Break the Patterns that Hold You Back & Start Creating Real Wealth | Ed Mylett

Hey everyone, welcome to my weekend Hey everyone, welcome to my weekend special. I hope you enjoy the show. Hit special. I hope you enjoy the show. Hit special. I hope you enjoy the show. Hit that like button and be sure to that like button and be sure to that like button and be sure to subscribe to the YouTube channel so you subscribe to the YouTube channel so you subscribe to the YouTube channel so you never miss my show, whether it's never miss my show, whether it's never miss my show, whether it's Tuesday, Thursday, or Saturday. Now on Tuesday, Thursday, or Saturday. Now on Tuesday, Thursday, or Saturday. Now on with the show. with the show. with the show. Welcome back to Max Out everybody. I'm Welcome back to Max Out everybody. I'm Welcome back to Max Out everybody. I'm Ed Mylett and today we're going to talk Ed Mylett and today we're going to talk Ed Mylett and today we're going to talk about patterns. about patterns. about patterns. Yes, every human being is almost runs Yes, every human being is almost runs Yes, every human being is almost runs like a software program in their mind like a software program in their mind like a software program in their mind and they run these patterns of behavior, and they run these patterns of behavior, and they run these patterns of behavior, patterns of thoughts, patterns of words, patterns of thoughts, patterns of words, patterns of thoughts, patterns of words, patterns of performance. And most of patterns of performance. And most of patterns of performance. And most of these patterns run in our lives without these patterns run in our lives without these patterns run in our lives without us being conscious of them. And they us being conscious of them. And they us being conscious of them. And they steal from us our ability to be happier, steal from us our ability to be happier, steal from us our ability to be happier, to be more joyful, to produce at the to be more joyful, to produce at the to be more joyful, to produce at the highest levels, to engage with people highest levels, to engage with people highest levels, to engage with people the right way. And they create for us the right way. And they create for us the right way. And they create for us often times in our life a disconnect often times in our life a disconnect often times in our life a disconnect between what our beliefs are and between what our beliefs are and between what our beliefs are and actually how we behave. We call that actually how we behave. We call that actually how we behave. We call that cognitive dissonance often times where cognitive dissonance often times where cognitive dissonance often times where we believe one thing, but we often we believe one thing, but we often we believe one thing, but we often behave differently. And that's because behave differently. And that's because behave differently. And that's because sometimes our patterns can even override sometimes our patterns can even override sometimes our patterns can even override our thoughts. And often times in life, our thoughts. And often times in life, our thoughts. And often times in life, if we can just become conscious that we if we can just become conscious that we if we can just become conscious that we do have these patterns, we begin to do have these patterns, we begin to do have these patterns, we begin to evaluate them and be aware of them, we evaluate them and be aware of them, we evaluate them and be aware of them, we can identify them when they rear their can identify them when they rear their can identify them when they rear their head and we can overcome them. We can head and we can overcome them. We can head and we can overcome them. We can create new patterns that serve us. And create new patterns that serve us. And create new patterns that serve us. And so the first thing I'm here to tell you so the first thing I'm here to tell you so the first thing I'm here to tell you today is that you do run a series of today is that you do run a series of today is that you do run a series of patterns in your life. You have a patterns in your life. You have a patterns in your life. You have a pattern of behavior. You have a pattern pattern of behavior. You have a pattern pattern of behavior. You have a pattern of producing results. There's certain of producing results. There's certain of producing results. There's certain stimulus that cause these patterns to stimulus that cause these patterns to stimulus that cause these patterns to happen for you and unless you begin to happen for you and unless you begin to happen for you and unless you begin to evaluate them and be aware of them when evaluate them and be aware of them when evaluate them and be aware of them when they happen, these patterns begin to they happen, these patterns begin to they happen, these patterns begin to really take control of our lives. For really take control of our lives. For really take control of our lives. For some of you, even as I say this, you're some of you, even as I say this, you're some of you, even as I say this, you're nodding your head in awareness. You're nodding your head in awareness. You're nodding your head in awareness. You're sort of aware, I fall into these sort of aware, I fall into these sort of aware, I fall into these patterns of when something happens, I patterns of when something happens, I patterns of when something happens, I begin to think a certain way which begin to think a certain way which begin to think a certain way which creates another thought and another creates another thought and another creates another thought and another behavior and I find myself running this behavior and I find myself running this behavior and I find myself running this same story again. Or if I get into a same story again. Or if I get into a same story again. Or if I get into a disagreement with somebody, a pattern disagreement with somebody, a pattern disagreement with somebody, a pattern kicks in. Or if I have a failure, a kicks in. Or if I have a failure, a kicks in. Or if I have a failure, a pattern kicks in. If I have a success, a pattern kicks in. If I have a success, a pattern kicks in. If I have a success, a pattern kicks in. And so if we can pattern kicks in. And so if we can pattern kicks in. And so if we can become aware of these things, it's a become aware of these things, it's a become aware of these things, it's a breakthrough in our lives. I think today breakthrough in our lives. I think today breakthrough in our lives. I think today could be one of the more powerful could be one of the more powerful could be one of the more powerful programs I've ever brought to you. It's programs I've ever brought to you. It's programs I've ever brought to you. It's just becoming aware of what some of just becoming aware of what some of just becoming aware of what some of these patterns are. Now, before we get these patterns are. Now, before we get these patterns are. Now, before we get into those, I want to talk a little bit into those, I want to talk a little bit into those, I want to talk a little bit about what you really want. You know, about what you really want. You know, about what you really want. You know, often in life, just choosing the often in life, just choosing the often in life, just choosing the emotions we want. We've talked in a lot emotions we want. We've talked in a lot emotions we want. We've talked in a lot of my programs about the caliber of our of my programs about the caliber of our of my programs about the caliber of our life has everything to do with the life has everything to do with the life has everything to do with the caliber of the emotions we experience on caliber of the emotions we experience on caliber of the emotions we experience on a regular level. We are our emotions. a regular level. We are our emotions. a regular level. We are our emotions. And so, the first thing I'd ask you to And so, the first thing I'd ask you to And so, the first thing I'd ask you to do is to start to use the power of do is to start to use the power of do is to start to use the power of choice in your life. Yes, you get to choice in your life. Yes, you get to choice in your life. Yes, you get to choose your life. You get to choose how choose your life. You get to choose how choose your life. You get to choose how you feel. Not other people. There's you feel. Not other people. There's you feel. Not other people. There's these illusions in life. We really can't these illusions in life. We really can't these illusions in life. We really can't control anything other than our own control anything other than our own control anything other than our own thoughts, our own behavior, our own thoughts, our own behavior, our own thoughts, our own behavior, our own patterns. We can't control what other patterns. We can't control what other patterns. We can't control what other people do, say, or think. And it's this people do, say, or think. And it's this people do, say, or think. And it's this illusion of control, oftentimes, that we illusion of control, oftentimes, that we illusion of control, oftentimes, that we can somehow manipulate other people or can somehow manipulate other people or can somehow manipulate other people or manipulate situations that cause us to manipulate situations that cause us to manipulate situations that cause us to fall into these patterns. But, what we fall into these patterns. But, what we fall into these patterns. But, what we do have the power of in life is we have do have the power of in life is we have do have the power of in life is we have the power to choose. And I say this to the power to choose. And I say this to the power to choose. And I say this to you because I'm somebody just like you, you because I'm somebody just like you, you because I'm somebody just like you, I struggle with the different patterns I I struggle with the different patterns I I struggle with the different patterns I have. Some of them serve me, some of have. Some of them serve me, some of have. Some of them serve me, some of them don't. I sometimes engage in them don't. I sometimes engage in them don't. I sometimes engage in thoughts that don't create the right thoughts that don't create the right thoughts that don't create the right emotions for me, that don't serve me. I emotions for me, that don't serve me. I emotions for me, that don't serve me. I know what it's like to be frustrated and know what it's like to be frustrated and know what it's like to be frustrated and angry and depressed and down and lost angry and depressed and down and lost angry and depressed and down and lost and fearful and worried. Worry is a big and fearful and worried. Worry is