snorts] it figured all out yet. That I'm not a it figured all out yet. That I'm not a it figured all out yet. That I'm not a scientist, but I'm pretty sure scientist, but I'm pretty sure scientist, but I'm pretty sure scientists don't know everything scientists don't know everything scientists don't know everything regardless of how some of them might regardless of how some of them might regardless of how some of them might like to tell you that they do. like to tell you that they do. like to tell you that they do. >> Definitely do not know everything. >> Definitely do not know everything. >> Definitely do not know everything. >> And if we don't know everything, maybe >> And if we don't know everything, maybe >> And if we don't know everything, maybe let's just keep it open to possibilities let's just keep it open to possibilities let's just keep it open to possibilities because in that journey hopefully one because in that journey hopefully one because in that journey hopefully one day we will figure out everything. day we will figure out everything. day we will figure out everything. But if we lose a bunch people along the But if we lose a bunch people along the But if we lose a bunch people along the way because we were unwilling to at way because we were unwilling to at way because we were unwilling to at least even least even least even table a conversation about something table a conversation about something table a conversation about something maybe outside of the science realm maybe outside of the science realm maybe outside of the science realm I don't think it's worth knowing I don't think it's worth knowing I don't think it's worth knowing everything. everything. everything. >> I think that our We're talking about >> I think that our We're talking about >> I think that our We're talking about dogs before. I think our species is a dogs before. I think our species is a dogs before. I think our species is a remarkable species technology remarkable species technology remarkable species technology development. I think that we have development. I think that we have development. I think that we have incredible capacity for for goodness and incredible capacity for for goodness and incredible capacity for for goodness and I think we also should finally I think we also should finally I think we also should finally acknowledge after many thousands of acknowledge after many thousands of acknowledge after many thousands of years that we have a hardwired failure years that we have a hardwired failure years that we have a hardwired failure to understand ourselves. That to understand ourselves. That to understand ourselves. That the answers are just not going to come the answers are just not going to come the answers are just not going to come from us. This is where I sit now. I from us. This is where I sit now. I from us. This is where I sit now. I don't want to sound too dogmatic about don't want to sound too dogmatic about don't want to sound too dogmatic about this. Like it's just obvious. Like you this. Like it's just obvious. Like you this. Like it's just obvious. Like you wouldn't expect uh 50,000 dachshunds to wouldn't expect uh 50,000 dachshunds to wouldn't expect uh 50,000 dachshunds to come up with uh well maybe they could come up with uh well maybe they could come up with uh well maybe they could come up with a supercomputer, but you come up with a supercomputer, but you come up with a supercomputer, but you know know know >> I'm in on this experiment so far. Do you >> I'm in on this experiment so far. Do you >> I'm in on this experiment so far. Do you know anybody who'd be willing to back know anybody who'd be willing to back know anybody who'd be willing to back us? us? us? >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> In this day and age, I probably do. Um, >> In this day and age, I probably do. Um, >> In this day and age, I probably do. Um, but it's be it's just so, you know, we but it's be it's just so, you know, we but it's be it's just so, you know, we we tend to think that because we are the we tend to think that because we are the we tend to think that because we are the curators of the Earth, we are the ones curators of the Earth, we are the ones curators of the Earth, we are the ones that control the technology. All that is that control the technology. All that is that control the technology. All that is true, that we're sort of above our own true, that we're sort of above our own true, that we're sort of above our own [ __ ] and we're not. And so, the big [ __ ] and we're not. And so, the big [ __ ] and we're not. And so, the big revelation for me was like, "Oh, revelation for me was like, "Oh, revelation for me was like, "Oh, maybe we shouldn't look to maybe we shouldn't look to maybe we shouldn't look to ourselves, certainly, or even other ourselves, certainly, or even other ourselves, certainly, or even other humans, or even groups of humans, or the humans, or even groups of humans, or the humans, or even groups of humans, or the technologies we create, or that technologies we create, or that technologies we create, or that combination for every answer. I do think combination for every answer. I do think combination for every answer. I do think gene therapies are going to cure a lot gene therapies are going to cure a lot gene therapies are going to cure a lot of diseases. I think that AI actually of diseases. I think that AI actually of diseases. I think that AI actually has is going to be of great benefit, has is going to be of great benefit, has is going to be of great benefit, etc., etc. It's got its issues, but etc., etc. It's got its issues, but etc., etc. It's got its issues, but we'll navigate that. But, when it comes we'll navigate that. But, when it comes we'll navigate that. But, when it comes to to to how somebody like Dave could be how somebody like Dave could be how somebody like Dave could be literally literally literally take his own life, I think the take his own life, I think the take his own life, I think the implementation of the solutions will implementation of the solutions will implementation of the solutions will have to come from humans, but that have to come from humans, but that have to come from humans, but that really understanding the root of the really understanding the root of the really understanding the root of the problem is not going to come from from a problem is not going to come from from a problem is not going to come from from a from a strictly scientific psychological from a strictly scientific psychological from a strictly scientific psychological understanding. It's just not understanding. It's just not understanding. It's just not >> I think that's okay. I think I I like >> I think that's okay. I think I I like >> I think that's okay. I think I I like that type of malleable that type of malleable that type of malleable willingness to accept other options much willingness to accept other options much willingness to accept other options much more than I like the dogmatic, rigid, more than I like the dogmatic, rigid, more than I like the dogmatic, rigid, you're not going to do anything other you're not going to do anything other you're not going to do anything other than it's either this way or the than it's either this way or the than it's either this way or the highway. highway. highway. >> I feel comfortable sharing this. Let's >> I feel comfortable sharing this. Let's >> I feel comfortable sharing this. Let's just say that I knew someone very well, just say that I knew someone very well, just say that I knew someone very well, I still know him, fortunately he's still I still know him, fortunately he's still I still know him, fortunately he's still alive, in your community, who was in a alive, in your community, who was in a alive, in your community, who was in a really challenging place. And the only really challenging place. And the only really challenging place. And the only language I heard someone else speak to language I heard someone else speak to language I heard someone else speak to him, unfortunately he's still around, him, unfortunately he's still around, him, unfortunately he's still around, they'd said something to him to the they'd said something to him to the they'd said something to him to the words of like, "Your goggles are foggy, words of like, "Your goggles are foggy, words of like, "Your goggles are foggy, so you can't trust anything you think or so you can't trust anything you think or so you can't trust anything you think or see about yourself for the next 6 see about yourself for the next 6 see about yourself for the next 6 months. months. months. You only can trust these three people." You only can trust these three people." You only can trust these three people." >> It's not a bad approach. >> It's not a bad approach. >> It's not a bad approach. >> And he said, "Okay." >> And he said, "Okay." >> And he said, "Okay." And he's like, "You cannot do that. It's And he's like, "You cannot do that. It's And he's like, "You cannot do that. It's It's as if you're you're you're wearing It's as if you're you're you're wearing It's as if you're you're you're wearing prism glasses." It's kind of what I prism glasses." It's kind of what I prism glasses." It's kind of what I jumped in with. Borrowed that from a jumped in with. Borrowed that from a jumped in with. Borrowed that from a neuroscience experiment. neuroscience experiment. neuroscience experiment. >> glasses is a better analogy >> glasses is a better analogy >> glasses is a better analogy >> You're grasping for the mug here, but >> You're grasping for the mug here, but >> You're grasping for the mug here, but it's actually right here. And if you can it's actually right here. And if you can it's actually right here. And if you can just accept the fact that your just accept the fact that your just accept the fact that your optics are off, your thinking is off, optics are off, your thinking is off, optics are off, your thinking is off, you cannot trust it. you cannot trust it. you cannot trust it. And And the reason that resonated with And And the reason that resonated with And And the reason that resonated with me and got me thinking about the other me and got me thinking about the other me and got me thinking about the other thing I just said is the thing I just said is the thing I just said is the I I think that we all have this innate I I think that we all have this innate I I think that we all have this innate desire to not be controlled. And I think desire to not be controlled. And I think desire to not be controlled. And I think that I'm not going to do the if only that I'm not going to do the if only that I'm not going to do the if only game, coulda, woulda, shoulda, but if game, coulda, woulda, shoulda, but if game, coulda, woulda, shoulda, but if people as people as people as as hard driving as like team guys or as hard driving as like team guys or as hard driving as like team guys or just anybody were told to listen that just anybody were told to listen that just anybody were told to listen that what you feel it actually is not coming what you feel it actually is not coming what you feel it actually is not coming from you. You're being controlled. from you. You're being controlled. from you. You're being controlled. That can set up a resilience. It can I That can set up a resilience. It can I That can set up a resilience. It can I do think you can trigger that anterior do think you can trigger that anterior do think you can trigger that anterior mid cingulate cortex. And it's like mid