Dolph Lundgren’s Cancer Was Misdiagnosed. A Second Opinion Saved His Life.

Key Takeaway

When facing a serious diagnosis, major decision, or entrenched problem, do not treat the first answer as the final answer. Today, identify one high-stakes issue in your life and seek a qualified second perspective: another doctor, mentor, expert, or trusted peer. Dolph Lundgren’s cancer treatment changed only after a second oncologist re-examined his biopsy, identified a different mutation, and prescribed targeted medication that began shrinking tumors within four weeks.

Episode Overview

Dolph Lundgren joins Rich Roll to discuss the trauma beneath his action-hero persona, his path from chemical engineering and martial arts to Hollywood stardom, and the healing work that helped him become more vulnerable. He also recounts how a cancer misdiagnosis nearly cost him his life—and how pursuing a second opinion led to an effective treatment and a renewed sense of purpose.

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He said, yeah, you probably have about three years left, but I can't believe that I was that close to dying Don't flung ring one of Hollywood's best-known action heroes up there with the most iconic action stars of the 1980s There's no one like him period end of story I wanted to get away from my dad and he kind of kicked me and I flew into some Hookshelf and hit my head and I was bleeding I could hijack this feeling to play an action character What if I make it like the ultimate?

lab creation I must break you They turn out to be kidney cancer. This guy says it's over. But what about let me try this person I found out later that those are the wrong drugs. I was misdiagnosed Within four weeks everything was shrinking Your job is a man is to be in the red to give more than you were given to love more than you Were loved and maybe it came back to me, you know from the universe That's why I was given the second chance You know, I thought I knew who you were and then getting into your book and learning as much as I could about your life and the high highs and the low lows and and this kind of Odysseus like journey that you've been on it's really Remarkable and it's so rich in its texture in terms of kind of what you've Weathered and endured to really, you know Again in the spirit of Odysseus to like return home to yourself, you know It's a very it's a very human story and it's really a story of trauma and healing fundamentally, you know this reconciliation between You know Hans this young child Growing up in a small Town, you know in Sweden and suffering, you know Suffering the abuse that you suffered then armoring yourself in you know, the Drago costume and being this indestructible You know action hero who was just impenetrable and this immovable object right stoic to the core but not impenetrable to you know, the kind of trauma that was unhealed and That powered you to great heights, but ultimately, you know, our strengths become our Achilles heel and like reckoning with that You know really become this integrated human being like it is a hero's journey the humble beginnings To you know stardom to the low moments, you know, it it lends itself to a perfect three-act structure Yeah Slaying of the father.

Yeah meeting the sorceress you know traveling of Far far away lands. Yeah near-death experience There are all these steps on that right road that I now have the sirens the sirens. Yeah. Oh, yeah studio 54 the sirens Yeah, it's interesting. It's it was well thought out by Campbell when he kind of mapped that out because It's true for everybody, but I think some There's a little more palpable than for others Your greatest role is Playing yourself in the movie of your life Like this is the movie that needs to be in development like reading your book There were so many, you know stories that you tell where I could just see it.

I mean when you Get this Fulbright scholarship to get your PhD in chemical engineering at MIT And you're pulling up, you know to MIT on a motorcycle In a suit made out of leather and rubber designed by Versace and you have Grace Jones on the back and you climb off that motorcycle to go into this storied institution You know geeks and brainiacs. I mean, I just like that is the most cinematic thing Like I can just see it like, you know, the the contrast of you know, the collision of these these two worlds Collisions.

Yeah, it was an internal collision for me too, because I I wanted to Satisfy my dad and that was his favorite school MIT and he was an engineer as well and I wanted to Also kind of deliver on all those years of studying I'd put in But then I knew on a deep level that I it wasn't really for me. I had a different Destiny something waiting for me. I didn't know what it was But I knew that I had to make a decision because if I had started and kind of focused on the PhD that would have been That would have been it then.

I mean Somebody else would have played. I go. So yeah a lot of people well not a lot, but a certain amount of people could attend MIT and get their PhD and You know go work on the space shuttle, which I know you did when you were at Clemson for a period of time But there's only one guy who's got Grace Jones on the back of his motorcycle At a very specific time in history where culture was popping off in New York City in the way that it was like I have a very romantic relationship And and like yearning like I feel like I was born a little bit too late Like I wish that I was you know at Studio 54 during that time and you know Navigating Warhol's in inner circle at the factory and all of these experiences that that you've had I probably would have died if that happened if that you know, maybe I was maybe God spared me that but uh But I I really like love hearing those stories of that very special time where culture was being Formed in real time by a certain cast of characters that were kind of haunting You know lower Manhattan for a good decade Yeah, of course.

I didn't plan to be part of it But you're right I Thought about it afterwards as well how it was New York and Manhattan was not hadn't turned corporate yet. It was it was you know there were some talented people there, but it was It was simpler in one way like I was in the West Village meatpacking district right below the 14th Street on the on the west side and they had all those kind of Disintegrating peers out were you know, there was all kinds of dating and different activities going on a prostitution Night, and then you had the West Side Highway was still up.

They tore that down Maybe a few years later But I remember getting up at like 5 in the morning. I lived on Bank Street Bank and West and I would get up To go for a run and I would run down Washington I went all the way down to to the World Trade Center and I would turn around right by the World Trade Center and run back and I know that I I had to be really careful because You could get like jumped by somebody, you know in the street there in Tribeca.

It was very rough So you kind of had kept a good pace up? I remember through Tribeca and of course now Tribeca is you know Super expensive and gentrified and the World Trade Center is gone So yeah, it is a different city for sure and you are navigating all that insanity and chaos Sober essentially like everyone's out of their minds on cocaine, etc You're at Studio 54 like like just a cold stone sober Fox. I was you know That was the thing that I was Wondering why all these people could stay up so late, you know, like Wow, they have such stamina here, you know It's like 6 in the morning and they were looking at me like how is he up?

like I'm sitting across from him in a limo and then You know, like you said studio was obviously I think I ended up in the back room with rebel and a few of his friends Friends you know doing drugs, but I I Didn't partake in any of that until much later. Actually, then it's like after I got famous But I I was always you know, I went for that run at 5 o'clock Even if I got home at 3 So I was pretty regimented all the way through.

Yeah. Yeah the inner athlete Yeah, never sleeps never never slept how long between Okay, I'm in New York and the Rocky IV situation coming along I think it came along In 84 so it's a year. I Come to New York in 80 right the end of 82 83 and then about a year later After having quit MIT and having started acting I was up for a boxing movie You know one of many calls I got you know and I was just standing in a line with a bunch of guys and I come to a table and there's a Woman sitting there with a with a pad and she's like, I guess my name was there and she said You know Hans Lundgren.

How tall you and I was like Six five and she's like too tall next and I was like, oh shit, you know, I look behind her There's a handwritten sign Rocky Roman numeral four and I was like, oh shit a Rocky movie. Yeah, it's like I love the Rocky movies. I'd actually listened to Rocky 3 to eye of the tiger when I was getting ready to fight in Australia and we're only a year and a half a year earlier, so I then through my acting coach managed to He he set up a dinner with this guy John Hertzfeld who was a friend of Stallone's and Sly and John immediately said, you know, you're the guy slides been looking for, you know, and I said well I was there But they turned me down.

He's like, what do you have any photos of yourself? And I said, well, I got something but it's done in the village and he says well, I can get it so I got on my bike and I Motorcycle went down and got this one eight by ten and that's the one slight eventually got hold of Six months later when I thought it was all you know, nothing was going to come out of it I was I was in England doing the movie the Bond picture and then I got the call back and I went to see Stallone and at it was at Paramount because I remember coming in on the taxi and from the airport and You know, you see the Hollywood sign behind the studio and I was like, well, okay And I was gonna see Sebastian Stallone and obviously he came out.

He was old tan long hair and I was starstruck like oh shit you know and he's like I Got five thousand guys up for this role Like okay, and you know, he had all these binders around his office because it was before, you know digital and And he took a look at me and I I know later. He told me that He had this idea of this kind of Russian bear like this hairy Monster and then so he didn't work But he said later when he looked at me and he started thinking wait a second what if I make it like the ultimate lab creation ultimate human being versus Who is like a perfect specimen versus Rocky who is like the imperfect, you know?

Yeah, specimen American, you know Russian science experiment. Yeah, so he came up chemically engineered Engineer. Yeah, he came up with that when he said later when I was in his office and then I had to addition Have to memorize a Monologue and he said you gotta put on some weight because I was a bit skinny Because I was doing a lot of running, you know It's a like I told you five in the morning she was running and you know You can't really get really jacked.

So I had to do that. But yeah, that's how we started and Six months. I'd trained for six months. All right, but hold on. Let me interrupt because there's so much here Yeah, I mean that there's a couple lessons that come from that come out of that story The first of which is there's always a third door like the casting director had already next to you, right? And you know, there's there's this process of figuring out an end run Yes Between Hertzfeld and your acting coach and figuring out how to get to Stallone and like this conviction like no Actually, this guy's right, you know, just because this casting director said you're too tall You really need to re-evaluate this and getting it to Stallone and having Stallone like rewire his thinking around You know what this character, you know could be you know changing his vision for it And then in the audition you talk about Approaching it With this stillness like this Immobility like this idea that you've learned in in in your study of acting That the power is in like the non reaction and the other people who are auditioning were, you know Kind of overacting or whatever and by you just being still That ends up being what cinches it because there's something menacing about that the quietness of it.