a big and fearful and worried. Worry is a big one for me. I love to fall into the one for me. I love to fall into the one for me. I love to fall into the pattern of worry when certain pattern of worry when certain pattern of worry when certain circumstances begin to happen. It circumstances begin to happen. It circumstances begin to happen. It creates a trigger and a pattern in me, creates a trigger and a pattern in me, creates a trigger and a pattern in me, and man, do I love to worry. And so, I and man, do I love to worry. And so, I and man, do I love to worry. And so, I give you these tools and resources give you these tools and resources give you these tools and resources because these are things I too struggle because these are things I too struggle because these are things I too struggle with. I've been able to overcome them by with. I've been able to overcome them by with. I've been able to overcome them by just being aware and choosing. And so, just being aware and choosing. And so, just being aware and choosing. And so, the first thing is the power of choice. the first thing is the power of choice. the first thing is the power of choice. Finish this sentence for me. I choose to Finish this sentence for me. I choose to Finish this sentence for me. I choose to be blissful rather than blank. be blissful rather than blank. be blissful rather than blank. I choose to be blissful rather than I choose to be blissful rather than I choose to be blissful rather than blank. What would your answer be? One of blank. What would your answer be? One of blank. What would your answer be? One of the emotions I challenge you to the emotions I challenge you to the emotions I challenge you to experience more of in life is bliss. You experience more of in life is bliss. You experience more of in life is bliss. You know, we are the calibration of maybe know, we are the calibration of maybe know, we are the calibration of maybe the five emotions we experience on a the five emotions we experience on a the five emotions we experience on a regular basis. regular basis. regular basis. And so, if you're experiencing And so, if you're experiencing And so, if you're experiencing depression, frustration, worry, fear, depression, frustration, worry, fear, depression, frustration, worry, fear, anxiety, pain on a regular basis, you're anxiety, pain on a regular basis, you're anxiety, pain on a regular basis, you're going to have one life. If you're going to have one life. If you're going to have one life. If you're experiencing bliss and fulfillment and experiencing bliss and fulfillment and experiencing bliss and fulfillment and ecstasy and joy in in your life and and ecstasy and joy in in your life and and ecstasy and joy in in your life and and contribution, contribution, contribution, recognition and significance, if you're recognition and significance, if you're recognition and significance, if you're experiencing love, you experience those experiencing love, you experience those experiencing love, you experience those emotions, you have a totally different emotions, you have a totally different emotions, you have a totally different life. We have the power to choose which life. We have the power to choose which life. We have the power to choose which emotions we want to experience. And so, emotions we want to experience. And so, emotions we want to experience. And so, I love the emotion of bliss. I love the I love the emotion of bliss. I love the I love the emotion of bliss. I love the word bliss, as you know, I have an audio word bliss, as you know, I have an audio word bliss, as you know, I have an audio that's out called blissful that's out called blissful that's out called blissful dissatisfaction, that's a critically dissatisfaction, that's a critically dissatisfaction, that's a critically acclaimed and a highly downloaded audio acclaimed and a highly downloaded audio acclaimed and a highly downloaded audio and video on being both blissfully and video on being both blissfully and video on being both blissfully dissatisfied, dissatisfied and desiring dissatisfied, dissatisfied and desiring dissatisfied, dissatisfied and desiring for more, but in a current state of for more, but in a current state of for more, but in a current state of bliss. bliss. bliss. I love the word bliss because of its I love the word bliss because of its I love the word bliss because of its definition. Its definition in Webster's definition. Its definition in Webster's definition. Its definition in Webster's is perfect happiness or joy. I love is perfect happiness or joy. I love is perfect happiness or joy. I love that. Webster's also says some of the that. Webster's also says some of the that. Webster's also says some of the synonyms for bliss are joy, pleasure, synonyms for bliss are joy, pleasure, synonyms for bliss are joy, pleasure, ecstasy, delight, happiness, euphoria, ecstasy, delight, happiness, euphoria, ecstasy, delight, happiness, euphoria, heaven, paradise, cloud nine, utopia, heaven, paradise, cloud nine, utopia, heaven, paradise, cloud nine, utopia, Eden. These are all synonyms for the Eden. These are all synonyms for the Eden. These are all synonyms for the word bliss. I like how all of those word bliss. I like how all of those word bliss. I like how all of those sound. Those are the noun versions in sound. Those are the noun versions in sound. Those are the noun versions in the dictionary of bliss. The verb, the the dictionary of bliss. The verb, the the dictionary of bliss. The verb, the action of being blissful, according to action of being blissful, according to action of being blissful, according to the dictionary, is to reach a state of the dictionary, is to reach a state of the dictionary, is to reach a state of perfect happiness, perfect happiness, perfect happiness, typically as to be oblivious to typically as to be oblivious to typically as to be oblivious to everything else. everything else. everything else. Wouldn't that be amazing to be in Wouldn't that be amazing to be in Wouldn't that be amazing to be in perfect happiness and be oblivious to perfect happiness and be oblivious to perfect happiness and be oblivious to everything else? That's the verb or the everything else? That's the verb or the everything else? That's the verb or the action of being blissful. And the action of being blissful. And the action of being blissful. And the antonym, according to Webster's, to antonym, according to Webster's, to antonym, according to Webster's, to bliss is misery. bliss is misery. bliss is misery. And the last thing we want to be is And the last thing we want to be is And the last thing we want to be is feeling misery. So, it's the antithesis feeling misery. So, it's the antithesis feeling misery. So, it's the antithesis of misery. So, I choose to be blissful of misery. So, I choose to be blissful of misery. So, I choose to be blissful rather than what? What if you could rather than what? What if you could rather than what? What if you could choose every day to be blissful? But choose every day to be blissful? But choose every day to be blissful? But often times, we don't choose to be often times, we don't choose to be often times, we don't choose to be blissful because we choose to be right. blissful because we choose to be right. blissful because we choose to be right. We choose to win. We choose to be We choose to win. We choose to be We choose to win. We choose to be significant. We choose to be in control. significant. We choose to be in control. significant. We choose to be in control. We make choices to try to experience We make choices to try to experience We make choices to try to experience other emotions. And by the way, all of other emotions. And by the way, all of other emotions. And by the way, all of these other emotions are typically these other emotions are typically these other emotions are typically outside of our control. Winning is outside of our control. Winning is outside of our control. Winning is outside of our control. Dominating's outside of our control. Dominating's outside of our control. Dominating's outside of our control. All of these outside of our control. All of these outside of our control. All of these things are something we can't control things are something we can't control things are something we can't control and we choose them over bliss. But what and we choose them over bliss. But what and we choose them over bliss. But what if you just made a conscious decision if you just made a conscious decision if you just made a conscious decision right now? I choose bliss. I choose to right now? I choose bliss. I choose to right now? I choose bliss. I choose to be blissful rather than blank. And it's be blissful rather than blank. And it's be blissful rather than blank. And it's being aware of the other things you being aware of the other things you being aware of the other things you choose so that you can be conscious when choose so that you can be conscious when choose so that you can be conscious when you go to choose those things, you go you go to choose those things, you go you go to choose those things, you go for bliss instead. for bliss instead. for bliss instead. And by the way, not making a choice is a And by the way, not making a choice is a And by the way, not making a choice is a choice. A non-decision is a decision. If choice. A non-decision is a decision. If choice. A non-decision is a decision. If you don't choose consciously to begin to you don't choose consciously to begin to you don't choose consciously to begin to experience the emotions you want. Okay, experience the emotions you want. Okay, experience the emotions you want. Okay, for me, bliss is very important. Joy is for me, bliss is very important. Joy is for me, bliss is very important. Joy is very important. Peace is very important. very important. Peace is very important. very important. Peace is very important. Contribution is very important. Contribution is very important. Contribution is very important. Connection is very important. What are Connection is very important. What are Connection is very important. What are the five emotions that if you could the five emotions that if you could the five emotions that if you could choose them, you'd experience on a choose them, you'd experience on a choose them, you'd experience on a regular basis? Just take an inventory of regular basis? Just take an inventory of regular basis? Just take an inventory of that. You don't have to be perfect. They that. You don't have to be perfect. They that. You don't have to be perfect. They may change. There may be eight. But what may change. There may be eight. But what may change. There may be eight. But what are five ones right now? Say them out