cingulate cortex. And it's like mid cingulate cortex. And it's like instead of [ __ ] me instead of [ __ ] me instead of [ __ ] me or [ __ ] all that all these other people, or [ __ ] all that all these other people, or [ __ ] all that all these other people, it becomes it becomes it becomes no. You can just start to like you can no. You can just start to like you can no. You can just start to like you can start to resist these forces. And I I do start to resist these forces. And I I do start to resist these forces. And I I do think there's something there. So, I think there's something there. So, I think there's something there. So, I don't think science alone is going to don't think science alone is going to don't think science alone is going to cure suicidality or psychology alone. I cure suicidality or psychology alone. I cure suicidality or psychology alone. I don't think it'll come in the form of a don't think it'll come in the form of a don't think it'll come in the form of a pill. Again, I think the implementation pill. Again, I think the implementation pill. Again, I think the implementation will be very much of the human world, will be very much of the human world, will be very much of the human world, but I think that the but I think that the but I think that the um the core understanding about what's um the core understanding about what's um the core understanding about what's happening in those moments is going to happening in those moments is going to happening in those moments is going to come from accepting a a bigger picture. come from accepting a a bigger picture. come from accepting a a bigger picture. And I think it's obvious what I'm And I think it's obvious what I'm And I think it's obvious what I'm talking about here. And hey, what why talking about here. And hey, what why talking about here. And hey, what why not? not? not? >> It's a It's a deep topic, man. It's a >> It's a It's a deep topic, man. It's a >> It's a It's a deep topic, man. It's a tough one. tough one. tough one. I know everybody wants easy solutions. I I know everybody wants easy solutions. I I know everybody wants easy solutions. I just don't think there is one on that just don't think there is one on that just don't think there is one on that topic. topic. topic. It's a painful, long road. It's a painful, long road. It's a painful, long road. >> Bringing it to the everyday life. >> Bringing it to the everyday life. >> Bringing it to the everyday life. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> I was imagining if I was like a I don't >> I was imagining if I was like a I don't >> I was imagining if I was like a I don't know know know 20-year-old or 30-year-old or 40 or 20-year-old or 30-year-old or 40 or 20-year-old or 30-year-old or 40 or 50-year-old. 50-year-old. 50-year-old. >> Do you ever think you'd be 50? >> Do you ever think you'd be 50? >> Do you ever think you'd be 50? >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Actually, no. At my 50th birthday, I was >> Actually, no. At my 50th birthday, I was >> Actually, no. At my 50th birthday, I was like Joe Strummer, one of my heroes, like Joe Strummer, one of my heroes, like Joe Strummer, one of my heroes, died at 50. My graduate advisor, dead at died at 50. My graduate advisor, dead at died at 50. My graduate advisor, dead at 50. Like a lot of friends, even though I 50. Like a lot of friends, even though I 50. Like a lot of friends, even though I was in the military, dead early. Like I was in the military, dead early. Like I was in the military, dead early. Like I felt really lucky to make it to 50. And felt really lucky to make it to 50. And felt really lucky to make it to 50. And uh I feel very excited about what's to uh I feel very excited about what's to uh I feel very excited about what's to come, but I'm mindful come, but I'm mindful come, but I'm mindful of everything we just talked about. You of everything we just talked about. You of everything we just talked about. You know, um but no, I never never did. But know, um but no, I never never did. But know, um but no, I never never did. But the fifth floor is awesome cuz Kelly the fifth floor is awesome cuz Kelly the fifth floor is awesome cuz Kelly Starrett described it to me best. He He Starrett described it to me best. He He Starrett described it to me best. He He said, "Listen, when you're in your 40s said, "Listen, when you're in your 40s said, "Listen, when you're in your 40s and you're like in good shape and your and you're like in good shape and your and you're like in good shape and your life is together, you're like, yeah, life is together, you're like, yeah, life is together, you're like, yeah, like you're doing okay relative to your like you're doing okay relative to your like you're doing okay relative to your peers. The moment you hit 50, like peers. The moment you hit 50, like peers. The moment you hit 50, like you're like, all right, I'm doing great. you're like, all right, I'm doing great. you're like, all right, I'm doing great. And And he said, "You have to be very And And he said, "You have to be very And And he said, "You have to be very careful, cuz that's like comparing careful, cuz that's like comparing careful, cuz that's like comparing yourself to people who are really yourself to people who are really yourself to people who are really slacking. So, [laughter] you got to slacking. So, [laughter] you got to slacking. So, [laughter] you got to triple down, Huberman." He goes, "Don't triple down, Huberman." He goes, "Don't triple down, Huberman." He goes, "Don't come off the gas pedal." So, come off the gas pedal." So, come off the gas pedal." So, >> Hello, Kelly Starrett. >> Hello, Kelly Starrett. >> Hello, Kelly Starrett. >> Yeah. I can imagine that many people are >> Yeah. I can imagine that many people are >> Yeah. I can imagine that many people are thinking, okay, get give me the program. thinking, okay, get give me the program. thinking, okay, get give me the program. I know you're anti-hacks. I am, too. I know you're anti-hacks. I am, too. I know you're anti-hacks. I am, too. But, what would that look like? What can But, what would that look like? What can But, what would that look like? What can they do? Start with the bed. So, wake they do? Start with the bed. So, wake they do? Start with the bed. So, wake wake up in the morning. Let's Let's walk wake up in the morning. Let's Let's walk wake up in the morning. Let's Let's walk through it. through it. through it. >> The bed do the bed, don't do the bed. I >> The bed do the bed, don't do the bed. I >> The bed do the bed, don't do the bed. I would say start as early as you can with would say start as early as you can with would say start as early as you can with some semblance of a discipline act. If some semblance of a discipline act. If some semblance of a discipline act. If you don't want to do the bed, drink a you don't want to do the bed, drink a you don't want to do the bed, drink a drink a 16-oz glass of water in the drink a 16-oz glass of water in the drink a 16-oz glass of water in the morning before you have a cup of coffee. morning before you have a cup of coffee. morning before you have a cup of coffee. Not many people enjoy doing that. Not many people enjoy doing that. Not many people enjoy doing that. Uh especially if it's not flavored with Uh especially if it's not flavored with Uh especially if it's not flavored with something, but I tell you what, I something, but I tell you what, I something, but I tell you what, I implemented that, and it's kind of implemented that, and it's kind of implemented that, and it's kind of amazing how much better you feel when amazing how much better you feel when amazing how much better you feel when you hydrate a little bit after you sleep you hydrate a little bit after you sleep you hydrate a little bit after you sleep with your mouth tape, of course, on your with your mouth tape, of course, on your with your mouth tape, of course, on your sleep metrics, cuz you have to have a sleep metrics, cuz you have to have a sleep metrics, cuz you have to have a competition with your wife on who's competition with your wife on who's competition with your wife on who's winning the sleep score. Not a big deal. winning the sleep score. Not a big deal. winning the sleep score. Not a big deal. And I I hate being prescriptive. And so, And I I hate being prescriptive. And so, And I I hate being prescriptive. And so, just broadly, I tell people to pick the just broadly, I tell people to pick the just broadly, I tell people to pick the choice as often as possible that is choice as often as possible that is choice as often as possible that is slightly more difficult. And the reason slightly more difficult. And the reason slightly more difficult. And the reason why the bed doesn't work for some people why the bed doesn't work for some people why the bed doesn't work for some people is that you have somebody you care about is that you have somebody you care about is that you have somebody you care about deeply still sleeping on the other side. deeply still sleeping on the other side. deeply still sleeping on the other side. Maybe your day starts at a time where Maybe your day starts at a time where Maybe your day starts at a time where they're not ready to get out of bed, they're not ready to get out of bed, they're not ready to get out of bed, right? So, you don't want to negatively right? So, you don't want to negatively right? So, you don't want to negatively impact somebody else's life so you can impact somebody else's life so you can impact somebody else's life so you can have this I have to do this to get have this I have to do this to get have this I have to do this to get started. started. started. To me, it's the small stuff that nobody To me, it's the small stuff that nobody To me, it's the small stuff that nobody sees that makes the biggest difference sees that makes the biggest difference sees that makes the biggest difference in the world. It's the choice to have in the world. It's the choice to have in the world. It's the choice to have the water before your coffee. It's the the water before your coffee. It's the the water before your coffee. It's the choice to choice to choice to the night before you go to bed, if the night before you go to bed, if the night before you go to bed, if you're you know you're going to have a you're you know you're going to have a you're you know you're going to have a busy day, busy day, busy day, meal prep, or if you're going to have a meal prep, or if you're going to have a meal prep, or if you're going to have a breakfast that is other than ready to breakfast that is other than ready to breakfast that is other than ready to eat or complicated, do all the prep work eat or complicated, do all the prep work eat or complicated, do all the prep work beforehand. So, it makes it, you know beforehand. So, it makes it, you know beforehand. So, it makes it, you know what I mean? It's just the small things what I mean? It's just the small things what I mean? It's just the small things that that that nobody Oh, great, posting on Instagram. nobody Oh, great, posting on Instagram. nobody Oh, great, posting on Instagram. Look, I'm cutting up asparagus so I can Look, I'm cutting up asparagus so I can Look, I'm cutting up asparagus so I can put it into my omelet, but in next put it into my omelet, but in next put it into my omelet, but in next morning when it's ready to go and you morning when it's ready to go and you morning when it's ready to go and you actually have a healthy breakfast