How to Rebuild Your Life When Everything Feels Broken | Ed Mylett

Hey everyone, welcome to my weekend Hey everyone, welcome to my weekend special. I hope you enjoy the show. Hit special. I hope you enjoy the show. Hit special. I hope you enjoy the show. Hit that like button and be sure to that like button and be sure to that like button and be sure to subscribe to the YouTube channel so you subscribe to the YouTube channel so you subscribe to the YouTube channel so you never miss my show, whether it's never miss my show, whether it's never miss my show, whether it's Tuesday, Thursday, or Saturday. Now, on Tuesday, Thursday, or Saturday. Now, on Tuesday, Thursday, or Saturday. Now, on with the show. with the show. with the show. All right, welcome back to the show All right, welcome back to the show All right, welcome back to the show everybody. So grateful you decided to everybody. So grateful you decided to everybody. So grateful you decided to join me again this week. And I just join me again this week. And I just join me again this week. And I just really feel like this week's going to be really feel like this week's going to be really feel like this week's going to be special. As I was preparing uh my special. As I was preparing uh my special. As I was preparing uh my message for the week, I just I felt message for the week, I just I felt message for the week, I just I felt really good about sharing these thoughts really good about sharing these thoughts really good about sharing these thoughts with you. This week is really more about with you. This week is really more about with you. This week is really more about perspective and focusing on how blessed perspective and focusing on how blessed perspective and focusing on how blessed we are in our lives. And we often lose we are in our lives. And we often lose we are in our lives. And we often lose we lose track of that. We lose we lose track of that. We lose we lose track of that. We lose perspective with all the stressors of perspective with all the stressors of perspective with all the stressors of daily life and all the things that are daily life and all the things that are daily life and all the things that are coming our way at any given time. coming our way at any given time. coming our way at any given time. Whether that be what's going on in the Whether that be what's going on in the Whether that be what's going on in the world politically or the geopolitics world politically or the geopolitics world politically or the geopolitics going around the globe or our own going around the globe or our own going around the globe or our own financial issues or relationship strife financial issues or relationship strife financial issues or relationship strife or you know uncovering trauma from our or you know uncovering trauma from our or you know uncovering trauma from our lives and emotions and all the stuff lives and emotions and all the stuff lives and emotions and all the stuff that comes bills to pay and appointments that comes bills to pay and appointments that comes bills to pay and appointments to have places to get things to do stuff to have places to get things to do stuff to have places to get things to do stuff you got to have an opinion on things to you got to have an opinion on things to you got to have an opinion on things to worry about. We can lose perspective on worry about. We can lose perspective on worry about. We can lose perspective on how blessed we are to be here especially how blessed we are to be here especially how blessed we are to be here especially during these times. This is the greatest during these times. This is the greatest during these times. This is the greatest time ever to be alive. Access to the time ever to be alive. Access to the time ever to be alive. Access to the most information. We're the most most information. We're the most most information. We're the most connected in some ways we've ever been connected in some ways we've ever been connected in some ways we've ever been through technology. You could argue in through technology. You could argue in through technology. You could argue in some ways personally disconnected, which some ways personally disconnected, which some ways personally disconnected, which I'll talk about today. But we're really I'll talk about today. But we're really I'll talk about today. But we're really blessed. You are really blessed. And blessed. You are really blessed. And blessed. You are really blessed. And just for a little while today, let's just for a little while today, let's just for a little while today, let's just talk about you and just give you just talk about you and just give you just talk about you and just give you some perspective on you and your life some perspective on you and your life some perspective on you and your life that maybe you need. Certainly I needed that maybe you need. Certainly I needed that maybe you need. Certainly I needed preparing for it today. You know, just preparing for it today. You know, just preparing for it today. You know, just being born in general. I mean, I know being born in general. I mean, I know being born in general. I mean, I know you go, "All right, I know I won the you go, "All right, I know I won the you go, "All right, I know I won the contest." No, no, no. Don't you think contest." No, no, no. Don't you think contest." No, no, no. Don't you think about this just for a second? Where you about this just for a second? Where you about this just for a second? Where you come from? You You know, we never do. We come from? You You know, we never do. We come from? You You know, we never do. We never really stop and think about us. never really stop and think about us. never really stop and think about us. Us, you know, those of you that go to Us, you know, those of you that go to Us, you know, those of you that go to church like I do, you have that church like I do, you have that church like I do, you have that occasional time on Sundays when you go, occasional time on Sundays when you go, occasional time on Sundays when you go, it's once a week or your Bible study to it's once a week or your Bible study to it's once a week or your Bible study to reflect. That's usually just one reflect. That's usually just one reflect. That's usually just one perspective, which is your relationship perspective, which is your relationship perspective, which is your relationship with God, which is the most important with God, which is the most important with God, which is the most important perspective. Obviously, if you watch my perspective. Obviously, if you watch my perspective. Obviously, if you watch my work, you know that I feel that way. But work, you know that I feel that way. But work, you know that I feel that way. But let's just break it down to you just for let's just break it down to you just for let's just break it down to you just for a second. And how much God really has a second. And how much God really has a second. And how much God really has blessed you. You know, in order to be blessed you. You know, in order to be blessed you. You know, in order to be born, you needed two parents. This is born, you needed two parents. This is born, you needed two parents. This is where you come from. Just think this where you come from. Just think this where you come from. Just think this through. How miraculous through. How miraculous through. How miraculous it is that we got to you, that you it is that we got to you, that you it is that we got to you, that you exist. You needed two parents. You exist. You needed two parents. You exist. You needed two parents. You needed four grandparents. needed four grandparents. needed four grandparents. That means you had eight That means you had eight That means you had eight great-grandparents, great-grandparents, great-grandparents, 16 great great grandparents, 32 third 16 great great grandparents, 32 third 16 great great grandparents, 32 third great-grandparents, 64 fourth great great-grandparents, 64 fourth great great-grandparents, 64 fourth great grandparents. Think about that for a grandparents. Think about that for a grandparents. Think about that for a second. 64 people to you, second. 64 people to you, second. 64 people to you, 128 fifth greatgrandparents, 256 sixth 128 fifth greatgrandparents, 256 sixth 128 fifth greatgrandparents, 256 sixth great grandparents, 5127th great grandparents, 5127th great grandparents, 5127th greatgrandparents, greatgrandparents, greatgrandparents, and 1,024 and 1,024 and 1,024 eighth great grandparents. eighth great grandparents. eighth great grandparents. Is that amazing? We keep going. 248 Is that amazing? We keep going. 248 Is that amazing? We keep going. 248 9ths. 9ths. 9ths. Over the past 12 generations, spanning Over the past 12 generations, spanning Over the past 12 generations, spanning about 400 years, you needed a total of about 400 years, you needed a total of about 400 years, you needed a total of about 4,94 about 4,94 about 4,94 ancestors to come into existence. ancestors to come into existence. ancestors to come into existence. You were the result of thousands of You were the result of thousands of You were the result of thousands of lives, choices, and sacrifices that came lives, choices, and sacrifices that came lives, choices, and sacrifices that came before you. In many of your cases, you before you. In many of your cases, you before you. In many of your cases, you come from absolute bravery in your come from absolute bravery in your come from absolute bravery in your ancestry, tragedy, ancestry, tragedy, ancestry, tragedy, uh, atrocities that have happened, and uh, atrocities that have happened, and uh, atrocities that have happened, and you come from that. I know you're very, you come from that. I know you're very, you come from that. I know you're very, very proud of maybe where you come from very proud of maybe where you come from very proud of maybe where you come from or your ethnicity or maybe your parents or your ethnicity or maybe your parents or your ethnicity or maybe your parents or great-grandparents, but have you ever or great-grandparents, but have you ever or great-grandparents, but have you ever thought about the thousands of lives thought about the thousands of lives thought about the thousands of lives that had to exist that were shaped to that had to exist that were shaped to that had to exist that were shaped to you and now we're to you? This reminds you and now we're to you? This reminds you and now we're to you? This reminds us of how precious and unique just our us of how precious and unique just our us of how precious and unique just our existence is. It's a gift shaped by existence is. It's a gift shaped by existence is. It's a gift shaped by generations of ancestors. generations of ancestors. generations of ancestors. I want to challenge you today to just I want to challenge you today to just I want to challenge you today to just give that some thought. These thousands give that some thought. These thousands give that some thought. These thousands of people that are yours of people that are yours of people that are yours that you've never met before that lived that you've never met before that lived that you've never met before that lived lives before you that their cell memory lives before you that their cell memory lives before you that their cell memory passed on to you. The scriptures talk passed on to you. The scriptures talk passed on to you. The scriptures talk about the sins of the father and the about the sins of the father and the about the sins of the father and the blessings moving through generations blessings moving through generations blessings moving through generations and that no matter what's happened in and that no matter what's happened in and that no matter what's happened in your family in this generation, you can your family in this generation, you can your family in this generation, you can change your bloodline forever. You can. change your bloodline forever. You can. change your bloodline forever. You can. And every family I talk about there And every family I talk about there And every family I talk about there being the one that changes a family. I being the one that changes a family. I being the one that changes a family. I want to challenge you with these 4,000 want to challenge you with these 4,000 want to challenge you with these 4,000 ancestors of yours that's led to today ancestors of yours that's led to today ancestors of yours that's led to today to honor their legacy by living with to honor their legacy by living with to honor their legacy by living with purpose and gratitude because someday purpose and gratitude because someday purpose and gratitude because someday someone's going to be thousands of someone's going to be thousands of someone's going to be thousands of people removed from you. You know, I've people removed from you. You know, I've people removed from you. You know, I've been having these dreams the last year been having these dreams the last year been having these dreams the last year about my granddaughter. She's not been born and as far as I know She's not been born and as far as I know neither one of my kids are even close to neither one of my kids are even close to neither one of my kids are even close to having a baby. But I've been having having a baby. But I've been having having a baby. But I've been having these dreams about her and I've been these dreams about her and I've been these dreams about her and I've been thinking about all the things I do every thinking about all the things I do every thinking about all the things I do every day and how that's going to impact her day and how that's going to impact her day and how that's going to impact her life. Someday she'll have a life. Someday she'll have a life. Someday she'll have a granddaughter, I imagine. granddaughter, I imagine. granddaughter, I imagine. And just the legacy of what I do every And just the legacy of what I do every And just the legacy of what I do every day, what you do every day, and how this day, what you do every day, and how this day, what you do every day, and how this thing is much bigger than us. We forget thing is much bigger than us. We forget thing is much bigger than us. We forget that, don't we? Don't we forget how much that, don't we? Don't we forget how much that, don't we? Don't we forget how much bigger this is than us? I know I do from bigger this is than us? I know I do from bigger this is than us? I know I do from time to time. And what a blessing it is. time to time. And what a blessing it is. time to time. And what a blessing it is. I was at an event recently and it was a I was at an event recently and it was a I was at an event recently and it was a VIP room and this mother had won and she VIP room and this mother had won and she VIP room and this mother had won and she brought her instead of her husband brought her instead of her husband brought her instead of her husband coming she brought her son who was 25 coming she brought her son who was 25 coming she brought her son who was 25 years old and they all got to ask me a years old and they all got to ask me a years old and they all got to ask me a question and he said Mr. I let if you question and he said Mr. I let if you question and he said Mr. I let if you could come back in time and talk to the could come back in time and talk to the could come back in time and talk to the 25year-old you now that you're almost 55 25year-old you now that you're almost 55 25year-old you now that you're almost 55 years old. I'm I'm 53. You know, what years old. I'm I'm 53. You know, what years old. I'm I'm 53. You know, what would you what advice would you would you what advice would you would you what advice would you give you at 25? And I really thought give you at 25? And I really thought give you at 25? And I really thought about it for a minute and I said, you about it for a minute and I said, you about it for a minute and I said, you know, I'm going to tell you something know, I'm going to tell you something know, I'm going to tell you something very honestly. Number one, I would tell very honestly. Number one, I would tell very honestly. Number one, I would tell me that I'm as young and as healthy as me that I'm as young and as healthy as me that I'm as young and as healthy as I'll ever be in my life, more than I'll ever be in my life, more than I'll ever be in my life, more than likely right now, and that this is the likely right now, and that this is the likely right now, and that this is the greatest time of my life. I said, "You greatest time of my life. I said, "You greatest time of my life. I said, "You know, young man, I've been able to know, young man, I've been able to know, young man, I've been able to accumulate hundreds of millions of accumulate hundreds of millions of accumulate hundreds of millions of dollars of net worth, and I've been able dollars of net worth, and I've been able dollars of net worth, and I've been able to have all the material things in life to have all the material things in life to have all the material things in life you would probably ever want. You know, you would probably ever want. You know, you would probably ever want. You know, jets and islands and houses and just jets and islands and houses and just jets and islands and houses and just I've been really blessed. For a dude who I've been really blessed. For a dude who I've been really blessed. For a dude who grew up, started out on welfare, that's grew up, started out on welfare, that's grew up, started out on welfare, that's pretty cool. Alcoholic dad, you know, pretty cool. Alcoholic dad, you know, pretty cool. Alcoholic dad, you know, God's been really good to me." I said, God's been really good to me." I said, God's been really good to me." I said, "But let me uh say something to you. I "But let me uh say something to you. I "But let me uh say something to you. I would give you all of that back if I would give you all of that back if I would give you all of that back if I could be 25 years old again. could be 25 years old again. could be 25 years old again. I'd give it all back to you." And I I'd give it all back to you." And I I'd give it all back to you." And I said, "By the way, 10 years from now, I said, "By the way, 10 years from now, I said, "By the way, 10 years from now, I will be 63 years old and probably will be 63 years old and probably will be 63 years old and probably wealthier than I am now. And I would wealthier than I am now. And I would wealthier than I am now. And I would trade every dollar that I'll make trade every dollar that I'll make trade every dollar that I'll make between 53 and 63. I promise you, when I between 53 and 63. I promise you, when I between 53 and 63. I promise you, when I get to 63, I'd give all of that money get to 63, I'd give all of that money get to 63, I'd give all of that money back if I could go back and be 53 years back if I could go back and be 53 years back if I could go back and be 53 years old again. And I'd give you all I got old again. And I'd give you all I got old again. And I'd give you all I got right now to go back and be 25 years old right now to go back and be 25 years old right now to go back and be 25 years old again." And so time is the greatest again." And so time is the greatest again." And so time is the greatest blessing. Youth is the greatest blessing. Youth is the greatest blessing. Youth is the greatest blessing. No matter what age you are, blessing. No matter what age you are, blessing. No matter what age you are, you're as young and as healthy as you're you're as young and as healthy as you're you're as young and as healthy as you're ever going to be. and having some ever going to be. and having some ever going to be. and having some understanding of how incredible this understanding of how incredible this understanding of how incredible this moment is, that you're not one of the moment is, that you're not one of the moment is, that you're not one of the 80% of the people that live on Earth 80% of the people that live on Earth 80% of the people that live on Earth today that don't have clean water, that today that don't have clean water, that today that don't have clean water, that you've had three meals today. And I know you've had three meals today. And I know you've had three meals today. And I know you go, "Hey, that's great. I've heard you go, "Hey, that's great. I've heard you go, "Hey, that's great. I've heard this. You know, I know I got a blanket this. You know, I know I got a blanket this. You know, I know I got a blanket and a place to live." No, you don't. The and a place to live." No, you don't. The and a place to live." No, you don't. The things that you worry about every single things that you worry about every single things that you worry about every single day that you have made larger than life day that you have made larger than life day that you have made larger than life that are stealing your joy that seem so that are stealing your joy that seem so that are stealing your joy that seem so big in this moment that won't matter at big in this moment that won't matter at big in this moment that won't matter at all 10 years from now or on your all 10 years from now or on your all 10 years from now or on your deathbed that won't matter at all in deathbed that won't matter at all in deathbed that won't matter at all in those moments. You let rule your life those moments. You let rule your life those moments. You let rule your life you let become these big huge things you let become these big huge things you let become these big huge things when 4,000 people had to exist for just when 4,000 people had to exist for just when 4,000 people had to exist for just to get to you. And someday you're going to get to you. And someday you're going to get to you. And someday you're going to have that granddaughter or greatg to have that granddaughter or greatg to have that granddaughter or greatg grandanddaughter that looks to your grandanddaughter that looks to your grandanddaughter that looks to your legacy. Some of them won't even ever legacy. Some of them won't even ever legacy. Some of them won't even ever know you, know you, know you, but you will have made a difference in but you will have made a difference in but you will have made a difference in their lives. You will have changed their their lives. You will have changed their their lives. You will have changed their bloodline forever. And to understand bloodline forever. And to understand bloodline forever. And to understand what a blessing it is to be alive in what a blessing it is to be alive in what a blessing it is to be alive in this moment, have a shot. Have some this moment, have a shot. Have some this moment, have a shot. Have some hope. Have a gift. I've had multiple hope. Have a gift. I've had multiple hope. Have a gift. I've had multiple friends in the last several weeks. One friends in the last several weeks. One friends in the last several weeks. One of my dearest friends just found out of my dearest friends just found out of my dearest friends just found out that she's got she had melanoma and and that she's got she had melanoma and and that she's got she had melanoma and and she's found out. Now, most of you know she's found out. Now, most of you know she's found out. Now, most of you know this. It's a public thing. Teddy this. It's a public thing. Teddy this. It's a public thing. Teddy Melanchamp, my friend, is found out she Melanchamp, my friend, is found out she Melanchamp, my friend, is found out she had she's had melanoma for years. Well, had she's had melanoma for years. Well, had she's had melanoma for years. Well, then she's found that it spread to her then she's found that it spread to her then she's found that it spread to her brain and had I've seen the images these brain and had I've seen the images these brain and had I've seen the images these plum-sized tumors in her brain, three in plum-sized tumors in her brain, three in plum-sized tumors in her brain, three in one spot, two in another, and had them one spot, two in another, and had them one spot, two in another, and had them removed. And she's got this scars on her removed. And she's got this scars on her removed. And she's got this scars on her head and then fluid on and unbelievable head and then fluid on and unbelievable head and then fluid on and unbelievable pain. And she's got this precious pain. And she's got this precious pain. And she's got this precious family. And prior to that, she'd been family. And prior to that, she'd been family. And prior to that, she'd been going through some real things in her going through some real things in her going through some real things in her life. And it's just perspective on what life. And it's just perspective on what life. And it's just perspective on what really matters in life. So, I'm having a really matters in life. So, I'm having a really matters in life. So, I'm having a bad day compared to what? bad day compared to what? bad day compared to what? Someone today woke up and lost the love Someone today woke up and lost the love Someone today woke up and lost the love of their life. of their life. of their life. Right? Someone didn't wake up today. The Right? Someone didn't wake up today. The Right? Someone didn't wake up today. The Bible says in 1 Peter 5:10, "And that Bible says in 1 Peter 5:10, "And that Bible says in 1 Peter 5:10, "And that the God of all grace, who's called you the God of all grace, who's called you the God of all grace, who's called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after to his eternal glory in Christ, after to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will you have suffered a little while, will you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you firm himself restore you and make you firm himself restore you and make you firm and steadfast. Life can be heavy, but if and steadfast. Life can be heavy, but if and steadfast. Life can be heavy, but if you'll just wait around long enough, you'll just wait around long enough, you'll just wait around long enough, it's not unbearable. Right when it feels it's not unbearable. Right when it feels it's not unbearable. Right when it feels unbearable, pain will linger and prayers unbearable, pain will linger and prayers unbearable, pain will linger and prayers can be answered in your life. But take can be answered in your life. But take can be answered in your life. But take heart. Suffering is not the end of your heart. Suffering is not the end of your heart. Suffering is not the end of your story. Here's the truth. You're playing story. Here's the truth. You're playing story. Here's the truth. You're playing with house money. You can't lose. You with house money. You can't lose. You with house money. You can't lose. You can't lose. If you're a person of faith, can't lose. If you're a person of faith, can't lose. If you're a person of faith, you know where you're going. You know you know where you're going. You know you know where you're going. You know how the story ends. In the meantime, how the story ends. In the meantime, how the story ends. In the meantime, you're playing with house money. Play you're playing with house money. Play you're playing with house money. Play your hand. Not everybody gets the same your hand. Not everybody gets the same your hand. Not everybody gets the same hand, but you got a hand to play. And hand, but you got a hand to play. And hand, but you got a hand to play. And people with worse hands than you have people with worse hands than you have people with worse hands than you have won. You can't lose. I can't listen. One won. You can't lose. I can't listen. One won. You can't lose. I can't listen. One thing I know, when this whole game's thing I know, when this whole game's thing I know, when this whole game's over, as long as I get to go to heaven over, as long as I get to go to heaven over, as long as I get to go to heaven someday, I can't lose. He already died someday, I can't lose. He already died someday, I can't lose. He already died for me. The case has been made. I'm just for me. The case has been made. I'm just for me. The case has been made. I'm just running up to score. And by the way, I running up to score. And by the way, I running up to score. And by the way, I know how a lot of you are like, I get know how a lot of you are like, I get know how a lot of you are like, I get these me, Ed, I'm slipping. It's like a these me, Ed, I'm slipping. It's like a these me, Ed, I'm slipping. It's like a rope. I'm slipping. It's slipping. I'M rope. I'm slipping. It's slipping. I'M rope. I'm slipping. It's slipping. I'M FEEL LIKE I'M SLIPPING. TIE A KNOT. Tie FEEL LIKE I'M SLIPPING. TIE A KNOT. Tie FEEL LIKE I'M SLIPPING. TIE A KNOT. Tie a knot and hold on for a while, please. a knot and hold on for a while, please. a knot and hold on for a while, please. I'm serious. You don't always have to be I'm serious. You don't always have to be I'm serious. You don't always have to be climbing. Sometimes you got to tie the climbing. Sometimes you got to tie the climbing. Sometimes you got to tie the knot and just hold on when it feels like knot and just hold on when it feels like knot and just hold on when it feels like life's slipping away. This left you. life's slipping away. This left you. life's slipping away. This left you. That relationship's gone. That money's That relationship's gone. That money's That relationship's gone. That money's gone. That business is gone. Tie a knot gone. That business is gone. Tie a knot gone. That business is gone. Tie a knot and hold on for one more day. The power and hold on for one more day. The power and hold on for one more day. The power of one more is real. My book is real. of one more is real. My book is real. of one more is real. My book is real. Tie a knot, hold on for one more day. Tie a knot, hold on for one more day. Tie a knot, hold on for one more day. Catch your breath, and then start Catch your breath, and then start Catch your breath, and then start climbing again. Just don't quit for one climbing again. Just don't quit for one climbing again. Just don't quit for one more day. You got one more in you. more day. You got one more in you. more day. You got one more in you. I can promise you the greatest blessing I can promise you the greatest blessing I can promise you the greatest blessing of your life is one more day. of your life is one more day. of your life is one more day. You know, when my dad got cancer, You know, when my dad got cancer, You know, when my dad got cancer, my dad was a man's man. I'll never my dad was a man's man. I'll never my dad was a man's man. I'll never forget if you hear my voice, you know, forget if you hear my voice, you know, forget if you hear my voice, you know, uh my dad had my voice, had this deep uh my dad had my voice, had this deep uh my dad had my voice, had this deep voice, and my dad got cancer. And he voice, and my dad got cancer. And he voice, and my dad got cancer. And he says, "Hey, look, I just got to tell says, "Hey, look, I just got to tell says, "Hey, look, I just got to tell you, here's what's happened." And you you, here's what's happened." And you you, here's what's happened." And you know, here's what I'm going to do. I'm know, here's what I'm going to do. I'm know, here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to fight it once. That's what he going to fight it once. That's what he going to fight it once. That's what he told me. I'm going to fight it once. told me. I'm going to fight it once. told me. I'm going to fight it once. I'll do the chemo thing, the surgery. I'll do the chemo thing, the surgery. I'll do the chemo thing, the surgery. I'll fight it one time. But Eddie, I'm I'll fight it one time. But Eddie, I'm I'll fight it one time. But Eddie, I'm not going on one of these, you know, not going on one of these, you know, not going on one of these, you know, year after year. You get all shriveled year after year. You get all shriveled year after year. You get all shriveled up, you're getting sick, your hair, all up, you're getting sick, your hair, all up, you're getting sick, your hair, all that. I'm not doing that whole routine, that. I'm not doing that whole routine, that. I'm not doing that whole routine, but I will fight it once. And I remember but I will fight it once. And I remember but I will fight it once. And I remember saying, "Hey, dad, that's fair. I saying, "Hey, dad, that's fair. I saying, "Hey, dad, that's fair. I actually understand that. I I might not actually understand that. I I might not actually understand that. I I might not either, but I will fight it once is what either, but I will fight it once is what either, but I will fight it once is what my dad said." my dad said." my dad said." That's not what happened. He fought it That's not what happened. He fought it That's not what happened. He fought it for eight years. for eight years. for eight years. multiple surgeries, multiple chemos, multiple surgeries, multiple chemos, multiple surgeries, multiple chemos, radiation, proton therapy, experimental radiation, proton therapy, experimental radiation, proton therapy, experimental chemo, chemo, chemo, and everything that he said he didn't and everything that he said he didn't and everything that he said he didn't want to have happen happened. He did want to have happen happened. He did want to have happen happened. He did shrivel up. He was vomiting blood. shrivel up. He was vomiting blood. shrivel up. He was vomiting blood. He did go through times where he He did go through times where he He did go through times where he couldn't breathe and had to have help couldn't breathe and had to have help couldn't breathe and had to have help breathing. He did lose his hair. His breathing. He did lose his hair. His breathing. He did lose his hair. His skin did change. He did get lesions. And skin did change. He did get lesions. And skin did change. He did get lesions. And I'd go, "Dad, why are you going through I'd go, "Dad, why are you going through I'd go, "Dad, why are you going through this? You literally said you'd only do this? You literally said you'd only do this? You literally said you'd only do it once, that you didn't want to go it once, that you didn't want to go it once, that you didn't want to go through all this suffering." through all this suffering." through all this suffering." And he goes, "Eddie, I'm I'm not And he goes, "Eddie, I'm I'm not And he goes, "Eddie, I'm I'm not suffering. I'm in pain, but suffering, suffering. I'm in pain, but suffering, suffering. I'm in pain, but suffering, you choose. you choose. you choose. I'm not suffering. I'm not suffering. I'm not suffering. I got to have dinner with mom again I got to have dinner with mom again I got to have dinner with mom again tonight. That's not suffering. I'm in tonight. That's not suffering. I'm in tonight. That's not suffering. I'm in some pain." He goes, "Here's what I some pain." He goes, "Here's what I some pain." He goes, "Here's what I didn't know, son. Please remember this, didn't know, son. Please remember this, didn't know, son. Please remember this, and I'm going to share this with you." and I'm going to share this with you." and I'm going to share this with you." The words of a man dying of cancer. The words of a man dying of cancer. The words of a man dying of cancer. He said, 'Here's what I didn't know, He said, 'Here's what I didn't know, He said, 'Here's what I didn't know, man. I get emotional telling you this. man. I get emotional telling you this. man. I get emotional telling you this. He goes, "I didn't know what it would be He goes, "I didn't know what it would be He goes, "I didn't know what it would be like to actually face not having one like to actually face not having one like to actually face not having one more day with my family. more day with my family. more day with my family. Sounds good in theory. You know, I'll Sounds good in theory. You know, I'll Sounds good in theory. You know, I'll fight it once, but I'm not going to." fight it once, but I'm not going to." fight it once, but I'm not going to." And he goes, "Until I realized And he goes, "Until I realized And he goes, "Until I realized I won't get to have another night with I won't get to have another night with I won't get to have another night with your mom. I won't have one more time to talk to I won't have one more time to talk to you, my best friend. you, my best friend. you, my best friend. I won't talk to my daughters or see them I won't talk to my daughters or see them I won't talk to my daughters or see them or hug my daughters." He goes, "You or hug my daughters." He goes, "You or hug my daughters." He goes, "You know, you'll do anything to get one more know, you'll do anything to get one more know, you'll do anything to get one more day once you're threatened to not have day once you're threatened to not have day once you're threatened to not have one. One more day with your family." one. One more day with your family." one. One more day with your family." Goes, "Eddie, I'll do anything. Heck, Goes, "Eddie, I'll do anything. Heck, Goes, "Eddie, I'll do anything. Heck, maybe I'll get to my granddaughter's maybe I'll get to my granddaughter's maybe I'll get to my granddaughter's weddings. Maybe I'll go see Max play weddings. Maybe I'll go see Max play weddings. Maybe I'll go see Max play golf one more time. I'll do anything to golf one more time. I'll do anything to golf one more time. I'll do anything to say play see Max play one more time. say play see Max play one more time. say play see Max play one more time. Remember my dad showed up to one of Remember my dad showed up to one of Remember my dad showed up to one of Max's golf tournaments after a really Max's golf tournaments after a really Max's golf tournaments after a really rough treatment round. It was a very hot rough treatment round. It was a very hot rough treatment round. It was a very hot day. In fact, I left that day. It was so day. In fact, I left that day. It was so day. In fact, I left that day. It was so hot my dad walked the entire 18 holes to hot my dad walked the entire 18 holes to hot my dad walked the entire 18 holes to watch my son play golf. Had just been watch my son play golf. Had just been watch my son play golf. Had just been through brutal chemo. All 18 holes in through brutal chemo. All 18 holes in through brutal chemo. All 18 holes in his 70s, his 70s, his 70s, struggling with all of the poison in his struggling with all of the poison in his struggling with all of the poison in his body from the chemo. And he watched body from the chemo. And he watched body from the chemo. And he watched every shot. all day long. I didn't. My every shot. all day long. I didn't. My every shot. all day long. I didn't. My dad did. And the reason was, he goes, "I dad did. And the reason was, he goes, "I dad did. And the reason was, he goes, "I don't know if I'll ever get to see Max don't know if I'll ever get to see Max don't know if I'll ever get to see Max play golf again. I'll do anything to get play golf again. I'll do anything to get play golf again. I'll do anything to get to watch