are five ones right now? Say them out are five ones right now? Say them out loud to yourself. What are the five ones loud to yourself. What are the five ones loud to yourself. What are the five ones you'd want? Is it love? Is it ecstasy? you'd want? Is it love? Is it ecstasy? you'd want? Is it love? Is it ecstasy? Is it joy? Is it passion? Is it Is it joy? Is it passion? Is it Is it joy? Is it passion? Is it intensity? Is it focus? intensity? Is it focus? intensity? Is it focus? Is it peace? Is it faith? What are the Is it peace? Is it faith? What are the Is it peace? Is it faith? What are the emotions you would choose if you could emotions you would choose if you could emotions you would choose if you could choose five emotions? And begin to tell choose five emotions? And begin to tell choose five emotions? And begin to tell yourself, I choose to feel blank rather yourself, I choose to feel blank rather yourself, I choose to feel blank rather than this. And when you just begin to than this. And when you just begin to than this. And when you just begin to become conscious of that choice, you've become conscious of that choice, you've become conscious of that choice, you've already moved ahead of 99.9% already moved ahead of 99.9% already moved ahead of 99.9% of the world who just responds and of the world who just responds and of the world who just responds and reacts and goes into pattern mode reacts and goes into pattern mode reacts and goes into pattern mode all the time. So just choosing gives you all the time. So just choosing gives you all the time. So just choosing gives you an advantage. And by the way, once an advantage. And by the way, once an advantage. And by the way, once again, not choosing is a choice. You've again, not choosing is a choice. You've again, not choosing is a choice. You've decided to go into your pattern. You've decided to go into your pattern. You've decided to go into your pattern. You've decided to let other people dictate to decided to let other people dictate to decided to let other people dictate to you your emotions. You've decided you you your emotions. You've decided you you your emotions. You've decided you have no control over your life by not have no control over your life by not have no control over your life by not choosing. So, choose. I'd rather be choosing. So, choose. I'd rather be choosing. So, choose. I'd rather be blissful than blank. blissful than blank. blissful than blank. I'd rather be joyful than blank. I'd I'd rather be joyful than blank. I'd I'd rather be joyful than blank. I'd rather have ecstasy than blank. rather have ecstasy than blank. rather have ecstasy than blank. What do you choose rather than? What do you choose rather than? What do you choose rather than? So, now let's discuss these patterns for So, now let's discuss these patterns for So, now let's discuss these patterns for a second. Why do we have these patterns? a second. Why do we have these patterns? a second. Why do we have these patterns? You have patterns because they serve You have patterns because they serve You have patterns because they serve you. There's a payoff to every pattern. you. There's a payoff to every pattern. you. There's a payoff to every pattern. And by the way, you say, "Well, no, And by the way, you say, "Well, no, And by the way, you say, "Well, no, because you know, one of my patterns is because you know, one of my patterns is because you know, one of my patterns is I slip into worry and then I'm I slip into worry and then I'm I slip into worry and then I'm completely unhappy. How's that a payoff completely unhappy. How's that a payoff completely unhappy. How's that a payoff for me?" It's a payoff for you because for me?" It's a payoff for you because for me?" It's a payoff for you because it's predictable. It's become your home. it's predictable. It's become your home. it's predictable. It's become your home. And so, you don't have any pattern that And so, you don't have any pattern that And so, you don't have any pattern that doesn't give you a payoff. "Well, no, doesn't give you a payoff. "Well, no, doesn't give you a payoff. "Well, no, because when I things don't go my way, I because when I things don't go my way, I because when I things don't go my way, I become combative, I become become combative, I become become combative, I become argumentative. That's my pattern. Then I argumentative. That's my pattern. Then I argumentative. That's my pattern. Then I get in a disagreement in my relationship get in a disagreement in my relationship get in a disagreement in my relationship and then I say things I don't mean. and then I say things I don't mean. and then I say things I don't mean. How's there a payoff there for me?" How's there a payoff there for me?" How's there a payoff there for me?" There's a payoff because it gets you There's a payoff because it gets you There's a payoff because it gets you what you want, even though you don't what you want, even though you don't what you want, even though you don't know it. It gets you out of the know it. It gets you out of the know it. It gets you out of the conversation. It gets you maybe to avoid conversation. It gets you maybe to avoid conversation. It gets you maybe to avoid your own responsibility. It gives you your own responsibility. It gives you your own responsibility. It gives you the disconnect that somehow you're more the disconnect that somehow you're more the disconnect that somehow you're more comfortable with than dealing with the comfortable with than dealing with the comfortable with than dealing with the problem. But, I promise you every problem. But, I promise you every problem. But, I promise you every pattern you have, both healthy and pattern you have, both healthy and pattern you have, both healthy and unhealthy, you have them because there's unhealthy, you have them because there's unhealthy, you have them because there's a payoff for you. a payoff for you. a payoff for you. So, the key to a happier life, the key So, the key to a happier life, the key So, the key to a happier life, the key to a more successful life, is to to a more successful life, is to to a more successful life, is to evaluate our patterns and when we see evaluate our patterns and when we see evaluate our patterns and when we see them happening, begin to step outside of them happening, begin to step outside of them happening, begin to step outside of them and create new ones that serve us. them and create new ones that serve us. them and create new ones that serve us. And so, what are some of the patterns And so, what are some of the patterns And so, what are some of the patterns you have, for example, that don't serve you have, for example, that don't serve you have, for example, that don't serve you? So, for example, when a difficult you? So, for example, when a difficult you? So, for example, when a difficult situation arises, what is your pattern? situation arises, what is your pattern? situation arises, what is your pattern? What pattern mode do you go into? Do you What pattern mode do you go into? Do you What pattern mode do you go into? Do you become more resourceful, more focused, become more resourceful, more focused, become more resourceful, more focused, or do you become more fearful, worried, or do you become more fearful, worried, or do you become more fearful, worried, and you begin to make excuses? When you and you begin to make excuses? When you and you begin to make excuses? When you get into a disagreement with a loved get into a disagreement with a loved get into a disagreement with a loved one, what is your pattern typically? Do one, what is your pattern typically? Do one, what is your pattern typically? Do you become more combative? Do you listen you become more combative? Do you listen you become more combative? Do you listen less and talk more? Does the pattern less and talk more? Does the pattern less and talk more? Does the pattern begin You understand what I'm saying. Do begin You understand what I'm saying. Do begin You understand what I'm saying. Do you begin to run this program that you you begin to run this program that you you begin to run this program that you run in such a way that it puts you in a run in such a way that it puts you in a run in such a way that it puts you in a state you don't want to be in. When state you don't want to be in. When state you don't want to be in. When adversity strikes, when someone puts you adversity strikes, when someone puts you adversity strikes, when someone puts you down, when there's a hater, what pattern down, when there's a hater, what pattern down, when there's a hater, what pattern mode do you typically kick into? Do you mode do you typically kick into? Do you mode do you typically kick into? Do you start to repeat other negative thoughts? start to repeat other negative thoughts? start to repeat other negative thoughts? Do you replay videos in your mind of Do you replay videos in your mind of Do you replay videos in your mind of other people who have also said negative other people who have also said negative other people who have also said negative things to you in the past? Or other things to you in the past? Or other things to you in the past? Or other thoughts you have about yourself that thoughts you have about yourself that thoughts you have about yourself that are loathsome and you begin to stack are loathsome and you begin to stack are loathsome and you begin to stack these thoughts. Often times, one person these thoughts. Often times, one person these thoughts. Often times, one person says something to us negative and it says something to us negative and it says something to us negative and it creates this pattern we run, doesn't it? creates this pattern we run, doesn't it? creates this pattern we run, doesn't it? Where we begin to think of another Where we begin to think of another Where we begin to think of another embarrassing moment, another person who embarrassing moment, another person who embarrassing moment, another person who said something negative. We begin to said something negative. We begin to said something negative. We begin to create other negative thoughts about create other negative thoughts about create other negative thoughts about ourselves to stack it. And you say, ourselves to stack it. And you say, ourselves to stack it. And you say, "How's there a payoff for me in that?" "How's there a payoff for me in that?" "How's there a payoff for me in that?" Because it's what you're used to. It Because it's what you're used to. It Because it's what you're used to. It pays you off by reassuring you you're pays you off by reassuring you you're pays you off by reassuring you you're right, you're a loser. You're right, right, you're a loser. You're