over actually have a healthy breakfast over actually have a healthy breakfast over something far less healthy, something far less healthy, something far less healthy, the difference in your life and the the difference in your life and the the difference in your life and the difference in your energy and your difference in your energy and your difference in your energy and your thought process and all these things thought process and all these things thought process and all these things continue to build. continue to build. continue to build. I try to get people or advocate sweat or I try to get people or advocate sweat or I try to get people or advocate sweat or get as close to sweat as you can once a get as close to sweat as you can once a get as close to sweat as you can once a day. For some people that's just getting day. For some people that's just getting day. For some people that's just getting off the couch and walking around. And I off the couch and walking around. And I off the couch and walking around. And I get it. I have limited time just like get it. I have limited time just like get it. I have limited time just like everybody else does. everybody else does. everybody else does. If I push my physical exertion until If I push my physical exertion until If I push my physical exertion until later in the day, I'm far more likely to later in the day, I'm far more likely to later in the day, I'm far more likely to push it off until the next day. So I try push it off until the next day. So I try push it off until the next day. So I try to bring it a little bit earlier into my to bring it a little bit earlier into my to bring it a little bit earlier into my day. The jiu-jitsu training for me day. The jiu-jitsu training for me day. The jiu-jitsu training for me usually occurs around midday, so that's usually occurs around midday, so that's usually occurs around midday, so that's a nice setup and that's based off a a nice setup and that's based off a a nice setup and that's based off a class schedule, not my own creation. class schedule, not my own creation. class schedule, not my own creation. >> Are you working out early days well? >> Are you working out early days well? >> Are you working out early days well? >> Uh I will either do jiu-jitsu or work >> Uh I will either do jiu-jitsu or work >> Uh I will either do jiu-jitsu or work out. I generally don't do both. Um as out. I generally don't do both. Um as out. I generally don't do both. Um as I'm getting older as well, I see the I'm getting older as well, I see the I'm getting older as well, I see the utility in both and the lack of utility utility in both and the lack of utility utility in both and the lack of utility in doing both a very hard in the same in doing both a very hard in the same in doing both a very hard in the same day because man, you can auger yourself day because man, you can auger yourself day because man, you can auger yourself in with a little bit too much. So I'll in with a little bit too much. So I'll in with a little bit too much. So I'll do one or the other. But also sweat do one or the other. But also sweat do one or the other. But also sweat could be and again, this I mean they can could be and again, this I mean they can could be and again, this I mean they can get get get as far out there as you want. It could as far out there as you want. It could as far out there as you want. It could be sitting in the sauna for 30 minutes. be sitting in the sauna for 30 minutes. be sitting in the sauna for 30 minutes. If that's all you got and you don't If that's all you got and you don't If that's all you got and you don't have, you know what I mean? Figure it have, you know what I mean? Figure it have, you know what I mean? Figure it out. out. out. >> Which in your case is an ice bath. >> Which in your case is an ice bath. >> Which in your case is an ice bath. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Well, I mean >> Well, I mean >> Well, I mean >> I'm just teasing cuz the 80, yeah. >> I'm just teasing cuz the 80, yeah. >> I'm just teasing cuz the 80, yeah. >> Set the sauna to 105, which is the >> Set the sauna to 105, which is the >> Set the sauna to 105, which is the perfect temperature for a sauna. Easy. I perfect temperature for a sauna. Easy. I perfect temperature for a sauna. Easy. I mean, you could put one in the other. mean, you could put one in the other. mean, you could put one in the other. You could You could You could ice bath and sauna. How much research ice bath and sauna. How much research ice bath and sauna. How much research has been done on that, Andrew? Not has been done on that, Andrew? Not has been done on that, Andrew? Not enough, you know? enough, you know? enough, you know? We could create the world's first ice We could create the world's first ice We could create the world's first ice bath sauna. bath sauna. bath sauna. >> I don't think it's going to sell. >> I don't think it's going to sell. >> I don't think it's going to sell. >> it the stump. >> it the stump. >> it the stump. >> It's not going to sell. [laughter] >> It's not going to sell. [laughter] >> It's not going to sell. [laughter] >> It's not going to sell. >> It's not going to sell. >> It's not going to sell. >> Yeah, it would just be at 90° for both >> Yeah, it would just be at 90° for both >> Yeah, it would just be at 90° for both of them, which I think actually would be of them, which I think actually would be of them, which I think actually would be perfect and delightful. perfect and delightful. perfect and delightful. Everybody knows Everybody knows Everybody knows the harder choice the harder choice the harder choice versus the easier choice. versus the easier choice. versus the easier choice. Everybody Everybody Everybody to include myself to include myself to include myself will look externally and say, "What do I will look externally and say, "What do I will look externally and say, "What do I need to do?" need to do?" need to do?" I know what I need to do and so do they. I know what I need to do and so do they. I know what I need to do and so do they. They need to do the thing They need to do the thing They need to do the thing then even if it's microscopic that they then even if it's microscopic that they then even if it's microscopic that they want to do less more often than they do want to do less more often than they do want to do less more often than they do the thing that they want to do more. the thing that they want to do more. the thing that they want to do more. It's the And I know that's broad, and I It's the And I know that's broad, and I It's the And I know that's broad, and I know people want more of a prescription know people want more of a prescription know people want more of a prescription than that. than that. than that. But that over time But that over time But that over time is the juice. What I like about it so is the juice. What I like about it so is the juice. What I like about it so much is that it it much is that it it much is that it it transcends circumstances, and it transcends circumstances, and it transcends circumstances, and it transcends the kind of moment-to-moment. transcends the kind of moment-to-moment. transcends the kind of moment-to-moment. So, there's always an opportunity to do So, there's always an opportunity to do So, there's always an opportunity to do something slightly harder. And then you something slightly harder. And then you something slightly harder. And then you find yourself in that friction point, find yourself in that friction point, find yourself in that friction point, that laziness point of like, "I'll do that laziness point of like, "I'll do that laziness point of like, "I'll do this later." Or, you know, like leave this later." Or, you know, like leave this later." Or, you know, like leave that dish in the sink and you know times that dish in the sink and you know times that dish in the sink and you know times you realize, "Oh, [ __ ] I got to go." you realize, "Oh, [ __ ] I got to go." you realize, "Oh, [ __ ] I got to go." And you got a coffee cup in your hand, And you got a coffee cup in your hand, And you got a coffee cup in your hand, finish it off, and the sink's right finish it off, and the sink's right finish it off, and the sink's right there and so is the dishwasher. there and so is the dishwasher. there and so is the dishwasher. This is a perfect example. Easy one, put This is a perfect example. Easy one, put This is a perfect example. Easy one, put it in the sink, which you have to deal it in the sink, which you have to deal it in the sink, which you have to deal with later. Crack the dishwasher open, with later. Crack the dishwasher open, with later. Crack the dishwasher open, put the thing in there, close it up, and put the thing in there, close it up, and put the thing in there, close it up, and be on your way. That is an example to me be on your way. That is an example to me be on your way. That is an example to me of a small victory. That's making the of a small victory. That's making the of a small victory. That's making the slightly harder choice. Is that in and slightly harder choice. Is that in and slightly harder choice. Is that in and of itself going to change your life? No. of itself going to change your life? No. of itself going to change your life? No. But what if you make that choice 100 But what if you make that choice 100 But what if you make that choice 100 times in your day? You're telling me times in your day? You're telling me times in your day? You're telling me it's going to look the same as it did it's going to look the same as it did it's going to look the same as it did yesterday? No way in hell. No way in yesterday? No way in hell. No way in yesterday? No way in hell. No way in hell. hell. hell. Pair that out over a week, over a month, Pair that out over a week, over a month, Pair that out over a week, over a month, over a year. Your life's not going to over a year. Your life's not going to over a year. Your life's not going to look the same. look the same. look the same. Yeah, I think the the social pressure to Yeah, I think the the social pressure to Yeah, I think the the social pressure to not do that stuff is the new not do that stuff is the new not do that stuff is the new counteracting pressure and the draw to counteracting pressure and the draw to counteracting pressure and the draw to to the phone and all these things. But to the phone and all these things. But to the phone and all these things. But look, it's just all more opportunities look, it's just all more opportunities look, it's just all more opportunities to grow your interior mid-cingulate to grow your interior mid-cingulate to grow your interior mid-cingulate cortex size. Without somebody sticking, cortex size. Without somebody sticking, cortex size. Without somebody sticking, I'm assuming a thing in your head. That I'm assuming a thing in your head. That I'm assuming a thing in your head. That doesn't Yeah. The funny thing about doesn't Yeah. The funny thing about doesn't Yeah. The funny thing about neurosurgeons is they'll tell you, neurosurgeons is they'll tell you, neurosurgeons is they'll tell you, "Well, listen, after we make the little "Well, listen, after we make the little "Well, listen, after we make the little hole in your skull." They literally say hole in your skull." They literally say hole in your skull." They literally say this. One of my best friends from this. One of my best friends from this. One of my best friends from childhood is the chair of neurosurgery childhood