Q&A: Becoming A Dad, Health Update & Favourite Peptides

Hello friends, welcome back to the show. Hello friends, welcome back to the show. It is another Q&A episode and as is It is another Q&A episode and as is It is another Q&A episode and as is tradition, I've asked for questions from tradition, I've asked for questions from tradition, I've asked for questions from Twitter and YouTube community and Twitter and YouTube community and Twitter and YouTube community and Instagram, but I also know that you guys Instagram, but I also know that you guys Instagram, but I also know that you guys have wanted more Q&As's. With that in have wanted more Q&As's. With that in have wanted more Q&As's. With that in mind, if you go to mind, if you go to mind, if you go to chriswilix.com/stories, chriswilix.com/stories, chriswilix.com/stories, you can submit any story, question, life you can submit any story, question, life you can submit any story, question, life hack, problem that you're dealing with. hack, problem that you're dealing with. hack, problem that you're dealing with. You can even submit a voicemail and I am You can even submit a voicemail and I am You can even submit a voicemail and I am going to use that to speak to guests. going to use that to speak to guests. going to use that to speak to guests. I'm actually going to put some of these I'm actually going to put some of these I'm actually going to put some of these stories across to guests. Maybe if you stories across to guests. Maybe if you stories across to guests. Maybe if you submit some business nightmare that submit some business nightmare that submit some business nightmare that you're going through at the moment, Alex you're going through at the moment, Alex you're going through at the moment, Alex Hormosi will react to it, or Jimmy Carr Hormosi will react to it, or Jimmy Carr Hormosi will react to it, or Jimmy Carr can roast your most recent horrible can roast your most recent horrible can roast your most recent horrible first date. Chriswlex.com/stories, first date. Chriswlex.com/stories, first date. Chriswlex.com/stories, that's always going to be open. But if that's always going to be open. But if that's always going to be open. But if you dump them in straight away, maybe you dump them in straight away, maybe you dump them in straight away, maybe you'll get to be on one of the first you'll get to be on one of the first you'll get to be on one of the first episodes that we do this with. So, episodes that we do this with. So, episodes that we do this with. So, that's always on, but [snorts] given that's always on, but [snorts] given that's always on, but [snorts] given that it's a Q&A episode, let's get into that it's a Q&A episode, let's get into that it's a Q&A episode, let's get into it. Bryson Rebels, many of us are it. Bryson Rebels, many of us are it. Bryson Rebels, many of us are becoming sick of the self-improvement becoming sick of the self-improvement becoming sick of the self-improvement space. What's your take on this, dude? space. What's your take on this, dude? space. What's your take on this, dude? I've been feeling this murmuring for a I've been feeling this murmuring for a I've been feeling this murmuring for a while. I licked my finger and put it in while. I licked my finger and put it in while. I licked my finger and put it in the air and I felt the winds are the air and I felt the winds are the air and I felt the winds are changing. I don't know what it's due to. changing. I don't know what it's due to. changing. I don't know what it's due to. Maybe it's an uncertain future, AI Maybe it's an uncertain future, AI Maybe it's an uncertain future, AI coming to take everybody's jobs, coming to take everybody's jobs, coming to take everybody's jobs, geopolitical uncertainty, but I know geopolitical uncertainty, but I know geopolitical uncertainty, but I know exactly what you mean. There is this exactly what you mean. There is this exactly what you mean. There is this like self-improvement fatigue that a lot like self-improvement fatigue that a lot like self-improvement fatigue that a lot of people are dealing with, and also of people are dealing with, and also of people are dealing with, and also very grind sloppy content of [ __ ] your very grind sloppy content of [ __ ] your very grind sloppy content of [ __ ] your feelings, just work harder. A lot of the feelings, just work harder. A lot of the feelings, just work harder. A lot of the time that feels like burden, uh, time that feels like burden, uh, time that feels like burden, uh, homework, uh, overwhelm, and I think homework, uh, overwhelm, and I think homework, uh, overwhelm, and I think people, they just need a little bit of a people, they just need a little bit of a people, they just need a little bit of a break. One of the reasons that I'm doing break. One of the reasons that I'm doing break. One of the reasons that I'm doing more roundt episodes and just hangs with more roundt episodes and just hangs with more roundt episodes and just hangs with the boys is I kind of feel like that the boys is I kind of feel like that the boys is I kind of feel like that sneaks some of the self-improvement sneaks some of the self-improvement sneaks some of the self-improvement desire in, but in a rapper that doesn't desire in, but in a rapper that doesn't desire in, but in a rapper that doesn't make you feel so much like it's a a task make you feel so much like it's a a task make you feel so much like it's a a task that you have to complete, like another that you have to complete, like another that you have to complete, like another to-do list. Sometimes you listen to a to-do list. Sometimes you listen to a to-do list. Sometimes you listen to a podcast and you're like, "That's so podcast and you're like, "That's so podcast and you're like, "That's so amazing." But you feel guilty because amazing." But you feel guilty because amazing." But you feel guilty because you haven't made Anky flashcards or put you haven't made Anky flashcards or put you haven't made Anky flashcards or put a ton of notes down in your Apple notes a ton of notes down in your Apple notes a ton of notes down in your Apple notes for it. And yeah, I another interesting for it. And yeah, I another interesting for it. And yeah, I another interesting insight I learned was that in 2020, the insight I learned was that in 2020, the insight I learned was that in 2020, the biggest financial niches were all slow biggest financial niches were all slow biggest financial niches were all slow investment, 401k, dollar cost averaging, investment, 401k, dollar cost averaging, investment, 401k, dollar cost averaging, S&P. And this year, over the last 12 S&P. And this year, over the last 12 S&P. And this year, over the last 12 months, the biggest financial niches months, the biggest financial niches months, the biggest financial niches have all been get-richqu uh make money have all been get-richqu uh make money have all been get-richqu uh make money in no time, Cali Poly Market, like vibe in no time, Cali Poly Market, like vibe in no time, Cali Poly Market, like vibe betting your way to a quick million betting your way to a quick million betting your way to a quick million dollars. And I wonder whether this dollars. And I wonder whether this dollars. And I wonder whether this shorttermist shorttermist shorttermist change is sort of contributing to this change is sort of contributing to this change is sort of contributing to this desire to maybe not think so desire to maybe not think so desire to maybe not think so long-termism from a self-improvement long-termism from a self-improvement long-termism from a self-improvement standpoint. I don't know. But I I feel standpoint. I don't know. But I I feel standpoint. I don't know. But I I feel it and I'm trying to create the balance. it and I'm trying to create the balance. it and I'm trying to create the balance. The show has always been about helping The show has always been about helping The show has always been about helping people to understand themselves and the people to understand themselves and the people to understand themselves and the world around them, but also delivering world around them, but also delivering world around them, but also delivering that in a way that's like ah I can just that in a way that's like ah I can just that in a way that's like ah I can just sit back and relax. Like the episode sit back and relax. Like the episode sit back and relax. Like the episode with Alex Pekkas like two two and a half with Alex Pekkas like two two and a half with Alex Pekkas like two two and a half hours about the Odyssey is straight hours about the Odyssey is straight hours about the Odyssey is straight fire. like you you don't need to fire. like you you don't need to fire. like you you don't need to remember anything that he said. You can remember anything that he said. You can remember anything that he said. You can just sit back and enjoy an amazing just sit back and enjoy an amazing just sit back and enjoy an amazing retelling of the Odyssey by a guy with a retelling of the Odyssey by a guy with a retelling of the Odyssey by a guy with a beautiful voice for two and a half hours beautiful voice for two and a half hours beautiful voice for two and a half hours and be like, "Ah, I don't feel like I and be like, "Ah, I don't feel like I and be like, "Ah, I don't feel like I wasted my time. I do feel like I learned wasted my time. I do feel like I learned wasted my time. I do feel like I learned a lot, but I don't feel now like I'm a lot, but I don't feel now like I'm a lot, but I don't feel now like I'm obliged to go and change my entire life obliged to go and change my entire life obliged to go and change my entire life in future." Um, I'm going to keep on in future." Um, I'm going to keep on in future." Um, I'm going to keep on trying to walk that line. I'm glad that trying to walk that line. I'm glad that trying to walk that line. I'm glad that you brought it up. I I think a lot of you brought it up. I I think a lot of you brought it up. I I think a lot of people, like even me, like even I'm people, like even me, like even I'm people, like even me, like even I'm feeling this way, right? I'm the tip of feeling this way, right? I'm the tip of feeling this way, right? I'm the tip of the [ __ ] spear of this stuff. So, I'm the [ __ ] spear of this stuff. So, I'm the [ __ ] spear of this stuff. So, I'm going to try and help as best I can. going to try and help as best I can. going to try and help as best I can. Yander 03X, how do you know when it's Yander 03X, how do you know when it's Yander 03X, how do you know when it's time to break up with your partner? I'm time to break up with your partner? I'm time to break up with your partner? I'm currently in a relationship with someone currently in a relationship with someone currently in a relationship with someone who has a really good work ethic and is who has a really good work ethic and is who has a really good work ethic and is constantly busy chasing his dreams, constantly busy chasing his dreams, constantly busy chasing his dreams, which kind of leaves me feeling lonely which kind of leaves me feeling lonely which kind of leaves me feeling lonely 90% of the time. I want to be 90% of the time. I want to be 90% of the time. I want to be supportive, but it is hard to be when supportive, but it is hard to be when supportive, but it is hard to be when you are constantly questioning whether you are constantly questioning whether you are constantly questioning whether your partner still wants this, or if he your partner still wants this, or if he your partner still wants this, or if he is using busy as an excuse to not spend is using busy as an excuse to not spend is using busy as an excuse to not spend time with you. [sighs] time with you. [sighs] time with you. [sighs] Well, I'm sorry that you're going Well, I'm sorry that you're going Well, I'm sorry that you're going through that. I through that. I through that. I It kind of doesn't matter whether he It kind of doesn't matter whether he It kind of doesn't matter whether he still wants this or is using busy still wants this or is using busy still wants this or is using busy because either way, you still feel because either way, you still feel because either way, you still feel lonely 90% of the time. I don't think lonely 90% of the time. I don't think lonely 90% of the time. I don't think that you should be trying to use your that you should be trying to use your that you should be trying to use your brain to convince your heart and your brain to convince your heart and your brain to convince your heart and your gut and your body and your emotions that gut and your body and your emotions that gut and your body and your emotions that you feel a different way to the way that you feel a different way to the way that you feel a different way to the way that you feel. So much of relationships, you feel. So much of relationships, you feel. So much of relationships, especially uncertainty around leaving especially uncertainty around leaving especially uncertainty around leaving relationships, is you trying to convince relationships, is you trying to convince relationships, is you trying to convince yourself that not feeling good is okay. yourself that not feeling good is okay. yourself that not feeling good is okay. Well, look at all of the reasons why I Well, look at all of the reasons why I Well, look at all of the reasons why I should be okay. He's got a great work should be okay. He's got a great work should be okay. He's got a great work ethic. He's chasing his dreams, you ethic. He's chasing his dreams, you ethic. He's chasing his dreams, you know, and yet I feel lonely. Like, this know, and yet I feel lonely. Like, this know, and yet I feel lonely. Like, this presumably is a guy that's reliable and presumably is a guy that's reliable and presumably is a guy that's reliable and and and hardworking and stuff. All of and and hardworking and stuff. All of and and hardworking and stuff. All of these things are great, but you feel these things are great, but you feel these things are great, but you feel lonely 90% of the time. I I don't know lonely 90% of the time. I I don't know lonely 90% of the time. I I don't know what else to say other than that's not what else to say other than that's not what else to say other than that's not what a a happy relationship is supposed what a a happy relationship is supposed what a a happy relationship is supposed to feel like. You're not supposed to to feel like. You're not supposed to to feel like. You're not supposed to feel lonely 90% of the time. And feel lonely 90% of the time. And feel lonely 90% of the time. And you can try and bet on a future where you can try and bet on a future where you can try and bet on a future where his [snorts] ambition fuel runs out. But his [snorts] ambition fuel runs out. But his [snorts] ambition fuel runs out. But you're basically in love with the you're basically in love with the you're basically in love with the potential of someone as opposed to who potential of someone as opposed to who potential of someone as opposed to who they actually are if you do that. And I they actually are if you do that. And I they actually are if you do that. And I think that's a a reliable way to be think that's a a reliable way to be think that's a a reliable way to be pretty miserable. Like you, happiness pretty miserable. Like you, happiness pretty miserable. Like you, happiness can't exist when you want things to be can't exist when you want things to be can't exist when you want things to be different. And that means that if you're different. And that means that if you're different. And that means that if you're permanently thinking, I wish I had more permanently thinking, I wish I had more permanently thinking, I wish I had more time with him. I wish that he was home time with him. I wish that he was home time with him. I wish that he was home more. I'm worried about what the future more. I'm worried about what the future more. I'm worried about what the future holds because maybe he's not going to holds because maybe he's not going to holds because maybe he's not going to change and this is going to be my life change and this is going to be my life change and this is going to be my life for the rest of time. Like that is not a for the rest of time. Like that is not a for the rest of time. Like that is not a conducive environment to you being the conducive environment to you being the conducive environment to you being the best partner to him. You feeling whole best partner to him. You feeling whole best partner to him. You feeling whole and being able to focus on yourself. If and being able to focus on yourself. If and being able to focus on yourself. If you're pining after this guy who isn't you're pining after this guy who isn't you're pining after this guy who isn't there, that's not the way that you're there, that's not the way that you're there, that's not the way that you're supposed to feel. Um, I actually have a supposed to feel. Um, I actually have a supposed to feel. Um, I actually have a list of 25 questions to work out whether list of 25 questions to work out whether list of 25 questions to work out whether you should break up with someone or not. you should break up with someone or not. you should break up with someone or not. And that's at And that's at And that's at chriswill.com/valentine/valentine, I think. And um maybe that'll help. But I think. And um maybe that'll help. But I can save you the time of having to go I can save you the time of having to go I can save you the time of having to go and download all of those, although they and download all of those, although they and download all of those, although they are great. And just say if you feel are great. And just say if you feel are great. And just say if you feel lonely 90% of the time, that is not how lonely 90% of the time, that is not how lonely 90% of the time, that is not how a relationship is supposed to feel. And a relationship is supposed to feel. And a relationship is supposed to feel. And it shouldn't be your job as someone it shouldn't be your job as someone it shouldn't be your job as someone who's who's who's obviously in this and really trying and obviously in this and really trying and obviously in this and really trying and wanting to make it work. To convince wanting to make it work. To convince wanting to make it work. To convince yourself to feel a way that you don't yourself to feel a way that you don't yourself to feel a way that you don't feel like you you simply can't do that. feel like you you simply can't do that. feel like you you simply can't do that. You feel the way that you do. So, I You feel the way that you do. So, I You feel the way that you do. So, I think a good piece of advice would be to think a good piece of advice would be to think a good piece of advice would be to sit him down and say, "Hey, look, I feel sit him down and say, "Hey, look, I feel sit him down and say, "Hey, look, I feel lonely almost all the time, and I lonely almost all the time, and I lonely almost all the time, and I understand that you're chasing your understand that you're chasing your understand that you're chasing your dreams at the moment, but your dreams dreams at the moment, but your dreams dreams at the moment, but your dreams are kind of my nightmare, and if that's are kind of my nightmare, and if that's are kind of my nightmare, and if that's the case, you need to choose one or the the case, you need to choose one or the the case, you need to choose one or the other. Um, I I deserve to feel better other. Um, I I deserve to feel better other. Um, I I deserve to feel better than this, and if that doesn't work for than this, and if that doesn't work for than this, and if that doesn't work for you, I'm going to be really sad, but I you, I'm going to be really sad, but I you, I'm going to be really sad, but I need to prioritize me." So, that's how need to prioritize me." So, that's how need to prioritize me." So, that's how it is. Like that is you just drawing an it is. Like that is you just drawing an it is. Like that is you just drawing an incredibly incredibly incredibly fair, bright boundary around yourself. fair, bright boundary around yourself. fair, bright boundary around yourself. And And And romantic discernment is a kind of romantic discernment is a kind of romantic discernment is a kind of preventative healthc care that we should preventative healthc care that we should preventative healthc care that we should all be undertaking. And at the moment, all be undertaking. And at the moment, all be undertaking. And at the moment, it seems like you're in a situation that it seems like you're in a situation that it seems like you're in a situation that is is really tough. And um because you is is really tough. And um because you is is really tough. And um because you love someone and and you're going to be love someone and and you're going to be love someone and and you're going to be attracted to their ambition as well, attracted to their ambition as well, attracted to their ambition as well, that's great. But you shouldn't be that's great. But you shouldn't be that's great. But you shouldn't be feeding on the scraps relationally of feeding on the scraps relationally of feeding on the scraps relationally of what is left over after somebody does what is left over after somebody does what is left over after somebody does something else. And if they say, "Well, something else. And if they say, "Well, something else. And if they say, "Well, you got into this relationship with me. you got into this relationship with me. you got into this relationship with me. You you knew what you were getting into. You you knew what you were getting into. You you knew what you were getting into. You knew that I was ambitious before we You knew that I was ambitious before we You knew that I was ambitious before we got started." You go, "That's true, but got started." You go, "That's true, but got started." You go, "That's true, but just because I wanted it then doesn't just because I wanted it then doesn't just because I wanted it then doesn't mean that I need to continue putting up mean that I need to continue putting up mean that I need to continue putting up with it now." I hope that helps. with it now." I hope that helps. with it now." I hope that helps. J Cass 3586. J Cass 3586. J Cass 3586. During your Achilles rupture, what was During your Achilles rupture, what was During your Achilles rupture, what was your mental state and how was your your mental state and how was your your mental state and how was your comeback to full duty? comeback to full duty? comeback to full duty? Yeah. So, for the people that didn't Yeah. So, for the people that didn't Yeah. So, for the people that didn't know, I can't there's no way I can't my know, I can't there's no way I can't my know, I can't there's no way I can't my I don't have the I don't have the I don't have the I don't have the I don't have the I don't have the bendiness to be able to show you my bendiness to be able to show you my bendiness to be able to show you my foot. But I I swear that I fully foot. But I I swear that I fully foot. But I I swear that I fully detached my Achilles playing cricket, detached my Achilles playing cricket, detached my Achilles playing cricket, which is like the most British way to do which is like the most British way to do which is like the most British way to do it uh in the middle of 2020, [snorts] it uh in the middle of 2020, [snorts] it uh in the middle of 2020, [snorts] it sucked. But I have to be honest, it sucked. But I have to be honest, it sucked. But I have to be honest, doing a probably the single worst doing a probably the single worst doing a probably the single worst physical injury that you can get, like physical injury that you can get, like physical injury that you can get, like common, moderately common, I think one common, moderately common, I think one common, moderately common, I think one in 5,000 people's ruptured their in 5,000 people's ruptured their in 5,000 people's ruptured their Achilles. It's a full 12-month rehab. Achilles. It's a full 12-month rehab. Achilles. It's a full 12-month rehab. Doing that during a pandemic is about as Doing that during a pandemic is about as Doing that during a pandemic is about as good of a time as you can. There's never good of a time as you can. There's never good of a time as you can. There's never a good time to rupture your Achilles. a good time to rupture your Achilles. a good time to rupture your Achilles. However, if you're going to do it, do it However, if you're going to do it, do it However, if you're going to do it, do it during a pandemic because you don't feel during a pandemic because you don't feel during a pandemic because you don't feel like you're missing out on anything. The like you're missing out on anything. The like you're missing out on anything. The world's not moving forward without you. world's not moving forward without you. world's not moving forward without you. There's no plans that you have to say no There's no plans that you have to say no There's no plans that you have to say no to. There's no temptation to do anything to. There's no temptation to do anything to. There's no temptation to do anything other than I'm going to spend I I other than I'm going to spend I I other than I'm going to spend I I an hour every single morning for all the an hour every single morning for all the an hour every single morning for all the talk talking about grind slop and like talk talking about grind slop and like talk talking about grind slop and like how cringe productivity culture has how cringe productivity culture has how cringe productivity culture has become now. I had a 1h hour morning become now. I had a 1h hour morning become now. I had a 1h hour morning routine that was just rehabbing my routine that was just rehabbing my routine that was just rehabbing my Achilles. And the only reason that I Achilles. And the only reason that I Achilles. And the only reason that I have full capacity in my Achilles now, have full capacity in my Achilles now, have full capacity in my Achilles now, full mobility and full strength is full mobility and full strength is full mobility and full strength is because I was so diligent with it. So, because I was so diligent with it. So, because I was so diligent with it. So, you know, chalk one up for the [ __ ] you know, chalk one up for the [ __ ] you know, chalk one up for the [ __ ] autistic productivity, bros. That's what autistic productivity, bros. That's what autistic productivity, bros. That's what I say. That being said, mental state, it I say. That being said, mental state, it I say. That being said, mental state, it was tough because you have to lay up for was tough because you have to lay up for was tough because you have to lay up for a long time. There is nothing you can a long time. There is nothing you can a long time. There is nothing you can do. You can't speed up the first two to do. You can't speed up the first two to do. You can't speed up the first two to 3 months of recovery. The worst period 3 months of recovery. The worst period 3 months of recovery. The worst period was after it had happened was after it had happened was after it had happened and before I had the surgery because you and before I had the surgery because you and before I had the surgery because you can't put any weight on your leg and you can't put any weight on your leg and you can't put any weight on your leg and you know that you're not even waiting. know that you're not even waiting. know that you're not even waiting. You're not waiting for the thing to get You're not waiting for the thing to get You're not waiting for the thing to get better. you're waiting for the thing to better. you're waiting for the thing to better. you're waiting for the thing to begin getting better. And it was 13 days begin getting better. And it was 13 days begin getting better. And it was 13 days from when it ruptured to when I got the from when it ruptured to when I got the from when it ruptured to when I got the the the surgery. And by that time, I'm the the surgery. And by that time, I'm the the surgery. And by that time, I'm not kidding, my leg had got a third it not kidding, my leg had got a third it not kidding, my leg had got a third it was 2/3 the size of what it was was 2/3 the size of what it was was 2/3 the size of what it was normally. My quad had completely normally. My quad had completely normally. My quad had completely disintegrated. My lower leg had disintegrated. My lower leg had disintegrated. My lower leg had completely disintegrated because I completely disintegrated because I completely disintegrated because I haven't put any weight on it for all haven't put any weight on it for all haven't put any weight on it for all that time. It is mad. You know, when you that time. It is mad. You know, when you that time. It is mad. You know, when you see people in wheelchairs and you go, see people in wheelchairs and you go, see people in wheelchairs and you go, "Wow, like their legs look so skinny." "Wow, like their legs look so skinny." "Wow, like their legs look so skinny." People that are are wheelchair bound, People that are are wheelchair bound, People that are are wheelchair bound, God, their legs look so skinny. Like God, their legs look so skinny. Like God, their legs look so skinny. Like that's so strange to see someone who's that's so strange to see someone who's that's so strange to see someone who's their legs have atrophied so much. It their legs have atrophied so much. It their legs have atrophied so much. It doesn't take it took less than 2 weeks doesn't take it took less than 2 weeks doesn't take it took less than 2 weeks for me to look down at the difference for me to look down at the difference for me to look down at the difference between my left leg, which was getting a between my left leg, which was getting a between my left leg, which was getting a lot of work cuz I was hopping around lot of work cuz I was hopping around lot of work cuz I was hopping around everywhere, my right leg, which was everywhere, my right leg, which was everywhere, my right leg, which was getting zero work, and go, "Oh, that's getting zero work, and go, "Oh, that's getting zero work, and go, "Oh, that's that is terrifying. It is absolutely that is terrifying. It is absolutely that is terrifying. It is absolutely unreal." Um, other stuff I did that unreal." Um, other stuff I did that unreal." Um, other stuff I did that really helped, I read The Obstacle is really helped, I read The Obstacle is really helped, I read The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holidayiday. I read The the Way by Ryan Holidayiday. I read The the Way by Ryan Holidayiday. I read The Art of Resilience by Ross Edgely, and I Art of Resilience by Ross Edgely, and I Art of Resilience by Ross Edgely, and I watched uh Resurfaced, which is a Amazon watched uh Resurfaced, which is a Amazon watched uh Resurfaced, which is a Amazon Prime documentary about Andy Murray's Prime documentary about Andy Murray's Prime documentary about Andy Murray's hip replacement. All of these were hip replacement. All of these were hip replacement. All of these were suggested by friends who'd been through suggested by friends who'd been through suggested by friends who'd been through other horrendous injuries and come back other horrendous injuries and come back other horrendous injuries and come back from it. You really do need to galvanize from it. You really do need to galvanize from it. You really do need to galvanize like everything. ancestral wisdom, like everything. ancestral wisdom, like everything. ancestral wisdom, ancestral trauma, pray to like whatever ancestral trauma, pray to like whatever ancestral trauma, pray to like whatever you need to because if you've got a you need to because if you've got a you need to because if you've got a 12-month recovery, you know, [ __ ] 12-month recovery, you know, [ __ ] 12-month recovery, you know, [ __ ] McGregor McGregor for him to come back McGregor McGregor for him to come back McGregor McGregor for him to come back like he is going to have to be so locked like he is going to have to be so locked like he is going to have to be so locked in. Um, it was tough. That being said, I in. Um, it was tough. That being said, I in. Um, it was tough. That being said, I made a special podcast recording setup made a special podcast recording setup made a special podcast recording setup where my foot was elevated above my where my foot was elevated above my where my foot was elevated above my heart and I put the laptop down on my heart and I put the laptop down on my heart and I put the laptop down on my crotch that I don't know what episode crotch that I don't know what episode crotch that I don't know what episode that is. It was around about the Gad Sad that is. It was around about the Gad Sad that is. It was around about the Gad Sad episode in the back end of 2020. And you episode in the back end of 2020. And you episode in the back end of 2020. And you can see it's like full [ __ ] angle can see it's like full [ __ ] angle can see it's like full [ __ ] angle just crotch to face and then the mic arm just crotch to face and then the mic arm just crotch to face and then the mic arm came in. So I kept going and I'm really came in. So I kept going and I'm really came in. So I kept going and I'm really glad that I did. But I don't I really glad that I did. But I don't I really glad that I did. But I don't I really hope that I don't rupture the other hope that I don't rupture the other hope that I don't rupture the other Achilles or this one again. I'd be that Achilles or this one again. I'd be that Achilles or this one again. I'd be that would be I'd be tres sad. Barrett W. I would be I'd be tres sad. Barrett W. I would be I'd be tres sad. Barrett W. I accidentally looked at the dude's butt accidentally looked at the dude's butt accidentally looked at the dude's butt today and I was wondering if I'm gay today and I was wondering if I'm gay today and I was wondering if I'm gay now. now. now. I actually think that that's how they I actually think that that's how they I actually think that that's how they get you. Do you remember in school where get you. Do you remember in school where get you. Do you remember in school where you'd say, "Hey, look down here." and you'd say, "Hey, look down here." and you'd say, "Hey, look down here." and you'd actually have your hand like that you'd actually have your hand like that you'd actually have your hand like that and that meant that they could punch you and that meant that they could punch you and that meant that they could punch you in the arm. I think that this is how in the arm. I think that this is how in the arm. I think that this is how people become gay. It's by accidentally people become gay. It's by accidentally people become gay. It's by accidentally looking at another dude's butt. So, uh, looking at another dude's butt. So, uh, looking at another dude's