him play one more time. to watch him play one more time. to watch him play one more time. Anything to see little Jack play Anything to see little Jack play Anything to see little Jack play basketball again or Brett or Blake play basketball again or Brett or Blake play basketball again or Brett or Blake play baseball. baseball. baseball. Love to get to my daughter's wedding, my Love to get to my daughter's wedding, my Love to get to my daughter's wedding, my granddaughter's wedding." And so, the granddaughter's wedding." And so, the granddaughter's wedding." And so, the greatest gift is one more day with your greatest gift is one more day with your greatest gift is one more day with your family. family. family. Don't wait around until you're Don't wait around until you're Don't wait around until you're threatened with not getting anymore to threatened with not getting anymore to threatened with not getting anymore to realize that. Listen, here's the truth. realize that. Listen, here's the truth. realize that. Listen, here's the truth. You get the life you focus on. If you You get the life you focus on. If you You get the life you focus on. If you want a life where it's stress and worry want a life where it's stress and worry want a life where it's stress and worry and down and you're a victim and it's and down and you're a victim and it's and down and you're a victim and it's pain and it's depressing, you can get pain and it's depressing, you can get pain and it's depressing, you can get it. Just look around for it. It's there. it. Just look around for it. It's there. it. Just look around for it. It's there. Or you can have a life of blessing and Or you can have a life of blessing and Or you can have a life of blessing and gratitude and bliss. And I'm not saying gratitude and bliss. And I'm not saying gratitude and bliss. And I'm not saying you can't even have both because I don't you can't even have both because I don't you can't even have both because I don't live on the side where I just get all live on the side where I just get all live on the side where I just get all the good. I get a little bit of both. I the good. I get a little bit of both. I the good. I get a little bit of both. I like the contrast. I do see pain and like the contrast. I do see pain and like the contrast. I do see pain and hurt. It was horrible when my dad passed hurt. It was horrible when my dad passed hurt. It was horrible when my dad passed away. It has been horrible struggling away. It has been horrible struggling away. It has been horrible struggling with my health this year. But I got with my health this year. But I got with my health this year. But I got another day. I got to wake up and see my another day. I got to wake up and see my another day. I got to wake up and see my beautiful family. I got to wake up and beautiful family. I got to wake up and beautiful family. I got to wake up and do this with you today. do this with you today. do this with you today. I I I have way more than I would ever I I I have way more than I would ever I I I have way more than I would ever ask for in my life. By the way, look how ask for in my life. By the way, look how ask for in my life. By the way, look how far you've come. I'm talking to you. far you've come. I'm talking to you. far you've come. I'm talking to you. Look how far you've already come. Look Look how far you've already come. Look Look how far you've already come. Look what you've already overcome in your what you've already overcome in your what you've already overcome in your life. Just look at you. You're freaking life. Just look at you. You're freaking life. Just look at you. You're freaking incredible. You don't give yourself incredible. You don't give yourself incredible. You don't give yourself enough credit. Now, am I saying accept enough credit. Now, am I saying accept enough credit. Now, am I saying accept everything about you that's not any everything about you that's not any everything about you that's not any good? Absolutely not. But your filter of good? Absolutely not. But your filter of good? Absolutely not. But your filter of life matters. Have you forgotten all life matters. Have you forgotten all life matters. Have you forgotten all you've overcome already? Have you you've overcome already? Have you you've overcome already? Have you forgotten all you've been through and forgotten all you've been through and forgotten all you've been through and still standing? Maybe a little wobbled, still standing? Maybe a little wobbled, still standing? Maybe a little wobbled, maybe a little hurt, maybe maybe more maybe a little hurt, maybe maybe more maybe a little hurt, maybe maybe more injured than you've ever been, maybe injured than you've ever been, maybe injured than you've ever been, maybe wounded, but you're still standing. You wounded, but you're still standing. You wounded, but you're still standing. You still got one more day. These 4,000 still got one more day. These 4,000 still got one more day. These 4,000 people's lives, generation after people's lives, generation after people's lives, generation after generation after generation after generation after generation after generation after generation after generation after generation that generation after generation that generation after generation that sacrificed sacrificed sacrificed and suffered probably and suffered probably and suffered probably for you to be here. And I promise you, for you to be here. And I promise you, for you to be here. And I promise you, 20 years from now, you'll trade 20 years from now, you'll trade 20 years from now, you'll trade everything that you have 20 years from everything that you have 20 years from everything that you have 20 years from now to come back to this moment right now to come back to this moment right now to come back to this moment right now and to be you again and to be young. now and to be you again and to be young. now and to be you again and to be young. Well, however young you are, 75 years Well, however young you are, 75 years Well, however young you are, 75 years young or 15 years young listening to young or 15 years young listening to young or 15 years young listening to this, you're as young and as healthy as this, you're as young and as healthy as this, you're as young and as healthy as you probably are ever going to be. And you probably are ever going to be. And you probably are ever going to be. And everything you need is within you right everything you need is within you right everything you need is within you right now to be happy and to win. You're going now to be happy and to win. You're going now to be happy and to win. You're going to get that life you see that you filter to get that life you see that you filter to get that life you see that you filter in. There's so much for you to be in. There's so much for you to be in. There's so much for you to be blessed about. You woke up today with blessed about. You woke up today with blessed about. You woke up today with another breath. Thank you, God. Thank another breath. Thank you, God. Thank another breath. Thank you, God. Thank you, God, for another day. What a gift. you, God, for another day. What a gift. you, God, for another day. What a gift. Now, what am I going to do with it? Open Now, what am I going to do with it? Open Now, what am I going to do with it? Open up that gift. It's a present. I want you up that gift. It's a present. I want you up that gift. It's a present. I want you to know this. Everything you need is to know this. Everything you need is to know this. Everything you need is within you to be happy and to win. within you to be happy and to win. within you to be happy and to win. You've just got to dig it out. You've You've just got to dig it out. You've You've just got to dig it out. You've got to find it. You got to tap into it. got to find it. You got to tap into it. got to find it. You got to tap into it. And you cannot tap into that when you And you cannot tap into that when you And you cannot tap into that when you are in victim mode. You cannot tap into are in victim mode. You cannot tap into are in victim mode. You cannot tap into that when you're licking your wounds. that when you're licking your wounds. that when you're licking your wounds. You tap into that when you're in You tap into that when you're in You tap into that when you're in gratitude, when you're in strength, when gratitude, when you're in strength, when gratitude, when you're in strength, when you walk boldly with your faith. you walk boldly with your faith. you walk boldly with your faith. Whatever your faith is, just listen to Whatever your faith is, just listen to Whatever your faith is, just listen to me right now. I'm going to express it me right now. I'm going to express it me right now. I'm going to express it through my faith, but out of respect to through my faith, but out of respect to through my faith, but out of respect to you, I say this to you with whatever you, I say this to you with whatever you, I say this to you with whatever your faith is. But in my faith as a your faith is. But in my faith as a your faith is. But in my faith as a Christian, his hands are not just Christian, his hands are not just Christian, his hands are not just holding you. They're rebuilding you. The holding you. They're rebuilding you. The holding you. They're rebuilding you. The storm you are facing will not destroy storm you are facing will not destroy storm you are facing will not destroy you. It will refine you. you. It will refine you. you. It will refine you. The clouds clear. They go away. The The clouds clear. They go away. The The clouds clear. They go away. The darkness eventually dissipates. darkness eventually dissipates. darkness eventually dissipates. And you're going to end up standing much And you're going to end up standing much And you're going to end up standing much bolder, bolder, bolder, much more steadfast, much stronger, a much more steadfast, much stronger, a much more steadfast, much stronger, a whole lot more confident when this thing whole lot more confident when this thing whole lot more confident when this thing blows over. And just know this, he's blows over. And just know this, he's blows over. And just know this, he's never going to let you go. never going to let you go. never going to let you go. You're in the palm of his hand at any You're in the palm of his hand at any You're in the palm of his hand at any time, all the time. Just hold on. Tie time, all the time. Just hold on. Tie time, all the time. Just hold on. Tie the knot. Hold on for one more day. God the knot. Hold on for one more day. God the knot. Hold on for one more day. God is working in your life. He is going to is working in your life. He is going to is working in your life. He is going to shape something beautiful out of this shape something beautiful out of this shape something beautiful out of this mess, out of your trials, out of your mess, out of your trials, out of your mess, out of your trials, out of your tribulations. Your trial is a trial. He tribulations. Your trial is a trial. He tribulations. Your trial is a trial. He is trying you. You say, "Well, why is it is trying you. You say, "Well, why is it is trying you. You say, "Well, why is it that we have to go through these that we have to go through these that we have to go through these things?" All that stuff's answered things?" All that stuff's answered things?" All that stuff's answered later. All I know is I think it's to later. All I know is I think it's to later. All I know is I think it's to draw us closer to him. All I know is draw us closer to him. All I know is draw us closer to him. All I know is that other people are depending on you. that other people are depending on you. that other people are depending on you. There's someone out there right now There's someone out there right now There's someone out there right now who's depending on you stepping up that who's depending on you stepping up that who's depending on you stepping up that needs you. Maybe it's someone in your needs you. Maybe it's someone in your needs you. Maybe it's someone in your family. Maybe it's a someone in your family. Maybe it's a someone in your family. Maybe it's a someone in your friend circle. Maybe it's a client or a friend circle. Maybe it's a client or a friend circle. Maybe it's a client or a customer. Maybe it's somebody you customer. Maybe it's somebody you customer. Maybe it's somebody you haven't met yet and won't meet for a haven't met yet and won't meet for a haven't met yet and won't meet for a decade. decade. decade. But I can tell you, I didn't know that But I can tell you, I didn't know that But I can tell you, I didn't know that when I was a little boy, the lessons I when I was a little boy, the lessons I when I was a little boy, the lessons I was learning from my dad's alcoholism was learning from my dad's alcoholism was learning from my dad's alcoholism and drug addiction would somehow serve and drug addiction would somehow serve and drug addiction would somehow serve people 30 and 40 years later. people 30 and 40 years later. people 30 and 40 years later. God's infinite wisdom, he's holding you God's infinite wisdom, he's holding you God's infinite wisdom, he's holding you in this hand going, "I'm going to turn in this hand going, "I'm going to turn in this hand going, "I'm going to turn this into something awesome." But you this into something awesome." But you this into something awesome." But you got to believe that and you got to hold got to believe that and you got to hold got to believe that and you got to hold on. It's not slipping away. You're on. It's not slipping away. You're on. It's not slipping away. You're stronger than you think. This is going stronger than you think. This is going stronger than you think. This is going to rebuild you. You are going to be to rebuild you. You are going to be to rebuild you. You are going to be remade. There is a purpose to your pain. remade. There is a purpose to your pain. remade. There is a purpose to your pain. Look for it, my beautiful friend. You're Look for it, my beautiful friend. You're Look for it, my beautiful friend. You're a miracle, right? Isn't this cool? And a miracle, right? Isn't this cool? And a miracle, right? Isn't this cool? And right now, in a thought, you can change right now, in a thought, you can change right now, in a thought, you can change your life. In one decision, you can your life. In one decision, you can your life. In one decision, you can change your life. Now, a lot of people change your life. Now, a lot of people change your life. Now, a lot of people are quoting me lately on Instagram and are quoting me lately on Instagram and are quoting me lately on Instagram and evidently in all their memes. But you evidently in all their memes. But you evidently in all their memes. But you can go back 30 years ago and you will can go back 30 years ago and you will can go back 30 years ago and you will see me talking about one decision will see me talking about one decision will see me talking about one decision will change your life. You can go back a book change your life. You can go back a book change your life. You can go back a book 15 years ago. I'm not saying I coined 15 years ago. I'm not saying I coined 15 years ago. I'm not saying I coined the phrase or I own it, but dad gum it, the phrase or I own it, but dad gum it, the phrase or I own it, but dad gum it, I've been talking about this for a long I've been talking about this for a long I've been talking about this for a long time. You're one decision away from time. You're one decision away from time. You're one decision away from changing your life. Remember this. Your changing your life. Remember this. Your changing your life. Remember this. Your decisions shape your destiny. decisions shape your destiny. decisions shape your destiny. Your decisions shape your destiny. You Your decisions shape your destiny. You Your decisions shape your destiny. You can make a whole new decision right now can make a whole new decision right now can make a whole new decision right now to see a different life, to focus on a to see a different life, to focus on a to see a different life, to focus on a different life, to make different different life, to make different different life, to make different decisions, to change that filter. You decisions, to change that filter. You decisions, to change that filter. You can make a decision today to change your can make a decision today to change your can make a decision today to change your mindset, to work on you, to rise from mindset, to work on you, to rise from mindset, to work on you, to rise from the ashes of where you are. You can make the ashes of where you are. You can make the ashes of where you are. You can make a decision that you're blessed, that a decision that you're blessed, that a decision that you're blessed, that you're favored, that there's a purpose you're favored, that there's a purpose you're favored, that there's a purpose to your pain. Or to your pain. Or to your pain. Or you can just let the world come at you you can just let the world come at you you can just let the world come at you some more. You can be a victim. You can some more. You can be a victim. You can some more. You can be a victim. You can just always react all the rest of your just always react all the rest of your just always react all the rest of your life rather than step up and start life rather than step up and start life rather than step up and start dictating the terms. You can be alone dictating the terms. You can be alone dictating the terms. You can be alone all your life or you can be with God all all your life or you can be with God all all your life or you can be with God all the time. And by the way, all that is is the time. And by the way, all that is is the time. And by the way, all that is is your awareness because he's with you your awareness because he's with you your awareness because he's with you whether you realize it or not. you're in whether you realize it or not. you're in whether you realize it or not. you're in the palm of his hand anyway. What if you the palm of his hand anyway. What if you the palm of his hand anyway. What if you just started to give it up all your just started to give it up all your just started to give it up all your worries, all your fears to him and just worries, all your fears to him and just worries, all your fears to him and just started to play the game with house started to play the game with house started to play the game with house money? Because it ends the same way. Oh, money? Because it ends the same way. Oh, money? Because it ends the same way. Oh, by the way, I have news for you. You're by the way, I have news for you. You're by the way, I have news for you. You're not getting out of this alive. not getting out of this alive. not getting out of this alive. It ends for all of us the same way. It ends for all of us the same way. It ends for all of us the same way. It ends. It ends. It ends. So, we know the end. What we don't know So, we know the end. What we don't know So, we know the end. What we don't know is what happens between now and then. is what happens between now and then. is what happens between now and then. And hopefully you do know what happens And hopefully you do know what happens And hopefully you do know what happens after. after. after. But in the meantime, all we have is this But in the meantime, all we have is this But in the meantime, all we have is this moment right now. The past that does not moment right now. The past that does not moment right now. The past that does not exist. It's a figment of your exist. It's a figment of your exist. It's a figment of your imagination. You go, "No, no, no. I know imagination. You go, "No, no, no. I know imagination. You go, "No, no, no. I know exactly what happened. I'm just telling exactly what happened. I'm just telling exactly what happened. I'm just telling you, you're not living it now. You're you, you're not living it now. You're you, you're not living it now. You're imagining it. imagining it. imagining it. You're not living it now. You may try to You're not living it now. You may try to You're not living it now. You may try to as best you can. You can't live the past as best you can. You can't live the past as best you can. You can't live the past and the future." That's just a wish. You and the future." That's just a wish. You and the future." That's just a wish. You know, a bunch of people woke up this know, a bunch of people woke up this know, a bunch of people woke up this morning about 6:00, had all these big morning about 6:00, had all these big morning about 6:00, had all these big bold plans for their day. They had a big bold plans for their day. They had a big bold plans for their day. They had a big future ahead. And for some of them, by future ahead. And for some of them, by future ahead. And for some of them, by noon, noon, noon, they're on their way to heaven. they're on their way to heaven. they're on their way to heaven. All you have is this moment. And it's a All you have is this moment. And it's a All you have is this moment. And it's a beautiful moment. It's a blessed moment. beautiful moment. It's a blessed moment. beautiful moment. It's a blessed moment. And so many people have sacrificed for And so many people have sacrificed for And so many people have sacrificed for you to be here today. Will you sacrifice you to be here today. Will you sacrifice you to be here today. Will you sacrifice for the next generation? for the next generation? for the next generation? Will you sacrifice for them? Will you Will you sacrifice for them? Will you Will you sacrifice for them? Will you make a difference? See, the pain of what make a difference? See, the pain of what make a difference? See, the pain of what you're going to go through to make your you're going to go through to make your you're going to go through to make your dreams come true is so much less than dreams come true is so much less than dreams come true is so much less than the pain you will feel if you don't. the pain you will feel if you don't. the pain you will feel if you don't. Lifelong regret. To get to the end of a Lifelong regret. To get to the end of a Lifelong regret. To get to the end of a life and look back on it, and it's a life and look back on it, and it's a life and look back on it, and it's a life unlived, a life out of fear life unlived, a life out of fear life unlived, a life out of fear is a tragedy. is a tragedy. is a tragedy. I said this in last week's show, but I I said this in last week's show, but I I said this in last week's show, but I want to reiterate this to you. When you want to reiterate this to you. When you want to reiterate this to you. When you get to the end of your life, you will get to the end of your life, you will get to the end of your life, you will not regret the things you tried not regret the things you tried not regret the things you tried and failed at. You're going to regret and failed at. You're going to regret and failed at. You're going to regret the things that you didn't try. the things that you didn't try. the things that you didn't try. And I don't even think it's that. I And I don't even think it's that. I And I don't even think it's that. I think you'll regret that you had to have think you'll regret that you had to have think you'll regret that you had to have more faith, more gratitude, and more more faith, more gratitude, and more more faith, more gratitude, and more belief. belief. belief. At some point in your life, you have to At some point in your life, you have to At some point in your life, you have to decide that you're gonna be your own decide that you're gonna be your own decide that you're gonna be your own biggest fan, your own biggest supporter. biggest fan, your own biggest supporter. biggest fan, your own biggest supporter. That you're going to talk to yourself That you're going to talk to yourself That you're going to talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend. like you would talk to your best friend. like you would talk to your best friend. That you're going to believe in yourself That you're going to believe in yourself That you're going to believe in yourself like you would believe in your children. like you would believe in your children. like you would believe in your children. Because you only have one you. Because you only have one you. Because you only have one you. You were born with a responsibility to You were born with a responsibility to You were born with a responsibility to start with to take care of one human start with to take care of one human start with to take care of one human being. You. You're the person you were being. You. You're the person you were being. You. You're the person you were born to take care of. In fact, you born to take care of. In fact, you born to take care of. In fact, you really can't care in your full capacity really can't care in your full capacity really can't care in your full capacity for other people if you don't care for for other people if you don't care for for other people if you don't care for yourself. Do you hear me? You can't yourself. Do you hear me? You can't yourself. Do you hear me? You can't transfer to someone that which you are transfer to someone that which you are transfer to someone that which you are not really experiencing. You really not really experiencing. You really not really experiencing. You really can't. You can transfer a little bit, can't. You can transfer a little bit, can't. You can transfer a little bit, but you can't give them all of it. Your but you can't give them all of it. Your but you can't give them all of it. Your job is to take care of you. job is to take care of you. job is to take care of you. Yes, you. You were given you to take Yes, you. You were given you to take Yes, you. You were given you to take care of, to believe in, to nurture, to care of, to believe in, to nurture, to care of, to believe in, to nurture, to grow, to push, to love, to challenge. grow, to push, to love, to challenge. grow, to push, to love, to challenge. to celebrate, to celebrate, to celebrate, to laugh with, to comfort. to laugh with, to comfort. to laugh with, to comfort. If you don't give that to you, and you If you don't give that to you, and you If you don't give that to you, and you only get that through God, you can't only get that through God, you can't only get that through God, you can't really give it to other people in the really give it to other people in the really give it to other people in the way that you should. way that you should. way that you should. I'm really emotional the last few weeks I'm really emotional the last few weeks I'm really emotional the last few weeks about the podcast we're doing because of about the podcast we're doing because of about the podcast we're doing because of all the messages I get from so many of all the messages I get from so many of all the messages I get from so many of you. you. you. So many of you live with an enemy within So many of you live with an enemy within So many of you live with an enemy within you. you. you. You've taken the mistakes of your past You've taken the mistakes of your past You've taken the mistakes of your past and you use them as weapons against and you use them as weapons against and you use them as weapons against yourself. You're constantly hitting yourself. You're constantly hitting yourself. You're constantly hitting yourself over the head with this mistake yourself over the head with this mistake yourself over the head with this mistake or that setback or this thing and you or that setback or this thing and you or that setback or this thing and you keep carrying these bricks with you keep carrying these bricks with you keep carrying these bricks with you through your life. through your life. through your life. It's almost like you want to keep It's almost like you want to keep It's almost like you want to keep reminding you of your own weaknesses, reminding you of your own weaknesses, reminding you of your own weaknesses, your own sins, your own mistakes, and your own sins, your own mistakes, and your own sins, your own mistakes, and the adversaries got you convinced that the adversaries got you convinced that the adversaries got you convinced that means you're not going to win. And the means you're not going to win. And the means you're not going to win. And the truth of the matter is God wants to use truth of the matter is God wants to use truth of the matter is God wants to use these mistakes, these setbacks, these these mistakes, these setbacks, these these mistakes, these setbacks, these things you're ashamed of, these average things you're ashamed of, these average things you're ashamed of, these average ordinary things, these times you felt ordinary things, these times you felt ordinary things, these times you felt invisible in your life. He wants to use invisible in your life. He wants to use invisible in your life. He wants to use those those those somehow in the service of other people. somehow in the service of other people. somehow in the service of other people. But he can only do that if you overcome But he can only do that if you overcome But he can only do that if you overcome it. But when you get to the other side it. But when you get to the other side it. But when you get to the other side of it, now there's a story. Now there's of it, now there's a story. Now there's of it, now there's a story. Now there's a message. Your mess has a message. Your a message. Your mess has a message. Your a message. Your mess has a message. Your test has a testimony. Maybe you heard test has a testimony. Maybe you heard test has a testimony. Maybe you heard that before. Why don't you live it? You that before. Why don't you live it? You that before. Why don't you live it? You were born to do something great with were born to do something great with were born to do something great with your life. Do not end this thing by not your life. Do not end this thing by not your life. Do not end this thing by not finding out who the heck you are, what finding out who the heck you are, what finding out who the heck you are, what the heck you're capable of. the heck you're capable of. the heck you're capable of. Today is a blessing. You are a blessing. Today is a blessing. You are a blessing. Today is a blessing. You are a blessing. And next week, I'm going to come back. And next week, I'm going to come back. And next week, I'm going to come back. I'm going to be heavy tactics and I'm going to be heavy tactics and I'm going to be heavy tactics and strategies for you on, you know, strategies for you on, you know, strategies for you on, you know, literally how to build that. But for literally how to build that. But for literally how to build that. But for this week, will you please step back and this week, will you please step back and this week, will you please step back and have some perspective on how blessed you have some perspective on how blessed you have some perspective on how blessed you are, how far you've come, how much are, how far you've come, how much are, how far you've come, how much you've overcome, and that ought to give you've overcome, and that ought to give you've overcome, and that ought to give you some idea of where you're going. May you some idea of where you're going. May you some idea of where you're going. May you not be able to see it. You might you not be able to see it. You might you not be able to see it. You might know exactly what it's going to look know exactly what it's going to look know exactly what it's going to look like or what it's going to feel like, like or what it's going to feel like, like or what it's going to feel like, but he's rebuilding you. This storm is but he's rebuilding you. This storm is but he's rebuilding you. This storm is not going to destroy you. In fact, not going to destroy you. In fact, not going to destroy you. In fact, eventually at one point the wind's going eventually at one point the wind's going eventually at one point the wind's going to be at your back. And you better be in to be at your back. And you better be in to be at your back. And you better be in full speed when it happens. Because once full speed when it happens. Because once full speed when it happens. Because once that wind's at your back and you start that wind's at your back and you start that wind's at your back and you start knocking down barriers and you start knocking down barriers and you start knocking down barriers and you start overcoming things and you start getting overcoming things and you start getting overcoming things and you start getting momentum again in your life, I promise momentum again in your life, I promise momentum again in your life, I promise you, I promise you it's going to change you, I promise you it's going to change you, I promise you it's going to change other people's lives because you went other people's lives because you went other people's lives because you went through what you're going through right through what you're going through right through what you're going through right now. And when you get to that end of now. And when you get to that end of now. And when you get to that end of your life, there was this great study your life, there was this great study your life, there was this great study recently that said the top five regrets recently that said the top five regrets recently that said the top five regrets of the dying of the dying of the dying is the whole reason I did today's show. is the whole reason I did today's show. is the whole reason I did today's show. Let me tell you what they are. Big Let me tell you what they are. Big Let me tell you what they are. Big survey that they just did. Number one survey that they just did. Number one survey that they just did. Number one regret of the dying. They said, "I wish regret of the dying. They said, "I wish regret of the dying. They said, "I wish I would have stayed in touch more with I would have stayed in touch more with I would have stayed in touch more with my friends." my friends." my friends." I've said maybe 500 times on the show I've said maybe 500 times on the show I've said maybe 500 times on the show that people matter and things don't. But that people matter and things don't. But that people matter and things don't. But we get so caught up in the pursuit of we get so caught up in the pursuit of we get so caught up in the pursuit of things, so busy in our lives. But I can things, so busy in our lives. But I can things, so busy in our lives. But I can tell you the biggest regrets of the tell you the biggest regrets of the tell you the biggest regrets of the dying one of the five is they wish they dying one of the five is they wish they dying one of the five is they wish they would have stayed in touch more with would have stayed in touch more with would have stayed in touch more with their friends. their friends. their friends. Number two thing they regret in no Number two thing they regret in no Number two thing they regret in no order. order. order. I wish I would have expressed how I I wish I would have expressed how I I wish I would have expressed how I really felt more often. So many people go through their entire So many people go through their entire lives and don't express how they really lives and don't express how they really lives and don't express how they really feel. The love they feel for somebody. feel. The love they feel for somebody. feel. The love they feel for somebody. How they're really feeling inside about How they're really feeling inside about How they're really feeling inside about themselves. themselves. themselves. How they feel about the people that they How they feel about the people that they How they feel about the people that they work with. work with. work with. They feel like they're going to see him They feel like they're going to see him They feel like they're going to see him forever, so they don't need to express forever, so they don't need to express forever, so they don't need to express that. Maybe they don't express when they that. Maybe they don't express when they that. Maybe they don't express when they don't want to do something, but they do don't want to do something, but they do don't want to do something, but they do it anyway. They agree to go to things it anyway. They agree to go to things it anyway. They agree to go to things and participate in things they don't and participate in things they don't and participate in things they don't want to do, but they're afraid to want to do, but they're afraid to want to do, but they're afraid to express themselves and say, "No, I don't express themselves and say, "No, I don't express themselves and say, "No, I don't really want to do that." Or maybe they really want to do that." Or maybe they really want to do that." Or maybe they participated in so much gossip in their participated in so much gossip in their participated in so much gossip in their lives, they wish they would have just lives, they wish they would have just lives, they wish they would have just expressed, "This makes me uncomfortable. expressed, "This makes me uncomfortable. expressed, "This makes me uncomfortable. I don't like this." I don't like this." I don't like this." They spent time with people they didn't They spent time with people they didn't They spent time with people they didn't really want to spend time with. really want to spend time with. really want to spend time with. They did not tell the people that they They did not tell the people that they They did not tell the people that they loved often enough how much they loved loved often enough how much they loved loved often enough how much they loved them and what they loved about them. them and what they loved about them. them and what they loved about them. Number three is I wish I would have Number three is I wish I would have Number three is I wish I would have lived a life more true to myself lived a life more true to myself lived a life more true to myself and not lived by the expectations of and not lived by the expectations of and not lived by the expectations of others. others. others. So many people live a life and a script So many people live a life and a script So many people live a life and a script somebody else handed them. somebody else handed them. somebody else handed them. Maybe they didn't live by the virtues Maybe they didn't live by the virtues Maybe they didn't live by the virtues and morals that they wanted to live by. and morals that they wanted to live by. and morals that they wanted to live by. Maybe they didn't say no enough. Maybe Maybe they didn't say no enough. Maybe Maybe they didn't say no enough. Maybe they didn't express what their dreams they didn't express what their dreams they didn't express what their dreams and visions and goals were. You imagine and visions and goals were. You imagine and visions and goals were. You imagine getting to the end of your life and one getting to the end of your life and one getting to the end of your life and one of the three biggest regrets of the