Mm-hmm. Yes So there are two parts to character obviously one Which I already had which was he was a fighter So I was already a European kickboxing or karate champion so I could move really well Let's say for a big white guy. I was really had, you know good coordination and so forth. So Stallone obviously Kind of knew that and what he can read he could see that Because it's hard to teach someone how to fight It's for them to look right, you know, it's difficult and the second part then of course as you know who is his character and and Warren was very Very perceptive Warren Roberts on my coach because he studied the other guys, you know, Apollo Creed Mr.

T and everybody's very loud. I'm gonna kill you. I'm gonna you know, you know You know, you're you're dead meat. Everything was loud and kind of aggressive. So he he said, you know you just and he had studied with Marlon Brando and Marilyn Monroe like in an actor studio back in the day Mm-hmm and he did say that Brando had this thing when he said, you know, just because the Director says action doesn't mean you have to do anything Because he's it's pretty good Yeah, doesn't mean you have to do anything because he's he's famous for Which I read much later that he would when the director said action he would You know, he really knew his talent because he would just walk off off stage off the set and start talking to to one of the grips or something until he felt like he was relaxed then he would come in and deliver the dialogues he was very clever right yeah I mean obviously the best ever so Warren said we are you know you're so powerful that you know some of these Russian officers they have that stoic kind of chin up you know hero of the Soviet Union kind of so if you kind of just stand there and deliver the dialogue and play the internal monologue of the Soviet state is forced to me they took me when I was a kid away from my parents they made me a fighter I don't want to do this but I have to do it I'm forced to say these words if all that is interior is internal and you just say the line you know I must break you if you say the line a very still it has a lot of carriage a lot of power so obviously I trusted him and I went to the audition and it had two other Russian guys who were also up for it and they were yeah they were saying I will kill you I will break you in half but I played it very internal and yeah and it was powerful I think and people you know I think I've seen that once the audition I saw part of that they used that speech for the teaser trailer that came out later when I just stand there and say you know my name is Drago and I'm a fighter from the Soviet Union blah blah blah and yeah so I got the role well well let's take it back to the beginning I want to hear a little bit about your upbringing in Sweden because I think it would surprise a lot of people yeah my upbringing well I I was brought up in a upper middle-class home my dad was an engineer he was an army officer good-looking tall guy my mom was kind of pretty she was a language teacher but she was she had been that and now she was a housewife I had three siblings my dad had a brother another son in an early from an early marriage and I think that marriage had ended because I think he beat his first wife and the first time he hit her I think she took the kid and split this is in the would be in the 40s early 50s so when I was born you know I think I heard from my mom I think on their honeymoon this is before I was born they were in Scotland and they took a tour in Scotland and this is 1955 so 10 years after World War 2 and one little anecdote was that they they couldn't get service anywhere you know like they went to restaurants and he would you sit there for an hour and then finally some woman came up and said we don't serve Germans here and then of course they were you know sweeter so they have to explain that but I think he something happened on the trip and he he didn't talk to my mom for a week and that was on their honeymoon so I think from then he was kind of abusive towards her and I think he hit me the first time I was probably around three or so I I was in front of the television he got it in his way and he kind of kicked me and I flew into some some some bookshelf and hit my head and I was bleeding my mom's like screaming and and then of course it is kept going so there was nowhere to go as a kid there were no hotlines and in the 60s my dad worked for the government he had a kind of a good position in the Office of Budget and Management yeah so I kind of got used to this physical abuse that you know later would serve me well you know but you know when I was a kid obviously it's I've learned later you know you're a little boy and you have a big guy my size come in and beat you up it's like a near-death experience they say so you get that PTSD of living in and under kind of in see let's say physically you know on insecure circumstances for a long time like a soldier yeah there was no calling 9-1-1 back then it was just figuring out how you're gonna develop some survival strategies for this yeah I mean your descriptions of these incidents in the book are you know they're hard to read like it's intense it was not you know minor abuse like and there's verbal abuse and he's telling you you're a loser and like yeah this is all the shit going on yeah and this resentment also that begins to breed towards your mother because she's supposed to protect you and you know she's she's sort of you know in her you know having her own relationship with how she's trying to survive all of this at the same time extremely difficult but and your brain is still wiring right and you're trying to figure out like how am I gonna just get through the day and you talk about developing this freeze response to all of this we all know about like fight-or-flight but there's a third way to interact with a traumatic chaotic scenario yes you're right I learned about that much later that you know in nature there is fight-or-flight say if you're if you're a gazelle and you're in Africa and you're being chased by a lion there's you know you can fight back well not you can't do that if you're a gazelle because the lion's gonna kill you so you you go for flight but sometimes you'll see in a video once the gazelle is taken by the lion it stops fighting it just it's called freeze and you kind of go dead and it's so it's sort of all your emotions disappear and I guess in nature either it could be a way to just to think for the predator to think you're dead so they stop you know like a bear for instance play dead but it could also be is to avoid the pain because that way you know you're gonna die anyway the lion's gonna eat you so you might as well you know calm down a little bit before it's over I guess it's in there somewhere that humans have the same people you know soldiers as well sometimes you know you can fight flight but people freeze up to like in a gunfight yeah it's a it's a disassociation you hear us with rape victims also like they leave their body you know it's the only way that they can like kind of you know manage what's happening to them yeah in your case like this ability to separate mind and body and disassociate and freeze ends up becoming a very powerful strategy when you become a martial artist and you know when you're doing your own stunts and you become this guy who can just suffer pain at will right and this is you know obviously powering you you know through stardom and all these other experiences and it's just interesting how our unconscious response to trauma become strengths and you know I'm sure on a conscious level you're like oh this is what separates me from everybody this is how I'm going to become special and distinguish myself and it's only later in life where it catches up to you and you realize like this superpower that I have is actually in Achilles heel that is like actually undoing me yeah that the the same trauma that I could use to I could hijack this feeling to be a better fighter to play an action character to if I do an emotional scene in a movie but that same that same trauma can also make me you know drink do drugs you know decide to go and you know spar with you know ten people maybe when I haven't slept all night because I'm not going to say no and I'll decide to do that stunt myself because I feel like I I got to do something I'm antsy I don't care I'll jump off the bus or I'll jump from the motorcycle to the truck I don't care and it's obviously it's or you can ruin a marriage for instance quite easily and that's you know I've been through all those things yeah yeah yeah there's a ego armoring piece to it as well like I can go to studio 54 all night and still go running at 5 o'clock in the morning and not only am I going to you know be the you know kind of ultimate warrior in this movie I'm actually going to do all the stunts also you know like on top of that which is which is empowering also but you know is kind of you know can be this megalomania that is going to spoil your relationships and and you know kind of your body yeah and and destroy your body and like yeah part of it is the trauma and part of it is some kind of male I don't know testosterone bravado trying to prove something trying to prove my dad that he was wrong you know a combination of all of those yeah how much of your ambition do you think is related to your relationship with your father like this drive that you that you've had well I think I had two things I had the drive for my dad and then I had some kind of feeling from the beginning that life is very precious and very short and here I am in this little town in Sweden and I'm not gonna if I stay here if I just stay here and do what my my dad has done I'm gonna 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doesn't exist anymore so there's really no reason to wait head to Squarespace.com slash richroll for a free trial and when you're ready to launch use offer code richroll to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain did you have a premonition that there was a big life waiting for you when you were this kid growing up in Sweden or was it more I just I need to get out of this environment you know I have to go somewhere else or I'm never gonna survive I think it was the latter yeah I just wanted to get out of Sweden it was too small for me I didn't want to be this abused little boy and who haunts who you know felt bad about himself and you know I didn't want to do that and I wanted to get away from my dad and I think you know I got a scholarship to go to America when I was 18 to study chemistry and in Washington Washington State University and and that's when first time when people they they didn't know me so I could be a different person and they kind of looked at me totally different you know and I think that's what drove me outside of Sweden I think it's the the fame part or the bigger life was like a slow kind of feeling that kind of grew from karate and then from doing some modeling and then eventually when I met grace and came to to Manhattan yeah there was a lot of synchronicities along the way like right place right time for you but even before that before going to America to study you know you your your your first kind of like initial reaction to this chaotic household was to act out like a normal teenager you're stealing stuff you're sniffing glue you're getting into trouble you know pretty standard fair but significant enough for there to be a bit of an intervention and you end up like at your grandfather's house and and and that's really where you start to get sorted out a little bit you're finding alternative father figures and you're realizing that you actually have all this academic potential and you really begin to get a little bit more serious about the martial arts and that feels like a really important period in your life like a you know that set you up for everything that came afterwards and this notion of father figures and mentors is recurring themes throughout the book.

Yes, I agree. Yeah, I think my dad had, I suppose he realized that as I was getting older, pretty soon he was going to be in a fight with a young man or a boy who was… You're going to kick his ass pretty soon. You better get him out of here. Yeah, get this kid out of here. He's growing too fast. And I think that was part of it. And the other part was probably that he, maybe on a deep level, knew that it was because of him that I was going through all this.

Do you think he was consciously aware of that? I think he was, subconsciously. And I think maybe he loved me and wanted to, you know, saw that I was going to self-destruct if I had stayed. Maybe because I was, you know, drinking, running away from home, sniffing glue, doing all this stuff that, you know, some of my friends from those days are dead now, and never made it. So, in one way, he had some compassion, I think, on the low level, on the deep level, except it could have been self-preservation in some of it too.

