Q&A - Health Update, Sobriety & Finding The One

Hello everybody. Welcome back to the Hello everybody. Welcome back to the show. I had a haircut and hit 4.1 show. I had a haircut and hit 4.1 show. I had a haircut and hit 4.1 million subscribers. So, let's get into million subscribers. So, let's get into million subscribers. So, let's get into it. Oh, actually before I get into it, it. Oh, actually before I get into it, it. Oh, actually before I get into it, it's nearly Valentine's Day and I put it's nearly Valentine's Day and I put it's nearly Valentine's Day and I put together a list of 50 of the most together a list of 50 of the most together a list of 50 of the most evidence-based and viral questions on evidence-based and viral questions on evidence-based and viral questions on the internet and from my journal to the internet and from my journal to the internet and from my journal to connect more deeply with your partner connect more deeply with your partner connect more deeply with your partner and 25 to work out whether or not you and 25 to work out whether or not you and 25 to work out whether or not you should break up. And this has been should break up. And this has been should break up. And this has been breaking people's brains on Instagram. breaking people's brains on Instagram. breaking people's brains on Instagram. The DM replies I've got to some of the The DM replies I've got to some of the The DM replies I've got to some of the samples of the questions are insane. So, samples of the questions are insane. So, samples of the questions are insane. So, if you want a list of 50 questions to if you want a list of 50 questions to if you want a list of 50 questions to connect with your partner and 25 to work connect with your partner and 25 to work connect with your partner and 25 to work out whether or not you should break up out whether or not you should break up out whether or not you should break up quietly on your own, uh, go to quietly on your own, uh, go to quietly on your own, uh, go to chriswilx.com/valentine. Okay, now let's get into it. Okay, now let's get into it. Ox26. Ox26. Ox26. What uncomfortable question should What uncomfortable question should What uncomfortable question should people ask themselves before going for people ask themselves before going for people ask themselves before going for success? success? success? I think a really great question that I think a really great question that I think a really great question that almost no one asks is do I want to live almost no one asks is do I want to live almost no one asks is do I want to live the lifestyle required to get the life. the lifestyle required to get the life. the lifestyle required to get the life. So for instance, if you love the idea of So for instance, if you love the idea of So for instance, if you love the idea of being a rock star, you want to be a being a rock star, you want to be a being a rock star, you want to be a guitarist that tours the world. Well, guitarist that tours the world. Well, guitarist that tours the world. Well, what does that look like? What does the what does that look like? What does the what does that look like? What does the lifestyle of that look like? It looks lifestyle of that look like? It looks lifestyle of that look like? It looks like 10 years probably playing in your like 10 years probably playing in your like 10 years probably playing in your bedroom, learning chords and bedroom, learning chords and bedroom, learning chords and progressions and then learning to progressions and then learning to progressions and then learning to songwrite. It looks like another five in songwrite. It looks like another five in songwrite. It looks like another five in a van touring around making basically no a van touring around making basically no a van touring around making basically no money with a ton of uncertainty and very money with a ton of uncertainty and very money with a ton of uncertainty and very little support. And then maybe you start little support. And then maybe you start little support. And then maybe you start to pick up that that is the lifestyle. to pick up that that is the lifestyle. to pick up that that is the lifestyle. And even after that it's do you want to And even after that it's do you want to And even after that it's do you want to be away from your family? If you want to be away from your family? If you want to be away from your family? If you want to have a family, friends, community, have a family, friends, community, have a family, friends, community, whatever you're going to be traveling whatever you're going to be traveling whatever you're going to be traveling the world a lot, you're going to be the world a lot, you're going to be the world a lot, you're going to be spending most of your time in airports spending most of your time in airports spending most of your time in airports or on buses. Is that what you want? If or on buses. Is that what you want? If or on buses. Is that what you want? If you do not want to live the lifestyle, you do not want to live the lifestyle, you do not want to live the lifestyle, you have to release yourself of the you have to release yourself of the you have to release yourself of the desire. Whatever your definition of desire. Whatever your definition of desire. Whatever your definition of success is, the uncomfortable question success is, the uncomfortable question success is, the uncomfortable question you should ask before going for success. you should ask before going for success. you should ask before going for success. What is your definition of success and What is your definition of success and What is your definition of success and what is the route to get there? If you what is the route to get there? If you what is the route to get there? If you do not want to endure the route to get do not want to endure the route to get do not want to endure the route to get there, you have to relinquish yourself there, you have to relinquish yourself there, you have to relinquish yourself of the desire for the success because of the desire for the success because of the desire for the success because it's just otherwise it is just it's just otherwise it is just it's just otherwise it is just guaranteeing misery. Right? I want this guaranteeing misery. Right? I want this guaranteeing misery. Right? I want this thing but I don't want to do what is thing but I don't want to do what is thing but I don't want to do what is required to get there or what is required to get there or what is required to get there or what is required on route to get there or to required on route to get there or to required on route to get there or to live that thing is going to be miser live that thing is going to be miser live that thing is going to be miser miseryinducing to me. miseryinducing to me. miseryinducing to me. That seems like a pretty reliable way to That seems like a pretty reliable way to That seems like a pretty reliable way to have a shitty life. So that's a good have a shitty life. So that's a good have a shitty life. So that's a good question. question. question. Is Belan Is Belan Is Belan [ __ ] I every time, dude, with these [ __ ] I every time, dude, with these [ __ ] I every time, dude, with these [ __ ] [ __ ] [ __ ] usernames. usernames. usernames. I'll do my best. Okay. Isabelle I'll do my best. Okay. Isabelle I'll do my best. Okay. Isabelle Vanaswigan, Vanaswigan, Vanaswigan, have you ever tried the carnivore diet? have you ever tried the carnivore diet? have you ever tried the carnivore diet? Yes, I did, I guess, a version of the Yes, I did, I guess, a version of the Yes, I did, I guess, a version of the carnivore diet, which is meat and fruit. carnivore diet, which is meat and fruit. carnivore diet, which is meat and fruit. And I did that for pretty [ __ ] And I did that for pretty [ __ ] And I did that for pretty [ __ ] strictly strictly strictly from September 24 until from September 24 until from September 24 until April of last year, so over 6 months. April of last year, so over 6 months. April of last year, so over 6 months. Um, I felt great mentally on it. This is Um, I felt great mentally on it. This is Um, I felt great mentally on it. This is when I was going through a lot of brain when I was going through a lot of brain when I was going through a lot of brain fog, still trying to detox all of the fog, still trying to detox all of the fog, still trying to detox all of the mold. And, um, felt mentally good, but mold. And, um, felt mentally good, but mold. And, um, felt mentally good, but it annihilated my cholesterol. My it annihilated my cholesterol. My it annihilated my cholesterol. My cholesterol just went through the roof. cholesterol just went through the roof. cholesterol just went through the roof. Uh, lots of people are hyperabsorbers of Uh, lots of people are hyperabsorbers of Uh, lots of people are hyperabsorbers of cholesterol or they're more sensitive to cholesterol or they're more sensitive to cholesterol or they're more sensitive to it. Turns out I'm one of those people. it. Turns out I'm one of those people. it. Turns out I'm one of those people. So, uh, the carnivore diet kind of has a So, uh, the carnivore diet kind of has a So, uh, the carnivore diet kind of has a lot of people pray at the alt of it lot of people pray at the alt of it lot of people pray at the alt of it because it makes them feel better, because it makes them feel better, because it makes them feel better, including me, but it can be pretty including me, but it can be pretty including me, but it can be pretty destructive to some of the important destructive to some of the important destructive to some of the important numbers and heart health and keeping an numbers and heart health and keeping an numbers and heart health and keeping an eye on LDL levels and stuff is pretty eye on LDL levels and stuff is pretty eye on LDL levels and stuff is pretty important. So tried it, was okay with important. So tried it, was okay with important. So tried it, was okay with it, took some of the principles of it, it, took some of the principles of it, it, took some of the principles of it, but back to a kind of intermittent but back to a kind of intermittent but back to a kind of intermittent fasting thing, like a 168, nothing until fasting thing, like a 168, nothing until fasting thing, like a 168, nothing until 1:00 p.m. and or midday and then eat 1:00 p.m. and or midday and then eat 1:00 p.m. and or midday and then eat through the afternoon. That's the through the afternoon. That's the through the afternoon. That's the current approach. A bit more balanced. current approach. A bit more balanced. current approach. A bit more balanced. Tommy Tommy Tommy Cochran 7156. Cochran 7156. Cochran 7156. Hey Chris, congrats on your success. Hey Chris, congrats on your success. Hey Chris, congrats on your success. Thank you. Been subbed for 3 years now. Thank you. Been subbed for 3 years now. Thank you. Been subbed for 3 years now. I just turned 25 years old and moved out I just turned 25 years old and moved out I just turned 25 years old and moved out on my own to another state in April of on my own to another state in April of on my own to another state in April of last year to start my career. I'm doing last year to start my career. I'm doing last year to start my career. I'm doing fine at the job, but it does not bring fine at the job, but it does not bring fine at the job, but it does not bring me any joy or satisfaction that I me any joy or satisfaction that I me any joy or satisfaction that I thought it would. I spent a few years thought it would. I spent a few years thought it would. I spent a few years working towards this, but I know the working towards this, but I know the working towards this, but I know the career is not for me. Feel kind of lost career is not for me. Feel kind of lost career is not for me. Feel kind of lost now and not sure what my direction is or now and not sure what my direction is or now and not sure what my direction is or how to find it. I never thought I would how to find it. I never thought I would how to find it. I never thought I would be in this situation. Any advice? Thank be in this situation. Any advice? Thank be in this situation. Any advice? Thank you. [gasps] you. [gasps] you. [gasps] Well, dude, that is a that's a real Well, dude, that is a that's a real Well, dude, that is a that's a real challenge to have dedicated a bunch of challenge to have dedicated a bunch of challenge to have dedicated a bunch of time toward a thing that you thought was time toward a thing that you thought was time toward a thing that you thought was going to be the genuine outcome that you going to be the genuine outcome that you going to be the genuine outcome that you wanted and then to have the rug pulled wanted and then to have the rug pulled wanted and then to have the rug pulled out from underneath you. Uh that's a out from underneath you. Uh that's a out from underneath you. Uh that's a challenge. So, first off, I feel for you challenge. So, first off, I feel for you challenge. So, first off, I feel for you and I think that it's important to just and I think that it's important to just and I think that it's important to just sit with that is hard and to give sit with that is hard and to give sit with that is hard and to give yourself a little bit of self-mpathy yourself a little bit of self-mpathy yourself a little bit of self-mpathy like oh god like that that that's going like oh god like that that that's going like oh god like that that that's going to suck. to suck. to suck. advice on advice on advice on I mean you're you're 25 which means you I mean you're you're 25 which means you I mean you're you're 25 which means you have so much runway ahead of you. You have so much runway ahead of you. You have so much runway ahead of you. You can go and travel. You can try different can go and travel. You can try different can go and travel. You can try different things. You could go back to school if things. You could go back to school if things. You could go back to school if you wanted to. I'm aware that this is you wanted to. I'm aware that this is you wanted to. I'm aware that this is the oldest you've ever been which feels the oldest you've ever been which feels the oldest you've ever been which feels like you should have your life together. like you should have your life together. like you should have your life together. You're real close to death. You you You're real close to death. You you You're real close to death. You you should be further along than this. should be further along than this. should be further along than this. There's other people that are your age. There's other people that are your age. There's other people that are your age. How can I start again? To give you some How can I start again? To give you some How can I start again? To give you some perspective, I started again and I perspective, I started again and I perspective, I started again and I didn't launch the podcast until I was 30 didn't launch the podcast until I was 30 didn't launch the podcast until I was 30 and I didn't move to America and I didn't move to America and I didn't move to America until I was 32 until I was 32 until I was 32 and no 33. and no 33. and no 33. I it is it is just never too late. Like I it is it is just never too late. Like I it is it is just never too late. Like first off, people have got short first off, people have got short first off, people have got short memories. Everybody has short memories memories. Everybody has short memories memories. Everybody has short memories including you. Like you will be including you. Like you will be including you. Like you will be surprised at how little you would be surprised at how little you would be surprised at how little you would be able to remember of you a couple of able to remember of you a couple of able to remember of you a couple of years ago if you made a huge pivot. Now years ago if you made a huge pivot. Now years ago if you made a huge pivot. Now in two years time you wouldn't be able in two years time you wouldn't be able in two years time you wouldn't be able to remember this doubt or this life that to remember this doubt or this life that to remember this doubt or this life that you had because our recency bias is you had because our recency bias is you had because our recency bias is really strong. The second thing if really strong. The second thing if really strong. The second thing if you're worried about the judgment of you're worried about the judgment of you're worried about the judgment of others they're just not thinking about others they're just not thinking about others they're just not thinking about you that much. They don't care. They you that much. They don't care. They you that much. They don't care. They really don't care. There might be some really don't care. There might be some really don't care. There might be some people who stand on the shoulders of people who stand on the shoulders of people who stand on the shoulders of your reinvention as in they're still your reinvention as in they're still your reinvention as in they're still moving and you're having to start again moving and you're having to start again moving and you're having to start again but it's not about that. you know that but it's not about that. you know that but it's not about that. you know that you're not happy. It doesn't bring you you're not happy. It doesn't bring you you're not happy. It doesn't bring you any joy or satisfaction that you thought any joy or satisfaction that you thought any joy or satisfaction that you thought it would and you spent a few years. It's it would and you spent a few years. It's it would and you spent a few years. It's some cost fallacy and some loss some cost fallacy and some loss some cost fallacy and some loss aversion. It it is going to hurt and aversion. It it is going to hurt and aversion. It it is going to hurt and it's going to resonate emotionally. It's it's going to resonate emotionally. It's it's going to resonate emotionally. It's going to feel like your world's crashing going to feel like your world's crashing going to feel like your world's crashing down or you've wasted time. down or you've wasted time. down or you've wasted time. You know that you're not happy with this You know that you're not happy with this You know that you're not happy with this thing. And if you're succeeding in a thing. And if you're succeeding in a thing. And if you're succeeding in a life that you hate, imagine how amazing life that you hate, imagine how amazing life that you hate, imagine how amazing you could be at one that you loved. You you could be at one that you loved. You you could be at one that you loved. You literally have nothing to lose. like you literally have nothing to lose. like you literally have nothing to lose. like you go and do something else and it also go and do something else and it also go and do something else and it also doesn't bring you any joy or doesn't bring you any joy or doesn't bring you any joy or satisfaction. Guess what? You're in the satisfaction. Guess what? You're in the satisfaction. Guess what? You're in the same situation. So, I hope that I hope same situation. So, I hope that I hope same situation. So, I hope that I hope that motivates you to go and do it. Um that motivates you to go and do it. Um that motivates you to go and do it. Um something practical you can do. What is something practical you can do. What is something practical you can do. What is the single smallest step that you could the single smallest step that you could the single smallest step that you could make right now that moves you a tiny make right now that moves you a tiny make right now that moves you a tiny that what's the smallest thing that the that what's the smallest thing that the that what's the smallest thing that the most afraid version of you could do that most afraid version of you could do that most afraid version of you could do that would move you away from this life and would move you away from this life and would move you away from this life and toward one that you want? I think that toward one that you want? I think that toward one that you want? I think that would be something good to focus on. would be something good to focus on. would be something good to focus on. Evil 89, what did you make of the Evil 89, what did you make of the Evil 89, what did you make of the response to your last health vlog? Good response to your last health vlog? Good response to your last health vlog? Good question. So, I did a first episode of question. So, I did a first episode of question. So, I did a first episode of the vlog about 4 months ago or so, and the vlog about 4 months ago or so, and the vlog about 4 months ago or so, and that was tracking the journey over 18 that was tracking the journey over 18 that was tracking the journey over 18 months of me finding out I was living in months of me finding out I was living in months of me finding out I was living in a house with mold. And that kicked off a a house with mold. And that kicked off a a house with mold. And that kicked off a whole slew of other things that everyone whole slew of other things that everyone whole slew of other things that everyone has this sort of ambient background has this sort of ambient background has this sort of ambient background health health health immune system strain that everybody's immune system strain that everybody's immune system strain that everybody's got going on. But sometimes you get into got going on. But sometimes you get into got going on. But sometimes you get into an environment where it pushes you over an environment where it pushes you over an environment where it pushes you over your limit and that is where all of this your limit and that is where all of this your limit and that is where all of this stuff comes to the surface. What was stuff comes to the surface. What was stuff comes to the surface. What was interesting about the second vlog was interesting about the second vlog was interesting about the second vlog was that I didn't put any of the here's me that I didn't put any of the here's me that I didn't put any of the here's me struggling with this thing. Here is all struggling with this thing. Here is all struggling with this thing. Here is all of the evidence that proves that my of the evidence that proves that my of the evidence that proves that my health is actually in a bad place. Here health is actually in a bad place. Here health is actually in a bad place. Here is testimony from doctors and friends is testimony from doctors and friends is testimony from doctors and friends about how much I've been going through. about how much I've been going through. about how much I've been going through. And because the internet defaults to And because the internet defaults to And because the internet defaults to scrutiny, as in if someone looks okay on scrutiny, as in if someone looks okay on scrutiny, as in if someone looks okay on the outside, that means that anything the outside, that means that anything the outside, that means that anything that they're proposing or anything that that they're proposing or anything that that they're proposing or anything that they're going through, they're they're going through, they're they're going through, they're complaining about just sounds like the complaining about just sounds like the complaining about just sounds like the whining of some really fortuitous whining of some really fortuitous whining of some really fortuitous chattering class. Uh I didn't get chattering class. Uh I didn't get chattering class. Uh I didn't get anywhere near as much sympathy. Um, I anywhere near as much sympathy. Um, I anywhere near as much sympathy. Um, I don't want to have to do this weird don't want to have to do this weird don't want to have to do this weird throat clearing land acknowledgement of throat clearing land acknowledgement of throat clearing land acknowledgement of myself, of my own problems in an attempt myself, of my own problems in an attempt myself, of my own problems in an attempt to try and ramp up the sympathy so that to try and ramp up the sympathy so that to try and ramp up the sympathy so that I can then talk about how I'm still I can then talk about how I'm still I can then talk about how I'm still working on it. It just feels so [ __ ] working on it. It just feels so [ __ ] working on it. It just feels so [ __ ] contrived to do that. So, um, it it contrived to do that. So, um, it it contrived to do that. So, um, it it wasn't quite as sympathetic as I might wasn't quite as sympathetic as I might wasn't quite as sympathetic as I might have wanted. Um, but I understand why it have wanted. Um, but I understand why it have wanted. Um, but I understand why it wasn't if people haven't seen the first wasn't if people haven't seen the first wasn't if people haven't seen the first one. It's just some guy that looks like one. It's just some guy that looks like one. It's just some guy that looks like he's in good shape saying that he's he's he's in good shape saying that he's he's he's in good shape saying that he's he's tired and sad and his brain doesn't work tired and sad and his brain doesn't work tired and sad and his brain doesn't work all that much. Uh I was surprised by the all that much. Uh I was surprised by the all that much. Uh I was surprised by the number of people that said that's just number of people that said that's just number of people that said that's just getting older. This is the way that it's getting older. This is the way that it's getting older. This is the way that it's supposed to be. That feels a little bit supposed to be. That feels a little bit supposed to be. That feels a little bit like Stockholm syndrome for bad health like Stockholm syndrome for bad health like Stockholm syndrome for bad health that your tormentor that your tormentor that your tormentor you've learned to love the fact that you've learned to love the fact that you've learned to love the fact that your health is declining at a rate your health is declining at a rate your health is declining at a rate greater than you would want to and greater than you would want to and greater than you would want to and you're just saying that is what it is. you're just saying that is what it is. you're just saying that is what it is. That is what life is. I'm sorry. I I That is what life is. I'm sorry. I I That is what life is. I'm sorry. I I just don't accept that you're supposed just don't accept that you're supposed just don't accept that you're supposed to get slower, sadder, and more stupid to get slower, sadder, and more stupid to get slower, sadder, and more stupid as you get older in your 30s. Uh and to as you get older in your 30s. Uh and to as you get older in your 30s. Uh and to all of the people that have reached out all of the people that have reached out all of the people that have reached out with chronic fatigue, gi with chronic fatigue, gi with chronic fatigue, gi CMV, EBV, mold, slime, CMV, EBV, mold, slime, CMV, EBV, mold, slime, H. pylori, candida, SIBO, heavy metals, H. pylori, candida, SIBO, heavy metals, H. pylori, candida, SIBO, heavy metals, BPAs, like whatever it is, a lot of BPAs, like whatever it is, a lot of BPAs, like whatever it is, a lot of people have reached out and it's like people have reached out and it's like people have reached out and it's like they they feel like they've been seen by they they feel like they've been seen by they they feel like they've been seen by someone who's going through the same someone who's going through the same someone who's going through the same challenges they do, especially the mold challenges they do, especially the mold challenges they do, especially the mold stuff. So, that was been really nice. stuff. So, that was been really nice. stuff. So, that was been really nice. Um, other stuff that surprised me was Um, other stuff that surprised me was Um, other stuff that surprised me was the range of solutions. the range of solutions. the range of solutions. It was every a lot of you need Jesus, It was every a lot of you need Jesus, It was every a lot of you need Jesus, which it may be true. Um, I'm unsure how which it may be true. Um, I'm unsure how which it may be true. Um, I'm unsure how much he can help with mold detox, but a much he can help with mold detox, but a much he can help with mold detox, but a lot of I I need Jesus or prayer. Um, I lot of I I need Jesus or prayer. Um, I lot of I I need Jesus or prayer. Um, I need to do psychedelics, heavy dose of need to do psychedelics, heavy dose of need to do psychedelics, heavy dose of mushrooms. Uh, I'm working too hard. Uh, mushrooms. Uh, I'm working too hard. Uh, mushrooms. Uh, I'm working too hard. Uh, and it's burnout, but I'm also, uh, a and it's burnout, but I'm also, uh, a and it's burnout, but I'm also, uh, a hypochondriac, and it's nothing to do hypochondriac, and it's nothing to do hypochondriac, and it's nothing to do with anything that's real. Uh, this is with anything that's real. Uh, this is with anything that's real. Uh, this is opulence, but also because of trying to opulence, but also because of trying to opulence, but also because of trying to achieve too much at the same time. Uh, achieve too much at the same time. Uh, achieve too much at the same time. Uh, goat milk cleanses were in there quite a goat milk cleanses were in there quite a goat milk cleanses were in there quite a bit. Uh, water fasts were in there a bit. Uh, water fasts were in there a bit. Uh, water fasts were in there a lot. A lot of meat and fruit and lot. A lot of meat and fruit and lot. A lot of meat and fruit and carnivore diet. carnivore diet. carnivore diet. There's something about blood at the There's something about blood at the There's something about blood at the full moon, I think, as well. full moon, I think, as well. full moon, I think, as well. There were a lot there were a lot of There were a lot there were a lot of There were a lot there were a lot of there was some enemas in there. Um, there was some enemas in there. Um, there was some enemas in there. Um, some some some bleach stuff that I can't even remember bleach stuff that I can't even remember bleach stuff that I can't even remember the name of. Uh, it it was variety of the name of. Uh, it it was variety of the name of. Uh, it it was variety of solutions. Um, it was a mixed bag. It solutions. Um, it was a mixed bag. It solutions. Um, it was a mixed bag. It was a mixed bag, but I'm going to keep was a mixed bag, but I'm going to keep was a mixed bag, but I'm going to keep talking about it because I think it's talking about it because I think it's talking about it because I think it's important and it's the truth that important and it's the truth that important and it's the truth that ultimately this is what I'm going ultimately this is what I'm going ultimately this is what I'm going through. Uh, so the internet will through. Uh, so the internet will through. Uh, so the internet will continue to make their judgments, I continue to make their judgments, I continue to make their judgments, I suppose. Nurse K28, what's in store for suppose. Nurse K28, what's in store for suppose. Nurse K28, what's in store for 2026? 2026? 