butt. So, uh, yes, you are. And Tim Dylan and Douglas yes, you are. And Tim Dylan and Douglas yes, you are. And Tim Dylan and Douglas Murray are on their way to your house Murray are on their way to your house Murray are on their way to your house right now. That's what's going on. right now. That's what's going on. right now. That's what's going on. Anonymous Anonymous Anonymous 12835, 12835, 12835, are we getting more debate episodes? And are we getting more debate episodes? And are we getting more debate episodes? And what is the next one going to be about? what is the next one going to be about? what is the next one going to be about? Yes, you are. And the next one is going Yes, you are. And the next one is going Yes, you are. And the next one is going to be about AI. So, it's Zack Cass, who to be about AI. So, it's Zack Cass, who to be about AI. So, it's Zack Cass, who is pro, Liv Bereie, who is uh moderately is pro, Liv Bereie, who is uh moderately is pro, Liv Bereie, who is uh moderately skeptical, and Aric uh from 80,000 skeptical, and Aric uh from 80,000 skeptical, and Aric uh from 80,000 hours, who is quite skeptical, and I'm hours, who is quite skeptical, and I'm hours, who is quite skeptical, and I'm fired up for this. I think lots of fired up for this. I think lots of fired up for this. I think lots of people having lots of conversations people having lots of conversations people having lots of conversations about AI. Lots of them seem to be very about AI. Lots of them seem to be very about AI. Lots of them seem to be very entry level or incredibly technical. And entry level or incredibly technical. And entry level or incredibly technical. And I'm going to see if these guys can I'm going to see if these guys can I'm going to see if these guys can bridge that gap so that no matter where bridge that gap so that no matter where bridge that gap so that no matter where you're at on the AI pill understanding you're at on the AI pill understanding you're at on the AI pill understanding debate, you can get you can get a really debate, you can get you can get a really debate, you can get you can get a really good insight in a single episode. So good insight in a single episode. So good insight in a single episode. So that one's going to be on I wanted to do that one's going to be on I wanted to do that one's going to be on I wanted to do one about geopolitics, a huge one about one about geopolitics, a huge one about one about geopolitics, a huge one about what's going to happen with the future what's going to happen with the future what's going to happen with the future of geopolitics. I'm trying to find the of geopolitics. I'm trying to find the of geopolitics. I'm trying to find the right crew to put together for that. right crew to put together for that. right crew to put together for that. Professor Jang is maybe one. I'd love to Professor Jang is maybe one. I'd love to Professor Jang is maybe one. I'd love to bring Peter Zion on. Like my dream would bring Peter Zion on. Like my dream would bring Peter Zion on. Like my dream would be Bali, Zion, and Professor Jang, but be Bali, Zion, and Professor Jang, but be Bali, Zion, and Professor Jang, but Biology is locked down in Singapore and Biology is locked down in Singapore and Biology is locked down in Singapore and Zian's traveling all summer, so I'm kind Zian's traveling all summer, so I'm kind Zian's traveling all summer, so I'm kind of screwed on that. Maybe Eric of screwed on that. Maybe Eric of screwed on that. Maybe Eric Weinstein. I don't know. Um, yes. Answer Weinstein. I don't know. Um, yes. Answer Weinstein. I don't know. Um, yes. Answer is yes. Next one's going to be about AI is yes. Next one's going to be about AI is yes. Next one's going to be about AI and I'll keep on cranking more as I can. and I'll keep on cranking more as I can. and I'll keep on cranking more as I can. Max Forbzo, is there any opener for your Max Forbzo, is there any opener for your Max Forbzo, is there any opener for your show in Dublin? Got VIP tickets. Can't show in Dublin? Got VIP tickets. Can't show in Dublin? Got VIP tickets. Can't wait to see the show. Yes, there is. wait to see the show. Yes, there is. wait to see the show. Yes, there is. Haven't announced him yet, but there is. Haven't announced him yet, but there is. Haven't announced him yet, but there is. And And And when will I be I'll be announcing that when will I be I'll be announcing that when will I be I'll be announcing that some point soon. However, if you want to some point soon. However, if you want to some point soon. However, if you want to come and see me in the UK and Ireland, come and see me in the UK and Ireland, come and see me in the UK and Ireland, tickets are available now. They're very tickets are available now. They're very tickets are available now. They're very limited everywhere. Dublin's sold out. limited everywhere. Dublin's sold out. limited everywhere. Dublin's sold out. So, congratulations, Max, for getting So, congratulations, Max, for getting So, congratulations, Max, for getting tickets. But Chris Williamson.live, all tickets. But Chris Williamson.live, all tickets. But Chris Williamson.live, all of the tickets are available on there as of the tickets are available on there as of the tickets are available on there as they are limited. Edinburgh is October they are limited. Edinburgh is October they are limited. Edinburgh is October 11th and then we've got 10 or 12 dates 11th and then we've got 10 or 12 dates 11th and then we've got 10 or 12 dates around the UK and Ireland. And I can't around the UK and Ireland. And I can't around the UK and Ireland. And I can't wait. I'm so fired up. We sold out wait. I'm so fired up. We sold out wait. I'm so fired up. We sold out everywhere in Australia. The new show, everywhere in Australia. The new show, everywhere in Australia. The new show, Mostly Wise, [ __ ] rules. I really Mostly Wise, [ __ ] rules. I really Mostly Wise, [ __ ] rules. I really enjoy it. There's Q&A, there's meet and enjoy it. There's Q&A, there's meet and enjoy it. There's Q&A, there's meet and greet, there's definitely some surprises greet, there's definitely some surprises greet, there's definitely some surprises in there as well. And also, if you've in there as well. And also, if you've in there as well. And also, if you've already got tickets to see me live in already got tickets to see me live in already got tickets to see me live in the UK and Ireland, or if you're going the UK and Ireland, or if you're going the UK and Ireland, or if you're going to get them, head to to get them, head to to get them, head to chriswillson.live/stories, and you can submit either the worst and you can submit either the worst first date you've ever been on, a first date you've ever been on, a first date you've ever been on, a problem you're dealing with, or a life problem you're dealing with, or a life problem you're dealing with, or a life hack that no one knows about that hack that no one knows about that hack that no one knows about that everybody should. And I'm going to be everybody should. And I'm going to be everybody should. And I'm going to be choosing some of those and bringing choosing some of those and bringing choosing some of those and bringing people up on stage to discuss them. people up on stage to discuss them. people up on stage to discuss them. Like, why? Like, what is this? Why is Like, why? Like, what is this? Why is Like, why? Like, what is this? Why is it? Please explain to me what the [ __ ] I it? Please explain to me what the [ __ ] I it? Please explain to me what the [ __ ] I just read out from this card in front of just read out from this card in front of just read out from this card in front of me. So, chrisson.live/stories. me. So, chrisson.live/stories. me. So, chrisson.live/stories. You can pick the date that you're going You can pick the date that you're going You can pick the date that you're going to submit as much or as little as you to submit as much or as little as you to submit as much or as little as you want. And um some of you are going to be want. And um some of you are going to be want. And um some of you are going to be a part of the show when I go on tour. a part of the show when I go on tour. a part of the show when I go on tour. So, So, So, God help all of the people in Newcastle. God help all of the people in Newcastle. God help all of the people in Newcastle. Arthur Gami Chris, why does your hair Arthur Gami Chris, why does your hair Arthur Gami Chris, why does your hair keep changing? Reliably hair grows. I have the Reliably hair grows. I have the felicular constitution of a golden felicular constitution of a golden felicular constitution of a golden doodle. And doodle. And doodle. And this is this this is what happens. This this is this this is what happens. This this is this this is what happens. This is what happens. I had long hair at the is what happens. I had long hair at the is what happens. I had long hair at the start of the year. I shaved it off. I've start of the year. I shaved it off. I've start of the year. I shaved it off. I've got long hair again. Long for me. Uh I got long hair again. Long for me. Uh I got long hair again. Long for me. Uh I haven't subjected you to the afro yet. I haven't subjected you to the afro yet. I haven't subjected you to the afro yet. I think that's probably a gift to humanity think that's probably a gift to humanity think that's probably a gift to humanity to not make people look at that. But um to not make people look at that. But um to not make people look at that. But um I only have two hairstyles. Very short I only have two hairstyles. Very short I only have two hairstyles. Very short or curly. That's it. Your pokey dad. or curly. That's it. Your pokey dad. or curly. That's it. Your pokey dad. your Pokedad started reading Red Rising your Pokedad started reading Red Rising your Pokedad started reading Red Rising after seeing recommendations from after seeing recommendations from after seeing recommendations from multiple sources, yours included. Can multiple sources, yours included. Can multiple sources, yours included. Can you do an episode just on this or does you do an episode just on this or does you do an episode just on this or does that exist already? Uh, Red Rising, I that exist already? Uh, Red Rising, I that exist already? Uh, Red Rising, I think I might be the biggest front end think I might be the biggest front end think I might be the biggest front end of the funnel drug dealer for people of the funnel drug dealer for people of the funnel drug dealer for people getting into Red Rising, except for the getting into Red Rising, except for the getting into Red Rising, except for the author, maybe because it's the top of author, maybe because it's the top of author, maybe because it's the top of the reading list. Chris.com/books. the reading list. Chris.com/books. the reading list. Chris.com/books. It's like my one of my favorite fiction It's like my one of my favorite fiction It's like my one of my favorite fiction books, if not my favorite fiction series books, if not my favorite fiction series books, if not my favorite fiction series of all time. It absolutely [ __ ] of all time. It absolutely [ __ ] of all time. It absolutely [ __ ] rules. Pierce and me texted a couple of rules. Pierce and me texted a couple of rules. Pierce and me texted a couple of weeks ago. I checked in to see how weeks ago. I checked in to see how weeks ago. I checked in to see how writing was going. And I think his writing was going. And I think his writing was going. And I think his response was, response was, response was, "Writing a book is like playing golf "Writing a book is like playing golf "Writing a book is like playing golf except the holes are oases and the clubs except the holes are oases and the clubs except the holes are oases and the clubs are made of adders." are made of adders." are made of adders." I don't even know what that means. I I don't even know what that means. I I don't even know what that means. I have no idea what that means, but it was have no idea what that means, but it was have no idea what that means, but it was very entertaining. So, um, that's the very entertaining. So, um, that's the very entertaining. So, um, that's the insight from what PS Brown's camp has to insight from what PS Brown's camp has to insight from what PS Brown's camp has to say. He's going to come on the show. I'm say. He's going to come on the show. I'm say. He's going to come on the show. I'm going to say it now. Dungeon Crawler going to say it now. Dungeon Crawler going to say it now. Dungeon Crawler Call is Call is Call is very different to Red Rising, but as very different to Red Rising, but as very different to Red Rising, but as compelling, and I am so I'm so addicted compelling, and I am so I'm so addicted compelling, and I am so I'm so addicted to this series. So, if you've read Red to this series. So, if you've read Red to this series. So, if you've read Red Rising or you couldn't get into it or Rising or you couldn't get into it or Rising or you couldn't get into it or whatever and you need a different whatever and you need a different whatever and you need a different fantasy series, Dungeon Crawler Carl fantasy series, Dungeon Crawler Carl fantasy series, Dungeon Crawler Carl will rip your face off. It is It should will rip your face off. It is It should will rip your face off. It is It should come with a warning label. It is so come with a warning label. It is so come with a warning label. It is so [ __ ] good. And Matt Dineman, who [ __ ] good. And Matt Dineman, who [ __ ] good. And Matt Dineman, who writes Dungeon Crawler Carl, is also writes Dungeon Crawler Carl, is also writes Dungeon Crawler Carl, is also going to come on the show. We've been in going to come on the show. We've been in going to come on the show. We've been in touch. So, yeah, you're going to see touch. So, yeah, you're going to see touch. So, yeah, you're going to see some more fiction writers. My dream, my some more fiction writers. My dream, my some more fiction writers. My dream, my absolute dream round table would be absolute dream round table would be absolute dream round table would be Brandon Sanderson, Matt Dineman, and Brandon Sanderson, Matt Dineman, and Brandon Sanderson, Matt Dineman, and Pierce Brown. I think, oh my god. Or Pierce Brown. I think, oh my god. Or Pierce Brown. I think, oh my god. Or Patrick Rothus, I get like Patrick Rothus, I get like Patrick Rothus, I get like that [ __ ] gets me hard to think about that [ __ ] gets me hard to think about that [ __ ] gets me hard to think about those three men in a maybe maybe I those three men in a maybe maybe I those three men in a maybe maybe I looked at a guy's butt today. I don't looked at a guy's butt today. I don't looked at a guy's butt today. I don't know. Anyway, um there might be a Red know. Anyway, um there might be a Red know. Anyway, um there might be a Red Rising episode coming out soon. It'll Rising episode coming out soon. It'll Rising episode coming out soon. It'll probably be with Pierce Brown, but he probably be with Pierce Brown, but he probably be with Pierce Brown, but he has to write Red God first. Hold on, Ty. has to write Red God first. Hold on, Ty. has to write Red God first. Hold on, Ty. Curt Moon 6456. Curt Moon 6456. Curt Moon 6456. What belief once protected you but now What belief once protected you but now What belief once protected you but now confines you? confines you? confines you? [ __ ] me. That's a good question. What belief once protected you but now What belief once protected you but now confines you? Something like Something like on the side of caution. on the side of caution. on the side of caution. I think I think I think for a long time for a long time for a long time I I I highly scrutinized every decision highly scrutinized every decision highly scrutinized every decision and what that what that resulted in was and what that what that resulted in was and what that what that resulted in was me very rarely making mistakes. me very rarely making mistakes. me very rarely making mistakes. Businesses moved more slowly. I didn't I Businesses moved more slowly. I didn't I Businesses moved more slowly. I didn't I wasn't rash with life changes and that wasn't rash with life changes and that wasn't rash with life changes and that was great especially when I'm young was great especially when I'm young was great especially when I'm young because it avoided me making any silly because it avoided me making any silly because it avoided me making any silly mistakes when I maybe didn't have the mistakes when I maybe didn't have the mistakes when I maybe didn't have the ballast to be able to ride it out. Um ballast to be able to ride it out. Um ballast to be able to ride it out. Um it's interesting because people say that it's interesting because people say that it's interesting because people say that you can take more risk when you're you can take more risk when you're you can take more risk when you're younger, but you can actually withstand younger, but you can actually withstand younger, but you can actually withstand more risk when you're older. Like you've more risk when you're older. Like you've more risk when you're older. Like you've got more resources, more support, more got more resources, more support, more got more resources, more support, more experience, better contacts. Uh experience, better contacts. Uh experience, better contacts. Uh I think that that's one that's one that I think that that's one that's one that I think that that's one that's one that comes to mind. Uh certainly a belief comes to mind. Uh certainly a belief comes to mind. Uh certainly a belief that protected me for a long time that protected me for a long time that protected me for a long time are on the side of caution. Don't move are on the side of caution. Don't move are on the side of caution. Don't move too quickly. Don't be rash. Ensure that too quickly. Don't be rash. Ensure that too quickly. Don't be rash. Ensure that you understand the full ledger balance you understand the full ledger balance you understand the full ledger balance sheet of decisions before you go for it. sheet of decisions before you go for it. sheet of decisions before you go for it. But I read this line from Sasha Chapen But I read this line from Sasha Chapen But I read this line from Sasha Chapen earlier on today and he talks about how earlier on today and he talks about how earlier on today and he talks about how it's an intolerance for risk and what it's an intolerance for risk and what it's an intolerance for risk and what people call planning. a lot of the time people call planning. a lot of the time people call planning. a lot of the time is just catastrophe, fantasization. is just catastrophe, fantasization. is just catastrophe, fantasization. Like Like Like it's the publicly acceptable version of it's the publicly acceptable version of it's the publicly acceptable version of anxiety where if I plan enough for this anxiety where if I plan enough for this anxiety where if I plan enough for this thing, I'll understand exactly how this thing, I'll understand exactly how this thing, I'll understand exactly how this situation could unfold. Very careful. I situation could unfold. Very careful. I situation could unfold. Very careful. I make sure that I've got all of my ducks make sure that I've got all of my ducks make sure that I've got all of my ducks in a row and you know, boots are laced in a row and you know, boots are laced in a row and you know, boots are laced well. And you at some point that just well. And you at some point that just well. And you at some point that just becomes a protection mechanism from becomes a protection mechanism from becomes a protection mechanism from never taking on any risk. So yeah, I'm never taking on any risk. So yeah, I'm never taking on any risk. So yeah, I'm trying to move with more gut than head trying to move with more gut than head trying to move with more gut than head now. And that's probably going to result now. And that's probably going to result now. And that's probably going to result in me making more mistakes, especially in me making more mistakes, especially in me making more mistakes, especially given that I haven't been using my gut given that I haven't been using my gut given that I haven't been using my gut for a long time. But for a long time. But for a long time. But my gut is telling me to follow my gut. my gut is telling me to follow my gut. my gut is telling me to follow my gut. And I'm going to I'm going to try and do And I'm going to I'm going to try and do And I'm going to I'm going to try and do that a little bit more. That's a [ __ ] that a little bit more. That's a [ __ ] that a little bit more. That's a [ __ ] awesome. Do you guys I actually think awesome. Do you guys I actually think awesome. Do you guys I actually think unfortunately I think question of the unfortunately I think question of the unfortunately I think question of the day so far has been I accidentally day so far has been I accidentally day so far has been I accidentally looked at the dude's butt. Does that looked at the dude's butt. Does that looked at the dude's butt. Does that make me gay now? But that's a close make me gay now? But that's a close make me gay now? But that's a close second. Kurt Moon 6456 second. Kurt Moon 6456 second. Kurt Moon 6456 constructor 50008. How are your lime and constructor 50008. How are your lime and constructor 50008. How are your lime and mold problems going? Did the treatments mold problems going? Did the treatments mold problems going? Did the treatments work well? What what what was worth it work well? What what what was worth it work well? What what what was worth it to do? What was what was worth it to do? to do? What was what was worth it to do? to do? What was what was worth it to do? Um yeah, dude. I'm still on the other Um yeah, dude. I'm still on the other Um yeah, dude. I'm still on the other side of a lot of that stuff. It's still side of a lot of that stuff. It's still side of a lot of that stuff. It's still very much in the system. Uh, I think very much in the system. Uh, I think very much in the system. Uh, I think it's mostly the mold now, but it is a it's mostly the mold now, but it is a it's mostly the mold now, but it is a [ __ ] bastard to try and get rid of. [ __ ] bastard to try and get rid of. [ __ ] bastard to try and get rid of. You're just you're taking binders from You're just you're taking binders from You're just you're taking binders from living in a house that has toxic mold. living in a house that has toxic mold. living in a house that has toxic mold. And the treatments that work the most, And the treatments that work the most, And the treatments that work the most, he hyperoxygenation, which I put in the he hyperoxygenation, which I put in the he hyperoxygenation, which I put in the second health vlog that many of you second health vlog that many of you second health vlog that many of you might have watched, that was me being might have watched, that was me being might have watched, that was me being held at 104°, held at 104°, held at 104°, which is like 40 40.1 or something like which is like 40 40.1 or something like which is like 40 40.1 or something like that. 40.5° C. My body was held in a that. 40.5° C. My body was held in a that. 40.5° C. My body was held in a forced fever for four hours and your forced fever for four hours and your forced fever for four hours and your blood's being filtered and loads of blood's being filtered and loads of blood's being filtered and loads of other stuff's going on. That really felt other stuff's going on. That really felt other stuff's going on. That really felt like a step change, but to be honest, like a step change, but to be honest, like a step change, but to be honest, there's no such thing as a acute there's no such thing as a acute there's no such thing as a acute solution to a chronic problem. And this solution to a chronic problem. And this solution to a chronic problem. And this goes for almost everybody that's dealing goes for almost everybody that's dealing goes for almost everybody that's dealing with chronic complex illness stuff. with chronic complex illness stuff. with chronic complex illness stuff. It is slow detox overtime. It's hundreds It is slow detox overtime. It's hundreds It is slow detox overtime. It's hundreds and hundreds of sauners using binders. and hundreds of sauners using binders. and hundreds of sauners using binders. It's Hbot sessions. It's morning walks. It's Hbot sessions. It's morning walks. It's Hbot sessions. It's morning walks. It's getting enough sleep and it's just It's getting enough sleep and it's just It's getting enough sleep and it's just like putting pennies in the jar over and like putting pennies in the jar over and like putting pennies in the jar over and over. Um, over. Um, over. Um, I'm still not 100%. And I haven't I I'm still not 100%. And I haven't I I'm still not 100%. And I haven't I haven't made a big song and dance about haven't made a big song and dance about haven't made a big song and dance about it on the show really publicly at all it on the show really publicly at all it on the show really publicly at all because I kind of got because I kind of got because I kind of got I kind of started to feel a bit I kind of started to feel a bit I kind of started to feel a bit embarrassed or maybe worried or ashamed embarrassed or maybe worried or ashamed embarrassed or maybe worried or ashamed about being the guy about being the guy about being the guy the guy that's always got a health the guy that's always got a health the guy that's always got a health problem going on and is always whining, problem going on and is always whining, problem going on and is always whining, always complaining about it and like always complaining about it and like always complaining about it and like that. I don't know. I just don't want to that. I don't know. I just don't want to that. I don't know. I just don't want to be a [ __ ] hang. Especially for you guys, be a [ __ ] hang. Especially for you guys, be a [ __ ] hang. Especially for you guys, you know, you give me your time and and you know, you give me your time and and you know, you give me your time and and the guest comes through and they want to the guest comes through and they want to the guest comes through and they want to spend time with me or I don't want to be spend time with me or I don't want to be spend time with me or I don't want to be there going, [sighs] there going, [sighs] there going, [sighs] I slept for nine hours last night and I I slept for nine hours last night and I I slept for nine hours last night and I woke up feeling more tired than when I woke up feeling more tired than when I woke up feeling more tired than when I went to bed. or went to bed. or went to bed. or I I have no idea what's going on, but my I I have no idea what's going on, but my I I have no idea what's going on, but my brain is forgetting the thing that I brain is forgetting the thing that I brain is forgetting the thing that I thought 3 seconds ago permanently and thought 3 seconds ago permanently and thought 3 seconds ago permanently and it's been like that for the last two it's been like that for the last two it's been like that for the last two weeks. And I don't know what I don't weeks. And I don't know what I don't weeks. And I don't know what I don't know what has triggered that to happen know what has triggered that to happen know what has triggered that to happen or like I regardless of what I do, my or like I regardless of what I do, my or like I regardless of what I do, my mood just doesn't want to improve at the mood just doesn't want to improve at the mood just doesn't want to improve at the moment. Like who the [ __ ] wants to moment. Like who the [ __ ] wants to moment. Like who the [ __ ] wants to listen to that? And maybe you guys do. I listen to that? And maybe you guys do. I listen to that? And maybe you guys do. I don't know. But I don't know. But I don't know. But I I've kind of kept myself I've kept that I've kind of kept myself I've kept that I've kind of kept myself I've kept that to myself. I've kept myself quiet um to myself. I've kept myself quiet um to myself. I've kept myself quiet um just because yeah I got I got it felt silly. It felt yeah I got I got it felt silly. It felt silly to I didn't want to be the guy silly to I didn't want to be the guy silly to I didn't want to be the guy that was always saying that that was that was always saying that that was that was always saying that that was always asking always asking always asking for it felt like asking for attention or for it felt like asking for attention or for it felt like asking for attention or making this my entire [ __ ] making this my entire [ __ ] making this my entire [ __ ] personality. I'd like to think that I'm personality. I'd like to think that I'm personality. I'd like to think that I'm more than just a guy who is tired and more than just a guy who is tired and more than just a guy who is tired and sad and forgetful a lot. Uh but sad and forgetful a lot. Uh but sad and forgetful a lot. Uh but that's still a big part of my life. It's that's still a big part of my life. It's that's still a big part of my life. It's as big a part of my life as the podcast as big a part of my life as the podcast as big a part of my life as the podcast is. Running Modern Wisdom is a full-time is. Running Modern Wisdom is a full-time is. Running Modern Wisdom is a full-time job and fixing my health is a full-time job and fixing my health is a full-time job and fixing my health is a full-time job, too. And a lot of what people who job, too. And a lot of what people who job, too. And a lot of what people who are dealing with complex health issues are dealing with complex health issues are dealing with complex health issues go through is something that feels like go through is something that feels like go through is something that feels like their life's been taken away from them. their life's been taken away from them. their life's been taken away from them. Like they're spending all of their time Like they're spending all of their time Like they're spending all of their time getting ready to live as opposed to getting ready to live as opposed to getting ready to live as opposed to doing the job of living. [sighs] doing the job of living. [sighs] doing the job of living. [sighs] It's just not that fun to listen to. So, It's just not that fun to listen to. So, It's just not that fun to listen to. So, I've kept it to myself. But, I'm still I've kept it to myself. But, I'm still I've kept it to myself. But, I'm still in it. And for the people who are in it. And for the people who are in it. And for the people who are dealing with tinitus or POTS or dealing with tinitus or POTS or dealing with tinitus or POTS or disordinomia or autoimmune mold, lime, disordinomia or autoimmune mold, lime, disordinomia or autoimmune mold, lime, EBV, CMV, you know, whatever it is that EBV, CMV, you know, whatever it is that EBV, CMV, you know, whatever it is that you're going through, like I'm [ __ ] you're going through, like I'm [ __ ] you're going through, like I'm [ __ ] still a part of the club even if I'm not still a part of the club even if I'm not still a part of the club even if I'm not whining about it all the time. And this whining about it all the time. And this whining about it all the time. And this is a problem everybody deals with. Like, is a problem everybody deals with. Like, is a problem everybody deals with. 