He didn't want me to beat him up, but I'm not sure which, but it turned out to be a good thing for me, obviously. It saved my life. Yeah. You find your calling in the classroom and in the dojo, basically. And, you know, like I learned so much about you. Like, I knew that you were like an athlete scholar, but I didn't realize like, oh, you were European champion twice, two years in a row, like 80 and 81 in karate. Not only, you know, did you graduate with a chemical engineering degree, like you had, you know, Stinson in America, you know, where you were furthering your studies, and then this Fulbright scholarship opportunity.

Like, there's a sliding door where you just become this top scientist. It's crazy. It was. Yeah, I think part of that was, I was sort of, I wanted to prove my dad wrong, I think, that I wasn't useless. How'd that go? Yeah, well, I got admitted to MIT on a Fulbright scholarship. Did he give it up for you then? Did he ever get to the point where he could say, you did it, son? Yeah, he did. He did, twice. When I won the European championships, he was, you know, he was impressed.

By that time, he was probably, uh, he was 50 some years old. He's kind of mellowed out a little bit. And then I got admitted to MIT, had a Fulbright scholarship. And yeah, I think he was super impressed. And I think on a deep level, he had had some of these ambitions. He'd studied in Germany, I think, when he was young, but he could never afford to go anywhere. He always wanted to go to America. But I think that I, he felt like I had maybe fulfilled some of his ambitions on a, you know how it goes with parents, right?

Yeah. We were friendly. I mean, by that time, there was no animosity at all. You know, I kind of forgiven him because in martial arts also, you know, it's not about, obviously, I was, by then, I was stronger than him. And I, you're not supposed to just be aggressive and beat somebody up for what they did 20 years ago. So, I never, that never entered my mind, really. He ends up, uh, you know, dying quite tragically. Bipolar, maybe schizophrenic. Oh, yeah. He had. Tinfoil on the windows.

He, uh, he ended up staying in, after he divorced my mom, she moved out and he lived in this old house where he had like tinfoil. You didn't even know they divorced. No, they didn't even tell us. So, we didn't know about it. The kids didn't know. Because I think what happened was he got fired from his job, like early retired, early retirement because he blew up on somebody there. And, uh, my mom had inherited some money from her mother and her dad. Uh, my grandfather on that side, he was, uh, he was an inventor, actually.

He had some, invented some radio, uh, various, uh, those big radio gramophones, you know, where they used to have in the 50s and 40s. And so, he inherited, she inherited some money. So, I think my dad kind of divorced her, got custody of all the assets and then, you know, kind of moved her aside. And I think that's where he, part of it was financial reason he did that, I think. So, all of this was obviously, you know, not very nice for the kids, but especially, he was just unhappy.

And, uh, he ended up in a mental hospital in London at the end. And I was there. I visited him a few times. This is, you know, when I'd been in the business for almost 20 years. And, uh, he was sort of in a different world towards the end. Uh, and, uh, but I was told by my therapist that, you know, his type of bipolar, uh, you know, conditions, you can medicate it and he can, but, you know, he would, he refused to take medication. So, yeah, he died a lonely man, but I mean, fortunately he was a bit, he was in his own world in one way.

I think nature mercifully kind of just made him not really understand what was going on, you know. Speaking of mercy, uh, you, through all this work that you've done, uh, with therapy and, and, and kind of trying to make peace with your upbringing and, and resolve and heal this trauma. Yeah. You know, a big piece in that is, is, is recognizing that, you know, he was the victim of his own, you know, kind of experience growing up and his emotional needs weren't met and his frustrations and anger and resentment, you know, he, he didn't have the outlets for help and healing that you've had.

And so he's acting out on those impulses and you're on the receiving end of that, hurt people, hurt people as they often say. Uh, and you found a way to internalize whatever pain you were experiencing and channel it in productive ways. Like you can hurt people on screen and it's not really hurting people. Well, kind of, we're going to get to that. Um, and that is the kind of portal to forgiveness and mercy because when you understand like, oh, he, he was just programmed this way and, you know, it's a result of the pain that he inherited and recognizing that this healing journey that you've been on is so much about healing yourself, but also interrupting this generational cycle of trauma so that you're sparing your children from that.

And to me, like I've been on a, on a version of this myself and I've just really recognized that if anything, like that is the ultimate job of the parent, you know, to kind of arrest whatever pattern has been passed down generation after generation to spare your children of that and set them up, uh, you know, liberate them from the pain that you inherited. Yeah, this is well, well put. I agree. Yeah. I think you're right. That's, it takes certain strength to do that. And my dad didn't have that strength.

He didn't have the ability to, to make that transformation. So just that makes me feel sorry for him, you know, but you have seen old pictures of him when he was a kid in the, in the twenties and thirties and like a sailor's uniform they used to wear with a long hair, you know, and he's this cute little kid. He looks, you know, very sensitive and I'm sure he was beaten and he was badly treated. My grandfather on his side was, he was a very tough guy, army officer, hunter, heavy drinker, came from like a very poor upbringing with 12 siblings.

We, his mom died when he was 12, I think, and he had to start working and support the family. I mean, a freaking nightmare. I mean, just can you imagine back in the twenties what that was like? So my dad never really got a shot, you know? So yeah, I think, you know, for me to forgive him and, um, and like you said, try to break the pattern of violence. And obviously my kids, they, my two daughters, they have their own trauma of some ways because, you know, I wasn't there all the time.

I was an actor and, you know, uh, we got divorced when they were in their teens and, and so they have their own version. You can't compare, there's no scales, you know? Yeah. Your pain is your pain. No matter, and not for nothing, like had you not, whatever you would have done, like paint any scenario, like the optimal dad situation, they're going to have, there's going to be something, you know, they're going to like, okay, tell your therapist, you know, none of us are doing this perfectly, you know, far from it.

No. And it's like, and that's why it's important never to say like, uh, well, when I was your age, you know, I was beaten three times a day. Like it's not going to, it's not going to help them. No. Um, but you were, and then some, I mean, after, okay. So I'm, I can't remember where it falls on the timeline, but like, you know, you're, you're at, uh, university of Washington. Yeah. Or in Washington state and then you're at Clemson, but you ended up going back to Sweden and, you know, entering into the special forces training that was after that.

Right. Which is essentially like SEAL team training. Yes. Uh, why did you decide to do that? And, uh, is that just sort of like a cultural imperative in Sweden or something that you needed that challenge? I was drafted like a Swedish man during the cold war. I was drafted and I was put in a coastal artillery unit, which, um, basically they used to, we used to have artillery, uh, coastal artillery. Um, Sweden was a neutral. So it was, you know, you can never say, well, who's the enemy, but for some reason, all the guns were pointed eastward.

So I guess, you know, towards Russia, but you know, you weren't supposed to say like, Oh, cause NATO or the Warsaw pact, but I was in that unit. And then we had an offer to join this Navy SEAL unit, but you had to go through a selection course and a process to do that. And I decided I wanted to try it. And, um, that's when I hurt my ankle actually the first time, uh, which I had surgery on only a few years ago, but it was, it was a tough course and, um, most guys didn't make it.

I think maybe about 20, 20% made it or so. And, um, I was just another test, I think, to wanted to just impress my, my dad, maybe. You're, you're bearing the lead a little bit. You mentioned, uh, injuring your ankle, but you know, this is another cinematic scene in the movie of your life where you're trudging out in the snow for God knows how long, and you twist your, you roll your ankle or whatever. You just decide the solution to this is tightening up your boots and just toughing it out for another like day and a half in the, you know, frozen tundra.

This is the costume of the warrior that you've adorned and, you know, befitting of a soldier, uh, and speaks to like that, you know, kind of relationship with suffering and the disassociation between like, you know, mind and body. Yes, you're right. It's, uh, yeah, it's, it's a strange, strange, um, domain. It's a shadow land where when you get pushed past a certain point, you're in another world, you know, you probably, you're an ultra athlete. So, you know, it's like, you don't know how you're going to react, especially when it involves physical pain and violence.

And I always looked at myself as a peaceful, uh, kind of shy and sort of, uh, uh, introvert person. But of course, then there's another side that comes out kind of like a, like a Mr. Hyde, you know, there's the other guy who comes out when he gets pushed to a certain point, which when I'm kind of there watching on the sidelines myself, oh, okay, now this is going to happen, like, and you kind of just kind of not even conscious of what's happening. You're essentially this very sensitive, artistic-minded, uh, kid who is anxiety-riddled and insecure.

And, you know, had you had a different set of parents might have, you know, grown up in Venice, California and be a sculptor or something like, you know what I mean? But you're in the body of this guy, you know, like the dissonance between like the figure that you cut, your physicality and like what your kind of internal experience is, is, is, is like, is quite the delta. That's what's interesting, you're right. Yeah. I mean, I have some, um, speaking of, there are a few people like that, I mean, that I've had, you know, met in my life, um, they're in this business, like people like Sylvester Stallone, for instance, who had a similar upbringing, I believe, it's no secret, and it's similar, but, you know, also is an artist, very sensitive, and he has this other side too, that kind of warrior side.