2026? Uh, first off is tour. So I'm going to Uh, first off is tour. So I'm going to Uh, first off is tour. So I'm going to Australia, New Zealand, and Bali in Australia, New Zealand, and Bali in Australia, New Zealand, and Bali in four [snorts] weeks, 5 weeks, and four [snorts] weeks, 5 weeks, and four [snorts] weeks, 5 weeks, and Brisbane sold out, Perth's sold out. Brisbane sold out, Perth's sold out. Brisbane sold out, Perth's sold out. There's still tickets for Adelaide, There's still tickets for Adelaide, There's still tickets for Adelaide, Oakland, Christ Church, Sydney. Melbourne and Bali. Uh, and you can get Melbourne and Bali. Uh, and you can get those at chriswillson.live. those at chriswillson.live. those at chriswillson.live. Just announced yesterday the UK and Just announced yesterday the UK and Just announced yesterday the UK and Ireland tour, which you can also get Ireland tour, which you can also get Ireland tour, which you can also get tickets for at chris williamson.live. tickets for at chris williamson.live. tickets for at chris williamson.live. We're going all over the UK and Ireland We're going all over the UK and Ireland We're going all over the UK and Ireland and maybe Germany. I'm not sure yet. So and maybe Germany. I'm not sure yet. So and maybe Germany. I'm not sure yet. So live is a big thing. The new studio, live is a big thing. The new studio, live is a big thing. The new studio, which is going to be super exciting. which is going to be super exciting. which is going to be super exciting. That's going to include a ton of That's going to include a ton of That's going to include a ton of different episode styles that I've been different episode styles that I've been different episode styles that I've been really looking forward to. studio's been really looking forward to. studio's been really looking forward to. studio's been pushed back pushed back pushed back three times now because I keep making three times now because I keep making three times now because I keep making changes to it. Uh, so that might be a me changes to it. Uh, so that might be a me changes to it. Uh, so that might be a me problem. I think it's probably a me problem. I think it's probably a me problem. I think it's probably a me problem. What else is in store? More problem. What else is in store? More problem. What else is in store? More merch. Uh, more mostly wise stuff, which merch. Uh, more mostly wise stuff, which merch. Uh, more mostly wise stuff, which I'm really excited. We're working on at I'm really excited. We're working on at I'm really excited. We're working on at the moment. We are actually working with the moment. We are actually working with the moment. We are actually working with the designer for Sleep Tokens stuff. So, the designer for Sleep Tokens stuff. So, the designer for Sleep Tokens stuff. So, the guy who does all of Sleep Tokens the guy who does all of Sleep Tokens the guy who does all of Sleep Tokens merch, uh, I managed to sw an intro. I merch, uh, I managed to sw an intro. I merch, uh, I managed to sw an intro. I finessed an intro to him. Uh, so I some finessed an intro to him. Uh, so I some finessed an intro to him. Uh, so I some of the early designs that we're seeing of the early designs that we're seeing of the early designs that we're seeing are [ __ ] outrageous. It's so cool. are [ __ ] outrageous. It's so cool. are [ __ ] outrageous. It's so cool. I'm really excited for that. That'll be I'm really excited for that. That'll be I'm really excited for that. That'll be good. good. good. Book I'm starting to think a bit more Book I'm starting to think a bit more Book I'm starting to think a bit more seriously about. But I know living with seriously about. But I know living with seriously about. But I know living with George at the moment and he's working on George at the moment and he's working on George at the moment and he's working on his high agency book, the amount of his high agency book, the amount of his high agency book, the amount of dedication and the size of the context dedication and the size of the context dedication and the size of the context window he's working with. And this is a window he's working with. And this is a window he's working with. And this is a lesson for everybody, which is if you lesson for everybody, which is if you lesson for everybody, which is if you want to do one large piece of work very want to do one large piece of work very want to do one large piece of work very well, uh, an album, um, a a thesis, uh, well, uh, an album, um, a a thesis, uh, well, uh, an album, um, a a thesis, uh, a a book, a collection of anything a a book, a collection of anything a a book, a collection of anything that's sort of a multi-month project, that's sort of a multi-month project, that's sort of a multi-month project, you really can't be trying to do other you really can't be trying to do other you really can't be trying to do other stuff at the same time. So, in order for stuff at the same time. So, in order for stuff at the same time. So, in order for me to do that, I would need to I'd need me to do that, I would need to I'd need me to do that, I would need to I'd need to make some changes internally in the to make some changes internally in the to make some changes internally in the podcast so that all I need to do is read podcast so that all I need to do is read podcast so that all I need to do is read for the book and write the book, prep for the book and write the book, prep for the book and write the book, prep for the guests, record the episodes, and for the guests, record the episodes, and for the guests, record the episodes, and [ __ ] off cuz I can't be doing anything [ __ ] off cuz I can't be doing anything [ __ ] off cuz I can't be doing anything else. And for all that, it might look else. And for all that, it might look else. And for all that, it might look like a big operation from the outside. like a big operation from the outside. like a big operation from the outside. This is still very much founder mode, This is still very much founder mode, This is still very much founder mode, startup, spit, and sawdust and caffeine startup, spit, and sawdust and caffeine startup, spit, and sawdust and caffeine energy stuff going on internally. So, energy stuff going on internally. So, energy stuff going on internally. So, um, that's some live tour Australia, New um, that's some live tour Australia, New um, that's some live tour Australia, New Zealand, and Bali, then UK and Ireland Zealand, and Bali, then UK and Ireland Zealand, and Bali, then UK and Ireland at the back end of the year. Chris at the back end of the year. Chris at the back end of the year. Chris Williamson.Live. If you want to get Williamson.Live. If you want to get Williamson.Live. If you want to get tickets there, it' be awesome. Um, tickets there, it' be awesome. Um, tickets there, it' be awesome. Um, new studio, new episode styles, which I new studio, new episode styles, which I new studio, new episode styles, which I can't wait for. I've been planning this can't wait for. I've been planning this can't wait for. I've been planning this for so long. Uh, and it does feel a lot for so long. Uh, and it does feel a lot for so long. Uh, and it does feel a lot like if you've ever been in one of those like if you've ever been in one of those like if you've ever been in one of those long-distance texting flirtation long-distance texting flirtation long-distance texting flirtation relationships for ages and it's been 3 relationships for ages and it's been 3 relationships for ages and it's been 3 months and you you're finally about to months and you you're finally about to months and you you're finally about to get to meet this person. Those memes get to meet this person. Those memes get to meet this person. Those memes that you see on Instagram that are like that you see on Instagram that are like that you see on Instagram that are like uh when you actually did all of the [ __ ] uh when you actually did all of the [ __ ] uh when you actually did all of the [ __ ] that you said you were going to do to that you said you were going to do to that you said you were going to do to each other. That's me but with the new each other. That's me but with the new each other. That's me but with the new studio. Uh, so studio. Uh, so studio. Uh, so can't wait to totally bypass all the can't wait to totally bypass all the can't wait to totally bypass all the foreplay. Visto. It's like Arbisto. Uh, thinking Visto. It's like Arbisto. Uh, thinking about quitting drinking. Is it worth it? about quitting drinking. Is it worth it? about quitting drinking. Is it worth it? I currently have a day job and run a I currently have a day job and run a I currently have a day job and run a business on the side. So, every day is business on the side. So, every day is business on the side. So, every day is 18 hours of working, not an officeun 18 hours of working, not an officeun 18 hours of working, not an officeun business. Needs labor. And every time I business. Needs labor. And every time I business. Needs labor. And every time I get occasionally drunk, it affects or get occasionally drunk, it affects or get occasionally drunk, it affects or nearly stops my enthusiasm and nearly stops my enthusiasm and nearly stops my enthusiasm and motivation for 3 to seven days. But motivation for 3 to seven days. But motivation for 3 to seven days. But also, every time I get new opportunities also, every time I get new opportunities also, every time I get new opportunities and insights from customers or partners and insights from customers or partners and insights from customers or partners who I'm drinking with, doesn't also seem who I'm drinking with, doesn't also seem who I'm drinking with, doesn't also seem socially correct to get together sober socially correct to get together sober socially correct to get together sober brackets from Finland. Well, 18 hours of brackets from Finland. Well, 18 hours of brackets from Finland. Well, 18 hours of working every day is that's really working every day is that's really working every day is that's really really serious. That is no [ __ ] small really serious. That is no [ __ ] small really serious. That is no [ __ ] small task, dude. Uh, is it worth it? Yes, task, dude. Uh, is it worth it? Yes, task, dude. Uh, is it worth it? Yes, 100%. I think you would be very 100%. I think you would be very 100%. I think you would be very surprised at how much you can retain the surprised at how much you can retain the surprised at how much you can retain the opportunities and insights from opportunities and insights from opportunities and insights from customers and partners that you're customers and partners that you're customers and partners that you're drinking with without drinking. First drinking with without drinking. First drinking with without drinking. First off, if it's a really big deal, you can off, if it's a really big deal, you can off, if it's a really big deal, you can get a low or no beer. Heineken double get a low or no beer. Heineken double get a low or no beer. Heineken double zero. A Guinness do a good 0% now. Uh zero. A Guinness do a good 0% now. Uh zero. A Guinness do a good 0% now. Uh Peroni do a good 0%. There's loads of Peroni do a good 0%. There's loads of Peroni do a good 0%. There's loads of ling beers where you can pretend like ling beers where you can pretend like ling beers where you can pretend like you're drinking and you're not actually. you're drinking and you're not actually. you're drinking and you're not actually. Uh doesn't seem socially correct to get Uh doesn't seem socially correct to get Uh doesn't seem socially correct to get together sober. together sober. together sober. I would be very cautious about I would be very cautious about I would be very cautious about outsourcing the way that you live your outsourcing the way that you live your outsourcing the way that you live your life to the mean. If you regress back to life to the mean. If you regress back to life to the mean. If you regress back to the mean, you get the results that the mean, you get the results that the mean, you get the results that everybody else gets. And the average everybody else gets. And the average everybody else gets. And the average American, I don't know about the average American, I don't know about the average American, I don't know about the average Finn, but the average American is obese, Finn, but the average American is obese, Finn, but the average American is obese, divorced, and has less than 1K in the divorced, and has less than 1K in the divorced, and has less than 1K in the bank. So following the path that bank. So following the path that bank. So following the path that everybody else follows, sounds like everybody else follows, sounds like everybody else follows, sounds like outsourcing your wisdom to the crowd, outsourcing your wisdom to the crowd, outsourcing your wisdom to the crowd, but it's actually a reliable route to a but it's actually a reliable route to a but it's actually a reliable route to a life that you almost certainly don't life that you almost certainly don't life that you almost certainly don't want. So I don't think that whether it's want. So I don't think that whether it's want. So I don't think that whether it's socially correct or not socially correct or not socially correct or not that should be your litmus test for how that should be your litmus test for how that should be your litmus test for how you should behave. Uh I think you should you should behave. Uh I think you should you should behave. Uh I think you should do it. I think you should commit. I do it. I think you should commit. I do it. I think you should commit. I think it's very important to commit for think it's very important to commit for think it's very important to commit for a period of time. Um a period of time. Um a period of time. Um 6 months is my advised minimum. It all 6 months is my advised minimum. It all 6 months is my advised minimum. It all of the heavy lifting occurs in the first of the heavy lifting occurs in the first of the heavy lifting occurs in the first sort of 60 days and after that it gets sort of 60 days and after that it gets sort of 60 days and after that it gets easier. But if you only do it for 30 or easier. But if you only do it for 30 or easier. But if you only do it for 30 or 90 days, you pay all of the price 90 days, you pay all of the price 90 days, you pay all of the price upfront and then you don't actually get upfront and then you don't actually get upfront and then you don't actually get to reap any of the benefits. I would to reap any of the benefits. I would to reap any of the benefits. I would wager that if you do it, you take a wager that if you do it, you take a wager that if you do it, you take a break for 6 months, you're not going to break for 6 months, you're not going to break for 6 months, you're not going to want to go back to drinking for very want to go back to drinking for very want to go back to drinking for very long. Or at least that's what happened long. Or at least that's what happened long. Or at least that's what happened for me. for me. for me. Alex, boy vibes, see that one's easy. I Alex, boy vibes, see that one's easy. I Alex, boy vibes, see that one's easy. I like your mindset. Even when you're in like your mindset. Even when you're in like your mindset. Even when you're in tough places, you seem to have a good tough places, you seem to have a good tough places, you seem to have a good vibe. How uh vibe. How uh vibe. How uh [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] [ __ ] did I did not feel like I had a [ __ ] did I did not feel like I had a [ __ ] did I did not feel like I had a good vibe last year. 2025 was the good vibe last year. 2025 was the good vibe last year. 2025 was the hardest year of my life by far. And hardest year of my life by far. And hardest year of my life by far. And maybe I appropriately fugazied. Yeah, I think I was pretty fugazied. Yeah, I think I was pretty open about it. Maybe it just comes open about it. Maybe it just comes open about it. Maybe it just comes across differently, but I felt like across differently, but I felt like across differently, but I felt like [ __ ] I It was really, really difficult. [ __ ] I It was really, really difficult. [ __ ] I It was really, really difficult. Emotionally, it was difficult. Emotionally, it was difficult. Emotionally, it was difficult. Professionally, it was difficult. Professionally, it was difficult. Professionally, it was difficult. Personally, it was difficult in terms of Personally, it was difficult in terms of Personally, it was difficult in terms of my health, my energy, my mood, my my health, my energy, my mood, my my health, my energy, my mood, my cognition. cognition. cognition. It was it was really really tough. Uh I It was it was really really tough. Uh I It was it was really really tough. Uh I try to put on and have tried to put on try to put on and have tried to put on try to put on and have tried to put on my sort of best face, put my best foot my sort of best face, put my best foot my sort of best face, put my best foot forward with for you guys. I want to I forward with for you guys. I want to I forward with for you guys. I want to I want to be a professional. I want to want to be a professional. I want to want to be a professional. I want to show up authentically so I'm not show up authentically so I'm not show up authentically so I'm not pretending that I'm in a place that I'm pretending that I'm in a place that I'm pretending that I'm in a place that I'm not. But also, not. But also, not. But also, everybody's busy, including the guest everybody's busy, including the guest everybody's busy, including the guest that is giving me their time, who is that is giving me their time, who is that is giving me their time, who is usually a world expert in whatever I'm usually a world expert in whatever I'm usually a world expert in whatever I'm speaking to them about. And there's speaking to them about. And there's speaking to them about. And there's millions of people every single day that millions of people every single day that millions of people every single day that are tuning into the show. are tuning into the show. are tuning into the show. I should [ __ ] tie my boots tight and I should [ __ ] tie my boots tight and I should [ __ ] tie my boots tight and do the do the job well. So, maybe I've do the do the job well. So, maybe I've do the do the job well. So, maybe I've put a brave face on it that hasn't come put a brave face on it that hasn't come put a brave face on it that hasn't come across. Um, but no, I haven't. I across. Um, but no, I haven't. I across. Um, but no, I haven't. I haven't. I've I've cried more in the haven't. I've I've cried more in the haven't. I've I've cried more in the last year than probably in the last year than probably in the last year than probably in the previous two decades. Uh previous two decades. Uh previous two decades. Uh it's not been easy. It's really it's it's not been easy. It's really it's it's not been easy. It's really it's really really been challenging. And if really really been challenging. And if really really been challenging. And if that helps to make your low mood in a that helps to make your low mood in a that helps to make your low mood in a tough place feel more justified, then I tough place feel more justified, then I tough place feel more justified, then I would consider that a success. The stuff would consider that a success. The stuff would consider that a success. The stuff that does help to keep me in a good vibe that does help to keep me in a good vibe that does help to keep me in a good vibe is honestly it's I [ __ ] wish he is honestly it's I [ __ ] wish he is honestly it's I [ __ ] wish he wasn't right about this. I really wish wasn't right about this. I really wish wasn't right about this. I really wish he wasn't right about this. Huboon is so he wasn't right about this. Huboon is so he wasn't right about this. Huboon is so bang on when he says just get 15 minutes bang on when he says just get 15 minutes bang on when he says just get 15 minutes of sunlight in your eyes. Like it is so of sunlight in your eyes. Like it is so of sunlight in your eyes. Like it is so it is so [ __ ] true. Um I've been it is so [ __ ] true. Um I've been it is so [ __ ] true. Um I've been using these AO glasses. They're called a using these AO glasses. They're called a using these AO glasses. They're called a AO a yo. I can't I don't know what the AO a yo. I can't I don't know what the AO a yo. I can't I don't know what the website is. Um I've [snorts] been website is. Um I've [snorts] been website is. Um I've [snorts] been wearing them. They're kind of like light wearing them. They're kind of like light wearing them. They're kind of like light therapy light therapy panel but you wear therapy light therapy panel but you wear therapy light therapy panel but you wear them above your eyes. Uh they look them above your eyes. Uh they look them above your eyes. Uh they look really [ __ ] dorky, but I've been really [ __ ] dorky, but I've been really [ __ ] dorky, but I've been wearing them and um because I've been wearing them and um because I've been wearing them and um because I've been getting up before the sun. That's been getting up before the sun. That's been getting up before the sun. That's been good. Sunlight first thing in the good. Sunlight first thing in the good. Sunlight first thing in the morning, avoiding caffeine, morning, avoiding caffeine, morning, avoiding caffeine, interestingly. Uh I've been using the interestingly. Uh I've been using the interestingly. Uh I've been using the neutonic sachets and the capsules as neutonic sachets and the capsules as neutonic sachets and the capsules as opposed to the RTD. So I took a break opposed to the RTD. So I took a break opposed to the RTD. So I took a break from caffeine. Uh I've actually from caffeine. Uh I've actually from caffeine. Uh I've actually increased the vegetables that I'm increased the vegetables that I'm increased the vegetables that I'm consuming and avoided oxalates. So stuff consuming and avoided oxalates. So stuff consuming and avoided oxalates. So stuff like spinach that it seems doesn't agree like spinach that it seems doesn't agree like spinach that it seems doesn't agree with me even though I love it. with me even though I love it. with me even though I love it. Like psychology is biology, man. Train, Like psychology is biology, man. Train, Like psychology is biology, man. Train, see friends, drink water, move, lots of see friends, drink water, move, lots of see friends, drink water, move, lots of walks, don't spend too much time doom walks, don't spend too much time doom walks, don't spend too much time doom scrolling. scrolling. scrolling. But yeah, I I I wasn't in a good vibe But yeah, I I I wasn't in a good vibe But yeah, I I I wasn't in a good vibe really at all last year. And I don't really at all last year. And I don't really at all last year. And I don't know, maybe you can see now. I don't know, maybe you can see now. I don't know, maybe you can see now. I don't know whether it's coming across in this know whether it's coming across in this know whether it's coming across in this episode, but my brain is finally [ __ ] episode, but my brain is finally [ __ ] episode, but my brain is finally [ __ ] working. Like, oh my god, it was working. Like, oh my god, it was working. Like, oh my god, it was it was so long last year that I was like it was so long last year that I was like it was so long last year that I was like holding this [ __ ] microphone trying holding this [ __ ] microphone trying holding this [ __ ] microphone trying to to to trying to make words come out of my trying to make words come out of my trying to make words come out of my mouth in a way that felt mouth in a way that felt mouth in a way that felt even remotely close to me. And it just even remotely close to me. And it just even remotely close to me. And it just did not want to happen. And it was so did not want to happen. And it was so did not want to happen. And it was so tough and I was just I missed me. I tough and I was just I missed me. I tough and I was just I missed me. I missed the person that I was, the way missed the person that I was, the way missed the person that I was, the way that I the quality of my thoughts, that I the quality of my thoughts, that I the quality of my thoughts, my ability to reflect on things and make my ability to reflect on things and make my ability to reflect on things and make progress for myself and to improve the progress for myself and to improve the progress for myself and to improve the show. And show. And show. And it really felt like I'd sort of treaded it really felt like I'd sort of treaded it really felt like I'd sort of treaded water for 18 months up until not that water for 18 months up until not that water for 18 months up until not that long ago. So, the fact that I feel at long ago. So, the fact that I feel at long ago. So, the fact that I feel at least remotely close to me now is like least remotely close to me now is like least remotely close to me now is like that is really a good vibe. So today is that is really a good vibe. So today is that is really a good vibe. So today is a bad example of me not feeling good a bad example of me not feeling good a bad example of me not feeling good because I actually feel pretty good. because I actually feel pretty good. because I actually feel pretty good. 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Did it fail me? I to be honest I I think Did it fail me? I to be honest I I think I failed myself or I failed it. Um I failed myself or I failed it. Um I failed myself or I failed it. Um because I was scared that I couldn't see because I was scared that I couldn't see because I was scared that I couldn't see a direct path from the subject I really a direct path from the subject I really a direct path from the subject I really wanted to learn which was philosophy and wanted to learn which was philosophy and wanted to learn which was philosophy and psychology to a career. I didn't know psychology to a career. I didn't know psychology to a career. I didn't know what a professional philosopher would what a professional philosopher would what a professional philosopher would look like. I was so sheltered. I was so look like. I was so sheltered. I was so look like. I was so sheltered. I was so [ __ ] when I went to university uh or [ __ ] when I went to university uh or [ __ ] when I went to university uh or when I was picking my courses at when I was picking my courses at when I was picking my courses at university. And I just thought, well, university. And I just thought, well, university. And I just thought, well, obviously that's not going to lead to a obviously that's not going to lead to a obviously that's not going to lead to a career. So I have to do business cuz career. So I have to do business cuz career. So I have to do business cuz business is the most careery thing that business is the most careery thing that business is the most careery thing that you can do cuz everything is a business. you can do cuz everything is a business. you can do cuz everything is a business. Um so I picked I picked wrong and then a Um so I picked I picked wrong and then a Um so I picked I picked wrong and then a decade later basically created my own decade later basically created my own decade later basically created my own curriculum curriculum curriculum on my timeline only talking about the on my timeline only talking about the on my timeline only talking about the specific area of specific subjects I specific area of specific subjects I specific area of specific subjects I wanted to with world experts with no wanted to with world experts with no wanted to with world experts with no homework and then made it into a job. So homework and then made it into a job. So homework and then made it into a job. So I if this is my repurposed academia then I if this is my repurposed academia then I if this is my repurposed academia then that's great. Uh what are the things that's great. Uh what are the things that's great. Uh what are the things that I loved about it? I loved learning that I loved about it? I loved learning that I loved about it? I loved learning how to negotiate the all of the stuff how to negotiate the all of the stuff how to negotiate the all of the stuff outside of the course. Friendships, outside of the course. Friendships, outside of the course. Friendships, houses, tendency agreements, electricity houses, tendency agreements, electricity houses, tendency agreements, electricity bills, bills, bills, you know, makeups and breakups and that you know, makeups and breakups and that you know, makeups and breakups and that stuff. Um stuff. Um stuff. Um I did two degrees. I did five years at I did two degrees. I did five years at I did two degrees. I did five years at uni and I can't remember any of it. And uni and I can't remember any of it. And uni and I can't remember any of it. And yet, if you gave me the choice, I would yet, if you gave me the choice, I would yet, if you gave me the choice, I would go back and do it again. Uh, I'm very I go back and do it again. Uh, I'm very I go back and do it again. Uh, I'm very I I understand lots of people the formal I understand lots of people the formal I understand lots of people the formal education system's done. You don't need education system's done. You don't need education system's done. You don't need a degree to go and do the whatever. And a degree to go and do the whatever. And a degree to go and do the whatever. And I agree with you, but I wouldn't be I agree with you, but I wouldn't be I agree with you, but I wouldn't be where I am if it wasn't for university. where I am if it wasn't for university. where I am if it wasn't for university. And not because of the course, but And not because of the course, but And not because of the course, but because of everything around it. And because of everything around it. And because of everything around it. And maybe there is a way that you can get maybe there is a way that you can get maybe there is a way that you can get the benefits of being at university the benefits of being at university the benefits of being at university without having to pay the cost or do the without having to pay the cost or do the without having to pay the cost or do the course. But I get the sense it's just course. But I get the sense it's just course. But I get the sense it's just easier to go to university. So, I'm easier to go to university. So, I'm easier to go to university. So, I'm still contrarian as it may be, I am still contrarian as it may be, I am still contrarian as it may be, I am still pro higher education. still pro higher education. still pro higher education. Pierre Dollies, thank you for sharing your health thank you for sharing your health journey. Chris, what advice has powered journey. Chris, what advice has powered journey. Chris, what advice has powered you through your toughest days? If given you through your toughest days? If given you through your toughest days? If given the opportunity, what advice or thoughts the opportunity, what advice or thoughts the opportunity, what advice or thoughts would you share with the 100% healthy would you share with the 100% healthy would you share with the 100% healthy version of Chris? [gasps] version of Chris? [gasps] version of Chris? [gasps] Uh, [ __ ] I mean it is hard especially Uh, [ __ ] I mean it is hard especially Uh, [ __ ] I mean it is hard especially when and this is one of the big problems when and this is one of the big problems when and this is one of the big problems for anybody with ME/CFS or mold or limey for anybody with ME/CFS or mold or limey for anybody with ME/CFS or mold or limey stuff outwardly there is no presentation stuff outwardly there is no presentation stuff outwardly there is no presentation of you being ill and on the inside all of you being ill and on the inside all of you being ill and on the inside all that you feel is sickness so if my hand that you feel is sickness so if my hand that you feel is sickness so if my hand didn't work but I had a broken arm I didn't work but I had a broken arm I didn't work but I had a broken arm I would be able to show people well look would be able to show people well look would be able to show people well look at the broken arm this is why part of my at the broken arm this is why part of my at the broken arm this is why part of my function has been taken away from me and function has been taken away from me and function has been taken away from me and that would engender sympathy and that would engender sympathy and that would engender sympathy and understanding and it would also help me understanding and it would also help me understanding and it would also help me to legitimize to legitimize to legitimize why stuff isn't going well. But when why stuff isn't going well. But when why stuff isn't going well. But when everything's internal and you can see everything's internal and you can see everything's internal and you can see all of the blood work that you want and all of the blood work that you want and all of the blood work that you want and go, "Holy [ __ ] that is 400% go, "Holy [ __ ] that is 400% go, "Holy [ __ ] that is 400% greater than the upper bound of what greater than the upper bound of what greater than the upper bound of what this particular part of your immune this particular part of your immune this particular part of your immune system is supposed to be able to deal system is supposed to be able to deal system is supposed to be able to deal with." Wow. But like it's it's with." Wow. But like it's it's with." Wow. But like it's it's arbitrary. It's metrics on a screen. arbitrary. It's metrics on a screen. arbitrary. It's metrics on a screen. Like maybe I should just work harder. Like maybe I should just work harder. Like maybe I should just work harder. David Gogggins would get through it. David Gogggins would get through it. David Gogggins would get through it. The advice that's helped me through my The advice that's helped me through my The advice that's helped me through my toughest days honestly is just the toughest days honestly is just the toughest days honestly is just the choice right now is between staying choice right now is between staying choice right now is between staying where I am or keeping going to get where I am or keeping going to get where I am or keeping going to get better. better. better. And And And I am just not going to quit. I'm never I am just not going to quit. I'm never I am just not going to quit. I'm never ever ever going to settle. I'm never ever ever going to settle. I'm never ever ever going to settle. I'm never ever ever going to stop. Uh, I would ever ever going to stop. Uh, I would ever ever going to stop. Uh, I would much sooner die trying to feel better much sooner die trying to feel better much sooner die trying to feel better than survive than survive than survive letting entropy win. Like that is the letting entropy win. Like that is the letting entropy win. Like that is the whole game, right? We locally reverse whole game, right? We locally reverse whole game, right? We locally reverse entropy. That's what humans do. The entropy. That's what humans do. The entropy. That's what humans do. The entire universe trying to break apart entire universe trying to break apart entire universe trying to break apart order. And for a brief order. And for a brief order. And for a brief 8 decade window, one little corner of 8 decade window, one little corner of 8 decade window, one little corner of the universe, you resist that