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[sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] Because Because Because you don't trust yourself. you feel like you don't trust yourself. you feel like you don't trust yourself. you feel like you need the legitimacy of somebody else you need the legitimacy of somebody else you need the legitimacy of somebody else to tell you that what you're thinking to tell you that what you're thinking to tell you that what you're thinking about doing is okay or not okay. So, about doing is okay or not okay. So, about doing is okay or not okay. So, it's a lack of self assurance. it's a lack of self assurance. it's a lack of self assurance. It's It's It's a a a need to be legitimized by other people need to be legitimized by other people need to be legitimized by other people to outsource a sense of decision-m to outsource a sense of decision-m to outsource a sense of decision-m and it's common. This is not something and it's common. This is not something and it's common. This is not something that you should be ashamed of. I think that you should be ashamed of. I think that you should be ashamed of. I think lots of people have an intuition that lots of people have an intuition that lots of people have an intuition that they just need to bounce it off needed they just need to bounce it off needed they just need to bounce it off needed to to bounce it off somebody else. My to to bounce it off somebody else. My to to bounce it off somebody else. My last business when I was running last business when I was running last business when I was running nightclubs before so much of what mine nightclubs before so much of what mine nightclubs before so much of what mine and my business partners' role was to and my business partners' role was to and my business partners' role was to just be a sounding board so that when we just be a sounding board so that when we just be a sounding board so that when we say the thing that we think we should be say the thing that we think we should be say the thing that we think we should be doing they go, "Yeah, of course. Hey, doing they go, "Yeah, of course. Hey, doing they go, "Yeah, of course. Hey, I'm I'm thinking about this is a a new I'm I'm thinking about this is a a new I'm I'm thinking about this is a a new piece of copy that I'm thinking of piece of copy that I'm thinking of piece of copy that I'm thinking of doing. Is this Am I being a [ __ ] or doing. Is this Am I being a [ __ ] or doing. Is this Am I being a [ __ ] or is this good?" "Oh, no, of course it's is this good?" "Oh, no, of course it's is this good?" "Oh, no, of course it's good." Yeah. Yeah, that's great. Yeah, I good." Yeah. Yeah, that's great. Yeah, I good." Yeah. Yeah, that's great. Yeah, I I knew it was. Thank you. Good. And then I knew it was. Thank you. Good. And then I knew it was. Thank you. Good. And then you go about the thing. And then vice you go about the thing. And then vice you go about the thing. And then vice versa. Sometimes he would come to me and versa. Sometimes he would come to me and versa. Sometimes he would come to me and be like, "Dude, I we've got this problem be like, "Dude, I we've got this problem be like, "Dude, I we've got this problem with the pricing and we need to make with the pricing and we need to make with the pricing and we need to make this amendment on the on the accounts." this amendment on the on the accounts." this amendment on the on the accounts." And what do you think about if we change And what do you think about if we change And what do you think about if we change the way that the early bird structure? the way that the early bird structure? the way that the early bird structure? Uh, actually, I don't think I don't Uh, actually, I don't think I don't Uh, actually, I don't think I don't think that's going to I Yeah, I [ __ ] think that's going to I Yeah, I [ __ ] think that's going to I Yeah, I [ __ ] knew it. It's so much of it is just knew it. It's so much of it is just knew it. It's so much of it is just needing to hear somebody else needing to hear somebody else needing to hear somebody else give us the an alter perspective, an give us the an alter perspective, an give us the an alter perspective, an ulterior perspective on the thought that ulterior perspective on the thought that ulterior perspective on the thought that we're having. And a lot of the time it we're having. And a lot of the time it we're having. And a lot of the time it gives us permission to confirm the thing gives us permission to confirm the thing gives us permission to confirm the thing that we felt already. But ultimately, that we felt already. But ultimately, that we felt already. But ultimately, your decisions are going to come into your decisions are going to come into your decisions are going to come into contact with the real world. I don't contact with the real world. I don't contact with the real world. I don't think that you should feel too much think that you should feel too much think that you should feel too much guilt for asking a trusted part of the guilt for asking a trusted part of the guilt for asking a trusted part of the real world for some feedback before you real world for some feedback before you real world for some feedback before you commit to doing whatever that is. commit to doing whatever that is. commit to doing whatever that is. Very rarely I get the sense we would Very rarely I get the sense we would Very rarely I get the sense we would have been making decisions in isolation. have been making decisions in isolation. have been making decisions in isolation. Like you weren't going to leave your Like you weren't going to leave your Like you weren't going to leave your tribe 30,000 years ago just off on a tribe 30,000 years ago just off on a tribe 30,000 years ago just off on a whim. You would go with a huge group of whim. You would go with a huge group of whim. You would go with a huge group of 15 or 30 other people from one pod and 15 or 30 other people from one pod and 15 or 30 other people from one pod and leave the 150 Dunar number tribe, but leave the 150 Dunar number tribe, but leave the 150 Dunar number tribe, but you would ask a lot of other people you would ask a lot of other people you would ask a lot of other people before you did that. You're right. Okay, before you did that. You're right. Okay, before you did that. You're right. Okay, I'm going to make this. I'm going to I'm going to make this. I'm going to I'm going to make this. I'm going to even be a [ __ ] solo saxophone player even be a [ __ ] solo saxophone player even be a [ __ ] solo saxophone player on the other in the other valley. It's on the other in the other valley. It's on the other in the other valley. It's not going to happen. So, be gentle with not going to happen. So, be gentle with not going to happen. So, be gentle with yourself. Um, I think if you can try and yourself. Um, I think if you can try and yourself. Um, I think if you can try and make small decisions without asking for make small decisions without asking for make small decisions without asking for other people's advice, that's a nice way other people's advice, that's a nice way other people's advice, that's a nice way to do a bit of exposure therapy. And to do a bit of exposure therapy. And to do a bit of exposure therapy. And yeah, that would be that would be a way yeah, that would be that would be a way yeah, that would be that would be a way to get yourself more used to using your to get yourself more used to using your to get yourself more used to using your gut as opposed to your head. Paint it gut as opposed to your head. Paint it gut as opposed to your head. Paint it red 84 quiz. Where is my Shadow Force red 84 quiz. Where is my Shadow Force red 84 quiz. Where is my Shadow Force episode? Uh, okay. So, for the people episode? Uh, okay. So, for the people episode? Uh, okay. So, for the people that don't watch shorts, I've been that don't watch shorts, I've been that don't watch shorts, I've been putting out these clips with a guy putting out these clips with a guy putting out these clips with a guy called Doug Baldwin, who plays Nightwolf called Doug Baldwin, who plays Nightwolf called Doug Baldwin, who plays Nightwolf Hawk as his character, who is a part of Hawk as his character, who is a part of Hawk as his character, who is a part of Shadow Force, this imaginary Shadow Force, this imaginary Shadow Force, this imaginary American but lux Japanese American but lux Japanese American but lux Japanese secret spy, super spy agency, and we secret spy, super spy agency, and we secret spy, super spy agency, and we filmed a couple of months ago and we've filmed a couple of months ago and we've filmed a couple of months ago and we've been bleeding these clips which are in been bleeding these clips which are in been bleeding these clips which are in the studio on the podcast. There is a the studio on the podcast. There is a the studio on the podcast. There is a full episode, but it was Shadow Force full episode, but it was Shadow Force full episode, but it was Shadow Force stepped in and said that it needed to be stepped in and said that it needed to be stepped in and said that it needed to be redacted. So, we've been forced to only redacted. So, we've been forced to only redacted. So, we've been forced to only put it out in short clips, and I put it out in short clips, and I put it out in short clips, and I apologize, but I'm not going headto-head apologize, but I'm not going headto-head apologize, but I'm not going headto-head with Shadow Force. And if you're brave with Shadow Force. And if you're brave with Shadow Force. And if you're brave enough to try and publish the full video enough to try and publish the full video enough to try and publish the full video on the internet, you're a better man on the internet, you're a better man on the internet, you're a better man than me. RBA015, than me. RBA015, than me. RBA015, congratulations on the continued congratulations on the continued congratulations on the continued success. Your podcast is incredibly success. Your podcast is incredibly success. Your podcast is incredibly valuable and important. Hope to continue valuable and important. Hope to continue valuable and important. Hope to continue seeing you, enjoying the work you do. seeing you, enjoying the work you do. seeing you, enjoying the work you do. Thank you. Question for you. I've heard Thank you. Question for you. I've heard Thank you. Question for you. I've heard that the bar is so low that all you have that the bar is so low that all you have that the bar is so low that all you have to do now is take care of yourself, have to do now is take care of yourself, have to do now is take care of yourself, have a job, and you'll be a catch. And also a job, and you'll be a catch. And also a job, and you'll be a catch. And also heard men are expected to have it all heard men are expected to have it all heard men are expected to have it all together. Be extremely emotionally together. Be extremely emotionally together. Be extremely emotionally intelligent, make a high income, be a intelligent, make a high income, be a intelligent, make a high income, be a provider, and as per the research, be provider, and as per the research, be provider, and as per the research, be tall. So, which do you think it is? When tall. So, which do you think it is? When tall. So, which do you think it is? When navigating the world, there is so much navigating the world, there is so much navigating the world, there is so much conflicting information out there. It conflicting information out there. It conflicting information out there. It feels like even if you do some things feels like even if you do some things feels like even if you do some things well, it's not enough. I appreciate well, it's not enough. I appreciate well, it's not enough. I appreciate everything you do. everything you do. everything you do. Yeah, I get the sense that this is the Yeah, I get the sense that this is the Yeah, I get the sense that this is the real world versus what you hear on the real world versus what you hear on the real world versus what you hear on the internet. internet. internet. Do women want a man who has it all Do women want a man who has it all Do women want a man who has it all together, is emotionally intelligent, together, is emotionally intelligent, together, is emotionally intelligent, makes an income or enough of an income makes an income or enough of an income makes an income or enough of an income to be a provider, and is not super to be a provider, and is not super to be a provider, and is not super short? Yes, on average, all of these short? Yes, on average, all of these short? Yes, on average, all of these things true. That being said, you have things true. That being said, you have things true. That being said, you have to remember the average American adult to remember the average American adult to remember the average American adult is obese, divorced, and has less than 1K is obese, divorced, and has less than 1K is obese, divorced, and has less than 1K in the bank. So the bar can be low and in the bank. So the bar can be low and in the bank. So the bar can be low and the internet can tell you that it's the internet can tell you that it's the internet can tell you that it's insanely high. If you go out and spend insanely high. If you go out and spend insanely high. If you go out and spend any appreciable amount of time with any appreciable amount of time with any appreciable amount of time with women, women, women, I don't think that they're going to have I don't think that they're going to have I don't think that they're going to have this list of insane laundry list items. this list of insane laundry list items. this list of insane laundry list items. And if that woman does have it, that is And if that woman does have it, that is And if that woman does have it, that is a massive mark that she's not the sort a massive mark that she's not the sort a massive mark that she's not the sort of person that you want to be dating in of person that you want to be dating in of person that you want to be dating in any case. So, any case. So, any case. So, I get the sense the bar is incredibly I get the sense the bar is incredibly I get the sense the bar is incredibly low when you reach the real world. When low when you reach the real world. When low when you reach the real world. When you're taking the top 1% filtering of you're taking the top 1% filtering of you're taking the top 1% filtering of who are the biggest influencers on who are the biggest influencers on who are the biggest influencers on Instagram and Twitter and YouTube, yes, Instagram and Twitter and YouTube, yes, Instagram and Twitter and YouTube, yes, it may seem like the odds are stacked it may seem like the odds are stacked it may seem like the odds are stacked against you, but really the competition against you, but really the competition against you, but really the competition is incredibly incredibly flimsy. And is incredibly incredibly flimsy. And is incredibly incredibly flimsy. And that's not a reason. It's not like look that's not a reason. It's not like look that's not a reason. It's not like look at how [ __ ] everybody else is. You can at how [ __ ] everybody else is. You can at how [ __ ] everybody else is. You can just mail it in too. But if you're doing just mail it in too. But if you're doing just mail it in too. But if you're doing a lot of the work that you think you're a lot of the work that you think you're a lot of the work that you think you're supposed to, given the fact that you're supposed to, given the fact that you're supposed to, given the fact that you're what, half an hour into a Q&A on this what, half an hour into a Q&A on this what, half an hour into a Q&A on this podcast, something tells me that you're podcast, something tells me that you're podcast, something tells me that you're quite diligent and thinking about quite diligent and thinking about quite diligent and thinking about yourself in a a careful way and trying yourself in a a careful way and trying yourself in a a careful way and trying to improve and tell the truth and you to improve and tell the truth and you to improve and tell the truth and you know that you are in such a [ __ ] know that you are in such a [ __ ] know that you are in such a [ __ ] rarified strat to everybody that is rarified strat to everybody that is rarified strat to everybody that is working on themselves, trying to tap working on themselves, trying to tap working on themselves, trying to tap into their emotions, trying to be honest into their emotions, trying to be honest into their emotions, trying to be honest and virtuous and improve themselves and and virtuous and improve themselves and and virtuous and improve themselves and the world around them. the world around them. the world around them. That is so rare. It is so rarified to That is so rare. It is so rarified to That is so rare. It is so rarified to have people that do that and then you have people that do that and then you have people that do that and then you look at there's this huge list of things look at there's this huge list of things look at there's this huge list of things that everybody needs and I'm worried that everybody needs and I'm worried that everybody needs and I'm worried that I don't have them without realizing that I don't have them without realizing that I don't have them without realizing that if people were to look at you, you that if people were to look at you, you that if people were to look at you, you would be one of the people they would would be one of the people they would would be one of the people they would consider as being in that bucket. So consider as being in that bucket. So consider as being in that bucket. So yes, the bar is low. Also, the internet yes, the bar is low. Also, the internet yes, the bar is low. Also, the internet has some deranged ideas about just how has some deranged ideas about just how has some deranged ideas about just how high the bar can be. Also, the sort of high the bar can be. Also, the sort of high the bar can be. Also, the sort of people who have those internet beliefs people who have those internet beliefs people who have those internet beliefs and take them into the real world are and take them into the real world are and take them into the real world are kind of doomed to be forever miserable. kind of doomed to be forever miserable. kind of doomed to be forever miserable. So, if you do meet somebody and you as a So, if you do meet somebody and you as a So, if you do meet somebody and you as a person who has a lot of it together person who has a lot of it together person who has a lot of it together feels like, I don't feel like I'm enough feels like, I don't feel like I'm enough feels like, I don't feel like I'm enough with this person despite I think I am with this person despite I think I am with this person despite I think I am enough, you don't want to be in a enough, you don't want to be in a enough, you don't want to be in a relationship with them anyway. Like, relationship with them anyway. Like, relationship with them anyway. Like, just because someone's got insanely high just because someone's got insanely high just because someone's got insanely high standards doesn't mean that they're a standards doesn't mean that they're a standards doesn't mean that they're a catch. Sometimes it can just mean that catch. Sometimes it can just mean that catch. Sometimes it can just mean that they don't understand their own value they don't understand their own value they don't understand their own value and they're trying to sell a [ __ ] and they're trying to sell a [ __ ] and they're trying to sell a [ __ ] sandwich for the price of a McLaren. sandwich for the price of a McLaren. sandwich for the price of a McLaren. I think you'll be fine. Just spend as I think you'll be fine. Just spend as I think you'll be fine. Just spend as much time in the real world, especially much time in the real world, especially much time in the real world, especially when it comes to dating as possible, and when it comes to dating as possible, and when it comes to dating as possible, and most of the insanity kind of just most of the insanity kind of just most of the insanity kind of just dissolves. dissolves. dissolves. Intim [ __ ] mention intimatanu intimatanu [ __ ] your transformation from super cool [ __ ] your transformation from super cool [ __ ] your transformation from super cool macho grinding hustler into a man who macho grinding hustler into a man who macho grinding hustler into a man who has feelings and tries to live as a has feelings and tries to live as a has feelings and tries to live as a human being is great to watch. Thank human being is great to watch. Thank human being is great to watch. Thank you. What is the best thing you gained you. What is the best thing you gained you. What is the best thing you gained from it? What is the worst, hardest, from it? What is the worst, hardest, from it? What is the worst, hardest, most painful one? My name is Charlie most painful one? My name is Charlie most painful one? My name is Charlie Greenberg. To make it easy for you to Greenberg. To make it easy for you to Greenberg. To make it easy for you to read my name. Thanks for burying that at read my name. Thanks for burying that at read my name. Thanks for burying that at the bottom, Charlie. the bottom, Charlie. the bottom, Charlie. Thanks for your work and showing up Thanks for your work and showing up Thanks for your work and showing up every week. Okay. What is the best thing every week. Okay. What is the best thing every week. Okay. What is the best thing that you gain from becoming a man who that you gain from becoming a man who that you gain from becoming a man who has feelings? And what are the worst, has feelings? And what are the worst, has feelings? And what are the worst, hardest, and most painful ones? hardest, and most painful ones? hardest, and most painful ones? Well, the best thing that you gain from Well, the best thing that you gain from Well, the best thing that you gain from it is that you're actually connected to it is that you're actually connected to it is that you're actually connected to your life. your life. your life. You feel when things happen. Successes You feel when things happen. Successes You feel when things happen. Successes feel real to you. That's beautiful. as feel real to you. That's beautiful. as feel real to you. That's beautiful. as opposed to always looking over the opposed to always looking over the opposed to always looking over the shoulder of whatever you've just shoulder of whatever you've just shoulder of whatever you've just succeeded in accomplishing, waiting to succeeded in accomplishing, waiting to succeeded in accomplishing, waiting to see what comes next. It's no surprise see what comes next. It's no surprise see what comes next. It's no surprise that a lot of the guys and girls that that a lot of the guys and girls that that a lot of the guys and girls that pray at the altar of [ __ ] your feelings, pray at the altar of [ __ ] your feelings, pray at the altar of [ __ ] your feelings, just work harder just work harder just work harder also surprised when they achieve but also surprised when they achieve but also surprised when they achieve but they don't feel. You're seeing cause and they don't feel. You're seeing cause and they don't feel. You're seeing cause and effect happen there. You're denying effect happen there. You're denying effect happen there. You're denying yourself yourself yourself connection with your emotions connection with your emotions connection with your emotions and then when emotions are supposed to and then when emotions are supposed to and then when emotions are supposed to come along and they don't, you complain come along and they don't, you complain come along and they don't, you complain about it or you feel insufficient about it or you feel insufficient about it or you feel insufficient because of it. because of it. because of it. The best thing is that you're connected The best thing is that you're connected The best thing is that you're connected to your successes. The worst thing is to your successes. The worst thing is to your successes. The worst thing is that there's nowhere to run from your that there's nowhere to run from your that there's nowhere to run from your failures because when something goes failures because when something goes failures because when something goes wrong, wrong, wrong, it re it actually hurts it re it actually hurts it re it actually hurts you. you. you. you're unable you're unable you're unable to detach in a way that sometimes might to detach in a way that sometimes might to detach in a way that sometimes might actually be healthy. And a lot of the actually be healthy. And a lot of the actually be healthy. And a lot of the time, I think people that are the most time, I think people that are the most time, I think people that are the most successful have become successful successful have become successful successful have become successful because they've learned to detach because they've learned to detach because they've learned to detach themselves from pain. And that themselves from pain. And that themselves from pain. And that detachment from pain means that they can detachment from pain means that they can detachment from pain means that they can continue to push themselves. It also continue to push themselves. It also continue to push themselves. It also means that they don't get to celebrate means that they don't get to celebrate means that they don't get to celebrate when they win. And when they win. And when they win. And it's kind of a it's a question you can it's kind of a it's a question you can it's kind of a it's a question you can ask yourself. Is it worth not feeling my ask yourself. Is it worth not feeling my ask yourself. Is it worth not feeling my successes if I don't feel my pains? successes if I don't feel my pains? successes if I don't feel my pains? And maybe if you're being very And maybe if you're being very And maybe if you're being very transactional, you could say, well, it transactional, you could say, well, it transactional, you could say, well, it depends on how many failures and how depends on how many failures and how depends on how many failures and how many successes you're going to have in many successes you're going to have in many successes you're going to have in your life. In a life where you've got your life. In a life where you've got your life. In a life where you've got more failures and successes, maybe you more failures and successes, maybe you more failures and successes, maybe you should be detached. And in a life where should be detached. And in a life where should be detached. And in a life where you've got more successes than failures, you've got more successes than failures, you've got more successes than failures, maybe you should be connected. maybe you should be connected. maybe you should be connected. But yeah, Chris Bumstead a couple years But yeah, Chris Bumstead a couple years But yeah, Chris Bumstead a couple years ago when I had him on the show has this ago when I had him on the show has this ago when I had him on the show has this line about you have to feel the bad and line about you have to feel the bad and line about you have to feel the bad and the good. You don't just get to pick the good. You don't just get to pick the good. You don't just get to pick one. And I think that that's true with one. And I think that that's true with one. And I think that that's true with this too. Um, super cool macho grinding this too. Um, super cool macho grinding this too. Um, super cool macho grinding hustler. hustler. hustler. Definitely an archetype that I aspired Definitely an archetype that I aspired Definitely an archetype that I aspired to for a long time and I still do, but I to for a long time and I still do, but I to for a long time and I still do, but I want to be able to turn it on. And I'm want to be able to turn it on. And I'm want to be able to turn it on. And I'm still so [ __ ] sure that this is the still so [ __ ] sure that this is the still so [ __ ] sure that this is the way to do things. I'm I might look back way to do things. I'm I might look back way to do things. I'm I might look back and regret opening up the like chasm and regret opening up the like chasm and regret opening up the like chasm below my neck so that I can feel stuff. below my neck so that I can feel stuff. below my neck so that I can feel stuff. It's definitely made so many things It's definitely made so many things It's definitely made so many things harder. Like when I was away on harder. Like when I was away on harder. Like when I was away on meditation retreat, it would have been meditation retreat, it would have been meditation retreat, it would have been significantly easier if I just turned up significantly easier if I just turned up significantly easier if I just turned up and done the transactional thing as and done the transactional thing as and done the transactional thing as opposed to like having all of this stuff opposed to like having all of this stuff opposed to like having all of this stuff come up as you're sat silently with your come up as you're sat silently with your come up as you're sat silently with your thoughts for 6 or 8 hours a day. But it thoughts for 6 or 8 hours a day. But it thoughts for 6 or 8 hours a day. But it also really makes you feel alive. And I also really makes you feel alive. And I also really makes you feel alive. And I think a lot of the time people walk think a lot of the time people walk think a lot of the time people walk through life existing but not feeling through life existing but not feeling through life existing but not feeling like they're actually living. That like they're actually living. That like they're actually living. That sounds trit, but I think you know what I sounds trit, but I think you know what I sounds trit, but I think you know what I mean, which is you sort of float through mean, which is you sort of float through mean, which is you sort of float through your day. You're like a ghost inside of your day. You're like a ghost inside of your day. You're like a ghost inside of your own life. stuff happens and maybe your own life. stuff happens and maybe your own life. stuff happens and maybe it's good or maybe it's bad, but it it's good or maybe it's bad, but it it's good or maybe it's bad, but it doesn't it doesn't feel like it's in doesn't it doesn't feel like it's in doesn't it doesn't feel like it's in three dimensions and it doesn't come three dimensions and it doesn't come three dimensions and it doesn't come into contact with you. And I really do into contact with you. And I really do into contact with you. And I really do not want that to be the way that I live not want that to be the way that I live not want that to be the way that I live my life for better or for worse. So my life for better or for worse. So my life for better or for worse. So yeah, you feel your successes and it's yeah, you feel your successes and it's yeah, you feel your successes and it's beautiful and you feel your failures and beautiful and you feel your failures and beautiful and you feel your failures and your pains and it's agonizing and it's cool. It's different. It's what it's cool. It's different. It's what it's what feeling alive is supposed to it's what feeling alive is supposed to it's what feeling alive is supposed to feel like I think. So, I'm going to keep feel like I think. So, I'm going to keep feel like I think. So, I'm going to keep going. Ella Lindsay 972, advice for the going. Ella Lindsay 972, advice for the going. Ella Lindsay 972, advice for the period when you've done so much inner period when you've done so much inner period when you've done so much inner work, but your outer world has yet to work, but your outer world has yet to work, but your outer world has yet to catch up. The mismatch is painful. Yeah. catch up. The mismatch is painful. Yeah. catch up. The mismatch is painful. Yeah. uh this uh this uh this kind of lonely chapter stuff, the monk kind of lonely chapter stuff, the monk kind of lonely chapter stuff, the monk mode latent leverage thing where you can mode latent leverage thing where you can mode latent leverage thing where you can imagine sort of pulling back on a imagine sort of pulling back on a imagine sort of pulling back on a slingshot, pulling back and pulling back slingshot, pulling back and pulling back slingshot, pulling back and pulling back and pulling back and pulling back and and pulling back and pulling back and and pulling back and pulling back and eventually when it gets let go, it's got eventually when it gets let go, it's got eventually when it gets let go, it's got enough momentum to catapult you forward. enough momentum to catapult you forward. enough momentum to catapult you forward. The reason that it's painful is that The reason that it's painful is that The reason that it's painful is that you're constantly looking to the outer you're constantly looking to the outer you're constantly looking to the outer world for world for world for reassurance that the work you're doing reassurance that the work you're doing reassurance that the work you're doing is worth it. Cuz the work is hard and is worth it. Cuz the work is hard and is worth it. Cuz the work is hard and you want the outer world to go, "Yes, you want the outer world to go, "Yes, you want the outer world to go, "Yes, good job. Keep going." You know, pat on good job. Keep going." You know, pat on good job. Keep going." You know, pat on the back. There's some encouragement. the back. There's some encouragement. the back. There's some encouragement. You're moving in the right direction. If You're moving in the right direction. If You're moving in the right direction. If the outer world feels indifferent to the outer world feels indifferent to the outer world feels indifferent to your inner work, you go, "Well, maybe your inner work, you go, "Well, maybe your inner work, you go, "Well, maybe this is [ __ ] stupid. Maybe I'm making this is [ __ ] stupid. Maybe I'm making this is [ __ ] stupid. Maybe I'm making myself worse cuz things are harder than myself worse cuz things are harder than myself worse cuz things are harder than they were in the past. I used to be in they were in the past. I used to be in they were in the past. I used to be in congruence. I used to be aligned congruence. I used to be aligned congruence. I used to be aligned previously. Even if now I feel like I'm previously. Even if now I feel like I'm previously. Even if now I feel like I'm better at what I do. I'm a more virtuous better at what I do. I'm a more virtuous better at what I do. I'm a more virtuous person. I'm a more capable person. But person. I'm a more capable person. But person. I'm a more capable person. But I've got all these doubts in my mind I've got all these doubts in my mind I've got all these doubts in my mind because I've had to change myself from because I've had to change myself from because I've had to change myself from what I was to who I am. And in that what I was to who I am. And in that what I was to who I am. And in that change, you lose your congruence. Right? change, you lose your congruence. Right? change, you lose your congruence. Right? When you think about what you think, When you think about what you think, When you think about what you think, feel, and do, right? what your mind, feel, and do, right? what your mind, feel, and do, right? what your mind, your heart, and your reality kind of your heart, and your reality kind of your heart, and your reality kind of come into confluence with. come into confluence with. come into confluence with. If those things are aligned, regardless If those things are aligned, regardless If those things are aligned, regardless of whether you're a good person or a bad of whether you're a good person or a bad of whether you're a good person or a bad person, everybody in the world seems to person, everybody in the world seems to person, everybody in the world seems to love you, right? Uh Donald Trump, Andrew love you, right? Uh Donald Trump, Andrew love you, right? Uh Donald Trump, Andrew Tate, doesn't matter what you think Tate, doesn't matter what you think Tate, doesn't matter what you think about those guys, they are high about those guys, they are high about those guys, they are high congruence people. There is no bit of congruence people. There is no bit of congruence people. There is no bit of [ __ ] doubt, right? Their actions, [ __ ] doubt, right? Their actions, [ __ ] doubt, right? Their actions, their thoughts, their thoughts, their thoughts, everything is in alignment. And as you everything is in alignment. And as you everything is in alignment. And as you start to make change, inevitably you are start to make change, inevitably you are start to make change, inevitably you are changing, which means that you're changing, which means that you're changing, which means that you're uncertain, which means you have no idea uncertain, which means you have no idea uncertain, which means you have no idea if this is going to work. Uh, advice for if this is going to work. Uh, advice for if this is going to work. Uh, advice for the period when you're doing it. For one the period when you're doing it. For one the period when you're doing it. For one of a better term, I think you need of a better term, I think you need of a better term, I think you need faith. It's great if you can find a way faith. It's great if you can find a way faith. It's great if you can find a way to make external some of the stuff that to make external some of the stuff that to make external some of the stuff that you're doing internally. So, let's say you're doing internally. So, let's say you're doing internally. So, let's say that you're doing a sobriety stent and that you're doing a sobriety stent and that you're doing a sobriety stent and you're not going to drink for 6 months you're not going to drink for 6 months you're not going to drink for 6 months because you that's going to be the because you that's going to be the because you that's going to be the foundation that's going to allow you to foundation that's going to allow you to foundation that's going to allow you to have a bunch of other uh good habits. If have a bunch of other uh good habits. If have a bunch of other uh good habits. If you hit that six-month mark, you should you hit that six-month mark, you should you hit that six-month mark, you should celebrate it. You should go out with celebrate it. You should go out with celebrate it. You should go out with friends and have a dinner, probably not friends and have a dinner, probably not friends and have a dinner, probably not get super pissed, but that would be a get super pissed, but that would be a get super pissed, but that would be a good way to have the outer world catch good way to have the outer world catch good way to have the outer world catch up to some of the inner work. Uh same up to some of the inner work. Uh same up to some of the inner work. Uh same thing goes for accomplishing milestones thing goes for accomplishing milestones thing goes for accomplishing milestones professionally or uh in some art form professionally or uh in some art form professionally or uh in some art form that you're pursuing. You finally that you're pursuing. You finally that you're pursuing. You finally recorded a song or published your first recorded a song or published your first recorded a song or published your first Substack post. I don't think if we think Substack post. I don't think if we think Substack post. I don't think if we think that celebration is gratitude and that celebration is gratitude and that celebration is gratitude and action. action. action. Having other people around you that you Having other people around you that you Having other people around you that you can celebrate with is a really great way can celebrate with is a really great way can celebrate with is a really great way to try and make inner stuff feel more to try and make inner stuff feel more to try and make inner stuff feel more real in the outer world. Uh the mismatch real in the outer world. Uh the mismatch real in the outer world. Uh the mismatch is painful. I understand and I'm sorry is painful. I understand and I'm sorry is painful. I understand and I'm sorry that you're going through it, but that you're going through it, but that you're going through it, but to be honest, this is the reason that to be honest, this is the reason that to be honest, this is the reason that it's glorious. If there wasn't it's glorious. If there wasn't it's glorious. If there wasn't uncertainty and self-doubt and uncertainty and self-doubt and uncertainty and self-doubt and challenge, why would it be that grand of an why would it be that grand of an accomplishment in any case? This is accomplishment in any case? This is accomplishment in any case? This is precisely one of the reasons why people precisely one of the reasons why people precisely one of the reasons why people stop doing the work because they go, stop doing the work because they go, stop doing the work because they go, "Oh, well, it it just seems to no one "Oh, well, it it just seems to no one "Oh, well, it it just seems to no one cares in any case. It's not made my life cares in any case. It's not made my life cares in any case. It's not made my life a better place in any case." So, I might a better place in any case." So, I might a better place in any case." So, I might as well just quit. And you could say as well just quit. And you could say as well just quit. And you could say it's survivorship bias. I'm it's survivorship bias. I'm it's survivorship bias. I'm more inclined to say that it's just the more inclined to say that it's just the more inclined to say that it's just the entry price that you need to pay to go entry price that you need to pay to go entry price that you need to pay to go from where you are to where you want to from where you are to where you want to from where you are to where you want to be. And be. And be. And eventually when you get there, you get eventually when you get there, you get eventually when you get there, you get to look back on this amazing journey to look back on this amazing journey to look back on this amazing journey full of all of the self-doubt and the full of all of the self-doubt and the full of all of the self-doubt and the uncertainty and this little whisper in uncertainty and this little whisper in uncertainty and this little whisper in the back of your mind that kept on the back of your mind that kept on the back of your mind that kept on saying, "No, I I think that this is saying, "No, I I think that this is saying, "No, I I think that this is right. I think I'm moving in the right right. I think I'm moving in the right right. I think I'm moving in the right direction and I'm going to say [ __ ] you direction and I'm going to say [ __ ] you direction and I'm going to say [ __ ] you to all of the things that keep on making to all of the things that keep on making to all of the things that keep on making me feel uncertain about it. me feel uncertain about it. me feel uncertain about it. Yeah, I'm sorry that achieving your Yeah, I'm sorry that achieving your Yeah, I'm sorry that achieving your dreams wasn't quick, easy, and dreams wasn't quick, easy, and dreams wasn't quick, easy, and stress-free. Alex Hozi. This episode is brought to Alex Hozi. This episode is brought to you by Gym Shark. If you're going to you by Gym Shark. If you're going to you by Gym Shark. 