right, right, you're a loser. You're right, you're not going to win. There's a you're not going to win. There's a you're not going to win. There's a payoff because, guess what? Now you payoff because, guess what? Now you payoff because, guess what? Now you don't have to do the real work because don't have to do the real work because don't have to do the real work because you were never one anyway because you're you were never one anyway because you're you were never one anyway because you're this terribly unprepared person. So, this terribly unprepared person. So, this terribly unprepared person. So, that's your payoff. And so, you have that's your payoff. And so, you have that's your payoff. And so, you have these patterns, don't you? Now, some these patterns, don't you? Now, some these patterns, don't you? Now, some people, their pattern kicks into people, their pattern kicks into people, their pattern kicks into winning. winning. winning. When someone puts them down, they start When someone puts them down, they start When someone puts them down, they start to buck up. They start to get to buck up. They start to get to buck up. They start to get resourceful. They start to feed resourceful. They start to feed resourceful. They start to feed themselves positive thoughts. They themselves positive thoughts. They themselves positive thoughts. They They're aware of it that's there and They're aware of it that's there and They're aware of it that's there and they begin to go into a they begin to go into a they begin to go into a hyper-productive, positive emotion mode. hyper-productive, positive emotion mode. hyper-productive, positive emotion mode. Yes, they do, believe it or not. When Yes, they do, believe it or not. When Yes, they do, believe it or not. When adversity strikes for some people, they adversity strikes for some people, they adversity strikes for some people, they go into a fearful mode. They begin to go into a fearful mode. They begin to go into a fearful mode. They begin to think about all the things that could go think about all the things that could go think about all the things that could go worse and worse and worse and they worse and worse and worse and they worse and worse and worse and they depress themselves. And that pattern depress themselves. And that pattern depress themselves. And that pattern creates the very situations you fear. creates the very situations you fear. creates the very situations you fear. The same is true when we're successful. The same is true when we're successful. The same is true when we're successful. Sometimes, some people when they become Sometimes, some people when they become Sometimes, some people when they become successful, they go into a pattern when successful, they go into a pattern when successful, they go into a pattern when they begin to sabotage themselves and they begin to sabotage themselves and they begin to sabotage themselves and slow down and stop the behaviors that slow down and stop the behaviors that slow down and stop the behaviors that got them there. They begin to believe got them there. They begin to believe got them there. They begin to believe their own press clippings that they've their own press clippings that they've their own press clippings that they've arrived. They don't have to do the work arrived. They don't have to do the work arrived. They don't have to do the work they used to do. Maybe they begin to they used to do. Maybe they begin to they used to do. Maybe they begin to fall into patterns where they get their fall into patterns where they get their fall into patterns where they get their relationships out of sorts and that's relationships out of sorts and that's relationships out of sorts and that's their pattern. Life starts to go well in their pattern. Life starts to go well in their pattern. Life starts to go well in business. My pattern is every time life business. My pattern is every time life business. My pattern is every time life goes well in business, I start having goes well in business, I start having goes well in business, I start having issues in my personal life. And they issues in my personal life. And they issues in my personal life. And they sabotage the business success with their sabotage the business success with their sabotage the business success with their personal life. And that's a pattern they personal life. And that's a pattern they personal life. And that's a pattern they run. If it's happened more than once to run. If it's happened more than once to run. If it's happened more than once to you, it's not coincidental, it's a you, it's not coincidental, it's a you, it's not coincidental, it's a pattern. In my fitness life, you may pattern. In my fitness life, you may pattern. In my fitness life, you may say, "Every time I start to get super say, "Every time I start to get super say, "Every time I start to get super fit, it seems then I get ill, then I fit, it seems then I get ill, then I fit, it seems then I get ill, then I don't go to the gym for a week, then I don't go to the gym for a week, then I don't go to the gym for a week, then I start eating poorly, and I'm back to start eating poorly, and I'm back to start eating poorly, and I'm back to where I was." If it's happened more than where I was." If it's happened more than where I was." If it's happened more than once, it's a pattern, right? And so, once, it's a pattern, right? And so, once, it's a pattern, right? And so, begin to evaluate these patterns you begin to evaluate these patterns you begin to evaluate these patterns you have that don't serve you, and simply have that don't serve you, and simply have that don't serve you, and simply begin to choose to create new patterns, begin to choose to create new patterns, begin to choose to create new patterns, more empowering patterns, patterns that more empowering patterns, patterns that more empowering patterns, patterns that give you the emotions and the results give you the emotions and the results give you the emotions and the results you want to have in your life. You will you want to have in your life. You will you want to have in your life. You will be amazed at how many patterns you have. be amazed at how many patterns you have. be amazed at how many patterns you have. Your response to adversity, fear, Your response to adversity, fear, Your response to adversity, fear, success, mediocrity, criticism, success, mediocrity, criticism, success, mediocrity, criticism, strife in a relationship, your strife in a relationship, your strife in a relationship, your nutrition, your faith, all of the nutrition, your faith, all of the nutrition, your faith, all of the different patterns you run. There is different patterns you run. There is different patterns you run. There is such power in beginning to separate and such power in beginning to separate and such power in beginning to separate and identify these patterns when they begin identify these patterns when they begin identify these patterns when they begin to repeat. Even as I'm saying it, I can to repeat. Even as I'm saying it, I can to repeat. Even as I'm saying it, I can feel you nodding your head. My gosh, I feel you nodding your head. My gosh, I feel you nodding your head. My gosh, I do have a pattern when I'm successful. do have a pattern when I'm successful. do have a pattern when I'm successful. Every time I climb up a little bit, I Every time I climb up a little bit, I Every time I climb up a little bit, I start this pattern where I sabotage, or start this pattern where I sabotage, or start this pattern where I sabotage, or I start to believe too much, or my I start to believe too much, or my I start to believe too much, or my relationships go sideways. Every time I relationships go sideways. Every time I relationships go sideways. Every time I start to get more fit, I start I somehow start to get more fit, I start I somehow start to get more fit, I start I somehow get ill, or I somehow miss a day at the get ill, or I somehow miss a day at the get ill, or I somehow miss a day at the gym, or that's the day my car breaks gym, or that's the day my car breaks gym, or that's the day my car breaks down. Every time I have a pattern where down. Every time I have a pattern where down. Every time I have a pattern where I accumulate more money, I accumulate more money, I accumulate more money, I fall into this pattern where I save, I fall into this pattern where I save, I fall into this pattern where I save, save, save, and then I spend it all on save, save, and then I spend it all on save, save, and then I spend it all on something I shouldn't. Or then I do something I shouldn't. Or then I do something I shouldn't. Or then I do something with money I shouldn't have, something with money I shouldn't have, something with money I shouldn't have, or it seems like every time then a or it seems like every time then a or it seems like every time then a repair comes up, or something with my repair comes up, or something with my repair comes up, or something with my kids. You're falling into these kids. You're falling into these kids. You're falling into these patterns. There's massive power in patterns. There's massive power in patterns. There's massive power in beginning to understand that's not who beginning to understand that's not who beginning to understand that's not who you are. I've done enough training with you are. I've done enough training with you are. I've done enough training with you. If you haven't listened to my you. If you haven't listened to my you. If you haven't listened to my previous work, please go back and listen previous work, please go back and listen previous work, please go back and listen to it. You are not your possessions. You to it. You are not your possessions. You to it. You are not your possessions. You are not your accomplishments. You are are not your accomplishments. You are are not your accomplishments. You are not what other people say you are. You not what other people say you are. You not what other people say you are. You are not what you look like. And guess are not what you look like. And guess are not what you look like. And guess what else you're not? You are not your what else you're not? You are not your what else you're not? You are not your patterns. But your life becomes a patterns. But your life becomes a patterns. But your life becomes a combination and a result of your combination and a result of your combination and a result of your patterns. The great thing about us is patterns. The great thing about us is patterns. The great thing about us is that we can change these patterns if we that we can change these patterns if we that we can change these patterns if we identify them. The pattern has no