entropy. the universe, you resist that entropy. the universe, you resist that entropy. The single most powerful onward marching The single most powerful onward marching The single most powerful onward marching driver of the entire universe driver of the entire universe driver of the entire universe versus you. It is unlikely odds for all of us, but I It is unlikely odds for all of us, but I I really like I really like the scrap in I really like I really like the scrap in I really like I really like the scrap in a weird way. And yeah, I would I would a weird way. And yeah, I would I would a weird way. And yeah, I would I would much sooner keep on pushing much sooner keep on pushing much sooner keep on pushing than give up. And that's hard because than give up. And that's hard because than give up. And that's hard because it feels like giving up becomes an it feels like giving up becomes an it feels like giving up becomes an option that you could take and you would option that you could take and you would option that you could take and you would not need to get your hopes up so much. not need to get your hopes up so much. not need to get your hopes up so much. Um, Um, Um, I just don't want to settle. I think I just don't want to settle. I think I just don't want to settle. I think that's a way to that's a good way to that's a way to that's a good way to that's a way to that's a good way to summarize it. I really, really, really summarize it. I really, really, really summarize it. I really, really, really do not want to [ __ ] settle. do not want to [ __ ] settle. do not want to [ __ ] settle. And that's going to cause some pain and And that's going to cause some pain and And that's going to cause some pain and some disappointment in a lot of areas of some disappointment in a lot of areas of some disappointment in a lot of areas of life. But it's cool. I think I'll look life. But it's cool. I think I'll look life. But it's cool. I think I'll look back on a life where I I didn't settle back on a life where I I didn't settle back on a life where I I didn't settle uh and feel like I left it all on the uh and feel like I left it all on the uh and feel like I left it all on the field of play significantly more. field of play significantly more. field of play significantly more. >> [gasps] >> [gasps] >> [gasps] >> Karen M6511. >> Karen M6511. >> Karen M6511. Tom Brady gave you a shout out today. Tom Brady gave you a shout out today. Tom Brady gave you a shout out today. Well, that's nice. He works with a Well, that's nice. He works with a Well, that's nice. He works with a company, hydrogen water company, Echo, company, hydrogen water company, Echo, company, hydrogen water company, Echo, uh, that I'm a fan of, and I think he uh, that I'm a fan of, and I think he uh, that I'm a fan of, and I think he I think he works with I swear he's work I think he works with I swear he's work I think he works with I swear he's work he's just about to sign with somebody he's just about to sign with somebody he's just about to sign with somebody else as well that I work with. So, uh, I else as well that I work with. So, uh, I else as well that I work with. So, uh, I have no idea what this is. I have no have no idea what this is. I have no have no idea what this is. I have no idea what he said. Uh, but someone link idea what he said. Uh, but someone link idea what he said. Uh, but someone link me below. That would be cool to see. Um, me below. That would be cool to see. Um, me below. That would be cool to see. Um, he's a goat. He's fantastic. he's a goat. He's fantastic. he's a goat. He's fantastic. Matt Mattis 1665. Hey Chris, do you plan Matt Mattis 1665. Hey Chris, do you plan Matt Mattis 1665. Hey Chris, do you plan on interviewing bigger rocket rock met on interviewing bigger rocket rock met on interviewing bigger rocket rock met rock metal artists like Vessel, Bruce rock metal artists like Vessel, Bruce rock metal artists like Vessel, Bruce Springsteen, Ollie Sykes, Cory Taylor, Springsteen, Ollie Sykes, Cory Taylor, Springsteen, Ollie Sykes, Cory Taylor, Elton John, Caleb Shomo, Angus Young, Elton John, Caleb Shomo, Angus Young, Elton John, Caleb Shomo, Angus Young, James Hetfield, etc. Would love to hear James Hetfield, etc. Would love to hear James Hetfield, etc. Would love to hear you ask them about touring, mental you ask them about touring, mental you ask them about touring, mental health, balance in the music business, health, balance in the music business, health, balance in the music business, and much more. I [ __ ] love your and much more. I [ __ ] love your and much more. I [ __ ] love your episode with John Bellian, Under Oath, episode with John Bellian, Under Oath, episode with John Bellian, Under Oath, and I prevail, and I'm really interested and I prevail, and I'm really interested and I prevail, and I'm really interested in hearing their perspectives on these in hearing their perspectives on these in hearing their perspectives on these topics. Best regards. Uh, so Ollie and topics. Best regards. Uh, so Ollie and topics. Best regards. Uh, so Ollie and me have been talking about doing an me have been talking about doing an me have been talking about doing an episode for since I started the pod. Uh, episode for since I started the pod. Uh, episode for since I started the pod. Uh, Cory Taylor, I just got looped in with Cory Taylor, I just got looped in with Cory Taylor, I just got looped in with Caleb. Uh, yes, but that'll be after the Caleb. Uh, yes, but that'll be after the Caleb. Uh, yes, but that'll be after the new Beartooth album drops. We've talked new Beartooth album drops. We've talked new Beartooth album drops. We've talked about that, too. Uh, so yeah, I'm trying about that, too. Uh, so yeah, I'm trying about that, too. Uh, so yeah, I'm trying to lean in. Uh, me and Ronnie Radkkey to lean in. Uh, me and Ronnie Radkkey to lean in. Uh, me and Ronnie Radkkey have been chatting. Um, who the [ __ ] have been chatting. Um, who the [ __ ] have been chatting. Um, who the [ __ ] else is in my inbox? else is in my inbox? else is in my inbox? There's a few others, a few other There's a few others, a few other There's a few others, a few other musicians. I really like it. That rock musicians. I really like it. That rock musicians. I really like it. That rock and metal scene has been a huge part of and metal scene has been a huge part of and metal scene has been a huge part of my life since I was a kid. And now my life since I was a kid. And now my life since I was a kid. And now I get to sit down and ask people whose I get to sit down and ask people whose I get to sit down and ask people whose music I've listened to for hundreds of music I've listened to for hundreds of music I've listened to for hundreds of hours [ __ ] cool questions. So, I I hours [ __ ] cool questions. So, I I hours [ __ ] cool questions. So, I I really I'm really glad that you like it. really I'm really glad that you like it. really I'm really glad that you like it. Uh, also in the new studio, the guys Uh, also in the new studio, the guys Uh, also in the new studio, the guys from Mousora and Drumo are hooking us up from Mousora and Drumo are hooking us up from Mousora and Drumo are hooking us up with the ability to record live with the ability to record live with the ability to record live performances. It's not going to be like performances. It's not going to be like performances. It's not going to be like what they can do, but we'll be able to what they can do, but we'll be able to what they can do, but we'll be able to record studio quality guitar and keys record studio quality guitar and keys record studio quality guitar and keys and vocals. So, I'm I'm going to try and and vocals. So, I'm I'm going to try and and vocals. So, I'm I'm going to try and twist Bellian's nipple a little bit and twist Bellian's nipple a little bit and twist Bellian's nipple a little bit and get him to start shipping me some of his get him to start shipping me some of his get him to start shipping me some of his boys through because he's working with boys through because he's working with boys through because he's working with everybody. And um everybody. And um everybody. And um who knows who'll come and do a little who knows who'll come and do a little who knows who'll come and do a little performance on the pod over the next performance on the pod over the next performance on the pod over the next couple of years. I'm I'm excited for it. couple of years. I'm I'm excited for it. couple of years. I'm I'm excited for it. [gasps and sighs] [gasps and sighs] [gasps and sighs] Yinket Yinket Yinket 9829. 9829. 9829. Will the merch return? Please, please, Will the merch return? Please, please, Will the merch return? Please, please, please bring it back. I missed it and I please bring it back. I missed it and I please bring it back. I missed it and I don't know if you responded to a don't know if you responded to a don't know if you responded to a question like this before. Yeah, I'm question like this before. Yeah, I'm question like this before. Yeah, I'm sorry. It is sorry. It is sorry. It is pretty [ __ ] cool. Uh yes, of course. pretty [ __ ] cool. Uh yes, of course. pretty [ __ ] cool. Uh yes, of course. Um, we are doing a new drop in Um, we are doing a new drop in Um, we are doing a new drop in March, March, April time. Currently March, March, April time. Currently March, March, April time. Currently working through all of the designs right working through all of the designs right working through all of the designs right now with the Sleep Token guy. And the now with the Sleep Token guy. And the now with the Sleep Token guy. And the goal is to get to, I don't know, three goal is to get to, I don't know, three goal is to get to, I don't know, three drops a year, something like that, or a drops a year, something like that, or a drops a year, something like that, or a quarterly thing. I quarterly might feel quarterly thing. I quarterly might feel quarterly thing. I quarterly might feel a little bit quick. Um, a little bit quick. Um, a little bit quick. Um, whatever pace people want new stuff at. whatever pace people want new stuff at. whatever pace people want new stuff at. And I guess I need it because it's all I And I guess I need it because it's all I And I guess I need it because it's all I wear now. Uh, which is cool. It is wear now. Uh, which is cool. It is wear now. Uh, which is cool. It is really, really nice to be able to wear really, really nice to be able to wear really, really nice to be able to wear my own brand. And uh I haven't seen it my own brand. And uh I haven't seen it my own brand. And uh I haven't seen it in the wild at all yet when it hasn't in the wild at all yet when it hasn't in the wild at all yet when it hasn't just been a friend that I've given it just been a friend that I've given it just been a friend that I've given it to, but I guess I need to sell more in to, but I guess I need to sell more in to, but I guess I need to sell more in order for that to happen. That being order for that to happen. That being order for that to happen. That being said, we did thousands and thousands and said, we did thousands and thousands and said, we did thousands and thousands and thousands of pieces on the first one. thousands of pieces on the first one. thousands of pieces on the first one. So, it'll be back. It'll be soon. We're So, it'll be back. It'll be soon. We're So, it'll be back. It'll be soon. We're going to come up with a solution to try going to come up with a solution to try going to come up with a solution to try and do shipping directly inside of the and do shipping directly inside of the and do shipping directly inside of the UK to get over the shipping costs for UK to get over the shipping costs for UK to get over the shipping costs for the Australia tour. We've got limited the Australia tour. We've got limited the Australia tour. We've got limited merch for that, like limited edition merch for that, like limited edition merch for that, like limited edition stuff that should be done inside of stuff that should be done inside of stuff that should be done inside of Australia. Trying to come up with global Australia. Trying to come up with global Australia. Trying to come up with global shipping, all the rest of it. It's shipping, all the rest of it. It's shipping, all the rest of it. It's [ __ ] nightmare. Um, says the guy that [ __ ] nightmare. Um, says the guy that [ __ ] nightmare. Um, says the guy that wants to write a book. wants to write a book. wants to write a book. I'll get around to it eventually. I'll get around to it eventually. I'll get around to it eventually. 2004 Jones. I'm currently dealing with 2004 Jones. I'm currently dealing with 2004 Jones. I'm currently dealing with health problems similar to yours. I I've health problems similar to yours. I I've health problems similar to yours. I I've been finally diagnosed after over 10 been finally diagnosed after over 10 been finally diagnosed after over 10 years of debilitating fatigue and years of debilitating fatigue and years of debilitating fatigue and anxiety with lime and two strains of anxiety with lime and two strains of anxiety with lime and two strains of besia and lead poisoning. I would love besia and lead poisoning. I would love besia and lead poisoning. I would love to hear more about your journey to get to hear more about your journey to get to hear more about your journey to get better. I really enjoy your videos, but better. I really enjoy your videos, but better. I really enjoy your videos, but especially the ones you did about your especially the ones you did about your especially the ones you did about your health. It speaks to me a lot. Thank health. It speaks to me a lot. Thank health. It speaks to me a lot. Thank you, Chris. You're the best. you, Chris. You're the best. you, Chris. You're the best. Yeah, Will, uh, Yeah, Will, uh, Yeah, Will, uh, I'm sorry that you're going through that I'm sorry that you're going through that I'm sorry that you're going through that 10 years of being tired and battling 10 years of being tired and battling 10 years of being tired and battling something that you can't see and nobody something that you can't see and nobody something that you can't see and nobody can see and you will have doubted every can see and you will have doubted every can see and you will have doubted every single day whether or not it's real or single day whether or not it's real or single day whether or not it's real or it's just in your head and people will it's just in your head and people will it's just in your head and people will have said, you know, maybe you need to have said, you know, maybe you need to have said, you know, maybe you need to do CBT or act therapy. Maybe it's do CBT or act therapy. Maybe it's do CBT or act therapy. Maybe it's psychosmatic or your hypochondric. Maybe psychosmatic or your hypochondric. Maybe psychosmatic or your hypochondric. Maybe it's your anxiety. Maybe it's whatever. it's your anxiety. Maybe it's whatever. it's your anxiety. Maybe it's whatever. and then you see something that and then you see something that and then you see something that legitimates it and that um in some ways legitimates it and that um in some ways legitimates it and that um in some ways is reassuring because it makes you seem is reassuring because it makes you seem is reassuring because it makes you seem a little bit less crazy. Uh everything a little bit less crazy. Uh everything a little bit less crazy. Uh everything about the journey is tracked in those about the journey is tracked in those about the journey is tracked in those docks. Dude, there is nothing else that docks. Dude, there is nothing else that docks. Dude, there is nothing else that I'm doing. Um right now my goal is I'm doing. Um right now my goal is I'm doing. Um right now my goal is working on my nervous system to just working on my nervous system to just working on my nervous system to just retrain it that life can be safe and retrain it that life can be safe and retrain it that life can be safe and that I have capacity to deal with that I have capacity to deal with that I have capacity to deal with challenges that come. But I'll keep I'll challenges that come. But I'll keep I'll challenges that come. But I'll keep I'll keep on recording it and putting it out keep on recording it and putting it out keep on recording it and putting it out there and being accused of there and being accused of there and being accused of just working too hard or not working just working too hard or not working just working too hard or not working hard enough or all of the the menstrual hard enough or all of the the menstrual hard enough or all of the the menstrual blood at the full moon sacrifice or the blood at the full moon sacrifice or the blood at the full moon sacrifice or the goat milk or the [ __ ] psychedelics. goat milk or the [ __ ] psychedelics. goat milk or the [ __ ] psychedelics. [snorts] I'm going keep doing it. Well, [snorts] I'm going keep doing it. Well, [snorts] I'm going keep doing it. Well, so hold on. A quick aside. Do you so hold on. A quick aside. Do you so hold on. A quick aside. 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Steph K, why do you think the dating Steph K, why do you think the dating Steph K, why do you think the dating scene is so bad in Australia? scene is so bad in Australia? scene is so bad in Australia? Finding a husband is impossible. I I have no idea about what the dating I I have no idea about what the dating scene is like in Australia. I guess I'm scene is like in Australia. I guess I'm scene is like in Australia. I guess I'm going to go and and be there in six going to go and and be there in six going to go and and be there in six weeks. So, I will scrutinize. weeks. So, I will scrutinize. weeks. So, I will scrutinize. I would be talking out of my ass. Uh I I would be talking out of my ass. Uh I I would be talking out of my ass. Uh I think the world would be a better place think the world would be a better place think the world would be a better place if people more often said I don't have if people more often said I don't have if people more often said I don't have an opinion on that. And unfortunately, an opinion on that. And unfortunately, an opinion on that. And unfortunately, this is one of those times. The dating this is one of those times. The dating this is one of those times. The dating scene being everywhere. I don't know why scene being everywhere. I don't know why scene being everywhere. I don't know why it's specifically. Here's something that it's specifically. Here's something that it's specifically. Here's something that I can say. Okay. I don't think that it's I can say. Okay. I don't think that it's I can say. Okay. I don't think that it's an Australia problem. I think it's a an Australia problem. I think it's a an Australia problem. I think it's a modern west problem. Is Australia in the modern west problem. Is Australia in the modern west problem. Is Australia in the west? Whatever. Kind of west? Whatever. Kind of west? Whatever. Kind of kind of the opposite. kind of the opposite. kind of the opposite. I think everybody is struggling at the I think everybody is struggling at the I think everybody is struggling at the moment. Shifting sands underneath moment. Shifting sands underneath moment. Shifting sands underneath everyone's feet about what's expected everyone's feet about what's expected everyone's feet about what's expected from both men and women, how to navigate from both men and women, how to navigate from both men and women, how to navigate this world, mismatch, this world, mismatch, this world, mismatch, coupling, vitality curve, coupling, vitality curve, coupling, vitality curve, uh soio economic tall girl problem, you uh soio economic tall girl problem, you uh soio economic tall girl problem, you know, all of these things. They they know, all of these things. They they know, all of these things. They they like they are not small road bumps to like they are not small road bumps to like they are not small road bumps to get over. They are [ __ ] massive. It's get over. They are [ __ ] massive. It's get over. They are [ __ ] massive. It's much more like the wall between America much more like the wall between America much more like the wall between America and [ __ ] Mexico. Um and [ __ ] Mexico. Um and [ __ ] Mexico. Um [sighs] [sighs] [sighs] you're not alone in struggling in the you're not alone in struggling in the you're not alone in struggling in the current dating market. Uh especially if current dating market. Uh especially if current dating market. Uh especially if you're the sort of girl who listens to you're the sort of girl who listens to you're the sort of girl who listens to this podcast, you're probably educated, this podcast, you're probably educated, this podcast, you're probably educated, maybe higher educated, maybe postgrad maybe higher educated, maybe postgrad maybe higher educated, maybe postgrad educated. You're probably earning at educated. You're probably earning at educated. You're probably earning at least a little bit of money. You're least a little bit of money. You're least a little bit of money. You're driven. you're reflective. driven. you're reflective. driven. you're reflective. Your standards for yourself are quite Your standards for yourself are quite Your standards for yourself are quite high if you're into the sort of stuff high if you're into the sort of stuff high if you're into the sort of stuff that we talk about on the show, which that we talk about on the show, which that we talk about on the show, which probably means that you have high probably means that you have high probably means that you have high standards for a partner or at least you standards for a partner or at least you standards for a partner or at least you want to be able to emotionally connect want to be able to emotionally connect want to be able to emotionally connect or intellectually connect in a way that or intellectually connect in a way that or intellectually connect in a way that that's a weird kind of standard and it's that's a weird kind of standard and it's that's a weird kind of standard and it's one that the internet doesn't talk about one that the internet doesn't talk about one that the internet doesn't talk about that much because they can talk about, that much because they can talk about, that much because they can talk about, you know, six feet tall, six, six-pack, you know, six feet tall, six, six-pack, you know, six feet tall, six, six-pack, six figures a year. six figures a year. six figures a year. I think a lot of people are struggling I think a lot of people are struggling I think a lot of people are struggling with just finding someone that they can with just finding someone that they can with just finding someone that they can really deeply emotionally connect with really deeply emotionally connect with really deeply emotionally connect with and they want to feel like their partner and they want to feel like their partner and they want to feel like their partner is someone who's on their level is someone who's on their level is someone who's on their level emotionally and intellectually. Like emotionally and intellectually. Like emotionally and intellectually. Like dating is just one big long dating is just one big long dating is just one big long conversation. And if you're struggling conversation. And if you're struggling conversation. And if you're struggling to find people that are into the stuff to find people that are into the stuff to find people that are into the stuff that you're into because the same way as that you're into because the same way as that you're into because the same way as if you had a very refined palate, you if you had a very refined palate, you if you had a very refined palate, you wouldn't be able to eat in quite so many wouldn't be able to eat in quite so many wouldn't be able to eat in quite so many restaurants because your standards are a restaurants because your standards are a restaurants because your standards are a little bit higher. Uh the same thing is little bit higher. Uh the same thing is little bit higher. Uh the same thing is true for relating and connecting to true for relating and connecting to true for relating and connecting to other people. And it's a very different other people. And it's a very different other people. And it's a very different I don't see many people talking about I don't see many people talking about I don't see many people talking about well what you should do is put up with well what you should do is put up with well what you should do is put up with less of a level of connection with your less of a level of connection with your less of a level of connection with your partner. you go, "Well, fuck." Like, if partner. you go, "Well, fuck." Like, if partner. you go, "Well, fuck." Like, if if I've done five years of therapy and a if I've done five years of therapy and a if I've done five years of therapy and a thousand sessions of meditation and I've thousand sessions of meditation and I've thousand sessions of meditation and I've really regulated my nervous system or really regulated my nervous system or really regulated my nervous system or I'm curious about the world or I love to I'm curious about the world or I love to I'm curious about the world or I love to learn, learn, learn, that's obviously important to you. And that's obviously important to you. And that's obviously important to you. And if you can't find a partner that it can if you can't find a partner that it can if you can't find a partner that it can that is important to them, too, it's that is important to them, too, it's that is important to them, too, it's always going to feel imbalanced. And always going to feel imbalanced. And always going to feel imbalanced. And that's that's a a kind of a silent that's that's a a kind of a silent that's that's a a kind of a silent epidemic that no one's talking about epidemic that no one's talking about epidemic that no one's talking about because the same as if you've got some because the same as if you've got some because the same as if you've got some chronic fatigue thing, it never appears chronic fatigue thing, it never appears chronic fatigue thing, it never appears on a balance sheet. Like, show me where on a balance sheet. Like, show me where on a balance sheet. Like, show me where it is on your Tinder profile. you just it is on your Tinder profile. you just it is on your Tinder profile. you just feel it. It's in a vibe. Um, I think feel it. It's in a vibe. Um, I think feel it. It's in a vibe. Um, I think this is a challenge everywhere. There's this is a challenge everywhere. There's this is a challenge everywhere. There's a lot of structural reasons, there's a a lot of structural reasons, there's a a lot of structural reasons, there's a lot of objective reasons, and there's a lot of objective reasons, and there's a lot of objective reasons, and there's a lot of subjective reasons as well. Um, lot of subjective reasons as well. Um, lot of subjective reasons as well. Um, stick at it because again, the choice is stick at it because again, the choice is stick at it because again, the choice is between giving up and staying where you between giving up and staying where you between giving up and staying where you are and keeping going and things may be are and keeping going and things may be are and keeping going and things may be getting better. The the choice seems getting better. The the choice seems getting better. The the choice seems pretty obvious to me. [sighs] pretty obvious to me. [sighs] pretty obvious to me. [sighs] Tyler Rainard 7326, how do you approach Tyler Rainard 7326, how do you approach Tyler Rainard 7326, how do you approach hobbies outside of work? Any tips for hobbies outside of work? Any tips for hobbies outside of work? Any tips for not obsessing over skill when the not obsessing over skill when the not obsessing over skill when the initial goal was to have fun? Dude, this initial goal was to have fun? Dude, this initial goal was to have fun? Dude, this is so good. So, um I have a friend is so good. So, um I have a friend is so good. So, um I have a friend Justin Nol and his coach Justin Nol and his coach Justin Nol and his coach gave him the task a few years ago of gave him the task a few years ago of gave him the task a few years ago of starting a hobby, but he wasn't allowed starting a hobby, but he wasn't allowed starting a hobby, but he wasn't allowed to try and get better at it. I think he to try and get better at it. I think he to try and get better at it. I think he started doing watercolors, some sort of started doing watercolors, some sort of started doing watercolors, some sort of painting or illustration. And as soon as painting or illustration. And as soon as painting or illustration. And as soon as he did it, he went and did a class maybe he did it, he went and did a class maybe he did it, he went and did a class maybe or or or sat down to do it. his type A or or or sat down to do it. his type A or or or sat down to do it. his type A overachiever brain kicked in and overachiever brain kicked in and overachiever brain kicked in and immediately said, "Right, well, I'm immediately said, "Right, well, I'm immediately said, "Right, well, I'm gonna go and watch YouTube videos so gonna go and watch YouTube videos so gonna go and watch YouTube videos so that I can get better at this and I I that I can get better at this and I I that I can get better at this and I I should research what the best should research what the best should research what the best watercolors are that I can buy online watercolors are that I can buy online watercolors are that I can buy online and what's a spec specific type of brush and what's a spec specific type of brush and what's a spec specific type of brush that I need and I bet there's different that I need and I bet there's different that I need and I bet there's different types of paper." And what I should do is types of paper." And what I should do is types of paper." And what I should do is I should really get a coach. I said, I should really get a coach. I said, I should really get a coach. I said, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa." "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa." "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa." The purpose of this thing was to just do The purpose of this thing was to just do The purpose of this thing was to just do the task just just just to go through the task just just just to go through the task just just just to go through the experience without creating more the experience without creating more the experience without creating more homework and another barometer with homework and another barometer with homework and another barometer with which you can judge your worthiness or which you can judge your worthiness or which you can judge your worthiness or lack of worthiness. Um, lack of worthiness. Um, lack of worthiness. Um, so I feel you. I I had this with with so I feel you. I I had this with with so I feel you. I I had this with with pickle ball and pickle ball and pickle ball and what was supposed to be a Tuesday what was supposed to be a Tuesday what was supposed to be a Tuesday evening and Thursday evening evening and Thursday evening evening and Thursday evening pursuit, recreational pursuit turned pursuit, recreational pursuit turned pursuit, recreational pursuit turned into, well, I I Zay Navertil follows the into, well, I I Zay Navertil follows the into, well, I I Zay Navertil follows the show, so I should really get him to show, so I should really get him to show, so I should really get him to teach me how to do drills and drop shot teach me how to do drills and drop shot teach me how to do drills and drop shot and all the rest of it. Yes, there is and all the rest of it. Yes, there is and all the rest of it. Yes, there is joy in getting better, but when that joy in getting better, but when that joy in getting better, but when that turns into a turns into a turns into a like a tormentor or a taskmaster. Um, like a tormentor or a taskmaster. Um, like a tormentor or a taskmaster. Um, one thing that you could try would be to one thing that you could try would be to one thing that you could try would be to do something do something do something in a group, in a group, in a group, so something like something where the so something like something where the so something like something where the performance or the outcome is a little performance or the outcome is a little performance or the outcome is a little bit more poorly defined. This would be a bit more poorly defined. This would be a bit more poorly defined. This would be a way to get around it. Um, if you do way to get around it. Um, if you do way to get around it. Um, if you do pickle ball, you win or you lose at pickle ball, you win or you lose at pickle ball, you win or you lose at pickle ball. You win or you lose the pickle ball. You win or you lose the pickle ball. You win or you lose the point. You hit the net or you get the point. You hit the net or you get the point. You hit the net or you get the ball over the net. Something that's a ball over the net. Something that's a ball over the net. Something that's a little bit more difficult to define little bit more difficult to define little bit more difficult to define would be yoga or uh dance, salsa dancing would be yoga or uh dance, salsa dancing would be yoga or uh dance, salsa dancing or line dancing or something. Yeah. I or line dancing or something. Yeah. I or line dancing or something. Yeah. I mean, you can like get the move or not mean, you can like get the move or not mean, you can like get the move or not get the move. You can look stupid or not get the move. You can look stupid or not get the move. You can look stupid or not look stupid, but it's just a spectrum of look stupid, but it's just a spectrum of look stupid, but it's just a spectrum of looking more or less stupid. And with looking more or less stupid. And with looking more or less stupid. And with yoga, there's a spectrum of it being yoga, there's a spectrum of it being yoga, there's a spectrum of it being more or less difficult. And that might more or less difficult. And that might more or less difficult. And that might be a good way around it to do things be a good way around it to do things be a good way around it to do things that have slightly less well-defined that have slightly less well-defined that have slightly less well-defined outcome goals. Uh outcome goals. Uh outcome goals. Uh you're speaking to the crowd here. I've you're speaking to the crowd here. I've you're speaking to the crowd here. I've done it myself with pickle ball. My done it myself with pickle ball. My done it myself with pickle ball. My friends done it with watercolors. The friends done it with watercolors. The friends done it with watercolors. The overachiever mindset runs deep. overachiever mindset runs deep. overachiever mindset runs deep. Browneyed girl B. Where does one find a Browneyed girl B. Where does one find a Browneyed girl B. Where does one find a good man with moral values and ambition? good man with moral values and ambition? good man with moral values and ambition? He's rare in Australia. What the [ __ ] is He's rare in Australia. What the [ __ ] is He's rare in Australia. What the [ __ ] is going on in Australia? going on in Australia? going on in Australia? This is this is two two out of three This is this is two two out of three This is this is two two out of three questions about the dating scene of questions about the dating scene of questions about the dating scene of maybe I was wrong. Maybe Australia's maybe I was wrong. Maybe Australia's maybe I was wrong. Maybe Australia's [ __ ] Uh what's the birth rate in [ __ ] Uh what's the birth rate in [ __ ] Uh what's the birth rate in Australia? Chpt Australia? Chpt Australia? Chpt CH GPT. What is the birth rate? What is CH GPT. What is the birth rate? What is CH GPT. What is the birth rate? What is the birth rate in Australia? [snorts] [snorts] Cuz this comes back at 0.4. Uh Cuz this comes back at 0.4. Uh Cuz this comes back at 0.4. Uh what the [ __ ] number is this? what the [ __ ] number is this? what the [ __ ] number is this? 1.4. Okay. Uh that's that's not great. 