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[ __ ] are so cute and are good swimmers. [ __ ] it. That is the question of That's the it. That is the question of That's the it. That is the question of That's the question of the day. question of the day. question of the day. Unbelievable by Oro. What is your Unbelievable by Oro. What is your Unbelievable by Oro. What is your favorite animal? Mine is the otter favorite animal? Mine is the otter favorite animal? Mine is the otter because they are so cute and are good because they are so cute and are good because they are so cute and are good swimmers. That is the most adorable swimmers. That is the most adorable swimmers. That is the most adorable question question question that I've read all week. And what is my that I've read all week. And what is my that I've read all week. And what is my favorite animal? I mean, otter are favorite animal? I mean, otter are favorite animal? I mean, otter are pretty cool. I'll take your otter and pretty cool. I'll take your otter and pretty cool. I'll take your otter and raise you a platypus because platypuses raise you a platypus because platypuses raise you a platypus because platypuses are like freak alien utters. Also cute are like freak alien utters. Also cute are like freak alien utters. Also cute but have weird venom. I'm pretty sure but have weird venom. I'm pretty sure but have weird venom. I'm pretty sure they're halfway between a mammal and they're halfway between a mammal and they're halfway between a mammal and like a bird also or or a reptile. They like a bird also or or a reptile. They like a bird also or or a reptile. They also lay eggs but they're kind of also lay eggs but they're kind of also lay eggs but they're kind of mammally as well. Uh I'm going to do I'm mammally as well. Uh I'm going to do I'm mammally as well. Uh I'm going to do I'm going to do an entire breakdown about going to do an entire breakdown about going to do an entire breakdown about what platypuses are today. It's platypus what platypuses are today. It's platypus what platypuses are today. It's platypus but realistically it's a golden but realistically it's a golden but realistically it's a golden retriever which by the way is not a dog. retriever which by the way is not a dog. retriever which by the way is not a dog. That's a different golden retrievers are That's a different golden retrievers are That's a different golden retrievers are their own animal. There are dogs and their own animal. There are dogs and their own animal. There are dogs and there are golden retrievers and a golden there are golden retrievers and a golden there are golden retrievers and a golden retriever is not a dog. They're retriever is not a dog. They're retriever is not a dog. They're separate. Uh in the same way as an otter separate. Uh in the same way as an otter separate. Uh in the same way as an otter is kind of like a platypus but not is kind of like a platypus but not is kind of like a platypus but not golden retriever is kind of like a dog golden retriever is kind of like a dog golden retriever is kind of like a dog but also not. So if I could breed a but also not. So if I could breed a but also not. So if I could breed a platypus with a golden retriever that platypus with a golden retriever that platypus with a golden retriever that would be whatever that freak animal is, would be whatever that freak animal is, would be whatever that freak animal is, that's what it would be. that's what it would be. that's what it would be. Griff an how do you get over constantly Griff an how do you get over constantly Griff an how do you get over constantly thinking about starting things but never thinking about starting things but never thinking about starting things but never actually doing them? sheer willpower actually doing them? sheer willpower actually doing them? sheer willpower never seems to work and I feel when I never seems to work and I feel when I never seems to work and I feel when I think about starting something new think about starting something new think about starting something new project hobby business etc I get the project hobby business etc I get the project hobby business etc I get the satisfaction about doing it by just satisfaction about doing it by just satisfaction about doing it by just thinking about how life would be and the thinking about how life would be and the thinking about how life would be and the benefits from it rather than actually benefits from it rather than actually benefits from it rather than actually taking action which usually leads to taking action which usually leads to taking action which usually leads to never starting yeah never starting yeah never starting yeah talking about the thing and doing the talking about the thing and doing the talking about the thing and doing the thing v for the same resources thing v for the same resources thing v for the same resources allocate yours appropriately allocate yours appropriately allocate yours appropriately it is very very perilous it is very very perilous it is very very perilous Because you neurologically you literally Because you neurologically you literally Because you neurologically you literally get the same little kicks. You get a get the same little kicks. You get a get the same little kicks. You get a titrated version, a tuned down version titrated version, a tuned down version titrated version, a tuned down version of the dopamine and the reward that you of the dopamine and the reward that you of the dopamine and the reward that you would get from doing the thing by would get from doing the thing by would get from doing the thing by talking about it and thinking it and talking about it and thinking it and talking about it and thinking it and planning it. It's that big [ __ ] list planning it. It's that big [ __ ] list planning it. It's that big [ __ ] list of like talking about the thing is not of like talking about the thing is not of like talking about the thing is not doing the thing. Making time to do the doing the thing. Making time to do the doing the thing. Making time to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Writing a thing isn't doing the thing. Writing a thing isn't doing the thing. Writing a bang tweet about how you're going to do bang tweet about how you're going to do bang tweet about how you're going to do the thing. Think about all of the the thing. Think about all of the the thing. Think about all of the adoration. Fantasizing isn't doing the adoration. Fantasizing isn't doing the adoration. Fantasizing isn't doing the thing. thing. thing. The reason that that essay hits home is The reason that that essay hits home is The reason that that essay hits home is that it's all of the obstacles that that it's all of the obstacles that that it's all of the obstacles that people put in the way of themselves just people put in the way of themselves just people put in the way of themselves just sinking in and doing the work. It is sinking in and doing the work. It is sinking in and doing the work. It is significantly easier and safer, safer significantly easier and safer, safer significantly easier and safer, safer existentially because you don't have to existentially because you don't have to existentially because you don't have to face failure. There's no such thing as face failure. There's no such thing as face failure. There's no such thing as failure in planning. But there is. failure in planning. But there is. failure in planning. But there is. If you plan for so long that you never If you plan for so long that you never If you plan for so long that you never get around to doing it, you fail by get around to doing it, you fail by get around to doing it, you fail by default. So you've inoculated yourself default. So you've inoculated yourself default. So you've inoculated yourself from failure publicly by assuring your from failure publicly by assuring your from failure publicly by assuring your failure privately. but you're not going failure privately. but you're not going failure privately. but you're not going to be judged for it. Uh, how do you get to be judged for it. Uh, how do you get to be judged for it. Uh, how do you get over constantly thinking about starting over constantly thinking about starting over constantly thinking about starting things but never actually doing them? things but never actually doing them? things but never actually doing them? There's a few. Uh, a commitment device There's a few. Uh, a commitment device There's a few. Uh, a commitment device would be one way to do this. So, a group would be one way to do this. So, a group would be one way to do this. So, a group chat with a bunch of friends, working chat with a bunch of friends, working chat with a bunch of friends, working out what small steps would be to out what small steps would be to out what small steps would be to starting something and every single day starting something and every single day starting something and every single day having a habit group. If you get a having a habit group. If you get a having a habit group. If you get a dollar or a it needs to be a note. So, dollar or a it needs to be a note. So, dollar or a it needs to be a note. So, whatever the lowest denomination note in whatever the lowest denomination note in whatever the lowest denomination note in your country is, and if you tear up $1 your country is, and if you tear up $1 your country is, and if you tear up $1 and throw it in the bin for every day and throw it in the bin for every day and throw it in the bin for every day that you don't do the thing that you that you don't do the thing that you that you don't do the thing that you said that you were going to do, said that you were going to do, said that you were going to do, especially if you've got a a habit group especially if you've got a a habit group especially if you've got a a habit group with other people and you're just with other people and you're just with other people and you're just ranking, okay, how many days out of this ranking, okay, how many days out of this ranking, okay, how many days out of this month did I do it versus them? That month did I do it versus them? That month did I do it versus them? That reliably has that I mean, that's gotten reliably has that I mean, that's gotten reliably has that I mean, that's gotten people off cocaine. That $1 thing has people off cocaine. That $1 thing has people off cocaine. That $1 thing has got So, what's that? $30 a month has got So, what's that? $30 a month has got So, what's that? $30 a month has gotten people off of $1,000 per month gotten people off of $1,000 per month gotten people off of $1,000 per month cocaine addictions because the social cocaine addictions because the social cocaine addictions because the social shame is so high and the fact you can shame is so high and the fact you can shame is so high and the fact you can the uh Uber Black XL version of this is the uh Uber Black XL version of this is the uh Uber Black XL version of this is to video yourself tearing up the dollar to video yourself tearing up the dollar to video yourself tearing up the dollar bill and throwing it in the trash. That bill and throwing it in the trash. That bill and throwing it in the trash. That is a good way to use supportive but is a good way to use supportive but is a good way to use supportive but social pressure to keep yourself going. social pressure to keep yourself going. social pressure to keep yourself going. Also, what is it that you're trying to Also, what is it that you're trying to Also, what is it that you're trying to do? Can you iterate on it a little bit? do? Can you iterate on it a little bit? do? Can you iterate on it a little bit? But I want to become a writer. I want to But I want to become a writer. I want to But I want to become a writer. I want to write a book. Okay. Before writing the write a book. Okay. Before writing the write a book. Okay. Before writing the book, why don't we try and publish uh book, why don't we try and publish uh book, why don't we try and publish uh one Substack post or two Substack posts one Substack post or two Substack posts one Substack post or two Substack posts a week for four weeks. Let's see if we a week for four weeks. Let's see if we a week for four weeks. Let's see if we can do that. What's the smallest version can do that. What's the smallest version can do that. What's the smallest version of something you can do? Project, hobby, of something you can do? Project, hobby, of something you can do? Project, hobby, business you're talking about here. Like business you're talking about here. Like business you're talking about here. Like you need someone. If it was me, I you need someone. If it was me, I you need someone. If it was me, I respond really well to social pressure. respond really well to social pressure. respond really well to social pressure. I would just get someone to do it with I would just get someone to do it with I would just get someone to do it with me. You want to go to the gym? Okay. me. You want to go to the gym? Okay. me. You want to go to the gym? Okay. Have a training partner. Training Have a training partner. Training Have a training partner. Training partner is free. It's literally free, partner is free. It's literally free, partner is free. It's literally free, but it is one of the best commitment but it is one of the best commitment but it is one of the best commitment devices you can ever have. Co-working devices you can ever have. Co-working devices you can ever have. Co-working with someone for whatever your new with someone for whatever your new with someone for whatever your new business or project is. They can sit business or project is. They can sit business or project is. They can sit next to you and you only need you're next to you and you only need you're next to you and you only need you're already doing nothing, right? So, the already doing nothing, right? So, the already doing nothing, right? So, the bar of doing something is zero. It is as bar of doing something is zero. It is as bar of doing something is zero. It is as low as it could be because you're never low as it could be because you're never low as it could be because you're never actually doing them. So, there is no actually doing them. So, there is no actually doing them. So, there is no such thing as starting too small. And such thing as starting too small. And such thing as starting too small. And everybody has this, oh, [ __ ] everybody has this, oh, [ __ ] everybody has this, oh, [ __ ] 30 push-ups a day. What's that going to 30 push-ups a day. What's that going to 30 push-ups a day. What's that going to do? Well, it's 30 more than you're doing do? Well, it's 30 more than you're doing do? Well, it's 30 more than you're doing now, dude. And by facing up to how small now, dude. And by facing up to how small now, dude. And by facing up to how small the first step is, a lot of the time you the first step is, a lot of the time you the first step is, a lot of the time you feel kind of shame. Oh, look at how feel kind of shame. Oh, look at how feel kind of shame. Oh, look at how feeble. Look at how silly and weak I've feeble. Look at how silly and weak I've feeble. Look at how silly and weak I've become that this is to be considered an become that this is to be considered an become that this is to be considered an achievement. It's like achievement. It's like achievement. It's like you're in a situation where that should you're in a situation where that should you're in a situation where that should be considered an achievement if you're be considered an achievement if you're be considered an achievement if you're never actually doing anything. Sheer never actually doing anything. Sheer never actually doing anything. Sheer willpower can work. I mean, if you want willpower can work. I mean, if you want willpower can work. I mean, if you want to lone ranger it, if you're like, I've to lone ranger it, if you're like, I've to lone ranger it, if you're like, I've got no one around me or what it is that got no one around me or what it is that got no one around me or what it is that I want to do, I can't find someone else I want to do, I can't find someone else I want to do, I can't find someone else to do it with me. You can do the habit to do it with me. You can do the habit to do it with me. You can do the habit group. You can usually get people group. You can usually get people group. You can usually get people involved. If for some reason that's involved. If for some reason that's involved. If for some reason that's unavailable, there's a pain pleasure unavailable, there's a pain pleasure unavailable, there's a pain pleasure principle that you can use from Tony principle that you can use from Tony principle that you can use from Tony Robbins, which is really great. Think Robbins, which is really great. Think Robbins, which is really great. Think about what not doing this, not about what not doing this, not about what not doing this, not committing to these projects has cost committing to these projects has cost committing to these projects has cost you in the past, is costing you now, and you in the past, is costing you now, and you in the past, is costing you now, and will cost you in the future. How much will cost you in the future. How much will cost you in the future. How much life have you missed? How much progress life have you missed? How much progress life have you missed? How much progress have you missed? How much shame have you have you missed? How much shame have you have you missed? How much shame have you got around not doing it? How much wasted got around not doing it? How much wasted got around not doing it? How much wasted time do you spend every single day not time do you spend every single day not time do you spend every single day not continuing to do it? And how poor will continuing to do it? And how poor will continuing to do it? And how poor will your future be when you think about not your future be when you think about not your future be when you think about not starting anything? And how much less starting anything? And how much less starting anything? And how much less development and success and fulfillment development and success and fulfillment development and success and fulfillment and connection to your life you're going and connection to your life you're going and connection to your life you're going to have if you don't. And then think to have if you don't. And then think to have if you don't. And then think about the opposite. Think about past, about the opposite. Think about past, about the opposite. Think about past, present, and future pleasure. Just how present, and future pleasure. Just how present, and future pleasure. Just how proud of yourself would you be if you proud of yourself would you be if you proud of yourself would you be if you could do this? Just how much more could do this? Just how much more could do this? Just how much more connected to your life would you be? And connected to your life would you be? And connected to your life would you be? And try and bring that. You want to feel the try and bring that. You want to feel the try and bring that. You want to feel the pain as viscerally as possible. Then you pain as viscerally as possible. Then you pain as viscerally as possible. Then you want to feel the pleasure as viscerally want to feel the pleasure as viscerally want to feel the pleasure as viscerally as possible. You can just write it down as possible. You can just write it down as possible. You can just write it down like past, present, future, 5 minutes, like past, present, future, 5 minutes, like past, present, future, 5 minutes, 10 minutes. What's it cost you? And then 10 minutes. What's it cost you? And then 10 minutes. What's it cost you? And then the same for the pleasure thing. Uh that the same for the pleasure thing. Uh that the same for the pleasure thing. Uh that has convinced me to make an awful lot of has convinced me to make an awful lot of has convinced me to make an awful lot of very difficult decisions. and very difficult decisions. and very difficult decisions. and rereading that every morning is a good rereading that every morning is a good rereading that every morning is a good way to do it. But my social pressure way to do it. But my social pressure way to do it. But my social pressure thing I think is is number one. thing I think is is number one. thing I think is is number one. Lifting food fun. How have you come to Lifting food fun. How have you come to Lifting food fun. How have you come to terms with having health struggles so terms with having health struggles so terms with having health struggles so young despite living well. young despite living well. young despite living well. Yeah. [sighs] Yeah. [sighs] Yeah. [sighs] Yeah. It feels uh it feels comically very unfair. It feels it feels comically very unfair. It feels like some like some like some cosmic kick in the nuts by the universe, cosmic kick in the nuts by the universe, cosmic kick in the nuts by the universe, but the the the nutcake was meant for but the the the nutcake was meant for but the the the nutcake was meant for someone else. Like I I I don't feel like someone else. Like I I I don't feel like someone else. Like I I I don't feel like I deserve it. And I'm sure that I deserve it. And I'm sure that I deserve it. And I'm sure that everybody feels this way. Like even a everybody feels this way. Like even a everybody feels this way. Like even a serial killer that gets [ __ ] cancer serial killer that gets [ __ ] cancer serial killer that gets [ __ ] cancer probably feels this way. but probably feels this way. but probably feels this way. but not smoking, not smoking, not smoking, not partying for over a decade, not partying for over a decade, not partying for over a decade, basically spending an awful lot of time basically spending an awful lot of time basically spending an awful lot of time like really trying to be a good person like really trying to be a good person like really trying to be a good person and make the world a better place and and make the world a better place and and make the world a better place and and and and commit to projects that I think are like commit to projects that I think are like commit to projects that I think are like really valuable and that I'm proud of really valuable and that I'm proud of really valuable and that I'm proud of and looking after my health and training and looking after my health and training and looking after my health and training and you know regular sleep and wake and you know regular sleep and wake and you know regular sleep and wake times just tick tick tick tick tick tick times just tick tick tick tick tick tick times just tick tick tick tick tick tick tick tick tick. Meanwhile, there's some tick tick tick. Meanwhile, there's some tick tick tick. Meanwhile, there's some bloke in [ __ ] bloke in [ __ ] bloke in [ __ ] Wyoming, Wyoming, Wyoming, 65, smoked every single day of his life 65, smoked every single day of his life 65, smoked every single day of his life in perfect health. Just totally fine, in perfect health. Just totally fine, in perfect health. Just totally fine, oblivious to the fact that mold and Lyme oblivious to the fact that mold and Lyme oblivious to the fact that mold and Lyme disease are even a thing. and trying to construct some bigger trying to construct some bigger narrative about narrative about narrative about whether I'm whether this is justified whether I'm whether this is justified whether I'm whether this is justified comically or I'm worthy of it or this is comically or I'm worthy of it or this is comically or I'm worthy of it or this is part of some grand story thing uh can part of some grand story thing uh can part of some grand story thing uh can kind of drive you a bit insane and in my kind of drive you a bit insane and in my kind of drive you a bit insane and in my experience having tried to do it a lot experience having tried to do it a lot experience having tried to do it a lot can also reduce agency. It can make you can also reduce agency. It can make you can also reduce agency. It can make you feel like well if these unfair things feel like well if these unfair things feel like well if these unfair things keep happening to me keep happening to me keep happening to me what's the point in trying in future. what's the point in trying in future. what's the point in trying in future. It's actually quite an apathetic like an It's actually quite an apathetic like an It's actually quite an apathetic like an apathyinducing nihilistic worldview. You apathyinducing nihilistic worldview. You apathyinducing nihilistic worldview. You go if it's outside of my control then go if it's outside of my control then go if it's outside of my control then that means that the fixes are also that means that the fixes are also that means that the fixes are also outside of my control. And even if there outside of my control. And even if there outside of my control. And even if there is nothing that you can do to speed it is nothing that you can do to speed it is nothing that you can do to speed it up which there almost always is the up which there almost always is the up which there almost always is the belief that there is something that you belief that there is something that you belief that there is something that you can do is more useful than the impact of can do is more useful than the impact of can do is more useful than the impact of doing the thing. like just believing doing the thing. like just believing doing the thing. like just believing that you have some agency and that that you have some agency and that that you have some agency and that you're happening to life as opposed to you're happening to life as opposed to you're happening to life as opposed to life is happening to you. But regardless life is happening to you. But regardless life is happening to you. But regardless of whether it's I'm happening to life or of whether it's I'm happening to life or of whether it's I'm happening to life or life's happening to me, life happens life's happening to me, life happens life's happening to me, life happens through me is not something that I've through me is not something that I've through me is not something that I've been able to feel for a while, which been able to feel for a while, which been able to feel for a while, which [ __ ] sucks. If you think about if you think about being ill or or if you think about being ill or or anything going wrong in life, right, anything going wrong in life, right, anything going wrong in life, right, financial catastrophe, breakup is like financial catastrophe, breakup is like financial catastrophe, breakup is like you going against the grain. You're on a you going against the grain. You're on a you going against the grain. You're on a surfboard, but you're swimming out. surfboard, but you're swimming out. surfboard, but you're swimming out. You're trying to just getting smashed in You're trying to just getting smashed in You're trying to just getting smashed in the face over and over by waves and the face over and over by waves and the face over and over by waves and you're trying to swim out. And then you're trying to swim out. And then you're trying to swim out. And then you happening to life is you being able you happening to life is you being able you happening to life is you being able to do that swimming effectively and then to do that swimming effectively and then to do that swimming effectively and then sit on your board where you want. But sit on your board where you want. But sit on your board where you want. But life happening through you is you life happening through you is you life happening through you is you actually being able to surf the waves. actually being able to surf the waves. actually being able to surf the waves. And you move, you flow, you don't And you move, you flow, you don't And you move, you flow, you don't actually end up thinking all that much. actually end up thinking all that much. actually end up thinking all that much. Stuff just seems to happen. And maybe Stuff just seems to happen. And maybe Stuff just seems to happen. And maybe this sounds way too esoteric. Maybe this this sounds way too esoteric. Maybe this this sounds way too esoteric. Maybe this is because I've spent too long at a gay is because I've spent too long at a gay is because I've spent too long at a gay meditation retreat with a bunch of meditation retreat with a bunch of meditation retreat with a bunch of people from San Francisco, which is people from San Francisco, which is people from San Francisco, which is fantastic, by the way. Uh, I did look at fantastic, by the way. Uh, I did look at fantastic, by the way. Uh, I did look at a dude's butt, and it seems to be true. Whether it is true it seems to be true. Whether it is true or it's not, everybody has an or it's not, everybody has an or it's not, everybody has an understanding of what I'm talking about. understanding of what I'm talking about. understanding of what I'm talking about. There are times when it feels like There are times when it feels like There are times when it feels like you're dancing in rhythm with the music you're dancing in rhythm with the music you're dancing in rhythm with the music of life. And there are times where it of life. And there are times where it of life. And there are times where it feels like, what the [ __ ] beat is this? feels like, what the [ __ ] beat is this? feels like, what the [ __ ] beat is this? Like, why? I've got two left feet and Like, why? I've got two left feet and Like, why? I've got two left feet and it's a a three over four beat that I it's a a three over four beat that I it's a a three over four beat that I just [ __ ] can't catch a break on. And just [ __ ] can't catch a break on. And just [ __ ] can't catch a break on. And when it's been that way for a while, it when it's been that way for a while, it when it's been that way for a while, it it really sucks. So one thing that it's it really sucks. So one thing that