power identify them. The pattern has no power identify them. The pattern has no power over you once you know it's a program over you once you know it's a program over you once you know it's a program and a pattern running. The minute you and a pattern running. The minute you and a pattern running. The minute you start to go, "My I'm doing it again, start to go, "My I'm doing it again, start to go, "My I'm doing it again, aren't I? I'm doing this thing I do aren't I? I'm doing this thing I do aren't I? I'm doing this thing I do every time I accumulate money. I'm doing every time I accumulate money. I'm doing every time I accumulate money. I'm doing the same thing every time me and my the same thing every time me and my the same thing every time me and my spouse get in a disagreement. I'm doing spouse get in a disagreement. I'm doing spouse get in a disagreement. I'm doing the same thing every time I'm starting the same thing every time I'm starting the same thing every time I'm starting to feel loved by somebody and I push to feel loved by somebody and I push to feel loved by somebody and I push them away. Every time things start to go them away. Every time things start to go them away. Every time things start to go bad financially, I spiral. Every time bad financially, I spiral. Every time bad financially, I spiral. Every time there's adversity, I do the same pattern there's adversity, I do the same pattern there's adversity, I do the same pattern where I start worrying. Every time I get where I start worrying. Every time I get where I start worrying. Every time I get fit, I do the same pattern." fit, I do the same pattern." fit, I do the same pattern." When you begin to see these things, you When you begin to see these things, you When you begin to see these things, you begin to go, "My gosh, this isn't who I begin to go, "My gosh, this isn't who I begin to go, "My gosh, this isn't who I am." That's not your identity. There's a am." That's not your identity. There's a am." That's not your identity. There's a difference between your identity and difference between your identity and difference between your identity and your pattern. And the more you begin to your pattern. And the more you begin to your pattern. And the more you begin to build your identity, as I've talked build your identity, as I've talked build your identity, as I've talked about my other audios, and be aware of about my other audios, and be aware of about my other audios, and be aware of patterns, and then simply ask yourself, patterns, and then simply ask yourself, patterns, and then simply ask yourself, "When this comes up again in the future, "When this comes up again in the future, "When this comes up again in the future, what pattern would serve me? What what pattern would serve me? What what pattern would serve me? What pattern can I take control of? What pattern can I take control of? What pattern can I take control of? What would be the steps I need to take that would be the steps I need to take that would be the steps I need to take that will create the bliss I want, or the win will create the bliss I want, or the win will create the bliss I want, or the win I want, or the production I want? What I want, or the production I want? What I want, or the production I want? What would the pattern need to be?" The would the pattern need to be?" The would the pattern need to be?" The pattern immediately, by the way, stops pattern immediately, by the way, stops pattern immediately, by the way, stops when you identify it. when you identify it. when you identify it. The pattern only hurts you when it runs The pattern only hurts you when it runs The pattern only hurts you when it runs unconsciously. The pattern loses all its unconsciously. The pattern loses all its unconsciously. The pattern loses all its power over you once you see it. It's power over you once you see it. It's power over you once you see it. It's gone. It can't continue to run once gone. It can't continue to run once gone. It can't continue to run once you're aware of it, cuz all of a sudden you're aware of it, cuz all of a sudden you're aware of it, cuz all of a sudden you're like, "I know what I'm doing. you're like, "I know what I'm doing. you're like, "I know what I'm doing. Here I go." And you can begin to Here I go." And you can begin to Here I go." And you can begin to identify it and make a shift. So this is identify it and make a shift. So this is identify it and make a shift. So this is so critical. Start to ask yourself, "Am so critical. Start to ask yourself, "Am so critical. Start to ask yourself, "Am I running one of these patterns? What I running one of these patterns? What I running one of these patterns? What are some of the ones I typically do that are some of the ones I typically do that are some of the ones I typically do that serve me? And what are the ones that serve me? And what are the ones that serve me? And what are the ones that don't serve me?" And what we do in our don't serve me?" And what we do in our don't serve me?" And what we do in our life is we compare too much. life is we compare too much. life is we compare too much. And so, remember this, you're working on And so, remember this, you're working on And so, remember this, you're working on your identity, okay? Everybody wears your identity, okay? Everybody wears your identity, okay? Everybody wears what I would call like a mask, a public what I would call like a mask, a public what I would call like a mask, a public mask, or even a social mask. It's the mask, or even a social mask. It's the mask, or even a social mask. It's the person they present themselves to be. person they present themselves to be. person they present themselves to be. You do it, too. I do it as well. It's You do it, too. I do it as well. It's You do it, too. I do it as well. It's the person everybody thinks we are. And the person everybody thinks we are. And the person everybody thinks we are. And so, it's the person we reveal to the so, it's the person we reveal to the so, it's the person we reveal to the public. It's not whom we really are. public. It's not whom we really are. public. It's not whom we really are. It's not our real thoughts, our real It's not our real thoughts, our real It's not our real thoughts, our real behaviors, our real hope. Everybody behaviors, our real hope. Everybody behaviors, our real hope. Everybody wears this public mask, or this social wears this public mask, or this social wears this public mask, or this social mask, I call it, where they're It's who mask, I call it, where they're It's who mask, I call it, where they're It's who they want everybody to think they are. they want everybody to think they are. they want everybody to think they are. It's the best put version of themselves. It's the best put version of themselves. It's the best put version of themselves. And if you're not careful, you begin to And if you're not careful, you begin to And if you're not careful, you begin to compare your own real identity with compare your own real identity with compare your own real identity with other people's public mask. And this other people's public mask. And this other people's public mask. And this begins to create a pattern for you. begins to create a pattern for you. begins to create a pattern for you. Don't compare yourself. Most of the Don't compare yourself. Most of the Don't compare yourself. Most of the people you see on social media, or even people you see on social media, or even people you see on social media, or even in your personal life, or even when you in your personal life, or even when you in your personal life, or even when you go to lunch with them, or see them at go to lunch with them, or see them at go to lunch with them, or see them at work, they're wearing what I would call work, they're wearing what I would call work, they're wearing what I would call a public mask. It's the best possible a public mask. It's the best possible a public mask. It's the best possible version that they can put out to version that they can put out to version that they can put out to themselves. And often times we do in themselves. And often times we do in themselves. And often times we do in life is we compare our real identity life is we compare our real identity life is we compare our real identity that we're working on, and we're that we're working on, and we're that we're working on, and we're growing, to their mask. And that's not growing, to their mask. And that's not growing, to their mask. And that's not fair to ourselves at all. Any comparison fair to ourselves at all. Any comparison fair to ourselves at all. Any comparison doesn't serve us. And it's often times doesn't serve us. And it's often times doesn't serve us. And it's often times this comparison, when you're in a this comparison, when you're in a this comparison, when you're in a disagreement with somebody, it's the disagreement with somebody, it's the disagreement with somebody, it's the mask they're wearing compared to the mask they're wearing compared to the mask they're wearing compared to the identity you have, and then you begin to identity you have, and then you begin to identity you have, and then you begin to run a pattern to respond to it. It run a pattern to respond to it. It run a pattern to respond to it. It happens in in fitness, in relationships, happens in in fitness, in relationships, happens in in fitness, in relationships, in money, and in business. Remember, in money, and in business. Remember, in money, and in business. Remember, you're in charge of controlling your own you're in charge of controlling your own you're in charge of controlling your own identity, and growing your own identity, identity, and growing your own identity, identity, and growing your own identity, and being aware of the patterns you have and being aware of the patterns you have and being aware of the patterns you have that do and do not serve you. Not that do and do not serve you. Not that do and do not serve you. Not comparing yourself to someone else's comparing yourself to someone else's comparing yourself to someone else's public representative. It's just the public representative. It's just the public representative. It's just the representative they're putting out representative they're putting out representative they're putting out there. It's not who they really are, and there. It's not who they really are, and there. It's not who they really are, and it's not something that you need to be it's not something that you need to be it's not something that you need to be aware of, because it's not something you aware of, because it's not something you aware of, because it's not something you can control. The more you can begin to can