of the three biggest regrets of the of the three biggest regrets of the five. five. five. I didn't live a life on my own terms. I didn't live a life on my own terms. I didn't live a life on my own terms. I let the expectations of other people I let the expectations of other people I let the expectations of other people guide me. By the way, expectations are guide me. By the way, expectations are guide me. By the way, expectations are limiting beliefs. limiting beliefs. limiting beliefs. The dream stealers of life. The people The dream stealers of life. The people The dream stealers of life. The people we held on to in our lives way too long we held on to in our lives way too long we held on to in our lives way too long that no longer fulfilled us no longer that no longer fulfilled us no longer that no longer fulfilled us no longer brought us joy and bliss and laughter brought us joy and bliss and laughter brought us joy and bliss and laughter and love and happiness. The places we and love and happiness. The places we and love and happiness. The places we didn't go because our spouse didn't want didn't go because our spouse didn't want didn't go because our spouse didn't want to go and see it. Or things we wanted to to go and see it. Or things we wanted to to go and see it. Or things we wanted to do and achieve and try that we never did do and achieve and try that we never did do and achieve and try that we never did because the expectations of other people because the expectations of other people because the expectations of other people were we weren't good enough or it wasn't were we weren't good enough or it wasn't were we weren't good enough or it wasn't going to work out or they projected going to work out or they projected going to work out or they projected their own fears and limiting beliefs their own fears and limiting beliefs their own fears and limiting beliefs onto us. But at the end of life, people onto us. But at the end of life, people onto us. But at the end of life, people wish they stayed in touch with their wish they stayed in touch with their wish they stayed in touch with their friends more. They wish they would have friends more. They wish they would have friends more. They wish they would have expressed themselves and how they really expressed themselves and how they really expressed themselves and how they really felt. They wish they would have lived a felt. They wish they would have lived a felt. They wish they would have lived a life on their own terms and not on the life on their own terms and not on the life on their own terms and not on the expectations of others. Number four, expectations of others. Number four, expectations of others. Number four, I wish I would have let myself be I wish I would have let myself be I wish I would have let myself be happier. happier. happier. I think it's so fascinating how that was I think it's so fascinating how that was I think it's so fascinating how that was worded. Let myself because that's really worded. Let myself because that's really worded. Let myself because that's really what it is. Happiness is already within what it is. Happiness is already within what it is. Happiness is already within us at any given time. We can tap into it us at any given time. We can tap into it us at any given time. We can tap into it anytime I want. They didn't say, I just anytime I want. They didn't say, I just anytime I want. They didn't say, I just wish I was happier. That's not when wish I was happier. That's not when wish I was happier. That's not when someone says at the end of their life. someone says at the end of their life. someone says at the end of their life. They say, "I wish I would have let They say, "I wish I would have let They say, "I wish I would have let myself be happier. Just let myself." myself be happier. Just let myself." myself be happier. Just let myself." Because it's always there. It lives Because it's always there. It lives Because it's always there. It lives within us. It's part of who we are. But within us. It's part of who we are. But within us. It's part of who we are. But we allow all these other things to blunt we allow all these other things to blunt we allow all these other things to blunt it and block it. Stress, worry, it and block it. Stress, worry, it and block it. Stress, worry, depression, fear, anxiety, stuff depression, fear, anxiety, stuff depression, fear, anxiety, stuff instead of just letting happiness be in instead of just letting happiness be in instead of just letting happiness be in our lives. At the end of your life, when our lives. At the end of your life, when our lives. At the end of your life, when you've got very few hours left, days you've got very few hours left, days you've got very few hours left, days left, don't regret that you didn't stay left, don't regret that you didn't stay left, don't regret that you didn't stay in contact with your friends more. in contact with your friends more. in contact with your friends more. People matter, things don't. People matter, things don't. People matter, things don't. Don't ever get out of this life without Don't ever get out of this life without Don't ever get out of this life without expressing how you really feel, your expressing how you really feel, your expressing how you really feel, your beliefs, what you stand for, who you beliefs, what you stand for, who you beliefs, what you stand for, who you love, why you love them. love, why you love them. love, why you love them. Live a life on your own terms and not Live a life on your own terms and not Live a life on your own terms and not the expectations of others. Go for your the expectations of others. Go for your the expectations of others. Go for your dreams. Make something great happen. dreams. Make something great happen. dreams. Make something great happen. Let yourself experience happiness. It's Let yourself experience happiness. It's Let yourself experience happiness. It's your birthright. your birthright. your birthright. And number five, I wish I wouldn't have And number five, I wish I wouldn't have And number five, I wish I wouldn't have worked so much. worked so much. worked so much. We can get really caught up in doing We can get really caught up in doing We can get really caught up in doing instead of being. instead of being. instead of being. And there's a nuance to life of both. And there's a nuance to life of both. And there's a nuance to life of both. Remember when my uncle Mike passed away, Remember when my uncle Mike passed away, Remember when my uncle Mike passed away, he was very young. He was 48 years old. he was very young. He was 48 years old. he was very young. He was 48 years old. And uh And uh And uh um someone got up. It was his son at the um someone got up. It was his son at the um someone got up. It was his son at the funeral. I was still pretty young funeral. I was still pretty young funeral. I was still pretty young myself. myself. myself. And uh my cousin said, and he loved his And uh my cousin said, and he loved his And uh my cousin said, and he loved his dad. His dad was a very hard worker. And dad. His dad was a very hard worker. And dad. His dad was a very hard worker. And he said, I think daddy worked himself he said, I think daddy worked himself he said, I think daddy worked himself right into heaven. right into heaven. right into heaven. I've never forgotten that. I've never forgotten that. I've never forgotten that. And that was a badge of honor that he And that was a badge of honor that he And that was a badge of honor that he had worked so hard. And um you don't want to just work all your you don't want to just work all your life. life. life. Experience life. Experience life. Experience life. Work is one of the great things in my Work is one of the great things in my Work is one of the great things in my life. It's service. It's it's an life. It's service. It's it's an life. It's service. It's it's an expression of who I am. It's my art expression of who I am. It's my art expression of who I am. It's my art form. But at the same time is there's a form. But at the same time is there's a form. But at the same time is there's a life away from work. And I think you life away from work. And I think you life away from work. And I think you know that as well. Those are the five know that as well. Those are the five know that as well. Those are the five regrets of the dying. regrets of the dying. regrets of the dying. Now here's the cool part. At the end of Now here's the cool part. At the end of Now here's the cool part. At the end of your life, I want to have you have the your life, I want to have you have the your life, I want to have you have the five things you're most grateful for, five things you're most grateful for, five things you're most grateful for, you're most proud of, the moments, the you're most proud of, the moments, the you're most proud of, the moments, the memories, the contribution, the people, memories, the contribution, the people, memories, the contribution, the people, the difference you made, the things you the difference you made, the things you the difference you made, the things you saw and felt and experienced. We don't saw and felt and experienced. We don't saw and felt and experienced. We don't have to get to the end of our lives with have to get to the end of our lives with have to get to the end of our lives with five regrets. We can get to the end of five regrets. We can get to the end of five regrets. We can get to the end of our lives with five things we're most our lives with five things we're most our lives with five things we're most proud of. Five things we want to honor. proud of. Five things we want to honor. proud of. Five things we want to honor. Five things we want to pass on to the Five things we want to pass on to the Five things we want to pass on to the next generation. five things we want to next generation. five things we want to next generation. five things we want to celebrate and that's what I want at the celebrate and that's what I want at the celebrate and that's what I want at the end of my life and it's what I want for end of my life and it's what I want for end of my life and it's what I want for you at the end of your life and you at the end of your life and you at the end of your life and hopefully today's show helped you get hopefully today's show helped you get hopefully today's show helped you get there. People that are watching this, we there. People that are watching this, we there. People that are watching this, we all have a lot of friends who are um all have a lot of friends who are um all have a lot of friends who are um thinkers, meditators, prayers, um and thinkers, meditators, prayers, um and thinkers, meditators, prayers, um and they don't ever produce results, right? they don't ever produce results, right? they don't ever produce results, right? And I think the reason for that is cuz And I think the reason for that is cuz And I think the reason for that is cuz there's there's the workers like you got there's there's the workers like you got there's there's the workers like you got to work everybody which I subscribe to. to work everybody which I subscribe to. to work everybody which I subscribe to. >> I know you do too. But having said that, >> I know you do too. But having said that, >> I know you do too. But having said that, I so agree with getting aligned first. I so agree with getting aligned first. I so agree with getting aligned first. But I think a lot of people nah that's But I think a lot of people nah that's But I think a lot of people nah that's puffery because a but this is important puffery because a but this is important puffery because a but this is important for you to know a lot of these folks who for you to know a lot of these folks who for you to know a lot of these folks who kind of get aligned also leave out part kind of get aligned also leave out part kind of get aligned also leave out part B. Would you agree with that? Which is B. Would you agree with that? Which is B. Would you agree with that? Which is the work part. the work part. the work part. >> I have to say >> I have to say >> I have to say >> and it almost short changes the message. >> and it almost short changes the message. >> and it almost short changes the message. >> Yeah. I I have the same. Right. You're >> Yeah. I I have the same. Right. You're >> Yeah. I I have the same. Right. You're not going to ever find me sitting at not going to ever find me sitting at not going to ever find me sitting at home high on my mom's couch trying to home high on my mom's couch trying to home high on my mom's couch trying to manifest a Ferrari. manifest a Ferrari. manifest a Ferrari. >> Right. Exactly. >> Right. Exactly. >> Right. Exactly. >> Right. That's not going to happen. Or >> Right. That's not going to happen. Or >> Right. That's not going to happen. Or your airplane. Right. That's not going your airplane. Right. That's not going your airplane. Right. That's not going to happen. What what I did learn is I to happen. What what I did learn is I to happen. What what I did learn is I will sit for 10 to 20 minutes will sit for 10 to 20 minutes will sit for 10 to 20 minutes >> and manifest and then go out very clear, >> and manifest and then go out very clear, >> and manifest and then go out very clear, balanced and focused on what I want balanced and focused on what I want balanced and focused on what I want which gives me confidence which opens me which gives me confidence which opens me which gives me confidence which opens me up to receive. up to receive. up to receive. >> You you just literally described what I >> You you just literally described what I >> You you just literally described what I do. I mean I think we do almost the do. I mean I think we do almost the do. I mean I think we do almost the exact same thing. The other thing we're exact same thing. The other thing we're exact same thing. The other thing we're both big into want to go through a both big into want to go through a both big into want to go through a couple like stuff. couple like stuff. couple like stuff. >> Uh we're both big into gratitude and the >> Uh we're both big into gratitude and the >> Uh we're both big into gratitude and the power of gratitude and how it can impact power of gratitude and how it can impact power of gratitude and how it can impact the rest of your life. Can you can you the rest of your life. Can you can you the rest of your life. Can you can you speak to that a little bit about how speak to that a little bit about how speak to that a little bit about how gratitude plays into your whole life? It gratitude plays into your whole life? It gratitude plays into your whole life? It it is the cornerstone of my life. It it is the cornerstone of my life. It it is the cornerstone of my life. It gives me perspective. gives me perspective. gives me perspective. >> And I try to give gratitude to >> And I try to give gratitude to >> And I try to give gratitude to everything and everyone. And when I and everything and everyone. And when I and everything and everyone. And when I and and I tell you like I'm the guy who and I tell you like I'm the guy who and I tell you like I'm the guy who stops and it's not about having money or stops and it's not about having money or stops and it's not about having money or not. I stop and give people who need it not. I stop and give people who need it not. I stop and give people who need it what they need out of gratitude. what they need out of gratitude. what they need out of gratitude. >> It could be time. It could be a >> It could be time. It could be a >> It could be time. It could be a compliment. It could be your attention. compliment. It could be your attention. compliment. It could be your attention. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> And I open a door out of gratitude. And >> And I open a door out of gratitude. And >> And I open a door out of gratitude. And I look at everything I have and I'm I look at everything I have and I'm I look at everything I have and I'm constantly fighting myself to make sure constantly fighting myself to make sure constantly fighting myself to make sure when things don't seem as if I should be when things don't seem as if I should be when things don't seem as if I should be grateful. It freaks people out. grateful. It freaks people out. grateful. It freaks people out. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> But like a these two words, when >> But like a these two words, when >> But like a these two words, when someone's attacking you, realize that someone's attacking you, realize that someone's attacking you, realize that the mathematics of the universe, if the mathematics of the universe, if the mathematics of the universe, if someone's attacking you, if all you hold someone's attacking you, if all you hold someone's attacking you, if all you hold is gratitude, they can't attack you is gratitude, they can't attack you is gratitude, they can't attack you anymore. anymore. anymore. >> You You can't allow them to take your >> You You can't allow them to take your >> You You can't allow them to take your joy. They can't. The energy, an attack joy. They can't. The energy, an attack joy. They can't. The energy, an attack has to have attacking energy. It'll has to have attacking energy. It'll has to have attacking energy. It'll it'll dissipate when you have gratitude. it'll dissipate when you have gratitude. it'll dissipate when you have gratitude. Wow. When someone attacks you and you Wow. When someone attacks you and you Wow. When someone attacks you and you say, "Thank you." Yeah. say, "Thank you." Yeah. say, "Thank you." Yeah. >> You know, I really appreciate that. >> You know, I really appreciate that. >> You know, I really appreciate that. >> It takes all the energy out of the >> It takes all the energy out of the >> It takes all the energy out of the attack. So true. I I had a good friend attack. So true. I I had a good friend attack. So true. I I had a good friend uh that was having difficulty with uh that was having difficulty with uh that was having difficulty with another friend and I ended up being on another friend and I ended up being on another friend and I ended up being on his podcast cuz entrepreneur wanted me his podcast cuz entrepreneur wanted me his podcast cuz entrepreneur wanted me to do it and he started attacking me on to do it and he started attacking me on to do it and he started attacking me on the show. the show. the show. >> No, called me right after. Personal >> No, called me right after. Personal >> No, called me right after. Personal attack to him. Disrespectful. You know, attack to him. Disrespectful. You know, attack to him. Disrespectful. You know, the ego need to be need to be offended. the ego need to be need to be offended. the ego need to be need to be offended. >> And all I could say was, you know what? >> And all I could say was, you know what? >> And all I could say was, you know what? I did not even think about that. I did not even think about that. I did not even think about that. >> Thank you. Thank you for teaching me how >> Thank you. Thank you for teaching me how >> Thank you. Thank you for teaching me how to be a better friend. to be a better friend. to be a better friend. >> And he's, you know, and I'm sure our >> And he's, you know, and I'm sure our >> And he's, you know, and I'm sure our relationship being that we're so close relationship being that we're so close relationship being that we're so close and it did hurt your feelings will and it did hurt your feelings will and it did hurt your feelings will definitely survive this. But the old definitely survive this. But the old definitely survive this. But the old Dave Meltzer, Dave Meltzer, Dave Meltzer, >> we're going right back at him >> we're going right back at him >> we're going right back at him >> or preach at him or and then I would >> or preach at him or and then I would >> or preach at him or and then I would have created this and lost a friend. have created this and lost a friend. have created this and lost a friend. >> Wow. I It's like a almost energetic judo >> Wow. I It's like a almost energetic judo >> Wow. I It's like a almost energetic judo or Tai. Go away. Thank you. or Tai. Go away. Thank you. or Tai. Go away. Thank you. >> That is wonderful, man. I need to hear >> That is wonderful, man. I need to hear >> That is wonderful, man. I need to hear that by the way. That's one for me cuz that by the way. That's one for me cuz that by the way. That's one for me cuz I'm a big gratitude guy but not to that I'm a big gratitude guy but not to that I'm a big gratitude guy but not to that extent. extent. extent. >> That's that's a place I can learn it. >> That's that's a place I can learn it. >> That's that's a place I can learn it. You know, I I think sometimes I that's You know, I I think sometimes I that's You know, I I think sometimes I that's good for me. I bet it's good for a lot good for me. I bet it's good for a lot good for me. I bet it's good for a lot of you that are listening to this, too. of you that are listening to this, too. of you that are listening to this, too. >> It's funny cuz I inspire and teach a lot >> It's funny cuz I inspire and teach a lot >> It's funny cuz I inspire and teach a lot of kids. Yeah. of kids. Yeah. of kids. Yeah. >> And so if you go against gratitude, >> And so if you go against gratitude, >> And so if you go against gratitude, forgiveness, accountability, or forgiveness, accountability, or forgiveness, accountability, or effective communication. effective communication. effective communication. >> I I use the Lombardi. It's in my system >> I I use the Lombardi. It's in my system >> I I use the Lombardi. It's in my system cuz I learn that way. Kind of Lombardi cuz I learn that way. Kind of Lombardi cuz I learn that way. Kind of Lombardi football coach. And so now I'm trying to football coach. And so now I'm trying to football coach. And so now I'm trying to figure out how do you take a grateful figure out how do you take a grateful figure out how do you take a grateful approach for someone not learning approach for someone not learning approach for someone not learning gratitude. Thank you so much for not gratitude. Thank you so much for not gratitude. Thank you so much for not listening to me about Thank you. I It's listening to me about Thank you. I It's listening to me about Thank you. I It's not quite working yet. not quite working yet. not quite working yet. >> But the principle applies and you're >> But the principle applies and you're >> But the principle applies and you're absolutely right because there's no what absolutely right because there's no what absolutely right because there's no what I always do when I hear a theory. This I always do when I hear a theory. This I always do when I hear a theory. This is what I do when you should be is what I do when you should be is what I do when you should be listening to this podcast everybody. I listening to this podcast everybody. I listening to this podcast everybody. I hear a theory and I put it through hear a theory and I put it through hear a theory and I put it through different situations that are real world different situations that are real world different situations that are real world and does it apply. What you just said and does it apply. What you just said and does it apply. What you just said applies. There's not going to be a applies. There's not going to be a applies. There's not going to be a scenario where it it doesn't apply. So scenario where it it doesn't apply. So scenario where it it doesn't apply. So >> that's how powerful it is. >> that's how powerful it is. >> that's how powerful it is. >> It is powerful. It's it's super >> It is powerful. It's it's super >> It is powerful. It's it's super powerful. I'm curious talk about kids powerful. I'm curious talk about kids powerful. I'm curious talk about kids and I read a little bit about you. You and I read a little bit about you. You and I read a little bit about you. You do a lot of work with kids. You alluded do a lot of work with kids. You alluded do a lot of work with kids. You alluded to that and also in kind of nonprofit to that and also in kind of nonprofit to that and also in kind of nonprofit charitable work you do too. What do you charitable work you do too. What do you charitable work you do too. What do you do? What is the organization you're do? What is the organization you're do? What is the organization you're involved with that helps with kids? involved with that helps with kids? involved with that helps with kids? >> Yeah. So, uh I'm the chairman of the >> Yeah. So, uh I'm the chairman of the >> Yeah. So, uh I'm the chairman of the Unstoppable Foundation. That's what it Unstoppable Foundation. That's what it Unstoppable Foundation. That's what it is. Cynthia Kersy founded 10 years ago is. Cynthia Kersy founded 10 years ago is. Cynthia Kersy founded 10 years ago on her 50th birthday. Okay. on her 50th birthday. Okay. on her 50th birthday. Okay. >> Uh and took money instead of gifts to to >> Uh and took money instead of gifts to to >> Uh and took money instead of gifts to to help uh kids in Africa and Kenya. So, help uh kids in Africa and Kenya. So, help uh kids in Africa and Kenya. So, not only kids but communities with not only kids but communities with not only kids but communities with water, education, financial uh literacy, water, education, financial uh literacy, water, education, financial uh literacy, medical care. medical care. medical care. >> And it's evolved. 75,000 people have >> And it's evolved. 75,000 people have >> And it's evolved. 75,000 people have been impacted. And so now these girls been impacted. And so now these girls been impacted. And so now these girls who never would have been educated, who never would have been educated, who never would have been educated, mostly girls that never would have been mostly girls that never would have been mostly girls that never would have been educated are graduating college. educated are graduating college. educated are graduating college. >> That's wonderful. >> That's wonderful. >> That's wonderful. >> So I turned 50 a month and a half ago. >> So I turned 50 a month and a half ago. >> So I turned 50 a month and a half ago. >> Happy birthday, Bladed. >> Happy birthday, Bladed. >> Happy birthday, Bladed. >> And I'm doing 50 birthday parties. >> And I'm doing 50 birthday parties. >> And I'm doing 50 birthday parties. >> I saw this. >> I saw this. >> I saw this. >> And for the 50, I'm going to raise over >> And for the 50, I'm going to raise over >> And for the 50, I'm going to raise over a million. Notice no limitation. Over a a million. Notice no limitation. Over a a million. Notice no limitation. Over a million as fast as I can in these 50 million as fast as I can in these 50 million as fast as I can in these 50 parties to build an empowerment and parties to build an empowerment and parties to build an empowerment and leadership center to take all these leadership center to take all these leadership center to take all these people we impacted and teach them how to people we impacted and teach them how to people we impacted and teach them how to empower others. empower others. empower others. >> Wow. That's >> Wow. That's >> Wow. That's >> it scales. >> it scales. >> it scales. >> That that's that is scaling. >> That that's that is scaling. >> That that's that is scaling. >> One thing people ask me because I do >> One thing people ask me because I do >> One thing people ask me because I do Warren Moon is my business partner. We Warren Moon is my business partner. We Warren Moon is my business partner. We have Crescent Moon Foundation. We've have Crescent Moon Foundation. We've have Crescent Moon Foundation. We've given hundreds of scholarships to kids given hundreds of scholarships to kids given hundreds of scholarships to kids that go to college which is still that go to college which is still that go to college which is still important to me here in America. Our important to me here in America. Our important to me here in America. Our high schools, they'll ask me, Dave, high schools, they'll ask me, Dave, high schools, they'll ask me, Dave, there's a lot to do in America. Why are there's a lot to do in America. Why are there's a lot to do in America. Why are you doing this in Africa? Watching you doing this in Africa? Watching you doing this in Africa? Watching what's going on in the world that if we what's going on in the world that if we what's going on in the world that if we can stabilize some of these other can stabilize some of these other can stabilize some of these other places, it only benefits places, it only benefits places, it only benefits >> only benefits here. That's wonderful >> only benefits here. That's wonderful >> only benefits here. That's wonderful work, brother. That's wonderful. fun. work, brother. That's wonderful. fun. work, brother. That's wonderful. fun. Now, what I want you all to know about Now, what I want you all to know about Now, what I want you all to know about him that's really interesting because him that's really interesting because him that's really interesting because you're going to learn this lesson in you're going to learn this lesson in you're going to learn this lesson in your business, too. These principles, your business, too. These principles, your business, too. These principles, remember, this is a guy who attracts to remember, this is a guy who attracts to remember, this is a guy who attracts to him some of the top athletes in the him some of the top athletes in the him some of the top athletes in the world that he represents, right? And world that he represents, right? And world that he represents, right? And other agents be talking about, let's other agents be talking about, let's other agents be talking about, let's negotiate the shoe contract, right? negotiate the shoe contract, right? negotiate the shoe contract, right? Let's let's, you know, get the Let's let's, you know, get the Let's let's, you know, get the percentage done. Let's get you percentage done. Let's get you percentage done. Let's get you guaranteed this. And I know that's part guaranteed this. And I know that's part guaranteed this. And I know that's part of what you do, but he takes this very of what you do, but he takes this very of what you do, but he takes this very unique approach, right? And the approach unique approach, right? And the approach unique approach, right? And the approach is almost you begin to talk to the is almost you begin to talk to the is almost you begin to talk to the athletes about their giving first and athletes about their giving first and athletes about their giving first and what they could do with their giving and what they could do with their giving and what they could do with their giving and their time. Speak to that for a second, their time. Speak to that for a second, their time. Speak to that for a second, which makes you so unique. This is what which makes you so unique. This is what which makes you so unique. This is what I want you to hear. so unique in the I want you to hear. so unique in the I want you to hear. so unique in the space you're in because the sports world space you're in because the sports world space you're in because the sports world can be very cutthroat the dollar now can be very cutthroat the dollar now can be very cutthroat the dollar now short-term short-term short-term short-term short-term short-term short-term short-term short-term you run a model that's different than you run a model that's different than you run a model that's different than that and a message and again I apply it that and a message and again I apply it that and a message and again I apply it through anything these same principles through anything these same principles through anything these same principles apply if you own a dry cleaners if you apply if you own a dry cleaners if you apply if you own a dry cleaners if you own a gym if you have a uh you know you own a gym if you have a uh you know you own a gym if you have a uh you know you run a a life insurance business whatever run a a life insurance business whatever run a a life insurance business whatever the heck your business is this principle the heck your business is this principle the heck your business is this principle he's about to share with you would he's about to share with you would he's about to share with you would distinguish you make you happier and distinguish you make you happier and distinguish you make you happier and probably grow your business as a probably grow your business as a probably grow your business as a byproduct it's not the reason to do it byproduct it's not the reason to do it byproduct it's not the reason to do it but it would as a byproduct would grow but it would as a byproduct would grow but it would as a byproduct would grow your business. So, talk about that. your business. So, talk about that. your business. So, talk about that. >> And to give credit, I learned it from >> And to give credit, I learned it from >> And to give credit, I learned it from Lee Steinberg, who's a Berkeley guy, Lee Steinberg, who's a Berkeley guy, Lee Steinberg, who's a Berkeley guy, >> Jerry Magcguire, co-produced with >> Jerry Magcguire, co-produced with >> Jerry Magcguire, co-produced with Cameron Crow, the famous. And he taught Cameron Crow, the famous. And he taught Cameron Crow, the famous. And he taught me, I said, why why do you require every me, I said, why why do you require every me, I said, why why do you require every one of our athletes to have a one of our athletes to have a one of our athletes to have a foundation? foundation? foundation? >> He said, for two reasons. One, I know >> He said, for two reasons. One, I know >> He said, for two reasons. One, I know it's right. it's right. it's right. >> And the truth vibrates the fastest. >> And the truth vibrates the fastest. >> And the truth vibrates the fastest. >> Didn't put it in those words, but that's >> Didn't put it in those words, but that's >> Didn't put it in those words, but that's what he was saying. And then he said, what he was saying. And then he said, what he was saying. And then he said, but beyond that, he goes, I started but beyond that, he goes, I started but beyond that, he goes, I started learning that by giving back, I actually learning that by giving back, I actually learning that by giving back, I actually qualified the people I surrounded myself qualified the people I surrounded myself qualified the people I surrounded myself with. If an athlete wasn't willing to with. If an athlete wasn't willing to with. If an athlete wasn't willing to give back, I was only going to have give back, I was only going to have give back, I was only going to have problems later on. And so throughout my problems later on. And so throughout my problems later on. And so throughout my whole career since I've been working whole career since I've been working whole career since I've been working with Lee, whether it's athletes, with Lee, whether it's athletes, with Lee, whether it's athletes, companies, media, or even interviews, I companies, media, or even interviews, I companies, media, or even interviews, I only do people that only do people that only do people that >> and work with people that will give >> and work with people that will give >> and work with people that will give back. Every project I have has to have a back. Every project I have has to have a back. Every project I have has to have a charitable component or cause to it. charitable component or cause to it. charitable component or cause to it. Every single one or we won't take it. Every single one or we won't take it. Every single one or we won't take it. And it just has really increased a And it just has really increased a And it just has really increased a collective belief or a vibration for our collective belief or a vibration for our collective belief or a vibration for our entire community, not just our business. entire community, not just our business. entire community, not just our business. >> Don't you think it's important? I heard >> Don't you think it's important? I heard >> Don't you think it's important? I heard you talking about this and I we both you talking about this and I we both you talking about this and I we both said this separate of each other. But said this separate of each other. But said this separate of each other. But the reason there's also power to that, the reason there's also power to that, the reason there's also power to that, by the way, it's wonderful seeds you're by the way, it's wonderful seeds you're by the way, it's wonderful seeds you're sewing, right? The other part of it is sewing, right? The other part of it is sewing, right? The other part of it is like I think it's important in business like I think it's important in business like I think it's important in business that you show up different than people that you show up different than people that you show up different than people expect you to. expect you to. expect you to. >> Yeah. You know, I've seen you talk about >> Yeah. You know, I've seen you talk about >> Yeah. You know, I've seen you talk about I talk about that all the time, too. I talk about that all the time, too. I talk about that all the time, too. Like in my case, you know, if I'm got Like in my case, you know, if I'm got Like in my case, you know, if I'm got some big arms and I got tattoos on there some big arms and I got tattoos on there some big arms and I got tattoos on there and I show up as this guy that's talking and I show up as this guy that's talking and I show up as this guy that's talking about loving people and blissful about loving people and blissful about loving people and blissful dissatisfaction and making a difference, dissatisfaction and making a difference, dissatisfaction and making a difference, like, "Wait a minute, I thought you were like, "Wait a minute, I thought you were like, "Wait a minute, I thought you were going to talk about smashing people in going to talk about smashing people in going to talk about smashing people in the face." You know, I think that's been the face." You know, I think that's been the face." You know, I think that's been an advantage of mine that maybe I'm not an advantage of mine that maybe I'm not an advantage of mine that maybe I'm not as I appear, right? And is that true as I appear, right? And is that true as I appear, right? And is that true also? Would you give that advice to also? Would you give that advice to also? Would you give that advice to somebody in business or or even just in somebody in business or or even just in somebody in business or or even just in life? life? life? >> Absolutely. You you you have to take >> Absolutely. You you you have to take >> Absolutely. You you you have to take advantage and I even take charity. And advantage and I even take charity. And advantage and I even take charity. And you know, my motto is make a lot of you know, my motto is make a lot of you know, my motto is make a lot of money, money, money, >> help a lot of people, and have a lot of >> help a lot of people, and have a lot of >> help a lot of people, and have a lot of fun. fun. fun. >> And a lot of people ask me, why why do >> And a lot of people ask me, why why do >> And a lot of people ask me, why why do you say make a lot of money, Dave? you say make a lot of money, Dave? you say make a lot of money, Dave? You're this philanthrop. I mean, pissed, You're this philanthrop. I mean, pissed, You're this philanthrop. I mean, pissed, but I do pimp out a lot of athletes and but I do pimp out a lot of athletes and but I do pimp out a lot of athletes and celebrities for money. So, I call myself celebrities for money. So, I call myself celebrities for money. So, I call myself a philanthrop. But why do you do that? I a philanthrop. But why do you do that? I a philanthrop. But why do you do that? I said, because literally, if you don't said, because literally, if you don't said, because literally, if you don't have, have, have, >> you can't give. I say that about >> you can't give. I say that about >> you can't give. I say that about forgiveness. If you don't forgive forgiveness. If you don't forgive forgiveness. If you don't forgive yourself, who can you ever forgive? yourself, who can you ever forgive? yourself, who can you ever forgive? >> That's right, baby. >> That's right, baby. >> That's right, baby. >> And so, I say to everyone, make money >> And so, I say to everyone, make money >> And so, I say to everyone, make money for yourself first. You'll figure out for yourself first. You'll figure out for yourself first. You'll figure out where to put it. Y where to put it. Y where to put it. Y >> you're not My mom is a great catalyst. >> you're not My mom is a great catalyst. >> you're not My mom is a great catalyst. Siblings did extremely well, Siblings did extremely well, Siblings did extremely well, >> but my mom has to still be supported by >> but my mom has to still be supported by >> but my mom has to still be supported by her kids today. It takes away from her her kids today. It takes away from her her kids today. It takes away from her own pride. own pride. own pride. >> There you go. Of course. >> There you go. Of course. >> There you go. Of course. >> Right. And because she never cared about >> Right. And because she never cared about >> Right. And because she never cared about making money herself. making money herself. making money herself. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> And I really believe it's really >> And I really believe it's really >> And I really believe it's really important if you have the skills and important if you have the skills and important if you have the skills and knowledge and desire that you should knowledge and desire that you should knowledge and desire that you should make as much money as you can and take make as much money as you can and take make as much money as you can and take care of everyone around you. care of everyone around you. care of everyone around you. >> I believe that so much. And the point is >> I believe that so much. And the point is >> I believe that so much. And the point is too is that what Dave's sharing with you too is that what Dave's sharing with you too is that what Dave's sharing with you is you can't transfer to somebody that is you can't transfer to somebody that is you can't transfer to somebody that which you're not experiencing yourself. which you're not experiencing yourself. which you're not experiencing yourself. You can't give me love if you don't feel You can't give me love if you don't feel You can't give me love if you don't feel it. You can't give me gratitude. You it. You can't give me gratitude. You it. You can't give me gratitude. You can't give me energy. You can't give me can't give me energy. You can't give me can't give me energy. You can't give me confidence. You can't give me money. You confidence. You can't give me money. You confidence. You can't give me money. You can't give me these things if you're not can't give me these things if you're not can't give me these things if you're not experiencing them yourself. So, I'm experiencing them yourself. So, I'm experiencing them yourself. So, I'm curious. You did sort of get into this curious. You did sort of get into this curious. You did sort of get into this sort of, you know, you said those was sort of, you know, you said those was sort of, you know, you said those was the hardest time in your life was middle the hardest time in your life was middle the hardest time in your life was middle school and high school. At least the school and high school. At least the school and high school. At least the beginning of high school. beginning of high school. beginning of high school. >> Um, did you kind of go into a little bit >> Um, did you kind of go into a little bit >> Um, did you kind of go into a little bit of a depression, sort of down on of a depression, sort of down on of a depression, sort of down on yourself? And then if you did, how'd you yourself? And then if you did, how'd you yourself? And then if you did, how'd you get out of it? get out of it? get out of it? >> Yeah. So, middle school, high school, I >> Yeah. So, middle school, high school, I >> Yeah. So, middle school, high school, I was at an all-time low for me, you know, was at an all-time low for me, you know, was at an all-time low for me, you know, and my big question was why? You know, I and my big question was why? You know, I and my big question was why? You know, I I realized I was different and I I realized I was different and I I realized I was different and I realized, you know, some of the realized, you know, some of the realized, you know, some of the negativity of kids staring at me. I was negativity of kids staring at me. I was negativity of kids staring at me. I was just like, why? You know, there's just like, why? You know, there's just like, why? You know, there's billions of people. Why do I have to be billions of people. Why do I have to be billions of people. Why do I have to be on this earth with no legs and one arm? on this earth with no legs and one arm? on this earth with no legs and one arm? These kids don't know what I'm going These kids don't know what I'm going These kids don't know what I'm going through. What? Like, why? And I was through. What? Like, why? And I was through. What? Like, why? And I was pissed off. You know, the universe, God, pissed off. You know, the universe, God, pissed off. You know, the universe, God, whatever it may be. I was just pissed whatever it may be. I was just pissed whatever it may be. I was just pissed off that I was in a situation. off that I was in a situation. off that I was in a situation. >> And when I got into high school, >> And when I got into high school, >> And when I got into high school, >> I I realized, you know, that I was in >> I I realized, you know, that I was in >> I I realized, you know, that I was in the slump. And I realized that, you the slump. And I realized that, you the slump. And I realized that, you know, confidence is a skill. It's not know, confidence is a skill. It's not know, confidence is a skill. It's not just something that you wake up with. just something that you wake up with. just something that you wake up with. And that's what I thought when I thought And that's what I thought when I thought And that's what I thought when I thought in middle school and high school. I was in middle school and high school. I was in middle school and high school. I was like, well, I guess I'm just not born like, well, I guess I'm just not born like, well, I guess I'm just not born with confidence. You know, I thought you with confidence. You know, I thought you with confidence. You know, I thought you either had it or you didn't. But to show either had it or you didn't. But to show either had it or you didn't. But to show people that's a skill and you gradually people that's a skill and you gradually people that's a skill and you gradually work on it. So, I needed to work on work on it. So, I needed to work on work on it. So, I needed to work on myself. And I and I'm lucky that I myself. And I and I'm lucky that I myself. And I and I'm lucky that I realized that the only person that's realized that the only person that's realized that the only person that's going to make a drastic change in your going to make a drastic change in your going to make a drastic change in your life, you know, physically, mentally, life, you know, physically, mentally, life, you know, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, like you were emotionally, spiritually, like you were emotionally, spiritually, like you were talking about, is you. You know, you talking about, is you. You know, you talking about, is you. You know, you have to take control of yourself. And I have to take control of yourself. And I have to take control of yourself. And I realized I was like, realized I was like, realized I was like, >> man, like one choice. You have one >> man, like one choice. You have one >> man, like one choice. You have one choice. I can either look at all the choice. I can either look at all the choice. I can either look at all the negative I have in my life and focus on negative I have in my life and focus on negative I have in my life and focus on that, which won't propel me. it will dig that, which won't propel me. it will dig that, which won't propel me. it will dig me into a hole or I can focus on all the me into a hole or I can focus on all the me into a hole or I can focus on all the good and all I'm capable of doing and good and all I'm capable of doing and good and all I'm capable of doing and that will elevate me. So, when I was that will elevate me. So, when I was that will elevate me. So, when I was when I was freshman year, it was funny. when I was freshman year, it was funny. when I was freshman year, it was funny. Um, my best friend, we're still best Um, my best friend, we're still best Um, my best friend, we're still best friends to this day and all my wrestler friends to this day and all my wrestler friends to this day and all my wrestler best friends are are, you know, we're best friends are are, you know, we're best friends are are, you know, we're still best friends. But, still best friends. But, still best friends. But, >> um, he was a bowler and in my high >> um, he was a bowler and in my high >> um, he was a bowler and in my high school, you know, I was like, man, if I school, you know, I was like, man, if I school, you know, I was like, man, if I I could be part of a team, you know, I could be part of a team, you know, I could be part of a team, you know, just like a group, something, a support just like a group, something, a support just like a group, something, a support system, I'll feel better about myself. system, I'll feel better about myself. system, I'll feel better about myself. I'll be labeled as, you know, an I'll be labeled as, you know, an I'll be labeled as, you know, an athlete. If it's a bowler, whatever it athlete. If it's a bowler, whatever it athlete. If it's a bowler, whatever it may be, you know, I'm an athlete. Nick's may be, you know, I'm an athlete. Nick's may be, you know, I'm an athlete. Nick's an athlete. So, I I that fired me up. an athlete. So, I I that fired me up. an athlete. So, I I that fired me up. So, um, I remember our varsity team was So, um, I remember our varsity team was So, um, I remember our varsity team was super good and our JV bowling team was super good and our JV bowling team was super good and our JV bowling team was undefeated until I joined the team and I undefeated until I joined the team and I undefeated until I joined the team and I joined the JV team and I remember I dude joined the JV team and I remember I dude joined the JV team and I remember I dude I totally reme remember they didn't even I totally reme remember they didn't even I totally reme remember they didn't even have the correct like jersey for me. I have the correct like jersey for me. I have the correct like jersey for me. I had an older jersey, so like it's me. had an older jersey, so like it's me. had an older jersey, so like it's me. And like people are like, "How's this And like people are like, "How's this And like people are like, "How's this kid going to bowl?" And I was just like kid going to bowl?" And I was just like kid going to bowl?" And I was just like throwing a ball down the lane. And um I throwing a ball down the lane. And um I throwing a ball down the lane. And um I realized that I wanted much more that it realized that I wanted much more that it realized that I wanted much more that it just it it wasn't challenging me enough. just it it wasn't challenging me enough. just it it wasn't challenging me enough. And I I wanted something more physical. And I I wanted something more physical. And I I wanted something more physical. >> And so I got my I got into my sophomore >> And so I got my I got into my sophomore >> And so I got my I got into my sophomore year and all my best friends. year and all my best friends. year and all my best friends. >> So that best friend wrestled his younger >> So that best friend wrestled his younger >> So that best friend wrestled his younger years and like Matt Rats when he was years and like Matt Rats when he was years and like Matt Rats when he was younger. And so sophomore year they all younger. And so sophomore year they all younger. And so sophomore year they all were on the wrestling team. They all were on the wrestling team. They all were on the wrestling team. They all were like all stud wrestlers for my high were like all stud wrestlers for my high were like all stud wrestlers for my high school. My older brother was a wrestler school. My older brother was a wrestler school. My older brother was a wrestler for that same high school, but I never for that same high school, but I never for that same high school, but I never got to go to high school with him. So, got to go to high school with him. So, got to go to high school with him. So, like the coaches knew me. like the coaches knew me. like the coaches knew me. >> They knew your family. >> They knew your family. >> They knew your family. >> And >> And >> And >> so I was like, man, I thought wrestlers >> so I was like, man, I thought wrestlers >> so I was like, man, I thought wrestlers were the coolest thing, you know, the were the coolest thing, you know, the were the coolest thing, you know, the hardest physical sport, like physically hardest physical sport, like physically hardest physical sport, like physically and mentally. I want to be a wrestler. and mentally. I want to be a wrestler. and mentally. I want to be a wrestler. So, So, So, >> um, at the time, this arm was about 5 in >> um, at the time, this arm was about 5 in >> um, at the time, this arm was about 5 in longer than it is now. And my bone was longer than it is now. And my bone was longer than it is now. And my bone was growing faster than my skin. So, it was growing faster than my skin. So, it was growing faster than my skin. So, it was like your finger, but super pointy. So, like your finger, but super pointy. So, like your finger, but super pointy. So, I couldn't really touch it on things. It I couldn't really touch it on things. It I couldn't really touch it on things. It was super sensitive. Painful, too. So, was super sensitive. Painful, too. So, was super sensitive. Painful, too. So, yes, painful. So, I used to tuck it yes, painful. So, I used to tuck it yes, painful. So, I used to tuck it because if I would have hit my my arm because if I would have hit my my arm because if I would have hit my my arm hard enough, my bone would have came hard enough, my bone would have came hard enough, my bone would have came through. That's how like Yeah. Sorry. through. That's how like Yeah. Sorry. through. That's how like Yeah. Sorry. But that's how like, you know, light it But that's how like, you know, light it But that's how like, you know, light it is. And so I I made that made that is. And so I I made that made that is. And so I I made that made that decision to myself. I said, "If I could decision to myself. I said, "If I could decision to myself. I said, "If I could become a wrestler, you know, if I could become a wrestler, you know, if I could become a wrestler, you know, if I could be with my friends, just get after it in be with my friends, just get after it in be with my friends, just get after it in the room, you know, it would make me the room, you know, it would make me the room, you know, it would make me feel so much better about myself and feel so much better about myself and feel so much better about myself and just lift me up." just lift me up." just lift me up." >> And so I came home one day and I said, >> And so I came home one day and I said, >> And so I came home one day and I said, "Mom and dad, I want to be a wrestler." "Mom and dad, I want to be a wrestler." "Mom and dad, I want to be a wrestler." >> And I remember I waited for my dad to be >> And I remember I waited for my dad to be >> And I remember I waited for my dad to be home. And and my my parents supported me home. And and my my parents supported me home. And and my my parents supported me in everything and anything throughout my in everything and anything throughout my in everything and anything throughout my life. You know, as long Nick, as long as life. You know, as long Nick, as long as life. You know, as long Nick, as long as you're happy, you know, we want you to you're happy, you know, we want you to you're happy, you know, we want you to do it. do it. do it. >> But this was a little bit different. I >> But this was a little bit different. I >> But this was a little bit different. I said, "Mom and dad, I want to be a said, "Mom and dad, I want to be a said, "Mom and dad, I want to be a wrestler." My mom's like, "Oh my god, wrestler." My mom's like, "Oh my god, wrestler." My mom's like, "Oh my god, Nick." you know, wrestling is the most Nick." you know, wrestling is the most Nick." you know, wrestling is the most physical sport. If you're out there, you physical sport. If you're out there, you physical sport. If you're out there, you hit your arm. And I was like, I was a a hit your arm. And I was like, I was a a hit your arm. And I was like, I was a a 17, 18-y old kid. I looked at him and I 17, 18-y old kid. I looked at him and I 17, 18-y old kid. I looked at him and I said, said, said, >> "Can we cut it off?" >> "Can we cut it off?" >> "Can we cut it off?" >> Oh my gosh, bro. >> Oh my gosh, bro. >> Oh my gosh, bro. >> And and they were like, "What?" And I'm >> And and they were like, "What?" And I'm >> And and they were like, "What?" And I'm like, "Can we take care of this? Like, like, "Can we take care of this? Like, like, "Can we take care of this? Like, it's not helping." it's not helping." it's not helping." >> And you know, it took me a couple hours, >> And you know, it took me a couple hours, >> And you know, it took me a couple hours, but I persuaded my parents to schedule but I persuaded my parents to schedule but I persuaded my parents to schedule um an amputation. So, we found like the um an amputation. So, we found like the um an amputation. So, we found like the best doctor, and best doctor, and best doctor, and >> they basically labor lasered 5 in of my >> they basically labor lasered 5 in of my >> they basically labor lasered 5 in of my arm off and did a skin graft. So, they arm off and did a skin graft. So, they arm off and did a skin graft. So, they pulled extra skin and pulled it over my pulled extra skin and pulled it over my pulled extra skin and pulled it over my bone. So I'd have, you know, padding. bone. So I'd have, you know, padding. bone. So I'd have, you know, padding. >> And I always tell people the only little >> And I always tell people the only little >> And I always tell people the only little mountain, the only little challenge that mountain, the only little challenge that mountain, the only little challenge that I saw that was stopping me from I saw that was stopping me from I saw that was stopping me from wrestling was the fact that my arm hurt. wrestling was the fact that my arm hurt. wrestling was the fact that my arm hurt. It wasn't the fact that I was born with It wasn't the fact that I was born with It wasn't the fact that I was born with no legs on my arm because I knew I knew no legs on my arm because I knew I knew no legs on my arm because I knew I knew that my hard work and dedication if I if that my hard work and dedication if I if that my hard work and dedication if I if I worked harder than the able body, it I worked harder than the able body, it I worked harder than the able body, it would make up for my lack of limbs. If I would make up for my lack of limbs. If I would make up for my lack of limbs. If I put the work in, you know, work my butt put the work in, you know, work my butt put the work in, you know, work my butt off that I would this wouldn't matter. off that I would this wouldn't matter. off that I would this wouldn't matter. You know, it wouldn't matter. You know, it wouldn't matter. You know, it wouldn't matter. >> So >> So >> So >> I made that decision. And so my >> I made that decision. And so my >> I made that decision. And so my sophomore year, I always say I was the sophomore year, I always say I was the sophomore year, I always say I was the happiest kid to cut his arm off. Like I happiest kid to cut his arm off. Like I happiest kid to cut his arm off. Like I was just gone, bro. was just gone, bro. was just gone, bro. >> Yeah. So, we amputated my arm my >> Yeah. So, we amputated my arm my >> Yeah. So, we amputated my arm my sophomore year and I remember I love sophomore year and I remember I love sophomore year and I remember I love food. We're Italian. And I I missed food. We're Italian. And I I missed food. We're Italian. And I I missed Halloween that year because I was I was Halloween that year because I was I was Halloween that year because I was I was in a cast. I had like, you know, 17 in a cast. I had like, you know, 17 in a cast. I had like, you know, 17 stitches in my arm. stitches in my arm. stitches in my arm. >> And I remember going back to school and >> And I remember going back to school and >> And I remember going back to school and I was so happy. Like I said, happiest I was so happy. Like I said, happiest I was so happy. Like I said, happiest kid just cut his arm off. And people kid just cut his arm off. And people kid just cut his arm off. And people like, "Dude, what did you just do?" like, "Dude, what did you just do?" like, "Dude, what did you just do?" Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> And I'm like, "Oh, I amputated my arm. >> And I'm like, "Oh, I amputated my arm. >> And I'm like, "Oh, I amputated my arm. I'm going to be a wrestler." I'm going to be a wrestler." I'm going to be a wrestler." >> And it was the same old It was the same >> And it was the same old It was the same >> And it was the same old It was the same cycle. It was people, "Dude, you can't cycle. It was people, "Dude, you can't cycle. It was people, "Dude, you can't wrestle." You know, it it was, "Dude, wrestle." You know, it it was, "Dude, wrestle." You know, it it was, "Dude, how are you going to be a wrestler? You how are you going to be a wrestler? You how are you going to be a wrestler? You have no legs of one arm." Like, dude, have no legs of one arm." Like, dude, have no legs of one arm." Like, dude, let's be real. you know, the outside let's be real. you know, the outside let's be real. you know, the outside noise, the naysayers, the haters. noise, the naysayers, the haters. noise, the naysayers, the haters. >> And I looked, I said, "You're right. I'm >> And I looked, I said, "You're right. I'm >> And I looked, I said, "You're right. I'm not going to become a wrestler. I'm not going to become a wrestler. I'm not going to become a wrestler. I'm going to become a varsity wrestler." going to become a varsity wrestler." going to become a varsity wrestler." >> And and you know, I think I think from >> And and you know, I think I think from >> And and you know, I think I think from the earliest of ages, from you know, my the earliest of ages, from you know, my the earliest of ages, from you know, my parents telling me what the doctors told parents telling me what the doctors told parents telling me what the doctors told me and all this, I always carried a me and all this, I always carried a me and all this, I always carried a little bit of chip on my shoulder to little bit of chip on my shoulder to little bit of chip on my shoulder to show people what I'm truly capable of show people what I'm truly capable of show people what I'm truly capable of doing. doing. doing. >> Bro, can we just stop for a second here? >> Bro, can we just stop for a second here? >> Bro, can we just stop for a second here? >> We can stop. >> We can stop. >> We can stop. >> You you to go to go wrestle. So, there's >> You you to go to go wrestle. So, there's >> You you to go to go wrestle. So, there's all these, by the way, a lot of you are all these, by the way, a lot of you are all these, by the way, a lot of you are parents or you're a young athlete parents or you're a young athlete parents or you're a young athlete watching this. You go, "Man, I'm watching this. You go, "Man, I'm watching this. You go, "Man, I'm wrestling, man. so hard so hard to cut wrestling, man. so hard so hard to cut wrestling, man. so hard so hard to cut weight or I got to go to the gym or man weight or I got to go to the gym or man weight or I got to go to the gym or man I got to miss my party on the weekend to I got to miss my party on the weekend to I got to miss my party on the weekend to go to practice. This guy cut his arm off go to practice. This guy cut his arm off go to practice. This guy cut his arm off to go wrestle, right? And and by the to go wrestle, right? And and by the to go wrestle, right? And and by the way, that's going into it knowing I way, that's going into it knowing I way, that's going into it knowing I don't actually have every other thing don't actually have every other thing don't actually have every other thing going for me to go dominate in this going for me to go dominate in this going for me to go dominate in this sport. It's actually after bowling, sport. It's actually after bowling, sport. It's actually after bowling, which by the way, I would love to see which by the way, I would love to see which by the way, I would love to see you bowl. That just to me is like the you bowl. That just to me is like the you bowl. That just to me is like the coolest visual in the world. But the coolest visual in the world. But the coolest visual in the world. But the fact that you go for bowling just to fact that you go for bowling just to fact that you go for bowling just to belong to a team, you're like, you know belong to a team, you're like, you know belong to a team, you're like, you know what, screw it. I'm going to a next what, screw it. I'm going to a next what, screw it. I'm going to a next standard, a next level. I want to go standard, a next level. I want to go standard, a next level. I want to go wrestle. Then to have your parents kind wrestle. Then to have your parents kind wrestle. Then to have your parents kind of still back it though, man. And do you of still back it though, man. And do you of still back it though, man. And do you go to that extreme? Like what are you go to that extreme? Like what are you go to that extreme? Like what are you willing to do to chase your dream? This willing to do to chase your dream? This willing to do to chase your dream? This guy's willing to cut his arm off, right? guy's willing to cut his arm off, right? guy's willing to cut his arm off, right? Part of it. I mean, what are you willing Part of it. I mean, what are you willing Part of it. I mean, what are you willing to do to chase your dream? What's the to do to chase your dream? What's the to do to chase your dream? What's the sacrifice you're willing to make? And sacrifice you're willing to make? And sacrifice you're willing to make? And how's it compared to that, right? And how's it compared to that, right? And how's it compared to that, right? And with no guarantee he makes a team. And with no guarantee he makes a team. And with no guarantee he makes a team. And then to up the end, he go, "You're then to up the end, he go, "You're then to up the end, he go, "You're right. I'm not going to wrestle. I'm right. I'm not going to wrestle. I'm right. I'm not going to wrestle. I'm going to varsity wrestle." I I don't going to varsity wrestle." I I don't going to varsity wrestle." I I don't know this, by the way. Did that actually know this, by the way. Did that actually know this, by the way. Did that actually happen? So, my junior year, I remember happen? So, my junior year, I remember happen? So, my junior year, I remember getting in the room and I said to my to getting in the room and I said to my to getting in the room and I said to my to my buddies, because most of my buddies, my buddies, because most of my buddies, my buddies, because most of my buddies, they're all my buddies now, you know, they're all my buddies now, you know, they're all my buddies now, you know, and I was like, "Beat me up." and I was like, "Beat me up." and I was like, "Beat me up." >> I said, "Beat me up. Slam my face in the >> I said, "Beat me up. Slam my face in the >> I said, "Beat me up. Slam my face in the mat as hard as you can. You know, do mat as hard as you can. You know, do mat as hard as you can. You know, do whatever you need to do because if you whatever you need to do because if you whatever you need to do because if you hold back on me, I'm not going to know hold back on me, I'm not going to know hold back on me, I'm not going to know how to become the best wrestler I could how to become the best wrestler I could how to become the best wrestler I could possibly be." And that's the same thing possibly be." And that's the same thing possibly be." And that's the same thing for my parents. If my parents held back for my parents. If my parents held back for my parents. If my parents held back and gave me everything, you know, I and gave me everything, you know, I and gave me everything, you know, I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have the wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have the wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have the mindset I have. I wouldn't be the man I mindset I have. I wouldn't be the man I mindset I have. I wouldn't be the man I am today if people held back on me. So, am today if people held back on me. So, am today if people held back on me. So, that was my first thing, my my message that was my first thing, my my message that was my first thing, my my message to everyone. Yo, beat me up. like don't to everyone. Yo, beat me up. like don't to everyone. Yo, beat me up. like don't feel bad, like I'm here. I'm here for feel bad, like I'm here. I'm here for feel bad, like I'm here. I'm here for me. Like, beat me up. So, my junior me. Like, beat me up. So, my junior me. Like, beat me up. So, my junior year, what what I was doing was year, what what I was doing was year, what what I was doing was basically just trying to figure out basically just trying to figure out basically just trying to figure out where my strengths were, like what what where my strengths were, like what what where my strengths were, like what what I was good at. And with wrestling, if I was good at. And with wrestling, if I was good at. And with wrestling, if you go to your back, if you both your you go to your back, if you both your you go to your back, if you both your shoulder blades touch, it's it's a pin. shoulder blades touch, it's it's a pin. shoulder blades touch, it's it's a pin. It's six points. And that's the most It's six points. And that's the most It's six points. And that's the most amount of points you can give up. So, amount of points you can give up. So, amount of points you can give up. So, >> I knew that, you know, I needed to work >> I knew that, you know, I needed to work >> I knew that, you know, I needed to work on staying off my back. on staying off my back. on staying off my back. >> You know, even if I couldn't win, if >> You know, even if I couldn't win, if >> You know, even if I couldn't win, if they could techfall me and get, you they could techfall me and get, you they could techfall me and get, you know, a lesser amount of points than a know, a lesser amount of points than a know, a lesser amount of points than a pin, I'm winning. Um, so my junior year, pin, I'm winning. Um, so my junior year, pin, I'm winning. Um, so my junior year, um, I was like, like I said, I was like um, I was like, like I said, I was like um, I was like, like I said, I was like 1 and 20 and but my my coach threw me 1 and 20 and but my my coach threw me 1 and 20 and but my my coach threw me out for a forfeit win, um, to get my out for a forfeit win, um, to get my out for a forfeit win, um, to get my varsity jacket and I came off, I was varsity jacket and I came off, I was varsity jacket and I came off, I was like, I don't want it, you know, I never like, I don't want it, you know, I never like, I don't want it, you know, I never even got my varsity jacket. even got my varsity jacket. even got my varsity jacket. >> Um, I never got it. And I because to me, >> Um, I never got it. And I because to me, >> Um, I never got it. And I because to me, I didn't earn it, you know, I I it was I didn't earn it, you know, I I it was I didn't earn it, you know, I I it was given to me and I didn't want to wear given to me and I didn't want to wear given to me and I didn't want to wear something that, you know, it was just something that, you know, it was just something that, you know, it was just given to me. given to me. given to me. >> So >> So >> So >> my junior year got my butt kicked, big >> my junior year got my butt kicked, big >> my junior year got my butt kicked, big learning experience. In between the learning experience. In between the learning experience. In between the summer of junior year and senior year, I summer of junior year and senior year, I summer of junior year and senior year, I kind of got in the weight room a little kind of got in the weight room a little kind of got in the weight room a little bit. Not too much. bit. Not too much. bit. Not too much. >> Um, but my senior year, I came out as >> Um, but my senior year, I came out as >> Um, but my senior year, I came out as Central Regionals's 106 pound varsity Central Regionals's 106 pound varsity Central Regionals's 106 pound varsity wrestler from my high school. wrestler from my high school. wrestler from my high school. >> Come on, dude. >> Come on, dude. >> Come on, dude. Come on. Come on. Come on. >> And, um, you know, >> And, um, you know, >> And, um, you know, >> like I said, we talk about moments of >> like I said, we talk about moments of >> like I said, we talk about moments of confirmation, moments of reassurance. It confirmation, moments of reassurance. It confirmation, moments of reassurance. It was just like, this is what you're, you was just like, this is what you're, you was just like, this is what you're, you know, regardless of, you know, how I got know, regardless of, you know, how I got know, regardless of, you know, how I got to 106 pound varsity wrestler, it was, to 106 pound varsity wrestler, it was, to 106 pound varsity wrestler, it was, you know, I stuck through the journey you know, I stuck through the journey you know, I stuck through the journey and I made it. and I made it. and I made it. >> So, at that point, I'm still trying to >> So, at that point, I'm still trying to >> So, at that point, I'm still trying to find my why. you know, Nick's confidence find my why. you know, Nick's confidence find my why. you know, Nick's confidence is is, you know, I got a little bit. You is is, you know, I got a little bit. You is is, you know, I got a little bit. You know, I'm part of the wrestling. I'm know, I'm part of the wrestling. I'm know, I'm part of the wrestling. I'm hanging with the wrestlers. I'm a senior hanging with the wrestlers. I'm a senior hanging with the wrestlers. I'm a senior wrestler. You know, I'm a varsity wrestler. You know, I'm a varsity wrestler. You know, I'm a varsity wrestler. wrestler. wrestler. >> Um, but I would go out and there would >> Um, but I would go out and there would >> Um, but I would go out and there would be gymnasiums packed to watch me be gymnasiums packed to watch me be gymnasiums packed to watch me wrestle. There would be standing wrestle. There would be standing wrestle. There would be standing ovations when I lost. And I I was I ovations when I lost. And I I was I ovations when I lost. And I I was I hated it. I was like, "Why are you hated it. I was like, "Why are you hated it. I was like, "Why are you clapping for me if I just got my butt clapping for me if I just got my butt clapping for me if I just got my butt kicked?" You know, I did give it my all. kicked?" You know, I did give it my all. kicked?" You know, I did give it my all. You know, I always gave it my all, but You know, I always gave it my all, but You know, I always gave it my all, but why are you clapping for me? You're not why are you clapping for me? You're not why are you clapping for me? You're not supposed to applaud losing. I'm a supposed to applaud losing. I'm a supposed to applaud losing. I'm a competitor. Mh. competitor. Mh. competitor. Mh. >> And I came off the mat one day >> And I came off the mat one day >> And I came off the mat one day >> and this this lady came up to me and she >> and this this lady came up to me and she >> and this this lady came up to me and she was crying and I'm like, "Oh my god, you was crying and I'm like, "Oh my god, you was crying and I'm like, "Oh my god, you know, what did I do wrong?" know, what did I do wrong?" know, what did I do wrong?" >> And she said, "Nick, I want to thank >> And she said, "Nick, I want to thank >> And she said, "Nick, I want to thank you." you." you." >> I said, "For what?" You know, 17 years >> I said, "For what?" You know, 17 years >> I said, "For what?" You know, 17 years old, 18-year-old kid, what? old, 18-year-old kid, what? old, 18-year-old kid, what? >> And she said, "My son or daughter never >> And she said, "My son or daughter never >> And she said, "My son or daughter never wanted to do a sport. My son or daughter wanted to do a sport. My son or daughter wanted to do a sport. My son or daughter never wanted to do an extracurricular never wanted to do an extracurricular never wanted to do an extracurricular activity. activity. activity. >> They want to try all these things. They >> They want to try all these things. They >> They want to try all these things. They saw you on the mat and they're like, "Oh saw you on the mat and they're like, "Oh saw you on the mat and they're like, "Oh my god, I want to try this, mom. I want my god, I want to try this, mom. I want my god, I want to try this, mom. I want to try that." to try that." to try that." >> And that was my quantum moment of >> And that was my quantum moment of >> And that was my quantum moment of >> I was just trying to live my life to the >> I was just trying to live my