1.4. Okay. Uh that's that's not great. 1.4. Okay. Uh that's that's not great. I mean, it's tracking the rest of the I mean, it's tracking the rest of the I mean, it's tracking the rest of the world, but world, but world, but 1.4 is not good. 1.4 is not good. 1.4 is not good. 1.4 rates. So 1.5. You going to have 1.4 rates. So 1.5. You going to have 1.4 rates. So 1.5. You going to have that uh that uh that uh moral values and again I'm not feel like moral values and again I'm not feel like moral values and again I'm not feel like I'm doing a campaign either for or I'm doing a campaign either for or I'm doing a campaign either for or against Australia here. I'm either against Australia here. I'm either against Australia here. I'm either defending it or persecuting it. uh good defending it or persecuting it. uh good defending it or persecuting it. uh good man with moral values and ambition just man with moral values and ambition just man with moral values and ambition just it's the same advice for every person it's the same advice for every person it's the same advice for every person who says where do I find a person like who says where do I find a person like who says where do I find a person like dot dot dot think that you weren't doing dot dot dot think that you weren't doing dot dot dot think that you weren't doing this for yourself where do people like this for yourself where do people like this for yourself where do people like the people you want to date hang out the people you want to date hang out the people you want to date hang out where would they go moral values and where would they go moral values and where would they go moral values and ambition maybe at a modern wisdom live ambition maybe at a modern wisdom live ambition maybe at a modern wisdom live event at chris williamson.comlive uh event at chris williamson.comlive uh event at chris williamson.comlive uh maybe at a yoga class maybe a meditation maybe at a yoga class maybe a meditation maybe at a yoga class maybe a meditation class, maybe at some sort of business class, maybe at some sort of business class, maybe at some sort of business mastermind or a conference, maybe in a mastermind or a conference, maybe in a mastermind or a conference, maybe in a library, uh maybe at some sort of run library, uh maybe at some sort of run library, uh maybe at some sort of run club or a meetup or something. Those are club or a meetup or something. Those are club or a meetup or something. Those are those are the kinds of places where those are the kinds of places where those are the kinds of places where people like the person that you want people like the person that you want people like the person that you want will hang out. Just go there. They I I'm will hang out. Just go there. They I I'm will hang out. Just go there. They I I'm amazed at how amazed at how amazed at how obvious this is. And that's not for me obvious this is. And that's not for me obvious this is. And that's not for me to say that people disregard it. It's to say that people disregard it. It's to say that people disregard it. It's just that they haven't thought about it. just that they haven't thought about it. just that they haven't thought about it. Like you're looking in places typically Like you're looking in places typically Like you're looking in places typically where these people don't hang out. It's where these people don't hang out. It's where these people don't hang out. It's like you're swiping through something like you're swiping through something like you're swiping through something with no pre-selection like Ryer or with no pre-selection like Ryer or with no pre-selection like Ryer or Tinder or Hinge or you're going to bars Tinder or Hinge or you're going to bars Tinder or Hinge or you're going to bars and clubs because that's where people and clubs because that's where people and clubs because that's where people meet or something. Or you're doing it meet or something. Or you're doing it meet or something. Or you're doing it even at work. It's your work. Like does even at work. It's your work. Like does even at work. It's your work. Like does your work select for moral values and your work select for moral values and your work select for moral values and ambition? Maybe not. [ __ ] go to the ambition? Maybe not. [ __ ] go to the ambition? Maybe not. [ __ ] go to the places with people like the person you places with people like the person you places with people like the person you want to date. That's where you go. want to date. That's where you go. want to date. That's where you go. [sighs] [sighs] [sighs] Ran Jan Candle 2924. Ran Jan Candle 2924. Ran Jan Candle 2924. Another congrats, Chris. Been thinking Another congrats, Chris. Been thinking Another congrats, Chris. Been thinking about this one for some time now. Do you about this one for some time now. Do you about this one for some time now. Do you have any tips on how to unattach or have any tips on how to unattach or have any tips on how to unattach or unlearn something or habits? It's a very unlearn something or habits? It's a very unlearn something or habits? It's a very abstract intention, but one I feel is abstract intention, but one I feel is abstract intention, but one I feel is very important for me to move forward. I very important for me to move forward. I very important for me to move forward. I cannot seem to come up with anything cannot seem to come up with anything cannot seem to come up with anything that I can put into action to directly that I can put into action to directly that I can put into action to directly influence my attachment with some habits influence my attachment with some habits influence my attachment with some habits and attributes of my life except for and attributes of my life except for and attributes of my life except for replacing certain things with focusing replacing certain things with focusing replacing certain things with focusing myself time into aspect of where I want myself time into aspect of where I want myself time into aspect of where I want to be and then go really deep removing to be and then go really deep removing to be and then go really deep removing certain desires which is extremely certain desires which is extremely certain desires which is extremely difficult. any thought that is a [ __ ] difficult. any thought that is a [ __ ] difficult. any thought that is a [ __ ] okay unlearn habits. Um okay unlearn habits. Um okay unlearn habits. Um it is a 100 times harder to unlearn it is a 100 times harder to unlearn it is a 100 times harder to unlearn something than it is to learn something something than it is to learn something something than it is to learn something which is why not accumulating bad habits which is why not accumulating bad habits which is why not accumulating bad habits is more of a priority than accumulating is more of a priority than accumulating is more of a priority than accumulating good ones. And there is no such thing as good ones. And there is no such thing as good ones. And there is no such thing as not drilling a habit. You are always not drilling a habit. You are always not drilling a habit. You are always learning a habit. It simply depends on learning a habit. It simply depends on learning a habit. It simply depends on what you're learning. Right? So if in what you're learning. Right? So if in what you're learning. Right? So if in one version of the world you wake up and one version of the world you wake up and one version of the world you wake up and go to the gym and in another version of go to the gym and in another version of go to the gym and in another version of the world you hit snooze, that is the the world you hit snooze, that is the the world you hit snooze, that is the habit of hitting snooze. There's no habit of hitting snooze. There's no habit of hitting snooze. There's no neutral habit, right? In one version you neutral habit, right? In one version you neutral habit, right? In one version you eat healthily, in another version you eat healthily, in another version you eat healthily, in another version you eat neutally, right? It's not eat neutally, right? It's not eat neutally, right? It's not unhealthily, but you eat neutally. That unhealthily, but you eat neutally. That unhealthily, but you eat neutally. That is you drilling the neutral eating is you drilling the neutral eating is you drilling the neutral eating habit. It's not you not contributing to habit. It's not you not contributing to habit. It's not you not contributing to the habit thing. You have a conversation the habit thing. You have a conversation the habit thing. You have a conversation with your partner. This one is super with your partner. This one is super with your partner. This one is super regulated. This one is super shouty. And regulated. This one is super shouty. And regulated. This one is super shouty. And then you have one which is kind of a then you have one which is kind of a then you have one which is kind of a little bit detached. It's not super little bit detached. It's not super little bit detached. It's not super disregulated, but it's not it's not your disregulated, but it's not it's not your disregulated, but it's not it's not your best self. Any one of those is drilling best self. Any one of those is drilling best self. Any one of those is drilling more of that thing. So, first off, more of that thing. So, first off, more of that thing. So, first off, unlearning habits is not a small task. unlearning habits is not a small task. unlearning habits is not a small task. Secondly, my current belief around this, Secondly, my current belief around this, Secondly, my current belief around this, I'm sure that there's a way to actively I'm sure that there's a way to actively I'm sure that there's a way to actively unlearn the habit, deprogramming stuff, unlearn the habit, deprogramming stuff, unlearn the habit, deprogramming stuff, maybe the uh NMDR thing, that maybe the uh NMDR thing, that maybe the uh NMDR thing, that eyetracking [ __ ] maybe maybe that might eyetracking [ __ ] maybe maybe that might eyetracking [ __ ] maybe maybe that might work. Um, NSDR. Uh, I I get the sense work. Um, NSDR. Uh, I I get the sense work. Um, NSDR. Uh, I I get the sense that the best way is just to get a that the best way is just to get a that the best way is just to get a better habit, a stronger habit with better habit, a stronger habit with better habit, a stronger habit with deeper grooves cut into it. So I think deeper grooves cut into it. So I think deeper grooves cut into it. So I think about human behavior kind of like water about human behavior kind of like water about human behavior kind of like water moving through a landscape and there is moving through a landscape and there is moving through a landscape and there is a path of least resistance that the a path of least resistance that the a path of least resistance that the water cuts through and that is typically water cuts through and that is typically water cuts through and that is typically some combination of effort and pattern. some combination of effort and pattern. some combination of effort and pattern. So how hard or easy is this thing to do? So how hard or easy is this thing to do? So how hard or easy is this thing to do? Generally independently of how much Generally independently of how much Generally independently of how much you've done it before and how much have you've done it before and how much have you've done it before and how much have you done it before. If something is it you done it before. If something is it you done it before. If something is it it is always going to be easier to stay it is always going to be easier to stay it is always going to be easier to stay in bed than it is to go to the gym. And in bed than it is to go to the gym. And in bed than it is to go to the gym. And if you have stayed in bed a lot, that if you have stayed in bed a lot, that if you have stayed in bed a lot, that groove is going to be cut more deeply. groove is going to be cut more deeply. groove is going to be cut more deeply. All that you need to do is build a All that you need to do is build a All that you need to do is build a groove which is even deeper than that. groove which is even deeper than that. groove which is even deeper than that. And unfortunately, that means doing the And unfortunately, that means doing the And unfortunately, that means doing the hard thing. That means applying a hard thing. That means applying a hard thing. That means applying a [ __ ] ton of effort to rip this new [ __ ] ton of effort to rip this new [ __ ] ton of effort to rip this new habit off the launchpad one inch at a habit off the launchpad one inch at a habit off the launchpad one inch at a time and you're going to fail. The best time and you're going to fail. The best time and you're going to fail. The best rule for this is don't miss two days in rule for this is don't miss two days in rule for this is don't miss two days in a row because one day missed is a a row because one day missed is a a row because one day missed is a mistake, but two days missed is the mistake, but two days missed is the mistake, but two days missed is the start of a new habit. Set that rule. start of a new habit. Set that rule. start of a new habit. Set that rule. Don't miss two days in a row. Do the new Don't miss two days in a row. Do the new Don't miss two days in a row. Do the new thing. And what is the opposite of the thing. And what is the opposite of the thing. And what is the opposite of the habit that you want to get rid of? If habit that you want to get rid of? If habit that you want to get rid of? If you don't want to scroll on your phone you don't want to scroll on your phone you don't want to scroll on your phone at night, the phone needs to be outside at night, the phone needs to be outside at night, the phone needs to be outside of your bedroom. And if you don't scroll of your bedroom. And if you don't scroll of your bedroom. And if you don't scroll on your phone at night, every single day on your phone at night, every single day on your phone at night, every single day that you put a repetition in where you that you put a repetition in where you that you put a repetition in where you don't do that is you drilling that don't do that is you drilling that don't do that is you drilling that habit. Now, will the old habit always be habit. Now, will the old habit always be habit. Now, will the old habit always be there lurking in the background like a there lurking in the background like a there lurking in the background like a monster hiding in the cupboard? Yeah, monster hiding in the cupboard? Yeah, monster hiding in the cupboard? Yeah, probably. And that is going to suck. But probably. And that is going to suck. But probably. And that is going to suck. But over a long enough amount of time, I get over a long enough amount of time, I get over a long enough amount of time, I get the sense that you can drill those the sense that you can drill those the sense that you can drill those grooves so deep that even if the other grooves so deep that even if the other grooves so deep that even if the other one has some patterns and objectively is one has some patterns and objectively is one has some patterns and objectively is easier to do. It's the more seductive easier to do. It's the more seductive easier to do. It's the more seductive low friction one, I still think that you low friction one, I still think that you low friction one, I still think that you can beat it by just building new habits. can beat it by just building new habits. can beat it by just building new habits. So honestly, unlearning for me is all So honestly, unlearning for me is all So honestly, unlearning for me is all about relearning basically or um about relearning basically or um about relearning basically or um overwriting what it was that you did overwriting what it was that you did overwriting what it was that you did previously with something new that I I previously with something new that I I previously with something new that I I I'm yet to find a way to unlearn I'm yet to find a way to unlearn I'm yet to find a way to unlearn anything that doesn't involve doing anything that doesn't involve doing anything that doesn't involve doing something else instead. something else instead. something else instead. 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What do you see wrong in the hustle culture, especially coming the hustle culture, especially coming the hustle culture, especially coming from the podcast space? Yeah, man. I from the podcast space? Yeah, man. I from the podcast space? Yeah, man. I mean, I I have not become I'm I'm mean, I I have not become I'm I'm mean, I I have not become I'm I'm definitely not flavor of the month with definitely not flavor of the month with definitely not flavor of the month with that world. that world. that world. The [ __ ] your feelings, just work harder The [ __ ] your feelings, just work harder The [ __ ] your feelings, just work harder thing. Um, thing. Um, thing. Um, I don't know whether there's been anyone I don't know whether there's been anyone I don't know whether there's been anyone who's done more of a rail against it who's done more of a rail against it who's done more of a rail against it over the last 12 months than me. over the last 12 months than me. over the last 12 months than me. So many of the episodes that I've done So many of the episodes that I've done So many of the episodes that I've done are me trying to show the importance of emotion and show the importance of emotion and connection and resonance with what connection and resonance with what connection and resonance with what you're doing as opposed to just working you're doing as opposed to just working you're doing as opposed to just working until your eyes bleed. Now, the problem until your eyes bleed. Now, the problem until your eyes bleed. Now, the problem with this is if you're somebody who has with this is if you're somebody who has with this is if you're somebody who has gone through the ringer and come out the gone through the ringer and come out the gone through the ringer and come out the other side other side other side speaking to people who for the most speaking to people who for the most speaking to people who for the most part, which is almost everybody, are part, which is almost everybody, are part, which is almost everybody, are still on their grind, it sounds an awful still on their grind, it sounds an awful still on their grind, it sounds an awful lot like me talking from an ivory tower lot like me talking from an ivory tower lot like me talking from an ivory tower about how basically pulling the ladder about how basically pulling the ladder about how basically pulling the ladder of hard work up after me. And that's a of hard work up after me. And that's a of hard work up after me. And that's a really difficult tight rope to walk. And really difficult tight rope to walk. And really difficult tight rope to walk. And it's one that I've realized I it's one that I've realized I it's one that I've realized I essentially can't I can't do. I can't essentially can't I can't do. I can't essentially can't I can't do. I can't tell people to work less hard. What I tell people to work less hard. What I tell people to work less hard. What I can do is say, "Hey, this is a place can do is say, "Hey, this is a place can do is say, "Hey, this is a place that I think you're going to get to that I think you're going to get to that I think you're going to get to during this during this during this journey that you're on, or at least it's journey that you're on, or at least it's journey that you're on, or at least it's one that I got to." Uh, what do I see is one that I got to." Uh, what do I see is one that I got to." Uh, what do I see is wrong in hustle culture? Coming from the wrong in hustle culture? Coming from the wrong in hustle culture? Coming from the podcast space, it is a total disregard podcast space, it is a total disregard podcast space, it is a total disregard of how you feel of how you feel of how you feel over a long period of time. over a long period of time. over a long period of time. Ignoring how you feel is super powerful Ignoring how you feel is super powerful Ignoring how you feel is super powerful and literally a superpower. But presumably the reason that you're But presumably the reason that you're working hard is eventually to get to a working hard is eventually to get to a working hard is eventually to get to a state where you feel good. state where you feel good. state where you feel good. And if you start to reach escape And if you start to reach escape And if you start to reach escape velocity velocity velocity from all of the work that you did and from all of the work that you did and from all of the work that you did and from needing to do the work and you're from needing to do the work and you're from needing to do the work and you're still tormenting yourself still tormenting yourself still tormenting yourself to never actually connect with your to never actually connect with your to never actually connect with your emotions and to not slow down if your emotions and to not slow down if your emotions and to not slow down if your body tells you to slow down, to not body tells you to slow down, to not body tells you to slow down, to not enjoy it. If your body tells you to enjoy it. If your body tells you to enjoy it. If your body tells you to enjoy it, you will become very enjoy it, you will become very enjoy it, you will become very successful and very miserable. successful and very miserable. successful and very miserable. What is your definition of success? What is your definition of success? What is your definition of success? Mine is not to look back on a series of Mine is not to look back on a series of Mine is not to look back on a series of miserable successes. So that's that's miserable successes. So that's that's miserable successes. So that's that's one of them. There's quite a few more. I one of them. There's quite a few more. I one of them. There's quite a few more. I think think think unfortunately there is a [sighs] transactional nature to a lot of the transactional nature to a lot of the friendships that are kind of proposed. friendships that are kind of proposed. friendships that are kind of proposed. You know, you're supposed to only hang You know, you're supposed to only hang You know, you're supposed to only hang with people for as long as they're of with people for as long as they're of with people for as long as they're of service to you or useful to you, even if service to you or useful to you, even if service to you or useful to you, even if they're useful in contrast or in sort of they're useful in contrast or in sort of they're useful in contrast or in sort of regulation. Uh should you be with people regulation. Uh should you be with people regulation. Uh should you be with people that make you feel good and are energy that make you feel good and are energy that make you feel good and are energy inflows? Yeah, absolutely. But uh inflows? Yeah, absolutely. But uh inflows? Yeah, absolutely. But uh speaking as someone who's spent two speaking as someone who's spent two speaking as someone who's spent two decades networking, hardcore networking, decades networking, hardcore networking, decades networking, hardcore networking, right, which I never talk about, but my right, which I never talk about, but my right, which I never talk about, but my entire last life was that and the only entire last life was that and the only entire last life was that and the only way that a podcast grows is by you way that a podcast grows is by you way that a podcast grows is by you getting yourself into the right rooms getting yourself into the right rooms getting yourself into the right rooms and for the right people to know you. and for the right people to know you. and for the right people to know you. Treating people like commodities Treating people like commodities Treating people like commodities that you trade and trade up and get in that you trade and trade up and get in that you trade and trade up and get in with and ignore and it it it does not go with and ignore and it it it does not go with and ignore and it it it does not go well. It will not go well. So those are well. It will not go well. So those are well. It will not go well. So those are those are two issues. Brad Cooper 1343. those are two issues. Brad Cooper 1343. those are two issues. Brad Cooper 1343. After listening to your recent episode, After listening to your recent episode, After listening to your recent episode, I found myself grappling with a question I found myself grappling with a question I found myself grappling with a question that has occupied much of my thinking that has occupied much of my thinking that has occupied much of my thinking lately. How does one reconcile the lately. How does one reconcile the lately. How does one reconcile the tension between unfulfilled potential tension between unfulfilled potential tension between unfulfilled potential and contentment? As an ambitious and contentment? As an ambitious and contentment? As an ambitious 23-year-old who has recently qualified 23-year-old who has recently qualified 23-year-old who has recently qualified in what society would deem a successful in what society would deem a successful in what society would deem a successful career, I find myself paradoxically career, I find myself paradoxically career, I find myself paradoxically dissatisfied. Despite these dissatisfied. Despite these dissatisfied. Despite these achievements, I recognize the harder achievements, I recognize the harder achievements, I recognize the harder work required for further advancement. work required for further advancement. work required for further advancement. Yet, I consistently defer it. I'm caught Yet, I consistently defer it. I'm caught Yet, I consistently defer it. I'm caught in a persistent internal conflict. I in a persistent internal conflict. I in a persistent internal conflict. I possess clarity about what's necessary possess clarity about what's necessary possess clarity about what's necessary to progress. Yet, I fail to execute. I to progress. Yet, I fail to execute. I to progress. Yet, I fail to execute. I find myself succumbing to find myself succumbing to find myself succumbing to procrastination and squandering time, procrastination and squandering time, procrastination and squandering time, all while maintaining an acute awareness all while maintaining an acute awareness all while maintaining an acute awareness of its irreplaceable value. This of its irreplaceable value. This of its irreplaceable value. This disconnect between my stated values and disconnect between my stated values and disconnect between my stated values and my actual behavior has become my actual behavior has become my actual behavior has become increasingly difficult to rationalize. increasingly difficult to rationalize. increasingly difficult to rationalize. That is question of the [ __ ] day, That is question of the [ __ ] day, That is question of the [ __ ] day, dude. Congratulations. You win. dude. Congratulations. You win. dude. Congratulations. You win. Question of the Q&A. That is a Question of the Q&A. That is a Question of the Q&A. That is a wonderfully written question. So, first wonderfully written question. So, first wonderfully written question. So, first off, you should try a career as a writer off, you should try a career as a writer off, you should try a career as a writer because that that is beautiful. How do I because that that is beautiful. How do I because that that is beautiful. How do I reconcile the tension between reconcile the tension between reconcile the tension between unfulfilled potential and contentment? unfulfilled potential and contentment? unfulfilled potential and contentment? You're ambitious. You're qualified. You're ambitious. You're qualified. You're ambitious. You're qualified. You're You're You're dissatisfied with what you've achieved dissatisfied with what you've achieved dissatisfied with what you've achieved so far. You know that you need to work so far. You know that you need to work so far. You know that you need to work harder in order to advance further. And harder in order to advance further. And harder in order to advance further. And yet, you're putting it off. There's yet, you're putting it off. There's yet, you're putting it off. There's conflict. You know what you need to do, conflict. You know what you need to do, conflict. You know what you need to do, yet you don't execute. You're yet you don't execute. You're yet you don't execute. You're procrastinating and squandering time procrastinating and squandering time procrastinating and squandering time whilst also feeling fear and pain at the whilst also feeling fear and pain at the whilst also feeling fear and pain at the fact that you've done it. It's fact that you've done it. It's fact that you've done it. It's irreplaceable. The disconnect between irreplaceable. The disconnect between irreplaceable. The disconnect between your stated values and your actual your stated values and your actual your stated values and your actual behavior has become increasingly behavior has become increasingly behavior has become increasingly difficult to rationalize. This is one of difficult to rationalize. This is one of difficult to rationalize. This is one of the [ __ ] perennial personal growth the [ __ ] perennial personal growth the [ __ ] perennial personal growth challenges. I've done something that's challenges. I've done something that's challenges. I've done something that's supposed to be really supposed to be really supposed to be really satisfying to me satisfying to me satisfying to me and yet I I was objectively there and and yet I I was objectively there and and yet I I was objectively there and subjectively absent is a way that you subjectively absent is a way that you subjectively absent is a way that you could think about it. Holy [ __ ] I did could think about it. Holy [ __ ] I did could think about it. Holy [ __ ] I did the thing. Hang on. the thing. Hang on. the thing. Hang on. Why? Why didn't I feel anything? Why Why? Why didn't I feel anything? Why Why? Why didn't I feel anything? Why you're looking around? Oh, that's It's you're looking around? Oh, that's It's you're looking around? Oh, that's It's more. I need more. It's It wasn't one more. I need more. It's It wasn't one more. I need more. It's It wasn't one gold medal. It was It's But I have to do gold medal. It was It's But I have to do gold medal. It was It's But I have to do it twice because