control. The more you can begin to can control. The more you can begin to delineate in life between things I can delineate in life between things I can delineate in life between things I can control and I cannot control, will be to control and I cannot control, will be to control and I cannot control, will be to the extent that you're more productive the extent that you're more productive the extent that you're more productive and you're happier. You can control your and you're happier. You can control your and you're happier. You can control your own thoughts, your own emotions, your own thoughts, your own emotions, your own thoughts, your own emotions, your own identity, and your own patterns, not own identity, and your own patterns, not own identity, and your own patterns, not other people's. So, speaking of these other people's. So, speaking of these other people's. So, speaking of these payoffs we talked about earlier, how can payoffs we talked about earlier, how can payoffs we talked about earlier, how can you begin to get the payoff you want you begin to get the payoff you want you begin to get the payoff you want from the new empowering pattern? And so, from the new empowering pattern? And so, from the new empowering pattern? And so, couple questions I want you to ask couple questions I want you to ask couple questions I want you to ask yourself today, because we do want more yourself today, because we do want more yourself today, because we do want more bliss. Since that's my word, I'm bliss. Since that's my word, I'm bliss. Since that's my word, I'm assuming you want more bliss after assuming you want more bliss after assuming you want more bliss after you've heard all the synonyms, and I you've heard all the synonyms, and I you've heard all the synonyms, and I know you want the antithesis to misery. know you want the antithesis to misery. know you want the antithesis to misery. So, assuming you want more bliss in your So, assuming you want more bliss in your So, assuming you want more bliss in your life, decide to have it and take some life, decide to have it and take some life, decide to have it and take some actions towards getting it. So, let me actions towards getting it. So, let me actions towards getting it. So, let me ask you a question. What are you doing ask you a question. What are you doing ask you a question. What are you doing currently to create more bliss in your currently to create more bliss in your currently to create more bliss in your life? life? life? What are the actions you're taking to What are the actions you're taking to What are the actions you're taking to give yourself more bliss? You are give yourself more bliss? You are give yourself more bliss? You are intentionally seeking more bliss, cuz intentionally seeking more bliss, cuz intentionally seeking more bliss, cuz bliss is going to lead to more wealth, bliss is going to lead to more wealth, bliss is going to lead to more wealth, more abundance, more fitness, more more abundance, more fitness, more more abundance, more fitness, more faith, better relationships, more faith, better relationships, more faith, better relationships, more happiness, more peace, more wins, more happiness, more peace, more wins, more happiness, more peace, more wins, more success, more recognition, more success, more recognition, more success, more recognition, more significance. So, what are you significance. So, what are you significance. So, what are you consciously doing? Now that you've consciously doing? Now that you've consciously doing? Now that you've chosen bliss, what is the consistent chosen bliss, what is the consistent chosen bliss, what is the consistent action you're taking to create more in action you're taking to create more in action you're taking to create more in your life? What are you doing to give your life? What are you doing to give your life? What are you doing to give yourself bliss? Is it acknowledging yourself bliss? Is it acknowledging yourself bliss? Is it acknowledging victories you have? Is it giving gifts victories you have? Is it giving gifts victories you have? Is it giving gifts to other people of your belief and your to other people of your belief and your to other people of your belief and your hope? Is it lifting other people up? Is hope? Is it lifting other people up? Is hope? Is it lifting other people up? Is it taking a bath, getting a massage, it taking a bath, getting a massage, it taking a bath, getting a massage, taking a walk, going for a workout, taking a walk, going for a workout, taking a walk, going for a workout, winning, achieving, knocking goals off winning, achieving, knocking goals off winning, achieving, knocking goals off your list? What are the things you're your list? What are the things you're your list? What are the things you're doing to create bliss in your own life? doing to create bliss in your own life? doing to create bliss in your own life? Number one. Number two question I have Number one. Number two question I have Number one. Number two question I have for you. What are you doing to for you. What are you doing to for you. What are you doing to intentionally create bliss in the lives intentionally create bliss in the lives intentionally create bliss in the lives of the people that you care about? of the people that you care about? of the people that you care about? Because this is the pathway to getting Because this is the pathway to getting Because this is the pathway to getting more of it ourselves. The more we begin more of it ourselves. The more we begin more of it ourselves. The more we begin to give other people bliss, the more we to give other people bliss, the more we to give other people bliss, the more we begin to consciously make choices that begin to consciously make choices that begin to consciously make choices that give bliss to other people in their give bliss to other people in their give bliss to other people in their lives, the more we begin to experience lives, the more we begin to experience lives, the more we begin to experience it in abundance ourselves. So, what are it in abundance ourselves. So, what are it in abundance ourselves. So, what are you doing to help other people win, you doing to help other people win, you doing to help other people win, other people contribute, other people other people contribute, other people other people contribute, other people get significance and recognition, other get significance and recognition, other get significance and recognition, other people have more peace and ecstasy and people have more peace and ecstasy and people have more peace and ecstasy and joy and passion in their lives? Because joy and passion in their lives? Because joy and passion in their lives? Because once you begin to create it for other once you begin to create it for other once you begin to create it for other people, when you're intentional about people, when you're intentional about people, when you're intentional about it, you'll have more of it yourself. it, you'll have more of it yourself. it, you'll have more of it yourself. These are the patterns that I'd like to These are the patterns that I'd like to These are the patterns that I'd like to see kick in for you, that when they kick see kick in for you, that when they kick see kick in for you, that when they kick in, you begin to run a pattern and a in, you begin to run a pattern and a in, you begin to run a pattern and a program that leads you to bliss, leads program that leads you to bliss, leads program that leads you to bliss, leads you to a win, leads you to increase, and you to a win, leads you to increase, and you to a win, leads you to increase, and also leads to it with someone in your also leads to it with someone in your also leads to it with someone in your your your your That if you do have a conflict with That if you do have a conflict with That if you do have a conflict with somebody that you run a pattern that somebody that you run a pattern that somebody that you run a pattern that eventually leads, maybe it's eventually leads, maybe it's eventually leads, maybe it's understanding them, maybe it's understanding them, maybe it's understanding them, maybe it's confronting them, maybe it's talking confronting them, maybe it's talking confronting them, maybe it's talking about it. It's not always when you're in about it. It's not always when you're in about it. It's not always when you're in a disagreement that you lead to a win, a disagreement that you lead to a win, a disagreement that you lead to a win, that you must win this, that you must that you must win this, that you must that you must win this, that you must overcome the fact that they think this overcome the fact that they think this overcome the fact that they think this of you. What if you were consciously of you. What if you were consciously of you. What if you were consciously choosing every time you got into a choosing every time you got into a choosing every time you got into a disagreement with your spouse, this will disagreement with your spouse, this will disagreement with your spouse, this will eventually lead to more bliss. At least eventually lead to more bliss. At least eventually lead to more bliss. At least that was your outcome. Now, the steps that was your outcome. Now, the steps that was your outcome. Now, the steps you take, it's probably going to be ugly you take, it's probably going to be ugly you take, it's probably going to be ugly in the beginning, you're probably going in the beginning, you're probably going in the beginning, you're probably going to have to some understanding. You may to have to some understanding. You may to have to some understanding. You may not even agree on everything, but if not even agree on everything, but if not even agree on everything, but if your intention is that it leads to bliss your intention is that it leads to bliss your intention is that it leads to bliss rather than you winning, rather than you rather than you winning, rather than you rather than you winning, rather than you controlling them, rather than you making controlling them, rather than you making controlling them, rather than you making it go away, rather than you running a it go away, rather than you running a it go away, rather than you running a pattern. If when you're beginning to pattern. If when you're beginning to pattern. If when you're beginning to succeed in business, if your outcome is succeed in business, if your outcome is succeed in business, if your outcome is more bliss, more winning, you'll run a more bliss, more winning, you'll run a more bliss, more winning, you'll run a pattern that does more of that. If in pattern that does more of that. If in pattern that does more of that. If