And it happens, and there's a certain, I think, there's something in that, that the camera kind of feels, because, you know, if you look at the old movie stars, like the Robert Mitchums and these guys, they were on the chain gangs, and they were like hard drinkers, and they had that other side, and then they had a sensitivity as well, and I think that some of that is quite attractive in cinema. So, I just, I just thought of that. Yeah, I mean, that ineffable quality of, of depth that, you know, comes across on screen without saying anything, it's like a look in the eyes, or a facial expression, that speaks to, you know, kind of an interior experience that doesn't quite match the physical appearance.

Yes, that people feel that there's something else there, like that some, there's a level of kind of some compassion or something underneath, even if that character is like shooting people, or like, you know, doing something very vicious, you still feel it. It's kind of, I mean, obviously a lot of actors, you know, play these sort of dark characters. I mean, they started like Robert De Niro or somebody, you know. I mean, you're watching him like with a baseball bat, you know, crushing somebody's skull, but you still, you still feel the character as being a human being and kind of, you know, having some sensitivity somehow, it's strange.

So that's where it all started for me. I was, you know, because I had those two sides, I guess, and I was lucky that I ended up in the cinema because I could use both of those. Otherwise, I would have been, you know, seriously alcoholic, you know, chemical engineer somewhere with three failed marriages. Yeah, who knows, man? And in jail, probably for killing somebody. Yeah, but God put you on a pretty unique path, my friend. So when I mentioned synchronicities earlier, what comes after this is you end up in Sydney, you're getting your graduate degree in chemical engineering.

And just to make ends meet, you're like a doorman at nightclubs, like a, you know, kind of like enforcer out front. Cash business. You end up like kickboxing some guy in the face because he got out of line trying to get into this club and somebody takes notice. And before you know it, you're hired to protect Grace Jones or stand outside her dressing room door for some appearance that she's making. And this is the kind of first inflection point that, you know, completely sets your life on a new trajectory.

Oh, yeah. I was so innocent back then. I think I had one girlfriend in my life and I'm 25. You're 24, 25. 24, 24. Yeah. Yeah, and I remember standing there. It's like I have this sort of snapshot image of me standing outside and her kind of with some looking past the makeup artists, you know, over his shoulder and clocking me out there. And, you know, you feel the vibes. And then I ended up doing security at some club where she went out with all of her friends.

And my sparring partner, who's another big guy, Australian guy, was there. And I think she was dancing with him. I was too shy to do anything like that. But, you know, he was kind of hitting on her. But, you know, obviously, you know, we ended up going back to her hotel. She had a big suite. I've never seen a big suite before in a hotel. And she had an entourage, maybe 20 people. And there's 10, then there's 8, then 4. And then suddenly, it's just like me, him, and her manager.

And then he kind of, he gets sent home. And then finally, the manager leaves too. And then there's just, I kind of realized somewhere in there what was going on. And I ended up spending the night with her, you know, missing a few classes next day. And it was a bit of a shock for me. I didn't know why what she saw in me. I couldn't put it together. Like, I didn't feel like I deserved it, you know? Well, that sense of undeservedness is, you know, a deep wound that kind of recurs in how you show up in your life at various stages.

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And then I met her later that year in Tokyo. I went to Tokyo to train karate with the main master of that style. And she was there doing a commercial for Honda, I think it was, a car commercial. And then I went straight to New York with her. We, so that winter I came to New York and then that year I was supposed to start at MIT. So I had like six months off because Southern Hemisphere, you know, the schools, they graduate in December. So their summer vacation is over the holidays.

So it was kind of backwards. So I had kind of a semester before I was supposed to start at MIT. So that semester I was in New York, and that's when all this stuff happened with Warhol and, you know, I started, went to an acting class, all of these things. So by the time I was supposed to go to MIT, which I did with her on the back, just to like, check it out, see if I could do it. It was nine months later, I was, that's it.

I dropped the ball and I just decided to become a, you know, somewhat starving actor in New York, slash doorman. This is the montage in the movie where it's just like, you know, fast cuts of, you know, David Bowie and Michael Jackson and Madonna and Steve Rubell and Studio 54 and The Factory and all of that. But where does that impulse to study acting come up? Like you end up, you know, with this acting coach and that's obviously another decision that changes your life. Yeah. And another sort of father figure mentor.

Right. Yes. I met this guy, Warren Robertson, who was an acting coach Upper East Side in New York and Manhattan. He worked with Grace because she was going to be in Arnold's follow up, Conan the Destroyer. So I met him through her and I guess I felt some urge with acting that it was something interesting, people on stage, you know, being emotional. And he was very much into the kind of primal scream and he was into, he was a very perceptive guy. Like he could tell right away, talking to me that I had some issues, I had trauma, something with my dad.

So I remember I did a couple of scenes there and one scene was, one scene I remember was from the, uh, on the waterfront, which is a Marlon Brando picture where he kind of breaks down the door and he's like arguing with Eva Marie Saint. And he kind of, while they're arguing, she won't let him in. He breaks down the door and they kiss in and, you know, anyway, towards the end of the movie. So I did that scene and, um, you know, he, before I did it, I did it kind of a bad version.

And then he got me very emotional because of my dad. And I had to stand there and there's like 75 people in the audience. You stand there and he talks to you and, and then you kind of talk back. Maybe you speak to your dad. Like he had me speak to my dad and get really emotional and upset. And then, okay, now I start to see. So I kind of did the scene and then people seem to enjoy it. And, and then I said, wow, this is, this is amazing.

I'm like, I feel better now. So I kind of hijacked my emotion and I got it. I got to, you know, express it somehow. And I felt better. Then I had to talk to him a little bit later and he said something like, um, you know, maybe the reason you've tried all these different things are because maybe you're an artist. Maybe you're not a chemical engineer, you know, maybe that's what you should do. You know, and I, I thought it made sense to me. So I think at some point there, Grace also realized that, wow, I kind of misjudged this guy.

You know, I'm not just a, you know, good looking, you know, you know, ass kicking, you know, chemical, I mean, chemical engineer who does karate, but there's an other side that I got sort of obsessed with acting. And, and, uh, I could tell that when I was on stage, people enjoyed watching for some reason, even though I was a complete amateur, they, there was something about me that they wanted, people wanted to see. And then when I went out with Grace, people took pictures of me and stuff.

They didn't know who I was, you know? Yeah. You were a sidearm guy. Like you're at all the places, but you're the unknown. You're, you're, you're striking in your appearance, but it wasn't because you had done anything. You were just there with Grace. Grace realizing like, oh, there's this other aspect to this guy. Uh, maybe initially she thought that was cool, but that becomes problematic later. Yeah. Then it started becoming problematic. I started, you know, she helped me in the beginning and I, her agent became my agent and then he set me up for some roles.

And I, I started getting like callbacks for different movies and, uh, very quickly. And, um, uh, one was actually, uh, Stallone was doing this Rambo sequel, Rambo 2, when he goes to Vietnam and it was a big hit later. And there was a Russian character in that movie that he fights this guy in the chopper at the end. And, uh, and they wanted me for that. But, you know, at the same time, I'm also auditioning for this boxing movie and it turns out to be another Stallone picture.

So eventually ended up a year later, once I got the role in Rocky, then they kind of paid me off for the other role, which is a lot of money for me in those days, like five grand or something. And I was like, yes, I got it. I didn't have to do it. And I was doing the Rocky movie. And, uh, but you know, you're right. It started, um, I started sort of, uh, accessing parts of me in, in the acting work that made me, um, it was pleasant in one way, but it was also uncomfortable.

Yeah. This confrontation with your past. When I read that, I'm thinking about how, you know, you can translate your pain into these superpowers. You did it, you know, as a, as a student and you did it as an athlete. And now in the arts, you're finding a way to like channel these experiences that are so difficult, uh, and translate them into, you know, some kind of artistic sensibility that it, that, that empowers your acting career. You know, it's so interesting. Um, you talk about, you shared that story about like him encouraging you to like, have this conversation with your dad and you're able to like cry on cue.

Um, and that's like a, you know, like a direct experience of that trauma. But I'm wondering, like, did that make you want to seek more healing for that? Or was that just like, Oh, I can use this. I'm going to keep it compartmentalized and chambered, but I can bring it out when I need it. So I can, uh, use it as a tool or a utility. Yeah. I think that's what it was. I just kept it compartmentalized. I kept it as kind of a secret weapon to make character more interesting or, you know, to get out of my head, to get more emotional would, you know, be, make me less, um, you know, self-conscious as an actor.

And obviously I sometimes think about You know, had I not gotten a Rocky IV role, had I stayed there and studied acting properly, not just six months, but like six years or something, like I did with karate, what would that have looked like, you know? It wasn't meant to be, but it could have been interesting. Like a stage actor or like a deep dramatic actor. Unfortunately, you're packaged in this incredibly beautiful body and that was not your destiny. So you get this bit part in the James Bond movie, small little part.

Rocky IV comes after that. Stallone famously said, this guy's perfect for the role and people are going to hate him because he's too perfect. Like your perfection becomes, you know, like the reason that the audience is going to turn against you, um, which I think is super insightful and also very funny. And this, this begins, you know, you go on this, you know, cue the next montage right out of Rocky where you, you go on this insane, uh, kind of training to prepare for this role.