life to the >> I was just trying to live my life to the fullest. So, I was trying to find my fullest. So, I was trying to find my fullest. So, I was trying to find my purpose and I was motivating and purpose and I was motivating and purpose and I was motivating and passively. I was motivating and changing passively. I was motivating and changing passively. I was motivating and changing lives passively on the sideline. Imagine lives passively on the sideline. Imagine lives passively on the sideline. Imagine how many people I can change for the how many people I can change for the how many people I can change for the better. How many perspectives I can better. How many perspectives I can better. How many perspectives I can change for the better and motivate change for the better and motivate change for the better and motivate people if I focus my energy on helping people if I focus my energy on helping people if I focus my energy on helping people, people, people, >> bro. >> bro. >> bro. >> And that's when I realized that I >> And that's when I realized that I >> And that's when I realized that I >> boom, here's your here's your why, Nick. >> boom, here's your here's your why, Nick. >> boom, here's your here's your why, Nick. You are an example. You are an example. You are an example. >> You are an example. You know, like >> You are an example. You know, like >> You are an example. You know, like >> you you accepted this life before you >> you you accepted this life before you >> you you accepted this life before you even were in here. And you are here to even were in here. And you are here to even were in here. And you are here to be an example for those that think they be an example for those that think they be an example for those that think they don't can't. A lantern. a lantern for don't can't. A lantern. a lantern for don't can't. A lantern. a lantern for others to spread light. others to spread light. others to spread light. >> Dude, you are that and I told everybody >> Dude, you are that and I told everybody >> Dude, you are that and I told everybody when we started you would inspire. I'm when we started you would inspire. I'm when we started you would inspire. I'm trying right now not to tackle you trying right now not to tackle you trying right now not to tackle you myself because I'm so freaking fired up myself because I'm so freaking fired up myself because I'm so freaking fired up and I'm afraid you might rustle me back and I'm afraid you might rustle me back and I'm afraid you might rustle me back to the ground. I don't want to be to the ground. I don't want to be to the ground. I don't want to be pinned. pinned. pinned. >> But I I'll be honest with you, brother. >> But I I'll be honest with you, brother. >> But I I'll be honest with you, brother. Like there's so much here. Usually in Like there's so much here. Usually in Like there's so much here. Usually in interviews I want to jump in and add, interviews I want to jump in and add, interviews I want to jump in and add, but this is too good. And so thank you. but this is too good. And so thank you. but this is too good. And so thank you. >> Um I do want to say one thing to you. >> Um I do want to say one thing to you. >> Um I do want to say one thing to you. That part about letting telling the guys That part about letting telling the guys That part about letting telling the guys to beat you up is such a great lesson to beat you up is such a great lesson to beat you up is such a great lesson for everybody to be watching this for everybody to be watching this for everybody to be watching this because you wanted to go through the because you wanted to go through the because you wanted to go through the real deal. And I'm thinking about I'm real deal. And I'm thinking about I'm real deal. And I'm thinking about I'm thinking about all the things that thinking about all the things that thinking about all the things that people use to they use as an excuse to people use to they use as an excuse to people use to they use as an excuse to stop. They use as an excuse to hold stop. They use as an excuse to hold stop. They use as an excuse to hold back, right? And you've just you've back, right? And you've just you've back, right? And you've just you've never done that before. And it's it's never done that before. And it's it's never done that before. And it's it's sort of just crazy to me. And one of the sort of just crazy to me. And one of the sort of just crazy to me. And one of the things I found out about you, obviously things I found out about you, obviously things I found out about you, obviously you're a competitor, right? And but you're a competitor, right? And but you're a competitor, right? And but you're also real grateful. And I think you're also real grateful. And I think you're also real grateful. And I think that would surprise a lot of people that that would surprise a lot of people that that would surprise a lot of people that someone who, you know, got a little bit someone who, you know, got a little bit someone who, you know, got a little bit bullied and teased as a young guy, bullied and teased as a young guy, bullied and teased as a young guy, nothing came out perfect. Nothing's easy nothing came out perfect. Nothing's easy nothing came out perfect. Nothing's easy for you, right? But yet, you're really a for you, right? But yet, you're really a for you, right? But yet, you're really a grateful dude. Talk about how important grateful dude. Talk about how important grateful dude. Talk about how important gratitude is for you in addition to all gratitude is for you in addition to all gratitude is for you in addition to all of this intense competition you've been of this intense competition you've been of this intense competition you've been through. How how important is gratitude? through. How how important is gratitude? through. How how important is gratitude? >> I feel like gratitude, if a person can >> I feel like gratitude, if a person can >> I feel like gratitude, if a person can just live in a state of gratitude, it just live in a state of gratitude, it just live in a state of gratitude, it could change their whole entire life. could change their whole entire life. could change their whole entire life. And I can make this quick and simple and And I can make this quick and simple and And I can make this quick and simple and easy for everyone to comprehend. me, a easy for everyone to comprehend. me, a easy for everyone to comprehend. me, a man with no legs and one arm. There are man with no legs and one arm. There are man with no legs and one arm. There are millions of people we as we sit in this millions of people we as we sit in this millions of people we as we sit in this couch that would switch places with me couch that would switch places with me couch that would switch places with me in an instant because they just don't in an instant because they just don't in an instant because they just don't have it like me. have it like me. have it like me. >> There there are kids and adults that are >> There there are kids and adults that are >> There there are kids and adults that are confined in wheelchair beds. There are confined in wheelchair beds. There are confined in wheelchair beds. There are kids and adults that are paralyzed in kids and adults that are paralyzed in kids and adults that are paralyzed in wheelchairs that look outside and say, wheelchairs that look outside and say, wheelchairs that look outside and say, "Man, I wish I could just go outside and "Man, I wish I could just go outside and "Man, I wish I could just go outside and breathe the fresh air. I wish I could breathe the fresh air. I wish I could breathe the fresh air. I wish I could just listen to the birds. I wish I could just listen to the birds. I wish I could just listen to the birds. I wish I could get out of this hospital bed." Like, it get out of this hospital bed." Like, it get out of this hospital bed." Like, it gives me chills. That's all the gives me chills. That's all the gives me chills. That's all the motivation I need because I know that my motivation I need because I know that my motivation I need because I know that my situation isn't bad. M situation isn't bad. M situation isn't bad. M >> and the sad thing is that there's people >> and the sad thing is that there's people >> and the sad thing is that there's people with full bodies that say, "Oh, man, his with full bodies that say, "Oh, man, his with full bodies that say, "Oh, man, his life's bad." No, it's not. life's bad." No, it's not. life's bad." No, it's not. >> You know, the biggest disability is a >> You know, the biggest disability is a >> You know, the biggest disability is a bad mindset. It's not this. It is not bad mindset. It's not this. It is not bad mindset. It's not this. It is not this. It's It's people don't have their this. It's It's people don't have their this. It's It's people don't have their mind right, Ed. It's people are just mind right, Ed. It's people are just mind right, Ed. It's people are just like, "Oh my god, I can't do this. I like, "Oh my god, I can't do this. I like, "Oh my god, I can't do this. I can't do that." No, you you can. You're can't do that." No, you you can. You're can't do that." No, you you can. You're truly capable of anything. You put truly capable of anything. You put truly capable of anything. You put limits on yourself. The only limits you limits on yourself. The only limits you limits on yourself. The only limits you have are the ones you put on yourself. have are the ones you put on yourself. have are the ones you put on yourself. So to to go back to gratitude like I'm So to to go back to gratitude like I'm So to to go back to gratitude like I'm start being grateful that you woke up start being grateful that you woke up start being grateful that you woke up today today today >> you know start being grateful that you >> you know start being grateful that you >> you know start being grateful that you were in a bed there's people sleeping were in a bed there's people sleeping were in a bed there's people sleeping you can go outside there's people you can go outside there's people you can go outside there's people sleeping on the sidewalk like how can sleeping on the sidewalk like how can sleeping on the sidewalk like how can you not be grateful you know so you not be grateful you know so you not be grateful you know so >> living in a state of gratitude and and >> living in a state of gratitude and and >> living in a state of gratitude and and waking up and starting your day off with waking up and starting your day off with waking up and starting your day off with gratitude you know listening five things gratitude you know listening five things gratitude you know listening five things you're grateful for thinking about five you're grateful for thinking about five you're grateful for thinking about five things you're grateful for you'll notice things you're grateful for you'll notice things you're grateful for you'll notice that your mind gets in a rhythm and at that your mind gets in a rhythm and at that your mind gets in a rhythm and at first it may be big things like oh my first it may be big things like oh my first it may be big things like oh my family my house whatever it may be but family my house whatever it may be but family my house whatever it may be but then your mind will get in a rhythm and then your mind will get in a rhythm and then your mind will get in a rhythm and start thinking about the little things. start thinking about the little things. start thinking about the little things. The little things you're grateful for, The little things you're grateful for, The little things you're grateful for, like, like, like, >> man, I'm I got good health or man, I got >> man, I'm I got good health or man, I got >> man, I'm I got good health or man, I got food in the refrigerator or, you know, I food in the refrigerator or, you know, I food in the refrigerator or, you know, I got friends, you know, the little got friends, you know, the little got friends, you know, the little things. Your mind starts to just become things. Your mind starts to just become things. Your mind starts to just become grateful for the things around you. And grateful for the things around you. And grateful for the things around you. And you realize that the things you complain you realize that the things you complain you realize that the things you complain about on a day-to-day basis in the grand about on a day-to-day basis in the grand about on a day-to-day basis in the grand scheme of life, scheme of life, scheme of life, >> they're not problems. We don't have >> they're not problems. We don't have >> they're not problems. We don't have problems. Like, man, you know, you know problems. Like, man, you know, you know problems. Like, man, you know, you know what I'm saying? Like, what I'm saying? Like, what I'm saying? Like, >> yeah, I I do. But you live it. And I >> yeah, I I do. But you live it. And I >> yeah, I I do. But you live it. And I think there's something powerful about think there's something powerful about think there's something powerful about people who are authentic, who actually people who are authentic, who actually people who are authentic, who actually walk the walk, that do the things they walk the walk, that do the things they walk the walk, that do the things they say they're going to do, which is what say they're going to do, which is what say they're going to do, which is what you do. And like your walking the walk you do. And like your walking the walk you do. And like your walking the walk isn't the same as other people because isn't the same as other people because isn't the same as other people because you have to walk differently. you have to walk differently. you have to walk differently. >> Are there days you're down? >> Are there days you're down? >> Are there days you're down? >> Are there days you're like, "Hey man, >> Are there days you're like, "Hey man, >> Are there days you're like, "Hey man, even today, are there days now this even today, are there days now this even today, are there days now this look, you're accomplished. You've you're look, you're accomplished. You've you're look, you're accomplished. You've you're now a sought-after speaker, right? You now a sought-after speaker, right? You now a sought-after speaker, right? You you inspire people like me who it ain't you inspire people like me who it ain't you inspire people like me who it ain't easy to always inspire me, right? Like easy to always inspire me, right? Like easy to always inspire me, right? Like there's got to be something special there's got to be something special there's got to be something special about someone to inspire me. Like about someone to inspire me. Like about someone to inspire me. Like sitting here with you, I can feel my sitting here with you, I can feel my sitting here with you, I can feel my emotions. I'm trying to hold them, emotions. I'm trying to hold them, emotions. I'm trying to hold them, right? Like my intensity, my passion, my right? Like my intensity, my passion, my right? Like my intensity, my passion, my tears for some reason, like I'm holding tears for some reason, like I'm holding tears for some reason, like I'm holding it in because I want to have a good it in because I want to have a good it in because I want to have a good interview with you, right? But like you interview with you, right? But like you interview with you, right? But like you induce that in people. You're special. induce that in people. You're special. induce that in people. You're special. >> But there are there days you're down. >> But there are there days you're down. >> But there are there days you're down. >> Absolutely. And I I always tell people >> Absolutely. And I I always tell people >> Absolutely. And I I always tell people I'm not the Energizer Bunny all the I'm not the Energizer Bunny all the I'm not the Energizer Bunny all the time, you know? I do have low days. time, you know? I do have low days. time, you know? I do have low days. Yeah. And I actually had a low day. Yeah. And I actually had a low day. Yeah. And I actually had a low day. >> I'll be honest. I had a low day. It was >> I'll be honest. I had a low day. It was >> I'll be honest. I had a low day. It was my birthday the May 20th and I and that my birthday the May 20th and I and that my birthday the May 20th and I and that weekend we went to Miami and I had a low weekend we went to Miami and I had a low weekend we went to Miami and I had a low day because day because day because >> um you know I went out in public and >> um you know I went out in public and >> um you know I went out in public and just trying to just trying to you know just trying to just trying to you know just trying to just trying to you know mingle and talk to girls. What? Right. mingle and talk to girls. What? Right. mingle and talk to girls. What? Right. And maybe the one interaction with a And maybe the one interaction with a And maybe the one interaction with a girl didn't go the way I wanted to. And girl didn't go the way I wanted to. And girl didn't go the way I wanted to. And all these thoughts going in my head, oh all these thoughts going in my head, oh all these thoughts going in my head, oh my god, she thinks you're disgusting. my god, she thinks you're disgusting. my god, she thinks you're disgusting. It's cuz you have no legs, one arm. And It's cuz you have no legs, one arm. And It's cuz you have no legs, one arm. And you know, these are the the the the you know, these are the the the the you know, these are the the the the things that you go through those moments things that you go through those moments things that you go through those moments of like down. And I was down. Like those of like down. And I was down. Like those of like down. And I was down. Like those guys, they they were like, "Do you want guys, they they were like, "Do you want guys, they they were like, "Do you want to go out?" And I'm like, "No, like I'm to go out?" And I'm like, "No, like I'm to go out?" And I'm like, "No, like I'm good. I'm dude, it's your birthday good. I'm dude, it's your birthday good. I'm dude, it's your birthday weekend. No, I'm good." Because like one weekend. No, I'm good." Because like one weekend. No, I'm good." Because like one moment, moment, moment, >> it's important to know that one moment >> it's important to know that one moment >> it's important to know that one moment can can induce those toxic thoughts in can can induce those toxic thoughts in can can induce those toxic thoughts in your head. But the important thing about your head. But the important thing about your head. But the important thing about that is when I'm in those low moments, that is when I'm in those low moments, that is when I'm in those low moments, and this is for everyone needs to do and this is for everyone needs to do and this is for everyone needs to do this. When you're in those low moments, this. When you're in those low moments, this. When you're in those low moments, embrace it. What are you feeling? embrace it. What are you feeling? embrace it. What are you feeling? >> How are you breathing? How do you feel? >> How are you breathing? How do you feel? >> How are you breathing? How do you feel? And realize that this is not a state I And realize that this is not a state I And realize that this is not a state I want to be in. So, embrace that low time want to be in. So, embrace that low time want to be in. So, embrace that low time and be like, "Oh my god, I feel like I and be like, "Oh my god, I feel like I and be like, "Oh my god, I feel like I feel like poop. You know, I don't feel feel like poop. You know, I don't feel feel like poop. You know, I don't feel good. I this is my low state. You know, good. I this is my low state. You know, good. I this is my low state. You know, these are all the things that I don't these are all the things that I don't these are all the things that I don't want to go through and the thoughts that want to go through and the thoughts that want to go through and the thoughts that I don't want to think about." And that's I don't want to think about." And that's I don't want to think about." And that's the thing, you know, embrace that time. the thing, you know, embrace that time. the thing, you know, embrace that time. Embrace that state and realize that, oh Embrace that state and realize that, oh Embrace that state and realize that, oh my god, I don't want to feel like this. my god, I don't want to feel like this. my god, I don't want to feel like this. And then And then And then >> get out of it. And and the way to get >> get out of it. And and the way to get >> get out of it. And and the way to get out of it is start thinking positive out of it is start thinking positive out of it is start thinking positive affirmations. You know, start thinking affirmations. You know, start thinking affirmations. You know, start thinking about because your mind can only think about because your mind can only think about because your mind can only think about one thought. about one thought. about one thought. >> So, if you're thinking about something >> So, if you're thinking about something >> So, if you're thinking about something negative, you know, change that thought. negative, you know, change that thought. negative, you know, change that thought. So I start to think to myself, I am So I start to think to myself, I am So I start to think to myself, I am beautiful. I am confident. I am an beautiful. I am confident. I am an beautiful. I am confident. I am an athlete. I athlete. I athlete. I >> if that girl doesn't want to talk to me, >> if that girl doesn't want to talk to me, >> if that girl doesn't want to talk to me, that it's an organic filter. And that's that it's an organic filter. And that's that it's an organic filter. And that's the type of people that I don't want to the type of people that I don't want to the type of people that I don't want to be around. Nick, Nick, it was it was be around. Nick, Nick, it was it was be around. Nick, Nick, it was it was helping you. She's not the girl you want helping you. She's not the girl you want helping you. She's not the girl you want to be around. She's looking at you for to be around. She's looking at you for to be around. She's looking at you for this, right? You know, so that's the one this, right? You know, so that's the one this, right? You know, so that's the one of the things that helped me so much of the things that helped me so much of the things that helped me so much because I'm not going to lie, girls was because I'm not going to lie, girls was because I'm not going to lie, girls was a is still still a tough part for me, a is still still a tough part for me, a is still still a tough part for me, you know, you know, you know, >> and you know, especially as a 22-y old >> and you know, especially as a 22-y old >> and you know, especially as a 22-y old guy, you know, guy, you know, guy, you know, >> it's a hard it's a hard it's a low point >> it's a hard it's a hard it's a low point >> it's a hard it's a hard it's a low point for me, but to realize that me being in for me, but to realize that me being in for me, but to realize that me being in this situation, this situation, this situation, >> it like we said about the tribes, it >> it like we said about the tribes, it >> it like we said about the tribes, it organically attracts the right people organically attracts the right people organically attracts the right people you want to be with. So if a girl is you want to be with. So if a girl is you want to be with. So if a girl is going to not talk to me or, you know, going to not talk to me or, you know, going to not talk to me or, you know, just not even respect me for my lack of just not even respect me for my lack of just not even respect me for my lack of limbs, okay, fine. Like take a hike, you limbs, okay, fine. Like take a hike, you limbs, okay, fine. Like take a hike, you know, because you are not the person know, because you are not the person know, because you are not the person that I want to be around, that I want to be around, that I want to be around, >> bro. remind yourself of that please >> bro. remind yourself of that please >> bro. remind yourself of that please because because because >> that's >> that's >> that's >> shoot this is good. Like it's so true >> shoot this is good. Like it's so true >> shoot this is good. Like it's so true because there's because there's because there's >> all guys 22 years old are like have >> all guys 22 years old are like have >> all guys 22 years old are like have these defic and then by the way why does these defic and then by the way why does these defic and then by the way why does she like you? Is she like you just cuz she like you? Is she like you just cuz she like you? Is she like you just cuz you're good-look? That's the reverse. you're good-look? That's the reverse. you're good-look? That's the reverse. Does she like you just cuz you got a Does she like you just cuz you got a Does she like you just cuz you got a couple bucks? Does she like you just couple bucks? Does she like you just couple bucks? Does she like you just because you're an athlete? Then you end because you're an athlete? Then you end because you're an athlete? Then you end up it's an odd up it's an odd up it's an odd >> filter for you that's actually to your >> filter for you that's actually to your >> filter for you that's actually to your benefit because it it is because benefit because it it is because benefit because it it is because eventually you're gonna find a woman who eventually you're gonna find a woman who eventually you're gonna find a woman who loves you for you loves you for you loves you for you >> and as you're blowing up like you are >> and as you're blowing up like you are >> and as you're blowing up like you are now she's actually going to love you for now she's actually going to love you for now she's actually going to love you for you like if you do have money if you are you like if you do have money if you are you like if you do have money if you are successful if you are like in someone's successful if you are like in someone's successful if you are like in someone's mind perfectl looking or whatever right mind perfectl looking or whatever right mind perfectl looking or whatever right like you'll never know if they love the like you'll never know if they love the like you'll never know if they love the you that's you. So you actually have you that's you. So you actually have you that's you. So you actually have this it's bizarre that you're right this it's bizarre that you're right this it's bizarre that you're right about that and I want to acknowledge about that and I want to acknowledge about that and I want to acknowledge that you're right about that and thank that you're right about that and thank that you're right about that and thank you for being honest about it too. this you for being honest about it too. this you for being honest about it too. this conversation I knew was going to be conversation I knew was going to be conversation I knew was going to be special, but like I didn't know it was special, but like I didn't know it was special, but like I didn't know it was going to go to this depth. And you know, going to go to this depth. And you know, going to go to this depth. And you know, you are he is working for the MLB you are he is working for the MLB you are he is working for the MLB network. He's great on there. I've network. He's great on there. I've network. He's great on there. I've watched him on there for, you know, watched him on there for, you know, watched him on there for, you know, quite a while now. But now you're quite a while now. But now you're quite a while now. But now you're starting to do this thing starting to do this thing starting to do this thing >> about thinking like a pro. You're taking >> about thinking like a pro. You're taking >> about thinking like a pro. You're taking these things and you said this thing these things and you said this thing these things and you said this thing like I it took me back. You said it to like I it took me back. You said it to like I it took me back. You said it to Jim Jim Jim >> and I like replayed it and then I sent >> and I like replayed it and then I sent >> and I like replayed it and then I sent it to my son and then I sent it to my it to my son and then I sent it to my it to my son and then I sent it to my daughter and it's this good. So I I want daughter and it's this good. So I I want daughter and it's this good. So I I want you to share with my audience about the you to share with my audience about the you to share with my audience about the gaps gaps gaps >> and I it was so good that I've actually >> and I it was so good that I've actually >> and I it was so good that I've actually I'm not gonna I've sent it to some of I'm not gonna I've sent it to some of I'm not gonna I've sent it to some of the athletes I work with too. the athletes I work with too. the athletes I work with too. >> So talk about that that it's because >> So talk about that that it's because >> So talk about that that it's because it's a baseball analogy but it's a life it's a baseball analogy but it's a life it's a baseball analogy but it's a life analogy that's huge. analogy that's huge. analogy that's huge. >> Yeah. Well you know I was you know I >> Yeah. Well you know I was you know I >> Yeah. Well you know I was you know I want to get in or not want to get in I'm want to get in or not want to get in I'm want to get in or not want to get in I'm into coaching. I coach, you know, into coaching. I coach, you know, into coaching. I coach, you know, obviously college athletes, high school, obviously college athletes, high school, obviously college athletes, high school, some pro players and all that stuff, but some pro players and all that stuff, but some pro players and all that stuff, but you know, this program that developed, you know, this program that developed, you know, this program that developed, it's called the powers in the gaps. And it's called the powers in the gaps. And it's called the powers in the gaps. And I just wanted to relate it to baseball I just wanted to relate it to baseball I just wanted to relate it to baseball because because because >> when you think of baseball, and Eddie, >> when you think of baseball, and Eddie, >> when you think of baseball, and Eddie, you know, you know as well as I do, you know, you know as well as I do, you know, you know as well as I do, >> you want to be a best one of the best >> you want to be a best one of the best >> you want to be a best one of the best players in the game, players in the game, players in the game, >> you play in the gaps. >> you play in the gaps. >> you play in the gaps. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> You play in the gaps. You got to shoot >> You play in the gaps. You got to shoot >> You play in the gaps. You got to shoot the gaps to be one of the best power the gaps to be one of the best power the gaps to be one of the best power hitters. You got to hit the ball out in hitters. You got to hit the ball out in hitters. You got to hit the ball out in the gaps to be one of the best in the the gaps to be one of the best in the the gaps to be one of the best in the game at the end of the day, right? Yeah, game at the end of the day, right? Yeah, game at the end of the day, right? Yeah, your center fielders, your right, they your center fielders, your right, they your center fielders, your right, they got to fly into the gaps to make a play, got to fly into the gaps to make a play, got to fly into the gaps to make a play, right? And so I look at that like, hey, right? And so I look at that like, hey, right? And so I look at that like, hey, the power's in the gaps in life, too. the power's in the gaps in life, too. the power's in the gaps in life, too. That's what I love about baseball. It That's what I love about baseball. It That's what I love about baseball. It mirrors life. mirrors life. mirrors life. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Like, baseball's not easy. Hey, life's >> Like, baseball's not easy. Hey, life's >> Like, baseball's not easy. Hey, life's not easy, too. not easy, too. not easy, too. >> It wasn't meant to be. Baseball wasn't >> It wasn't meant to be. Baseball wasn't >> It wasn't meant to be. Baseball wasn't meant to be either. Life's not meant to meant to be either. Life's not meant to meant to be either. Life's not meant to be easy. Like, none of us are exonerated be easy. Like, none of us are exonerated be easy. Like, none of us are exonerated from the uncertainty, the hard work, from the uncertainty, the hard work, from the uncertainty, the hard work, right? And the and the struggles of life right? And the and the struggles of life right? And the and the struggles of life and the struggles of baseball, right? At and the struggles of baseball, right? At and the struggles of baseball, right? At at the end of the day. So, the power is at the end of the day. So, the power is at the end of the day. So, the power is in the gaps. And I thought about what is in the gaps. And I thought about what is in the gaps. And I thought about what is it, man? So the G of the gaps is that it, man? So the G of the gaps is that it, man? So the G of the gaps is that gratitude, man. gratitude, man. gratitude, man. >> Are we showing up every day? Are we >> Are we showing up every day? Are we >> Are we showing up every day? Are we connecting to what this is all about? connecting to what this is all about? connecting to what this is all about? Are we connecting to the gratitude of Are we connecting to the gratitude of Are we connecting to the gratitude of like when you wake up in the morning, like when you wake up in the morning, like when you wake up in the morning, are you are you saying, "Hey, thank are you are you saying, "Hey, thank are you are you saying, "Hey, thank you." you." you." >> Oh, man. I got I got to I I and I and I >> Oh, man. I got I got to I I and I and I >> Oh, man. I got I got to I I and I and I do I I say this I say this to my kids do I I say this I say this to my kids do I I say this I say this to my kids all the time. If they listen, they're all the time. If they listen, they're all the time. If they listen, they're probably going to listen to this podcast probably going to listen to this podcast probably going to listen to this podcast and they're like, "Oh, here goes dad and they're like, "Oh, here goes dad and they're like, "Oh, here goes dad jumping off this." Every morning I say jumping off this." Every morning I say jumping off this." Every morning I say to my kids, like my two daughters are to my kids, like my two daughters are to my kids, like my two daughters are still home, Carly and Julian at home, still home, Carly and Julian at home, still home, Carly and Julian at home, but my sons are in college and I still but my sons are in college and I still but my sons are in college and I still tell them and I say, "Hey, man. The tell them and I say, "Hey, man. The tell them and I say, "Hey, man. The chances you being here of a human being chances you being here of a human being chances you being here of a human being are one in 400 trillion. Right. And you are one in 400 trillion. Right. And you are one in 400 trillion. Right. And you know that too. You win the LIFE LOTTERY know that too. You win the LIFE LOTTERY know that too. You win the LIFE LOTTERY EVERY DAY. YEAH. EVERY DAY. YEAH. EVERY DAY. YEAH. >> Like Right. Right. And so like and I >> Like Right. Right. And so like and I >> Like Right. Right. And so like and I think of generational gratitude. Right. think of generational gratitude. Right. think of generational gratitude. Right. I think of this like so your parents had I think of this like so your parents had I think of this like so your parents had to meet then your grandparents had to to meet then your grandparents had to to meet then your grandparents had to meet and then if I go back to my my meet and then if I go back to my my meet and then if I go back to my my Irish heritage in County Cork Ireland Irish heritage in County Cork Ireland Irish heritage in County Cork Ireland the potato famine came. Some more cases the potato famine came. Some more cases the potato famine came. Some more cases had to decide to have kids. And then if had to decide to have kids. And then if had to decide to have kids. And then if you go back the generations it's like you go back the generations it's like you go back the generations it's like it's so ridiculous. a 10th generation it's so ridiculous. a 10th generation it's so ridiculous. a 10th generation grandparent. 4,000 of those people had grandparent. 4,000 of those people had grandparent. 4,000 of those people had TO GET TOGETHER. FRED, AM I LED TO BE TO GET TOGETHER. FRED, AM I LED TO BE TO GET TOGETHER. FRED, AM I LED TO BE HERE? HERE? HERE? >> CRAZY, >> CRAZY, >> CRAZY, >> RIGHT? IT'S INCREDIBLE. SO, HOWEVER >> RIGHT? IT'S INCREDIBLE. SO, HOWEVER >> RIGHT? IT'S INCREDIBLE. SO, HOWEVER AWESOME YOU THINK YOU ARE, and awesome AWESOME YOU THINK YOU ARE, and awesome AWESOME YOU THINK YOU ARE, and awesome thing you THINK YOU ARE, YEAH, YOU ARE. thing you THINK YOU ARE, YEAH, YOU ARE. thing you THINK YOU ARE, YEAH, YOU ARE. And I want to tell people that. I wanted And I want to tell people that. I wanted And I want to tell people that. I wanted to I want to be like, dude, to I want to be like, dude, to I want to be like, dude, >> Yuring, you're a walking lottery ticket, >> Yuring, you're a walking lottery ticket, >> Yuring, you're a walking lottery ticket, bro. Why don't you start living like it, bro. Why don't you start living like it, bro. Why don't you start living like it, >> right? Why don't you start living like >> right? Why don't you start living like >> right? Why don't you start living like it? And that's like that's that it? And that's like that's that it? And that's like that's that gratitude, right? Like, oh yeah, I got gratitude, right? Like, oh yeah, I got gratitude, right? Like, oh yeah, I got up. Boom. I hit that thing. Hey, thank up. Boom. I hit that thing. Hey, thank up. Boom. I hit that thing. Hey, thank you. you. you. >> Yeah. for the life force of that. My >> Yeah. for the life force of that. My >> Yeah. for the life force of that. My heart's going to pump today 100,000 heart's going to pump today 100,000 heart's going to pump today 100,000 times a day. I have no idea how that's times a day. I have no idea how that's times a day. I have no idea how that's happening. happening. happening. >> So true. >> So true. >> So true. >> It's the ultimate gift. I'm going to >> It's the ultimate gift. I'm going to >> It's the ultimate gift. I'm going to breathe 25,000 TIMES TODAY. HOW'S THAT breathe 25,000 TIMES TODAY. HOW'S THAT breathe 25,000 TIMES TODAY. HOW'S THAT HAPPENING, ED? I GOT 50 TRILLION CELLS HAPPENING, ED? I GOT 50 TRILLION CELLS HAPPENING, ED? I GOT 50 TRILLION CELLS digesting my food. What? digesting my food. What? digesting my food. What? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> I'm a walking miracle. And so are you. >> I'm a walking miracle. And so are you. >> I'm a walking miracle. And so are you. There's only one Edlet, man. There's 8 There's only one Edlet, man. There's 8 There's only one Edlet, man. There's 8 billion dudes out there and women. billion dudes out there and women. billion dudes out there and women. There's only one Ed my Mlet. There's There's only one Ed my Mlet. There's There's only one Ed my Mlet. There's only one Sean Case. And for anyone else only one Sean Case. And for anyone else only one Sean Case. And for anyone else out there, guess what? If you think life out there, guess what? If you think life out there, guess what? If you think life is tough and this and that, why don't is tough and this and that, why don't is tough and this and that, why don't you change it? Why don't you change the you change it? Why don't you change the you change it? Why don't you change the narrative? You start to look and you go, narrative? You start to look and you go, narrative? You start to look and you go, "No, no, no, no." The narrative really "No, no, no, no." The narrative really "No, no, no, no." The narrative really is, is, is, "You're one of a kind, brother. You're "You're one of a kind, brother. You're "You're one of a kind, brother. You're one of a kind." And we, if we all one of a kind." And we, if we all one of a kind." And we, if we all started to think like that, I don't started to think like that, I don't started to think like that, I don't know. I think the world will be a know. I think the world will be a know. I think the world will be a different place. That's how I think. different place. That's how I think. different place. That's how I think. Amen. Amen. Amen. >> So, when I say the powers in the gaps, >> So, when I say the powers in the gaps, >> So, when I say the powers in the gaps, it's in the gratitude, right? It's in it's in the gratitude, right? It's in it's in the gratitude, right? It's in the a the accountability for who you the a the accountability for who you the a the accountability for who you are, of how you think, of what are, of how you think, of what are, of how you think, of what narratives you tell yourself, of what narratives you tell yourself, of what narratives you tell yourself, of what are your stories. It's also in the are your stories. It's also in the are your stories. It's also in the perspective that you take in the P perspective that you take in the P perspective that you take in the P perspective in your process perspective in your process perspective in your process >> and the and the and the S of the gaps is >> and the and the and the S of the gaps is >> and the and the and the S of the gaps is it's also in the service. it's also in the service. it's also in the service. >> If you want to connect to the to this >> If you want to connect to the to this >> If you want to connect to the to this world and connect to people, hey man, world and connect to people, hey man, world and connect to people, hey man, serve someone. Serve somebody. How many serve someone. Serve somebody. How many serve someone. Serve somebody. How many times does somebody ask you for times does somebody ask you for times does somebody ask you for directions and you go, "Hey, beat it, directions and you go, "Hey, beat it, directions and you go, "Hey, beat it, dude." If somebody comes up to you, you dude." If somebody comes up to you, you dude." If somebody comes up to you, you ask you rush, you go, "Hey man, two ask you rush, you go, "Hey man, two ask you rush, you go, "Hey man, two blocks down here." If you're in blocks down here." If you're in blocks down here." If you're in Pittsburgh, you don't know the street Pittsburgh, you don't know the street Pittsburgh, you don't know the street names, you're like two blocks down here, names, you're like two blocks down here, names, you're like two blocks down here, don't know the street name, you make a don't know the street name, you make a don't know the street name, you make a left at the 7-Eleven, buff, dude. People left at the 7-Eleven, buff, dude. People left at the 7-Eleven, buff, dude. People want to help. People want to So find want to help. People want to So find want to help. People want to So find people to serve. You don't nec people to serve. You don't nec people to serve. You don't nec necessarily have to go to a soup kitchen necessarily have to go to a soup kitchen necessarily have to go to a soup kitchen or something. Serve your serve your or something. Serve your serve your or something. Serve your serve your kids. kids. kids. >> SERVE YOUR DAD if you have to when he's >> SERVE YOUR DAD if you have to when he's >> SERVE YOUR DAD if you have to when he's struggling or your mom or struggling or your mom or struggling or your mom or >> like you're doing. >> like you're doing. >> like you're doing. >> Yeah. Serve people that are in the >> Yeah. Serve people that are in the >> Yeah. Serve people that are in the grocery store. Say hi. grocery store. Say hi. grocery store. Say hi. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> You know what I mean? Cuz they're one >> You know what I mean? Cuz they're one >> You know what I mean? Cuz they're one cuz they're they're they're one of a cuz they're they're they're one of a cuz they're they're they're one of a kind, too. kind, too. kind, too. >> Yeah, bro. The gaps that fires me up. I >> Yeah, bro. The gaps that fires me up. I >> Yeah, bro. The gaps that fires me up. I don't know that I've ever felt that much don't know that I've ever felt that much don't know that I've ever felt that much energy from someone who's done this energy from someone who's done this energy from someone who's done this before. No, but I love it because like before. No, but I love it because like before. No, but I love it because like >> I also think a lot of things in life >> I also think a lot of things in life >> I also think a lot of things in life isn't our energy. isn't our energy. isn't our energy. >> It's actually how you feel. people. >> It's actually how you feel. people. >> It's actually how you feel. people. You're always making people feel You're always making people feel You're always making people feel something, something, something, >> right? >> right? >> right? >> It blows my mind how few human beings >> It blows my mind how few human beings >> It blows my mind how few human beings are intentional about that thing. Like are intentional about that thing. Like are intentional about that thing. Like you're always making another person feel you're always making another person feel you're always making another person feel something. So why not be intentional something. So why not be intentional something. So why not be intentional about what it is? By the way, you are about what it is? By the way, you are about what it is? By the way, you are always feeling something. Take some always feeling something. Take some always feeling something. Take some control over that, control over that, control over that, >> right? Take some control over your own >> right? Take some control over your own >> right? Take some control over your own energy. Energy is influence. Energy energy. Energy is influence. Energy energy. Energy is influence. Energy because people respond to what they feel because people respond to what they feel because people respond to what they feel way more than the actual words you say. way more than the actual words you say. way more than the actual words you say. Like this thing today, people are going Like this thing today, people are going Like this thing today, people are going to go, "THAT WAS UNBELIEVABLE. I almost to go, "THAT WAS UNBELIEVABLE. I almost to go, "THAT WAS UNBELIEVABLE. I almost drove off the road. They're they were at drove off the road. They're they were at drove off the road. They're they were at level six on the table. THEY'RE AT 10. level six on the table. THEY'RE AT 10. level six on the table. THEY'RE AT 10. AND WHEN IT'S DONE, they'll be two or AND WHEN IT'S DONE, they'll be two or AND WHEN IT'S DONE, they'll be two or three. They're going to remember the three. They're going to remember the three. They're going to remember the gaps. They're going to remember your gaps. They're going to remember your gaps. They're going to remember your high school story. But the end, they're high school story. But the end, they're high school story. But the end, they're going to remember how they felt, how you going to remember how they felt, how you going to remember how they felt, how you made them feel. That's how when you made them feel. That's how when you made them feel. That's how when you think about someone you love, you can't think about someone you love, you can't think about someone you love, you can't describe like they're smart. THEY'RE describe like they're smart. THEY'RE describe like they're smart. THEY'RE SICK. NO, IT'S HOW THEY MAKE YOU FEEL, SICK. NO, IT'S HOW THEY MAKE YOU FEEL, SICK. NO, IT'S HOW THEY MAKE YOU FEEL, RIGHT? SO, it's the how you feel part of RIGHT? SO, it's the how you feel part of RIGHT? SO, it's the how you feel part of your life. Like that's what's that's one your life. Like that's what's that's one your life. Like that's what's that's one of your magic things, man. Is like of your magic things, man. Is like of your magic things, man. Is like >> anytime I've listened to you, it's why I >> anytime I've listened to you, it's why I >> anytime I've listened to you, it's why I want people to follow you, too. Make want people to follow you, too. Make want people to follow you, too. Make sure what's Instagram for you. sure what's Instagram for you. sure what's Instagram for you. >> Uh my Instagram is at the mayor's office >> Uh my Instagram is at the mayor's office >> Uh my Instagram is at the mayor's office MLB. MLB. MLB. >> Yeah. What? By the way, what is at the >> Yeah. What? By the way, what is at the >> Yeah. What? By the way, what is at the mayor's? That's really not easy to mayor's? That's really not easy to mayor's? That's really not easy to remember. At the mayor's office. remember. At the mayor's office. remember. At the mayor's office. >> At the mayor's office MLB major league. >> At the mayor's office MLB major league. >> At the mayor's office MLB major league. >> What's the mayor thing, >> What's the mayor thing, >> What's the mayor thing, >> dude? The a guy who's the head coach at >> dude? The a guy who's the head coach at >> dude? The a guy who's the head coach at Ohio State right now. When I was in the Ohio State right now. When I was in the Ohio State right now. When I was in the Cape Cod League, it's got Bill Mosyello. Cape Cod League, it's got Bill Mosyello. Cape Cod League, it's got Bill Mosyello. >> Uh you know, he was like, he was a real >> Uh you know, he was like, he was a real >> Uh you know, he was like, he was a real serious guy at the time. And I'm like, serious guy at the time. And I'm like, serious guy at the time. And I'm like, man, this guy, I don't know if this guy man, this guy, I don't know if this guy man, this guy, I don't know if this guy likes me. He's so serious, you know, and likes me. He's so serious, you know, and likes me. He's so serious, you know, and I'm, you know, me. I'm coming in. Hey, I'm, you know, me. I'm coming in. Hey, I'm, you know, me. I'm coming in. Hey, what's going on? what's going on? what's going on? And he's like, "Bro," he's like, "Dude," And he's like, "Bro," he's like, "Dude," And he's like, "Bro," he's like, "Dude," he's like, "You talk to everybody." He he's like, "You talk to everybody." He he's like, "You talk to everybody." He goes, goes, goes, >> "It's almost like you're lobbying for >> "It's almost like you're lobbying for >> "It's almost like you're lobbying for votes to be the mayor or something, you votes to be the mayor or something, you votes to be the mayor or something, you know, know, know, >> and it kind of stuck." And then and I >> and it kind of stuck." And then and I >> and it kind of stuck." And then and I remember Carl Ravage one time I hit a remember Carl Ravage one time I hit a remember Carl Ravage one time I hit a ball in the gap in 1999. I I I I you ball in the gap in 1999. I I I I you ball in the gap in 1999. I I I I you know, slide in second base. He's like, know, slide in second base. He's like, know, slide in second base. He's like, "Hey." And there's a rocket right there "Hey." And there's a rocket right there "Hey." And there's a rocket right there by the they call him the mayor, Sean by the they call him the mayor, Sean by the they call him the mayor, Sean Case. And all of a sudden, Case. And all of a sudden, Case. And all of a sudden, >> you know, it just kind of stuck. So >> you know, it just kind of stuck. So >> you know, it just kind of stuck. So because I'm talking to everybody at because I'm talking to everybody at because I'm talking to everybody at first and dude, I don't know, man. It first and dude, I don't know, man. It first and dude, I don't know, man. It is. It's that energy when I remember is. It's that energy when I remember is. It's that energy when I remember like, you know, who's your favorite guy? like, you know, who's your favorite guy? like, you know, who's your favorite guy? Man, Lance Burkeman would come talk Man, Lance Burkeman would come talk Man, Lance Burkeman would come talk about energy, he'd come to first. It's a about energy, he'd come to first. It's a about energy, he'd come to first. It's a great conversation, but I just, you great conversation, but I just, you great conversation, but I just, you know, I love people, man. know, I love people, man. know, I love people, man. >> I think that energy is the most >> I think that energy is the most >> I think that energy is the most important thing. And I like when I when important thing. And I like when I when important thing. And I like when I when Romy told me to talk with you, he goes, Romy told me to talk with you, he goes, Romy told me to talk with you, he goes, "Dude, you're going to believe this "Dude, you're going to believe this "Dude, you're going to believe this guy's energy. You're literally not going guy's energy. You're literally not going guy's energy. You're literally not going to believe this dude's energy." And I to believe this dude's energy." And I to believe this dude's energy." And I had already watched you and knew you, had already watched you and knew you, had already watched you and knew you, but actually meeting you, it's like it's but actually meeting you, it's like it's but actually meeting you, it's like it's a fact. Like I root for you now. Like I a fact. Like I root for you now. Like I a fact. Like I root for you now. Like I root for you. I wish this was the root for you. I wish this was the root for you. I wish this was the conversation that's been had in the conversation that's been had in the conversation that's been had in the country the last three weeks and and is country the last three weeks and and is country the last three weeks and and is ongoing. you know, some disagreement. We ongoing. you know, some disagreement. We ongoing. you know, some disagreement. We said we're going to elevate the said we're going to elevate the said we're going to elevate the conversation a real information, real conversation a real information, real conversation a real information, real understanding of the dynamics and how understanding of the dynamics and how understanding of the dynamics and how things happen and how they work, things happen and how they work, things happen and how they work, decisions that are made. And this is how decisions that are made. And this is how decisions that are made. And this is how it should be because Rich and Rob don't it should be because Rich and Rob don't it should be because Rich and Rob don't agree on everything, right? And I don't agree on everything, right? And I don't agree on everything, right? And I don't agree with both of them on everything. agree with both of them on everything. agree with both of them on everything. And I have no basis for half of the And I have no basis for half of the And I have no basis for half of the things that I believe. That's why I've things that I believe. That's why I've things that I believe. That's why I've been asking these guys these questions been asking these guys these questions been asking these guys these questions today. But I what I Rob it made me think today. But I what I Rob it made me think today. But I what I Rob it made me think about about about you know the other thing with you guys you know the other thing with you guys you know the other thing with you guys that strikes me is the level of humility that strikes me is the level of humility that strikes me is the level of humility is so remarkable for the incredible is so remarkable for the incredible is so remarkable for the incredible things you've gone through and protected things you've gone through and protected things you've gone through and protected our country for protected the world for. our country for protected the world for. our country for protected the world for. And Rob, just for a minute, I don't And Rob, just for a minute, I don't And Rob, just for a minute, I don't you've been on the show. We've covered you've been on the show. We've covered you've been on the show. We've covered it before, and we don't have to go it before, and we don't have to go it before, and we don't have to go through the whole story, but I just through the whole story, but I just through the whole story, but I just think this stuff just sounds like a think this stuff just sounds like a think this stuff just sounds like a video game to even someone like me, video game to even someone like me, video game to even someone like me, right? These are just like it's it's right? These are just like it's it's right? These are just like it's it's literally a video game. Then there's the literally a video game. Then there's the literally a video game. Then there's the real world men and women that are on the real world men and women that are on the real world men and women that are on the ground protecting the world, protecting ground protecting the world, protecting ground protecting the world, protecting the country. And I've said this many the country. And I've said this many the country. And I've said this many times, Rob, since I've met you, when times, Rob, since I've met you, when times, Rob, since I've met you, when people ask me about you, I said that um people ask me about you, I said that um people ask me about you, I said that um whatever you were doing the day that uh whatever you were doing the day that uh whatever you were doing the day that uh Osama bin Laden was killed, whatever you Osama bin Laden was killed, whatever you Osama bin Laden was killed, whatever you were worried about, whatever was your were worried about, whatever was your were worried about, whatever was your big problem that day, imagine what big problem that day, imagine what big problem that day, imagine what O'Neal and his dudes were doing that O'Neal and his dudes were doing that O'Neal and his dudes were doing that day, day, day, >> what they were thinking, the bravery >> what they were thinking, the bravery >> what they were thinking, the bravery level of you and your your your partners level of you and your your your partners level of you and your your your partners there. I just want to take you through there. I just want to take you through there. I just want to take you through them. I want them just to feel this for them. I want them just to feel this for them. I want them just to feel this for a minute of what's gone on to give you a minute of what's gone on to give you a minute of what's gone on to give you the freedom to argue whether we should the freedom to argue whether we should the freedom to argue whether we should an open closed border, to go protest if an open closed border, to go protest if an open closed border, to go protest if you want to, to argue over guns, to you want to, to argue over guns, to you want to, to argue over guns, to argue over taxes, to vote in an argue over taxes, to vote in an argue over taxes, to vote in an election. These things matter. And I election. These things matter. And I election. These things matter. And I don't think people understand this. This don't think people understand this. This don't think people understand this. This is not promised forever. And there's is not promised forever. And there's is not promised forever. And there's guys like Rob and people like Rich that guys like Rob and people like Rich that guys like Rob and people like Rich that ensure the fact that we get to have ensure the fact that we get to have ensure the fact that we get to have these arguments where we live in our these arguments where we live in our these arguments where we live in our freedoms. So Rob, just the thing that freedoms. So Rob, just the thing that freedoms. So Rob, just the thing that you said to me about the Bin Laden raid, you said to me about the Bin Laden raid, you said to me about the Bin Laden raid, all of it's remarkable, all of it's remarkable, all of it's remarkable, >> but you said to me, I knew I was dead. >> but you said to me, I knew I was dead. >> but you said to me, I knew I was dead. >> I already dead. I was tired of thinking >> I already dead. I was tired of thinking >> I already dead. I was tired of thinking about it. I'm just going over here. Let about it. I'm just going over here. Let about it. I'm just going over here. Let me just die. I want you all imagine me just die. I want you all imagine me just die. I want you all imagine whatever you're worried about today. whatever you're worried about today. whatever you're worried about today. Whatever you're doing today. Whatever you're doing today. Whatever you're doing today. >> So take us just for a minute if you >> So take us just for a minute if you >> So take us just for a minute if you would in in brief, but just let them would in in brief, but just let them would in in brief, but just let them feel this for a minute. Everything's let feel this for a minute. Everything's let feel this for a minute. Everything's let up. You now know that it's him. You now up. You now know that it's him. You now up. You now know that it's him. You now know you're going to get him. And you're know you're going to get him. And you're know you're going to get him. And you're on the helicopter leaving Afghanistan on the helicopter leaving Afghanistan on the helicopter leaving Afghanistan coming over. What's going through? This coming over. What's going through? This coming over. What's going through? This is what has happened to protect us is what has happened to protect us is what has happened to protect us everybody. everybody. everybody. >> Well, I mean it's it's the it's the >> Well, I mean it's it's the it's the >> Well, I mean it's it's the it's the human element. U I mean there's there's human element. U I mean there's there's human element. U I mean there's there's humanity involved with everything. I humanity involved with everything. I humanity involved with everything. I don't care who who it is that you kill don't care who who it is that you kill don't care who who it is that you kill someone loved them and and you you get someone loved them and and you you get someone loved them and and you you get to a level where you're questioning are to a level where you're questioning are to a level where you're questioning are we killing each other just because we we killing each other just because we we killing each other just because we were born in different parts of the were born in different parts of the were born in different parts of the world. Had it been different would we world. Had it been different would we world. Had it been different would we have gotten along? Weird stuff like have gotten along? Weird stuff like have gotten along? Weird stuff like that. But I even had a conversation with that. But I even had a conversation with that. But I even had a conversation with my father right before I launched on the my father right before I launched on the my father right before I launched on the bin Laden raid. And he he would always bin Laden raid. And he he would always bin Laden raid. And he he would always say to me, um, I wish I was going with say to me, um, I wish I was going with say to me, um, I wish I was going with you. When I'd call him prior and I'd you. When I'd call him prior and I'd you. When I'd call him prior and I'd say, yeah, I wish you were too, Dad. at say, yeah, I wish you were too, Dad. at say, yeah, I wish you were too, Dad. at this time. He said, "I wish I was going this time. He said, "I wish I was going this time. He said, "I wish I was going with you." And I said, "Don't worry, with you." And I said, "Don't worry, with you." And I said, "Don't worry, Dad. I'm with some really great people." Dad. I'm with some really great people." Dad. I'm with some really great people." And so I knew I was going there with my And so I knew I was going there with my And so I knew I was going there with my my uh my brothers. Um and we knew that my uh my brothers. Um and we knew that my uh my brothers. Um and we knew that this is what we're here for. This is this is what we're here for. This is this is what we're here for. This is this is why we came. This is why we this is why we came. This is why we this is why we came. This is why we joined. And the acceptance once the joined. And the acceptance once the joined. And the acceptance once the acceptance of giving your life for the acceptance of giving your life for the acceptance of giving your life for the greater good. Uh you kind of lose the greater good. Uh you kind of lose the greater good. Uh you kind of lose the you kind of lose the fear a little bit you kind of lose the fear a little bit you kind of lose the fear a little bit because the realization that if I could because the realization that if I could because the realization that if I could I could pull myself off this mission any I could pull myself off this mission any I could pull myself off this mission any time, but I'm letting them down. And if time, but I'm letting them down. And if time, but I'm letting them down. And if I live to be 90 years old, what I give I live to be 90 years old, what I give I live to be 90 years old, what I give every single day to have one shot at every single day to have one shot at every single day to have one shot at this. This is why I'm here. I'm here to this. This is why I'm here. I'm here to this. This is why I'm here. I'm here to fight for the men and women that died in fight for the men and women that died in fight for the men and women that died in the tower. I'm here for the Americans, the tower. I'm here for the Americans, the tower. I'm here for the Americans, the first Americans to fight al-Qaeda on the first Americans to fight al-Qaeda on the first Americans to fight al-Qaeda on Flight 93. And before they fought Flight 93. And before they fought Flight 93. And before they fought al-Qaeda, they voted. And that's what's al-Qaeda, they voted. And that's what's al-Qaeda, they voted. And that's what's that's that's what America is. That's that's that's what America is. That's that's that's what America is. That's what the Western ideology is. That's what the Western ideology is. That's what the Western ideology is. That's freedom. And and there there's there's freedom. And and there there's there's freedom. And and there there's there's just so much there. It's it's I'm with just so much there. It's it's I'm with just so much there. It's it's I'm with these guys. I am I'm I I might die, but these guys. I am I'm I I might die, but these guys. I am I'm I I might die, but I'm safe. I'm good. And just getting I'm safe. I'm good. And just getting I'm safe. I'm good. And just getting there. Um to and just it's kind of like there. Um to and just it's kind of like there. Um to and just it's kind of like taking everything in because these are taking everything in because these are taking everything in because these are real people that can barely afford their real people that can barely afford their real people that can barely afford their mortgages. Now we're in a bad Pakistan mortgages. Now we're in a bad Pakistan mortgages. Now we're in a bad Pakistan and I was in the back because of where and I was in the back because of where and I was in the back because of where we ended up and I'm watching guys um we we ended up and I'm watching guys um we we ended up and I'm watching guys um we could blow up at any second but could blow up at any second but could blow up at any second but everyone's doing their jobs like we like everyone's doing their jobs like we like everyone's doing their jobs like we like we taught each other slowest smooth is we taught each other slowest smooth is we taught each other slowest smooth is fast but then like Rich said shooting fast but then like Rich said shooting fast but then like Rich said shooting someone but then running across the room someone but then running across the room someone but then running across the room to grab a child because I don't want to grab a child because I don't want to grab a child because I don't want that kid to be more afraid than he needs that kid to be more afraid than he needs that kid to be more afraid than he needs to be and just realizing these are the to be and just realizing these are the to be and just realizing these are the good guys and this is what we're good guys and this is what we're good guys and this is what we're fighting for. It's bigger than this. fighting for. It's bigger than this. fighting for. It's bigger than this. It's not just us here. this is for It's not just us here. this is for It's not just us here. this is for everyone. And when we got up to the everyone. And when we got up to the everyone. And when we got up to the room, I just followed a guy that was room, I just followed a guy that was room, I just followed a guy that was braver than me up the last set of braver than me up the last set of braver than me up the last set of stairs. And uh he went one way and I stairs. And uh he went one way and I stairs. And uh he went one way and I went the other. And after I even shot went the other. And after I even shot went the other. And after I even shot Bin Laden, um his two-year-old son was Bin Laden, um his two-year-old son was Bin Laden, um his two-year-old son was standing there. And I remember as a standing there. And I remember as a standing there. And I remember as a father thinking, "This poor kid has got father thinking, "This poor kid has got father thinking, "This poor kid has got nothing to do with this." So it's this nothing to do with this." So it's this nothing to do with this." So it's this is this is real human emotions. And and is this is real human emotions. And and is this is real human emotions. And and you know, bin Laden, you know, millions you know, bin Laden, you know, millions you know, bin Laden, you know, millions of people loved him. It's all because of of people loved him. It's all because of of people loved him. It's all because of different ideologies. That's all because different ideologies. That's all because different ideologies. That's all because of different educations. Was he an of different educations. Was he an of different educations. Was he an [ __ ] Yeah. Does he deserve to die? [ __ ] Yeah. Does he deserve to die? [ __ ] Yeah. Does he deserve to die? Absolutely. Do I feel bad we didn't take Absolutely. Do I feel bad we didn't take Absolutely. Do I feel bad we didn't take him alive? No. But, you know, this is him alive? No. But, you know, this is him alive? No. But, you know, this is what we're this this is it and these are what we're this this is it and these are what we're this this is it and these are these are the good guys and but then these are the good guys and but then these are the good guys and but then when you get away from it too, you know, when you get away from it too, you know, when you get away from it too, you know, this is a really big world, but it's a this is a really big world, but it's a this is a really big world, but it's a really small world and and and um you really small world and and and um you really small world and and and um you know, it's it's it's like uh you know, know, it's it's it's like uh you know, know, it's it's it's like uh you know, yes, we need to meet force with force at yes, we need to meet force with force at yes, we need to meet force with force at the point of origin and there needs to the point of origin and there needs to the point of origin and there needs to be people there willing to do it. Uh but be people there willing to do it. Uh but be people there willing to do it. Uh but but you know, there's a there's a there but you know, there's a there's a there but you know, there's a there's a there just there seems to me to be a bigger a just there seems to me to be a bigger a just there seems to me to be a bigger a bigger picture than that. We we bigger picture than that. We we bigger picture than that. We we mentioned people that have never been mentioned people that have never been mentioned people that have never been there and play the video games. Whenever there and play the video games. Whenever there and play the video games. Whenever I see someone walking down the street I see someone walking down the street I see someone walking down the street with a I like to kick doors and shooters with a I like to kick doors and shooters with a I like to kick doors and shooters in the face, my reaction is no, you in the face, my reaction is no, you in the face, my reaction is no, you don't because you've nevering done it. don't because you've nevering done it. don't because you've nevering done it. >> Yeah. And you could and you probably >> Yeah. And you could and you probably >> Yeah. And you could and you probably wouldn't be able to. Um it's funny. Let wouldn't be able to. Um it's funny. Let wouldn't be able to. Um it's funny. Let me just add one thing because it's me just add one thing because it's me just add one thing because it's interesting and I it was a conversation interesting and I it was a conversation interesting and I it was a conversation I had with another friend of uh a mutual I had with another friend of uh a mutual I had with another friend of uh a mutual friend of ours. Um obviously I won't friend of ours. Um obviously I won't friend of ours. Um obviously I won't give his name, but I remember he and I give his name, but I remember he and I give his name, but I remember he and I were were u at one point we came back were were u at one point we came back were were u at one point we came back and we were a little upset because we and we were a little upset because we and we were a little upset because we came back to a nation after, you know, I came back to a nation after, you know, I came back to a nation after, you know, I don't know what tour it was. Um, and it don't know what tour it was. Um, and it don't know what tour it was. Um, and it just seemed like everybody was just seemed like everybody was just seemed like everybody was hyperfocused on the Kardashians and and hyperfocused on the Kardashians and and hyperfocused on the Kardashians and and American Idol and all this stuff and and American Idol and all this stuff and and American Idol and all this stuff and and we were kind of frustrated. I remember we were kind of frustrated. I remember we were kind of frustrated. I remember us having coffee and we're talking about us having coffee and we're talking about us having coffee and we're talking about and and we came to a realization and the and and we came to a realization and the and and we came to a realization and the realization was was this and and again realization was was this and and again realization was was this and and again Rob will will feel this one. Um, we used Rob will will feel this one. Um, we used Rob will will feel this one. Um, we used to leave for these deployments usually to leave for these deployments usually to leave for these deployments usually in the middle of the night because of in the middle of the night because of in the middle of the night because of the way the flights worked, right? So so the way the flights worked, right? So so the way the flights worked, right? So so we'd have to go muster at like 11:00 we'd have to go muster at like 11:00 we'd have to go muster at like 11:00 p.m. and then get on the plane like p.m. and then get on the plane like p.m. and then get on the plane like midnight and and fly out. And so so my midnight and and fly out. And so so my midnight and and fly out. And so so my kids who were small, they were always in kids who were small, they were always in kids who were small, they were always in bed, you know, and I'd always go into bed, you know, and I'd always go into bed, you know, and I'd always go into their room and just watch them. And you their room and just watch them. And you their room and just watch them. And you know, every parent probably does this, know, every parent probably does this, know, every parent probably does this, but I always, you know, watch my I but I always, you know, watch my I but I always, you know, watch my I always used to watch my kids sleep, but always used to watch my kids sleep, but always used to watch my kids sleep, but especially on the nights that I was especially on the nights that I was especially on the nights that I was leaving, I'd go in and watch them and leaving, I'd go in and watch them and leaving, I'd go in and watch them and I'd wonder what they were dreaming I'd wonder what they were dreaming I'd wonder what they were dreaming about. And I would hope I always I about. And I would hope I always I about. And I would hope I always I always I hoped they were dreaming about always I hoped they were dreaming about always I hoped they were dreaming about like Disneyland and and sugar plums and like Disneyland and and sugar plums and like Disneyland and and sugar plums and ferry, whatever it is, right? Um and I ferry, whatever it is, right? Um and I ferry, whatever it is, right? Um and I realized and and my buddy and I realized realized and and my buddy and I realized realized and and my buddy and I realized that that's why we do it. We do it that that's why we do it. We do it that that's why we do it. We do it because um we don't want our kids to because um we don't want our kids to because um we don't want our kids to have to see the stuff we see. We don't have to see the stuff we see. We don't have to see the stuff we see. We don't want our kids to have to think about the want our kids to have to think about the want our kids to have to think about the stuff that we think about. We want to stuff that we think about. We want to stuff that we think about. We want to preserve a little bit of that blissful preserve a little bit of that blissful preserve a little bit of that blissful ignorance. Um, and and honestly, um, we ignorance. Um, and and honestly, um, we ignorance. Um, and and honestly, um, we do that happily. We do that with, uh, we do that happily. We do that with, uh, we do that happily. We do that with, uh, we do that, um, you know, with great pride. do that, um, you know, with great pride. do that, um, you