in your fitness you're getting fit past your fitness you're getting fit past your fitness you're getting fit past where you've ever been before, and where you've ever been before, and where you've ever been before, and you're making a conscious decision, how you're making a conscious decision, how you're making a conscious decision, how can I get more bliss out of my fitness can I get more bliss out of my fitness can I get more bliss out of my fitness rather than running this other pattern rather than running this other pattern rather than running this other pattern of sabotage. The see, the circumstances of sabotage. The see, the circumstances of sabotage. The see, the circumstances may be the same. There may be some ugly may be the same. There may be some ugly may be the same. There may be some ugly patches, but you're now consciously patches, but you're now consciously patches, but you're now consciously choosing to run a program and a pattern choosing to run a program and a pattern choosing to run a program and a pattern that leads you to bliss, to victory, to that leads you to bliss, to victory, to that leads you to bliss, to victory, to the win, to fulfillment, whatever the the win, to fulfillment, whatever the the win, to fulfillment, whatever the emotion is you choose, just making that emotion is you choose, just making that emotion is you choose, just making that choice gets you there, gets you closer choice gets you there, gets you closer choice gets you there, gets you closer to it, makes it an outcome. We are not to it, makes it an outcome. We are not to it, makes it an outcome. We are not as human beings doing enough conscious as human beings doing enough conscious as human beings doing enough conscious choosing of what we want in our lives. choosing of what we want in our lives. choosing of what we want in our lives. So, what are you doing to create bliss So, what are you doing to create bliss So, what are you doing to create bliss in your own life? What are you doing to in your own life? What are you doing to in your own life? What are you doing to create bliss in other people's lives, create bliss in other people's lives, create bliss in other people's lives, and how blissful are you to be around? and how blissful are you to be around? and how blissful are you to be around? Just ask yourself that, too. How Just ask yourself that, too. How Just ask yourself that, too. How blissful am I to be around? How joyful blissful am I to be around? How joyful blissful am I to be around? How joyful am I to be around? How much are people am I to be around? How much are people am I to be around? How much are people winning when they're around me? Whatever winning when they're around me? Whatever winning when they're around me? Whatever the emotion is you choose, how much of the emotion is you choose, how much of the emotion is you choose, how much of that do people experience when they're that do people experience when they're that do people experience when they're around me? People are great now cuz around me? People are great now cuz around me? People are great now cuz there's all this stuff in personal there's all this stuff in personal there's all this stuff in personal development about choosing to win, development about choosing to win, development about choosing to win, choosing your outcome, choosing your choosing your outcome, choosing your choosing your outcome, choosing your schedule, choosing your habits. I'm the schedule, choosing your habits. I'm the schedule, choosing your habits. I'm the master of teaching this. Go back through master of teaching this. Go back through master of teaching this. Go back through my content. Nobody puts out more my content. Nobody puts out more my content. Nobody puts out more specific content in teaching people the specific content in teaching people the specific content in teaching people the tools of how to choose the right habits, tools of how to choose the right habits, tools of how to choose the right habits, the right rituals, the right thinking, the right rituals, the right thinking, the right rituals, the right thinking, programming your brain. I do that at a programming your brain. I do that at a programming your brain. I do that at a level far beyond anybody out there. I'm level far beyond anybody out there. I'm level far beyond anybody out there. I'm not one of these influencers that just not one of these influencers that just not one of these influencers that just repeats, you know, mindless memes all repeats, you know, mindless memes all repeats, you know, mindless memes all the time, or I don't repeat the same the time, or I don't repeat the same the time, or I don't repeat the same sayings over and over again. I don't sayings over and over again. I don't sayings over and over again. I don't just tell you very basic things you just tell you very basic things you just tell you very basic things you could read in any book or go to any could read in any book or go to any could read in any book or go to any seminar. I go very deep, very tactical, seminar. I go very deep, very tactical, seminar. I go very deep, very tactical, very strategic. But, having said all of very strategic. But, having said all of very strategic. But, having said all of that, no one's talking about choosing that, no one's talking about choosing that, no one's talking about choosing the intentional emotion we want, which the intentional emotion we want, which the intentional emotion we want, which is why we do all this stuff in the first is why we do all this stuff in the first is why we do all this stuff in the first place. So, that when the stimulus place. So, that when the stimulus place. So, that when the stimulus happens, the win or the loss, the happens, the win or the loss, the happens, the win or the loss, the adversity or the success, the adversity or the success, the adversity or the success, the disagreement or the tragedy, consciously disagreement or the tragedy, consciously disagreement or the tragedy, consciously choosing in that moment to chase bliss choosing in that moment to chase bliss choosing in that moment to chase bliss anyway. That it may be a while till I anyway. That it may be a while till I anyway. That it may be a while till I get to it, but this pattern I'm going to get to it, but this pattern I'm going to get to it, but this pattern I'm going to run, the choices I will make, the run, the choices I will make, the run, the choices I will make, the decisions I choose, even though there decisions I choose, even though there decisions I choose, even though there may be some bumps between there, the end may be some bumps between there, the end may be some bumps between there, the end result is going to be more bliss. result is going to be more bliss. result is going to be more bliss. Choosing that emotion as your outcome. Choosing that emotion as your outcome. Choosing that emotion as your outcome. And remember, not choosing it is a And remember, not choosing it is a And remember, not choosing it is a choice. You've chosen to let an choice. You've chosen to let an choice. You've chosen to let an unconscious pattern run, and you know unconscious pattern run, and you know unconscious pattern run, and you know where that's gotten you. It's gotten to where that's gotten you. It's gotten to where that's gotten you. It's gotten to where you are right now listening to where you are right now listening to where you are right now listening to this. Whatever it is, good, bad, or this. Whatever it is, good, bad, or this. Whatever it is, good, bad, or indifferent in your life, your current indifferent in your life, your current indifferent in your life, your current level of happiness, of joy, of success, level of happiness, of joy, of success, level of happiness, of joy, of success, of fulfillment, is exactly what you of fulfillment, is exactly what you of fulfillment, is exactly what you think you deserve. It's exactly what you think you deserve. It's exactly what you think you deserve. It's exactly what you think you're worth. It's a hard thing to think you're worth. It's a hard thing to think you're worth. It's a hard thing to accept, but in our lives, we are getting accept, but in our lives, we are getting accept, but in our lives, we are getting out of our life right now exactly what out of our life right now exactly what out of our life right now exactly what we believe we're worthy of, exactly what we believe we're worthy of, exactly what we believe we're worthy of, exactly what we think we deserve. Our life is a we think we deserve. Our life is a we think we deserve. Our life is a direct reflection of our identity, which direct reflection of our identity, which direct reflection of our identity, which is the thoughts, concepts, beliefs, is the thoughts, concepts, beliefs, is the thoughts, concepts, beliefs, values, and worth we hold true to be values, and worth we hold true to be values, and worth we hold true to be about ourselves. And so, as hard as it about ourselves. And so, as hard as it about ourselves. And so, as hard as it is to accept, we're getting out of life is to accept, we're getting out of life is to accept, we're getting out of life right now what we believe we're worth. right now what we believe we're worth. right now what we believe we're worth. And we believe we're worth it because of And we believe we're worth it because of And we believe we're worth it because of these patterns and our identity and our these patterns and our identity and our these patterns and our identity and our lack of choosing to have what we want, lack of choosing to have what we want, lack of choosing to have what we want, not just the material things, not just not just the material things, not just not just the material things, not just the body fat, not just the body weight, the body fat, not just the body weight, the body fat, not just the body weight, not just the amount of money, not just not just the amount of money, not just not just the amount of money, not just having the relationship, but choosing having the relationship, but choosing having the relationship, but choosing the emotion we want. The level above all the emotion we want. The level above all the emotion we want. The level above all this stuff I discuss and the level way this stuff I discuss and the level way this stuff I discuss and the level way down here where the people just cover down here where the people just cover down here where the people just cover the basic stuff, then there's what I've the basic stuff, then there's what I've the basic stuff, then there's what I've been covering. The highest level is to been covering. The highest level is to been covering. The highest level is to choose the emotions