is the chair of neurosurgery childhood is the chair of neurosurgery at UCSF, and he'll tell you, "Look, you at UCSF, and he'll tell you, "Look, you at UCSF, and he'll tell you, "Look, you know, yeah, we make the hole, like we do know, yeah, we make the hole, like we do know, yeah, we make the hole, like we do the thing, but then we put a titanium the thing, but then we put a titanium the thing, but then we put a titanium plate in there afterwards, and that's plate in there afterwards, and that's plate in there afterwards, and that's actually better than a skull cuz it can actually better than a skull cuz it can actually better than a skull cuz it can protect your brain even better." Maybe protect your brain even better." Maybe protect your brain even better." Maybe on that one little tiny area. actually, on that one little tiny area. actually, on that one little tiny area. actually, if you look this up, there are people if you look this up, there are people if you look this up, there are people who have, you know, these big pieces of who have, you know, these big pieces of who have, you know, these big pieces of titanium plate. Anyway, fortunately, titanium plate. Anyway, fortunately, titanium plate. Anyway, fortunately, the wingsuiting thing, you close shop the wingsuiting thing, you close shop the wingsuiting thing, you close shop with that early enough that you don't with that early enough that you don't with that early enough that you don't need those things, which brings me to need those things, which brings me to need those things, which brings me to have the the uh have the the uh have the the uh final question, although there might be final question, although there might be final question, although there might be one more. What are you super excited one more. What are you super excited one more. What are you super excited about these days? about these days? about these days? >> So, of all the things I do now >> So, of all the things I do now >> So, of all the things I do now and for people who are unfamiliar with and for people who are unfamiliar with and for people who are unfamiliar with me, I own a coffee shop. Um me, I own a coffee shop. Um me, I own a coffee shop. Um >> Black Rifle. >> Black Rifle. >> Black Rifle. >> Black I own a Black Rifle coffee shop in >> Black I own a Black Rifle coffee shop in >> Black I own a Black Rifle coffee shop in Kalispell, Montana. Kalispell, Montana. Kalispell, Montana. Uh I'm very good friends with the Uh I'm very good friends with the Uh I'm very good friends with the founder. He allowed me to open up the founder. He allowed me to open up the founder. He allowed me to open up the first one in Montana. first one in Montana. first one in Montana. Uh host a podcast. I travel the world Uh host a podcast. I travel the world Uh host a podcast. I travel the world with my wife. She's coaching. I do not with my wife. She's coaching. I do not with my wife. She's coaching. I do not coach jiu-jitsu. I participate in coach jiu-jitsu. I participate in coach jiu-jitsu. I participate in jiu-jitsu. Please don't ask me for jiu-jitsu. Please don't ask me for jiu-jitsu. Please don't ask me for jiu-jitsu advice cuz I'm going to tell jiu-jitsu advice cuz I'm going to tell jiu-jitsu advice cuz I'm going to tell you I'm not a coach. Go talk to someone you I'm not a coach. Go talk to someone you I'm not a coach. Go talk to someone who does this professionally. who does this professionally. who does this professionally. >> You roll with her? >> You roll with her? >> You roll with her? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. If you can beat your spouse, don't. If you can beat your spouse, don't. If you can beat your spouse, don't. That's going to save people a lot of That's going to save people a lot of That's going to save people a lot of pain and suffering right there. It's not pain and suffering right there. It's not pain and suffering right there. It's not worth it. worth it. worth it. I have beat my wife one time. I have beat my wife one time. I have beat my wife one time. And for clarity, before somebody clips And for clarity, before somebody clips And for clarity, before somebody clips this, I am talking in the context of a this, I am talking in the context of a this, I am talking in the context of a jiu-jitsu jiu-jitsu jiu-jitsu >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> As that was coming out, I'm like, oh, >> As that was coming out, I'm like, oh, >> As that was coming out, I'm like, oh, no. no. no. in a jiu-jitsu consensual jiu-jitsu in a jiu-jitsu consensual jiu-jitsu in a jiu-jitsu consensual jiu-jitsu exchange, I have submitted my wife one exchange, I have submitted my wife one exchange, I have submitted my wife one time. time. time. And And And the visual of our eye contact, the visual of our eye contact, the visual of our eye contact, I should have realized before finishing I should have realized before finishing I should have realized before finishing the submission what the potential the submission what the potential the submission what the potential long-term consequences would be. long-term consequences would be. long-term consequences would be. I did not and uh let me be the test I did not and uh let me be the test I did not and uh let me be the test subject for anybody else out there who subject for anybody else out there who subject for anybody else out there who trains with their significant other. trains with their significant other. trains with their significant other. Just drill. Just drill. Just drill. Just drill. Let them assume a dominant Just drill. Let them assume a dominant Just drill. Let them assume a dominant position and if they beat you, position and if they beat you, position and if they beat you, great. great. great. Take my advice for that. So, jiu-jitsu, Take my advice for that. So, jiu-jitsu, Take my advice for that. So, jiu-jitsu, coffee, podcast, I guess I can say I'm coffee, podcast, I guess I can say I'm coffee, podcast, I guess I can say I'm an author now. I have no plans for a an author now. I have no plans for a an author now. I have no plans for a second book. I had no plans for a first second book. I had no plans for a first second book. I had no plans for a first book, but here we are. book, but here we are. book, but here we are. All of those things, All of those things, All of those things, if you had given me an unlimited amount if you had given me an unlimited amount if you had given me an unlimited amount of time for a month when I was getting of time for a month when I was getting of time for a month when I was getting out of the SEAL Teams and had said, out of the SEAL Teams and had said, out of the SEAL Teams and had said, here's here's here's bunch of legal paperwork bunch of legal paperwork bunch of legal paperwork like legal notebooks and a pen as many like legal notebooks and a pen as many like legal notebooks and a pen as many as you want. Write down anything that as you want. Write down anything that as you want. Write down anything that you think you could possibly be doing you think you could possibly be doing you think you could possibly be doing when you get out. when you get out. when you get out. Not a single thing that I am doing right Not a single thing that I am doing right Not a single thing that I am doing right now would have been on that list. now would have been on that list. now would have been on that list. Couldn't even have fathomed it. I worked Couldn't even have fathomed it. I worked Couldn't even have fathomed it. I worked for a strength and conditioning company for a strength and conditioning company for a strength and conditioning company for a while. In doing that, I started for a while. In doing that, I started for a while. In doing that, I started being the pilot for the owner of that being the pilot for the owner of that being the pilot for the owner of that company, which led me to doing part 135 company, which led me to doing part 135 company, which led me to doing part 135 charter operations flying jets. charter operations flying jets. charter operations flying jets. Which I did that for a little bit. Well, Which I did that for a little bit. Well, Which I did that for a little bit. Well, and then I was a professional skydiver and then I was a professional skydiver and then I was a professional skydiver and base jumper for years. I got into and base jumper for years. I got into and base jumper for years. I got into the public speaking world. Uh moved to the public speaking world. Uh moved to the public speaking world. Uh moved to Montana. Then got into the coffee shop Montana. Then got into the coffee shop Montana. Then got into the coffee shop stuff. And I lost complete and utter stuff. And I lost complete and utter stuff. And I lost complete and utter sense of what the hell I wanted to do sense of what the hell I wanted to do sense of what the hell I wanted to do with my life somewhere in that mix. with my life somewhere in that mix. with my life somewhere in that mix. And what I am actually the most excited And what I am actually the most excited And what I am actually the most excited about now is that I have absolutely no about now is that I have absolutely no about now is that I have absolutely no idea idea idea what I want to do next. what I want to do next. what I want to do next. And I am old enough And I am old enough And I am old enough to realize to realize to realize that I don't have to like white-knuckle that I don't have to like white-knuckle that I don't have to like white-knuckle it. That it's going to present itself. it. That it's going to present itself. it. That it's going to present itself. Because that has what been the case in Because that has what been the case in Because that has what been the case in my life up to this point. So, my life up to this point. So, my life up to this point. So, you know, money's a great thing. I only you know, money's a great thing. I only you know, money's a great thing. I only want to make enough money so I can say want to make enough money so I can say want to make enough money so I can say no to things. That's my favorite most no to things. That's my favorite most no to things. That's my favorite most powerful word. Yes, the addition and powerful word. Yes, the addition and powerful word. Yes, the addition and subtraction, it is the older I get subtraction, it is the older I get subtraction, it is the older I get subtraction is way more powerful. Are subtraction is way more powerful. Are subtraction is way more powerful. Are you good at saying no? you good at saying no? you good at saying no? No. No. No. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> It can be hard. It depends. Because if >> It can be hard. It depends. Because if >> It can be hard. It depends. Because if [clears throat] the question comes from [clears throat] the question comes from [clears throat] the question comes from a pure business aspect, my litmus test a pure business aspect, my litmus test a pure business aspect, my litmus test is do I naturally do this in my life and is do I naturally do this in my life and is do I naturally do this in my life and would I actually enjoy this regardless would I actually enjoy this regardless would I actually enjoy this regardless of the check? If either of those is a of the check? If either of those is a of the check? If either of those is a no, it's an easy no. no, it's an easy no. no, it's an easy no. Tougher ones are Tougher ones are Tougher ones are uh friends, family. Hey, do you want to uh friends, family. Hey, do you want to uh friends, family. Hey, do you want to do this? That would get a little bit do this? That would get a little bit do this? That would get a little bit tougher cuz it's a little bit of a mix tougher cuz it's a little bit of a mix tougher cuz it's a little bit of a mix of personal and professional. of personal and professional. of personal and professional. But I am at a place where I know that I But I am at a place where I know that I But I am at a place where I know that I have the tools have the tools have the tools that I will be able to sort whatever that I will be able to sort whatever that I will be able to sort whatever comes my way. comes my way. comes my way. And by relaxing a little bit and And by relaxing a little bit and And by relaxing a little bit and white-knuckling it less and not having a white-knuckling it less and not having a white-knuckling it less and not having a specific target that I'm throwing darts specific target that I'm throwing darts specific target that I'm throwing darts at, it has actually provided more at, it has actually provided more at, it has actually provided more opportunities for me opportunities for me opportunities for me than anything else. than anything else. than anything else. So, So, So, yeah, I yeah, I yeah, I I wish I could give you a specific I wish I could give you a specific I wish I could give you a specific answer, but truly the realization that I answer, but truly the realization that I answer, but truly the realization that I know I'm prepared for whatever comes know I'm prepared for whatever comes know I'm prepared for whatever comes next is actually what I'm the most next is actually what I'm the most next is actually what I'm the most excited about. excited about. excited about. >> Very cool. I I can sense your excitement >> Very cool. I I can sense your excitement >> Very cool. I I can sense your excitement about the uncertainty about exactly what about the uncertainty about exactly what about the uncertainty about exactly what it will be, it will be, it will be, but the certainty that you've got a but the certainty that you've got a but the certainty that you've got a process that's now well worked out process that's now well worked out process that's now well worked out within you that just emerges and that's within you that just emerges and that's within you that just emerges and that's going to happen. going to happen. going to happen. >> You know, when I first got out of the >> You know, when I first got out of the >> You know, when I first got out of the military, it was almost crisis mode. I military, it was almost crisis mode. I military, it was almost crisis mode. I was working for the strength and was working for the strength and was working for the strength and conditioning company as my initial conditioning company as my initial conditioning company as my initial bridge out and I've been doing so on the bridge out and I've been doing so on the bridge out and I've been doing so on the weekends moonlighting. So, I had from a weekends moonlighting. So, I had from a weekends moonlighting. So, I had from a economic off-ramp, I went from making economic off-ramp, I went from making economic off-ramp, I went from making what I was making in the military to what I was making in the military to what I was making in the military to what I was making for that company. what I was making for that company. what I was making for that company. There was a slight increase as opposed There was a slight increase as opposed There was a slight increase as opposed to a decrease, which is great. to a decrease, which is great. to a decrease, which is great. Until that ended 16 months later when I Until that ended 16 months later when I Until that ended 16 months later when I quit without having uh another job lined quit without having uh another job lined quit without having uh another job lined up whatsoever and then went into the up whatsoever and then went into the up whatsoever and then went into the garage and started selling things on garage and started selling things on garage and started selling things on Craigslist, which is a really good way Craigslist, which is a really good way Craigslist, which is a really good way to meet really weird people. If you to meet really weird people. If you to meet really weird people. If you haven't tried it, give it a give it a haven't tried it, give it a give it a haven't tried it, give it a give it a go. go. go. Um maybe meet them away from your house Um maybe meet them away from your house Um maybe meet them away from your house or you know, [laughter] meet them down or you know, [laughter] meet them down or you know, [laughter] meet them down the street somewhere. the street somewhere. the street somewhere. But, it was for years But, it was for years But, it was for years am I going to have enough money to pay am I going to have enough money to pay am I going to have enough money to pay the bills? Am I going to have enough the bills? Am I going to have enough the bills? Am I going to have enough money for the mortgage? What am I going money for the mortgage? What am I going money for the mortgage? What am I going to do? to do? to do? What am I going to do if somebody What am I going to do if somebody What am I going to do if somebody doesn't reach out with an opportunity? doesn't reach out with an opportunity? doesn't reach out with an opportunity? Built a a uh Built a a uh Built a a uh I would say more I mean, I was going to I would say more I mean, I was going to I would say more I mean, I was going to say a tool say a tool say a tool a tool kit or a skill set, but it's more a tool kit or a skill set, but it's more a tool kit or a skill set, but it's more of a mentality than anything of a mentality than anything of a mentality than anything to realize that you can solve what does to realize that you can solve what does to realize that you can solve what does come out and you can kind of build on come out and you can kind of build on come out and you can kind of build on your you know, your foundation of the your you know, your foundation of the your you know, your foundation of the work that you have done and that can work that you have done and that can work that you have done and that can slowly build out over time. It takes slowly build out over time. It takes slowly build out over time. It takes time. This is not something that time. This is not something that time. This is not something that happened in a matter of 1 year. This is happened in a matter of 1 year. This is happened in a matter of 1 year. This is well well over a decade at this point, well well over a decade at this point, well well over a decade at this point, but getting out of that survival mode but getting out of that survival mode but getting out of that survival mode and just having the ability to assess and just having the ability to assess and just having the ability to assess opportunities from a place of do I even opportunities from a place of do I even opportunities from a place of do I even want to do this as opposed to a place of want to do this as opposed to a place of want to do this as opposed to a place of I feel like I have to. I feel like I have to. I feel like I have to. Man, you want to talk about a sleep Man, you want to talk about a sleep Man, you want to talk about a sleep score difference? score difference? score difference? >> Totally [laughter] >> Totally [laughter] >> Totally [laughter] can can relate. can can relate. can can relate. Can relate. Oh, it's it's a world apart. Can relate. Oh, it's it's a world apart. Can relate. Oh, it's it's a world apart. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And you've earned it. >> And you've earned it. >> And you've earned it. >> But it takes time and that's what people >> But it takes time and that's what people >> But it takes time and that's what people don't want to see. It's the overnight don't want to see. It's the overnight don't want to see. It's the overnight 10-year success. 10-year success. 10-year success. Which Which Which >> Again, I'm sure you could point to >> Again, I'm sure you could point to >> Again, I'm sure you could point to somebody who has that. somebody who has that. somebody who has that. Does that scale broadly? Does that scale broadly? Does that scale broadly? >> Yeah. And it doesn't last. I don't know >> Yeah. And it doesn't last. I don't know >> Yeah. And it doesn't last. I don't know anyone that came up quick and it just anyone that came up quick and it just anyone that came up quick and it just had like a step function where it's had like a step function where it's had like a step function where it's still going. It's still going. It's still going. It's >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Or continued on the the vertical >> Or continued on the the vertical >> Or continued on the the vertical forever. forever. forever. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And again, it's an outlier. Cool, >> And again, it's an outlier. Cool, >> And again, it's an outlier. Cool, totally get it and two thumbs up for totally get it and two thumbs up for totally get it and two thumbs up for that person. that person. that person. But for everybody who thinks they're But for everybody who thinks they're But for everybody who thinks they're going to replicate that, even by doing going to replicate that, even by doing going to replicate that, even by doing exactly the same things, exactly the same things, exactly the same things, hasn't been my experience. hasn't been my experience. hasn't been my experience. >> Last question. You talk about the price >> Last question. You talk about the price >> Last question. You talk about the price of success. of success. of success. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> And just acknowledging it. >> And just acknowledging it. >> And just acknowledging it. Wouldn't want to scare anyone out of Wouldn't want to scare anyone out of Wouldn't want to scare anyone out of going after their dreams. going after their dreams. going after their dreams. >> I would. That's what I'm here for. >> I would. That's what I'm here for. >> I would. That's what I'm here for. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Either short-term or long-term dreams >> Either short-term or long-term dreams >> Either short-term or long-term dreams cuz I'm like a, you know, I pick the cuz I'm like a, you know, I pick the cuz I'm like a, you know, I pick the target and go after it. And you know, target and go after it. And you know, target and go after it. And you know, you know, you know, you know, I think five-year I think five-year I think five-year five-year increments are really good. five-year increments are really good. five-year increments are really good. That's That's That's Anyway, that's just my bias, but there's Anyway, that's just my bias, but there's Anyway, that's just my bias, but there's a price. a price. a price. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Yeah. I could list off the number of >> Yeah. I could list off the number of >> Yeah. I could list off the number of things I missed or didn't do or failed things I missed or didn't do or failed things I missed or didn't do or failed or whatever. You certainly talk about or whatever. You certainly talk about or whatever. You certainly talk about some of those and and they can go from, some of those and and they can go from, some of those and and they can go from, you know, the many small things that one you know, the many small things that one you know, the many small things that one can miss out on that it, you know, in can miss out on that it, you know, in can miss out on that it, you know, in total or turn out to be bigger things. total or turn out to be bigger things. total or turn out to be bigger things. And then there like key moments that, And then there like key moments that, And then there like key moments that, you know, people miss and maybe let's you know, people miss and maybe let's you know, people miss and maybe let's just get your thoughts on just get your thoughts on just get your thoughts on gauging the price of success. Should gauging the price of success. Should gauging the price of success. Should people have a sense of what their line people have a sense of what their line people have a sense of what their line is before they, you know, jump into the is before they, you know, jump into the is before they, you know, jump into the you know, the line of pursuit for their you know, the line of pursuit for their you know, the line of pursuit for their goal or do you think it's just something goal or do you think it's just something goal or do you think it's just something that, you know, you just got to learn by that, you know, you just got to learn by that, you know, you just got to learn by experience? experience? experience? >> I think until you learn through at least >> I think until you learn through at least >> I think until you learn through at least a little bit of experience, it's hard to a little bit of experience, it's hard to a little bit of experience, it's hard to gauge where your line is. Because for a gauge where your line is. Because for a gauge where your line is. Because for a while, while, while, you just don't know what you don't know. you just don't know what you don't know. you just don't know what you don't know. And maybe we live in a in a world where And maybe we live in a in a world where And maybe we live in a in a world where information is more accessible and so information is more accessible and so information is more accessible and so people can figure it out. Like my middle people can figure it out. Like my middle people can figure it out. Like my middle son as an example, it's fascinating son as an example, it's fascinating son as an example, it's fascinating watching my kids watching my kids watching my kids use the internet to bridge gaps in use the internet to bridge gaps in use the internet to bridge gaps in knowledge. knowledge. knowledge. Going on to you My middle son Going on to you My middle son Going on to you My middle son specifically started two businesses when specifically started two businesses when specifically started two businesses when he was he was he was in high school. in high school. in high school. Uh he started a window cleaning company Uh he started a window cleaning company Uh he started a window cleaning company called Peeping Tom's Windows. called Peeping Tom's Windows. called Peeping Tom's Windows. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Which By the way, I came up with both of >> Which By the way, I came up with both of >> Which By the way, I came up with both of these names. That was on the only these names. That was on the only these names. That was on the only marketing help I had. And he had a marketing help I had. And he had a marketing help I had. And he had a Christmas light company that was called Christmas light company that was called Christmas light company that was called Epstein's Lights cuz they're not going Epstein's Lights cuz they're not going Epstein's Lights cuz they're not going to hang themselves. to hang themselves. to hang themselves. Right? Again, I I came up with the Right? Again, I I came up with the Right? Again, I I came up with the names. He had to go door to door. names. He had to go door to door. names. He had to go door to door. But everything to include LLCs, But everything to include LLCs, But everything to include LLCs, equipment, it's YouTube. How do you equipment, it's YouTube. How do you equipment, it's YouTube. How do you How do you start an LLC? How do you How do you start an LLC? How do you How do you start an LLC? How do you get a business license? How do you get get a business license? How do you get get a business license? How do you get insurance for a window cleaning company? insurance for a window cleaning company? insurance for a window cleaning company? So So So I think when you and I were growing up, I think when you and I were growing up, I think when you and I were growing up, you were kind of out there smacking your you were kind of out there smacking your you were kind of out there smacking your head against the wall a little bit head against the wall a little bit head against the wall a little bit unless you could find somebody who was unless you could find somebody who was unless you could find somebody who was exactly in that profession. exactly in that profession. exactly in that profession. So when I was in high school wanting to So when I was in high school wanting to So when I was in high school wanting to be a team guy, I didn't know any team be a team guy, I didn't know any team be a team guy, I didn't know any team guys. guys. guys. I mean, I knew Charlie Sheen, but I mean, I knew Charlie Sheen, but I mean, I knew Charlie Sheen, but who didn't, right? Documentary movie who who didn't, right? Documentary movie who who didn't, right? Documentary movie who probably inspired thousands of people to probably inspired thousands of people to probably inspired thousands of people to join the military and then they get join the military and then they get join the military and then they get there and like, oh, there and like, oh, there and like, oh, this is all made up. Damn it. Except for this is all made up. Damn it. Except for this is all made up. Damn it. Except for the opening scene where he shit-faced the opening scene where he shit-faced the opening scene where he shit-faced wakes up in the ocean, relatively wakes up in the ocean, relatively wakes up in the ocean, relatively accurate. accurate. accurate. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Beyond that though, don't take that >> Beyond that though, don't take that >> Beyond that though, don't take that movie seriously. You're not jumping off movie seriously. You're not jumping off movie seriously. You're not jumping off your Jeep over the bridge and you know, your Jeep over the bridge and you know, your Jeep over the bridge and you know, Chesapeake to get to work. Chesapeake to get to work. Chesapeake to get to work. I didn't actually run into a SEAL to get I didn't actually run into a SEAL to get I didn't actually run into a SEAL to get beta from until I was in the military. beta from until I was in the military. beta from until I was in the military. So I didn't even have access to that. So I didn't even have access to that. So I didn't even have access to that. There are I mean, I saw this when I was There are I mean, I saw this when I was There are I mean, I saw this when I was an instructor, there are websites that an instructor, there are websites that an instructor, there are websites that list every single day of training with list every single day of training with list every single day of training with relative accuracy to everything you're relative accuracy to everything you're relative accuracy to everything you're going to do that day. going to do that day. going to do that day. Which actually the instructors were Which actually the instructors were Which actually the instructors were pissed about and then I realized, oh, pissed about and then I realized, oh, pissed about and then I realized, oh, that's a good thing. That plays to our that's a good thing. That plays to our that's a good thing. That plays to our favor. favor. favor. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> If you an instructor >> If you an instructor >> If you an instructor >> I was an instructor. >> I was an instructor. >> I was an instructor. You can then remind them how much time You can then remind them how much time You can then remind them how much time they have left. You can play the time they have left. You can play the time they have left. You can play the time game in reverse with them. game in reverse with them. game in reverse with them. But again, growing up, I But again, growing up, I But again, growing up, I I didn't have a real good place to get I didn't have a real good place to get I didn't have a real good place to get this information where my kids do now. this information where my kids do now. this information where my kids do now. So, I think there's an opportunity if So, I think there's an opportunity if So, I think there's an opportunity if you smartly use these tools you smartly use these tools you smartly use these tools that you can maybe learn a little bit that you can maybe learn a little bit that you can maybe learn a little bit more and at least get access to more and at least get access to more and at least get access to some of the mistakes or just the the some of the mistakes or just the the some of the mistakes or just the the mistakes that you would naturally make mistakes that you would naturally make mistakes that you would naturally make because you just didn't know. Like you because you just didn't know. Like you because you just didn't know. Like you probably can do a window cleaning probably can do a window cleaning probably can do a window cleaning business, but you might get in trouble business, but you might get in trouble business, but you might get in trouble from the city because of you're into it, from the city because of you're into it, from the city because of you're into it, you didn't realize you needed to have a you didn't realize you needed to have a you didn't realize you needed to have a business license. Like, okay, you can business license. Like, okay, you can business license. Like, okay, you can skip that because you could go to the skip that because you could go to the skip that because you could go to the internet and find out what you need internet and find out what you need internet and find out what you need and the requirements and all that stuff. and the requirements and all that stuff. and the requirements and all that stuff. I I I much like you, I don't ever want to tell much like you, I don't ever want to tell much like you, I don't ever want to tell people that they shouldn't pursue their people that they shouldn't pursue their people that they shouldn't pursue their goals, both short-term and long-term. goals, both short-term and long-term. goals, both short-term and long-term. But I am now of the opinion as I get But I am now of the opinion as I get But I am now of the opinion as I get older older older that I would rather have people arrive a that I would rather have people arrive a that I would rather have people arrive a little bit under this massive lifetime little bit under this massive lifetime little bit under this massive lifetime goal goal goal and be a really happy and be a really happy and be a really happy really fulfilled, really enriched person really fulfilled, really enriched person really fulfilled, really enriched person than somebody who carves out everything than somebody who carves out everything than somebody who carves out everything from their life from their life from their life life experiences, social experiences, life experiences, social experiences, life experiences, social experiences, family experiences, holidays, and they family experiences, holidays, and they