I need to prove that it it twice because I need to prove that it it twice because I need to prove that it wasn't a It wasn't two. It was cuz two. wasn't a It wasn't two. It was cuz two. wasn't a It wasn't two. It was cuz two. It's three. That is the human condition. It's three. That is the human condition. It's three. That is the human condition. The perpetual chase is the human The perpetual chase is the human The perpetual chase is the human condition. condition. condition. If you caught an animal or gathered some If you caught an animal or gathered some If you caught an animal or gathered some berries or protected your tribe once and berries or protected your tribe once and berries or protected your tribe once and were perfectly satisfied, you would be were perfectly satisfied, you would be were perfectly satisfied, you would be very dead very soon. First off, this is very dead very soon. First off, this is very dead very soon. First off, this is how you are wired. You are wired to how you are wired. You are wired to how you are wired. You are wired to always achieve more. If you're the sort always achieve more. If you're the sort always achieve more. If you're the sort of person who is a type A overachiever, of person who is a type A overachiever, of person who is a type A overachiever, like it sounds like you are, this is like it sounds like you are, this is like it sounds like you are, this is going to be even more. It's going to be going to be even more. It's going to be going to be even more. It's going to be tuned up because in the modern world, tuned up because in the modern world, tuned up because in the modern world, you can make objective stuff which used you can make objective stuff which used you can make objective stuff which used to be subjective. We have quantified to be subjective. We have quantified to be subjective. We have quantified status in terms of followers, status in terms of followers, status in terms of followers, qualifications. qualifications. qualifications. We have quantified resources. It's We have quantified resources. It's We have quantified resources. It's money. And you can even compare it with money. And you can even compare it with money. And you can even compare it with somebody in China or Taiwan or England. somebody in China or Taiwan or England. somebody in China or Taiwan or England. [sighs] [sighs] [sighs] The need to work harder with the The need to work harder with the The need to work harder with the deferment of it. To me, there's a little deferment of it. To me, there's a little deferment of it. To me, there's a little bit bit bit there's two things going on. One is there's two things going on. One is there's two things going on. One is you're dissatisfied with what you've you're dissatisfied with what you've you're dissatisfied with what you've achieved. And the second thing is you achieved. And the second thing is you achieved. And the second thing is you want to work harder and you're upset want to work harder and you're upset want to work harder and you're upset that you're not. I get the sense that that you're not. I get the sense that that you're not. I get the sense that these two things might be linked. these two things might be linked. these two things might be linked. If you allowed yourself to celebrate If you allowed yourself to celebrate If you allowed yourself to celebrate your wins a little bit more, I feel like your wins a little bit more, I feel like your wins a little bit more, I feel like you would be motivated to go and achieve you would be motivated to go and achieve you would be motivated to go and achieve the next thing, but at the moment you the next thing, but at the moment you the next thing, but at the moment you worked hard, achieved a thing, didn't worked hard, achieved a thing, didn't worked hard, achieved a thing, didn't feel satisfaction about it, and are now feel satisfaction about it, and are now feel satisfaction about it, and are now asking, why can't I make myself work asking, why can't I make myself work asking, why can't I make myself work harder to go and achieve a thing that is harder to go and achieve a thing that is harder to go and achieve a thing that is based on current evidence just going to based on current evidence just going to based on current evidence just going to make me miserable again or be make me miserable again or be make me miserable again or be unfulfilling? unfulfilling? unfulfilling? That doesn't seem to be the way. If you That doesn't seem to be the way. If you That doesn't seem to be the way. If you were training a dog, that wouldn't be were training a dog, that wouldn't be were training a dog, that wouldn't be the way that you trained the dog. It did the way that you trained the dog. It did the way that you trained the dog. It did something good. I didn't reward it. I'm something good. I didn't reward it. I'm something good. I didn't reward it. I'm trying to get it to do something else trying to get it to do something else trying to get it to do something else good. Why is it not listening to me? good. Why is it not listening to me? good. Why is it not listening to me? Well, Well, Well, you you didn't ever reward it about the you you didn't ever reward it about the you you didn't ever reward it about the thing that it did first. So, thing that it did first. So, thing that it did first. So, solutions for this, I can spew pathy solutions for this, I can spew pathy solutions for this, I can spew pathy [ __ ] homosypherisms at you all day. [ __ ] homosypherisms at you all day. [ __ ] homosypherisms at you all day. The first thing, celebrate micro wins, The first thing, celebrate micro wins, The first thing, celebrate micro wins, especially with friends. uh if you've especially with friends. uh if you've especially with friends. uh if you've qualified in what society would deem as qualified in what society would deem as qualified in what society would deem as a successful career, did you go out and a successful career, did you go out and a successful career, did you go out and celebrate? Did you make a big deal out celebrate? Did you make a big deal out celebrate? Did you make a big deal out of it? Did you encourage your friends to of it? Did you encourage your friends to of it? Did you encourage your friends to make a big deal out of it? So, it's Zach make a big deal out of it? So, it's Zach make a big deal out of it? So, it's Zach Telander's album launch party in a week Telander's album launch party in a week Telander's album launch party in a week and a half, and you should go and and a half, and you should go and and a half, and you should go and pre-save it on Spotify. It's [ __ ] pre-save it on Spotify. It's [ __ ] pre-save it on Spotify. It's [ __ ] awesome. It rips. Uh awesome. It rips. Uh awesome. It rips. Uh that is the day that I fly back from St. that is the day that I fly back from St. that is the day that I fly back from St. Louis. St. Louis. St. Louis. Um I'm Louis. St. Louis. St. Louis. Um I'm Louis. St. Louis. St. Louis. Um I'm going to throw an album launch party. going to throw an album launch party. going to throw an album launch party. Maybe it's going to be at my house. Maybe it's going to be at my house. Maybe it's going to be at my house. Maybe I'll put it at a bar somewhere. I Maybe I'll put it at a bar somewhere. I Maybe I'll put it at a bar somewhere. I want to do that for him. I mean, that's want to do that for him. I mean, that's want to do that for him. I mean, that's obviously it's album launch. It's huge. obviously it's album launch. It's huge. obviously it's album launch. It's huge. But you 23-year-old who recently But you 23-year-old who recently But you 23-year-old who recently qualified in a career that society would qualified in a career that society would qualified in a career that society would deem as successful like that. You should deem as successful like that. You should deem as successful like that. You should be celebrating that. And the same thing be celebrating that. And the same thing be celebrating that. And the same thing goes for you bought your first house, goes for you bought your first house, goes for you bought your first house, it's your birthday, you got a promotion, it's your birthday, you got a promotion, it's your birthday, you got a promotion, you made the sale, you didn't get f like you made the sale, you didn't get f like you made the sale, you didn't get f like just there is no, as far as I can see, just there is no, as far as I can see, just there is no, as far as I can see, there is no achievement too small to be there is no achievement too small to be there is no achievement too small to be worthy of celebrating. and the threshold worthy of celebrating. and the threshold worthy of celebrating. and the threshold that we have to hit, we believe that we that we have to hit, we believe that we that we have to hit, we believe that we have to hit in order to say that we're have to hit in order to say that we're have to hit in order to say that we're going to celebrate about something just going to celebrate about something just going to celebrate about something just keeps on being raised and I think that keeps on being raised and I think that keeps on being raised and I think that that's [ __ ] So the first thing that's [ __ ] So the first thing that's [ __ ] So the first thing celebrate micro wins. Second thing, ask celebrate micro wins. Second thing, ask celebrate micro wins. Second thing, ask yourself really what is the price that I yourself really what is the price that I yourself really what is the price that I would need to pay in order to get to the would need to pay in order to get to the would need to pay in order to get to the next level? Like really really ask next level? Like really really ask next level? Like really really ask yourself what would that look like and yourself what would that look like and yourself what would that look like and do you want it? Do you really really do you want it? Do you really really do you want it? Do you really really want it? A much more difficult thing to want it? A much more difficult thing to want it? A much more difficult thing to face might be well maybe you don't want face might be well maybe you don't want face might be well maybe you don't want it that much. You recognize the harder it that much. You recognize the harder it that much. You recognize the harder work and yet you constantly defer it. work and yet you constantly defer it. work and yet you constantly defer it. Maybe you don't want it that much and Maybe you don't want it that much and Maybe you don't want it that much and that's okay. You have worked really hard that's okay. You have worked really hard that's okay. You have worked really hard to get to the career and recently to get to the career and recently to get to the career and recently qualify. You've really sort of had to qualify. You've really sort of had to qualify. You've really sort of had to work uh aggressively. work uh aggressively. work uh aggressively. I don't think that it's you leaving I don't think that it's you leaving I don't think that it's you leaving things on the table. If you're able to things on the table. If you're able to things on the table. If you're able to work hard and you're only 23, something work hard and you're only 23, something work hard and you're only 23, something tells me that you've got a huge amount tells me that you've got a huge amount tells me that you've got a huge amount of runway to just keep on sending it. of runway to just keep on sending it. of runway to just keep on sending it. But maybe you're pointing in the wrong But maybe you're pointing in the wrong But maybe you're pointing in the wrong direction. And that's a really difficult direction. And that's a really difficult direction. And that's a really difficult question to What was one of the first question to What was one of the first question to What was one of the first questions today? questions today? questions today? somebody who doesn't feel like they're somebody who doesn't feel like they're somebody who doesn't feel like they're moving in the right direction. It feels moving in the right direction. It feels moving in the right direction. It feels like they did all of the things, got to like they did all of the things, got to like they did all of the things, got to the place, and now maybe they don't want the place, and now maybe they don't want the place, and now maybe they don't want it anymore. That is a really difficult it anymore. That is a really difficult it anymore. That is a really difficult position to be in. It is way easier position to be in. It is way easier position to be in. It is way easier actually to say, "I'm on the right path. actually to say, "I'm on the right path. actually to say, "I'm on the right path. I'm just too unmotivated." Than, oh I'm just too unmotivated." Than, oh I'm just too unmotivated." Than, oh [ __ ] I climbed up a ladder and it's [ __ ] I climbed up a ladder and it's [ __ ] I climbed up a ladder and it's against the wrong wall and I need to against the wrong wall and I need to against the wrong wall and I need to climb back down and start again. So ask climb back down and start again. So ask climb back down and start again. So ask yourself, do you really really want it? yourself, do you really really want it? yourself, do you really really want it? If you do really genuinely 100% want it, If you do really genuinely 100% want it, If you do really genuinely 100% want it, not just because of loss aversion or not just because of loss aversion or not just because of loss aversion or [ __ ] momentum or sunk cost fallacy. [ __ ] momentum or sunk cost fallacy. [ __ ] momentum or sunk cost fallacy. If you really really want it, what are If you really really want it, what are If you really really want it, what are the steps required to to get there? the steps required to to get there? the steps required to to get there? And then send it like go for it. That's And then send it like go for it. That's And then send it like go for it. That's when you can actively say that you're when you can actively say that you're when you can actively say that you're being a [ __ ] You're being a [ __ ] if being a [ __ ] You're being a [ __ ] if being a [ __ ] You're being a [ __ ] if you genuinely want something. You've got you genuinely want something. You've got you genuinely want something. You've got all of the capacity to go and get it and all of the capacity to go and get it and all of the capacity to go and get it and you're choosing not to because of a lack you're choosing not to because of a lack you're choosing not to because of a lack of resilience or laziness or whatever. of resilience or laziness or whatever. of resilience or laziness or whatever. But also, if you're not allowing But also, if you're not allowing But also, if you're not allowing yourself to celebrate the wins along the yourself to celebrate the wins along the yourself to celebrate the wins along the way, what the [ __ ] are you doing it for? way, what the [ __ ] are you doing it for? way, what the [ __ ] are you doing it for? Like, what's the point? How are you Like, what's the point? How are you Like, what's the point? How are you motivating yourself? So, I love your motivating yourself? So, I love your motivating yourself? So, I love your question. It's a problem that a lot of question. It's a problem that a lot of question. It's a problem that a lot of people deal with. I think you need to people deal with. I think you need to people deal with. I think you need to pat yourself on the back more. Make sure pat yourself on the back more. Make sure pat yourself on the back more. Make sure that you're pointing in the right that you're pointing in the right that you're pointing in the right direction, and if so, take a [ __ ] direction, and if so, take a [ __ ] direction, and if so, take a [ __ ] flamethrower to the candle and burn all flamethrower to the candle and burn all flamethrower to the candle and burn all of the ends of it. That's how I do it. of the ends of it. That's how I do it. of the ends of it. That's how I do it. Martin Lendez. Questioning things, Martin Lendez. Questioning things, Martin Lendez. Questioning things, awareness of self, and long-term awareness of self, and long-term awareness of self, and long-term conscious thinking seem rare. Why? conscious thinking seem rare. Why? conscious thinking seem rare. Why? Because they're hard. Uh Because they're hard. Uh Because they're hard. Uh because it's effable. because it's effable. because it's effable. Um because it is easier to hide in Um because it is easier to hide in Um because it is easier to hide in momentum and to outsource to the crowd, momentum and to outsource to the crowd, momentum and to outsource to the crowd, to rely on the paths that other people to rely on the paths that other people to rely on the paths that other people follow rather than having to determine follow rather than having to determine follow rather than having to determine your own. your own. your own. Awareness of self is terrifying because Awareness of self is terrifying because Awareness of self is terrifying because you regularly ask the question, "What if you regularly ask the question, "What if you regularly ask the question, "What if I'm doing it wrong?" That feels I'm doing it wrong?" That feels I'm doing it wrong?" That feels uncomfortable. It's much easier to uncomfortable. It's much easier to uncomfortable. It's much easier to continue down a path that is the wrong continue down a path that is the wrong continue down a path that is the wrong direction than it is to stop and ask direction than it is to stop and ask direction than it is to stop and ask about whether or not you're pointing in about whether or not you're pointing in about whether or not you're pointing in the wrong direction. the wrong direction. the wrong direction. I mean, that's this is it could be the I mean, that's this is it could be the I mean, that's this is it could be the same question as as I just answered. The way that I see it, if you're the The way that I see it, if you're the sort of person who asks the why sort of person who asks the why sort of person who asks the why question, you don't have a choice about whether or you don't have a choice about whether or not your self-awareness is going to be not your self-awareness is going to be not your self-awareness is going to be there. there. there. It is going to be there. You really only It is going to be there. You really only It is going to be there. You really only have the choice about whether or not have the choice about whether or not have the choice about whether or not you're going to become friends with it. you're going to become friends with it. you're going to become friends with it. And given that it is going to be there And given that it is going to be there And given that it is going to be there forever, you might as well become forever, you might as well become forever, you might as well become friends with it. that genuinely treat it friends with it. that genuinely treat it friends with it. that genuinely treat it like a welcome visitor in your house or like a welcome visitor in your house or like a welcome visitor in your house or like a couch that you can't get rid of like a couch that you can't get rid of like a couch that you can't get rid of or something. Okay, that is a fixture. or something. Okay, that is a fixture. or something. Okay, that is a fixture. The fact that I question, the fact I've The fact that I question, the fact I've The fact that I question, the fact I've got awareness of self, the fact that I got awareness of self, the fact that I got awareness of self, the fact that I have long-term conscious thinking, have long-term conscious thinking, have long-term conscious thinking, all right, that's a part of me. How can all right, that's a part of me. How can all right, that's a part of me. How can I use that to my advantage? And what are I use that to my advantage? And what are I use that to my advantage? And what are the areas in which it's no longer it the areas in which it's no longer it the areas in which it's no longer it should not be applicable? uh should not be applicable? uh should not be applicable? uh unlearning things is 100 times harder unlearning things is 100 times harder unlearning things is 100 times harder than learning them. And this is even than learning them. And this is even than learning them. And this is even deeper because it was never learned. deeper because it was never learned. deeper because it was never learned. Typically, it was never learned. It's Typically, it was never learned. It's Typically, it was never learned. It's part of your programming. So, it's like part of your programming. So, it's like part of your programming. So, it's like you opening up the terminal on your you opening up the terminal on your you opening up the terminal on your MacBook and trying to undo the source MacBook and trying to undo the source MacBook and trying to undo the source code. Like, I just I don't think that code. Like, I just I don't think that code. Like, I just I don't think that you can do it. So, you can do it. So, you can do it. So, it's rare because it's hard and it slows it's rare because it's hard and it slows it's rare because it's hard and it slows people down and it makes them seem less people down and it makes them seem less people down and it makes them seem less cohesive from the outside. I've got an cohesive from the outside. I've got an cohesive from the outside. I've got an episode with Charlie Hoopert coming up episode with Charlie Hoopert coming up episode with Charlie Hoopert coming up soon which is so good and all about soon which is so good and all about soon which is so good and all about this. So I'd advise listening to that. this. So I'd advise listening to that. this. So I'd advise listening to that. Taylor Marxer favorite Sleep Token song. Taylor Marxer favorite Sleep Token song. Taylor Marxer favorite Sleep Token song. Thank you for getting me into them. Thank you for getting me into them. Thank you for getting me into them. Dude, the number of people that come up Dude, the number of people that come up Dude, the number of people that come up to me and say I was the person that to me and say I was the person that to me and say I was the person that introed them to Sleep. I think I I've introed them to Sleep. I think I I've introed them to Sleep. I think I I've talked about them on the show. I've won talked about them on the show. I've won talked about them on the show. I've won the t-shirts. I think the first time I the t-shirts. I think the first time I the t-shirts. I think the first time I ever did it was I ever did it was I ever did it was I shared the album on the newsletter and shared the album on the newsletter and shared the album on the newsletter and I mean it it's a huge credit to the fact I mean it it's a huge credit to the fact I mean it it's a huge credit to the fact that they are so resonant and so good that they are so resonant and so good that they are so resonant and so good and obviously emotionally connect with and obviously emotionally connect with and obviously emotionally connect with so many people that so many people that so many people that a little suggestion creates a huge a little suggestion creates a huge a little suggestion creates a huge outsized impact and it becomes such a outsized impact and it becomes such a outsized impact and it becomes such a big part of people's lives that they're big part of people's lives that they're big part of people's lives that they're then able to They like you, Chris gave then able to They like you, Chris gave then able to They like you, Chris gave me this gift. I'm like me this gift. I'm like me this gift. I'm like made you aware of somebody who created a made you aware of somebody who created a made you aware of somebody who created a gift perhaps. But yeah, um favorite gift perhaps. But yeah, um favorite gift perhaps. But yeah, um favorite Sleep Token song. It changes. Missing Sleep Token song. It changes. Missing Sleep Token song. It changes. Missing limbs is one. Uklid is another. Uh I limbs is one. Uklid is another. Uh I limbs is one. Uklid is another. Uh I think that the final track of basically think that the final track of basically think that the final track of basically album one and album three. Uh those are album one and album three. Uh those are album one and album three. Uh those are two. Um, two. Um, two. Um, are you really okay? are you really okay? are you really okay? Caramel, although it's so earwormy that Caramel, although it's so earwormy that Caramel, although it's so earwormy that I can't get rid of it. And I I just I can't get rid of it. And I I just I can't get rid of it. And I I just didn't like the last 45 seconds of that didn't like the last 45 seconds of that didn't like the last 45 seconds of that song. I I I didn't I didn't like it. Um, song. I I I didn't I didn't like it. Um, song. I I I didn't I didn't like it. Um, those are three. Those are three. If I those are three. Those are three. If I those are three. Those are three. If I had to pick one today, Uklid, cuz Zach had to pick one today, Uklid, cuz Zach had to pick one today, Uklid, cuz Zach sent it to me earlier. In other news, sent it to me earlier. In other news, sent it to me earlier. In other news, this episode is brought to you by RP this episode is brought to you by RP this episode is brought to you by RP Strength. This training app has made a Strength. This training app has made a Strength. 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For people that are relatively new to the show, I that are relatively new to the show, I that are relatively new to the show, I did this did this did this stupidly opulent, very luxurious stupidly opulent, very luxurious stupidly opulent, very luxurious bourgeoa bourgeoa bourgeoa [ __ ] solo monk mode thing for a long [ __ ] solo monk mode thing for a long [ __ ] solo monk mode thing for a long time. It was 3 hours long. basically get time. It was 3 hours long. basically get time. It was 3 hours long. basically get up, walk, journal, breath work, up, walk, journal, breath work, up, walk, journal, breath work, meditate, meditate, meditate, read, yoga, read, yoga, read, yoga, prep food, prep food, prep food, train, although kind of out of morning train, although kind of out of morning train, although kind of out of morning routine then, but anyway, by the time routine then, but anyway, by the time routine then, but anyway, by the time that I got back from training, it had that I got back from training, it had that I got back from training, it had basically been 3 hours, and then I would basically been 3 hours, and then I would basically been 3 hours, and then I would begin my day. Um, begin my day. Um, begin my day. Um, is that is that is that ridiculously out of touch? Is that ridiculously out of touch? Is that ridiculously out of touch? Is that undoable for most people? Yes, as the undoable for most people? Yes, as the undoable for most people? Yes, as the internet's told me a million times. Did internet's told me a million times. Did internet's told me a million times. Did it detox me from it detox me from it detox me from a very very long time of never looking a very very long time of never looking a very very long time of never looking inwardly and never having quiet and inwardly and never having quiet and inwardly and never having quiet and never slowing down and never asking never slowing down and never asking never slowing down and never asking myself what I thought. Yes, both of myself what I thought. Yes, both of myself what I thought. Yes, both of those things are true. I had a lot of those things are true. I had a lot of those things are true. I had a lot of unearthing to do and I was in a very unearthing to do and I was in a very unearthing to do and I was in a very fortunate situation to do it. But I fortunate situation to do it. But I fortunate situation to do it. But I don't [ __ ] care that it somehow feels don't [ __ ] care that it somehow feels don't [ __ ] care that it somehow feels unfair that I had the opportunity to do unfair that I had the opportunity to do unfair that I had the opportunity to do that. What would would you rather me that. What would would you rather me that. What would would you rather me disregard the opportunity that I had to disregard the opportunity that I had to disregard the opportunity that I had to do it and go straight into scrolling or do it and go straight into scrolling or do it and go straight into scrolling or imagine that I had to raise a kid that I imagine that I had to raise a kid that I imagine that I had to raise a kid that I didn't have simply because it is such a didn't have simply because it is such a didn't have simply because it is such a it is such a stupid argument to say oh it is such a stupid argument to say oh it is such a stupid argument to say oh try and do that with I get it. I'm not try and do that with I get it. I'm not try and do that with I get it. I'm not saying that you should do it. I'm simply saying that you should do it. I'm simply saying that you should do it. I'm simply saying that that's what I did and that saying that that's what I did and that saying that that's what I did and that was my life situation. These are the was my life situation. These are the was my life situation. These are the same people who will say, "I had a a I same people who will say, "I had a a I same people who will say, "I had a a I got married at 25 and we've had got married at 25 and we've had got married at 25 and we've had beautiful kids and all of these things beautiful kids and all of these things beautiful kids and all of these things are amazing." I'm like, "Well, you lucky are amazing." I'm like, "Well, you lucky are amazing." I'm like, "Well, you lucky for you to say I was stuck doing a for you to say I was stuck doing a for you to say I was stuck doing a morning routine." morning routine." morning routine." People have chosen different life paths. People have chosen different life paths. People have chosen different life paths. There have been opportunities and There have been opportunities and There have been opportunities and challenges presented to each person that challenges presented to each person that challenges presented to each person that has done that. Some of those life paths has done that. Some of those life paths has done that. Some of those life paths have been imposed on us. Some of those have been imposed on us. Some of those have been imposed on us. Some of those life paths we have chosen ourselves. life paths we have chosen ourselves. life paths we have chosen ourselves. Morning routine. Right now, I'm getting Morning routine. Right now, I'm getting Morning routine. Right now, I'm getting stuck back into it. Get up at 6 6ish. stuck back into it. Get up at 6 6ish. stuck back into it. Get up at 6 6ish. Walk with my turbon nons glasses on. Uh Walk with my turbon nons glasses on. Uh Walk with my turbon nons glasses on. Uh because the sun's not rised yet. Uh come because the sun's not rised yet. Uh come because the sun's not rised yet. Uh come back back back breath work. HV resonance breathing. breath work. HV resonance breathing. breath work. HV resonance breathing. Health. These lamps are so [ __ ] good, Health. These lamps are so [ __ ] good, Health. These lamps are so [ __ ] good, dude. This is resonance breathing is dude. This is resonance breathing is dude. This is resonance breathing is going to be the next big thing. I I can going to be the next big thing. I I can going to be the next big thing. I I can already see it. It's super cool. It is already see it. It's super cool. It is already see it. It's super cool. It is basically hypertrophy training for your basically hypertrophy training for your basically hypertrophy training for your Vegas nerve. And I think it's awesome. Vegas nerve. And I think it's awesome. Vegas nerve. And I think it's awesome. So I do between 10 and 20 minutes of uh So I do between 10 and 20 minutes of uh So I do between 10 and 20 minutes of uh resonance breathing using the M. Then resonance breathing using the M. Then resonance breathing using the M. Then meditation insight timer unguided doing meditation insight timer unguided doing meditation insight timer unguided doing Shinzen Young's five ways to know Shinzen Young's five ways to know Shinzen Young's five ways to know yourself which is the only really the yourself which is the only really the yourself which is the only really the only unguided meditation that I know. I only unguided meditation that I know. I only unguided meditation that I know. I might try and get into Janna meditation might try and get into Janna meditation might try and get into Janna meditation soon. Uh Johnny Miller is threatening to soon. Uh Johnny Miller is threatening to soon. Uh Johnny Miller is threatening to teach me uh and to put me in touch with teach me uh and to put me in touch with teach me uh and to put me in touch with one of the best teachers. That would be one of the best teachers. That would be one of the best teachers. That would be really cool and I'll probably do an really cool and I'll probably do an really cool and I'll probably do an episode about it if I start doing it. If episode about it if I start doing it. If episode about it if I start doing it. If I do guided, I use Waking Up from Sam I do guided, I use Waking Up from Sam I do guided, I use Waking Up