Um, but it's the beginning of this very interesting relationship that, uh, you have with Sylvester Stallone, like a closeness, a kinship and a friendship, but also, you know, not without its competitive nature and, and kind of like head-butting, you know, uh, incidents along the way. Yeah. Uh, yeah, we are destined somehow to, you know, to have, to be connected somehow artistically and, and, and personally, uh, which I don't think happened to, you know, certainly has not happened to other people I've worked with. And, and, uh, I don't, I think it's quite unusual for him too, that somebody he worked with 40 years ago, you know, we ended up doing what, how many movies together?

One, two, three, four, five, six films together over 40 years. So quite unusual, I think in the business. You train like a maniac for this role. You do the movie, uh, you're doing ADR in post. You're not really thinking too much about, you're seeing some footage, you're not impressed. Uh, so it seems like you're not, you know, staking your future on what's going to happen with this movie. And then you attend the premiere. So tell the story of the before and the after of that evening.

Oh yeah. The premiere of Rocket 4, it was November 85 in Westwood at the Westwood, uh, marquee was, and they had a new CEO of, um, MGMs. They had the marching bands and the elephants and the whole thing. And, uh, you know, I came out of the limo and I'm Grace Jones's, uh, you know, boyfriend, toy boy, whatever. And people are trying to get me out of the way, take pictures of her. Um, and, uh, yes, they, some folks may have known that I was, you know, the villain in the movie, but not many.

I don't think it wasn't like now there's social media and people didn't really know. And, uh, I sat down and in my seat and then, you know, the movie starts with these two, these two gloves, the Soviet glove, American glove. And, uh, I remember sitting there with my mouth open, like for 90 minutes, just staring. And, um, I hadn't seen the picture and I, I didn't realize how powerful those closeups were like this, you know, that they shot where, you know, the old tungsten lighting that illuminates your eyes and, you know, and the big screen is very powerful.

And the character, this is during the cold war. So you had like a real, people are really, um, you know, people have feelings about the Soviet Union and about that, that confrontation possible. There's a nuclear standoff going down much bigger than let's say, there's a war in Iran. Well, okay. But Soviet Union, they had 10,000 nuclear warheads. It was different. So I think the lights came up and I was in shock. I think that I realized the movie was super powerful. I was moved at the end.

Uh, I was moved by my character. I was moved by, you know, Rocky winning. I thought it was, was the right way. They should have ended that way. I was, and I, and I turned around and everybody's looking at me for some reason. And I was like, you know, and I remember Stallone had told me, just wait, wait till this film opens. Forget the Bond movie. This Rocky picture is going to be huge. And, uh, as I walked out of the theater, people are taking pictures of me and there's photographers everywhere.

And they're asking me questions. There's like press there. And, and I was a bit, uh, disoriented. I felt a little, almost a little ill. Like I, I sort of felt like, oh, wow, this is, this is going to be difficult. And especially with Grace, I felt also that just instantaneously, I kind of just felt that I don't know, very, um, disoriented. And, uh, I read somewhere that somebody said that when you get famous, it, it, um, halters your development. Like you freeze at that age or something.

Yeah. Similar to, I mean, they say that in recovery also, like you're, when you get sober, you're the emotional age of when you began using, you know, it completely arrests your emotional development. Maybe it's right. Cause if you think about people like Michael Jackson or, you know, Elvis and become very famous at a young age. Right. So I think maybe I 20 or 27 years old, 28 years old. So I, uh, I, uh, I probably had some kind of shock and it took me a few years to recover.

Yeah. 10 years. Everything was different after that. Everything was different. And also it was back in the day when you were either a TV actor on a TV show, you were a movie star and there was nothing literally in between. And, you know, real movie stars, like let's say like Jack Nicholson, he never did any, any talk shows. There was no press. You couldn't see him anywhere. Maybe in a paparazzi photo, but you could only experience that person by going to the movies. So it was like more of a kind of a magical kind of a feeling when people saw you in real life.

Yeah. There was a mystique. We didn't have a 24 seven news cycle where there's a whole industry around reporting on every celebrities, every move. I think I probably thought you were Russian, even though your name is Lundgren, you know, like there wasn't really anything out there about you, but I was a senior in high school when that movie came out. It was huge. And I think also the way it was shot and directed, Stallone directed it. Um, and, um, Bill Butler was the DP who shot a lot of movies in the eighties.

He had that fantastic lighting. So it has this modern quality, uh, with the montages, the music, the freeze frames, the big closeups. It's, it's quite modern. So I think a lot of movies that are made in the eighties, they've aged quite, not, not that well. Like it's kind of hard to watch them now, but Rocky four kind of young kids still watch it and they can still kind of, uh, uh, can, can kind of enjoy it. You know, you become this overnight sensation as a result of Rocky four.

Uh, you have the delirium of instant fame and, and you know what that kind of like reaps in your personal life. Uh, and I want to talk about that, but on a professional level, now you're in the limelight. You, I think I've been in like 80 movies over the years. Like your IMDB is, you know, super long, like you've done a ton of stuff, but at the same time you're in the conversation with guys like Stallone and Van Damme and Schwarzenegger and these guys just ascend to superstardom and your path is a little bit different.

Well, yeah, you're right. What happened was I think late seventies and bodybuilding came like early seventies, pumping iron. And then Arnold did, um, Conan the Barbarian like 78 or something. And then he did, uh, then Sly came and did, you know, uh, first blood. And then Arnold did Terminator 85. I think it was, we did Rocky four. Suddenly you, you couldn't fake it. Like if you wanted to play an athlete, you had to be an athlete. And all these guys, they found all these, you know, a lot of Europeans, actually like Van Damme, myself and, uh, Schwarzenegger.

Then you had Stallone. Uh, you also had, uh, Seagal came up. You had to have the abs. You had to have the body. You had to be able to, to look like you could kick ass. You had to be able to run and jump and do everything yourself because, uh, there was this new kind of body culture and, and this, you, you didn't have CGI yet, so you couldn't use a stunt guy. So there's that period between like, say late seventies until 1988 where I think it was 88 one or 89 when, um, um, Tim Burton put a, uh, Michael Keaton in a muscle suit and Michael Keaton did the acting and then he had the suit for the muscles.

And then he, we had, they probably had a couple of doubles do the fighting and that changed things quite a bit. So I came out. Yeah, I think that was like 90 or 91 when that movie came out. Yeah, maybe 90 when it came out. So in between there, that was when I, when we started and of course, you know, I was in the same group as Stallone and Arnold and these guys, obviously they're older than me, but I think the difference was that Arnold, he was a very, um, driven guy.

He had a plan. He wanted to be Mr. Universe and he wanted to be a movie star and then he wants to be governor. And, uh, and Sly was an artist, you know, he was a good writer. Uh, Van Damme also is very clever business guy, you know. Uh, I was just this kid who, you know, a couple of years earlier was going to MIT and, uh, hitting the bag, you know, and now suddenly I'm the movie star. So I didn't really know how to proceed.

So I kind of, I got some bad advice. I, I, I would say now in retrospect, I, some of the, my advisors and managers weren't just the best people in the business. And, uh, you know, um, I still survived by just sheer, you know, perseverance, but I don't think I, you know, really, I wasn't really focused on the right projects on my craft on these things. Either it was like, have it take a business approach like, like Arnold or take like a creative approach like Stallone somewhere in between.

But I didn't really take any of that. I just kind of followed what people told me. So, so for me, it was, it was a tough time. You know, I did movies that I did fairly well, a couple of four, they say three or four movies after Rocky four. And then it kind of started petering out because I didn't have Stallone to look out for me. I didn't have MGM. I didn't have good directors, a good script. So I think it became more of a struggle like early nineties from there on, it's sort of became more of a struggle.

My trauma started to kind of come up and make itself, you know, uh, announced itself in my private life. Uh, I started to kind of, you know, partying a little harder and doing crazier stuff on the stunt front and training and, and yeah, so I kind of, it was, it was, um, yeah, the sort of initial allure of fame was kind of given away to sort of a day-to-day kind of, uh, more of a harder existence, you know. You have these guys like Arnold and Sly, they're on a mission.

They came to Hollywood with a dream and a purpose. They've been, you know, they've been imagining, you know, a cake they've been baking for a very long time and they will not be denied. You show up like, Oh, maybe I'll take some acting class. Like this is all kind of happening to you. You didn't arrive with that degree of intention that you've been thinking about for a long time. So there's that piece. And you have Arnold who's just, you know, you know, have you ever met anyone with more self-confidence, you know, and charisma?

Like he had this self belief, like he was going to manifest this no matter what. And he could just see it happening. Then we have you, uh, not only are you kind of new to town and like, yeah, you're getting some acting chops and you're getting a bunch of attention, but like you're sort of a deer in headlights in this situation. You hadn't really thought it through. Uh, you have this amazing break with Rocky four, but you know, was there even a plan about like how to build upon that afterwards?

Not to mention this insecure kind of anxiety riddled, like inner child. Uh, you know, you, you said the trauma started to like, you know, create some negative behaviors in the aftermath of this. Um, not the least of which I would imagine was, you know, just a sense of like undeservedness, like, Hey, I'm lucky. Like, I don't know that, you know, like I really like, I don't, I'm not Arnold or I'm not this guy. And maybe that manifested as a little self sabotage or, you know, just a lack of self belief.

Like, I don't want to project upon you, but I'm curious around like how you think about it in that context, like the relationship to your childhood and how you, you know, what your inner monologue was at that time when all that was happening. Um, you know, having a lack of a vision and a plan from the beginning, you know, makes you a little less, uh, focused, you know, because you're not really know what you're looking for. Obviously fame was great. You know, I was single. I'm meeting a lot of young, pretty girls, you know, and a lot of new friends, you know, I could work out, I could travel around the world.