it's it really sucks. So one thing that it's done and one thing that I was told by done and one thing that I was told by done and one thing that I was told by Daniel Schmackenberger actually this Daniel Schmackenberger actually this Daniel Schmackenberger actually this beautiful long voice note that he gave beautiful long voice note that he gave beautiful long voice note that he gave me was me was me was there's no one that I know of there's no one that I know of there's no one that I know of who has become a truly humble and who has become a truly humble and who has become a truly humble and empathetic person without going through empathetic person without going through empathetic person without going through a period in their life where they a period in their life where they a period in their life where they literally didn't know if they could get literally didn't know if they could get literally didn't know if they could get any better. And this is the difference any better. And this is the difference any better. And this is the difference between just going through a hard time between just going through a hard time between just going through a hard time and genuinely having your entire and genuinely having your entire and genuinely having your entire worldview changed. worldview changed. worldview changed. Everybody's going to go through Everybody's going to go through Everybody's going to go through difficulties. Everybody is going to face difficulties. Everybody is going to face difficulties. Everybody is going to face some time where stuff is hard. But not some time where stuff is hard. But not some time where stuff is hard. But not knowing if you're ever going to be able knowing if you're ever going to be able knowing if you're ever going to be able to get out of it, if it's ever going to to get out of it, if it's ever going to to get out of it, if it's ever going to improve, kind of changes you on a improve, kind of changes you on a improve, kind of changes you on a fundamental cellular level emotionally. fundamental cellular level emotionally. fundamental cellular level emotionally. And I felt that I'm so much less And I felt that I'm so much less And I felt that I'm so much less judgmental. I'm so much less castigating and castigating and dismissive and callous about other dismissive and callous about other dismissive and callous about other people going through things. Like other people going through things. Like other people going through things. Like other people can really [ __ ] suffer and people can really [ __ ] suffer and people can really [ __ ] suffer and from the outside it looks like nothing from the outside it looks like nothing from the outside it looks like nothing and from the inside it feels like the and from the inside it feels like the and from the inside it feels like the world's falling apart. And we don't want world's falling apart. And we don't want world's falling apart. And we don't want to indulge martyrs or victimhood to indulge martyrs or victimhood to indulge martyrs or victimhood culture, but culture, but culture, but people can really eat [ __ ] and tell no people can really eat [ __ ] and tell no people can really eat [ __ ] and tell no one about it. and giving as much care one about it. and giving as much care one about it. and giving as much care just generally to the [ __ ] world is just generally to the [ __ ] world is just generally to the [ __ ] world is something that I didn't realize I wasn't something that I didn't realize I wasn't something that I didn't realize I wasn't doing enough of. And doing enough of. And doing enough of. And the last two years or so have really the last two years or so have really the last two years or so have really they've really brought me back down to they've really brought me back down to they've really brought me back down to earth with that. And it's a part of me earth with that. And it's a part of me earth with that. And it's a part of me that feels really connected. It's a part that feels really connected. It's a part that feels really connected. It's a part of me that feels like it was it was of me that feels like it was it was of me that feels like it was it was eroded out of me. I think it is for a eroded out of me. I think it is for a eroded out of me. I think it is for a lot of us that if you fully take on lot of us that if you fully take on lot of us that if you fully take on board just how much suffering there is board just how much suffering there is board just how much suffering there is that other people other areas of the that other people other areas of the that other people other areas of the world the the those that are close to world the the those that are close to world the the those that are close to you um people that you don't know like you um people that you don't know like you um people that you don't know like just how much lots of people struggle just how much lots of people struggle just how much lots of people struggle and how hard it is. and how hard it is. and how hard it is. It's overwhelming. Like it's really It's overwhelming. Like it's really It's overwhelming. Like it's really really difficult and going through it really difficult and going through it really difficult and going through it yourself makes it impossible to ignore. yourself makes it impossible to ignore. yourself makes it impossible to ignore. It's absolutely impossible to ignore It's absolutely impossible to ignore It's absolutely impossible to ignore just how [ __ ] hard life can be if just how [ __ ] hard life can be if just how [ __ ] hard life can be if it's been hard for you too. and you need it's been hard for you too. and you need it's been hard for you too. and you need to be a a flippant and dismissive to be a a flippant and dismissive to be a a flippant and dismissive [ __ ] to not take that and realize, [ __ ] to not take that and realize, [ __ ] to not take that and realize, okay, I should probably treat other okay, I should probably treat other okay, I should probably treat other people with way more [ __ ] care than I people with way more [ __ ] care than I people with way more [ __ ] care than I am. So, that's a long-winded way to say am. So, that's a long-winded way to say am. So, that's a long-winded way to say it [ __ ] sucks, but at some point in it [ __ ] sucks, but at some point in it [ __ ] sucks, but at some point in future, I'm going to look back on this future, I'm going to look back on this future, I'm going to look back on this and feel more proud of myself than I and feel more proud of myself than I and feel more proud of myself than I ever have for continuing to do the ever have for continuing to do the ever have for continuing to do the project, for not stopping, for not project, for not stopping, for not project, for not stopping, for not giving up, for things being hard, but giving up, for things being hard, but giving up, for things being hard, but just keeping going. And if that's a just keeping going. And if that's a just keeping going. And if that's a story that I get to tell with genuine story that I get to tell with genuine story that I get to tell with genuine stripes on my uniform of, oh, I I did stripes on my uniform of, oh, I I did stripes on my uniform of, oh, I I did it. I was in the trenches and I came out it. I was in the trenches and I came out it. I was in the trenches and I came out the other side. the other side. the other side. [ __ ] Like, [ __ ] Like, [ __ ] Like, it's a beautiful opportunity and that's it's a beautiful opportunity and that's it's a beautiful opportunity and that's what I'm trying to hold on to. Joel what I'm trying to hold on to. Joel what I'm trying to hold on to. Joel Greavves 495. Hey Chris, going from Greavves 495. Hey Chris, going from Greavves 495. Hey Chris, going from recording videos on the sofa to having a recording videos on the sofa to having a recording videos on the sofa to having a full team in different sets is a big full team in different sets is a big full team in different sets is a big change. How has your focus and time change. How has your focus and time change. How has your focus and time shifted as the pod grows? Are you still shifted as the pod grows? Are you still shifted as the pod grows? Are you still reading just as many books and reading just as many books and reading just as many books and researching for the next guest? Or have researching for the next guest? Or have researching for the next guest? Or have these tasks been delegated to employees? these tasks been delegated to employees? these tasks been delegated to employees? Longtime listener of the pod, can't wait Longtime listener of the pod, can't wait Longtime listener of the pod, can't wait to see you in Manchester. Keep it up. to see you in Manchester. Keep it up. to see you in Manchester. Keep it up. Thank you, Joel. I will see you in Thank you, Joel. I will see you in Thank you, Joel. I will see you in Manchester, too. Yeah, I mean, it is a Manchester, too. Yeah, I mean, it is a Manchester, too. Yeah, I mean, it is a big difference, but keeping myself in big difference, but keeping myself in big difference, but keeping myself in touch with coming up with ideas, touch with coming up with ideas, touch with coming up with ideas, choosing the guests, and working out choosing the guests, and working out choosing the guests, and working out what I want to talk to the guests about. what I want to talk to the guests about. what I want to talk to the guests about. That really is the core of what I do. That really is the core of what I do. That really is the core of what I do. And reliably, when I've seen other And reliably, when I've seen other And reliably, when I've seen other creators take their eye off the ball and creators take their eye off the ball and creators take their eye off the ball and not be in touch with that, which not be in touch with that, which not be in touch with that, which ultimately is what the show is, right? ultimately is what the show is, right? ultimately is what the show is, right? Who's on? What are you talking about? Who's on? What are you talking about? Who's on? What are you talking about? And what are the ideas that you have in And what are the ideas that you have in And what are the ideas that you have in your mind that you think are important, your mind that you think are important, your mind that you think are important, that's that is what the podcast is. That that's that is what the podcast is. That that's that is what the podcast is. That is what content is. And sure, maybe you is what content is. And sure, maybe you is what content is. And sure, maybe you can get people in who are amazing can get people in who are amazing can get people in who are amazing writers or researchers or resurfacers of writers or researchers or resurfacers of writers or researchers or resurfacers of of of content and information, but that of of content and information, but that of of content and information, but that can't replace your taste. And the times can't replace your taste. And the times can't replace your taste. And the times when I have tried to play about with when I have tried to play about with when I have tried to play about with being fed more information from even being fed more information from even being fed more information from even aggregate news websites and stuff like aggregate news websites and stuff like aggregate news websites and stuff like that, it feels like someone's put their that, it feels like someone's put their that, it feels like someone's put their hand inside of my ass and like hand inside of my ass and like hand inside of my ass and like marionetting me. Oh, that's that's marionetting me. Oh, that's that's marionetting me. Oh, that's that's puppeting, I suppose. Or marionetting me puppeting, I suppose. Or marionetting me puppeting, I suppose. Or marionetting me from above. from above. from above. I don't I I've never liked that. Um I don't I I've never liked that. Um I don't I I've never liked that. Um things have changed an awful lot. Uh but things have changed an awful lot. Uh but things have changed an awful lot. Uh but those areas, the prepping for the guest, those areas, the prepping for the guest, those areas, the prepping for the guest, the reading, I mean, my reading time has the reading, I mean, my reading time has the reading, I mean, my reading time has been squeezed an awful lot, but that's been squeezed an awful lot, but that's been squeezed an awful lot, but that's just a discipline thing. It's the same just a discipline thing. It's the same just a discipline thing. It's the same as saying that my time in the gym has as saying that my time in the gym has as saying that my time in the gym has been squeezed. When I get up on time and been squeezed. When I get up on time and been squeezed. When I get up on time and I'm disciplined, I've got enough time to I'm disciplined, I've got enough time to I'm disciplined, I've got enough time to read. You don't need to read that much read. You don't need to read that much read. You don't need to read that much to come up with really great ideas. I to come up with really great ideas. I to come up with really great ideas. I read read read four pages of that Sasha Chapen article four pages of that Sasha Chapen article four pages of that Sasha Chapen article earlier on today and I had like three earlier on today and I had like three earlier on today and I had like three things that I can't wait to talk about things that I can't wait to talk about things that I can't wait to talk about on the show from from four pages. is I on the show from from four pages. is I on the show from from four pages. is I mean it was a very very good article but mean it was a very very good article but mean it was a very very good article but yeah reading time's been squeezed but yeah reading time's been squeezed but yeah reading time's been squeezed but outsourcing stuff like that is basically outsourcing stuff like that is basically outsourcing stuff like that is basically the beginning of the end for most shows the beginning of the end for most shows the beginning of the end for most shows in in my opinion unless the guest sorry in in my opinion unless the guest sorry in in my opinion unless the guest sorry unless the host uh sucked from a taste unless the host uh sucked from a taste unless the host uh sucked from a taste perspective and a discernment perspective and a discernment perspective and a discernment perspective but uh perspective but uh perspective but uh I enjoy coming up with ideas. I enjoy I enjoy coming up with ideas. I enjoy I enjoy coming up with ideas. I enjoy choosing the people that are coming on choosing the people that are coming on choosing the people that are coming on the show. I just now get to have other the show. I just now get to have other the show. I just now get to have other people people people make that stuff happen. I want to bring make that stuff happen. I want to bring make that stuff happen. I want to bring this person on. Okay, let's see if we this person on. Okay, let's see if we this person on. Okay, let's see if we can speak to his management. Let's try can speak to his management. Let's try can speak to his management. Let's try and find a date for him. As opposed to and find a date for him. As opposed to and find a date for him. As opposed to it being me, right? I booked the first it being me, right? I booked the first it being me, right? I booked the first 700 guests myself. No, 800 guests. I 700 guests myself. No, 800 guests. I 700 guests myself. No, 800 guests. I booked. No assistance on the show. booked. No assistance on the show. booked. No assistance on the show. Outreach, time, scheduling, calendar, Outreach, time, scheduling, calendar, Outreach, time, scheduling, calendar, send over the link, send over the send over the link, send over the send over the link, send over the address. Like, it was it wasn't done by address. Like, it was it wasn't done by address. Like, it was it wasn't done by anybody else. And so, I've I've served anybody else. And so, I've I've served anybody else. And so, I've I've served my time and and if I can just choose who my time and and if I can just choose who my time and and if I can just choose who I want to come on, that gives me more I want to come on, that gives me more I want to come on, that gives me more time to focus on taste. But there is time to focus on taste. But there is time to focus on taste. But there is always shiny object syndrome. 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So, if you look at the tour schedule, chris the tour schedule, chris the tour schedule, chris Williamson.live, you'll see we've got Williamson.live, you'll see we've got Williamson.live, you'll see we've got four days back to back, which is heavy, four days back to back, which is heavy, four days back to back, which is heavy, but we've got four days back toback, but we've got four days back toback, but we've got four days back toback, which include going from Edinburgh, which include going from Edinburgh, which include going from Edinburgh, which is the middle of Scotland, to the which is the middle of Scotland, to the which is the middle of Scotland, to the most southernly show that we do in most southernly show that we do in most southernly show that we do in England. So, we got a tour bus. That's England. So, we got a tour bus. That's England. So, we got a tour bus. That's the only way. there's going to be an the only way. there's going to be an the only way. there's going to be an overnight sleeper tour bus and then overnight sleeper tour bus and then overnight sleeper tour bus and then we've got two more. Um, and then we have we've got two more. Um, and then we have we've got two more. Um, and then we have a little break and everybody was like, a little break and everybody was like, a little break and everybody was like, "Hey, we've got these six days off. Uh, "Hey, we've got these six days off. Uh, "Hey, we've got these six days off. Uh, it's why don't we we can either fit some it's why don't we we can either fit some it's why don't we we can either fit some Germany shows in or you can you can you Germany shows in or you can you can you Germany shows in or you can you can you let's do a cinema run." I was like, let's do a cinema run." I was like, let's do a cinema run." I was like, "Dude, I've just done four [ __ ] shows "Dude, I've just done four [ __ ] shows "Dude, I've just done four [ __ ] shows in four days. The last thing I want to in four days. The last thing I want to in four days. The last thing I want to do is get up and go time to prep for a do is get up and go time to prep for a do is get up and go time to prep for a Landerbot on. Alan, tell me about while Landerbot on. Alan, tell me about while Landerbot on. Alan, tell me about while my head's still at my ass from the last my head's still at my ass from the last my head's still at my ass from the last four nights." So, this is my genius four nights." So, this is my genius four nights." So, this is my genius plan. Genius plan is plan. Genius plan is plan. Genius plan is get out to the UK a little bit early so get out to the UK a little bit early so get out to the UK a little bit early so I'm as prepared as possible to get butt I'm as prepared as possible to get butt I'm as prepared as possible to get butt [ __ ] by four and four. Do the entire [ __ ] by four and four. Do the entire [ __ ] by four and four. Do the entire run. We finish in Dublin or Belfast, one run. We finish in Dublin or Belfast, one run. We finish in Dublin or Belfast, one of the two. And then we have one day off of the two. And then we have one day off of the two. And then we have one day off in London and then I'm going to do a in London and then I'm going to do a in London and then I'm going to do a full run for probably seven or 10 days full run for probably seven or 10 days full run for probably seven or 10 days in London after tour. No rush, nothing in London after tour. No rush, nothing in London after tour. No rush, nothing coming up at some point in future. And coming up at some point in future. And coming up at some point in future. And um I'm going to rip the ass out of that. um I'm going to rip the ass out of that. um I'm going to rip the ass out of that. Definitely Finn and Horatio again. Definitely Finn and Horatio again. Definitely Finn and Horatio again. Definitely Alan. Definitely Bugsy Malone Definitely Alan. Definitely Bugsy Malone Definitely Alan. Definitely Bugsy Malone round two. Um Brian Cox, I want him. Uh round two. Um Brian Cox, I want him. Uh round two. Um Brian Cox, I want him. Uh Mary Harrington will probably come back Mary Harrington will probably come back Mary Harrington will probably come back on. I might try and do a round table on. I might try and do a round table on. I might try and do a round table with Freyer India and her. Who knows? with Freyer India and her. Who knows? with Freyer India and her. Who knows? Bonnie Blue round two. We'll see. Uh who Bonnie Blue round two. We'll see. Uh who Bonnie Blue round two. We'll see. Uh who the [ __ ] else is on that list? There's a the [ __ ] else is on that list? There's a the [ __ ] else is on that list? There's a bunch of people. There's a lot of bunch of people. There's a lot of bunch of people. There's a lot of people. Pro almost certainly another people. Pro almost certainly another people. Pro almost certainly another Rory Sutherland. Maybe David Deutsch guy Rory Sutherland. Maybe David Deutsch guy Rory Sutherland. Maybe David Deutsch guy that wrote the beginning of Infinity. that wrote the beginning of Infinity. that wrote the beginning of Infinity. [ __ ] You know, I used to back in the [ __ ] You know, I used to back in the [ __ ] You know, I used to back in the day, I used to always be very I was so day, I used to always be very I was so day, I used to always be very I was so tentative. I wouldn't ever say who I had tentative. I wouldn't ever say who I had tentative. I wouldn't ever say who I had that was coming on the show because I that was coming on the show because I that was coming on the show because I was terrified of some other podcaster was terrified of some other podcaster was terrified of some other podcaster realizing what my upcoming guest list realizing what my upcoming guest list realizing what my upcoming guest list was or or me wanting to like keep it was or or me wanting to like keep it was or or me wanting to like keep it secret from you. I think it was mostly secret from you. I think it was mostly secret from you. I think it was mostly me wanting to like jump scare you with me wanting to like jump scare you with me wanting to like jump scare you with exciting guests. But now, I think it's exciting guests. But now, I think it's exciting guests. But now, I think it's just cooler to go [ __ ] like he's going just cooler to go [ __ ] like he's going just cooler to go [ __ ] like he's going to have Brian Cox on. That's going to be to have Brian Cox on. That's going to be to have Brian Cox on. That's going to be amazing. So, that's my that's my genius amazing. So, that's my that's my genius amazing. So, that's my that's my genius plan. Get fist [ __ ] by the show and plan. Get fist [ __ ] by the show and plan. Get fist [ __ ] by the show and then get fist [ __ ] by the cinema then get fist [ __ ] by the cinema then get fist [ __ ] by the cinema production. And in the middle of that is production. And in the middle of that is production. And in the middle of that is Halloween. So if you've got some advice Halloween. So if you've got some advice Halloween. So if you've got some advice for a good Halloween party on Saturday, for a good Halloween party on Saturday, for a good Halloween party on Saturday, 31st of October in London, we're going 31st of October in London, we're going 31st of October in London, we're going to be there and I will dress up like to be there and I will dress up like to be there and I will dress up like Spider-Man. Come and see him. Mind Fox. Spider-Man. Come and see him. Mind Fox. Spider-Man. Come and see him. Mind Fox. Mind Fox, what do you notice you've Mind Fox, what do you notice you've Mind Fox, what do you notice you've improved most on when looking back at improved most on when looking back at improved most on when looking back at old episodes? Been watching since 200k old episodes? Been watching since 200k old episodes? Been watching since 200k subs. That is [ __ ] insane. 200k would subs. That is [ __ ] insane. 200k would subs. That is [ __ ] insane. 200k would have been have been have been the start of 2022 would have been the start of 2022 cuz would have been the start of 2022 cuz Peterson in the Alamo the day that I Peterson in the Alamo the day that I Peterson in the Alamo the day that I moved to America was midFebruary and moved to America was midFebruary and moved to America was midFebruary and that was 250. So, you have been here a that was 250. So, you have been here a that was 250. So, you have been here a long time. That is in the grand scheme long time. That is in the grand scheme long time. That is in the grand scheme of the show of eight years, not an of the show of eight years, not an of the show of eight years, not an insane amount of time, but 50% early insane amount of time, but 50% early insane amount of time, but 50% early 50%. Crazy. Isn't that also mad that 50%. Crazy. Isn't that also mad that 50%. Crazy. Isn't that also mad that we're at whatever 4 something million we're at whatever 4 something million we're at whatever 4 something million subs and 50% of the duration of the show subs and 50% of the duration of the show subs and 50% of the duration of the show was 200K. Like, it's just for anyone was 200K. Like, it's just for anyone was 200K. Like, it's just for anyone that's like, "Oh man, I'm doing this that's like, "Oh man, I'm doing this that's like, "Oh man, I'm doing this thing. It doesn't seem to be growing thing. It doesn't seem to be growing thing. It doesn't seem to be growing that quickly." you go, okay, half of the that quickly." you go, okay, half of the that quickly." you go, okay, half of the time of this podcast got me to 200k subs time of this podcast got me to 200k subs time of this podcast got me to 200k subs and the other half got us like 4.1 and the other half got us like 4.1 and the other half got us like 4.1 million. So yeah, it just never fails to million. So yeah, it just never fails to million. So yeah, it just never fails to be a law in that way. What do you notice be a law in that way. What do you notice be a law in that way. What do you notice you've improved on most when looking you've improved on most when looking you've improved on most when looking back at old episodes? Ah, man, so much. back at old episodes? Ah, man, so much. back at old episodes? Ah, man, so much. I I I probably my confidence sitting down with probably my confidence sitting down with probably my confidence sitting down with a guest. I did a a screen test with a guest. I did a a screen test with a guest. I did a a screen test with there's a production going on and they there's a production going on and they there's a production going on and they wanted me to test for a scripted role. wanted me to test for a scripted role. wanted me to test for a scripted role. And as I was doing it, I realized just And as I was doing it, I realized just And as I was doing it, I realized just how nervous I was despite the fact that how nervous I was despite the fact that how nervous I was despite the fact that there was no one watching. No one will there was no one watching. No one will there was no one watching. No one will ever see this except for some nameless, ever see this except for some nameless, ever see this except for some nameless, faceless [ __ ] casting director faceless [ __ ] casting director faceless [ __ ] casting director somewhere. And I was so [ __ ] nervous. somewhere. And I was so [ __ ] nervous. somewhere. And I was so [ __ ] nervous. And I realized this because I have no And I realized this because I have no And I realized this because I have no experience doing this. I don't know what experience doing this. I don't know what experience doing this. I don't know what I'm doing. and just the reps of sitting I'm doing. and just the reps of sitting I'm doing. and just the reps of sitting down in a room. I'm speaking to Elon at down in a room. I'm speaking to Elon at down in a room. I'm speaking to Elon at the moment. I'm back on Rogan at some the moment. I'm back on Rogan at some the moment. I'm back on Rogan at some point soon. And sure, that'll those will point soon. And sure, that'll those will point soon. And sure, that'll those will give I call Rogan my the final boss of give I call Rogan my the final boss of give I call Rogan my the final boss of my social anxiety. That will give my my social anxiety. That will give my my social anxiety. That will give my heart rate a tickle, but [ __ ] me, it is heart rate a tickle, but [ __ ] me, it is heart rate a tickle, but [ __ ] me, it is so different to the first time that I so different to the first time that I so different to the first time that I ever spoke to Jordan Peterson. I ever spoke to Jordan Peterson. I ever spoke to Jordan Peterson. I remember I was doing breath work like remember I was doing breath work like remember I was doing breath work like walking around near where I lived in walking around near where I lived in walking around near where I lived in Newcastle like trying to [ __ ] get my Newcastle like trying to [ __ ] get my Newcastle like trying to [ __ ] get my heart rate under control before I sat heart rate under control before I sat heart rate under control before I sat down to speak to him in 2021. And now down to speak to him in 2021. And now down to speak to him in 2021. And now the third episode, fourth episode that I the third episode, fourth episode that I the third episode, fourth episode that I did with him, I was like bored waiting. did with him, I was like bored waiting. did with him, I was like bored waiting. I think he was a bit late and I was I think he was a bit late and I was I think he was a bit late and I was like, "Hey, [ __ ] Jordan, come on. like, "Hey, [ __ ] Jordan, come on. like, "Hey, [ __ ] Jordan, come on. What's going on?" It's that's really What's going on?" It's that's really What's going on?" It's that's really cool because that level of comfort cool because that level of comfort cool because that level of comfort socially was something that I definitely socially was something that I definitely socially was something that I definitely didn't have. And the other thing is didn't have. And the other thing is didn't have. And the other thing is uh ability to sit with silence. A lot of uh ability to sit with silence. A lot of uh ability to sit with silence. A lot of the time people ask what sort of makes a the time people ask what sort of makes a the time people ask what sort of makes a great conversationalist, at least one great conversationalist, at least one great conversationalist, at least one that's recorded. And just being able to that's recorded. And just being able to that's recorded. And just being able to give people room, you're scared because give people room, you're scared because give people room, you're scared because it doesn't sound like you're adding it doesn't sound like you're adding it doesn't sound like you're adding value. But if you're having a value. But if you're having a value. But if you're having a conversation, even if you're having a conversation, even if you're having a conversation, even if you're having a conversation on stage, some fireside conversation on stage, some fireside conversation on stage, some fireside chat with your CEO or or some partner or chat with your CEO or or some partner or chat with your CEO or or some partner or you're listening to someone, you're you're listening to someone, you're you're listening to someone, you're listening to your girlfriend or your listening to your girlfriend or your listening to your girlfriend or your boyfriend talk to you. And just being boyfriend talk to you. And just being boyfriend talk to you. And just being able to sit in the silence and give them able to sit in the silence and give them able to sit in the silence and give them some room, it is almost like there is a some room, it is almost like there is a some room, it is almost like there is a third participant even if there's no third participant even if there's no third participant even if there's no audience. There's always a third audience. There's always a third audience. There's always a third participant when you're doing the show participant when you're doing the show participant when you're doing the show cuz there's you, the guest, and then the cuz there's you, the guest, and then the cuz there's you, the guest, and then the people that are listening. They need people that are listening. They need people that are listening. They need time to think as well. But there's time to think as well. But there's time to think as well. But there's almost a third participant one-on-one almost a third participant one-on-one almost a third participant one-on-one which is like their brain. They're which is like their brain. They're which is like their brain. They're saying things just going through the saying things just going through the saying things just going through the motion g like that little pause if you don't like that little pause if you don't interject and feel like you need to say interject and feel like you need to say interject and feel like you need to say something reliably. something reliably. something reliably. People will have something they it's People will have something they it's People will have something they it's very appreciated. Silence is really very appreciated. Silence is really very appreciated. Silence is really appreciated. So patience comfort with appreciated. So patience comfort with appreciated. So patience comfort with patience is one of them and confidence patience is one of them and confidence patience is one of them and confidence socially would be the two two of the socially would be the two two of the socially would be the two two of the biggest ones. that. And if you go back biggest ones. that. And if you go back biggest ones. that. And if you go back and listen to the first ever episode, I and listen to the first ever episode, I and listen to the first ever episode, I didn't understand that you could nod didn't understand that you could nod didn't understand that you could nod silently and I thought that every time silently and I thought that every time silently and I thought that every time that I nodded, I had to go mhm. that I nodded, I had to go mhm. that I nodded, I had to go mhm. Mhm. Mhm. [ __ ] infuriating. Mhm. Mhm. [ __ ] infuriating. Mhm. Mhm. [ __ ] infuriating. Thankfully, that's gone as well. Thankfully, that's gone as well. Thankfully, that's gone as well. Z Z Z 526. Hey Chris, love the show. It's 526. Hey Chris, love the show. It's 526. Hey Chris, love the show. It's almost the only podcast I listen to almost the only podcast I listen to almost the only podcast I listen to regularly. What advice would you give to regularly. What advice would you give to regularly. What advice would you give to boys aging from 18 to 24 who wants to boys aging from 18 to 24 who wants to boys aging from 18 to 24 who wants to become a man? What makes a good man? become a man? What makes a good man? become a man? What makes a good man? Much thanks in advance. Thank you very Much thanks in advance. Thank you very Much thanks in advance. Thank you very much. Uh, what advice would I give to much. Uh, what advice would I give to much. Uh, what advice would I give to boys aging 18 to 24 who want to become a boys aging 18 to 24 who want to become a boys aging 18 to 24 who want to become a man? man? man? I don't think you need to speedrun I don't think you need to speedrun I don't think you need to speedrun becoming a man, dude. becoming a man, dude. becoming a man, dude. I think we spend most of our childhood I think we spend most of our childhood I think we spend most of our childhood unable to wait to become a grown-up and unable to wait to become a grown-up and unable to wait to become a grown-up and most of our adult years trying to become most of our adult years trying to become most of our adult years trying to become a child again. a child again. a child again. And I don't think you need to rush this. And I don't think you need to rush this. And I don't think you need to rush this. Like, it's a beautiful period. 