from Sam Harris. Then I'll read usually for about Harris. Then I'll read usually for about Harris. Then I'll read usually for about 10 minutes, and that's pretty much an 10 minutes, and that's pretty much an 10 minutes, and that's pretty much an hour. That brings me into land at around hour. That brings me into land at around hour. That brings me into land at around about an hour. about an hour. about an hour. Is that ridiculous and out of touch? Is that ridiculous and out of touch? Is that ridiculous and out of touch? Probably, but I don't care. Um, Probably, but I don't care. Um, Probably, but I don't care. Um, all of those things are are things I all of those things are are things I all of those things are are things I need to do at some point during the day. need to do at some point during the day. need to do at some point during the day. And stacking your morning routine with a And stacking your morning routine with a And stacking your morning routine with a ton of the the thing. This is this is ton of the the thing. This is this is ton of the the thing. This is this is where I disagree with Homozy's take that where I disagree with Homozy's take that where I disagree with Homozy's take that um spending lots of time to get ready to um spending lots of time to get ready to um spending lots of time to get ready to work is less efficient than just getting work is less efficient than just getting work is less efficient than just getting into work. I agree if your only goal is into work. I agree if your only goal is into work. I agree if your only goal is to get into work. But if you were to say to get into work. But if you were to say to get into work. But if you were to say I need to do breath work and meditate I need to do breath work and meditate I need to do breath work and meditate and go for a walk and read, there is no and go for a walk and read, there is no and go for a walk and read, there is no easier time to do any of those things easier time to do any of those things easier time to do any of those things than on a morning. One of the best ways than on a morning. One of the best ways than on a morning. One of the best ways to do habits is to stack them together. to do habits is to stack them together. to do habits is to stack them together. And as soon as you open up your phone, And as soon as you open up your phone, And as soon as you open up your phone, it makes everything harder. So if you it makes everything harder. So if you it makes everything harder. So if you can just give yourself an hour on a can just give yourself an hour on a can just give yourself an hour on a morning to do those or whatever it is morning to do those or whatever it is morning to do those or whatever it is that you want to do. But for me that is that you want to do. But for me that is that you want to do. But for me that is that is a supercharged day. that is a supercharged day. that is a supercharged day. I've got some movement in and some light I've got some movement in and some light I've got some movement in and some light in my eyes. I've done some breath work in my eyes. I've done some breath work in my eyes. I've done some breath work which is got nervous system dialed and which is got nervous system dialed and which is got nervous system dialed and also makes the meditation better. I've also makes the meditation better. I've also makes the meditation better. I've meditated and I've learned something. meditated and I've learned something. meditated and I've learned something. And then if I go straight from that into And then if I go straight from that into And then if I go straight from that into training and I'm training with somebody training and I'm training with somebody training and I'm training with somebody or with or with or with training partner or a coach or whatever, training partner or a coach or whatever, training partner or a coach or whatever, I try to teach them, explain to them one I try to teach them, explain to them one I try to teach them, explain to them one thing that I read that morning. Uh that thing that I read that morning. Uh that thing that I read that morning. Uh that just locks in so much of the learning as just locks in so much of the learning as just locks in so much of the learning as opposed to it being a bit more passive. opposed to it being a bit more passive. opposed to it being a bit more passive. Uh it means that I always read stuff Uh it means that I always read stuff Uh it means that I always read stuff that I'm really interested in cuz I'm that I'm really interested in cuz I'm that I'm really interested in cuz I'm excited to talk to somebody about it. Uh excited to talk to somebody about it. Uh excited to talk to somebody about it. Uh it [ __ ] rules, dude. Uh this morning it [ __ ] rules, dude. Uh this morning it [ __ ] rules, dude. Uh this morning routine I've got right now I love and um routine I've got right now I love and um routine I've got right now I love and um it's not that hard to stick to. So it's not that hard to stick to. So it's not that hard to stick to. So highly recommend it. [gasps] highly recommend it. [gasps] highly recommend it. [gasps] Niko Bronze, why do women leave you the Niko Bronze, why do women leave you the Niko Bronze, why do women leave you the moment you start loving them? [ __ ] me, moment you start loving them? [ __ ] me, moment you start loving them? [ __ ] me, that's dark. that's dark. that's dark. There is a certain category of people There is a certain category of people There is a certain category of people who only see value in something which is who only see value in something which is who only see value in something which is hard to get. It's a playground dynamic that I want It's a playground dynamic that I want what I can't have. And as soon as that what I can't have. And as soon as that what I can't have. And as soon as that thing feels like it's available to me, thing feels like it's available to me, thing feels like it's available to me, there's a strange ick there's a strange ick there's a strange ick that starts to build inside of people. That is a very That is a very undeveloped undeveloped undeveloped approach to understanding the value of approach to understanding the value of approach to understanding the value of humans humans humans and it's a shame and it's not universal. and it's a shame and it's not universal. and it's a shame and it's not universal. So some women will leave when they feel So some women will leave when they feel So some women will leave when they feel like you're no longer a challenge and like you're no longer a challenge and like you're no longer a challenge and some men will leave when they feel like some men will leave when they feel like some men will leave when they feel like you're no longer a challenge. They're not the partners that you want They're not the partners that you want in your life. I know it hurts and I know in your life. I know it hurts and I know in your life. I know it hurts and I know that it sucks and it's a horrible trick that it sucks and it's a horrible trick that it sucks and it's a horrible trick of human nature and our psychology of human nature and our psychology of human nature and our psychology that things that are hard to get are that things that are hard to get are that things that are hard to get are seen as more valuable. But that is not the person that you want But that is not the person that you want to be in a relationship with at all to be in a relationship with at all to be in a relationship with at all because that dynamic was going to come because that dynamic was going to come because that dynamic was going to come out out out now or when you got engaged or when you now or when you got engaged or when you now or when you got engaged or when you got a dog or when you got married or got a dog or when you got married or got a dog or when you got married or when you had your first kid or when you when you had your first kid or when you when you had your first kid or when you lost your job or when they lost theirs lost your job or when they lost theirs lost your job or when they lost theirs or when you got a promotion or when you got a promotion or when you got a promotion or when you got ill. or when you got ill. or when you got ill. You've been saved. you've been saved by You've been saved. you've been saved by You've been saved. you've been saved by somebody who wasn't sufficiently somebody who wasn't sufficiently somebody who wasn't sufficiently emotionally developed to be able to hold emotionally developed to be able to hold emotionally developed to be able to hold you switching off when the challenge was no switching off when the challenge was no longer that longer that longer that uh uh uh it's really tough and uh I whoever has it's really tough and uh I whoever has it's really tough and uh I whoever has felt this dynamic and it it's so it's so felt this dynamic and it it's so it's so felt this dynamic and it it's so it's so constant right this constant right this constant right this I want it when it's difficult I want it when it's difficult I want it when it's difficult I I think part of the part of the underlying assumption here part of the underlying assumption here is that that person doesn't feel like is that that person doesn't feel like is that that person doesn't feel like they're particularly worthy. they're particularly worthy. they're particularly worthy. If you had high self-esteem, I don't think that you would be turned I don't think that you would be turned off by somebody liking you. off by somebody liking you. off by somebody liking you. I think what is being revealed there is I think what is being revealed there is I think what is being revealed there is not somebody's judgment about you, not somebody's judgment about you, not somebody's judgment about you, somebody's judgment about themselves. somebody's judgment about themselves. somebody's judgment about themselves. That That That if somebody doesn't see in themselves if somebody doesn't see in themselves if somebody doesn't see in themselves a human that is lovable a human that is lovable a human that is lovable when they are loved, when they are loved, when they are loved, they don't ask. they don't ask. they don't ask. They don't think this is amazing. They They don't think this is amazing. They They don't think this is amazing. They ask, "What is wrong with you that you ask, "What is wrong with you that you ask, "What is wrong with you that you like me in a way that I don't like like me in a way that I don't like like me in a way that I don't like myself?" I'm sorry, but there are an myself?" I'm sorry, but there are an myself?" I'm sorry, but there are an endless number of women out there who endless number of women out there who endless number of women out there who are not going to behave like this. are not going to behave like this. are not going to behave like this. [gasps] [gasps] [gasps] And they're probably in the comments now And they're probably in the comments now And they're probably in the comments now asking who you are. And and asking who you are. And and asking who you are. And and don't mean to victim blame, but why do don't mean to victim blame, but why do don't mean to victim blame, but why do women leave you? As in more than one, as women leave you? As in more than one, as women leave you? As in more than one, as in multiple? As in this has happened to in multiple? As in this has happened to in multiple? As in this has happened to you quite a bit. you are choosing these you quite a bit. you are choosing these you quite a bit. you are choosing these women. So there is something about your women. So there is something about your women. So there is something about your selection criteria that is causing this selection criteria that is causing this selection criteria that is causing this to happen. So to happen. So to happen. So have an ask of what it is that you're have an ask of what it is that you're have an ask of what it is that you're looking for [gasps] and uh why that looking for [gasps] and uh why that looking for [gasps] and uh why that keeps being keeps being keeps being something that you're selecting for something that you're selecting for something that you're selecting for in a hidden manner. Even if you don't in a hidden manner. Even if you don't in a hidden manner. Even if you don't want it and you don't know that it's want it and you don't know that it's want it and you don't know that it's going to happen, you are choosing these going to happen, you are choosing these going to happen, you are choosing these women. So women. So women. So scrutinize appropriately next time. scrutinize appropriately next time. scrutinize appropriately next time. [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] Daniel Daniel K real estate, help us Daniel Daniel K real estate, help us Daniel Daniel K real estate, help us find a cure for ME/CFS. Dude, [ __ ] I find a cure for ME/CFS. Dude, [ __ ] I find a cure for ME/CFS. Dude, [ __ ] I I would love that. Um, I would love that. Um, I would love that. Um, chronic fatigue is so ruthless, man. I chronic fatigue is so ruthless, man. I chronic fatigue is so ruthless, man. I got a message off got a message off got a message off Physics Girl, a Amy, Physics Girl, a Amy, Physics Girl, a Amy, someone somebody physics girl and I someone somebody physics girl and I someone somebody physics girl and I watched her video and her video was the watched her video and her video was the watched her video and her video was the uh final straw justification for me uh final straw justification for me uh final straw justification for me releasing my first health vlog and she releasing my first health vlog and she releasing my first health vlog and she DM'd me this week and basically said DM'd me this week and basically said DM'd me this week and basically said that she'd seen she'd seen it was like that she'd seen she'd seen it was like that she'd seen she'd seen it was like the human centipede but it was just two the human centipede but it was just two the human centipede but it was just two people like this. uh she'd seen mine and people like this. uh she'd seen mine and people like this. uh she'd seen mine and she was she felt less alone and I'd seen she was she felt less alone and I'd seen she was she felt less alone and I'd seen hers and that was the reason that I did hers and that was the reason that I did hers and that was the reason that I did it. So it was cool. Um so much more it. So it was cool. Um so much more it. So it was cool. Um so much more research needs to be done into this. It research needs to be done into this. It research needs to be done into this. It is [ __ ] insane that there are people is [ __ ] insane that there are people is [ __ ] insane that there are people who don't even know that they're who don't even know that they're who don't even know that they're struggling with chronic fatigue and it's struggling with chronic fatigue and it's struggling with chronic fatigue and it's just a oh this is part of getting older. just a oh this is part of getting older. just a oh this is part of getting older. This is just the byproduct of becoming a This is just the byproduct of becoming a This is just the byproduct of becoming a it is [ __ ] not. Dude, yes, aging is a it is [ __ ] not. Dude, yes, aging is a it is [ __ ] not. Dude, yes, aging is a real thing. Yes, you locally reverse real thing. Yes, you locally reverse real thing. Yes, you locally reverse entropy. Yes, the universe is trying to entropy. Yes, the universe is trying to entropy. Yes, the universe is trying to crush you into tiny little crush you into tiny little crush you into tiny little smithetheriness. [ __ ] you. Nobody's smithetheriness. [ __ ] you. Nobody's smithetheriness. [ __ ] you. Nobody's stopping. This is not the way that stopping. This is not the way that stopping. This is not the way that you're supposed to feel. And it is a you're supposed to feel. And it is a you're supposed to feel. And it is a silent epidemic is absolutely wrecking silent epidemic is absolutely wrecking silent epidemic is absolutely wrecking people. I I I people. I I I people. I I I feel feel feel because I'm still in it. because I'm still in it. because I'm still in it. It feels weird for me to start trying to It feels weird for me to start trying to It feels weird for me to start trying to do some sort of do some sort of do some sort of power campaigning thing for it. I can power campaigning thing for it. I can power campaigning thing for it. I can see at some point in future me really see at some point in future me really see at some point in future me really getting deep into probably to start mold getting deep into probably to start mold getting deep into probably to start mold uh making mold testing more available, uh making mold testing more available, uh making mold testing more available, more convenient, making the protocols more convenient, making the protocols more convenient, making the protocols more widely known. Um because I think a more widely known. Um because I think a more widely known. Um because I think a lot of people are dealing with um toxic lot of people are dealing with um toxic lot of people are dealing with um toxic mold exposure that don't know about it. mold exposure that don't know about it. mold exposure that don't know about it. Maybe as many if not more that are Maybe as many if not more that are Maybe as many if not more that are dealing with chronic fatigue. But I got dealing with chronic fatigue. But I got dealing with chronic fatigue. But I got a like the FBI's most wanted list. I've a like the FBI's most wanted list. I've a like the FBI's most wanted list. I've got a hit list of things once I get out got a hit list of things once I get out got a hit list of things once I get out the other side of this that I really the other side of this that I really the other side of this that I really want to try and take the head off and uh want to try and take the head off and uh want to try and take the head off and uh ME/CFS is on that. So, I'll try. Dakuma ME/CFS is on that. So, I'll try. Dakuma ME/CFS is on that. So, I'll try. Dakuma 7255. How and why do you have such big 7255. How and why do you have such big 7255. How and why do you have such big forearms like Popeye? I do have I do have I do have slightly chunky forearms. Uh I I do have slightly chunky forearms. Uh I I do have slightly chunky forearms. Uh I don't know. It's genetic. I've trained don't know. It's genetic. I've trained don't know. It's genetic. I've trained them a total of twice directly. Both them a total of twice directly. Both them a total of twice directly. Both times were captured on video and both times were captured on video and both times were captured on video and both times with Mike Israel last year. times with Mike Israel last year. times with Mike Israel last year. I I Everybody's got one body part that I I Everybody's got one body part that I I Everybody's got one body part that is just freakish and grows no matter is just freakish and grows no matter is just freakish and grows no matter what you do to it. Some people's what you do to it. Some people's what you do to it. Some people's shoulders, some people's glutes, some shoulders, some people's glutes, some shoulders, some people's glutes, some people's calves. For me, it's forearms. people's calves. For me, it's forearms. people's calves. For me, it's forearms. And uh it's good except for when you And uh it's good except for when you And uh it's good except for when you need to wear a suit or a shirt. Then need to wear a suit or a shirt. Then need to wear a suit or a shirt. Then it's a nightmare. it's a nightmare. it's a nightmare. Navidid 1759. Being the introspective Navidid 1759. Being the introspective Navidid 1759. Being the introspective person that you are, was it hard to form person that you are, was it hard to form person that you are, was it hard to form intellectually engaging friendships in intellectually engaging friendships in intellectually engaging friendships in the transitional phases of your life the transitional phases of your life the transitional phases of your life when old friends are not immediately when old friends are not immediately when old friends are not immediately available anymore? Thanks for being the available anymore? Thanks for being the available anymore? Thanks for being the beacon of authenticity in the age of beacon of authenticity in the age of beacon of authenticity in the age of mediocrity. Your cognitive flexibility mediocrity. Your cognitive flexibility mediocrity. Your cognitive flexibility is both an object of my admiration and is both an object of my admiration and is both an object of my admiration and an ideal I aim for. Respect, sir. Thank an ideal I aim for. Respect, sir. Thank an ideal I aim for. Respect, sir. Thank you, Navidid. you, Navidid. you, Navidid. It's hard to form intellectually It's hard to form intellectually It's hard to form intellectually engaging friendships. Full stop. because engaging friendships. Full stop. because engaging friendships. Full stop. because of that question that somebody asked of that question that somebody asked of that question that somebody asked earlier on which is it's why is it rare earlier on which is it's why is it rare earlier on which is it's why is it rare for people to be thoughtful and have for people to be thoughtful and have for people to be thoughtful and have long-term thinking reflective um it is long-term thinking reflective um it is long-term thinking reflective um it is just hard full stop but it's just hard full stop but it's just hard full stop but it's particularly hard in transitional phases particularly hard in transitional phases particularly hard in transitional phases because of the lonely chapter you're because of the lonely chapter you're because of the lonely chapter you're different you're moving on you can't different you're moving on you can't different you're moving on you can't resonate with your old set of friends resonate with your old set of friends resonate with your old set of friends but you're not yet in the place where but you're not yet in the place where but you're not yet in the place where you are so developed that you've built you are so developed that you've built you are so developed that you've built your new set of friends and during these your new set of friends and during these your new set of friends and during these transitional phases you're very in transitional phases you're very in transitional phases you're very in congruent kind of obsessed with this congruent kind of obsessed with this congruent kind of obsessed with this idea of congruence at the moment. So idea of congruence at the moment. So idea of congruence at the moment. So thoughts and actions uh and beliefs all thoughts and actions uh and beliefs all thoughts and actions uh and beliefs all aligning aligning aligning uh you know where you're going, you know uh you know where you're going, you know uh you know where you're going, you know how to do the things that are required how to do the things that are required how to do the things that are required to get there and you're not doubting to get there and you're not doubting to get there and you're not doubting yourself in the process. yourself in the process. yourself in the process. When you're going through a transitional When you're going through a transitional When you're going through a transitional period, all that you are is doubt. period, all that you are is doubt. period, all that you are is doubt. You've left behind the things that used You've left behind the things that used You've left behind the things that used to give you a sense of satisfaction and to give you a sense of satisfaction and to give you a sense of satisfaction and reassurance. You haven't yet got to the reassurance. You haven't yet got to the reassurance. You haven't yet got to the stage where you know what the new ones stage where you know what the new ones stage where you know what the new ones are. You don't have the skills of the are. You don't have the skills of the are. You don't have the skills of the new ones and the skills of the old life new ones and the skills of the old life new ones and the skills of the old life are uh left behind. They're useless and are uh left behind. They're useless and are uh left behind. They're useless and you're just asking you're swimming in you're just asking you're swimming in you're just asking you're swimming in this millu of uncertainty and it this millu of uncertainty and it this millu of uncertainty and it tarnishes the whole process and it's not tarnishes the whole process and it's not tarnishes the whole process and it's not [ __ ] fun at all. Like this is the [ __ ] fun at all. Like this is the [ __ ] fun at all. Like this is the journey of personal growth. The journey journey of personal growth. The journey journey of personal growth. The journey of personal growth is not of personal growth is not of personal growth is not at least 50% of it is asking what the at least 50% of it is asking what the at least 50% of it is asking what the [ __ ] am I doing and then the other 50% [ __ ] am I doing and then the other 50% [ __ ] am I doing and then the other 50% of it is doing the [ __ ] that you're of it is doing the [ __ ] that you're of it is doing the [ __ ] that you're doing. [laughter] doing. [laughter] doing. [laughter] Uh Uh Uh especially if you move quickly. So I'm especially if you move quickly. So I'm especially if you move quickly. So I'm in another transitional phase at the in another transitional phase at the in another transitional phase at the moment. Um I am going from passive to moment. Um I am going from passive to moment. Um I am going from passive to active which was I don't know 26 to 32. active which was I don't know 26 to 32. active which was I don't know 26 to 32. That was that period 27 to 32 was going That was that period 27 to 32 was going That was that period 27 to 32 was going from passive to active. Asking myself from passive to active. Asking myself from passive to active. Asking myself questions, who do I want to be? What questions, who do I want to be? What questions, who do I want to be? What does that consist of? Learning agency, does that consist of? Learning agency, does that consist of? Learning agency, taking control of myself, taking control of myself, taking control of myself, grabbing life by the nuts and and and grabbing life by the nuts and and and grabbing life by the nuts and and and doing the thing. And then that was good doing the thing. And then that was good doing the thing. And then that was good up until about 18 months ago. And then I up until about 18 months ago. And then I up until about 18 months ago. And then I tried to I am currently still trying to tried to I am currently still trying to tried to I am currently still trying to make the transition passive to active make the transition passive to active make the transition passive to active and now active to emotional. And that and now active to emotional. And that and now active to emotional. And that from the outside, that objectively from the outside, that objectively from the outside, that objectively should be evolution. But from the should be evolution. But from the should be evolution. But from the outside and from the inside, it feels outside and from the inside, it feels outside and from the inside, it feels like devolution. It feels like going like devolution. It feels like going like devolution. It feels like going back to where I was. Um because all of back to where I was. Um because all of back to where I was. Um because all of the [ __ ] your feelings, bro, just work the [ __ ] your feelings, bro, just work the [ __ ] your feelings, bro, just work harder, harder, harder, use more caffeine, sleep less, use more caffeine, sleep less, use more caffeine, sleep less, forget how you feel. forget how you feel. forget how you feel. Disconnect from what is happening below Disconnect from what is happening below Disconnect from what is happening below the neck. don't care about whether the the neck. don't care about whether the the neck. don't care about whether the success was or was not worth it. You're success was or was not worth it. You're success was or was not worth it. You're just stay on mission. Um rationality, just stay on mission. Um rationality, just stay on mission. Um rationality, ruthless, single-minded focus, largely ruthless, single-minded focus, largely ruthless, single-minded focus, largely solo. All of those lessons that take you solo. All of those lessons that take you solo. All of those lessons that take you from passive to active are no longer from passive to active are no longer from passive to active are no longer usable when you go from active to usable when you go from active to usable when you go from active to emotional. And emotional. And emotional. And it's way harder because you're trying to it's way harder because you're trying to it's way harder because you're trying to heal all of the patterns that you only heal all of the patterns that you only heal all of the patterns that you only just started to rely on. and the world just started to rely on. and the world just started to rely on. and the world gave you all of this [ __ ] admiration gave you all of this [ __ ] admiration gave you all of this [ __ ] admiration for doing it. And from the outside, what for doing it. And from the outside, what for doing it. And from the outside, what it looks like is someone who doesn't it looks like is someone who doesn't it looks like is someone who doesn't know what the [ __ ] they're doing. And know what the [ __ ] they're doing. And know what the [ __ ] they're doing. And who wants to be around that person? who wants to be around that person? who wants to be around that person? So, no matter whether you're going from So, no matter whether you're going from So, no matter whether you're going from uh like victim to agent or agent to uh like victim to agent or agent to uh like victim to agent or agent to healer and passive to active, active to healer and passive to active, active to healer and passive to active, active to emotion, emotion, emotion, uh at each stage, your congruence is out uh at each stage, your congruence is out uh at each stage, your congruence is out of the window. You don't have the same of the window. You don't have the same of the window. You don't have the same tools that you used to. You don't have tools that you used to. You don't have tools that you used to. You don't have the support group that you did. Yes, it the support group that you did. Yes, it the support group that you did. Yes, it was hard. This is a long answer to a was hard. This is a long answer to a was hard. This is a long answer to a relatively short question. Yes, it was relatively short question. Yes, it was relatively short question. Yes, it was hard to to form intellectually engaging hard to to form intellectually engaging hard to to form intellectually engaging friendships friendships friendships because you don't necessarily know what because you don't necessarily know what because you don't necessarily know what you like. What you want is other people you like. What you want is other people you like. What you want is other people who are also in this transitional who are also in this transitional who are also in this transitional period. They're trying to cross the period. They're trying to cross the period. They're trying to cross the river from one bank to another at the river from one bank to another at the river from one bank to another at the same time. I'm fortunate that I I just same time. I'm fortunate that I I just same time. I'm fortunate that I I just looked out George, Zach, Yousef, and looked out George, Zach, Yousef, and looked out George, Zach, Yousef, and Johnny from the UK. A lot of the people, Johnny from the UK. A lot of the people, Johnny from the UK. A lot of the people, Luke, James, a lot of the people are Luke, James, a lot of the people are Luke, James, a lot of the people are pretty much at the same trajectory that pretty much at the same trajectory that pretty much at the same trajectory that I am and facing the same challenges at I am and facing the same challenges at I am and facing the same challenges at the same speed. Charlie Hoopert's the same speed. Charlie Hoopert's the same speed. Charlie Hoopert's another one of those. Dr. K is another another one of those. Dr. K is another another one of those. Dr. K is another one. These people keep appearing and one. These people keep appearing and one. These people keep appearing and then there's people that are further then there's people that are further then there's people that are further ahead. Joe Hudson, Dr. K probably as ahead. Joe Hudson, Dr. K probably as ahead. Joe Hudson, Dr. K probably as well. Uh, well. Uh, well. Uh, it's tough, dude. Just stay the course. it's tough, dude. Just stay the course. it's tough, dude. Just stay the course. I I'm aware that the Rocky cut scene was I I'm aware that the Rocky cut scene was I I'm aware that the Rocky cut scene was 3 minutes in the movie and it's been 4 3 minutes in the movie and it's been 4 3 minutes in the movie and it's been 4 and a half years for you, but again, the and a half years for you, but again, the and a half years for you, but again, the choice is between giving up and staying choice is between giving up and staying choice is between giving up and staying