I could, uh, uh, enjoy fame, um, make money that hadn't, didn't have before. There was a lot of new aspects to it that, that were quite, um, seductive, you know. Um, I think also I kind of knew on a deep level. level that I did have this problem, this trauma, that kind of addictive personality. Could be addictive to stunts or training, or it could be addictive to drugs or alcohol or sex or whatever. Yeah, you call them escape behaviors. Escape behavior, yeah. I heard about that.

You know, you have, I talk about it in the book, where you're trying to escape something that's inside you. You know, it's like a soldier drinking or being involved in violence or sexual affairs, but you have to deal with what's there. Or body perfection. Yeah. Like the training. Or that too. Yeah. Why? I had all of those, the escape behavior, and I think what happened was early in the 90s, my mother passed away in 92. She was quite young, only 60. And yeah, she didn't protect me, but I loved her, and she was a very gentle, very loving sweet person.

Never heard her raise her voice or do anything negative once, I think, in her life. She was one of those people. She was very giving, and it was a bit of a shock to me, you know? She passed away very suddenly. And I met this Swedish girl in New York, and I kind of, I got engaged to her, and I wanted to replace my mom, I think. And this girl, she was great at that time. She hated LA, didn't like Hollywood at all. So we ended up moving to New York first, and then eventually we moved back to Europe.

And I think part of that was to satisfy her, and the other part was maybe I had a feeling that I didn't have the strength to survive maybe in Hollywood with my trauma, and I would have self-destructed perhaps, like I started when I was a kid before my dad got me up to my grandparents. So I went back to Europe and kind of removed myself from Hollywood scene a little bit. And so I think that affected my career, you know, because once you're gone, once you even go to Miami, you know, it's not the same thing as being in LA.

But going to Marbella, Spain, 7,000 kilometers from here, 5,000 miles from here, you know, that impacted my career quite substantially. And I wanted to have a family with her, and I think I wanted to have like a normal life somehow. And I felt that I wasn't cut out for Hollywood maybe at that time. I was doing movies, but I wanted a bit of a... She wanted the distance, and I think I didn't mind either. I was kind of led along there. I don't know if it would have been better to stay smack in the middle of Hollywood or if that would have been a very negative thing for me, you know, I could have gotten in trouble in all kinds of ways.

Yeah. I mean, it sounds like self-preservation to get out of there, to spare yourself the pain of your inevitable demise if you kind of stayed here. If we had a People magazine from 1989 and took a look and see who was still around, there'd be a lot of people who you never, you know, be dead or gone. Yeah, of course. Yeah. A lot of casualties. And also, like as much as I romanticize like kind of, you know, Studio 54 of it all, like, you know, a lot of those people died, you know.

This was not for the weak of heart at all, and it just, you know, everything is preying on your baser instincts to behave badly. And if you're, you know, already prone to that kind of behavior because of, you know, your past, you know, it's not going to go well. So I think it was a survival mechanism to like get out of town. Also not for nothing, like the chaos of how your relationship with Grace ended. I mean, when the power dynamic shifted and you are no longer the arm piece and now you're the center of attention, like that relationship becomes dysfunctional.

She is challenged by that. And you know, there's a lot of insane behavior. There's throwing bricks and voodoo dolls and like burning your pictures and your clothes and you know, guns and all kinds of stuff, right? And this sort of codependency aspect to that relationship that you have to extract yourself out of that and you find a net and it's like, oh, this is this feels like home. You know, this feels stable. Your mom's passed away. I can build a life with this person. Like this is a way of saving myself.

I think you're right. Yeah, I did. I think my last picture that went on the big screen was Universal Soldier was 1992, around the time I met Annette. And then I think we had one more, Johnny Mnemonic with Keanu Reeves. But you know, after that, I wasn't on the big screen until 2010. So that's, what is that, 17 years later. This Johnny Mnemonic movie provided you with the opportunity to return to Sweden and do some press. Yeah. And also later I did a scene called Summer, I was a summer host where you, it was a radio show where you play music and you talk about your life.

This is quite a bit later. And I did that. My oldest daughter was quite young and I decided that the producer, the female producer had told me when I told her my story, oh, the one thing about your dad is really good. You should talk about that. So I did the Summer, this radio show when I spoke about my relationship to my dad. And it starts with me being a kid sitting on his shoulders and we're watching the Changing of the Guards and they play some Swedish march, famous march.

And it starts there and then it goes, everything that happens between that moment and the moment Rocky IV opened. So that's the whole thing that Swedes, the Swedes didn't know, did not know about me. And when I did that and I got very emotional speaking about it, that changed everything in Sweden. And after that, they kind of took me to heart. They embraced you. Yeah. You went from pariah to hero, like in one interview. More or less, yeah. What's interesting about that to me is it demonstrates the power of vulnerability as a vehicle for connection, like by you having the courage to share that very intimate story about your upbringing.

And I don't know what the culture was like in Sweden at that time around talking about this kind of stuff, but obviously that really connected with people and they were able to see your humanity and that allowed them to form a new story around who you are. And perhaps that's the first time that you had that kind of direct encounter with being honest and open as this stoic person who's always armored up and thinking that's the way to connect with people and realizing, no, it's this other way.

Yeah, you're right. It was true then and it's true now. I think that people, especially in our world, I mean, there's so much that's manufactured and that is either AI or CGI or planned by, no offense to anybody here, publicists. Everything is like, it's a story that's been rehearsed. But if you're honest about things, it can be quite powerful, I think. Did you clock that at that time? Were you consciously aware of that? I didn't know it was going to be like that, but I had a feeling that I wanted to be honest about it because I also, my kids never knew what's wrong with our dad.

Why is he like that? Why does he go out drinking? Why doesn't he connect sometimes? They didn't know what had happened to me. My daughter was there and kids are very, she was little, but kids are very emotional. So she started crying too towards the end because I was getting emotional and they just pick it up, right? And I think I told them the story after that too about my dad. I had never told them what had happened to me. So it sort of opened up a whole other world for me where I realized, well, this can actually be a positive thing for me.

It doesn't have to be a secret that it makes me feel bad. It's almost the opposite. As somebody who was so used to or acclimated to cutting a certain pose and making sure that you were protected behind this mask of ultimate masculinity, I would imagine there was a sense of fear or risk about sharing that publicly for the first time and thinking, how are people going to, they're going to think about me differently now. Now I'm vulnerable. Like I'm supposed to be the ultimate warrior, you know?

Yeah. I mean, I've been through it a few times lately with the cancer and then at that time, it was the first time that I opened up and it felt really good and it made me feel better than what I felt when I was acting or better than I felt, you know, almost any time in my life to share things and to share my story and my pain was making me feel better. And I also think because I wasn't using, I wasn't really getting dramatic roles where I could express it that much, like it wasn't like, you know, family dramas or anything.

It was like, you know, an action guy. Yeah, he gets upset, you know, when his buddy dies or something, but it's, you know, kind of killing spree. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. But so I couldn't use my work either to express it, but I think, yeah, it was a great feeling and I wish I would have done more of it, but over the years, I've gotten, I've shifted more, I think, into that space of sharing, trying to share some wisdom, I guess, or, you know, some emotions that maybe other people can relate to.

Yeah. You're in Marbella. You're making movies, you're doing your thing, you're raising your kids, maybe drinking a little bit too much. Yeah. Marriage maybe not going so great, but, you know, it's a life. Then 2010 rolls around, your brother Sly gives you a call, and you're kind of back in the game again with this Expendables movie, which you build upon, and you're kind of back doing interesting things again, like there is this second or third act where you're doing larger projects than you have in a long time, and 2015 rolls around.

Yeah, well, what happened was, first, I knew I had to move back to the States for my finances, for my career. Basically, I took a 90% salary cut between, say, 1993 when I moved to like 2000 and whatever, 2005, and my wife didn't want to move, and we ended up having a lot of problems, and I got divorced in 2010. Moved back to LA, Sly called me for Expendables, that was a hit, and now I'm sort of on the path to doing other things, and I am, you know, I am getting more, I'm getting into therapy, I'm doing meditation.

I started working with my- What prompted that? I was in another relationship with another woman, a Swedish girl, actually, and I knew I was going to screw it up. I knew I was going to, I had to do something. I was still drinking too much. I was flirting with other women, and I figured, and she was the one who told me about meditation, and then another- Vipassana, it was Vipassana, right? Yeah. Vipassana, and also I, somebody said, you know, you should try therapy, because I was my, an actor, a friend of mine, and I, so I got into both, and it started changing my life, and I started feeling much better, you know, less anxious, you know, less escape behavior, and then 2015 rolls around, like you said, and I'm in Sweden doing some karate training.

I thought I had got kicked in the kidney or something, because I was, I had blood in the urine, but it turned out to be kidney cancer. So, you know, this is, I didn't tell anybody, and I still ended up doing another Expendables. I ended up doing Aquaman. I did, you know, Creed II. I went through, had surgery, but five years later, you're supposed to be, I was supposed to be cancer-free, 2020. So, that was a period of personal growth, I guess, back in LA, career, picked up again, and then in 2020, the cancer came back.