know, with great pride. Uh, and and that's cool. It really is. Uh, and and that's cool. It really is. Uh, and and that's cool. It really is. And so, uh, and so I'm not mad at the And so, uh, and so I'm not mad at the And so, uh, and so I'm not mad at the Kardashians anymore. Kardashians anymore. Kardashians anymore. >> I just I you're you're both uh, >> I just I you're you're both uh, >> I just I you're you're both uh, >> you're supposed men. You just are. >> you're supposed men. You just are. >> you're supposed men. You just are. >> And, uh, takes my breath away. I I uh, >> And, uh, takes my breath away. I I uh, >> And, uh, takes my breath away. I I uh, when you talk, I get there's a sense of when you talk, I get there's a sense of when you talk, I get there's a sense of emotion in me. Um, that's not just emotion in me. Um, that's not just emotion in me. Um, that's not just gratitude. I'm not sure what it is uh gratitude. I'm not sure what it is uh gratitude. I'm not sure what it is uh with both of you. Every time I've talked with both of you. Every time I've talked with both of you. Every time I've talked with each of you, I'm curious. I don't with each of you, I'm curious. I don't with each of you, I'm curious. I don't think I've ever asked you this, Rob, and think I've ever asked you this, Rob, and think I've ever asked you this, Rob, and maybe you can't share it. Maybe you maybe you can't share it. Maybe you maybe you can't share it. Maybe you don't know. don't know. don't know. How is this how is this journey of How is this how is this journey of How is this how is this journey of yours? You spent most of your life doing yours? You spent most of your life doing yours? You spent most of your life doing this. Like, you were one guy when you this. Like, you were one guy when you this. Like, you were one guy when you were uh you're not even sure what group were uh you're not even sure what group were uh you're not even sure what group of the military you were joining of the military you were joining of the military you were joining initially, right? initially, right? initially, right? >> Yeah. And then you're another guy >> Yeah. And then you're another guy >> Yeah. And then you're another guy sitting there right now having had sitting there right now having had sitting there right now having had experiences that uh are unconscionable experiences that uh are unconscionable experiences that uh are unconscionable that almost no human being that's ever that almost no human being that's ever that almost no human being that's ever walked the earth has had the experiences walked the earth has had the experiences walked the earth has had the experiences you've had. Right? I mean you've had a a you've had. Right? I mean you've had a a you've had. Right? I mean you've had a a life experience situations and life experience situations and life experience situations and environments that uh the combination of environments that uh the combination of environments that uh the combination of which you may be the only one or one of which you may be the only one or one of which you may be the only one or one of the very few. the very few. the very few. >> Do you know how it's affected you? Do >> Do you know how it's affected you? Do >> Do you know how it's affected you? Do you do you do you can you describe it if you do you do you can you describe it if you do you do you can you describe it if you are even aware? Well, I'm just I'm you are even aware? Well, I'm just I'm you are even aware? Well, I'm just I'm just lucky because, you know, every day just lucky because, you know, every day just lucky because, you know, every day I used to I was fortunate to go to work I used to I was fortunate to go to work I used to I was fortunate to go to work with people who were better than me. But with people who were better than me. But with people who were better than me. But I learned being a a dude from Montana I learned being a a dude from Montana I learned being a a dude from Montana who joined the Navy basically because who joined the Navy basically because who joined the Navy basically because the Marine recruiter was in the office. the Marine recruiter was in the office. the Marine recruiter was in the office. I couldn't swim. And I ended up in Bin I couldn't swim. And I ended up in Bin I couldn't swim. And I ended up in Bin Laden's bedroom as a Navy Seal. It it Laden's bedroom as a Navy Seal. It it Laden's bedroom as a Navy Seal. It it was just it proved to me that uh it was just it proved to me that uh it was just it proved to me that uh it doesn't matter what you look like or doesn't matter what you look like or doesn't matter what you look like or where you're from, you can do anything where you're from, you can do anything where you're from, you can do anything as long as as long as you keep a as long as as long as you keep a as long as as long as you keep a positive attitude. One of the things in positive attitude. One of the things in positive attitude. One of the things in SEAL training that an instructor said to SEAL training that an instructor said to SEAL training that an instructor said to me the the a bridge version was when you me the the a bridge version was when you me the the a bridge version was when you feel like quitting which you will do not feel like quitting which you will do not feel like quitting which you will do not quit now quit tomorrow. If you can keep quit now quit tomorrow. If you can keep quit now quit tomorrow. If you can keep quitting tomorrow you can do anything quitting tomorrow you can do anything quitting tomorrow you can do anything anything you want to do in life just anything you want to do in life just anything you want to do in life just wait till I was going to quit today but wait till I was going to quit today but wait till I was going to quit today but I'll just quit tomorrow and quit I'll just quit tomorrow and quit I'll just quit tomorrow and quit tomorrow and then uh and as far as find tomorrow and then uh and as far as find tomorrow and then uh and as far as find that was the best experience of my life. that was the best experience of my life. that was the best experience of my life. I missed a lot of time in the United I missed a lot of time in the United I missed a lot of time in the United States. I miss a lot of time away from States. I miss a lot of time away from States. I miss a lot of time away from my daughters, but um I was over there my daughters, but um I was over there my daughters, but um I was over there and it's it when you get into the when and it's it when you get into the when and it's it when you get into the when you're the number two man, number three you're the number two man, number three you're the number two man, number three man going through the door. You're no man going through the door. You're no man going through the door. You're no longer fighting for the political party longer fighting for the political party longer fighting for the political party in charge. You're fighting for the men in charge. You're fighting for the men in charge. You're fighting for the men and women next to you. And and so it's and women next to you. And and so it's and women next to you. And and so it's very important for a lot of these very important for a lot of these very important for a lot of these veterans to realize what what they did veterans to realize what what they did veterans to realize what what they did was not in vain because it comes to a was not in vain because it comes to a was not in vain because it comes to a point where someone needs to take a point where someone needs to take a point where someone needs to take a stand and you took the stand and and stand and you took the stand and and stand and you took the stand and and that's it. There's people that don't that's it. There's people that don't that's it. There's people that don't have the platforms that that I do. Um have the platforms that that I do. Um have the platforms that that I do. Um they they need the recognition. you they they need the recognition. you they they need the recognition. you know, the the Marines that were out know, the the Marines that were out know, the the Marines that were out there walking in the ridiculously hot there walking in the ridiculously hot there walking in the ridiculously hot sun through the minefields with the sun through the minefields with the sun through the minefields with the people next to them who've seen their people next to them who've seen their people next to them who've seen their brothers and sisters killed in action. brothers and sisters killed in action. brothers and sisters killed in action. What they did was not in vain. And the What they did was not in vain. And the What they did was not in vain. And the message I would just tell them is is um message I would just tell them is is um message I would just tell them is is um you know, a lot of people are going you know, a lot of people are going you know, a lot of people are going through it. And the important thing is through it. And the important thing is through it. And the important thing is once in a while um don't try to once in a while um don't try to once in a while um don't try to self-medicate. You know, put the bottle self-medicate. You know, put the bottle self-medicate. You know, put the bottle down, call someone. Even if you're if down, call someone. Even if you're if down, call someone. Even if you're if you're having a bad day, call someone you're having a bad day, call someone you're having a bad day, call someone because they might be having a good day. because they might be having a good day. because they might be having a good day. And when you're, you know, when you or And when you're, you know, when you or And when you're, you know, when you or you're having a great day and you get you're having a great day and you get you're having a great day and you get out of the gym and you have the out of the gym and you have the out of the gym and you have the endorphins going, call someone because endorphins going, call someone because endorphins going, call someone because they might be having a bad day and we they might be having a bad day and we they might be having a bad day and we can get through this together. You know, can get through this together. You know, can get through this together. You know, it's nothing you did was in vain. It it's nothing you did was in vain. It it's nothing you did was in vain. It doesn't, you know, it doesn't matter who doesn't, you know, it doesn't matter who doesn't, you know, it doesn't matter who made a bad decision. You you made the made a bad decision. You you made the made a bad decision. You you made the right decision to be there. And again, right decision to be there. And again, right decision to be there. And again, we're the good guys. we're the good guys. we're the good guys. >> Oh my god. >> Oh my god. >> Oh my god. >> Well, let me I'll add something because >> Well, let me I'll add something because >> Well, let me I'll add something because I think this is one of our I lost while I think this is one of our I lost while I think this is one of our I lost while we lost several friends. I lost one of we lost several friends. I lost one of we lost several friends. I lost one of my friends right before I got out of the my friends right before I got out of the my friends right before I got out of the the Navy actually and we were we wrapped the Navy actually and we were we wrapped the Navy actually and we were we wrapped over and we were receiving his his over and we were receiving his his over and we were receiving his his remains. And it was a bunch of us remains. And it was a bunch of us remains. And it was a bunch of us buddies who who did that. And and uh one buddies who who did that. And and uh one buddies who who did that. And and uh one of our one of the guys pulled us all of our one of the guys pulled us all of our one of the guys pulled us all into a room. He said, "Hey guys, let's into a room. He said, "Hey guys, let's into a room. He said, "Hey guys, let's just get in the room here for a second." just get in the room here for a second." just get in the room here for a second." Um, and he said, 'Hey, um, we need to Um, and he said, 'Hey, um, we need to Um, and he said, 'Hey, um, we need to tell each other we love each other more tell each other we love each other more tell each other we love each other more often. often. often. >> We need to we need to remember to do >> We need to we need to remember to do >> We need to we need to remember to do that, okay? We're not doing it enough. that, okay? We're not doing it enough. that, okay? We're not doing it enough. Um, and so that's what I would say to Um, and so that's what I would say to Um, and so that's what I would say to everybody out there. Tell the people everybody out there. Tell the people everybody out there. Tell the people that you care about that you love them that you care about that you love them that you care about that you love them more often, okay? Because cuz it only more often, okay? Because cuz it only more often, okay? Because cuz it only does good. It really does. And I know does good. It really does. And I know does good. It really does. And I know you you have couple Well, we're not Navy you you have couple Well, we're not Navy you you have couple Well, we're not Navy Seals anymore. We're former Navy Seals, Seals anymore. We're former Navy Seals, Seals anymore. We're former Navy Seals, right? But couple former Navy Seals right? But couple former Navy Seals right? But couple former Navy Seals here. And if we can sit here and tell here. And if we can sit here and tell here. And if we can sit here and tell people to tell them tell people that you people to tell them tell people that you people to tell them tell people that you love them more often, uh, do it right. love them more often, uh, do it right. love them more often, uh, do it right. This is what we need in this country. We This is what we need in this country. We This is what we need in this country. We need to love each other more. We need to need to love each other more. We need to need to love each other more. We need to have empathy. It's okay to disagree with have empathy. It's okay to disagree with have empathy. It's okay to disagree with each other. What's not okay is if we each other. What's not okay is if we each other. What's not okay is if we don't talk to each other. Um, so don't talk to each other. Um, so don't talk to each other. Um, so empathy, love, and discourse is what we empathy, love, and discourse is what we empathy, love, and discourse is what we need. need. need. >> Oh my god. >> Oh my god. >> Oh my god. >> Now, do you see why he was such a great >> Now, do you see why he was such a great >> Now, do you see why he was such a great leader? That's another line I'm going to leader? That's another line I'm going to leader? That's another line I'm going to steal from Rich. steal from Rich. steal from Rich. >> Yeah, it's mine, too. I got it, too. I >> Yeah, it's mine, too. I got it, too. I >> Yeah, it's mine, too. I got it, too. I got it. So, last, by the way, you guys, got it. So, last, by the way, you guys, got it. So, last, by the way, you guys, it goes without saying. Thank you. It's it goes without saying. Thank you. It's it goes without saying. Thank you. It's uh I keep getting emotions because I uh I keep getting emotions because I uh I keep getting emotions because I know how special this conversation is. I know how special this conversation is. I know how special this conversation is. I know that so many people needed it. I know that so many people needed it. I know that so many people needed it. I kind of feel like well you guys need it kind of feel like well you guys need it kind of feel like well you guys need it too like all your brothers. too like all your brothers. too like all your brothers. >> No, no doubt. No doubt. >> No, no doubt. No doubt. >> No, no doubt. No doubt. >> Somebody who's going through they're on >> Somebody who's going through they're on >> Somebody who's going through they're on the bottom right now. Right now in their the bottom right now. Right now in their the bottom right now. Right now in their life they're like man I'm I'm I'm down life they're like man I'm I'm I'm down life they're like man I'm I'm I'm down right now. You know I just nothing's right now. You know I just nothing's right now. You know I just nothing's working out. You know I working out. You know I working out. You know I my business just failed or I just broke my business just failed or I just broke my business just failed or I just broke up with my relationship or man just up with my relationship or man just up with my relationship or man just nothing I've done's been clicking for nothing I've done's been clicking for nothing I've done's been clicking for years. I don't feel good about myself. years. I don't feel good about myself. years. I don't feel good about myself. I'm down. And this may sound like an I'm down. And this may sound like an I'm down. And this may sound like an interesting metaphor, but they need sort interesting metaphor, but they need sort interesting metaphor, but they need sort of a life version of CPR to get back up of a life version of CPR to get back up of a life version of CPR to get back up again. They need some life breathed back again. They need some life breathed back again. They need some life breathed back into them, literally. into them, literally. into them, literally. >> What would you say to somebody who's >> What would you say to somebody who's >> What would you say to somebody who's just down right now and wants to make a just down right now and wants to make a just down right now and wants to make a comeback? What would you say to that comeback? What would you say to that comeback? What would you say to that person who's struggling with that right person who's struggling with that right person who's struggling with that right now? now? now? >> First thing I would say is, man, you >> First thing I would say is, man, you >> First thing I would say is, man, you can't you can't conquer the world in one can't you can't conquer the world in one can't you can't conquer the world in one day. So, you know, just take yourself day. So, you know, just take yourself day. So, you know, just take yourself out of that big perspective and see how out of that big perspective and see how out of that big perspective and see how you can take one step and put the right you can take one step and put the right you can take one step and put the right foot in front of the left foot, you foot in front of the left foot, you foot in front of the left foot, you know. Um, something I've heard a while know. Um, something I've heard a while know. Um, something I've heard a while is you can't sit in the pool of pity, is you can't sit in the pool of pity, is you can't sit in the pool of pity, you know. So, even when you feel that you know. So, even when you feel that you know. So, even when you feel that feeling of, you know, you want to harp feeling of, you know, you want to harp feeling of, you know, you want to harp on your your situation or your on your your situation or your on your your situation or your circumstances too much, get up and move. circumstances too much, get up and move. circumstances too much, get up and move. Like literally, I mean, get up and move, Like literally, I mean, get up and move, Like literally, I mean, get up and move, you know, so you can get yourself out of you know, so you can get yourself out of you know, so you can get yourself out of the feeling before you get sunk too deep the feeling before you get sunk too deep the feeling before you get sunk too deep into it. Um, that's the first way I into it. Um, that's the first way I into it. Um, that's the first way I would say just, you know, to deal with would say just, you know, to deal with would say just, you know, to deal with the emotions that come off of your the emotions that come off of your the emotions that come off of your situation. Don't allow yourself to sit situation. Don't allow yourself to sit situation. Don't allow yourself to sit in it, get up and move. And don't think in it, get up and move. And don't think in it, get up and move. And don't think you can just know that you can't conquer you can just know that you can't conquer you can just know that you can't conquer the world on one day. So, wherever it is the world on one day. So, wherever it is the world on one day. So, wherever it is you want to be, you know, you got to you want to be, you know, you got to you want to be, you know, you got to take it step by step, one day at a time. take it step by step, one day at a time. take it step by step, one day at a time. You know, I knew that I had to take it You know, I knew that I had to take it You know, I knew that I had to take it step by step, one day at a time. I step by step, one day at a time. I step by step, one day at a time. I couldn't worry about, you know, trying couldn't worry about, you know, trying couldn't worry about, you know, trying to suit up and play in the playoffs to suit up and play in the playoffs to suit up and play in the playoffs again or I would have drove myself again or I would have drove myself again or I would have drove myself crazy. Literally, I would have drove crazy. Literally, I would have drove crazy. Literally, I would have drove myself insane. I had to know that it's myself insane. I had to know that it's myself insane. I had to know that it's going to be a journey. And even through going to be a journey. And even through going to be a journey. And even through this season that I just went through, I this season that I just went through, I this season that I just went through, I you know, people deal with ACL's and you know, people deal with ACL's and you know, people deal with ACL's and don't come back in the time period that don't come back in the time period that don't come back in the time period that I did or any other injuries that don't I did or any other injuries that don't I did or any other injuries that don't come back in the time period that I did. come back in the time period that I did. come back in the time period that I did. So, I know it's going to be a journey. So, I know it's going to be a journey. So, I know it's going to be a journey. Even when some people return off of Even when some people return off of Even when some people return off of ACL's, they're not they're not their ACL's, they're not they're not their ACL's, they're not they're not their same selves that first season off their same selves that first season off their same selves that first season off their back. They need time. They need steps. back. They need time. They need steps. back. They need time. They need steps. They got to put the right foot in front They got to put the right foot in front They got to put the right foot in front of the left and they got to walk the of the left and they got to walk the of the left and they got to walk the journey. They got to go through the ugly journey. They got to go through the ugly journey. They got to go through the ugly phases. You know, I feel like I just phases. You know, I feel like I just phases. You know, I feel like I just went through ugly phase this whole went through ugly phase this whole went through ugly phase this whole season. You know what I mean? But I'm season. You know what I mean? But I'm season. You know what I mean? But I'm super proud of myself, you know? So, go super proud of myself, you know? So, go super proud of myself, you know? So, go through the ugly phases. Don't be afraid through the ugly phases. Don't be afraid through the ugly phases. Don't be afraid of it. Embrace it. That's the big that's of it. Embrace it. That's the big that's of it. Embrace it. That's the big that's the biggest part of it all. Focus on the biggest part of it all. Focus on the biggest part of it all. Focus on take one foot in front of the right. Go take one foot in front of the right. Go take one foot in front of the right. Go through the ugly phases and just through the ugly phases and just through the ugly phases and just continue to try to get better one day at continue to try to get better one day at continue to try to get better one day at a time, one step at a time, and write a time, one step at a time, and write a time, one step at a time, and write down what you feel is necessary to down what you feel is necessary to down what you feel is necessary to accomplish what you want to get done. accomplish what you want to get done. accomplish what you want to get done. And then follow it. Make no negotiations And then follow it. Make no negotiations And then follow it. Make no negotiations with yourself whenever you set the plan with yourself whenever you set the plan with yourself whenever you set the plan out. Like if you say you're going to do out. Like if you say you're going to do out. Like if you say you're going to do certain things at certain times or with certain things at certain times or with certain things at certain times or with certain people, make sure you do them. certain people, make sure you do them. certain people, make sure you do them. You know what I mean? Hold yourself to a You know what I mean? Hold yourself to a You know what I mean? Hold yourself to a different standard and accountability so different standard and accountability so different standard and accountability so that you can get out of your situation. that you can get out of your situation. that you can get out of your situation. You know, you can't get out of a You know, you can't get out of a You know, you can't get out of a situation doing the same things that put situation doing the same things that put situation doing the same things that put you into the situation. you into the situation. you into the situation. So, you know, that's that's like So, you know, that's that's like So, you know, that's that's like insanity, doing the same things and insanity, doing the same things and insanity, doing the same things and expecting different results, you know, expecting different results, you know, expecting different results, you know, and I'm kind of I'm kind of uh, you and I'm kind of I'm kind of uh, you and I'm kind of I'm kind of uh, you know, preaching that message to, you know, preaching that message to, you know, preaching that message to, you know, a lot of my personal friends in my know, a lot of my personal friends in my know, a lot of my personal friends in my life, you know, who are, you know, they life, you know, who are, you know, they life, you know, who are, you know, they complain about certain things or they complain about certain things or they complain about certain things or they bring certain things to my attention and bring certain things to my attention and bring certain things to my attention and then, you know, they keep doing the same then, you know, they keep doing the same then, you know, they keep doing the same things. you know, I'm I'm at the point things. you know, I'm I'm at the point things. you know, I'm I'm at the point where it's like, you know, if you gonna where it's like, you know, if you gonna where it's like, you know, if you gonna keep dealing with the same certain type keep dealing with the same certain type keep dealing with the same certain type of things, don't even tell me because of things, don't even tell me because of things, don't even tell me because like don't don't sit up here and just like don't don't sit up here and just like don't don't sit up here and just waste all my time when you okay with waste all my time when you okay with waste all my time when you okay with accepting the same things that got you accepting the same things that got you accepting the same things that got you where you are. If you want to get where you are. If you want to get where you are. If you want to get yourself to a different situation, you yourself to a different situation, you yourself to a different situation, you got to do different things to get got to do different things to get got to do different things to get different results. different results. different results. >> Yeah, >> Yeah, >> Yeah, >> that's my that's my perspective on it. >> that's my that's my perspective on it. >> that's my that's my perspective on it. >> That's so good. I brother, I'm just >> That's so good. I brother, I'm just >> That's so good. I brother, I'm just sitting here going, you got to be sitting here going, you got to be sitting here going, you got to be kidding me. This is so good. You know kidding me. This is so good. You know kidding me. This is so good. You know what you are? You're a great perspective what you are? You're a great perspective what you are? You're a great perspective giver. Just you who you are. I got to giver. Just you who you are. I got to giver. Just you who you are. I got to tell you today was a particularly not tell you today was a particularly not tell you today was a particularly not great morning for me and uh I was great morning for me and uh I was great morning for me and uh I was talking to my daughter and uh I said uh talking to my daughter and uh I said uh talking to my daughter and uh I said uh she goes, "How you doing today, daddy?" she goes, "How you doing today, daddy?" she goes, "How you doing today, daddy?" I said, "I'm I'm not having a great I said, "I'm I'm not having a great I said, "I'm I'm not having a great morning, Bella. I'm not having a good morning, Bella. I'm not having a good morning, Bella. I'm not having a good day." day." day." >> And then we hung up and I was kind of >> And then we hung up and I was kind of >> And then we hung up and I was kind of just re I've been so excited about this just re I've been so excited about this just re I've been so excited about this interview for so long. It's kind of like interview for so long. It's kind of like interview for so long. It's kind of like re-preparing a little bit. And then I re-preparing a little bit. And then I re-preparing a little bit. And then I literally said to myself, I just literally said to myself, I just literally said to myself, I just everybody hear this for whatever you're everybody hear this for whatever you're everybody hear this for whatever you're going through. I said, ' Really? You're going through. I said, ' Really? You're going through. I said, ' Really? You're not having a great day compared to what? not having a great day compared to what? not having a great day compared to what? The day Demar had on January 2nd, 2023. The day Demar had on January 2nd, 2023. The day Demar had on January 2nd, 2023. In that moment, that's a bad day In that moment, that's a bad day In that moment, that's a bad day compared to me. I had a couple meetings compared to me. I had a couple meetings compared to me. I had a couple meetings not go the right way. Right. not go the right way. Right. not go the right way. Right. >> And this man was in front of millions of >> And this man was in front of millions of >> And this man was in front of millions of people literally fighting for his life. people literally fighting for his life. people literally fighting for his life. Does Does it give you a perspective, Does Does it give you a perspective, Does Does it give you a perspective, brother? Like when you're having what brother? Like when you're having what brother? Like when you're having what was used to be a bad day, you're like, was used to be a bad day, you're like, was used to be a bad day, you're like, "Well, not compared to like compared to "Well, not compared to like compared to "Well, not compared to like compared to what, right?" Do you ever have that what, right?" Do you ever have that what, right?" Do you ever have that thought? Does it give you perspective on thought? Does it give you perspective on thought? Does it give you perspective on that? that? that? >> Man, every day. Every day to be honest. >> Man, every day. Every day to be honest. >> Man, every day. Every day to be honest. You know, there's no day where I can, You know, there's no day where I can, You know, there's no day where I can, you know, allow myself to get too low you know, allow myself to get too low you know, allow myself to get too low anymore because, you know, I have the anymore because, you know, I have the anymore because, you know, I have the appreciation of life, you know. So, no appreciation of life, you know. So, no appreciation of life, you know. So, no matter what's going on in life, just to matter what's going on in life, just to matter what's going on in life, just to still be here is a blessing because we still be here is a blessing because we still be here is a blessing because we all know some people who who are not all know some people who who are not all know some people who who are not >> and we all wish that we could have some >> and we all wish that we could have some >> and we all wish that we could have some people still with us. So no matter my people still with us. So no matter my people still with us. So no matter my situation, I'm able to allow myself to situation, I'm able to allow myself to situation, I'm able to allow myself to appreciate something. You know, it's appreciate something. You know, it's appreciate something. You know, it's it's hard to appreciate everything. You it's hard to appreciate everything. You it's hard to appreciate everything. You know, especially when, you know, for the know, especially when, you know, for the know, especially when, you know, for the people that are listening, especially people that are listening, especially people that are listening, especially when, you know, you're going through when, you know, you're going through when, you know, you're going through situations where your emotions are situations where your emotions are situations where your emotions are rising and, you know, you you're feeling rising and, you know, you you're feeling rising and, you know, you you're feeling whatever you're feeling the most. But whatever you're feeling the most. But whatever you're feeling the most. But I'm always able to to bring myself to I'm always able to to bring myself to I'm always able to to bring myself to appreciate at least one thing, no matter appreciate at least one thing, no matter appreciate at least one thing, no matter what it is, no matter if it's the what it is, no matter if it's the what it is, no matter if it's the ability to still play football, because ability to still play football, because ability to still play football, because that could have been taken away from me. that could have been taken away from me. that could have been taken away from me. No matter if it's, you know, just No matter if it's, you know, just No matter if it's, you know, just appreciating family, appreciating family, appreciating family, my little brother, my mom, my dad, you my little brother, my mom, my dad, you my little brother, my mom, my dad, you know, no matter if it's just, you know, know, no matter if it's just, you know, know, no matter if it's just, you know, appreciating a deep breath, man, or appreciating a deep breath, man, or appreciating a deep breath, man, or appreciating wherever I am in the world, appreciating wherever I am in the world, appreciating wherever I am in the world, you know, if I'm in California, if I'm you know, if I'm in California, if I'm you know, if I'm in California, if I'm in at home, if I'm anywhere in the in at home, if I'm anywhere in the in at home, if I'm anywhere in the world, you know, I always bring myself world, you know, I always bring myself world, you know, I always bring myself to find at least one thing that I can to find at least one thing that I can to find at least one thing that I can appreciate and it shapes your appreciate and it shapes your appreciate and it shapes your perspective differently. It really does. perspective differently. It really does. perspective differently. It really does. >> Wow, brother. I love you. I'm two >> Wow, brother. I love you. I'm two >> Wow, brother. I love you. I'm two things. I got one last question. One, things. I got one last question. One, things. I got one last question. One, I'm grateful for you. I'm grateful for you. I'm grateful for you. >> You as well. I thank you for this. This >> You as well. I thank you for this. This >> You as well. I thank you for this. This was therapy for me. was therapy for me. was therapy for me. >> Good. Well, me too. And millions of >> Good. Well, me too. And millions of >> Good. Well, me too. And millions of people. The second thing is I just as a people. The second thing is I just as a people. The second thing is I just as a brother, I'm proud. Shoot, I'm getting brother, I'm proud. Shoot, I'm getting brother, I'm proud. Shoot, I'm getting I'm just very proud of you. I'm just very proud of you. I'm just very proud of you. >> Very proud of you. You're uh you're >> Very proud of you. You're uh you're >> Very proud of you. You're uh you're remarkable. remarkable. remarkable. >> All right, a football question because >> All right, a football question because >> All right, a football question because they'll be pissed if I don't ask. they'll be pissed if I don't ask. they'll be pissed if I don't ask. >> So, are you a free agent? >> So, are you a free agent? >> So, are you a free agent? >> No. >> No. >> No. >> Okay. So, you're on the Buffalo Bills. >> Okay. So, you're on the Buffalo Bills. >> Okay. So, you're on the Buffalo Bills. I'm a Buffalo Bill. I'm a Buffalo Bill. I'm a Buffalo Bill. >> Okay. Cuz cuz I read something today. >> Okay. Cuz cuz I read something today. >> Okay. Cuz cuz I read something today. Bills Mafia. I read something today. You Bills Mafia. I read something today. You Bills Mafia. I read something today. You know what I'm going to ask you about? know what I'm going to ask you about? know what I'm going to ask you about? They were like, "Hey, I wouldn't mind They were like, "Hey, I wouldn't mind They were like, "Hey, I wouldn't mind ending my career playing for the ending my career playing for the ending my career playing for the Steelers, right? Steelers, right? Steelers, right? >> Is that an accurate quote? Like I just >> Is that an accurate quote? Like I just >> Is that an accurate quote? Like I just make you awkward. I asked you. I didn't make you awkward. I asked you. I didn't make you awkward. I asked you. I didn't push you too hard on what happened on push you too hard on what happened on push you too hard on what happened on the field, so I got to like is I People the field, so I got to like is I People the field, so I got to like is I People want to know what's going to happen with want to know what's going to happen with want to know what's going to happen with this young man. So, we know you're this young man. So, we know you're this young man. So, we know you're you're a Bill, but is there a little you're a Bill, but is there a little you're a Bill, but is there a little party you eventually would love to party you eventually would love to party you eventually would love to finish up with the Steelers or you want finish up with the Steelers or you want finish up with the Steelers or you want to be a