where you are or keeping going and maybe where you are or keeping going and maybe where you are or keeping going and maybe getting to the next level. getting to the next level. getting to the next level. Eric Gillow, what part of your life Eric Gillow, what part of your life Eric Gillow, what part of your life became worse as you became more became worse as you became more became worse as you became more optimized? And how do you decide when optimized? And how do you decide when optimized? And how do you decide when optimization has gone too far? What part optimization has gone too far? What part optimization has gone too far? What part of your life became worse as you became of your life became worse as you became of your life became worse as you became more optimized? more optimized? more optimized? Sleep Sleep Sleep is a good example of this. Uh there was is a good example of this. Uh there was is a good example of this. Uh there was a wonderful study done where two groups a wonderful study done where two groups a wonderful study done where two groups were brought into a sleep lab. One group were brought into a sleep lab. One group were brought into a sleep lab. One group was paid based on how quickly they could was paid based on how quickly they could was paid based on how quickly they could fall asleep and the other group was not. fall asleep and the other group was not. fall asleep and the other group was not. Guess which group fell asleep faster? Guess which group fell asleep faster? Guess which group fell asleep faster? The group which wasn't paid because The group which wasn't paid because The group which wasn't paid because sleep is one of these weird things in sleep is one of these weird things in sleep is one of these weird things in life like being ill sometimes and having life like being ill sometimes and having life like being ill sometimes and having a limited capacity where trying harder a limited capacity where trying harder a limited capacity where trying harder makes it work. There are very few makes it work. There are very few makes it work. There are very few situations in life where trying harder situations in life where trying harder situations in life where trying harder makes something worse. But trying harder makes something worse. But trying harder makes something worse. But trying harder makes going to sleep worse. If you can't makes going to sleep worse. If you can't makes going to sleep worse. If you can't force yourself to sleep, that is the force yourself to sleep, that is the force yourself to sleep, that is the antithesis of what you need to do, which antithesis of what you need to do, which antithesis of what you need to do, which is relax. And this is how people get is relax. And this is how people get is relax. And this is how people get into insomnia spirals. into insomnia spirals. into insomnia spirals. They're scared of the pillow when they They're scared of the pillow when they They're scared of the pillow when they get into bed. They know that they're not get into bed. They know that they're not get into bed. They know that they're not going to fall asleep. Here it is. It's going to fall asleep. Here it is. It's going to fall asleep. Here it is. It's happening again. I'm not going to I'm happening again. I'm not going to I'm happening again. I'm not going to I'm going to be so tired tomorrow. You going to be so tired tomorrow. You going to be so tired tomorrow. You should fall asleep. Why can't I fall should fall asleep. Why can't I fall should fall asleep. Why can't I fall asleep? I'm going to do the thing. Also, asleep? I'm going to do the thing. Also, asleep? I'm going to do the thing. Also, the stress of trying to be perfect the stress of trying to be perfect the stress of trying to be perfect probably will kill you more quickly than probably will kill you more quickly than probably will kill you more quickly than your imperfections. There is a limit to your imperfections. There is a limit to your imperfections. There is a limit to this. The stress of trying to perfect this. The stress of trying to perfect this. The stress of trying to perfect your non- cocaine addiction, your non- cocaine addiction, your non- cocaine addiction, uh, probably good idea. uh, probably good idea. uh, probably good idea. Trying to perfect your reduction of your Trying to perfect your reduction of your Trying to perfect your reduction of your gambling habit, also probably a good gambling habit, also probably a good gambling habit, also probably a good idea. Um, but most people are going from idea. Um, but most people are going from idea. Um, but most people are going from zero to one, not minus one to zero. zero to one, not minus one to zero. zero to one, not minus one to zero. uh the overoptimizers are overoptimizing uh the overoptimizers are overoptimizing uh the overoptimizers are overoptimizing not just optimizing. not just optimizing. not just optimizing. Sleep is one of them. Sleep is one of them. Sleep is one of them. [sighs] [sighs] [sighs] training is actually another one of them training is actually another one of them training is actually another one of them that what you want and I think the the that what you want and I think the the that what you want and I think the the broad rule here is that optimization broad rule here is that optimization broad rule here is that optimization often removes enjoyment often removes enjoyment often removes enjoyment because you start to do what is because you start to do what is because you start to do what is prescriptively prescriptively prescriptively uh preferred as opposed to what the vibe uh preferred as opposed to what the vibe uh preferred as opposed to what the vibe tells you is most enjoyable. But tells you is most enjoyable. But tells you is most enjoyable. But ultimately the biggest determinant of ultimately the biggest determinant of ultimately the biggest determinant of any optimization protocol is compliance. any optimization protocol is compliance. any optimization protocol is compliance. And compliance is usually determined by And compliance is usually determined by And compliance is usually determined by how you feel about it. So what you how you feel about it. So what you how you feel about it. So what you should do is get close to rightish should do is get close to rightish should do is get close to rightish and then exclusively optimize for and then exclusively optimize for and then exclusively optimize for enjoyment. Cuz first off, it's going to enjoyment. Cuz first off, it's going to enjoyment. Cuz first off, it's going to be more enjoyable, which is the whole be more enjoyable, which is the whole be more enjoyable, which is the whole [ __ ] reason that you're here on the [ __ ] reason that you're here on the [ __ ] reason that you're here on the planet. But secondly, it means that planet. But secondly, it means that planet. But secondly, it means that you're going to be more likely to stick you're going to be more likely to stick you're going to be more likely to stick to it. So, you're going to do the thing to it. So, you're going to do the thing to it. So, you're going to do the thing more, which will gain you more results more, which will gain you more results more, which will gain you more results than trying to squeeze out an extra few than trying to squeeze out an extra few than trying to squeeze out an extra few percent or maybe even many percents per percent or maybe even many percents per percent or maybe even many percents per iteration, iteration, iteration, but way reduce down your compliance. So, but way reduce down your compliance. So, but way reduce down your compliance. So, that would be a good way to decide when that would be a good way to decide when that would be a good way to decide when optimization has gone too far, when optimization has gone too far, when optimization has gone too far, when stuff stops being fun, when it stops stuff stops being fun, when it stops stuff stops being fun, when it stops being enjoyable. Not everything is going being enjoyable. Not everything is going being enjoyable. Not everything is going to be enjoyable. But let's say that uh to be enjoyable. But let's say that uh to be enjoyable. But let's say that uh going to the gym used to be great going to the gym used to be great going to the gym used to be great because you trained on an evening time because you trained on an evening time because you trained on an evening time and you had a great training partner and and you had a great training partner and and you had a great training partner and everything was awesome. But then you everything was awesome. But then you everything was awesome. But then you learned that training on a morning learned that training on a morning learned that training on a morning actually you've got 5% more motor units actually you've got 5% more motor units actually you've got 5% more motor units recruitable and uh it means that your recruitable and uh it means that your recruitable and uh it means that your caffeine intake and your beta alanine caffeine intake and your beta alanine caffeine intake and your beta alanine and you can get the post-workout window and you can get the post-workout window and you can get the post-workout window for your nutrition dialed in. So you for your nutrition dialed in. So you for your nutrition dialed in. So you stop training with your friend, you stop training with your friend, you stop training with your friend, you start training on a morning. Have you start training on a morning. Have you start training on a morning. Have you you have optimized the iteration, but you have optimized the iteration, but you have optimized the iteration, but you have completely reduced down the you have completely reduced down the you have completely reduced down the likelihood of you sticking with it over likelihood of you sticking with it over likelihood of you sticking with it over time. Are you going to use that will you time. Are you going to use that will you time. Are you going to use that will you have to tap into willpower or it's just have to tap into willpower or it's just have to tap into willpower or it's just [ __ ] less enjoyable. So, um, sleep [ __ ] less enjoyable. So, um, sleep [ __ ] less enjoyable. So, um, sleep and training, two areas that you can and training, two areas that you can and training, two areas that you can easily overoptimize. I'm sure that easily overoptimize. I'm sure that easily overoptimize. I'm sure that there's tons more. And, uh, deciding there's tons more. And, uh, deciding there's tons more. And, uh, deciding when optimization's gone too far, but when optimization's gone too far, but when optimization's gone too far, but there's probably a way better answer there's probably a way better answer there's probably a way better answer than this, but I get the sense that when than this, but I get the sense that when than this, but I get the sense that when stuff stops being fun, that's a that's a stuff stops being fun, that's a that's a stuff stops being fun, that's a that's a good place to begin. good place to begin. good place to begin. The fun bin. Hey Chris, I've been The fun bin. Hey Chris, I've been The fun bin. Hey Chris, I've been following you for years. Thank you for following you for years. Thank you for following you for years. Thank you for leading by example in turning pro and leading by example in turning pro and leading by example in turning pro and showing up so consistently. Thank you. showing up so consistently. Thank you. showing up so consistently. Thank you. I'm 41, going through yet another I'm 41, going through yet another I'm 41, going through yet another breakup and struggle to feel I am enough breakup and struggle to feel I am enough breakup and struggle to feel I am enough financially. I'm fit, funny in my own financially. I'm fit, funny in my own financially. I'm fit, funny in my own way, a little neurotic, attentive, way, a little neurotic, attentive, way, a little neurotic, attentive, attractive, and caring, but I fear my attractive, and caring, but I fear my attractive, and caring, but I fear my lack of industriousness is pushing women lack of industriousness is pushing women lack of industriousness is pushing women away after their initial swooning away after their initial swooning away after their initial swooning period. Do I need to be exceptionally period. Do I need to be exceptionally period. Do I need to be exceptionally financially successful to keep a financially successful to keep a financially successful to keep a girlfriend? That's a good question. Um, girlfriend? That's a good question. Um, girlfriend? That's a good question. Um, I think lots of I think lots of I think lots of guys will often fall into one of two guys will often fall into one of two guys will often fall into one of two categories. The sort of objectively categories. The sort of objectively categories. The sort of objectively successful but subjectively don't seem successful but subjectively don't seem successful but subjectively don't seem to have what is needed for women to feel to have what is needed for women to feel to have what is needed for women to feel good about them. But you're in a good about them. But you're in a good about them. But you're in a different camp. You're in the camp that different camp. You're in the camp that different camp. You're in the camp that seems to be subjectively pretty dialed, seems to be subjectively pretty dialed, seems to be subjectively pretty dialed, but objectively but objectively but objectively uh at least in one area, the resource uh at least in one area, the resource uh at least in one area, the resource provisioning uh struggling. Um, look, provisioning uh struggling. Um, look, provisioning uh struggling. Um, look, for each of these different buckets, the for each of these different buckets, the for each of these different buckets, the more of them that you can fill, the more of them that you can fill, the more of them that you can fill, the better. better. better. You do not need to be exceptionally You do not need to be exceptionally You do not need to be exceptionally financially successful to keep a financially successful to keep a financially successful to keep a girlfriend. girlfriend. girlfriend. But if you were financially successful, But if you were financially successful, But if you were financially successful, your potential market, your TAM, would your potential market, your TAM, would your potential market, your TAM, would probably open up a little more. Now, do probably open up a little more. Now, do probably open up a little more. Now, do you want a girlfriend who is very you want a girlfriend who is very you want a girlfriend who is very sensitive to your financial sensitive to your financial sensitive to your financial successfulness? successfulness? successfulness? If not, this is actually in a weird way If not, this is actually in a weird way If not, this is actually in a weird way going to be a good selection criteria going to be a good selection criteria going to be a good selection criteria because you're going to choose a girl because you're going to choose a girl because you're going to choose a girl who is very very unmaterialistic because who is very very unmaterialistic because who is very very unmaterialistic because you ain't got no materials together. you ain't got no materials together. you ain't got no materials together. I I I I would say if you've got all presumably I would say if you've got all presumably I would say if you've got all presumably it sounds like initial swooning period it sounds like initial swooning period it sounds like initial swooning period and then you're laying at the feet of and then you're laying at the feet of and then you're laying at the feet of your lack of industriousness and your your lack of industriousness and your your lack of industriousness and your financial success, financial success, financial success, previous girlfriend's previous girlfriend's previous girlfriend's attraction. you fear that your lack of attraction. you fear that your lack of attraction. you fear that your lack of industriousness is pushing women away. industriousness is pushing women away. industriousness is pushing women away. That is what you're saying. Um, I would That is what you're saying. Um, I would That is what you're saying. Um, I would make sure that that is the case. I would make sure that that is the case. I would make sure that that is the case. I would maybe even text your exes if you've got maybe even text your exes if you've got maybe even text your exes if you've got a good relationship with them or [ __ ] a good relationship with them or [ __ ] a good relationship with them or [ __ ] it. Like, just text them anyway. Hey, I it. Like, just text them anyway. Hey, I it. Like, just text them anyway. Hey, I just wanted to I just wanted to ask how just wanted to I just wanted to ask how just wanted to I just wanted to ask how how big of a deal was my financial how big of a deal was my financial how big of a deal was my financial success in in how attracted you were to success in in how attracted you were to success in in how attracted you were to me. You just don't need to sugarcoat it. me. You just don't need to sugarcoat it. me. You just don't need to sugarcoat it. I'm just I'm asking for myself. I really I'm just I'm asking for myself. I really I'm just I'm asking for myself. I really I really want to be a good man for the I really want to be a good man for the I really want to be a good man for the next woman. and I I really hope that next woman. and I I really hope that next woman. and I I really hope that I've left you in a better place than I I've left you in a better place than I I've left you in a better place than I found you. Can you just feel free to found you. Can you just feel free to found you. Can you just feel free to voice note me or say whatever? And I voice note me or say whatever? And I voice note me or say whatever? And I would just do that for all of your exes. would just do that for all of your exes. would just do that for all of your exes. Now, that'll be a cool that'll be a cool Now, that'll be a cool that'll be a cool Now, that'll be a cool that'll be a cool personal development thing to do. It' be personal development thing to do. It' be personal development thing to do. It' be good at keeping your ego small. And you good at keeping your ego small. And you good at keeping your ego small. And you might be surprised at what you find out. might be surprised at what you find out. might be surprised at what you find out. They might say, "Actually, you know what They might say, "Actually, you know what They might say, "Actually, you know what it is like [gasps] the neurotic thing, it is like [gasps] the neurotic thing, it is like [gasps] the neurotic thing, it was actually a bit much for me." And it was actually a bit much for me." And it was actually a bit much for me." And that might be what you need to work on. that might be what you need to work on. that might be what you need to work on. Um, so that'd be cool to ask. Uh, I Um, so that'd be cool to ask. Uh, I Um, so that'd be cool to ask. Uh, I would say financial success if you're in would say financial success if you're in would say financial success if you're in your 40s is especially if you've got your 40s is especially if you've got your 40s is especially if you've got this fit, funny, neurotic, attentive, this fit, funny, neurotic, attentive, this fit, funny, neurotic, attentive, attractive, care, like if you've got attractive, care, like if you've got attractive, care, like if you've got those things, it's not going to be that those things, it's not going to be that those things, it's not going to be that hard for you to start to grind a little hard for you to start to grind a little hard for you to start to grind a little bit more. squeeze. You've got no bit more. squeeze. You've got no bit more. squeeze. You've got no dependence. It sounds like going through dependence. It sounds like going through dependence. It sounds like going through a breakup single. Um, you can ring out a breakup single. Um, you can ring out a breakup single. Um, you can ring out the [ __ ] wet towel of resource the [ __ ] wet towel of resource the [ __ ] wet towel of resource provisioning and crank it, side hustle, provisioning and crank it, side hustle, provisioning and crank it, side hustle, do do a few things and within the space do do a few things and within the space do do a few things and within the space of a few years, presuming that you don't of a few years, presuming that you don't of a few years, presuming that you don't have some dependence or you're living in have some dependence or you're living in have some dependence or you're living in a really expensive place, you will be a really expensive place, you will be a really expensive place, you will be able to get able to get able to get I would much sooner back you somebody I would much sooner back you somebody I would much sooner back you somebody who just needs to potentially become who just needs to potentially become who just needs to potentially become more financially successful than back more financially successful than back more financially successful than back someone who needs to become more someone who needs to become more someone who needs to become more attentive, attractive, caring, fit, and attentive, attractive, caring, fit, and attentive, attractive, caring, fit, and funny. Like you have got you've got all funny. Like you have got you've got all funny. Like you have got you've got all of the raw materials and you've just got of the raw materials and you've just got of the raw materials and you've just got this one bit. If this is true again, if this one bit. If this is true again, if this one bit. If this is true again, if this is if they come back, I mean it's this is if they come back, I mean it's this is if they come back, I mean it's weird like a girl come back. Oh yeah, weird like a girl come back. Oh yeah, weird like a girl come back. Oh yeah, it's because you earn 40 grand a year. it's because you earn 40 grand a year. it's because you earn 40 grand a year. That's to me it's a real turnoff. It's That's to me it's a real turnoff. It's That's to me it's a real turnoff. It's like what with every past girlfriend? I like what with every past girlfriend? I like what with every past girlfriend? I don't know. Maybe. But find out what it don't know. Maybe. But find out what it don't know. Maybe. But find out what it is. If so, fix it. Thomas J.H10. I'm four years clean from Thomas J.H10. I'm four years clean from gambling but still paying off gambling gambling but still paying off gambling gambling but still paying off gambling debt. about £60,000 left. Wow. What debt. about £60,000 left. Wow. What debt. about £60,000 left. Wow. What advice would you give for trying to pay advice would you give for trying to pay advice would you give for trying to pay this off as quickly as possible? this off as quickly as possible? this off as quickly as possible? Currently a teacher. [snorts] Well, Currently a teacher. [snorts] Well, Currently a teacher. [snorts] Well, dude, I'm really [ __ ] proud of you dude, I'm really [ __ ] proud of you dude, I'm really [ __ ] proud of you for beating gambling addiction four for beating gambling addiction four for beating gambling addiction four years from gambling. Gambling is such a years from gambling. Gambling is such a years from gambling. Gambling is such a silent silent silent like a huge like a huge like a huge silent epidemic that that nobody sees. silent epidemic that that nobody sees. silent epidemic that that nobody sees. It is massively gendered, right? As a It is massively gendered, right? As a It is massively gendered, right? As a lot of addictions are actually. Uh, and lot of addictions are actually. Uh, and lot of addictions are actually. Uh, and I think if people don't have that I think if people don't have that I think if people don't have that particular keyhole that gambling taps particular keyhole that gambling taps particular keyhole that gambling taps into in their mind, into in their mind, into in their mind, they just can't understand. I I can't they just can't understand. I I can't they just can't understand. I I can't understand. I've got uh a few addictive understand. I've got uh a few addictive understand. I've got uh a few addictive bones in my body, but none of them ever bones in my body, but none of them ever bones in my body, but none of them ever got whatever addictive sockets in my got whatever addictive sockets in my got whatever addictive sockets in my body, but none of them ever got plugged body, but none of them ever got plugged body, but none of them ever got plugged into. Uh, it just turned into work and into. Uh, it just turned into work and into. Uh, it just turned into work and and and and and and and and and and building businesses and [ __ ] thinking building businesses and [ __ ] thinking building businesses and [ __ ] thinking about stupid ideas. Um, and I'm really about stupid ideas. Um, and I'm really about stupid ideas. Um, and I'm really fortunate that that was the case. But I fortunate that that was the case. But I fortunate that that was the case. But I I I I really applaud you for doing it. It's really applaud you for doing it. It's really applaud you for doing it. It's [ __ ] awesome. Um, £60,000 is a lot of [ __ ] awesome. Um, £60,000 is a lot of [ __ ] awesome. Um, £60,000 is a lot of money. That would be what, £85,000 money. That would be what, £85,000 money. That would be what, £85,000 maybe, maybe $90,000. maybe, maybe $90,000. maybe, maybe $90,000. Currently a teacher. I'm going to guess Currently a teacher. I'm going to guess Currently a teacher. I'm going to guess that that means you earn probably that that means you earn probably that that means you earn probably 30s 30s 30s 30sish uh depending on how long you've 30sish uh depending on how long you've 30sish uh depending on how long you've been doing it for. Um been doing it for. Um been doing it for. Um [ __ ] man. I mean being a teacher is not [ __ ] man. I mean being a teacher is not [ __ ] man. I mean being a teacher is not a small lift. Uh you've got you've got a small lift. Uh you've got you've got a small lift. Uh you've got you've got your uh holidays and things. [sighs] your uh holidays and things. [sighs] your uh holidays and things. [sighs] What would be good? What would be good? What would be good? I mean you can try and do the side I mean you can try and do the side I mean you can try and do the side hustle thing. Take James Smith's how to hustle thing. Take James Smith's how to hustle thing. Take James Smith's how to become an online fitness coach thing and become an online fitness coach thing and become an online fitness coach thing and you know do that. I I would actually say you know do that. I I would actually say you know do that. I I would actually say that from an hourly standpoint, that from an hourly standpoint, that from an hourly standpoint, especially if you can do it, becoming a especially if you can do it, becoming a especially if you can do it, becoming a PT is really not bad because in the UK PT is really not bad because in the UK PT is really not bad because in the UK that can be 25, 30, 40, even 50 an hour that can be 25, 30, 40, even 50 an hour that can be 25, 30, 40, even 50 an hour if you are able to sort of build up the if you are able to sort of build up the if you are able to sort of build up the momentum and do it in a a high income momentum and do it in a a high income momentum and do it in a a high income area. That would be a good side hustle. area. That would be a good side hustle. area. That would be a good side hustle. Um, I know what you don't want, what's Um, I know what you don't want, what's Um, I know what you don't want, what's easiest for me to say is just chip away easiest for me to say is just chip away easiest for me to say is just chip away at it, dude. You know, £60,000 left. at it, dude. You know, £60,000 left. at it, dude. You know, £60,000 left. Batten down the hatches. If you're Batten down the hatches. If you're Batten down the hatches. If you're batting down the hatches with what, batting down the hatches with what, batting down the hatches with what, let's say five grand a year, you're able let's say five grand a year, you're able let's say five grand a year, you're able to chip away. That's 12 years. It's a to chip away. That's 12 years. It's a to chip away. That's 12 years. It's a [ __ ] decade of this thing hanging [ __ ] decade of this thing hanging [ __ ] decade of this thing hanging over your head. And if there's gambling over your head. And if there's gambling over your head. And if there's gambling debts that are accumulating debts that are accumulating debts that are accumulating interest that is just it is going to interest that is just it is going to interest that is just it is going to take it's going to take time and take it's going to take time and take it's going to take time and presumably you want to be liberated of presumably you want to be liberated of presumably you want to be liberated of this or else you wouldn't be asking me. this or else you wouldn't be asking me. this or else you wouldn't be asking me. [sighs] [sighs] [sighs] I mean obviously you need to get your I mean obviously you need to get your I mean obviously you need to get your burn rate down. um you you you can't burn rate down. um you you you can't burn rate down. um you you you can't spend that much because every pound that spend that much because every pound that spend that much because every pound that you spend on something is a pound that you spend on something is a pound that you spend on something is a pound that you don't spend on that. But then do you you don't spend on that. But then do you you don't spend on that. But then do you also want to look back on a life where also want to look back on a life where also want to look back on a life where you spent all of your time just paying you spent all of your time just paying you spent all of your time just paying off this debt and didn't enjoy your off this debt and didn't enjoy your off this debt and didn't enjoy your youth when you had it? Um youth when you had it? Um youth when you had it? Um my my my I'm sure financial planners would say I'm sure financial planners would say I'm sure financial planners would say otherwise. My feeling in situations like otherwise. My feeling in situations like otherwise. My feeling in situations like this is to just try and increase the this is to just try and increase the this is to just try and increase the inflow of cash. Um, that was the way inflow of cash. Um, that was the way inflow of cash. Um, that was the way that I got I mean there was a period in that I got I mean there was a period in that I got I mean there was a period in uni when I was 20 where I didn't have uni when I was 20 where I didn't have uni when I was 20 where I didn't have money to put into my car to drive to money to put into my car to drive to money to put into my car to drive to work and one of the guys that was living work and one of the guys that was living work and one of the guys that was living with me was stealing food from the Tesco with me was stealing food from the Tesco with me was stealing food from the Tesco cuz neither of us had money. Uh, I did I cuz neither of us had money. Uh, I did I cuz neither of us had money. Uh, I did I I was too proud to message my parents I was too proud to message my parents I was too proud to message my parents and ask them for cash. I'm sure they and ask them for cash. I'm sure they and ask them for cash. I'm sure they would have given it to me. I'm sure I would have given it to me. I'm sure I would have given it to me. I'm sure I could have got a loan from the guy that could have got a loan from the guy that could have got a loan from the guy that me and Darren were working for for the me and Darren were working for for the me and Darren were working for for the franchise, but I I I didn't want to seem franchise, but I I I didn't want to seem franchise, but I I I didn't want to seem s I don't even know why. But it I know s I don't even know why. But it I know s I don't even know why. But it I know what it's for a short period of time, I what it's for a short period of time, I what it's for a short period of time, I know what it's like to be really worried know what it's like to be really worried know what it's like to be really worried about money. My solution to get out of about money. My solution to get out of about money. My solution to get out of that was to just overwork. Um, and I get that was to just overwork. Um, and I get that was to just overwork. Um, and I get the sense that anxiety really hates a the sense that anxiety really hates a the sense that anxiety really hates a moving target. And dialing your burn moving target. And dialing your burn moving target. And dialing your burn rate down is good, but dialing your rate down is good, but dialing your rate down is good, but dialing your inflow up will probably feel better and inflow up will probably feel better and inflow up will probably feel better and be more motivating. Yeah, it's going to be more motivating. Yeah, it's going to be more motivating. Yeah, it's going to be more tiring, but it's going to feel be more tiring, but it's going to feel be more tiring, but it's going to feel like you're doing more as long as you like you're