2015, kidney cancer diagnosis. Yeah. You treat it. It goes into remission. Yeah. You don't really tell anyone what's going on. No. Is that because you're afraid that it will cost you rolls, or is it just this protective armor of, you know, trying to maintain this aura of invincibility? Is it a, like, trauma response, like you don't want to show weakness, or you don't want the people around you, your children, to have to suffer, so you're going to suffer in silence? I think it had more to do with my career.

I was afraid that it would change my image, or people weren't going to offer me any work. I mean, our kids knew about it. I told them. I had a vacation in Europe, and we were on the yacht, I remember, and I told both my daughters, it was in Italy, and they both were crying, of course. I told them that I had a tumor in my kidney, we're going to take it out, and so they knew about it, but not a lot of other people did.

I think it was just, I didn't know where to start. I didn't, I was scared. I didn't want people to think that I was going to die and not offer me any movies. I think a combination, and also not to bother other people, to feel sorry for me, friends. My kids knew, and some of my close friends, but the rest of the world, I didn't want them to have to worry about me, I guess. And work becomes an easy and accessible escape behavior. Yes, work became even more accessible.

I did a lot of roles. I did my own stunts, a lot of stuff in Aquaman 1, I did Creed 2, I did a bunch of action movies, kept training. Also, I was taking steroids, I was taking HGH, stuff that can enhance tumor growth. I was just on a kind of a testosterone kick. Mm-hmm. That was like a 10-year period of that, yeah. Yeah, all of my movies, and because of my movies, and also because of sports, and some things I was doing, fighting and other things I was doing.

But I think it was also not knowing how to slow down. I didn't know how to stay home and read a book or anything like that, or lay on the couch, and I couldn't even think about doing that. So now I can, but I couldn't. So, chemical engineer, advanced degrees in chemical engineering gets his hands on steroids. Yeah. What is that? That had to be you being some kind of a mad scientist at that point, experimenting on yourself. Well, yeah, the experimentation started earlier in the 80s, but I think it was more like a guy who was really into his body and wanting to see how far can I take it and hear, oh, this stuff's supposed to be good.

Now I recover faster, I get bigger muscles, and a lot of other guys are doing it. And when you're 30 years old, you don't think of any repercussions or anything negative. I did it on and off when I was younger, and then I was off it for a while, then I would do it a little bit, and you keep doing it. And I think after the first cancer scare, I think I was afraid of feeling weak, so I went back. Oh, you did it after your first, wow, that's interesting.

Because, yeah, listen, muscles aren't the only thing that these things grow, you know? That's like high-risk behavior. Yes, it is. And even now, actually, I was talking to my oncologist about it. You know, a lot of these new wellness, longevity medications, people haven't taken them long enough for there to be enough scientific evidence to what it really does. So, who knows what it's going to look like 20 years from now. Yeah. So, you survive that first bout with cancer, you go into remission, 2020 rolls around, peak COVID, everyone's shut down.

Everything's shut down. I was doing a movie in Alabama, and it gets shut down because, actually, I was directing, and it got shut down because of COVID. And somebody says, hey, don't come back to LA, it's even worse. Alabama's a little more open, so we stay there, my wife, Emma, my new wife, I was not married to her yet, I was seeing her. And then somebody said, well, Sweden's really open, you should go to Sweden. So, I went to Sweden, and same thing happened. Like, the first time I was training, and I started feeling a bit ill.

I went for a CAT scan, and there was another tumor, there was like six tumors in that same area, where they'd taken the one out. So, I wasn't an expert, but I knew enough about cancer, where you have six more tumors in that area, it's not a good sign. And it was the week that I'd planned to ask Emma to marry me. And it wasn't very easy to plan that because it was during COVID. I had special permission to use this roof terrace, and I had hired a violinist, and my friends were going to show up.

And this was like on Thursday, and on Tuesday, I found out, so I was like, oh, shit, what am I going to do? I bought the ring and everything, so I just, I'll go ahead and do it anyway. So, I went ahead and did it, and we got engaged. But obviously, there was- Yeah, and then, by the way- By the way, yeah. I mean, it had spread all over. Well- It wasn't just- No, it hadn't spread yet. It was there around the kidney. And what happened was, I went back to America, I had surgery again, the same hospital.

And then, I went back and finished a picture, the one that was put on hold because of COVID. And then, they realized, oh, it spread a little bit, and I was going to get rid of that. And then, they couldn't do it. The tumor had gotten too big, so they gave me immunotherapy, which is when you take drugs, IV drugs, and they help you boost your own immune system. But they have bad side effects, like you get sores in your feet, in your mouth. You can get blood clots in your lungs, which I did, so you have to take blood thinners, et cetera, lose weight.

So, I did that for about six months, and it did turn out, I found out later, that those were the wrong drugs. I was misdiagnosed. They weren't going to help no matter how much of it I took because the type of cancer I had was another mutation that you have to really look at the cells to determine what it is, and they hadn't done that. At that point, before getting the second opinion- Yeah. You were under the impression that this was the end of the road, essentially.

You weren't going to beat it this time. I don't know if I, I don't think I gave up, but I was told, I mean, I did another, I did two pictures in London, Aquaman and Expendables 4, I shot in London while I was doing all this, and I was fairly good mood for some weird reason. I think it was some Viking part of me kicked in where it was like, oh, fuck it. It's like, oh, we're going to hell anyway. We're going to Valhalla. I'm just going to fucking enjoy it, go out in a blast of glory here.

So, I wasn't feeling that depressed, and the doctor in London, he was the one who told me that, I said, well, I had a man-to-man talk to him when, not with Emma, but he said, yeah, you probably have about three years left, but I thought he probably meant less because he didn't want to tell me the truth. So, it was tough. I mean, I was working on my own will, changing that around, and this is the end of 2019, or 2020, 2021, actually. So, yeah, and it started to kind of dawn upon me that maybe this is the end, but somebody had told me there's another doctor at UCLA who's really good.

You should, once you get a second opinion. So, I was, after I come home, I came back from the set, and I had to gather all my stuff together, all my charts, and send it to this woman, and I thought, well, it's not going to lead to anything, but I'll do it anyway. Well, I just had a feeling I got to explore all options, a little bit like with Stallone and Rocky IV, like, okay, well, this guy says it's over, but what about, let me try this person.

So, I did that, and that's when we came back to America, and went to see her at UCLA. She, you know, immediately said there's something that isn't right here. It doesn't make sense. We looked at your biopsy, and it's a very, very unusual type of kidney cancer that this medication you've been getting has no effect on this, but there's another five medications you can take that works against this. Yeah. She was able to identify a genetic marker that made you a candidate for a very targeted treatment that ultimately proved to be unbelievably effective, and, you know, completely changes the entire thing.

I mean, you go from, like, well, this is my eminent demise, to, you know, suddenly, like, a completely different picture of what your future could look like, and this doctor, like, this is another synchronicity kind of thing. Like, her dad's a huge fan of yours. Her husband, I think, worked out at the same gym as you, and, you know, like, you fall into the lap of absolutely the right person who's going to help you out here, and you're given this, you know, second chance at life.

I know. And the dizzying kind of, like, whiplash effect of, like, it's going to be this way, to now it's this way. Like, what was that like? You know, hearing you talk about it, it's just amazing what happened, and I still can't really believe it, you know. I can't believe that I was that close to dying, and I can't believe that this other person could just turn it around in, like, four weeks, because I started taking their other drug, and within four weeks, everything was shrinking, and I was in another movie.

Actually, I was directing another picture, because I didn't want, I'd wanted to keep working, you know. Yeah, because God forbid you sit still for a minute. Yes. Dolph. No, I can't. So, yeah, I mean, look, I guess somehow I felt that, yeah, I may not have been, you know, as successful as Arnold or Sly, but I've always tried to be nice to people, and be a good person, and maybe it came back to me, you know, from the universe, and that's why I was given the second chance.

Yeah. And, you know. You're given this gift. Yeah. And now, you know, in the aftermath of that, with the benefit of time and perspective, like, what have you extracted from that experience, and a lifetime of all of these, you know, unbelievable experiences that you've had, a very unique life, has it taught you about what's important, and what's meaningful in life? Yeah. Well, it's not an easy question to answer, because there's so many parts to it, you know. All the people you love, how quickly the whole thing goes, you know, the good, you know, the good energy coming back to you, all these circumstances, in my case.

But I think that, well, I think there is some meaning, there's some meaning with our lives, I think everybody, there's a reason we're here, and I think my reason had to do with sharing experiences with other people, and I think that's why I switched from engineering to this, when I'm sitting here with you, instead of shaking a test tube somewhere. Maybe that is some of the meaning. On one level, there's that connection to everybody else on this planet, all the other people, because we're all in the same journey, like how we started this, the monomyth, we're all going through it, whether you're American, or Russian, or Iranian, or Ukrainian, it doesn't matter, right?

And I've always felt the kinship to everybody. I don't feel, I'm not a political person, I feel everybody has a value, and I can connect to everybody, and I think my life has been some kind of message, I guess, like there's that Gandhi who said, when they said, give us a message, and he said, my life is my message. I read this other quote by, I think it was by Louise Hay, who said, who I listened to her affirmations almost every night, and she said, one thing she has when she says, I am the treasure I've been seeking.