18 to 24 Like, it's a beautiful period. 18 to 24 Like, it's a beautiful period. 18 to 24 is a [ __ ] sick time. Ask anybody in is a [ __ ] sick time. Ask anybody in is a [ __ ] sick time. Ask anybody in their 30s or 40s. Like, ah, man. Like, their 30s or 40s. Like, ah, man. Like, their 30s or 40s. Like, ah, man. Like, it was so fun. I had no it was so fun. I had no it was so fun. I had no responsibilities. I was just able to responsibilities. I was just able to responsibilities. I was just able to explore. If you spend all of your life explore. If you spend all of your life explore. If you spend all of your life wanting to be somewhere or something wanting to be somewhere or something wanting to be somewhere or something that you're not, you will miss your that you're not, you will miss your that you're not, you will miss your life. life. life. You will permanently spend your days You will permanently spend your days You will permanently spend your days floating through the things that you're floating through the things that you're floating through the things that you're doing, thinking about the thing that is doing, thinking about the thing that is doing, thinking about the thing that is going to come after it or wishing that going to come after it or wishing that going to come after it or wishing that you were a thing that has come before. I you were a thing that has come before. I you were a thing that has come before. I don't think that you need to hurry up don't think that you need to hurry up don't think that you need to hurry up becoming a man. The manhood thing will becoming a man. The manhood thing will becoming a man. The manhood thing will come along for the ride. And what makes come along for the ride. And what makes come along for the ride. And what makes a good man? [sighs] a good man? [sighs] a good man? [sighs] The best definition that I've heard is The best definition that I've heard is The best definition that I've heard is a guy who a guy who a guy who knows where he's going, is having fun knows where he's going, is having fun knows where he's going, is having fun while he's going there, and is while he's going there, and is while he's going there, and is comfortable in his own skin. comfortable in his own skin. comfortable in his own skin. Like those three things, I think Like those three things, I think Like those three things, I think reliably make the sort of man that other reliably make the sort of man that other reliably make the sort of man that other people want to be around. Filter it people want to be around. Filter it people want to be around. Filter it through some wisdom. Make sure that the through some wisdom. Make sure that the through some wisdom. Make sure that the thing that you want to do, the comfort thing that you want to do, the comfort thing that you want to do, the comfort that you have in getting there isn't that you have in getting there isn't that you have in getting there isn't getting there to [ __ ] over a bunch of getting there to [ __ ] over a bunch of getting there to [ __ ] over a bunch of people in business or to be exploitative people in business or to be exploitative people in business or to be exploitative or manipulative or a liar or something, or manipulative or a liar or something, or manipulative or a liar or something, but but but for the most part, for the most part, for the most part, comfortable in his own skin, knows where comfortable in his own skin, knows where comfortable in his own skin, knows where he's going, having fun while he goes he's going, having fun while he goes he's going, having fun while he goes there. Like, there. Like, there. Like, it's a pretty good start. it's a pretty good start. it's a pretty good start. Dang it, Dave. Three pieces of advice Dang it, Dave. Three pieces of advice Dang it, Dave. Three pieces of advice for someone transitioning out of the for someone transitioning out of the for someone transitioning out of the lonely chapter. Well, if you're coming lonely chapter. Well, if you're coming lonely chapter. Well, if you're coming out of it, presumably that means that out of it, presumably that means that out of it, presumably that means that you've started to feel you've started to feel you've started to feel some some some reintegration with people that are like reintegration with people that are like reintegration with people that are like the person you're becoming or you have the person you're becoming or you have the person you're becoming or you have become. I would be gentle with yourself become. I would be gentle with yourself become. I would be gentle with yourself if you're a bit socially inept because if you're a bit socially inept because if you're a bit socially inept because you've basically been in monk mode you've basically been in monk mode you've basically been in monk mode isolation for, you know, maybe a isolation for, you know, maybe a isolation for, you know, maybe a moderate amount of time, maybe a very moderate amount of time, maybe a very moderate amount of time, maybe a very long amount of time. long amount of time. long amount of time. I would also say don't judge too quickly people that don't judge too quickly people that don't seem to be like the person that don't seem to be like the person that don't seem to be like the person that you're like now. you're like now. you're like now. If you can imagine that you had a a more If you can imagine that you had a a more If you can imagine that you had a a more refined pallet, right? If you were a refined pallet, right? If you were a refined pallet, right? If you were a foodie, food reviewer, expert chef or foodie, food reviewer, expert chef or foodie, food reviewer, expert chef or something, something, something, it would be likely that there may be it would be likely that there may be it would be likely that there may be fewer restaurants that you could go to fewer restaurants that you could go to fewer restaurants that you could go to that you would enjoy because your that you would enjoy because your that you would enjoy because your discernment, your ability to discernment, your ability to discernment, your ability to work out what's going on and your work out what's going on and your work out what's going on and your standards have raised to a degree. standards have raised to a degree. standards have raised to a degree. The same thing kind of happens when it The same thing kind of happens when it The same thing kind of happens when it comes to development. And that's not to comes to development. And that's not to comes to development. And that's not to say that someone who's done more say that someone who's done more say that someone who's done more meditation or more breath work, more meditation or more breath work, more meditation or more breath work, more journaling, more emotional work is like journaling, more emotional work is like journaling, more emotional work is like better or more worthy than someone else. better or more worthy than someone else. better or more worthy than someone else. But it does mean that there are going to But it does mean that there are going to But it does mean that there are going to be fewer and fewer people like them. And be fewer and fewer people like them. And be fewer and fewer people like them. And that means that like a person who has a that means that like a person who has a that means that like a person who has a refined pallet trying to find somewhere refined pallet trying to find somewhere refined pallet trying to find somewhere to eat, there's going to be fewer to eat, there's going to be fewer to eat, there's going to be fewer restaurants socially that you're going restaurants socially that you're going restaurants socially that you're going to be able to go to. So be gentle with to be able to go to. So be gentle with to be able to go to. So be gentle with yourself. If you seem to be cycling yourself. If you seem to be cycling yourself. If you seem to be cycling through people despite the fact that you through people despite the fact that you through people despite the fact that you feel like you've arrived, at least at feel like you've arrived, at least at feel like you've arrived, at least at this chapter of the lonely chapter or this chapter of the lonely chapter or this chapter of the lonely chapter or this pause point, this full stop in the this pause point, this full stop in the this pause point, this full stop in the lonely chapter, it's still going to take lonely chapter, it's still going to take lonely chapter, it's still going to take time to work out, I thought this person time to work out, I thought this person time to work out, I thought this person was like me, but they're not. They're was like me, but they're not. They're was like me, but they're not. They're not like me. They're not like me at all. not like me. They're not like me at all. not like me. They're not like me at all. Maybe that means I've done something Maybe that means I've done something Maybe that means I've done something wrong. Maybe that means I'm still I need wrong. Maybe that means I'm still I need wrong. Maybe that means I'm still I need I should go back. It's like, no, no, no, I should go back. It's like, no, no, no, I should go back. It's like, no, no, no, no. Just go steady with it. So, be no. Just go steady with it. So, be no. Just go steady with it. So, be gentle with yourself if you're socially gentle with yourself if you're socially gentle with yourself if you're socially inept. Uh don't hurry when trying to inept. Uh don't hurry when trying to inept. Uh don't hurry when trying to find people that you want to hang around find people that you want to hang around find people that you want to hang around with. Don't use don't have the uh with. Don't use don't have the uh with. Don't use don't have the uh discordance of you connecting with them discordance of you connecting with them discordance of you connecting with them as a indicator that you need to go back as a indicator that you need to go back as a indicator that you need to go back or that you've done something wrong. or that you've done something wrong. or that you've done something wrong. [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] And celebrate, dude. That would be the And celebrate, dude. That would be the And celebrate, dude. That would be the third one. Like going through that. third one. Like going through that. third one. Like going through that. [ __ ] [ __ ] [ __ ] I need to make a change. I'm gonna have I need to make a change. I'm gonna have I need to make a change. I'm gonna have to leave things behind, patterns, ways to leave things behind, patterns, ways to leave things behind, patterns, ways of operating, friend groups. of operating, friend groups. of operating, friend groups. the weekly routine and now you've got to the weekly routine and now you've got to the weekly routine and now you've got to a new stage like this is coming out on a new stage like this is coming out on a new stage like this is coming out on the other side is one of the best things the other side is one of the best things the other side is one of the best things that you can do that you can do that you can do and not and not and not not fully indulging in that will be a not fully indulging in that will be a not fully indulging in that will be a waste because at some point soon if you waste because at some point soon if you waste because at some point soon if you keep growing you're going to have to do keep growing you're going to have to do keep growing you're going to have to do it again and you're going to wish [ __ ] it again and you're going to wish [ __ ] it again and you're going to wish [ __ ] like I just want to be there and now like I just want to be there and now like I just want to be there and now you're there like you've done it you've you're there like you've done it you've you're there like you've done it you've made it just enjoy that enjoy the made it just enjoy that enjoy the made it just enjoy that enjoy the [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] [sighs and gasps] I've arrived I can take a bit of a I've arrived I can take a bit of a I've arrived I can take a bit of a breath breath breath Ms. Holly Bry, I've been listening Ms. Holly Bry, I've been listening Ms. Holly Bry, I've been listening before 100K. Just want to say thanks. before 100K. Just want to say thanks. before 100K. Just want to say thanks. You're one of the reasons I changed You're one of the reasons I changed You're one of the reasons I changed jobs. Well, thank you. Uh, I hope you jobs. Well, thank you. Uh, I hope you jobs. Well, thank you. Uh, I hope you changed to a job that you enjoy. It changed to a job that you enjoy. It changed to a job that you enjoy. It sounds like that. And before 100K is sounds like that. And before 100K is sounds like that. And before 100K is even more [ __ ] insane. That is even more [ __ ] insane. That is even more [ __ ] insane. That is the start the start the start of 2021 of 2021 of 2021 because me and Dean got balloons for because me and Dean got balloons for because me and Dean got balloons for 100k and invited my ex-girlfriend round. 100k and invited my ex-girlfriend round. 100k and invited my ex-girlfriend round. She thought she was coming around so She thought she was coming around so She thought she was coming around so that we could hang out. I needed to hold that we could hang out. I needed to hold that we could hang out. I needed to hold the camera. I needed to hold Dean's the camera. I needed to hold Dean's the camera. I needed to hold Dean's camera and take a photo of us. Put the camera and take a photo of us. Put the camera and take a photo of us. Put the photo up. Uh so that is photo up. Uh so that is photo up. Uh so that is five years. That's five years that five years. That's five years that five years. That's five years that you've been here. So, I appreciate that you've been here. So, I appreciate that you've been here. 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Bottoms up. [laughter] Zy nutritionist. How was the meditation Zy nutritionist. How was the meditation retreat? Takeaways, downloads, retreat? Takeaways, downloads, retreat? Takeaways, downloads, highlights, and biggest challenge. highlights, and biggest challenge. highlights, and biggest challenge. [gasps] [ __ ] All right. Um, I haven't [gasps] [ __ ] All right. Um, I haven't [gasps] [ __ ] All right. Um, I haven't really talked about this much, I guess. really talked about this much, I guess. really talked about this much, I guess. So I did a meditation retreat called So I did a meditation retreat called So I did a meditation retreat called journey with an h. It's a janna journey with an h. It's a janna journey with an h. It's a janna meditation practice. Janna is very meditation practice. Janna is very meditation practice. Janna is very different to mindfulness because classic different to mindfulness because classic different to mindfulness because classic mindfulness vipasa to me feels a little mindfulness vipasa to me feels a little mindfulness vipasa to me feels a little bit more cognitive and it's a bit more bit more cognitive and it's a bit more bit more cognitive and it's a bit more aggressive. I mean [ __ ] aggressive aggressive. I mean [ __ ] aggressive aggressive. I mean [ __ ] aggressive meditation technique really goes to show meditation technique really goes to show meditation technique really goes to show just how gentle they can become. But just how gentle they can become. But just how gentle they can become. But you're pushing away thoughts to a you're pushing away thoughts to a you're pushing away thoughts to a degree. A thought rises, you notice it. degree. A thought rises, you notice it. degree. A thought rises, you notice it. you release it like in the releasing of you release it like in the releasing of you release it like in the releasing of it there is a degree of pushing and then it there is a degree of pushing and then it there is a degree of pushing and then you know you come back to the breath you you know you come back to the breath you you know you come back to the breath you come back to your counting you come back come back to your counting you come back come back to your counting you come back to waiting for uh cce if you're using to waiting for uh cce if you're using to waiting for uh cce if you're using Shinzen's ways of concentration clarity Shinzen's ways of concentration clarity Shinzen's ways of concentration clarity equinimity thing um equinimity thing um equinimity thing um Janna is significantly different in that Janna is significantly different in that Janna is significantly different in that you are inviting these emotions in so you are inviting these emotions in so you are inviting these emotions in so something arises there's a thought um something arises there's a thought um something arises there's a thought um for instance a thought might be for instance a thought might be for instance a thought might be I'm distracted and then a judgment I'm distracted and then a judgment I'm distracted and then a judgment around the thought of being distracted around the thought of being distracted around the thought of being distracted Ed, I was thinking about work and now Ed, I was thinking about work and now Ed, I was thinking about work and now I'm judging myself for being the sort of I'm judging myself for being the sort of I'm judging myself for being the sort of person that thinks about work because I person that thinks about work because I person that thinks about work because I should be focused on the meditation. In should be focused on the meditation. In should be focused on the meditation. In the past, you probably wouldn't the past, you probably wouldn't the past, you probably wouldn't investigate that too deeply. You would investigate that too deeply. You would investigate that too deeply. You would there's a thought and and a related there's a thought and and a related there's a thought and and a related thought and you would sort of release thought and you would sort of release thought and you would sort of release it. With Janna, what was beautiful was it. With Janna, what was beautiful was it. With Janna, what was beautiful was you say, "Oh, here's a part of me that's you say, "Oh, here's a part of me that's you say, "Oh, here's a part of me that's thinking about work." thinking about work." thinking about work." like invite it into you and go I'm so like invite it into you and go I'm so like invite it into you and go I'm so [ __ ] I'm I'm really happy that there's a [ __ ] I'm I'm really happy that there's a [ __ ] I'm I'm really happy that there's a bit of me that's so diligent and cares bit of me that's so diligent and cares bit of me that's so diligent and cares about what it is that he does. How like about what it is that he does. How like about what it is that he does. How like I I'm really grateful for that bit of me I I'm really grateful for that bit of me I I'm really grateful for that bit of me that works so hard. Come here. Come on. that works so hard. Come here. Come on. that works so hard. Come here. Come on. Come into Some people have a sauna. Some Come into Some people have a sauna. Some Come into Some people have a sauna. Some people have a hot tub. Some people have people have a hot tub. Some people have people have a hot tub. Some people have a bed out of bed. Like inviting that a bed out of bed. Like inviting that a bed out of bed. Like inviting that part of you in so that it feels like part of you in so that it feels like part of you in so that it feels like it's valid. And then oh I've got this it's valid. And then oh I've got this it's valid. And then oh I've got this shame. I've got this shame around the shame. I've got this shame around the shame. I've got this shame around the fact that I'm being distracted because I fact that I'm being distracted because I fact that I'm being distracted because I want to do the meditation. Right. Wow. want to do the meditation. Right. Wow. want to do the meditation. Right. Wow. Look at this bit of me that just he Look at this bit of me that just he Look at this bit of me that just he always wants to he always wants to do always wants to he always wants to do always wants to he always wants to do things well like he's got such high things well like he's got such high things well like he's got such high standards that's so like hey come you standards that's so like hey come you standards that's so like hey come you come here too you come and chill out in come here too you come and chill out in come here too you come and chill out in the bed as well and that it really feels the bed as well and that it really feels the bed as well and that it really feels like a cohesive way to work anyway like a cohesive way to work anyway like a cohesive way to work anyway that's the the Janna thing is in that's the the Janna thing is in that's the the Janna thing is in Northern California it was also the uh Northern California it was also the uh Northern California it was also the uh global reset week for open AI which global reset week for open AI which global reset week for open AI which meant that there were [ __ ] tons of meant that there were [ __ ] tons of meant that there were [ __ ] tons of AI programmers going straight from like AI programmers going straight from like AI programmers going straight from like the most autistic the most autistic the most autistic like lock super duper locked in making like lock super duper locked in making like lock super duper locked in making the future of the world stuff to and now the future of the world stuff to and now the future of the world stuff to and now think about the breath and now relax and think about the breath and now relax and think about the breath and now relax and sit with your thoughts no screens and sit with your thoughts no screens and sit with your thoughts no screens and silence for seven days so silence for seven days so silence for seven days so some takeaways I actually put a bunch in some takeaways I actually put a bunch in some takeaways I actually put a bunch in a newsletter a couple of weeks ago for a newsletter a couple of weeks ago for a newsletter a couple of weeks ago for many of us goals are contracts to many of us goals are contracts to many of us goals are contracts to self-criticize until we succeed like self-criticize until we succeed like self-criticize until we succeed like running away from a monster that never running away from a monster that never running away from a monster that never gets tired this contract makes permanent gets tired this contract makes permanent gets tired this contract makes permanent success necessary to avoid being success necessary to avoid being success necessary to avoid being swallowed by misery. That to me, goals swallowed by misery. That to me, goals swallowed by misery. That to me, goals are contracts to to self-criticize until are contracts to to self-criticize until are contracts to to self-criticize until we succeed just was so palpable when we succeed just was so palpable when we succeed just was so palpable when you're trying to speedrun through you're trying to speedrun through you're trying to speedrun through something that just takes time. You're something that just takes time. You're something that just takes time. You're just sitting on the cushion waiting for just sitting on the cushion waiting for just sitting on the cushion waiting for stuff to occur and stuff to occur and stuff to occur and the judgment of whether you're doing it the judgment of whether you're doing it the judgment of whether you're doing it right or not, the desire to to hurry it right or not, the desire to to hurry it right or not, the desire to to hurry it up, all of that is just criticism that up, all of that is just criticism that up, all of that is just criticism that is making you miserable. And the is making you miserable. And the is making you miserable. And the appetite that that monster has is appetite that that monster has is appetite that that monster has is endless. Uh, another one, forgiveness is endless. Uh, another one, forgiveness is endless. Uh, another one, forgiveness is choosing to no longer suffer the things choosing to no longer suffer the things choosing to no longer suffer the things that you cannot change. Forgiveness is that you cannot change. Forgiveness is that you cannot change. Forgiveness is choosing to no longer suffer the things choosing to no longer suffer the things choosing to no longer suffer the things that you cannot change. It is simply to that you cannot change. It is simply to that you cannot change. It is simply to give up on the hope of changing the give up on the hope of changing the give up on the hope of changing the past. It's awfully useless to cling to past. It's awfully useless to cling to past. It's awfully useless to cling to the idea of altering history. You the idea of altering history. You the idea of altering history. You forgive to lighten yourself. So, one of forgive to lighten yourself. So, one of forgive to lighten yourself. So, one of the big practices we did was on the big practices we did was on the big practices we did was on forgiveness. And that includes forgiving forgiveness. And that includes forgiving forgiveness. And that includes forgiving yourself. And that includes forgiving yourself. And that includes forgiving yourself. And that includes forgiving forgiving yourself for not forgiving forgiving yourself for not forgiving forgiving yourself for not forgiving yourself yet. And this like endless you yourself yet. And this like endless you yourself yet. And this like endless you can maybe tell how compassionate like can maybe tell how compassionate like can maybe tell how compassionate like deeply deeply compassionate and deeply deeply compassionate and deeply deeply compassionate and understanding this practice was which understanding this practice was which understanding this practice was which for a lot of people compassion for a lot of people compassion for a lot of people compassion especially self-compassion especially especially self-compassion especially especially self-compassion especially self-compassion for not having enough self-compassion for not having enough self-compassion for not having enough self-compassion is [ __ ] alien. Like self-compassion is [ __ ] alien. Like self-compassion is [ __ ] alien. Like lots of people that were in there were lots of people that were in there were lots of people that were in there were trying to find their the the foothold or trying to find their the the foothold or trying to find their the the foothold or the handhold the handhold the handhold where they can use some part of where they can use some part of where they can use some part of underperformance or not enoughness to underperformance or not enoughness to underperformance or not enoughness to propel them forward. How can I get to propel them forward. How can I get to propel them forward. How can I get to the next thing? Um the next thing? Um the next thing? Um that that forgiveness piece was really that that forgiveness piece was really that that forgiveness piece was really interesting to me. Uh what else was in interesting to me. Uh what else was in interesting to me. Uh what else was in there? Your best decision-m does not there? Your best decision-m does not there? Your best decision-m does not come from your head. For most of the come from your head. For most of the come from your head. For most of the important decisions in life, your heart important decisions in life, your heart important decisions in life, your heart decides and then your head makes it decides and then your head makes it decides and then your head makes it happen. Not the other way around. And a happen. Not the other way around. And a happen. Not the other way around. And a lot of the bad decisions that we make, I lot of the bad decisions that we make, I lot of the bad decisions that we make, I think, come from when we have too much think, come from when we have too much think, come from when we have too much head, especially for people that listen head, especially for people that listen head, especially for people that listen to shows like this one. When we have too to shows like this one. When we have too to shows like this one. When we have too much head and not enough heart. Sure, much head and not enough heart. Sure, much head and not enough heart. Sure, there's a lot of people out there that there's a lot of people out there that there's a lot of people out there that are rash and that make uh impulsive are rash and that make uh impulsive are rash and that make uh impulsive decisions. I'm going to guess that decisions. I'm going to guess that decisions. I'm going to guess that that's not you. Uh you can talk yourself that's not you. Uh you can talk yourself that's not you. Uh you can talk yourself out of pretty much anything, especially out of pretty much anything, especially out of pretty much anything, especially if you're clever. And if you're not if you're clever. And if you're not if you're clever. And if you're not careful, you can talk yourself out of careful, you can talk yourself out of careful, you can talk yourself out of something that your heart and your gut something that your heart and your gut something that your heart and your gut knows is true. And then knows is true. And then knows is true. And then this is a final one I'll give you. this is a final one I'll give you. this is a final one I'll give you. Suppression is not the same thing as Suppression is not the same thing as Suppression is not the same thing as strength. People who say you should have strength. People who say you should have strength. People who say you should have gotten over your wounds by now assume gotten over your wounds by now assume gotten over your wounds by now assume that development comes with age, not that development comes with age, not that development comes with age, not work, and that we don't keep work, and that we don't keep work, and that we don't keep accumulating wounds. There is this sort accumulating wounds. There is this sort accumulating wounds. There is this sort of assumption that of assumption that of assumption that by adulthood, you should no longer be by adulthood, you should no longer be by adulthood, you should no longer be having to deal with the same sort of having to deal with the same sort of having to deal with the same sort of challenges that you did in the past. challenges that you did in the past. challenges that you did in the past. that this thing, this slight, this that this thing, this slight, this that this thing, this slight, this problem, this pattern, why is it that problem, this pattern, why is it that problem, this pattern, why is it that this is still driving you? Why is it this is still driving you? Why is it this is still driving you? Why is it that you're still struggling with this? that you're still struggling with this? that you're still struggling with this? And if you have spent a lot of time And if you have spent a lot of time And if you have spent a lot of time grinding, uh, focused outwardly, being grinding, uh, focused outwardly, being grinding, uh, focused outwardly, being responsible for other people in your responsible for other people in your responsible for other people in your life, providing, working on yourself, life, providing, working on yourself, life, providing, working on yourself, but not necessarily reflecting on but not necessarily reflecting on but not necessarily reflecting on yourself. Like yeah, there's going to be yourself. Like yeah, there's going to be yourself. Like yeah, there's going to be a huge [ __ ] gap there and you need to a huge [ __ ] gap there and you need to a huge [ __ ] gap there and you need to spend a lot of time just gently thinking spend a lot of time just gently thinking spend a lot of time just gently thinking and allowing that to come up. So yeah, and allowing that to come up. So yeah, and allowing that to come up. So yeah, the judgment of you should have sorted the judgment of you should have sorted the judgment of you should have sorted out your wounds by now out your wounds by now out your wounds by now is it is assuming that the main is it is assuming that the main is it is assuming that the main development comes from just aging as development comes from just aging as development comes from just aging as opposed to actually working on yourself. opposed to actually working on yourself. opposed to actually working on yourself. Uh, biggest challenge was, dude, just [ __ ] like long sits, one dude, just [ __ ] like long sits, one and a half, two hour plus sits per day, and a half, two hour plus sits per day, and a half, two hour plus sits per day, multiple times per day. It It's a really multiple times per day. It It's a really multiple times per day. It It's a really unique kind of effort because you're not unique kind of effort because you're not unique kind of effort because you're not doing anything. You're sat in a cushion doing anything. You're sat in a cushion doing anything. You're sat in a cushion cross-legged, right? Noticing thoughts cross-legged, right? Noticing thoughts cross-legged, right? Noticing thoughts arise, bringing them in, doing a bunch arise, bringing them in, doing a bunch arise, bringing them in, doing a bunch of other stuff that's part of the Janna of other stuff that's part of the Janna of other stuff that's part of the Janna practice. It is like really, really practice. It is like really, really practice. It is like really, really [ __ ] effortful. really effortful, but [ __ ] effortful. really effortful, but [ __ ] effortful. really effortful, but there's some things I highly recommend there's some things I highly recommend there's some things I highly recommend Journey. I think they they rule. And if Journey. I think they they rule. And if Journey. I think they they rule. And if you're the sort of person that wants to you're the sort of person that wants to you're the sort of person that wants to work on self-compassion, it's it's about work on self-compassion, it's it's about work on self-compassion, it's it's about as good as you can get. Josh C. as good as you can get. Josh C. as good as you can get. Josh C. Mitchell, please do more round the table Mitchell, please do more round the table Mitchell, please do more round the table episodes with friends. You [ __ ] jump episodes with friends. You [ __ ] jump episodes with friends. You [ __ ] jump scared me with the the round the round scared me with the the round the round scared me with the the round the round the table. Uh d I love them. They're my the table. Uh d I love them. They're my the table. Uh d I love them. They're my favorites. I I have so much fun. We have favorites. I I have so much fun. We have favorites. I I have so much fun. We have got got got it might be it it might be coming out it might be it it might be coming out it might be it it might be coming out very soon after this, but I've got one very soon after this, but I've got one very soon after this, but I've got one of the maddest round table setups coming of the maddest round table setups coming of the maddest round table setups coming soon. I find them so enjoyable. I think soon. I find them so enjoyable. I think soon. I find them so enjoyable. I think they're a great way to like sneak they're a great way to like sneak they're a great way to like sneak personal development in while it sounds personal development in while it sounds personal development in while it sounds like you're just listening to a bunch of like you're just listening to a bunch of like you're just listening to a bunch of the boys chat [ __ ] So, expect more the boys chat [ __ ] So, expect more the boys chat [ __ ] So, expect more multi- guest episodes. If you've got any multi- guest episodes. If you've got any multi- guest episodes. If you've got any suggestions for people that you want me suggestions for people that you want me suggestions for people that you want me to bring on, that's great. I have to say to bring on, that's great. I have to say to bring on, that's great. I have to say the Human Muska Sigura Mostly Wise the Human Muska Sigura Mostly Wise the Human Muska Sigura Mostly Wise episode we did I thought was like just episode we did I thought was like just episode we did I thought was like just chef's kiss [ __ ] perfect. One of the chef's kiss [ __ ] perfect. One of the chef's kiss [ __ ] perfect. One of the best things I've ever done and like best things I've ever done and like best things I've ever done and like totally unmagnificent in every way totally unmagnificent in every way totally unmagnificent in every way possible. We started off talking about possible. We started off talking about possible. We started off talking about whether every man should take erectile whether every man should take erectile whether every man should take erectile dysfunction medication and then like dysfunction medication and then like dysfunction medication and then like rinsed human for having six girlfriends. rinsed human for having six girlfriends. rinsed human for having six girlfriends. It just it does not get better than that It just it does not get better than that It just it does not get better than that for me. That's all I want to do at 2 for me. That's all I want to do at 2 for me. That's all I want to do at 2 p.m. [gasps] p.m. [gasps] p.m. [gasps] on a Wednesday afternoon. So yeah, on a Wednesday afternoon. So yeah, on a Wednesday afternoon. So yeah, expect more. Kerber expect more. Kerber expect more. Kerber Kerber Kerber English classes. Naval Kerber Kerber English classes. Naval Kerber Kerber English classes. Naval said that when he plays podcast Naval in said that when he plays podcast Naval in said that when he plays podcast Naval in his head, you are on the other side. Who his head, you are on the other side. Who his head, you are on the other side. Who is on the other side when you record the is on the other side when you record the is on the other side when you record the episodes alone for the first thousand episodes alone for the first thousand episodes alone for the first thousand episodes? It was a bedroom window with episodes? It was a bedroom window with episodes? It was a bedroom window with curtains in front of it or a wall or an curtains in front of it or a wall or an curtains in front of it or a wall or an Airbnb. Airbnb. Airbnb. Um, I think you're talking figuratively. Um, I think you're talking figuratively. Um, I think you're talking figuratively. To be honest, man, no one, anyone that's To be honest, man, no one, anyone that's To be honest, man, no one, anyone that's ever tried to look down the pipe of a ever tried to look down the pipe of a ever tried to look down the pipe of a camera recording solo and just felt this camera recording solo and just felt this camera recording solo and just felt this like [gasps and sighs] I'm looking into like [gasps and sighs] I'm looking into like [gasps and sighs] I'm looking into the void. It's a black thing. It is the void. It's a black thing. It is the void. It's a black thing. It is [ __ ] terrifying. It never It never [ __ ] terrifying. It never It never [ __ ] terrifying. It never It never goes away just how absurd it is that goes away just how absurd it is that goes away just how absurd it is that there's this weird sort of black circle there's this weird sort of black circle there's this weird sort of black circle and you're just spewing things into it. and you're just spewing things into it. and you're just spewing things into it. Uh, Uh, Uh, when I imagine myself guesting, I mean, when I imagine myself guesting, I mean, when I imagine myself guesting, I mean, to be honest, the show that I've guested to be honest, the show that I've guested to be honest, the show that I've guested on the most in my life is Rogan. Like, on the most in my life is Rogan. Like, on the most in my life is Rogan. Like, I've done episode five recording in in I've done episode five recording in in I've done episode five recording in in August. August. August. I don't think I've done any other show. I don't think I've done any other show. I don't think I've done any other show. Done Steven's show twice Done Steven's show twice Done Steven's show twice and maybe some of my friends shows like and maybe some of my friends shows like and maybe some of my friends shows like Propane Fitness back in the day. So, Propane Fitness back in the day. So, Propane Fitness back in the day. So, probably Rogan to be honest. But when probably Rogan to be honest. But when probably Rogan to be honest. But when I'm here, it was for a long time it was I'm here, it was for a long time it was I'm here, it was for a long time it was a bedroom wall or an Airbnb or a hotel a bedroom wall or an Airbnb or a hotel a bedroom wall or an Airbnb or a hotel window or like a toilet or whatever. window or like a toilet or whatever. window or like a toilet or whatever. Whatever wherever Whatever wherever Whatever wherever room in spare room in a house I was room in spare room in a house I was room in spare room in a house I was recording it. That was what it was. Uh recording it. That was what it was. Uh recording it. That was what it was. Uh and now it's Jared. Jared Jared sits and now it's Jared. Jared Jared sits and now it's Jared. Jared Jared sits there silently and giggles every so there silently and giggles every so there silently and giggles every so often when I say something [ __ ] often when I say something [ __ ] often when I say something [ __ ] remotely interesting. remotely interesting. remotely interesting. John Moa, John Moa, John Moa, what was your treatment for SIBO? About what was your treatment for SIBO? About what was your treatment for SIBO? About to do the breath test. I did my breath to do the breath test. I did my breath to do the breath test. I did my breath test yesterday. So enjoy that 4 hours, 5 test yesterday. So enjoy that 4 hours, 5 test yesterday. So enjoy that 4 hours, 5 hours of your life breathing into a hours of your life breathing into a hours of your life breathing into a [ __ ] tube. Uh SIBO for the people [ __ ] tube. Uh SIBO for the people [ __ ] tube. Uh SIBO for the people that don't know. Small intestinal that don't know. Small intestinal that don't know. Small intestinal bacterial overgrowth. It's one of the bacterial overgrowth. It's one of the bacterial overgrowth. It's one of the most common like gut malades. H pylori most common like gut malades. H pylori most common like gut malades. H pylori and candida probably the other two. Uh I and candida probably the other two. Uh I and candida probably the other two. Uh I think pretty much any guy that's ever think pretty much any guy that's ever think pretty much any guy that's ever tried to be a bro lifter has got SIBO tried to be a bro lifter has got SIBO tried to be a bro lifter has got SIBO just because the turnover and the just because the turnover and the just because the turnover and the fermentation of food in your stomach fermentation of food in your stomach fermentation of food in your stomach kind of kind of kind of it can get a bit gnarly. Uh, my SIBO was it can get a bit gnarly. Uh, my SIBO was it can get a bit gnarly. Uh, my SIBO was just I think the classic [snorts] just I think the classic [snorts] just I think the classic [snorts] antibiotic protocol. I've done so many antibiotic protocol. I've done so many antibiotic protocol. I've done so many [ __ ] protocols over the last couple [ __ ] protocols over the last couple [ __ ] protocols over the last couple of years, it's hard to remember. But of years, it's hard to remember. But of years, it's hard to remember. But you'll get your breath test back. It'll you'll get your breath test back. It'll you'll get your breath test back. It'll tell you whether it's whatever it is, tell you whether it's whatever it is, tell you whether it's whatever it is, [ __ ] hydrogen based or ethanol based [ __ ] hydrogen based or ethanol based [ __ ] hydrogen based or ethanol based or whatever, and then just go through or whatever, and then just go through or whatever, and then just go through the standard process. SIBO's relatively the standard process. SIBO's relatively the standard process. SIBO's relatively easy to treat. I think it's kind of easy to treat. I think it's kind of easy to treat. I think it's kind of linear. H. pylori and candida linear. H. pylori and candida linear. H. pylori and candida significantly more gnarly to treat. So, significantly more gnarly to treat. So, significantly more gnarly to treat. So, if you need to go and do a GI map of if you need to go and do a GI map of if you need to go and do a GI map of some kind or a total tox test or some kind or a total tox test or some kind or a total tox test or something like, you know, stool samply something like, you know, stool samply something like, you know, stool samply things, very sexy to this is what things, very sexy to this is what things, very sexy to this is what happens. You get an hour and a half into happens. You get an hour and a half into happens. You get an hour and a half into a Q&A episode, we start talking about a Q&A episode, we start talking about a Q&A episode, we start talking about poop. Um, poop. Um, poop. Um, the breath test is painless and easy. the breath test is painless and easy. the breath test is painless and easy. It's just [ __ ] annoying. But follow It's just [ __ ] annoying. But follow It's just [ __ ] annoying. But follow the doctor's advice, do the antibiotics, the doctor's advice, do the antibiotics, the doctor's advice, do the antibiotics, and then see how you are on the other and then see how you are on the other and then see how you are on the other side of it. Sage Russell, what's the side of it. Sage Russell, what's the side of it. Sage Russell, what's the secret to taming my limitless ambition? secret to taming my limitless ambition? secret to taming my limitless ambition? Lately, it's difficult to enjoy little Lately, it's difficult to enjoy little Lately, it's difficult to enjoy little moments. moments. moments. [sighs and gasps] Honestly, dude, I [sighs and gasps] Honestly, dude, I [sighs and gasps] Honestly, dude, I don't think you need to [ __ ] tame it. don't think you need to [ __ ] tame it. don't think you need to [ __ ] tame it. It's going to go away. In 5 years or 10 It's going to go away. In 5 years or 10 It's going to go away. In 5 years or 10 years time, you're going to look back at years time, you're going to look back at years time, you're going to look back at this period where you were completely this period where you were completely this period where you were completely obsessed and driven and riven by your obsessed and driven and riven by your obsessed and driven and riven by your desire to achieve things and go, "Oh, desire to achieve things and go, "Oh, desire to achieve things and go, "Oh, fuck." Working at that same work rate fuck." Working at that same work rate fuck." Working at that same work rate now is so much harder than it was back now is so much harder than it was back now is so much harder than it was back then. I wish I'd embraced it more. So, then. I wish I'd embraced it more. So, then. I wish I'd embraced it more. So, let it climb inside of you and wear you let it climb inside of you and wear you let it climb inside of you and wear you like a [ __ ] parasite, like a skin like a [ __ ] parasite, like a skin like a [ __ ] parasite, like a skin suit. Just what if you didn't have to suit. Just what if you didn't have to suit. Just what if you didn't have to push back against it? Lately, it's been push back against it? Lately, it's been push back against it? Lately, it's been difficult to enjoy little moments. I get difficult to enjoy little moments. I get difficult to enjoy little moments. I get it. That's hard. You're always looking it. That's hard. You're always looking it. That's hard. You're always looking for what's coming next. You're comparing for what's coming next. You're comparing for what's coming next. You're comparing who you are to who you want to be. who you are to who you want to be. who you are to who you want to be. There's always going to be a gap between There's always going to be a gap between There's always going to be a gap between them. them. them. What if you just let it ride itself out? What if you just let it ride itself out? What if you just let it ride itself out? What if it was more like a What if it What if it was more like a What if it What if it was more like a What if it was more like a fever than an Achilles was more like a fever than an Achilles was more like a fever than an Achilles rupture? that there's nothing you can do rupture? that there's nothing you can do rupture? that there's nothing you can do to speed it up. You can just sit in it to speed it up. You can just sit in it to speed it up. You can just sit in it and try and enjoy the ride as much as and try and enjoy the ride as much as and try and enjoy the ride as much as you can and eventually it's going to you can and eventually it's going to you can and eventually it's going to calm down. As opposed to I need to I I calm down. As opposed to I need to I I calm down. As opposed to I need to I I need to be in conflict with this thing. need to be in conflict with this thing. need to be in conflict with this thing. I must be in tension because I am not I must be in tension because I am not I must be in tension because I am not enough. In 10 years time when this level enough. In 10 years time when this level enough. In 10 years time when this level of ambition has maybe dissolved a little of ambition has maybe dissolved a little of ambition has maybe dissolved a little bit or evaporated, you're going to think bit or evaporated, you're going to think bit or evaporated, you're going to think you're not enough because you're not you're not enough because you're not you're not enough because you're not ambitious enough. We're permanently ambitious enough. We're permanently ambitious enough. We're permanently living in this gap between who we are living in this gap between who we are living in this gap between who we are and who we think that we should be. And and who we think that we should be. And and who we think that we should be. And what's interesting is those things can what's interesting is those things can what's interesting is those things can flip. You can have the exact opposite flip. You can have the exact opposite flip. You can have the exact opposite problem in the exact same dynamic facing problem in the exact same dynamic facing problem in the exact same dynamic facing in different directions in not that long in different directions in not that long in different directions in not that long of a I'm traveling so much. All I'm of a I'm traveling so much. All I'm of a I'm traveling so much. All I'm doing is traveling. I'm not spending any doing is traveling. I'm not spending any doing is traveling. I'm not spending any time in my routine. And within a month time in my routine. And within a month time in my routine. And within a month you go, do you know what it is? Life's you go, do you know what it is? Life's you go, do you know what it is? Life's boring. Haven't been anywhere. I mean, boring. Haven't been anywhere. I mean, boring. Haven't been anywhere. I mean, you know, I traveled last month, but you you know, I traveled last month, but you you know, I traveled last month, but you what what have I done this month? You're what what have I done this month? You're what what have I done this month? You're like, hey, dude, you've literally got like, hey, dude, you've literally got like, hey, dude, you've literally got this problem pointing in opposite this problem pointing in opposite this problem pointing in opposite directions about the same issue within a directions about the same issue within a directions about the same issue within a short space of time. I think let it short space of time. I think let it short space of time. I think let it [ __ ] ride itself out, dude. Like, let [ __ ] ride itself out, dude. Like, let [ __ ] ride itself out, dude. Like, let it wear you. Take advantage of it. It's it wear you. Take advantage of it. It's it wear you. Take advantage of it. It's the freest discipline and motivation the freest discipline and motivation the freest discipline and motivation that you're ever going to get. And just that you're ever going to get. And just that you're ever going to get. And just enjoy that. Yes, the enjoyment of the enjoy that. Yes, the enjoyment of the enjoy that. Yes, the enjoyment of the little moments may be difficult, but little moments may be difficult, but little moments may be difficult, but what's more difficult is you thinking what's more difficult is you thinking what's more difficult is you thinking that you have to enjoy the little that you have to enjoy the little that you have to enjoy the little moments and then beating yourself up for moments and then beating yourself up for moments and then beating yourself up for it and the shame and the the frustration it and the shame and the the frustration it and the shame and the the frustration at the fact that you've got shame and at the fact that you've got shame and at the fact that you've got shame and the resentment, your frustration about the resentment, your frustration about the resentment, your frustration about the fact that you've got shame and your the fact that you've got shame and your the fact that you've got shame and your boredom at your resentment about your boredom at your resentment about your boredom at your resentment about your frustration at the sh. That's where most frustration at the sh. That's where most frustration at the sh. That's where most of the pain comes from. Just try for 30 of the pain comes from. Just try for 30 of the pain comes from. Just try for 30 days for me. Give it a crack, Sage days for me. Give it a crack, Sage days for me. Give it a crack, Sage Russell. Of just [ __ ] letting it Russell. Of just [ __ ] letting it Russell. Of just [ __ ] letting it happen and not trying to stop it because happen and not trying to stop it because happen and not trying to stop it because it's not going to be there forever. it's not going to be there forever. it's not going to be there forever. Mr. Benson 25, Mbenson 25, sorry. Mr. Benson 25, Mbenson 25, sorry. Mr. Benson 25, Mbenson 25, sorry. Mbenson, you've talked to so many Mbenson, you've talked to so many Mbenson, you've talked to so many people. Are any of your thoughts or people. Are any of your thoughts or people. Are any of your thoughts or frames even your own? frames even your own? frames even your own? I don't think that pretty much any idea I don't think that pretty much any idea I don't think that pretty much any idea that anyone has is their own regardless that anyone has is their own regardless that anyone has is their own regardless of how many people they've spoken to. of how many people they've spoken to. of how many people they've spoken to. Like originality is just undetected Like originality is just undetected Like originality is just undetected plagiarism because everybody is inspired plagiarism because everybody is inspired plagiarism because everybody is inspired by their experiences. The way that you by their experiences. The way that you by their experiences. The way that you saw some guy walk down the street toward saw some guy walk down the street toward saw some guy walk down the street toward this bus and you thought, "Huh, this bus and you thought, "Huh, this bus and you thought, "Huh, he seems really nervous." Isn't it he seems really nervous." Isn't it he seems really nervous." Isn't it strange that people get nervous when strange that people get nervous when strange that people get nervous when they've got nothing to be nervous about they've got nothing to be nervous about they've got nothing to be nervous about just walking for a bus? Oh well that's a just walking for a bus? Oh well that's a just walking for a bus? Oh well that's a that that makes me think about what that that makes me think about what that that makes me think about what happened when I was and before you know happened when I was and before you know happened when I was and before you know it this new [ __ ] idea has come out. it this new [ __ ] idea has come out. it this new [ __ ] idea has come out. Okay. So is it it was the genesis the Okay. So is it it was the genesis the Okay. So is it it was the genesis the guy walking is does he own that idea? Um guy walking is does he own that idea? Um guy walking is does he own that idea? Um but look as an aggregator curator of but look as an aggregator curator of but look as an aggregator curator of many people and I guess this this many people and I guess this this many people and I guess this this central hub thing for the wisdom vers central hub thing for the wisdom vers central hub thing for the wisdom vers insights over the last 8 years. insights over the last 8 years. insights over the last 8 years. It's definitely allowed me to sort of be It's definitely allowed me to sort of be It's definitely allowed me to sort of be a attractor like a gravitational well a attractor like a gravitational well a attractor like a gravitational well for all of these thoughts and frames and for all of these thoughts and frames and for all of these thoughts and frames and insights, insights, insights, but you filter them through what you but you filter them through what you but you filter them through what you think is important, right? Like it's not think is important, right? Like it's not think is important, right? Like it's not necessarily about is this idea necessarily about is this idea necessarily about is this idea completely from start generated by you. completely from start generated by you. completely from start generated by you. Like if you read James Clear's Atomic Like if you read James Clear's Atomic Like if you read James Clear's Atomic Habits and you take his habit process to Habits and you take his habit process to Habits and you take his habit process to improve your life, does that mean that improve your life, does that mean that improve your life, does that mean that all of the thoughts and frames that were all of the thoughts and frames that were all of the thoughts and frames that were developed off the back of his habit developed off the back of his habit developed off the back of his habit structure aren't yours? They're because structure aren't yours? They're because structure aren't yours? They're because of his. We're all influenced by the of his. We're all influenced by the of his. We're all influenced by the people that came before us. It's a great people that came before us. It's a great people that came before us. It's a great question. I I I don't think that I'm question. I I I don't think that I'm question. I I I don't think that I'm necessarily like a [ __ ] saint. I necessarily like a [ __ ] saint. I necessarily like a [ __ ] saint. I certainly like using aphorithms and certainly like using aphorithms and certainly like using aphorithms and pathy short sentences because they're pathy short sentences because they're pathy short sentences because they're like idea handles that allow me to grab like idea handles that allow me to grab like idea handles that allow me to grab onto something and pick it up and onto something and pick it up and onto something and pick it up and remember it so I don't forget [ __ ] remember it so I don't forget [ __ ] remember it so I don't forget [ __ ] that's important to me. But that's important to me. But that's important to me. But originality is just undetected originality is just undetected originality is just undetected plagiarism. Anybody that thinks that plagiarism. Anybody that thinks that plagiarism. Anybody that thinks that they've had an basically no one's had a they've had an basically no one's had a they've had an basically no one's had a [ __ ] original thought because you're [ __ ] original thought because you're [ __ ] original thought because you're speaking in a language that wasn't speaking in a language that wasn't speaking in a language that wasn't created by you. So even that is created by you. So even that is created by you. So even that is constrained. You only know the words constrained. You only know the words constrained. You only know the words that you've learned by reading or that you've learned by reading or that you've learned by reading or hearing other people say things. Unless hearing other people say things. Unless hearing other people say things. Unless you're creating your own language, which you're creating your own language, which you're creating your own language, which fair play. fair play. fair play. I don't feel I don't feel I don't feel shame or shame or shame or insufficiency insufficiency insufficiency because I've taken the best of what because I've taken the best of what because I've taken the best of what other people have already figured out. I other people have already figured out. I other people have already figured out. I think that's one of the coolest things think that's one of the coolest things think that's one of the coolest things that we can do and it's certainly one of that we can do and it's certainly one of that we can do and it's certainly one of the quickest ways that you can make the quickest ways that you can make the quickest ways that you can make development. that line, any idiot can development. that line, any idiot can development. that line, any idiot can learn through mistakes. I prefer to learn through mistakes. I prefer to learn through mistakes. I prefer to learn through the mistakes of others. learn through the mistakes of others. learn through the mistakes of others. So, I use somebody else's idea to rebut So, I use somebody else's idea to rebut So, I use somebody else's idea to rebut your idea. How about that? your idea. How about that? your idea. How about that? Joe PCDB, how do you distinguish between Joe PCDB, how do you distinguish between Joe PCDB, how do you distinguish between genuine ambition and insecurity genuine ambition and insecurity genuine ambition and insecurity disguised as ambition as they can disguised as ambition as they can disguised as ambition as they can produce exactly the same behaviors? produce exactly the same behaviors? produce exactly the same behaviors? Working hard, money, etc. Looking back, Working hard, money, etc. Looking back, Working hard, money, etc. Looking back, what were the signs you were building what were the signs you were building what were the signs you were building the life you actually wanted rather than the life you actually wanted rather than the life you actually wanted rather than the one you felt you had to earn? the one you felt you had to earn? the one you felt you had to earn? >> [gasps and sighs] >> [gasps and sighs] >> [gasps and sighs] >> Honestly, dude, I I think that the >> Honestly, dude, I I think that the >> Honestly, dude, I I think that the genuine ambition piece and the genuine ambition piece and the genuine ambition piece and the insecurity disguised as ambition, the insecurity disguised as ambition, the insecurity disguised as ambition, the outcome is really what matters here. outcome is really what matters here. outcome is really what matters here. Sure, the fuel that you're using can be Sure, the fuel that you're using can be Sure, the fuel that you're using can be more or less toxic. You want to be using more or less toxic. You want to be using more or less toxic. You want to be using genuine ambition. I just love this work genuine ambition. I just love this work genuine ambition. I just love this work as opposed to I'm running away from not as opposed to I'm running away from not as opposed to I'm running away from not being enough. I I I have to forge myself being enough. I I I have to forge myself being enough. I I I have to forge myself into something so that the world will into something so that the world will into something so that the world will love me. Please, please just see that love me. Please, please just see that love me. Please, please just see that I'm valuable. I get it. It doesn't feel I'm valuable. I get it. It doesn't feel I'm valuable. I get it. It doesn't feel the same from the inside, the same from the inside, the same from the inside, but so many people have more pain than but so many people have more pain than but so many people have more pain than they do pleasure, especially in early they do pleasure, especially in early they do pleasure, especially in early life. And I think that a lot of what life. And I think that a lot of what life. And I think that a lot of what we're doing is like alchemizing all of we're doing is like alchemizing all of we're doing is like alchemizing all of this bad stuff into good stuff until we this bad stuff into good stuff until we this bad stuff into good stuff until we get to the point where we go, "All get to the point where we go, "All get to the point where we go, "All right, I've tried the external right, I've tried the external right, I've tried the external validation to fill an internal void validation to fill an internal void validation to fill an internal void thing. I've realized it doesn't work. thing. I've realized it doesn't work. thing. I've realized it doesn't work. Now I can turn and face what's what's Now I can turn and face what's what's Now I can turn and face what's what's happening inside." facing in happen happening inside." facing in happen happening inside." facing in happen looking at what's happening inside looking at what's happening inside looking at what's happening inside before doing that I think is so much before doing that I think is so much before doing that I think is so much tougher because tougher because tougher because you still feel worthless in the eyes of you still feel worthless in the eyes of you still feel worthless in the eyes of the world and it's way easier to have the world and it's way easier to have the world and it's way easier to have the world tell you you're worth the world tell you you're worth the world tell you you're worth something and you not feel it then go something and you not feel it then go something and you not feel it then go and go okay they've done it they've said and go okay they've done it they've said and go okay they've done it they've said it to me I still don't feel it I need to it to me I still don't feel it I need to it to me I still don't feel it I need to work on myself as opposed to the world work on myself as opposed to the world work on myself as opposed to the world still hasn't told me this thing that's a still hasn't told me this thing that's a still hasn't told me this thing that's a fear I'm going to somehow like gymnastic fear I'm going to somehow like gymnastic fear I'm going to somehow like gymnastic flip my way out of this without any flip my way out of this without any flip my way out of this without any evidence to the contrary evidence to the contrary evidence to the contrary So looking back signs when I was So looking back signs when I was So looking back signs when I was building a life that I wanted rather building a life that I wanted rather building a life that I wanted rather than one that I felt like I had to earn. than one that I felt like I had to earn. than one that I felt like I had to earn. A lot of it is am I celebrating my A lot of it is am I celebrating my A lot of it is am I celebrating my successes or am I feeling relief at a successes or am I feeling relief at a successes or am I feeling relief at a lack of failure? Like is it joy or lack of failure? Like is it joy or lack of failure? Like is it joy or simply the abatement of fear when things simply the abatement of fear when things simply the abatement of fear when things go well? That's a big one because that go well? That's a big one because that go well? That's a big one because that basically tells you when you succeed am basically tells you when you succeed am basically tells you when you succeed am I coming into this from a place of I coming into this from a place of I coming into this from a place of negative framing or positive framing. Am negative framing or positive framing. Am negative framing or positive framing. Am I happy that it went well or am I happy I happy that it went well or am I happy I happy that it went well or am I happy that it didn't go badly? And that I that it didn't go badly? And that I that it didn't go badly? And that I think is what are you running away from think is what are you running away from think is what are you running away from versus what you're running to. That was versus what you're running to. That was versus what you're running to. That was the biggest indication for me. But the