doing more as long as you like you're doing more as long as you can keep an eye on how much you're can keep an eye on how much you're can keep an eye on how much you're spending. spending. spending. Evening job, like [ __ ] Evening job, like [ __ ] Evening job, like [ __ ] [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] local retail, uh, somewhere that's 24 local retail, uh, somewhere that's 24 local retail, uh, somewhere that's 24 hours, uh, petrol station kiosk, hours, uh, petrol station kiosk, hours, uh, petrol station kiosk, PT stuff, especially during summer PT stuff, especially during summer PT stuff, especially during summer holidays. That that's where I would go. holidays. That that's where I would go. holidays. That that's where I would go. I wouldn't be doing it from investment. I wouldn't be doing it from investment. I wouldn't be doing it from investment. I think just increase the inflow. But I think just increase the inflow. But I think just increase the inflow. But dude, congrats. Uh I'm really I'm really dude, congrats. Uh I'm really I'm really dude, congrats. Uh I'm really I'm really happy that you're doing it. You are happy that you're doing it. You are happy that you're doing it. You are going to get there. Um just stay the going to get there. Um just stay the going to get there. Um just stay the course. And also, like I say, the action course. And also, like I say, the action course. And also, like I say, the action is the antidote to anxiety thing. Um is the antidote to anxiety thing. Um is the antidote to anxiety thing. Um something tells me that if you're something tells me that if you're something tells me that if you're working really hard, the likelihood of working really hard, the likelihood of working really hard, the likelihood of you relapsing into the gambling is you relapsing into the gambling is you relapsing into the gambling is probably going to dip down to probably going to dip down to probably going to dip down to El Moru. When are you coming to Hamburg? El Moru. When are you coming to Hamburg? El Moru. When are you coming to Hamburg? So, we have a gap in the UK and Ireland So, we have a gap in the UK and Ireland So, we have a gap in the UK and Ireland tour between tour between tour between the f we do four dates back toback. It's the f we do four dates back toback. It's the f we do four dates back toback. It's insane. [gasps] insane. [gasps] insane. [gasps] We do those four and then we have a We do those four and then we have a We do those four and then we have a window and I'm either going to do cinema window and I'm either going to do cinema window and I'm either going to do cinema shoot and do some episodes or we're shoot and do some episodes or we're shoot and do some episodes or we're going to come to Germany. I have no idea going to come to Germany. I have no idea going to come to Germany. I have no idea whether we're going to come to Hamburg, whether we're going to come to Hamburg, whether we're going to come to Hamburg, but Germany is the fifth biggest market but Germany is the fifth biggest market but Germany is the fifth biggest market of listeners for modern wisdom. I think of listeners for modern wisdom. I think of listeners for modern wisdom. I think it's America, it's America, it's America, UK, Australia, UK, Australia, UK, Australia, Canada, Canada, Canada, Germany. Germany. Germany. Uh, so I know that there's lots of Uh, so I know that there's lots of Uh, so I know that there's lots of German people there. We're also coming German people there. We're also coming German people there. We're also coming to to to some video game conference thing with some video game conference thing with some video game conference thing with Newtonic, I swear. And, uh, we might do Newtonic, I swear. And, uh, we might do Newtonic, I swear. And, uh, we might do it around that. That's at the end of it around that. That's at the end of it around that. That's at the end of September, maybe, or August. Uh, I will September, maybe, or August. Uh, I will September, maybe, or August. Uh, I will try and come uh in the next I will try try and come uh in the next I will try try and come uh in the next I will try and come in 2026. [snorts] Ga Maria, hey and come in 2026. [snorts] Ga Maria, hey and come in 2026. [snorts] Ga Maria, hey Chris, how much have you worked with Joe Chris, how much have you worked with Joe Chris, how much have you worked with Joe Hudson and how well do you guys know Hudson and how well do you guys know Hudson and how well do you guys know each other? You seem close. Loved your each other? You seem close. Loved your each other? You seem close. Loved your podcasts together. Love. Thank you. Joe podcasts together. Love. Thank you. Joe podcasts together. Love. Thank you. Joe is a goat. He's so good. And um is a goat. He's so good. And um is a goat. He's so good. And um [snorts and sighs] [snorts and sighs] [snorts and sighs] I I've not done that. I spent that week I I've not done that. I spent that week I I've not done that. I spent that week with him. I did his retreat. I did with him. I did his retreat. I did with him. I did his retreat. I did Groundbreakers. Uh, I've done the Groundbreakers. Uh, I've done the Groundbreakers. Uh, I've done the communications course from Art of communications course from Art of communications course from Art of Accomplishment. Accomplishment. Accomplishment. We talk maybe once a week, once every We talk maybe once a week, once every We talk maybe once a week, once every couple of weeks. couple of weeks. couple of weeks. He's legit. There's very few people on He's legit. There's very few people on He's legit. There's very few people on the planet that deserve the title master the planet that deserve the title master the planet that deserve the title master coach and he's one of them. Um, and we coach and he's one of them. Um, and we coach and he's one of them. Um, and we are close. We are. And to be close to are close. We are. And to be close to are close. We are. And to be close to somebody who I think is such a good somebody who I think is such a good somebody who I think is such a good person, significantly better person than person, significantly better person than person, significantly better person than I am is I am is I am is is cool. It's cool. uh my desire for is cool. It's cool. uh my desire for is cool. It's cool. uh my desire for what a good friend looks like or the what a good friend looks like or the what a good friend looks like or the people that I admire um people that I admire um people that I admire um criteria for people that I admire has criteria for people that I admire has criteria for people that I admire has changed an awful lot. And somebody like changed an awful lot. And somebody like changed an awful lot. And somebody like Joe who's so calm and regulated and Joe who's so calm and regulated and Joe who's so calm and regulated and introspective and caring and and and introspective and caring and and and introspective and caring and and and smart and wise. Uh he is, you know, smart and wise. Uh he is, you know, smart and wise. Uh he is, you know, that's why I love Chris Bumstead. That's that's why I love Chris Bumstead. That's that's why I love Chris Bumstead. That's why in a weird way, that's why I love why in a weird way, that's why I love why in a weird way, that's why I love Homozy as well. Even though, you know, Homozy as well. Even though, you know, Homozy as well. Even though, you know, if you were to take Homosi and Joe if you were to take Homosi and Joe if you were to take Homosi and Joe Hudson, you've got two very different Hudson, you've got two very different Hudson, you've got two very different demeanors. Um, demeanors. Um, demeanors. Um, I learned a lot from him and he's he's a I learned a lot from him and he's he's a I learned a lot from him and he's he's a he's a a great guy. So, I I really hope he's a a great guy. So, I I really hope he's a a great guy. So, I I really hope I should have done the decisions course. I should have done the decisions course. I should have done the decisions course. It's happening right now from Art of It's happening right now from Art of It's happening right now from Art of Accomplishment. Everyone that was in my Accomplishment. Everyone that was in my Accomplishment. Everyone that was in my Groundbreakers group is telling me how Groundbreakers group is telling me how Groundbreakers group is telling me how great it is, but I just I couldn't. I great it is, but I just I couldn't. I great it is, but I just I couldn't. I couldn't with all of the health stuff couldn't with all of the health stuff couldn't with all of the health stuff that I'm trying to do. It would have that I'm trying to do. It would have that I'm trying to do. It would have just felt like more burden. So, maybe just felt like more burden. So, maybe just felt like more burden. So, maybe next year. Coach Math, what kind of next year. Coach Math, what kind of next year. Coach Math, what kind of questions do you prefer or not prefer at questions do you prefer or not prefer at questions do you prefer or not prefer at the Q&A? I've got VIP tickets in New the Q&A? I've got VIP tickets in New the Q&A? I've got VIP tickets in New Zealand. [ __ ] sick, dude. I've never Zealand. [ __ ] sick, dude. I've never Zealand. [ __ ] sick, dude. I've never been to New Zealand, so I'm excited to been to New Zealand, so I'm excited to been to New Zealand, so I'm excited to go. Uh, I prefer the question that you go. Uh, I prefer the question that you go. Uh, I prefer the question that you really want to ask. You You're not really want to ask. You You're not really want to ask. You You're not performing for me. I'm performing for performing for me. I'm performing for performing for me. I'm performing for you. And whatever you're interested in. you. And whatever you're interested in. you. And whatever you're interested in. What What is the burning question that's What What is the burning question that's What What is the burning question that's really true? One, I want the question really true? One, I want the question really true? One, I want the question from you that is scarier than the one from you that is scarier than the one from you that is scarier than the one that you think you're supposed to ask. that you think you're supposed to ask. that you think you're supposed to ask. It's the one that's more revealing. It's It's the one that's more revealing. It's It's the one that's more revealing. It's the one that makes you go, "Am [sighs] I the one that makes you go, "Am [sighs] I the one that makes you go, "Am [sighs] I really going to say this? Got this mic really going to say this? Got this mic really going to say this? Got this mic and a few thousand people in front of and a few thousand people in front of and a few thousand people in front of me. Am I really going to say this to me. Am I really going to say this to me. Am I really going to say this to this guy whose podcast I I watch? That's this guy whose podcast I I watch? That's this guy whose podcast I I watch? That's the question I want you to ask. So other the question I want you to ask. So other the question I want you to ask. So other than that, whatever you're interested than that, whatever you're interested than that, whatever you're interested in. in. in. Logan Bisset. If Pinocchio said his nose Logan Bisset. If Pinocchio said his nose Logan Bisset. If Pinocchio said his nose is going to grow, what would happen is going to grow, what would happen is going to grow, what would happen next? If Pinocchio said his nose is going to If Pinocchio said his nose is going to grow, what would happen next? grow, what would happen next? grow, what would happen next? I Something tells me there's a Reddit I Something tells me there's a Reddit I Something tells me there's a Reddit thread that is 4,000 comments deep thread that is 4,000 comments deep thread that is 4,000 comments deep explaining explaining explaining this. this. this. I get the sense I get the sense I get the sense that it would grow because he doesn't that it would grow because he doesn't that it would grow because he doesn't know if it's going to grow. know if it's going to grow. know if it's going to grow. So, the nose grows because of him lying, So, the nose grows because of him lying, So, the nose grows because of him lying, not because of his accuracy at telling not because of his accuracy at telling not because of his accuracy at telling the future. the future. the future. He [snorts] does not know if it's going He [snorts] does not know if it's going He [snorts] does not know if it's going to grow. Unless he does. [ __ ] to grow. Unless he does. [ __ ] to grow. Unless he does. [ __ ] I I don't know. I I don't know. I I don't know. Dark mode. Kyle, why did you stop Dark mode. Kyle, why did you stop Dark mode. Kyle, why did you stop working out? You used to be so fit. working out? You used to be so fit. working out? You used to be so fit. What? What? What? What do you mean? Why did you stop What do you mean? Why did you stop What do you mean? Why did you stop working out? You used to be What's the working out? You used to be What's the working out? You used to be What's the used to be? What do you I still work used to be? What do you I still work used to be? What do you I still work out. They Someone just gave me the out. They Someone just gave me the out. They Someone just gave me the compliments on the forearms. I look I compliments on the forearms. I look I compliments on the forearms. I look I have lost a little bit of muscle mass, have lost a little bit of muscle mass, have lost a little bit of muscle mass, but I've been sad and ill. Okay. [ __ ] but I've been sad and ill. Okay. [ __ ] but I've been sad and ill. Okay. [ __ ] hell. Dark mode, Kyle. Really are hell. Dark mode, Kyle. Really are hell. Dark mode, Kyle. Really are [ __ ] dark mode. didn't stop working [ __ ] dark mode. didn't stop working [ __ ] dark mode. didn't stop working out. Still fit is fittish. out. Still fit is fittish. out. Still fit is fittish. [ __ ] mean question. I'm not going to [ __ ] mean question. I'm not going to [ __ ] mean question. I'm not going to finish up on that. I was going to finish finish up on that. I was going to finish finish up on that. I was going to finish up. I'm not going to finish up on up. I'm not going to finish up on up. I'm not going to finish up on someone accusing me of going skinny fat, someone accusing me of going skinny fat, someone accusing me of going skinny fat, even if I have been even if I have been even if I have been zodas zodas zodas zasanov 5743. zasanov 5743. zasanov 5743. Do you have any plans about writing a Do you have any plans about writing a Do you have any plans about writing a book? Because it seems to me and a book? Because it seems to me and a book? Because it seems to me and a majority of the listeners that you have majority of the listeners that you have majority of the listeners that you have enough resources to write one, right? enough resources to write one, right? enough resources to write one, right? And we are looking forward to it. Well, And we are looking forward to it. Well, And we are looking forward to it. Well, thank you. And yeah, I I do know that I thank you. And yeah, I I do know that I thank you. And yeah, I I do know that I should get on with it. Um, this deal has should get on with it. Um, this deal has should get on with it. Um, this deal has been there for a long time with been there for a long time with been there for a long time with Portfolio from Penguin. Adrian, the Portfolio from Penguin. Adrian, the Portfolio from Penguin. Adrian, the owner, is really wonderful with me and owner, is really wonderful with me and owner, is really wonderful with me and has allowed me to put my delivery date has allowed me to put my delivery date has allowed me to put my delivery date back uh, three times already, I think. back uh, three times already, I think. back uh, three times already, I think. Tell you what I'm struggling with. I'll Tell you what I'm struggling with. I'll Tell you what I'm struggling with. I'll be completely open with you. What I'm be completely open with you. What I'm be completely open with you. What I'm struggling with is the what's called the struggling with is the what's called the struggling with is the what's called the idea set. Um, I could call it Modern idea set. Um, I could call it Modern idea set. Um, I could call it Modern Wisdom Wisdom Wisdom and that would be cool and it would be a and that would be cool and it would be a and that would be cool and it would be a it would pass the subway test which is it would pass the subway test which is it would pass the subway test which is would someone want to be seen reading it would someone want to be seen reading it would someone want to be seen reading it on the tube. [gasps] Modern wisdom book on the tube. [gasps] Modern wisdom book on the tube. [gasps] Modern wisdom book title like oh great. What's a what is title like oh great. What's a what is title like oh great. What's a what is the idea set of modern wisdom? It's not the idea set of modern wisdom? It's not the idea set of modern wisdom? It's not a single thrust. It's not the psychology a single thrust. It's not the psychology a single thrust. It's not the psychology of money. It's not atomic habits. It's of money. It's not atomic habits. It's of money. It's not atomic habits. It's not high agency. not high agency. not high agency. It's not the subtle art of not giving a It's not the subtle art of not giving a It's not the subtle art of not giving a [ __ ] It's not an idea set. Uh it is [ __ ] It's not an idea set. Uh it is [ __ ] It's not an idea set. Uh it is more like an almanac style book. And more like an almanac style book. And more like an almanac style book. And although that's great and kind of is although that's great and kind of is although that's great and kind of is what I do, right? Curating different what I do, right? Curating different what I do, right? Curating different ideas, it means that you don't get to ideas, it means that you don't get to ideas, it means that you don't get to own a particular area of cognitive real own a particular area of cognitive real own a particular area of cognitive real estate. And I think that's important, I estate. And I think that's important, I estate. And I think that's important, I also think if the first book that I do also think if the first book that I do also think if the first book that I do is simply me naming it after the is simply me naming it after the is simply me naming it after the podcast, which is already the thing that podcast, which is already the thing that podcast, which is already the thing that I'm known for, what it sounds like is, I'm known for, what it sounds like is, I'm known for, what it sounds like is, oh, that podcast guy wrote a book about oh, that podcast guy wrote a book about oh, that podcast guy wrote a book about his podcast or about what he learned on his podcast or about what he learned on his podcast or about what he learned on the podcast or something. And even if the podcast or something. And even if the podcast or something. And even if the podcast has been the big vehicle for the podcast has been the big vehicle for the podcast has been the big vehicle for my learning, I think that reduces down my learning, I think that reduces down my learning, I think that reduces down the legitimacy of me as a writer. Like the legitimacy of me as a writer. Like the legitimacy of me as a writer. Like make no mistake, I have I have written make no mistake, I have I have written make no mistake, I have I have written over a quarter of a million words in the over a quarter of a million words in the over a quarter of a million words in the last 5 years since I launched the last 5 years since I launched the last 5 years since I launched the newsletter. I do a thousand words every newsletter. I do a thousand words every newsletter. I do a thousand words every single week. 300,000 350,000 words in an single week. 300,000 350,000 words in an single week. 300,000 350,000 words in an [ __ ] Apple Note on this laptop. [ __ ] Apple Note on this laptop. [ __ ] Apple Note on this laptop. I'm a writer I'm a writer I'm a writer and if I release a book that's the title and if I release a book that's the title and if I release a book that's the title of my podcast, I feel like that kind of of my podcast, I feel like that kind of of my podcast, I feel like that kind of diminishes the legitimacy of, oh, he he diminishes the legitimacy of, oh, he he diminishes the legitimacy of, oh, he he really wrote a book. He really put really wrote a book. He really put really wrote a book. He really put forward a thesis. He had an idea and he, forward a thesis. He had an idea and he, forward a thesis. He had an idea and he, you know, crafted the direction of this you know, crafted the direction of this you know, crafted the direction of this book to deliver that as opposed to he book to deliver that as opposed to he book to deliver that as opposed to he just repurposed ideas from the pot. Even just repurposed ideas from the pot. Even just repurposed ideas from the pot. Even if it was brand new material, even if I if it was brand new material, even if I if it was brand new material, even if I didn't quote a single other person, I didn't quote a single other person, I didn't quote a single other person, I don't know. So, I'm the idea set. don't know. So, I'm the idea set. don't know. So, I'm the idea set. There's so many different directions There's so many different directions There's so many different directions that I can go in. Do I want to talk that I can go in. Do I want to talk that I can go in. Do I want to talk about how to not miss your life? Do I about how to not miss your life? Do I about how to not miss your life? Do I want to talk about the balance between want to talk about the balance between want to talk about the balance between success and happiness? Do I want to talk success and happiness? Do I want to talk success and happiness? Do I want to talk about lonely chapter? Do I want to talk about lonely chapter? Do I want to talk about lonely chapter? Do I want to talk about unteable lessons? Do I want to about unteable lessons? Do I want to about unteable lessons? Do I want to talk about uh obsession? Do you know talk about uh obsession? Do you know talk about uh obsession? Do you know what the single direction? There's so what the single direction? There's so what the single direction? There's so many that I could go in, but that also many that I could go in, but that also many that I could go in, but that also is a problem. So, I've got the [ __ ] is a problem. So, I've got the [ __ ] is a problem. So, I've got the [ __ ] paradox of choice and curse of paradox of choice and curse of paradox of choice and curse of curse of not even competence. I've never curse of not even competence. I've never curse of not even competence. I've never written a book before, but curse of written a book before, but curse of written a book before, but curse of options, at least at the moment. Um, options, at least at the moment. Um, options, at least at the moment. Um, yeah, I I I am looking forward to it, yeah, I I I am looking forward to it, yeah, I I I am looking forward to it, too. I'm just going to have to get my too. I'm just going to have to get my too. I'm just going to have to get my life to the stage where I have life to the stage where I have life to the stage where I have sufficient launch velocity to get away sufficient launch velocity to get away sufficient launch velocity to get away from it. I mean, if you have an idea for from it. I mean, if you have an idea for from it. I mean, if you have an idea for what you want to see me write, [ __ ] what you want to see me write, [ __ ] what you want to see me write, [ __ ] leave it in the comments below because leave it in the comments below because leave it in the comments below because there is so many things that I can talk there is so many things that I can talk there is so many things that I can talk about. Um, yeah, what would you what about. Um, yeah, what would you what about. Um, yeah, what would you what would you want to see me write about? would you want to see me write about? would you want to see me write about? That would be that would be an That would be that would be an That would be that would be an interesting one. All right. I'm going to interesting one. All right. I'm going to interesting one. All right. I'm going to love you, leave you. Uh, that is an hour love you, leave you. Uh, that is an hour love you, leave you. Uh, that is an hour and 45. I I did this last time. Um, and 45. I I did this last time. Um, and 45. I I did this last time. Um, I think I did this around about I think I did this around about I think I did this around about Christmas Christmas Christmas where I got to the end of the episode where I got to the end of the episode where I got to the end of the episode and I did a little reflection about sort and I did a little reflection about sort and I did a little reflection about sort of how I've been genuinely genuinely how of how I've been genuinely genuinely how of how I've been genuinely genuinely how I've been feeling recently. But um I've been feeling recently. But um I've been feeling recently. But um [snorts] [snorts] [snorts] I I said a while ago if someone could do I I said a while ago if someone could do I I said a while ago if someone could do a sentiment analysis, you know, pace of a sentiment analysis, you know, pace of a sentiment analysis, you know, pace of words, words, words, tonality, energy, tonality, energy, tonality, energy, speech errors, speech errors, speech errors, I would I'd love that to be tracked over I would I'd love that to be tracked over I would I'd love that to be tracked over time because there would be this weird time because there would be this weird time because there would be this weird sort of uh increase in all of these sort of uh increase in all of these sort of uh increase in all of these issues as issues as issues as my brain started dripping out of my ears my brain started dripping out of my ears my brain started dripping out of my ears and I wasn't sleeping and I had all of and I wasn't sleeping and I had all of and I wasn't sleeping and I had all of this stuff going on personally that I this stuff going on personally that I this stuff going on personally that I was, you know, trying to was, you know, trying to was, you know, trying to trying to deal with. And it feels really trying to deal with. And it feels really trying to deal with. And it feels really good to have a tiny little bit of me good to have a tiny little bit of me good to have a tiny little bit of me back. And I appreciate all of you for back. And I appreciate all of you for back. And I appreciate all of you for sticking with me through this because I sticking with me through this because I sticking with me through this because I know know know even when I look back on the the even when I look back on the the even when I look back on the the conversations I had last year, they were conversations I had last year, they were conversations I had last year, they were amazing and insightful and you know one amazing and insightful and you know one amazing and insightful and you know one of my favorite years with the podcast. of my favorite years with the podcast. of my favorite years with the podcast. But there was a sort of But there was a sort of But there was a sort of sad undertone to them because that's how sad undertone to them because that's how sad undertone to them because that's how I was feeling. That was the energy that I was feeling. That was the energy that I was feeling. That was the energy that I was bringing in. you know, I was I was bringing in. you know, I was I was bringing in. you know, I was asking a lot of questions about tapping asking a lot of questions about tapping asking a lot of questions about tapping into emotion and navigating downtime and into emotion and navigating downtime and into emotion and navigating downtime and overcoming challenges overcoming challenges overcoming challenges and in some ways that's and in some ways that's and in some ways that's inspiring hopefully, but in other ways inspiring hopefully, but in other ways inspiring hopefully, but in other ways it, you know, I I leak into the show a it, you know, I I leak into the show a it, you know, I I leak into the show a lot. That's beautiful because it's real. lot. That's beautiful because it's real. lot. That's beautiful because it's real. But it does mean that if I if I'm having But it does mean that if I if I'm having But it does mean that if I if I'm having a bit of a down period, you guys come a bit of a down period, you guys come a bit of a down period, you guys come along for the ride. And I for the first along for the ride. And I for the first along for the ride. And I for the first time in a long time have just got a time in a long time have just got a time in a long time have just got a little bit of breathing room. My brain little bit of breathing room. My brain little bit of breathing room. My brain feels like it's starting to work and I'm feels like it's starting to work and I'm feels like it's starting to work and I'm coming up with ideas and I'm beginning coming up with ideas and I'm beginning coming up with ideas and I'm beginning to write a little bit more fluidly to write a little bit more fluidly to write a little bit more fluidly and I'm prepared to have a bit of not bravado confidence. I'm prepared to not bravado confidence. I'm prepared to have a little bit of confidence which I have a little bit of confidence which I have a little bit of confidence which I haven't had for like nearly two years. haven't had for like nearly two years. haven't had for like nearly two years. Like proper proper I feel like I'm good Like proper proper I feel like I'm good Like proper proper I feel like I'm good at the thing that I do as opposed to I at the thing that I do as opposed to I at the thing that I do as opposed to I fear that I'm going to be found out for fear that I'm going to be found out for fear that I'm going to be found out for not being good as good as I used to be. not being good as good as I used to be. not being good as good as I used to be. And um I just wanted to say thank you And um I just wanted to say thank you And um I just wanted to say thank you for everyone sticking with me. Um I'm for everyone sticking with me. Um I'm for everyone sticking with me. Um I'm really really going to [ __ ] rip the really really going to [ __ ] rip the really really going to [ __ ] rip the hinges off this year. Uh, I'm going to hinges off this year. Uh, I'm going to hinges off this year. Uh, I'm going to do it gently do it gently do it gently to start with because if I feel a bit to start with because if I feel a bit to start with because if I feel a bit better and then start loading too much better and then start loading too much better and then start loading too much load onto the the work plate, uh, load onto the the work plate, uh, load onto the the work plate, uh, that'll go badly. So, I'm going to try that'll go badly. So, I'm going to try that'll go badly. So, I'm going to try and titrate the dose. But, yeah, I I the and titrate the dose. But, yeah, I I the and titrate the dose. But, yeah, I I the early signs are good. And um I just early signs are good. And um I just early signs are good. And um I just wanted to say thank you for everyone for wanted to say thank you for everyone for wanted to say thank you for everyone for being here with me for giving me a being here with me for giving me a being here with me for giving me a reason to get out of bed on days when reason to get out of bed on days when reason to get out of bed on days when I've really really really [ __ ] not I've really really really [ __ ] not I've really really really [ __ ] not wanted to for supporting the show. Uh wanted to for supporting the show. Uh wanted to for supporting the show. Uh it's really it's super meaningful and it's really it's super meaningful and it's really it's super meaningful and these Q&A and the questions that you these Q&A and the questions that you these Q&A and the questions that you guys ask are so cool and they really guys ask are so cool and they really guys ask are so cool and they really I'm proud to have you as an audience and I'm proud to have you as an audience and I'm proud to have you as an audience and that's it. I'll stop [ __ ] goring and venting all over you. I goring and venting all over you. I appreciate you. Chris.com/valentine appreciate you. Chris.com/valentine appreciate you. Chris.com/valentine if you want to get some questions to if you want to get some questions to if you want to get some questions to connect with your partner or make connect with your partner or make connect with your partner or make yourself squirm. Chris Williamson.Live yourself squirm. Chris Williamson.Live yourself squirm. Chris Williamson.Live for the tour stuff. Mostly Wise merch is for the tour stuff. Mostly Wise merch is for the tour stuff. Mostly Wise merch is going to be coming out soon. going to be coming out soon. going to be coming out soon. Lots of episodes coming up. New studio Lots of episodes coming up. New studio Lots of episodes coming up. New studio Australia people. All right. I love you Australia people. All right. I love you Australia people. All right. I love you all. Bye.