family experiences, holidays, and they get exactly what it is that they wanted get exactly what it is that they wanted get exactly what it is that they wanted and they have nothing. Cuz I think both and they have nothing. Cuz I think both and they have nothing. Cuz I think both you and I know people who from the you and I know people who from the you and I know people who from the outside, oh my god, outside, oh my god, outside, oh my god, the money, the money, the money, the fame, the fill in the blank. They're the fame, the fill in the blank. They're the fame, the fill in the blank. They're not that happy, but they have everything not that happy, but they have everything not that happy, but they have everything that they wanted and they have nothing. that they wanted and they have nothing. that they wanted and they have nothing. That sounds like hell. That sounds like hell. That sounds like hell. I'd rather have people fall a little bit I'd rather have people fall a little bit I'd rather have people fall a little bit short of that and be really happy about short of that and be really happy about short of that and be really happy about where they are. where they are. where they are. But But But it's tough. I mean, how can you be it's tough. I mean, how can you be it's tough. I mean, how can you be prescriptive with that? How do you say, prescriptive with that? How do you say, prescriptive with that? How do you say, "Aim for your goal, Andrew, but just a "Aim for your goal, Andrew, but just a "Aim for your goal, Andrew, but just a little bit short." Yeah. That's a shitty little bit short." Yeah. That's a shitty little bit short." Yeah. That's a shitty fortune cookie. fortune cookie. fortune cookie. >> You know? >> You know? >> You know? >> Try hard. Believe some for yourself. >> Try hard. Believe some for yourself. >> Try hard. Believe some for yourself. >> It is a tough one. And um if people at >> It is a tough one. And um if people at >> It is a tough one. And um if people at sort of top 1% of their careers were sort of top 1% of their careers were sort of top 1% of their careers were willing to open the veil on their lives willing to open the veil on their lives willing to open the veil on their lives and show what, you know, Christmas Day and show what, you know, Christmas Day and show what, you know, Christmas Day looks like for them or what, you know, looks like for them or what, you know, looks like for them or what, you know, New Year's Day looks like for them or a New Year's Day looks like for them or a New Year's Day looks like for them or a typical, you know, Friday evening looks typical, you know, Friday evening looks typical, you know, Friday evening looks like for them, like for them, like for them, >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> you know, a lot of people would probably >> you know, a lot of people would probably >> you know, a lot of people would probably rethink their goals. rethink their goals. rethink their goals. >> I think it would shock a lot of people. >> I think it would shock a lot of people. >> I think it would shock a lot of people. And again, I don't consider my And again, I don't consider my And again, I don't consider my the people we're talking about, I mean, the people we're talking about, I mean, the people we're talking about, I mean, these are publicly facing people. You these are publicly facing people. You these are publicly facing people. You could look at them and think could look at them and think could look at them and think that it's perfection. And we have a that it's perfection. And we have a that it's perfection. And we have a little bit of social circle overlap and little bit of social circle overlap and little bit of social circle overlap and I've rubbed elbows with a couple of I've rubbed elbows with a couple of I've rubbed elbows with a couple of these people these people these people and kind of leave with the perception and kind of leave with the perception and kind of leave with the perception of, man, of, man, of, man, you have everything, but at what cost? you have everything, but at what cost? you have everything, but at what cost? I just don't think it's worth it. I just don't think it's worth it. I just don't think it's worth it. >> Yeah, I don't think it's worth it, >> Yeah, I don't think it's worth it, >> Yeah, I don't think it's worth it, either. And it sort of brings us either. And it sort of brings us either. And it sort of brings us >> to elements of our prior conversation >> to elements of our prior conversation >> to elements of our prior conversation about when things really, you know, drop about when things really, you know, drop about when things really, you know, drop into the trench for certain people who into the trench for certain people who into the trench for certain people who are, you know, at least from the outside are, you know, at least from the outside are, you know, at least from the outside doing incredible in their professions or doing incredible in their professions or doing incredible in their professions or their craft. their craft. their craft. >> I think there is a a place to find >> I think there is a a place to find >> I think there is a a place to find balance on the whole. Maybe it's like balance on the whole. Maybe it's like balance on the whole. Maybe it's like first 50 years, you just, you know, I'm first 50 years, you just, you know, I'm first 50 years, you just, you know, I'm talking to myself, right? Uh you just talking to myself, right? Uh you just talking to myself, right? Uh you just grind it out and then you go, "Okay, grind it out and then you go, "Okay, grind it out and then you go, "Okay, cool." Like the, you know, someone said cool." Like the, you know, someone said cool." Like the, you know, someone said it, I didn't say this. I think it was it, I didn't say this. I think it was it, I didn't say this. I think it was Naval that said this. Like you, you Naval that said this. Like you, you Naval that said this. Like you, you know, one of the reasons to win the game know, one of the reasons to win the game know, one of the reasons to win the game is so you can stop playing the game. So is so you can stop playing the game. So is so you can stop playing the game. So you have to sort of define what winning you have to sort of define what winning you have to sort of define what winning the game is and and that's different for the game is and and that's different for the game is and and that's different for different things. But that portion of different things. But that portion of different things. But that portion of your book really got me thinking. You your book really got me thinking. You your book really got me thinking. You know, know, know, >> is an interesting aspect. >> is an interesting aspect. >> is an interesting aspect. More seems to be the number of people More seems to be the number of people More seems to be the number of people are after more than a number. are after more than a number. are after more than a number. And I don't know what that looks like And I don't know what that looks like And I don't know what that looks like because what if your number is never because what if your number is never because what if your number is never enough and you're constantly seeking and enough and you're constantly seeking and enough and you're constantly seeking and you never get to enjoy what you have via you never get to enjoy what you have via you never get to enjoy what you have via an experience as opposed to a thing that an experience as opposed to a thing that an experience as opposed to a thing that you're not going to get to take with you're not going to get to take with you're not going to get to take with you, anyway? you, anyway? you, anyway? Doesn't more end up netting you less? Doesn't more end up netting you less? Doesn't more end up netting you less? Yeah, Morgan Housel has a He has a Yeah, Morgan Housel has a He has a Yeah, Morgan Housel has a He has a couple of really good books. Um I couple of really good books. Um I couple of really good books. Um I actually like the second one more. Uh actually like the second one more. Uh actually like the second one more. Uh they're both excellent, but uh the they're both excellent, but uh the they're both excellent, but uh the second one is called The Art of Spending second one is called The Art of Spending second one is called The Art of Spending Money, which sounds like, you know, Money, which sounds like, you know, Money, which sounds like, you know, here's a rich guy telling people how to here's a rich guy telling people how to here's a rich guy telling people how to spend their money. Very interesting spend their money. Very interesting spend their money. Very interesting book. Uh mostly psychological but how to book. Uh mostly psychological but how to book. Uh mostly psychological but how to really um assess what's what things are really um assess what's what things are really um assess what's what things are worth to you both in terms of what it worth to you both in terms of what it worth to you both in terms of what it takes to get the resources and then when takes to get the resources and then when takes to get the resources and then when to use them. And I mean, I will say, you to use them. And I mean, I will say, you to use them. And I mean, I will say, you know, all the There's a lot of data know, all the There's a lot of data know, all the There's a lot of data saying that, you know, you know, past it saying that, you know, you know, past it saying that, you know, you know, past it used to be like $70,000 a year. Now, I used to be like $70,000 a year. Now, I used to be like $70,000 a year. Now, I think it's scaled up with inflation, you think it's scaled up with inflation, you think it's scaled up with inflation, you know, past a certain amount of money know, past a certain amount of money know, past a certain amount of money people aren't happier. I disagree. I people aren't happier. I disagree. I people aren't happier. I disagree. I actually think that money cannot buy actually think that money cannot buy actually think that money cannot buy happiness, but it certainly can buffer happiness, but it certainly can buffer happiness, but it certainly can buffer certain kinds of stress. certain kinds of stress. certain kinds of stress. >> I agree. >> I agree. >> I agree. >> Not all forms, right? I know some very >> Not all forms, right? I know some very >> Not all forms, right? I know some very wealthy people that used to fund my lab wealthy people that used to fund my lab wealthy people that used to fund my lab for studies on optic nerve repair who for studies on optic nerve repair who for studies on optic nerve repair who had kids with diseases that were had kids with diseases that were had kids with diseases that were blinding disease. I'll tell you, you can blinding disease. I'll tell you, you can blinding disease. I'll tell you, you can have a billions of dollars in the bank have a billions of dollars in the bank have a billions of dollars in the bank and and and they're putting money to try and heal they're putting money to try and heal they're putting money to try and heal that pain and solve the problem. that pain and solve the problem. that pain and solve the problem. Fortunately for their kid and many Fortunately for their kid and many Fortunately for their kid and many others, that's the Fortunately part is others, that's the Fortunately part is others, that's the Fortunately part is that they're willing to do that. that they're willing to do that. that they're willing to do that. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> But money can solve certain problems, >> But money can solve certain problems, >> But money can solve certain problems, not others, but it can buffer stress, not others, but it can buffer stress, not others, but it can buffer stress, certain forms of stress. And I think certain forms of stress. And I think certain forms of stress. And I think that's not that that's just the honest that's not that that's just the honest that's not that that's just the honest truth. truth. truth. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> It can't buy connection of a real kind, >> It can't buy connection of a real kind, >> It can't buy connection of a real kind, and it can undermine. and it can undermine. and it can undermine. >> I was going to say at a certain level of >> I was going to say at a certain level of >> I was going to say at a certain level of money, money, money, I've seen it undermine the connection I've seen it undermine the connection I've seen it undermine the connection because the person becomes wary of why because the person becomes wary of why because the person becomes wary of why does this person want to have a does this person want to have a does this person want to have a connection with me in the first place. connection with me in the first place. connection with me in the first place. And they're they didn't come that way. And they're they didn't come that way. And they're they didn't come that way. They got taken advantage of enough times They got taken advantage of enough times They got taken advantage of enough times that they developed that thought that they developed that thought that they developed that thought process. process. process. >> You know, it's a whole other >> You know, it's a whole other >> You know, it's a whole other conversation, but money's a certain form conversation, but money's a certain form conversation, but money's a certain form of energy, and when people have a lot of of energy, and when people have a lot of of energy, and when people have a lot of it, it, it, it it tends to attract people who want it it tends to attract people who want it it tends to attract people who want to I don't want to say steal, but they to I don't want to say steal, but they to I don't want to say steal, but they they feel like some they're entitled to they feel like some they're entitled to they feel like some they're entitled to some of that energy. At the end of the some of that energy. At the end of the some of that energy. At the end of the day, I I think if everyone could define day, I I think if everyone could define day, I I think if everyone could define what enough for themselves is, maybe what enough for themselves is, maybe what enough for themselves is, maybe with that includes a buffer. Like cuz with that includes a buffer. Like cuz with that includes a buffer. Like cuz they grew up with a lot of financial they grew up with a lot of financial they grew up with a lot of financial fear or something, they need enough plus fear or something, they need enough plus fear or something, they need enough plus a little bit more just in case kind of a little bit more just in case kind of a little bit more just in case kind of thing. I know people like that. Past thing. I know people like that. Past thing. I know people like that. Past that, I I don't think there's anything that, I I don't think there's anything that, I I don't think there's anything more to be gained in terms of well-being more to be gained in terms of well-being more to be gained in terms of well-being or life experiences. or life experiences. or life experiences. >> I do agree with the stress. I mean, if >> I do agree with the stress. I mean, if >> I do agree with the stress. I mean, if you can get to a place where you could you can get to a place where you could you can get to a place where you could outsource food or outsource food or outsource food or menial tasks that will give you more menial tasks that will give you more menial tasks that will give you more time to do the things that you are time to do the things that you are time to do the things that you are enriched by, yes, it 100% can help with enriched by, yes, it 100% can help with enriched by, yes, it 100% can help with that. that. that. But, you know, the example you said, you But, you know, the example you said, you But, you know, the example you said, you know, a billionaire know, a billionaire know, a billionaire who probably feels helpless. who probably feels helpless. who probably feels helpless. What? What? What? You know? Like, those two things You know? Like, those two things You know? Like, those two things shouldn't go together in a sentence, but shouldn't go together in a sentence, but shouldn't go together in a sentence, but that's the reality. No amount of money that's the reality. No amount of money that's the reality. No amount of money is going to make that person not feel is going to make that person not feel is going to make that person not feel helpless, especially when they're helpless, especially when they're helpless, especially when they're touched by that particular situation in touched by that particular situation in touched by that particular situation in their life. their life. their life. May not be the end-all, be-all that May not be the end-all, be-all that May not be the end-all, be-all that people think it is. people think it is. people think it is. >> Well, Andy, >> Well, Andy, >> Well, Andy, loved the book. I know I've said that loved the book. I know I've said that loved the book. I know I've said that many times, so I don't want to diminish many times, so I don't want to diminish many times, so I don't want to diminish from that statement by saying it too from that statement by saying it too from that statement by saying it too many times, but it's an awesome book. many times, but it's an awesome book. many times, but it's an awesome book. Thank you. Really has changed my life Thank you. Really has changed my life Thank you. Really has changed my life for the better. I've been recommending for the better. I've been recommending for the better. I've been recommending it like crazy. I was in New York last it like crazy. I was in New York last it like crazy. I was in New York last week giving a talk to uh this group week giving a talk to uh this group week giving a talk to uh this group raising money for uh a different raising money for uh a different raising money for uh a different laboratory and um they said, you know, laboratory and um they said, you know, laboratory and um they said, you know, what's what's the difference between what's what's the difference between what's what's the difference between people who are like 11th to 100th in people who are like 11th to 100th in people who are like 11th to 100th in their profession versus the top 10? And their profession versus the top 10? And their profession versus the top 10? And I said, well, so much of it is about how I said, well, so much of it is about how I said, well, so much of it is about how they allocate their energy, and I found they allocate their energy, and I found they allocate their energy, and I found this tool recently in, you know, Andy's this tool recently in, you know, Andy's this tool recently in, you know, Andy's book and, you know, book and, you know, book and, you know, I've been talking about the book like I've been talking about the book like I've been talking about the book like crazy because of the practical value crazy because of the practical value crazy because of the practical value that it has and also the potency of the that it has and also the potency of the that it has and also the potency of the of the true life examples that you give of the true life examples that you give of the true life examples that you give that really extend to everybody. I know that really extend to everybody. I know that really extend to everybody. I know we talked a lot about teams and guys and we talked a lot about teams and guys and we talked a lot about teams and guys and stuff and everything in there really is stuff and everything in there really is stuff and everything in there really is a benefit, I say this with certainty, to a benefit, I say this with certainty, to a benefit, I say this with certainty, to men, women, boys, girls, young and old. men, women, boys, girls, young and old. men, women, boys, girls, young and old. So much value there. You're you're So much value there. You're you're So much value there. You're you're clearly uh get-after-it kind of person. clearly uh get-after-it kind of person. clearly uh get-after-it kind of person. You're also clearly very reflective. And You're also clearly very reflective. And You're also clearly very reflective. And whatever friction it took to write whatever friction it took to write whatever friction it took to write portions or or that book and get it out portions or or that book and get it out portions or or that book and get it out there, I'm just very grateful that you there, I'm just very grateful that you there, I'm just very grateful that you did. It's it's a real asset. And um I'm did. It's it's a real asset. And um I'm did. It's it's a real asset. And um I'm also very grateful you came here today also very grateful you came here today also very grateful you came here today to to share to to share to to share >> We finally linked up. >> We finally linked up. >> We finally linked up. >> And we finally linked up. I have to say >> And we finally linked up. I have to say >> And we finally linked up. I have to say Montana is my favorite state in the Montana is my favorite state in the Montana is my favorite state in the entire country and maybe my favorite entire country and maybe my favorite entire country and maybe my favorite place in the entire world. Many years place in the entire world. Many years place in the entire world. Many years ago I dreamed of living there and I love ago I dreamed of living there and I love ago I dreamed of living there and I love hiking in Glacier and yes, they do have hiking in Glacier and yes, they do have hiking in Glacier and yes, they do have real bears there, not like in Yosemite real bears there, not like in Yosemite real bears there, not like in Yosemite where they have bears but not the kind where they have bears but not the kind where they have bears but not the kind of bears that will hunt you. So wear of bears that will hunt you. So wear of bears that will hunt you. So wear your bear bell, story for another time. your bear bell, story for another time. your bear bell, story for another time. And And And >> got somebody not too long ago. Yeah, in >> got somebody not too long ago. Yeah, in >> got somebody not too long ago. Yeah, in Glacier. Glacier. Glacier. >> Yeah, wear your bear bell. >> Yeah, wear your bear bell. >> Yeah, wear your bear bell. Hang [laughter] your food, wear your Hang [laughter] your food, wear your Hang [laughter] your food, wear your bear bell. But uh, bear bell. But uh, bear bell. But uh, listen man, you're doing amazing work listen man, you're doing amazing work listen man, you're doing amazing work and we'll put links to all the things and we'll put links to all the things and we'll put links to all the things mentioned but thanks so much. Let's do mentioned but thanks so much. Let's do mentioned but thanks so much. Let's do it again. it again. it again. >> Thank you. I appreciate it. >> Thank you. 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