Bill for life? I want to be a to be a Bill for life? I want to be a to be a Bill for life? I want to be a Bill for life. You know, that's the team Bill for life. You know, that's the team Bill for life. You know, that's the team that truly took a chance on me and gave that truly took a chance on me and gave that truly took a chance on me and gave me opportunity, you know, to show what I me opportunity, you know, to show what I me opportunity, you know, to show what I can do. You know, I'm a late round draft can do. You know, I'm a late round draft can do. You know, I'm a late round draft pick. Um throughout the whole entire pick. Um throughout the whole entire pick. Um throughout the whole entire draft, you know, I watch my name sit as draft, you know, I watch my name sit as draft, you know, I watch my name sit as the first name to best taken, you know, the first name to best taken, you know, the first name to best taken, you know, for like two, three rounds. Um you know, for like two, three rounds. Um you know, for like two, three rounds. Um you know, and I'm just like, will I ever get my and I'm just like, will I ever get my and I'm just like, will I ever get my opportunity? You know, I knew I had what opportunity? You know, I knew I had what opportunity? You know, I knew I had what it takes, you know, but you know, it takes, you know, but you know, it takes, you know, but you know, opportunity opportunity opportunity like preparation doesn't always meet like preparation doesn't always meet like preparation doesn't always meet opportunity. I was prepared, but I opportunity. I was prepared, but I opportunity. I was prepared, but I didn't know if the opportunity was gonna didn't know if the opportunity was gonna didn't know if the opportunity was gonna come. So, you know, the Bills when they come. So, you know, the Bills when they come. So, you know, the Bills when they selected me. Um, you know, I was I was I selected me. Um, you know, I was I was I selected me. Um, you know, I was I was I felt so blessed, you know, and I didn't felt so blessed, you know, and I didn't felt so blessed, you know, and I didn't know anything about Buffalo. I didn't know anything about Buffalo. I didn't know anything about Buffalo. I didn't know anything about Bills Mafia at the know anything about Bills Mafia at the know anything about Bills Mafia at the time, but you know, it didn't take long time, but you know, it didn't take long time, but you know, it didn't take long for me to for them to show me who for me to for them to show me who for me to for them to show me who exactly who they were. Um, and you know, exactly who they were. Um, and you know, exactly who they were. Um, and you know, for me personally, and then doing my for me personally, and then doing my for me personally, and then doing my research as well, just seeing how they research as well, just seeing how they research as well, just seeing how they treated their players, how they treat treated their players, how they treat treated their players, how they treat other players on other teams, you know, other players on other teams, you know, other players on other teams, you know, like donated $80,000 to other people's like donated $80,000 to other people's like donated $80,000 to other people's team, like to other teams, foundations, team, like to other teams, foundations, team, like to other teams, foundations, like like like >> it was it was just unbelievable of like >> it was it was just unbelievable of like >> it was it was just unbelievable of like the support that Bills Mafia has for the the support that Bills Mafia has for the the support that Bills Mafia has for the players of the Buffalo Bills. So, first players of the Buffalo Bills. So, first players of the Buffalo Bills. So, first and foremost, I want to clear all ear. I and foremost, I want to clear all ear. I and foremost, I want to clear all ear. I want to be a Buffalo Bill for life want to be a Buffalo Bill for life want to be a Buffalo Bill for life because that's the team that took a because that's the team that took a because that's the team that took a chance on me. Um, when I answered that chance on me. Um, when I answered that chance on me. Um, when I answered that question, you know, I answered it from question, you know, I answered it from question, you know, I answered it from the perspective of, you know, a the perspective of, you know, a the perspective of, you know, a childhood perspective. You know, a kid childhood perspective. You know, a kid childhood perspective. You know, a kid that, you know, grew up his entire life, that, you know, grew up his entire life, that, you know, grew up his entire life, like I told you, man, I had the dream like I told you, man, I had the dream like I told you, man, I had the dream for a long time. I had the dream for a for a long time. I had the dream for a for a long time. I had the dream for a long time. Uh, you know, just making it long time. Uh, you know, just making it long time. Uh, you know, just making it to the NFL and just being able to have to the NFL and just being able to have to the NFL and just being able to have an opportunity to, you know, take care an opportunity to, you know, take care an opportunity to, you know, take care of my family and give back to my of my family and give back to my of my family and give back to my community, something that I I didn't community, something that I I didn't community, something that I I didn't have as a kid growing up, you know. So have as a kid growing up, you know. So have as a kid growing up, you know. So that was always my driving force. Um but that was always my driving force. Um but that was always my driving force. Um but you know as a kid you know like playing you know as a kid you know like playing you know as a kid you know like playing the game I always created myself as a the game I always created myself as a the game I always created myself as a Steeler and I always you know played the Steeler and I always you know played the Steeler and I always you know played the game like that just as a kid. So the game like that just as a kid. So the game like that just as a kid. So the question they asked me I answered it question they asked me I answered it question they asked me I answered it from a childhood perspective and then I from a childhood perspective and then I from a childhood perspective and then I also answered it from the perspective of also answered it from the perspective of also answered it from the perspective of no I don't want to play for the Steelers no I don't want to play for the Steelers no I don't want to play for the Steelers right now because I'm a Buffalo Bill. right now because I'm a Buffalo Bill. right now because I'm a Buffalo Bill. You know what I mean? Like I'm still You know what I mean? Like I'm still You know what I mean? Like I'm still under contract with the Buffalo Bills. under contract with the Buffalo Bills. under contract with the Buffalo Bills. And then on top of that, uh, and then on And then on top of that, uh, and then on And then on top of that, uh, and then on top of that, you know, I spent five top of that, you know, I spent five top of that, you know, I spent five years at the University of Pittsburgh years at the University of Pittsburgh years at the University of Pittsburgh and I shared the facility with the and I shared the facility with the and I shared the facility with the Steelers. That's how I built a close Steelers. That's how I built a close Steelers. That's how I built a close relationship, you know, with them. And relationship, you know, with them. And relationship, you know, with them. And then, um, so that's college, five years, then, um, so that's college, five years, then, um, so that's college, five years, and then four years of high school where and then four years of high school where and then four years of high school where we had championship games at, we had championship games at, we had championship games at, you know, the stadium. you know, the stadium. you know, the stadium. >> So, uh, you know, I I've had my fair >> So, uh, you know, I I've had my fair >> So, uh, you know, I I've had my fair share of time there. Um, how I answered share of time there. Um, how I answered share of time there. Um, how I answered the question was the question was the question was it would more so be a dream it would more so be a dream it would more so be a dream to finish career than to be playing now, to finish career than to be playing now, to finish career than to be playing now, you know. And and I say that I said that you know. And and I say that I said that you know. And and I say that I said that lightly because um you know you see lightly because um you know you see lightly because um you know you see players all the time who have a career players all the time who have a career players all the time who have a career they'll have like an eight 10 year they'll have like an eight 10 year they'll have like an eight 10 year career with this team and then they'll career with this team and then they'll career with this team and then they'll go play for this team for x amount of go play for this team for x amount of go play for this team for x amount of time and then when they finally retire time and then when they finally retire time and then when they finally retire they'll go sign that $1 contract they'll go sign that $1 contract they'll go sign that $1 contract >> uh with the team that they felt most >> uh with the team that they felt most >> uh with the team that they felt most connected to and then retire with that connected to and then retire with that connected to and then retire with that team. Um, you know, so, you know, it was team. Um, you know, so, you know, it was team. Um, you know, so, you know, it was it was a lightly answered question that it was a lightly answered question that it was a lightly answered question that kind of like kind of like kind of like >> super stirred up social media. But, um, >> super stirred up social media. But, um, >> super stirred up social media. But, um, to be honest, to be honest, to be honest, >> you know, even through all the chaos of >> you know, even through all the chaos of >> you know, even through all the chaos of it that it caused, I'm just super it that it caused, I'm just super it that it caused, I'm just super excited to finally see people excited to excited to finally see people excited to excited to finally see people excited to see me play football again. see me play football again. see me play football again. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> You know what I mean? Like, that was a >> You know what I mean? Like, that was a >> You know what I mean? Like, that was a great feeling that above all else, you great feeling that above all else, you great feeling that above all else, you know, above all the chaos it might have know, above all the chaos it might have know, above all the chaos it might have caused, that was just a great feeling. caused, that was just a great feeling. caused, that was just a great feeling. You know what I mean? I dealt with so You know what I mean? I dealt with so You know what I mean? I dealt with so much um you know controversy and you much um you know controversy and you much um you know controversy and you know like just craziness all year long know like just craziness all year long know like just craziness all year long just it just if if I needed to play if just it just if if I needed to play if just it just if if I needed to play if if I needed to be playing if I was just if I needed to be playing if I was just if I needed to be playing if I was just all of a sudden just this trash player all of a sudden just this trash player all of a sudden just this trash player if I just was never good at football and if I just was never good at football and if I just was never good at football and I'm only famous for one thing and this I'm only famous for one thing and this I'm only famous for one thing and this and that. uh and that. uh and that. uh >> you know so I went through a whole year >> you know so I went through a whole year >> you know so I went through a whole year of that you know and you know just of that you know and you know just of that you know and you know just chirping you know I don't allow none of chirping you know I don't allow none of chirping you know I don't allow none of that to enter my inner matrix but um you that to enter my inner matrix but um you that to enter my inner matrix but um you know it was super exciting to see people know it was super exciting to see people know it was super exciting to see people you know excited to see me play football you know excited to see me play football you know excited to see me play football again so like know it turned me up a again so like know it turned me up a again so like know it turned me up a little bit man it made me go harder in little bit man it made me go harder in little bit man it made me go harder in the gym uh it made me go harder in the the gym uh it made me go harder in the the gym uh it made me go harder in the gym those days because you know I'm gym those days because you know I'm gym those days because you know I'm excited for them to see what I got in excited for them to see what I got in excited for them to see what I got in the tank too the tank too the tank too >> what is a singular transformative >> what is a singular transformative >> what is a singular transformative thought that somebody could think that thought that somebody could think that thought that somebody could think that would change that because I know you would change that because I know you would change that because I know you discuss it in the book and so We really discuss it in the book and so We really discuss it in the book and so We really want to drill down on that. What is one want to drill down on that. What is one want to drill down on that. What is one thought, one thing that we could think thought, one thing that we could think thought, one thing that we could think like, I'm stuck. How do I get out? like, I'm stuck. How do I get out? like, I'm stuck. How do I get out? >> Yeah, you have to evaluate the meaning >> Yeah, you have to evaluate the meaning >> Yeah, you have to evaluate the meaning you take from things. So, it's not the you take from things. So, it's not the you take from things. So, it's not the events of your life. First off, what's events of your life. First off, what's events of your life. First off, what's thinking? Like, let's just look at that. thinking? Like, let's just look at that. thinking? Like, let's just look at that. What's thinking? Thinking is the process What's thinking? Thinking is the process What's thinking? Thinking is the process of asking and answering questions to of asking and answering questions to of asking and answering questions to ourselves. I get really deep on that in ourselves. I get really deep on that in ourselves. I get really deep on that in the book. the book. the book. >> So, thoughts are created by questions. >> So, thoughts are created by questions. >> So, thoughts are created by questions. So, you have a repeated question that So, you have a repeated question that So, you have a repeated question that you ask yourself regularly. So, two you ask yourself regularly. So, two you ask yourself regularly. So, two things you do. You need to change the things you do. You need to change the things you do. You need to change the question you ask yourself, not the question you ask yourself, not the question you ask yourself, not the statement you make to yourself, but the statement you make to yourself, but the statement you make to yourself, but the question you ask yourself. And I'll give question you ask yourself. And I'll give question you ask yourself. And I'll give you a thought about that. I literally you a thought about that. I literally you a thought about that. I literally list like 50 questions to ask yourself. list like 50 questions to ask yourself. list like 50 questions to ask yourself. But the other thing is that it's not the But the other thing is that it's not the But the other thing is that it's not the the events of our life that define us. the events of our life that define us. the events of our life that define us. It's the meaning we take from it. That It's the meaning we take from it. That It's the meaning we take from it. That meaning then creates an emotion. That meaning then creates an emotion. That meaning then creates an emotion. That emotion causes us to take a make a emotion causes us to take a make a emotion causes us to take a make a decision. Okay? So, for example, you and decision. Okay? So, for example, you and decision. Okay? So, for example, you and I, God forbid, worst thing ever, we I, God forbid, worst thing ever, we I, God forbid, worst thing ever, we walked out the house when I leave here walked out the house when I leave here walked out the house when I leave here and there was a car accident and there was a car accident and there was a car accident >> and someone was killed right here and we >> and someone was killed right here and we >> and someone was killed right here and we had to walk to the scene of that had to walk to the scene of that had to walk to the scene of that accident. So, that's an event. You and I accident. So, that's an event. You and I accident. So, that's an event. You and I would go to that event and go, "My gosh, would go to that event and go, "My gosh, would go to that event and go, "My gosh, this is a one of the worst tragedies, this is a one of the worst tragedies, this is a one of the worst tragedies, the worst tragedy I've ever experienced the worst tragedy I've ever experienced the worst tragedy I've ever experienced in my life." We'd be sad. Would create a in my life." We'd be sad. Would create a in my life." We'd be sad. Would create a series of emotions. Same exact event. series of emotions. Same exact event. series of emotions. Same exact event. Mother Teresa was here. She would tell Mother Teresa was here. She would tell Mother Teresa was here. She would tell you that it was the honor of her you that it was the honor of her you that it was the honor of her lifetime to be present when someone's lifetime to be present when someone's lifetime to be present when someone's soul leaves their body and goes to soul leaves their body and goes to soul leaves their body and goes to heaven. Same exact event. Totally heaven. Same exact event. Totally heaven. Same exact event. Totally different meaning, totally different different meaning, totally different different meaning, totally different emotion. That's an extreme example. So, emotion. That's an extreme example. So, emotion. That's an extreme example. So, what you have to start asking yourself what you have to start asking yourself what you have to start asking yourself is when something happens, this may seem is when something happens, this may seem is when something happens, this may seem weird. What would I need to believe weird. What would I need to believe weird. What would I need to believe about this so that it would serve me? my about this so that it would serve me? my about this so that it would serve me? my dad's drinking. I could be the son of an dad's drinking. I could be the son of an dad's drinking. I could be the son of an alcoholic and I could have all those alcoholic and I could have all those alcoholic and I could have all those negatives in there and that's where I negatives in there and that's where I negatives in there and that's where I come from and my dad was this, my dad come from and my dad was this, my dad come from and my dad was this, my dad was that. Or I could say, what do I need was that. Or I could say, what do I need was that. Or I could say, what do I need to mean? What do I need to believe about to mean? What do I need to believe about to mean? What do I need to believe about that event? Well, what I need to that event? Well, what I need to that event? Well, what I need to believe, which is true, is that's where believe, which is true, is that's where believe, which is true, is that's where I got my best skill sets. I got my best skill sets. I got my best skill sets. >> What I did is I learned about >> What I did is I learned about >> What I did is I learned about redemption. What I learned is what I redemption. What I learned is what I redemption. What I learned is what I didn't want to have. didn't want to have. didn't want to have. >> So, it's asking yourself the powerful >> So, it's asking yourself the powerful >> So, it's asking yourself the powerful question, what would I need to be? question, what would I need to be? question, what would I need to be? Here's the other thing. When you have a Here's the other thing. When you have a Here's the other thing. When you have a negative thought, awareness of a thought negative thought, awareness of a thought negative thought, awareness of a thought makes it lose its power over you. So, makes it lose its power over you. So, makes it lose its power over you. So, for me, I have those thoughts sometimes, for me, I have those thoughts sometimes, for me, I have those thoughts sometimes, too. and I'll go, I'm doing it again. too. and I'll go, I'm doing it again. too. and I'll go, I'm doing it again. And then you get above your thought. And then you get above your thought. And then you get above your thought. When you get above your thought, it's When you get above your thought, it's When you get above your thought, it's almost like a little game you're almost like a little game you're almost like a little game you're watching play. It can't impact you like watching play. It can't impact you like watching play. It can't impact you like it does when you're in the thought. So it does when you're in the thought. So it does when you're in the thought. So get above your thought. You don't have get above your thought. You don't have get above your thought. You don't have to believe everything you think. to believe everything you think. to believe everything you think. >> And most of the stuff you think is >> And most of the stuff you think is >> And most of the stuff you think is bullshed question you keep asking yourself. So question you keep asking yourself. So just ask yourself, what would I need to just ask yourself, what would I need to just ask yourself, what would I need to believe about this so that it would believe about this so that it would believe about this so that it would serve me? And when you and then serve me? And when you and then serve me? And when you and then sometimes you can ask yourself, what sometimes you can ask yourself, what sometimes you can ask yourself, what would soand so do in this situation? Use would soand so do in this situation? Use would soand so do in this situation? Use one of your models. How would Jasmine one of your models. How would Jasmine one of your models. How would Jasmine handle this situation? I do that often. handle this situation? I do that often. handle this situation? I do that often. How would one of my mentors handle this How would one of my mentors handle this How would one of my mentors handle this situation? So it's ask a better situation? So it's ask a better situation? So it's ask a better question. You'll get a better answer. question. You'll get a better answer. question. You'll get a better answer. You'll take away a better meaning. You'll take away a better meaning. You'll take away a better meaning. >> I love this. So again, let's get super >> I love this. So again, let's get super >> I love this. So again, let's get super granular. What is a common question that granular. What is a common question that granular. What is a common question that you see people asking and be like, you see people asking and be like, you see people asking and be like, there's a better question. What is the there's a better question. What is the there's a better question. What is the common question? What is the better common question? What is the better common question? What is the better question? question? question? >> Yeah. One of the common questions is um >> Yeah. One of the common questions is um >> Yeah. One of the common questions is um one of the what do I need to worry about one of the what do I need to worry about one of the what do I need to worry about right now? Well, we all have a question right now? Well, we all have a question right now? Well, we all have a question going on in our mind all the time. So, going on in our mind all the time. So, going on in our mind all the time. So, like when you wake up in the morning, like when you wake up in the morning, like when you wake up in the morning, there's a question you've asked yourself there's a question you've asked yourself there's a question you've asked yourself upon waking that creates an emotion for upon waking that creates an emotion for upon waking that creates an emotion for you for many people before they even you for many people before they even you for many people before they even lead to bed. lead to bed. lead to bed. >> What do I need to worry about today? >> What do I need to worry about today? >> What do I need to worry about today? >> And by the way, here's another one. >> And by the way, here's another one. >> And by the way, here's another one. Here's a big one. Even though we don't Here's a big one. Even though we don't Here's a big one. Even though we don't say it that way, say it that way, say it that way, >> like, what am I afraid of right now? >> like, what am I afraid of right now? >> like, what am I afraid of right now? >> My dad till he died when I would get off >> My dad till he died when I would get off >> My dad till he died when I would get off the phone with him go, "Hey, be the phone with him go, "Hey, be the phone with him go, "Hey, be careful." careful." careful." >> I don't even know what it meant. You >> I don't even know what it meant. You >> I don't even know what it meant. You ever have a parent say that to you, ever have a parent say that to you, ever have a parent say that to you, "Hey, be careful." I'm like, "I'm 46 "Hey, be careful." I'm like, "I'm 46 "Hey, be careful." I'm like, "I'm 46 years old. like be careful. Do you even years old. like be careful. Do you even years old. like be careful. Do you even know? He didn't even know he was saying know? He didn't even know he was saying know? He didn't even know he was saying it, right? But what does that notate it, right? But what does that notate it, right? But what does that notate when you say that to a child all of when you say that to a child all of when you say that to a child all of their life? Be careful. What? Oh, uh, their life? Be careful. What? Oh, uh, their life? Be careful. What? Oh, uh, what should I be afraid of? And I want what should I be afraid of? And I want what should I be afraid of? And I want to be a good boy and I want to behave to be a good boy and I want to behave to be a good boy and I want to behave and I want So all of these little things and I want So all of these little things and I want So all of these little things that happen. There's these un these that happen. There's these un these that happen. There's these un these really quiet questions you're asking really quiet questions you're asking really quiet questions you're asking yourself all the time. For me, I learned yourself all the time. For me, I learned yourself all the time. For me, I learned one thing about me of all these tools I one thing about me of all these tools I one thing about me of all these tools I have. It was like about 5 years ago. I have. It was like about 5 years ago. I have. It was like about 5 years ago. I was like, you know what's interesting, was like, you know what's interesting, was like, you know what's interesting, man? I create chaos in my life. Like I man? I create chaos in my life. Like I man? I create chaos in my life. Like I stir things up even when they're doing stir things up even when they're doing stir things up even when they're doing good. And I and I'm like and I used to good. And I and I'm like and I used to good. And I and I'm like and I used to tell people I I function so well in tell people I I function so well in tell people I I function so well in chaos chaos chaos >> cuz I do and I'm really familiar with >> cuz I do and I'm really familiar with >> cuz I do and I'm really familiar with it. But the reason I create chaos is I it. But the reason I create chaos is I it. But the reason I create chaos is I grew up in it, grew up in it, grew up in it, >> right? So I no matter what's going on in >> right? So I no matter what's going on in >> right? So I no matter what's going on in my life, I find a way to get my chaos. my life, I find a way to get my chaos. my life, I find a way to get my chaos. I'm going to find a way to get my chaos. I'm going to find a way to get my chaos. I'm going to find a way to get my chaos. We all in the book I talk about We all in the book I talk about We all in the book I talk about emotions. We all have like the five or emotions. We all have like the five or emotions. We all have like the five or six emotions we get on a weekly basis six emotions we get on a weekly basis six emotions we get on a weekly basis regardless of the circumstances. So if regardless of the circumstances. So if regardless of the circumstances. So if those emotions are fear, worry, anxiety, those emotions are fear, worry, anxiety, those emotions are fear, worry, anxiety, lack, depression, anger, down, whatever lack, depression, anger, down, whatever lack, depression, anger, down, whatever they might be, you find a way to get they might be, you find a way to get they might be, you find a way to get them, don't you? them, don't you? them, don't you? >> You find a way to get these emotions no >> You find a way to get these emotions no >> You find a way to get these emotions no matter what the conditions are. Maybe a matter what the conditions are. Maybe a matter what the conditions are. Maybe a day or two, you don't, but over a week, day or two, you don't, but over a week, day or two, you don't, but over a week, you're like, I got my anxiety, I got my you're like, I got my anxiety, I got my you're like, I got my anxiety, I got my fear, I got my worry, I got my lack. Or fear, I got my worry, I got my lack. Or fear, I got my worry, I got my lack. Or you could say the emotions I want are you could say the emotions I want are you could say the emotions I want are joy, ecstasy, passion. Right? For me, I joy, ecstasy, passion. Right? For me, I joy, ecstasy, passion. Right? For me, I got all the ones I want, but there was got all the ones I want, but there was got all the ones I want, but there was this lingering one, which was chaos. this lingering one, which was chaos. this lingering one, which was chaos. >> And how do I get rid of it? It's really >> And how do I get rid of it? It's really >> And how do I get rid of it? It's really hard. It still comes up. But what I do hard. It still comes up. But what I do hard. It still comes up. But what I do is I go, I'm doing it again. I'm doing is I go, I'm doing it again. I'm doing is I go, I'm doing it again. I'm doing the chaos thing. I'm doing it, you the chaos thing. I'm doing it, you the chaos thing. I'm doing it, you dummy. I'm doing it. And I get above the dummy. I'm doing it. And I get above the dummy. I'm doing it. And I get above the thought and almost becomes like watching thought and almost becomes like watching thought and almost becomes like watching a little carnival ride down here that a little carnival ride down here that a little carnival ride down here that I'm doing. I'm like, you dumbass. What I'm doing. I'm like, you dumbass. What I'm doing. I'm like, you dumbass. What are you doing again? Chaos again. What are you doing again? Chaos again. What are you doing again? Chaos again. What would I need to believe about this so it would I need to believe about this so it would I need to believe about this so it wasn't chaotic? wasn't chaotic? wasn't chaotic? >> And I trained myself to do it >> And I trained myself to do it >> And I trained myself to do it >> to believe about this. >> to believe about this. >> to believe about this. >> What do I need to believe about it? >> What do I need to believe about it? >> What do I need to believe about it? What's the meaning I got to takea? Yeah. What's the meaning I got to takea? Yeah. What's the meaning I got to takea? Yeah. And I'm like like I've got I've got And I'm like like I've got I've got And I'm like like I've got I've got happiness and joy and ecstasy and happiness and joy and ecstasy and happiness and joy and ecstasy and passion and all that other stuff, but passion and all that other stuff, but passion and all that other stuff, but there's this one dude. I used to have there's this one dude. I used to have there's this one dude. I used to have fear and worry and anxiety. You know, I fear and worry and anxiety. You know, I fear and worry and anxiety. You know, I probably still have a little of the probably still have a little of the probably still have a little of the worry thing where I'm like, "What am I worry thing where I'm like, "What am I worry thing where I'm like, "What am I worried about right now?" You ever just, worried about right now?" You ever just, worried about right now?" You ever just, you ever drive in your car, you're doing you ever drive in your car, you're doing you ever drive in your car, you're doing something, you're like, something, you're like, something, you're like, >> I don't even know what I'm worried about >> I don't even know what I'm worried about >> I don't even know what I'm worried about right now. right now. right now. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> You ever have that happen? >> You ever have that happen? >> You ever have that happen? >> I sometimes think my mind maps to what >> I sometimes think my mind maps to what >> I sometimes think my mind maps to what do I need to worry about right now? do I need to worry about right now? do I need to worry about right now? >> That's exactly what it's doing. >> That's exactly what it's doing. >> That's exactly what it's doing. >> It's literally looking for something to >> It's literally looking for something to >> It's literally looking for something to worry about. worry about. worry about. >> It is your RA and it is your map. It is >> It is your RA and it is your map. It is >> It is your RA and it is your map. It is a pattern. The perfect word for it is a pattern. The perfect word for it is a pattern. The perfect word for it is map. So, it's being aware of it when it map. So, it's being aware of it when it map. So, it's being aware of it when it happens and then beginning to be happens and then beginning to be happens and then beginning to be intentional and replacing it with the intentional and replacing it with the intentional and replacing it with the other thing. That's exactly what's other thing. That's exactly what's other thing. That's exactly what's happening. And it's me, too. Human happening. And it's me, too. Human happening. And it's me, too. Human beings have this. And here's the other beings have this. And here's the other beings have this. And here's the other thing. thing. thing. >> It's never gone if that software was >> It's never gone if that software was >> It's never gone if that software was installed in you when you were a child. installed in you when you were a child. installed in you when you were a child. >> And by the way, you could say, "No, no, >> And by the way, you could say, "No, no, >> And by the way, you could say, "No, no, no. My parents have one of the most no. My parents have one of the most no. My parents have one of the most loving, unbelievable people in the loving, unbelievable people in the loving, unbelievable people in the world. It's just my dad was a my dad world. It's just my dad was a my dad world. It's just my dad was a my dad meant to protect me by going, "Hey, be meant to protect me by going, "Hey, be meant to protect me by going, "Hey, be careful. careful. careful. >> Be careful." What a weird thing to go >> Be careful." What a weird thing to go >> Be careful." What a weird thing to go out under the world think, "I better be out under the world think, "I better be out under the world think, "I better be careful. I better be careful. I better careful. I better be careful. I better careful. I better be careful. I better be careful." That's not a way to live be careful." That's not a way to live be careful." That's not a way to live your life. Underneath that is fear. your life. Underneath that is fear. your life. Underneath that is fear. >> And let me say one last thing. No one. I >> And let me say one last thing. No one. I >> And let me say one last thing. No one. I say in the book, emotions aren't say in the book, emotions aren't say in the book, emotions aren't negative or positive, negative or positive, negative or positive, >> right? >> right? >> right? >> All of they just are. It's the dosage. >> All of they just are. It's the dosage. >> All of they just are. It's the dosage. Like if I never had fear, Like if I never had fear, Like if I never had fear, >> right? >> right? >> right? >> Fear makes you focus, right? >> Fear makes you focus, right? >> Fear makes you focus, right? >> Fear was given to us in the caveman >> Fear was given to us in the caveman >> Fear was given to us in the caveman days. So like T-Rex didn't eat us, days. So like T-Rex didn't eat us, days. So like T-Rex didn't eat us, right? So like fear is healthy in doses. right? So like fear is healthy in doses. right? So like fear is healthy in doses. >> But to live in it, >> But to live in it, >> But to live in it, >> it's concerning. Anxiety is not that bad >> it's concerning. Anxiety is not that bad >> it's concerning. Anxiety is not that bad for me. A little bit of it because it for me. A little bit of it because it for me. A little bit of it because it makes me prepare. makes me prepare. makes me prepare. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. If you had no anxiety about this >> Right. If you had no anxiety about this >> Right. If you had no anxiety about this conversation, perhaps you wouldn't have conversation, perhaps you wouldn't have conversation, perhaps you wouldn't have prepared. So it's the dosage of it. Just prepared. So it's the dosage of it. Just prepared. So it's the dosage of it. Just realize that. Don't beat yourself up realize that. Don't beat yourself up realize that. Don't beat yourself up when you have them. It's to the extent when you have them. It's to the extent when you have them. It's to the extent that you get it. that you get it. that you get it. >> Oo. >> Oo. >> Oo. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Okay. I can see that like right now. I >> Okay. I can see that like right now. I >> Okay. I can see that like right now. I mean, people could have stopped mean, people could have stopped mean, people could have stopped listening at like 5 minutes in and got listening at like 5 minutes in and got listening at like 5 minutes in and got and got a good dose of Ed Mylet. and got a good dose of Ed Mylet. and got a good dose of Ed Mylet. >> Thank you.