That's the nugget, like that's the centerpiece in this whole healing journey of you returning home, because I think that the impact of the trauma that you suffered powered you through this astonishing life, but so much of it was driven by pain, unresolved pain, at the core of which is this sense of, not maybe self-loathing, but like a refusal to accept yourself as you are, and in the aftermath of the cancer journey, and all the therapy that you've done, and you know, Louise Hay plays a large role in this, it's really about coming to this place where you can accept yourself, and have self-love and compassion for yourself.

You talk about looking into the mirror, and rehearsing a mantra to yourself. Yeah, yeah, when you look in the mirror, like you say, I love you, you know, you look yourself in the eye. I mean, that's hard for most people to do, and mean it, because when you first start, you don't mean it, and you realize, boy, Why don't I mean it? Because is this something I did or is this just somebody told me that a long time ago? Especially if you're the ultimate alpha male.

Yeah. You know? Yeah, then it's even more difficult. Yeah, like this is beta behavior. You know what I mean? From a cultural perspective. We're in this moment right now where there's a lot of young men who are suffering and they're looking for meaning. This loneliness epidemic, a lack of opportunity, and we have a digital social media landscape that's populated by people who are influencing this generation of young men who are looking for guidance, looking for father figures and mentors. And you being kind of like the ultimate giga-chad who can out-mog anyone.

You know, what is your message to that young man who is suffering and prone to the influence of somebody who might not be giving them the best guidance? Well, you have to, well, what we were talking about is you have to love yourself first before you can love others. And that's what's hard in life. And it takes a long, it's easier said than done, you know? Because if you don't love yourself, then strength doesn't mean anything. And strength can be used for negative purposes, and it is a lot in the world.

Because you can take these young men and you can feed them some kind of false messaging and use their aggressiveness to negative purpose. And it's done every day. We just turn on the TV, you see it. But I think it's up to each individual to try to find themselves and find the treasure in themselves, you know? Because then maybe you're not as susceptible to that language, to that indoctrination. You do things for yourself, you know? Because what you believe in, not what people tell you to believe in, you know?

A lot of that misguided messaging is around the material aspects of success. You know, the right car, the right suit, the right watch, the right haircut, the right physique, the right job and salary. And you're somebody who has lived all of those lives. You've lived them on screen, but you've lived them in real life. You've had extreme fame. You've had more external validation than almost like the 0.001% of people who've ever lived. You've had money, you've lost money. You've had, you know, the most beautiful women in the world on your arm.

Like all of these things that like the Andrew Tate's of the world are telling you, like, if you have this, you'll be happy. And this is how the world will perceive you. And you've come out the other side, having one lost, suffered, experienced, you know, awe and wonder, survived cancer, parented children, been married, gotten divorced, all of it, like the full spectrum of life, right? And so what can you report back about these ambitions that, you know, a young person might have around the material possession or celebrity or fame or status or movie stardom, or, you know, the appearance of your partner, all of those things that seem to capture quite a bit of mindshare in terms of where we should be placing our ambitions?

Well, you know, I don't know if I'm the person to... Not to put you in a position of being a spokesperson, but I'm talking about you and your life and speaking from your own direct experience. Well, I think all of those things are fine. You know, ambition is fine, material things are okay. I mean, it's interesting to experience things in life. We only hear once as far as I know and as far as we know. You know, it's nice to drive a cool car. It's nice to have a Ferrari or a good suit or a beautiful woman or a family.

I mean, all those things are good. I mean, I think it's okay to achieve those things. It's more about not losing yourself. I mean, I think one also has to remember that, you know, the Russian author, Solzhenitsyn, you know, he said, Nobel Prize winner, he said, the line between good and evil cuts through the heart of every man. So you have to remember that. And we have both, the good and the evil, to put it very bluntly. But, you know, we have, I think it's a bit of a struggle within all the time, all of us.

It's a fight to try to be, to do the right thing, you know, to put it simple. But I think if you feel you do the right thing, if you really believe that you're doing the right thing, then you're always gonna be okay. You're always gonna feel good about yourself. And I think that's how I wanna be remembered. People, you know, the Vikings said that cattle, you know, cattle die, kinsmen die, you yourself shall, one shall die. But I know one thing that never dies is the judgment over the dead man.

How do people speak about you when you've gone? And I think that's where it's at, on the, as a man, on the deep level. That's where I think we all wanna be. And that's the kind of, I think if we can remember that, then I think you're gonna make the right decisions. Have you lived your life with integrity? Are you basing your decisions on self-aggrandizement or the betterment and welfare of other people? How generous are you of spirit and heart? All of these things are what matters.

And I think you're correct in saying like, the nice car and all the trappings of success are fine. But if you're seeking them as a way of, you know, filling that hole in your spirit, it's not gonna get you there. And somebody also said, you know, your job as a man is to be in the red, to give more than you were given, to love more than you were loved, to protect more people than you were protected, like to have a positive net, you know? Then it's okay.

And I think it wasn't for, then your life meant something, you know? I think it's in there somewhere that, you know, it comes down to, and I don't make all the right decisions all the time, but I think on the whole, I would say, looking back at my life, I could kind of stand behind that, I would say, that I feel like I think I've fulfilled those things. Still a warrior, but a peaceful warrior. Yes, the older, wiser warrior, the guy who comes back from the battles and can maybe teach the young warrior something.

Yeah, the man who can return like Russell Crowe at the end of Gladiator Home, having vanquished his enemies, but also can look in the mirror and say, Dolph, I really, really love you, and not feel like that's cringy, like to mean it. Yeah, and to do it as a practice of self-nurturing and honoring. Like you mentioned being in the red, like always giving more than you're seeking to receive, but doing it with a bright spirit, not because you feel like your worth or your deservedness is contingent upon other people seeing you doing those things, but out of a self-honoring practice.

Like I deserve to love the people that I love to the best of my ability, and the way that I do that is by showing up for them, not running away in escape behaviors or freezing, your freeze response. Yeah, and there's also the other side of it, which now when I listen to you, it's that you're learning about yourself till the day you die. I feel like I wanna learn stuff. I mean, it's a process. The work is never done. No, the work is never done.

Somebody said, I'm a river I'm learning how to cross, and you're navigating that river, and it's like the current's going this way, you have to steer the boat that way, and then it goes that way, and then you keep going, and I think that's the exciting part of it. It never stops. Life will continue to be uncertain. There is pain in your future, and the work is never done, but along the way, you've made peace with your past, with your father and your mother and your upbringing, and that has allowed you to make peace with yourself and to love yourself, and the reason to love yourself is so that you can give more of yourself to the things that you care about and the people that matter in your life.

Is that a fair, like this is Odysseus finally arriving on the shores of Ithaca after his very long journey. You're right, and some people, Jesus Christ may have reached that when he was 30. Some people reach it when they're 65. It's a journey when you get to that state. And right now, health-wise, I mean, you look good. You feel good? I feel good, yeah. I feel good. I feel like the old warrior is kind of coming back, and it took me about two years to get back in shape, but I feel pretty good now.

Every week, I'm actually getting stronger again, so I'm sort of back to where I was even before this started, because when I was doing the steroids and stuff after 2015, I wasn't feeling 100%. I was never really feeling good because it wasn't natural, so I would say it goes back more than 10 years. I feel better now than I did. Probably the same I felt like 20 years ago or something. I think it's a really exciting time for you. You have so much earned wisdom from all of these experiences, and you're kind of back.

You got this book coming out. You've got the documentary about a month later. The book comes out September 22nd, I think, and then the documentary comes out in October. This documentary, I mean, this is a journey unto itself. That was something that began a long time ago prior to all the cancer and all that, and then all kinds of ups and downs, but is really a firsthand account, shot on iPhones by your wife and you, a lot of that aspect of it that now tells this more full story.

And I think these two pieces together, and just how kind of comfortable you are in your own skin, I mean, that really comes across. I think this is gonna be a really golden era for you. I'm excited to see what comes of all of this, and really for wider audiences to really know who you are. Your life is really, you've lived such a remarkable life, and when you look back on it, there must be gratitude and awe and wonder, but maybe we can end with what you would say to young Hans, who's getting kind of knocked about by his dad, this little kid.

What is the message you wanna give to him now? I would say, no, don't worry, it's gonna be fine. Come here, I'll give you a hug. Yeah. Because you can be your own parent to that inner child now. Yeah, give him some warmth and compassion, and he still has to suffer through everything, but at least he would feel like, oh, this big guy really loves me and cares about me. So that would have been nice. But I do that almost every day when I do my affirmations.

I try to remind myself of those things. That's beautiful, man. Thanks. It was a real honor to have you here today. It really was. I feel a kinship with you. Thanks, man. You're an old soul. Yeah, thank you. You too. An artist, and that was very meaningful to me. I really appreciate the openness and the candor that you brought to this experience. Thank you, thank you. It was a great interview, very unusual and special, and I understand that we share a few things in our past, what you've told me.

I hope people will maybe walk away with some, maybe some nuggets that they can apply in their own lives. I'm not worried about that at all. I think they got more than they bargained for, and there's even more in your book, Fights Worth Fighting, available everywhere, September 22nd, and the documentary October 6th. And also the book, you can pre-order it on Amazon. Yeah, please pre-order it now. We'll have links up in the show notes and in the description below the YouTube video. And I wish you well, man.

Best of luck. This is all gonna be a big success for you, man. Thank you. Yeah, appreciate it. Pleasure, hope we'll do it again. Yeah, I'd love to, anytime. Yeah, thanks.