biggest indication for me. But the biggest indication for me. But honestly, man, like if you're ambitious, honestly, man, like if you're ambitious, honestly, man, like if you're ambitious, if you're achieving things in the real if you're achieving things in the real if you're achieving things in the real world after a long enough time, if world after a long enough time, if world after a long enough time, if you're introspective, you just run out you're introspective, you just run out you're introspective, you just run out of that fuel. So, I think like with your of that fuel. So, I think like with your of that fuel. So, I think like with your man that had the ambition tearing him up man that had the ambition tearing him up man that had the ambition tearing him up inside, I think just keep going. Keep inside, I think just keep going. Keep inside, I think just keep going. Keep going and that fuel will run out. And going and that fuel will run out. And going and that fuel will run out. And then like a rocket ship taking off, the then like a rocket ship taking off, the then like a rocket ship taking off, the [ __ ] booster rockets fall off on the [ __ ] booster rockets fall off on the [ __ ] booster rockets fall off on the side and a new fuel source takes over. side and a new fuel source takes over. side and a new fuel source takes over. J66, J66, J66, what's some advice you give to others what's some advice you give to others what's some advice you give to others but never take yourself? but never take yourself? but never take yourself? [ __ ] hell. This feels like being [ __ ] hell. This feels like being [ __ ] hell. This feels like being asked, "How long do you last in bed?" asked, "How long do you last in bed?" asked, "How long do you last in bed?" Um, incredibly personal. Some advice Um, incredibly personal. Some advice Um, incredibly personal. Some advice that I give to others, but I never take that I give to others, but I never take that I give to others, but I never take myself. myself. myself. [ __ ] I mean, fear less is one of the [ __ ] I mean, fear less is one of the [ __ ] I mean, fear less is one of the ones that I I almost say it to other ones that I I almost say it to other ones that I I almost say it to other people. people. people. First off, because I think that it's an First off, because I think that it's an First off, because I think that it's an important lesson to be reminded of, but important lesson to be reminded of, but important lesson to be reminded of, but more so because every time I tell it to more so because every time I tell it to more so because every time I tell it to somebody else, I want to be reminded of somebody else, I want to be reminded of somebody else, I want to be reminded of it myself. Like, it myself. Like, it myself. Like, [ __ ] is probably not going to go [ __ ] is probably not going to go [ __ ] is probably not going to go anywhere near as wrong as you think it anywhere near as wrong as you think it anywhere near as wrong as you think it is. is. is. And worrying is a horribly useless way And worrying is a horribly useless way And worrying is a horribly useless way to spend your mental energy. to spend your mental energy. to spend your mental energy. And no amount of anxiety is going to And no amount of anxiety is going to And no amount of anxiety is going to make any difference to anything that make any difference to anything that make any difference to anything that happens. happens. happens. So I keep on telling other people, but So I keep on telling other people, but So I keep on telling other people, but that what if something goes wrong? How that what if something goes wrong? How that what if something goes wrong? How can I fix this? What are the ways that can I fix this? What are the ways that can I fix this? What are the ways that this could be an error? That sense, that this could be an error? That sense, that this could be an error? That sense, that fear-based framing is fear-based framing is fear-based framing is very prevalent. It's been very prevalent very prevalent. It's been very prevalent very prevalent. It's been very prevalent for me, and I'm getting better at it. for me, and I'm getting better at it. for me, and I'm getting better at it. I've gotten better at it, but uh it's I've gotten better at it, but uh it's I've gotten better at it, but uh it's not something I never take myself. not something I never take myself. not something I never take myself. Uh, but I probably need people to say it Uh, but I probably need people to say it Uh, but I probably need people to say it to me more. That may be a good start. to me more. That may be a good start. to me more. That may be a good start. And in saying it to other people, it And in saying it to other people, it And in saying it to other people, it bounces back to me. Toss wrote this. How bounces back to me. Toss wrote this. How bounces back to me. Toss wrote this. How do you think your role will change in do you think your role will change in do you think your role will change in the next 5 years? the next 5 years? the next 5 years? [sighs and gasps] Well, Well, Big Golden keeps on trying to sigh up me Big Golden keeps on trying to sigh up me Big Golden keeps on trying to sigh up me into buying a dog. I stepped out this into buying a dog. I stepped out this into buying a dog. I stepped out this morning, morning walk, four goldens morning, morning walk, four goldens morning, morning walk, four goldens within the first five minutes. So, within the first five minutes. So, within the first five minutes. So, they're really turning on the taps. Now, they're really turning on the taps. Now, they're really turning on the taps. Now, for those of you that don't know, I for those of you that don't know, I for those of you that don't know, I believe that I'm in the Truman Show, but believe that I'm in the Truman Show, but believe that I'm in the Truman Show, but it's an entire industry of people trying it's an entire industry of people trying it's an entire industry of people trying to get me to buy a golden retriever. I want to become a dad. I can't wait to I want to become a dad. I can't wait to become a dad. Like, I've got fullon become a dad. Like, I've got fullon become a dad. Like, I've got fullon preparatory dad brain. And a lot of what I've done up to now has a lot of what I've done up to now has been building this been building this been building this person, life, business, person, life, business, person, life, business, inner and outer cathedral of good things inner and outer cathedral of good things inner and outer cathedral of good things and [ __ ] and [ __ ] and [ __ ] I think I've done a pretty good job of I think I've done a pretty good job of I think I've done a pretty good job of kind of becoming ready to be a dad. But kind of becoming ready to be a dad. But kind of becoming ready to be a dad. But I I that's I I that's I I that's dude, if I look back in five years time dude, if I look back in five years time dude, if I look back in five years time and what I've got is a couple of golden and what I've got is a couple of golden and what I've got is a couple of golden retrievers and three kids and be like retrievers and three kids and be like retrievers and three kids and be like that was a huge win. But what else is that was a huge win. But what else is that was a huge win. But what else is there? What else is there now? Uh there? What else is there now? Uh there? What else is there now? Uh other things, you know, the more sexy other things, you know, the more sexy other things, you know, the more sexy answers, answers, answers, Newtonic, Newtonic, Newtonic, I I think that can be an insanely huge I I think that can be an insanely huge I I think that can be an insanely huge company and I don't really care about company and I don't really care about company and I don't really care about the money. It'll be fun or whatever when the money. It'll be fun or whatever when the money. It'll be fun or whatever when we get the big exit. we've already we get the big exit. we've already we get the big exit. we've already turned down one. So, I'm way more proud turned down one. So, I'm way more proud turned down one. So, I'm way more proud of the fact that we turned down an offer of the fact that we turned down an offer of the fact that we turned down an offer to buy us like 18 months after we were to buy us like 18 months after we were to buy us like 18 months after we were launched from some company that would launched from some company that would launched from some company that would have come in and and you know made us have come in and and you know made us have come in and and you know made us honorary [ __ ] members of our own honorary [ __ ] members of our own honorary [ __ ] members of our own baby. Um, I'm way more proud of that baby. Um, I'm way more proud of that baby. Um, I'm way more proud of that than I will be of the fact that we get than I will be of the fact that we get than I will be of the fact that we get it to the size that it's going to it to the size that it's going to it to the size that it's going to become. That'll be cool. the pod having become. That'll be cool. the pod having become. That'll be cool. the pod having more exposing, deep, sincere, earnest more exposing, deep, sincere, earnest more exposing, deep, sincere, earnest conversations, doing things, bringing conversations, doing things, bringing conversations, doing things, bringing people together so that they can just people together so that they can just people together so that they can just have a laugh and [ __ ] relax and let have a laugh and [ __ ] relax and let have a laugh and [ __ ] relax and let you guys feel you guys feel you guys feel the weight of the world relieved from the weight of the world relieved from the weight of the world relieved from your shoulders a little bit. I think your shoulders a little bit. I think your shoulders a little bit. I think that's that's that's there's not much else that I can do with there's not much else that I can do with there's not much else that I can do with my time that isn't going to be that that my time that isn't going to be that that my time that isn't going to be that that useful. But to me, all of that is useful. But to me, all of that is useful. But to me, all of that is secondary to golden life and dad life. secondary to golden life and dad life. secondary to golden life and dad life. And you better be ready, by the way, And you better be ready, by the way, And you better be ready, by the way, because when I become a father, it is because when I become a father, it is because when I become a father, it is just when I become a a dog father and a just when I become a a dog father and a just when I become a a dog father and a real father, it is just going to be real father, it is just going to be real father, it is just going to be [ __ ] farmer's dog and uh toxin-free [ __ ] farmer's dog and uh toxin-free [ __ ] farmer's dog and uh toxin-free uh baby grows and [ __ ] flame uh baby grows and [ __ ] flame uh baby grows and [ __ ] flame retardant but completely healthy paint retardant but completely healthy paint retardant but completely healthy paint for the nursery. It is just unrelenting for the nursery. It is just unrelenting for the nursery. It is just unrelenting father content. You're going to be father content. You're going to be father content. You're going to be disgusted. And I can't wait and disgusted. And I can't wait and disgusted. And I can't wait and everyone's going to get pissed off and everyone's going to get pissed off and everyone's going to get pissed off and it's going to be awesome. So, two it's going to be awesome. So, two it's going to be awesome. So, two goldens, three kids, goldens, three kids, goldens, three kids, more pod, more new hopefully [ __ ] fix my health. That's hopefully [ __ ] fix my health. That's the next five years. the next five years. the next five years. Ed diddy diddong, are you more of the Ed diddy diddong, are you more of the Ed diddy diddong, are you more of the manosphere type guy? What do you have to manosphere type guy? What do you have to manosphere type guy? What do you have to say about the Andrew Tate situation? say about the Andrew Tate situation? say about the Andrew Tate situation? Hey, if I'm being [ __ ] roped in as Hey, if I'm being [ __ ] roped in as Hey, if I'm being [ __ ] roped in as Andrew Tate's defense here, I I saw a uh Andrew Tate's defense here, I I saw a uh Andrew Tate's defense here, I I saw a uh video from I think it's his lawyer at video from I think it's his lawyer at video from I think it's his lawyer at the moment and there were a few I know the moment and there were a few I know the moment and there were a few I know he's a fan of Trump. Um I loved the he's a fan of Trump. Um I loved the he's a fan of Trump. Um I loved the press announcement thing. He sort of press announcement thing. He sort of press announcement thing. He sort of walked out. Justin Waller was with him walked out. Justin Waller was with him walked out. Justin Waller was with him and he sort of stood in front and did and he sort of stood in front and did and he sort of stood in front and did this thing and he pointed he must have this thing and he pointed he must have this thing and he pointed he must have got some more people from different law got some more people from different law got some more people from different law firms to join the case or whatever. He firms to join the case or whatever. He firms to join the case or whatever. He says, "We've been joined by these guys, says, "We've been joined by these guys, says, "We've been joined by these guys, very esteemed guys, best guys, best very esteemed guys, best guys, best very esteemed guys, best guys, best guys, wonderful guys." I was like, guys, wonderful guys." I was like, guys, wonderful guys." I was like, "You've watched too much Trump. You "You've watched too much Trump. You "You've watched too much Trump. You watched [laughter] way too much." He's watched [laughter] way too much." He's watched [laughter] way too much." He's like, "They're the best. They're the like, "They're the best. They're the like, "They're the best. They're the best." There's just like a little He best." There's just like a little He best." There's just like a little He didn't do the accent, but there's just a didn't do the accent, but there's just a didn't do the accent, but there's just a little bit in there. Wonderful guys. little bit in there. Wonderful guys. little bit in there. Wonderful guys. Best guys. Uh we got a great team. best Best guys. Uh we got a great team. best Best guys. Uh we got a great team. best team. Uh, what do I have to say about team. Uh, what do I have to say about team. Uh, what do I have to say about the Andrew Tate situation? Extradition the Andrew Tate situation? Extradition the Andrew Tate situation? Extradition to the UK is no [ __ ] small thing, to the UK is no [ __ ] small thing, to the UK is no [ __ ] small thing, dude. Like, if he gets pulled out of the dude. Like, if he gets pulled out of the dude. Like, if he gets pulled out of the U. I mean, there are there is a big case U. I mean, there are there is a big case U. I mean, there are there is a big case waiting for him in the UK. Um, I haven't waiting for him in the UK. Um, I haven't waiting for him in the UK. Um, I haven't watched that big party did talking about watched that big party did talking about watched that big party did talking about we get a whiteboard breaking down how we get a whiteboard breaking down how we get a whiteboard breaking down how the case is all of this [ __ ] and a the case is all of this [ __ ] and a the case is all of this [ __ ] and a billion dollars from Romania and all billion dollars from Romania and all billion dollars from Romania and all this stuff. I don't [ __ ] know what's this stuff. I don't [ __ ] know what's this stuff. I don't [ __ ] know what's going on with any of that. Um, am I more going on with any of that. Um, am I more going on with any of that. Um, am I more of a manosphere type guy? I don't know, of a manosphere type guy? I don't know, of a manosphere type guy? I don't know, dude. It depends who you ask on the dude. It depends who you ask on the dude. It depends who you ask on the internet. I'm either the middle of the internet. I'm either the middle of the internet. I'm either the middle of the manosphere manosphere manosphere or a gateway drug to dangerous ideas or or a gateway drug to dangerous ideas or or a gateway drug to dangerous ideas or a bluepilled cuck feminist. And it a bluepilled cuck feminist. And it a bluepilled cuck feminist. And it literally just depends on which literally just depends on which literally just depends on which algorithm on Twitter that you're looking algorithm on Twitter that you're looking algorithm on Twitter that you're looking at. I'm all of those things. I'm like at. I'm all of those things. I'm like at. I'm all of those things. I'm like tricexual in that way. JLJ tricexual in that way. JLJ tricexual in that way. JLJ 603, what is your hairline secret? Are 603, what is your hairline secret? Are 603, what is your hairline secret? Are you just young enough to not see the you just young enough to not see the you just young enough to not see the future yet? Or are you like me, a fellow future yet? Or are you like me, a fellow future yet? Or are you like me, a fellow curly-haired northerner fighting the curly-haired northerner fighting the curly-haired northerner fighting the impending retreat of the follicles? impending retreat of the follicles? impending retreat of the follicles? I'm holding fast. I'm like [ __ ] I'm holding fast. I'm like [ __ ] I'm holding fast. I'm like [ __ ] William Wallace, dude. It's just not William Wallace, dude. It's just not William Wallace, dude. It's just not It's not going anywhere. It's not going anywhere. It's not going anywhere. I'm afraid. I'm afraid. I'm afraid. Much to James Smith's chagrin. It's not Much to James Smith's chagrin. It's not Much to James Smith's chagrin. It's not going anywhere. Somebody asked like going anywhere. Somebody asked like going anywhere. Somebody asked like what's what's James Smith's haircut? what's what's James Smith's haircut? what's what's James Smith's haircut? Like how does James Smith get his Like how does James Smith get his Like how does James Smith get his haircut? And I was like just haircut? And I was like just haircut? And I was like just genetically. genetically. genetically. It's just his jean his jeans cut his It's just his jean his jeans cut his It's just his jean his jeans cut his hair. hair. hair. So, you know, one of us, one of the So, you know, one of us, one of the So, you know, one of us, one of the people in Mutonic has to have a people in Mutonic has to have a people in Mutonic has to have a hairline. And he's got the racist hairline. And he's got the racist hairline. And he's got the racist accent. I've got the hairline. That's accent. I've got the hairline. That's accent. I've got the hairline. That's the way it works. Liam Mackey 9, do you the way it works. Liam Mackey 9, do you the way it works. Liam Mackey 9, do you take peptides? If so, which ones? Yes, I take peptides? If so, which ones? Yes, I take peptides? If so, which ones? Yes, I do. Have been for a long time trying to do. Have been for a long time trying to do. Have been for a long time trying to fix health. I probably wouldn't if it fix health. I probably wouldn't if it fix health. I probably wouldn't if it wasn't there's something to fix. I don't wasn't there's something to fix. I don't wasn't there's something to fix. I don't know. know. know. I like to use sort of therapeutics and I like to use sort of therapeutics and I like to use sort of therapeutics and stuff to fix problems as opposed to stuff to fix problems as opposed to stuff to fix problems as opposed to enhance things when it comes to like enhance things when it comes to like enhance things when it comes to like more medical style [ __ ] I mean, look, more medical style [ __ ] I mean, look, more medical style [ __ ] I mean, look, is five migs of Tadalapil daily okay? is five migs of Tadalapil daily okay? is five migs of Tadalapil daily okay? Yeah, probably. Halfway between Yeah, probably. Halfway between Yeah, probably. Halfway between pharmaceutical and supplement. Um, pharmaceutical and supplement. Um, pharmaceutical and supplement. Um, anyway, BPC 157, TB500, anyway, BPC 157, TB500, anyway, BPC 157, TB500, thymus and alpha and SS31. So, um, thymus and alpha and SS31. So, um, thymus and alpha and SS31. So, um, recovery and gut, more recovery because recovery and gut, more recovery because recovery and gut, more recovery because I had a tooth extraction a little while I had a tooth extraction a little while I had a tooth extraction a little while ago and I'm trying to regrow a bone in ago and I'm trying to regrow a bone in ago and I'm trying to regrow a bone in my face. Uh, immune support with the my face. Uh, immune support with the my face. Uh, immune support with the thymus and alpha and then mitochondrial thymus and alpha and then mitochondrial thymus and alpha and then mitochondrial support with the SS31 because I'm tired support with the SS31 because I'm tired support with the SS31 because I'm tired all the time. Last year I tried Cmax and all the time. Last year I tried Cmax and all the time. Last year I tried Cmax and Sean. I tried uh, [ __ ] me frag 23. Um, Sean. I tried uh, [ __ ] me frag 23. Um, Sean. I tried uh, [ __ ] me frag 23. Um, uh, god so much. I even tried like PT41. uh, god so much. I even tried like PT41. uh, god so much. I even tried like PT41. That was interesting experience. That was interesting experience. That was interesting experience. lots. I've tried lots of them. Um, I do lots. I've tried lots of them. Um, I do lots. I've tried lots of them. Um, I do know that TB500 and BPC helped a lot know that TB500 and BPC helped a lot know that TB500 and BPC helped a lot when I ruptured my Achilles. It was six when I ruptured my Achilles. It was six when I ruptured my Achilles. It was six years ago that I was taking it, but years ago that I was taking it, but years ago that I was taking it, but this is not medical advice. I I have liked some of the effects of them, have liked some of the effects of them, have liked some of the effects of them, but you need to make sure that what but you need to make sure that what but you need to make sure that what you're getting is actually what you're you're getting is actually what you're you're getting is actually what you're getting because so much [ __ ] gray getting because so much [ __ ] gray getting because so much [ __ ] gray market horseshit is out there. So, market horseshit is out there. So, market horseshit is out there. So, please be careful. Stan VD Bers please be careful. Stan VD Bers please be careful. 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So, there's [ __ ] 200 there. So, there's [ __ ] 200 there. So, chriswellelx.com/books and chriswellelx.com/books and chriswellelx.com/books and chriswx.com/morbooks. chriswx.com/morbooks. chriswx.com/morbooks. Okay. Okay. Okay. Ckumar073. Ckumar073. Ckumar073. Do you drink protein shakes? If so, if Do you drink protein shakes? If so, if Do you drink protein shakes? If so, if so, what protein do you use? If not, why so, what protein do you use? If not, why so, what protein do you use? If not, why not? Yes, I do. Uh, Momentous. Their way not? Yes, I do. Uh, Momentous. Their way not? Yes, I do. Uh, Momentous. Their way is money. Grass-fed, non-GMO, European is money. Grass-fed, non-GMO, European is money. Grass-fed, non-GMO, European cows, healthy, NSF certified. Like, cows, healthy, NSF certified. Like, cows, healthy, NSF certified. Like, Olympians can use it. Really great, Olympians can use it. Really great, Olympians can use it. Really great, really clean. 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I'll do this final one. Skirt mgurt. Several guests final one. Skirt mgurt. Several guests final one. Skirt mgurt. Several guests claim that modern life is more stressful claim that modern life is more stressful claim that modern life is more stressful than previous eras. And you've always than previous eras. And you've always than previous eras. And you've always asked, "How is that possible when we asked, "How is that possible when we asked, "How is that possible when we used to worry about Viking invasions and used to worry about Viking invasions and used to worry about Viking invasions and saber-tooth tigers?" I never feel like saber-tooth tigers?" I never feel like saber-tooth tigers?" I never feel like you get a good answer. What do you you get a good answer. What do you you get a good answer. What do you think? [ __ ] great question, and it's think? [ __ ] great question, and it's think? [ __ ] great question, and it's certainly something that I think about. certainly something that I think about. certainly something that I think about. You know, previous generations were You know, previous generations were You know, previous generations were fighting off wars and worried about fighting off wars and worried about fighting off wars and worried about whether or not the cold would kill them whether or not the cold would kill them whether or not the cold would kill them and their family. And today, we're and their family. And today, we're and their family. And today, we're concerned about being kicked out of a concerned about being kicked out of a concerned about being kicked out of a group chat or about someone ghosting us group chat or about someone ghosting us group chat or about someone ghosting us over text. I think the problem is that over text. I think the problem is that over text. I think the problem is that we have a nervous system that was we have a nervous system that was we have a nervous system that was designed for bears and is now concerned designed for bears and is now concerned designed for bears and is now concerned with isolation socially with isolation socially with isolation socially and it's it's not updated. That ancient and it's it's not updated. That ancient and it's it's not updated. That ancient system is still working in a way. It's system is still working in a way. It's system is still working in a way. It's like adapted to the new ecology and the like adapted to the new ecology and the like adapted to the new ecology and the new ecology is safer and more sedate. new ecology is safer and more sedate. new ecology is safer and more sedate. But that means that smaller concerns But that means that smaller concerns But that means that smaller concerns feel bigger. Like we don't know what feel bigger. Like we don't know what feel bigger. Like we don't know what it's like to be chased down by a it's like to be chased down by a it's like to be chased down by a saber-tooth tiger. We don't know what saber-tooth tiger. We don't know what saber-tooth tiger. We don't know what it's like to maybe be killed by a it's like to maybe be killed by a it's like to maybe be killed by a invisible tiny little microbe, which is invisible tiny little microbe, which is invisible tiny little microbe, which is germs and dirt that we didn't know that germs and dirt that we didn't know that germs and dirt that we didn't know that we were supposed to clean. We don't know we were supposed to clean. We don't know we were supposed to clean. We don't know what it's like to worry that the [ __ ] what it's like to worry that the [ __ ] what it's like to worry that the [ __ ] crops will fail crops will fail crops will fail next autumn or that we're going to be next autumn or that we're going to be next autumn or that we're going to be killed by the cold this winter. killed by the cold this winter. killed by the cold this winter. That kind of doesn't matter to our That kind of doesn't matter to our That kind of doesn't matter to our nervous system because it's not aware of nervous system because it's not aware of nervous system because it's not aware of just it's not taking a era based lifetime like generational era based lifetime like generational perspective. It just knows what your perspective. It just knows what your perspective. It just knows what your life's like. And yeah, a nervous system life's like. And yeah, a nervous system life's like. And yeah, a nervous system that was built to run away from that was built to run away from that was built to run away from predators now feels like prey when we predators now feels like prey when we predators now feels like prey when we have to set a boundary with someone have to set a boundary with someone have to set a boundary with someone because there's that is what our life because there's that is what our life because there's that is what our life is. Our life is playing very different is. Our life is playing very different is. Our life is playing very different games. They're not games of survival. games. They're not games of survival. games. They're not games of survival. They're games of social acceptance. And They're games of social acceptance. And They're games of social acceptance. And unfortunately, we don't have many of the unfortunately, we don't have many of the unfortunately, we don't have many of the ballasts that would have kept us and the ballasts that would have kept us and the ballasts that would have kept us and the stabilizers that would have kept us in stabilizers that would have kept us in stabilizers that would have kept us in place. Families that aren't going to place. Families that aren't going to place. Families that aren't going to abandon us. people that love us abandon us. people that love us abandon us. people that love us regardless of how we can show up. We're regardless of how we can show up. We're regardless of how we can show up. We're in a meritocracy which means that you're in a meritocracy which means that you're in a meritocracy which means that you're only as valuable as your ability to only as valuable as your ability to only as valuable as your ability to contribute to the world. So yeah, you contribute to the world. So yeah, you contribute to the world. So yeah, you feel shame at your small fears when you feel shame at your small fears when you feel shame at your small fears when you look across the expanse of time. But you look across the expanse of time. But you look across the expanse of time. But you can't deny how you feel when something can't deny how you feel when something can't deny how you feel when something bad happens, even if it's small and bad happens, even if it's small and bad happens, even if it's small and silly, like compared with your silly, like compared with your silly, like compared with your ancestors. And a lot of that shame of ancestors. And a lot of that shame of ancestors. And a lot of that shame of [ __ ] I shouldn't feel like this. I'm [ __ ] I shouldn't feel like this. I'm [ __ ] I shouldn't feel like this. I'm silly for feeling like this. This is silly for feeling like this. This is silly for feeling like this. This is stupid. if I'd know like, hey, okay, stupid. if I'd know like, hey, okay, stupid. if I'd know like, hey, okay, you haven't had the opportunity to be you haven't had the opportunity to be you haven't had the opportunity to be chased down by a saber-tooth tiger. You chased down by a saber-tooth tiger. You chased down by a saber-tooth tiger. You haven't had the opportunity to worry haven't had the opportunity to worry haven't had the opportunity to worry about a Viking invasion. And because of about a Viking invasion. And because of about a Viking invasion. And because of that, it means that there's nothing that, it means that there's nothing that, it means that there's nothing else. Here's the bottom line. You're else. Here's the bottom line. You're else. Here's the bottom line. You're allowed to feel the way that you feel. allowed to feel the way that you feel. allowed to feel the way that you feel. If you feel anxious about having to set If you feel anxious about having to set If you feel anxious about having to set a boundary with your partner, if you a boundary with your partner, if you a boundary with your partner, if you feel concerned about having to tell feel concerned about having to tell feel concerned about having to tell somebody a piece of news that they don't somebody a piece of news that they don't somebody a piece of news that they don't want to hear, if you are worried that a want to hear, if you are worried that a want to hear, if you are worried that a friend didn't text you back or have got friend didn't text you back or have got friend didn't text you back or have got this imagined concern about speeding this imagined concern about speeding this imagined concern about speeding through a red light earlier on today and through a red light earlier on today and through a red light earlier on today and maybe the the traffic camera is going to maybe the the traffic camera is going to maybe the the traffic camera is going to get you and then there'll be three get you and then there'll be three get you and then there'll be three points and I'll lose my car and I'll be points and I'll lose my car and I'll be points and I'll lose my car and I'll be you're allowed to feel that way. And you're allowed to feel that way. And you're allowed to feel that way. And trying to dictate to yourself or judge trying to dictate to yourself or judge trying to dictate to yourself or judge yourself or shame yourself for your yourself or shame yourself for your yourself or shame yourself for your feelings is a very reliable way to make feelings is a very reliable way to make feelings is a very reliable way to make someone who's feeling bad and doesn't someone who's feeling bad and doesn't someone who's feeling bad and doesn't want to feel even worse. We have systems that were designed for We have systems that were designed for times that we're not in and they've times that we're not in and they've times that we're not in and they've updated themselves to be sensitized to updated themselves to be sensitized to updated themselves to be sensitized to the modern world. That's it. But don't the modern world. That's it. But don't the modern world. That's it. But don't try to shame yourself too much. All try to shame yourself too much. All try to shame yourself too much. All right. I love you all. Uh chris right. I love you all. Uh chris right. I love you all. Uh chris Williamson.live for tour tickets UK and Williamson.live for tour tickets UK and Williamson.live for tour tickets UK and Ireland later this year in October. Uh, Ireland later this year in October. Uh, Ireland later this year in October. Uh, chriswelllex.com/stories if you want to submit your stories, if you want to submit your stories, including a voicemail that I can play to including a voicemail that I can play to including a voicemail that I can play to some of the guests and ask them some of the guests and ask them some of the guests and ask them questions. questions. questions. Everything else I've gone through. I Everything else I've gone through. I Everything else I've gone through. I love you all. Five.