we want to choose the emotions we want to choose the emotions we want to experience and to begin to run patterns experience and to begin to run patterns experience and to begin to run patterns that serve us and eliminate the ones who that serve us and eliminate the ones who that serve us and eliminate the ones who move us further from them. The final move us further from them. The final move us further from them. The final thing I want you to ask yourself today thing I want you to ask yourself today thing I want you to ask yourself today as we're talking a lot about these as we're talking a lot about these as we're talking a lot about these choices. I want you to evaluate for a choices. I want you to evaluate for a choices. I want you to evaluate for a second what these patterns are you're second what these patterns are you're second what these patterns are you're running and when they begin to rear running and when they begin to rear running and when they begin to rear their head just identify them and begin their head just identify them and begin their head just identify them and begin to make decisions and choices that to make decisions and choices that to make decisions and choices that create a new pattern. It's as simple as create a new pattern. It's as simple as create a new pattern. It's as simple as it is. It's not that complicated. You it is. It's not that complicated. You it is. It's not that complicated. You fall into these patterns because there's fall into these patterns because there's fall into these patterns because there's a payoff. And so as long as you begin to a payoff. And so as long as you begin to a payoff. And so as long as you begin to identify it when it's happening and you identify it when it's happening and you identify it when it's happening and you begin to create a new pattern that leads begin to create a new pattern that leads begin to create a new pattern that leads you to the choice you've chosen which is you to the choice you've chosen which is you to the choice you've chosen which is the emotion you want. See, because these the emotion you want. See, because these the emotion you want. See, because these patterns you run that don't get you patterns you run that don't get you patterns you run that don't get you there, the minute you choose the emotion there, the minute you choose the emotion there, the minute you choose the emotion you want, you you're conscious about it you want, you you're conscious about it you want, you you're conscious about it and intentional, you can't run this and intentional, you can't run this and intentional, you can't run this pattern once you identify it. And the pattern once you identify it. And the pattern once you identify it. And the power of choice is critical in our power of choice is critical in our power of choice is critical in our lives. I want you to think about lives. I want you to think about lives. I want you to think about something right now. something right now. something right now. What are five of the most important What are five of the most important What are five of the most important choices you've made in your life? choices you've made in your life? choices you've made in your life? Just think about that for a second. Just think about that for a second. Just think about that for a second. Begin to list them off in your head. Begin to list them off in your head. Begin to list them off in your head. Five of the most important choices Five of the most important choices Five of the most important choices you've made in your life. you've made in your life. you've made in your life. Maybe it was a decision to get involved Maybe it was a decision to get involved Maybe it was a decision to get involved in a particular business in a particular business in a particular business or to leave a particular business. or to leave a particular business. or to leave a particular business. Maybe it was a decision to get involved Maybe it was a decision to get involved Maybe it was a decision to get involved with a particular person with a particular person with a particular person or to become uninvolved with a or to become uninvolved with a or to become uninvolved with a particular person. particular person. particular person. Maybe it was a friend that you chose to Maybe it was a friend that you chose to Maybe it was a friend that you chose to walk across the room and meet and it walk across the room and meet and it walk across the room and meet and it changed your life. Maybe it was a friend changed your life. Maybe it was a friend changed your life. Maybe it was a friend that you had to walk away from in order that you had to walk away from in order that you had to walk away from in order to improve your life. to improve your life. to improve your life. What are the five most important choices What are the five most important choices What are the five most important choices of your life? of your life? of your life? Just think about them for a second. Just think about them for a second. Just think about them for a second. And if you altered those five choices, And if you altered those five choices, And if you altered those five choices, good, bad, or indifferent, good, bad, or indifferent, good, bad, or indifferent, how different would your life be today? how different would your life be today? how different would your life be today? Because I'm a believer that there's Because I'm a believer that there's Because I'm a believer that there's everyday choices we make that when you everyday choices we make that when you everyday choices we make that when you stack them up, they make a massive stack them up, they make a massive stack them up, they make a massive difference in our life. But I'm also difference in our life. But I'm also difference in our life. But I'm also believer that there are between five and believer that there are between five and believer that there are between five and 10, a handful of moments in everybody's 10, a handful of moments in everybody's 10, a handful of moments in everybody's life life life that if we make the proper choices in that if we make the proper choices in that if we make the proper choices in those moments, the complete trajectory those moments, the complete trajectory those moments, the complete trajectory of our life changes. And I think as you of our life changes. And I think as you of our life changes. And I think as you just asked yourself that question, you just asked yourself that question, you just asked yourself that question, you may say there haven't been five, there's may say there haven't been five, there's may say there haven't been five, there's been two. What were they? And how did been two. What were they? And how did been two. What were they? And how did they alter the direction of your life? they alter the direction of your life? they alter the direction of your life? Good, bad, or indifferent. Uh lady that Good, bad, or indifferent. Uh lady that Good, bad, or indifferent. Uh lady that picked me up a few weeks ago, uh an Uber picked me up a few weeks ago, uh an Uber picked me up a few weeks ago, uh an Uber driver, wonderful woman, and but she was driver, wonderful woman, and but she was driver, wonderful woman, and but she was an older lady, and I it was late at an older lady, and I it was late at an older lady, and I it was late at night when she picked me up, and night when she picked me up, and night when she picked me up, and I um I um I um I asked her why she was doing what she I asked her why she was doing what she I asked her why she was doing what she was doing. It wasn't that she was was doing. It wasn't that she was was doing. It wasn't that she was driving for Uber because that's a driving for Uber because that's a driving for Uber because that's a choice, and I have a lot friends that do choice, and I have a lot friends that do choice, and I have a lot friends that do it that love it, it's extra money, it that love it, it's extra money, it that love it, it's extra money, they've done it in retirement, but I they've done it in retirement, but I they've done it in retirement, but I just had a sense that maybe she hadn't just had a sense that maybe she hadn't just had a sense that maybe she hadn't chosen it. Cuz she was complaining about chosen it. Cuz she was complaining about chosen it. Cuz she was complaining about her back, and that she had had back her back, and that she had had back her back, and that she had had back surgery. I thought, that's an surgery. I thought, that's an surgery. I thought, that's an interesting choice to be driving at interesting choice to be driving at interesting choice to be driving at 11:00 at night, and her back was sore. 11:00 at night, and her back was sore. 11:00 at night, and her back was sore. And she shared with me that she um had And she shared with me that she um had And she shared with me that she um had chosen to leave a spouse earlier in her chosen to leave a spouse earlier in her chosen to leave a spouse earlier in her life that she wished she'd stayed with. life that she wished she'd stayed with. life that she wished she'd stayed with. And that it was a choice that altered And that it was a choice that altered And that it was a choice that altered the whole direction of her life. And I the whole direction of her life. And I the whole direction of her life. And I said, well, how did it alter the said, well, how did it alter the said, well, how did it alter the direction of your life? And she says, direction of your life? And she says, direction of your life? And she says, well, my my ex um I moved away from my well, my my ex um I moved away from my well, my my ex um I moved away from my ex, and my son wasn't around his father ex, and my son wasn't around his father ex, and my son wasn't around his father very much. very much. very much. And I she said, I had no idea how that And I she said, I had no idea how that And I she said, I had no idea how that choice would impact him, but choice would impact him, but choice would impact him, but um she said, the reason that I'm driving um she said, the reason that I'm driving um she said, the reason that I'm driving here and I moved is I lost my home. here and I moved is I lost my home. here and I moved is I lost my home. And I lost my home because my And I lost my home because my And I lost my home because my 18-year-old son one night 18-year-old son one night 18-year-old son one night chose to have a couple drinks. chose to have a couple drinks. chose to have a couple drinks. And he had three drinks at our house, And he had three drinks at our house, And he had three drinks at our house, and I was at work, and my son chose to and I was at work, and my son chose to and I was at work, and my son chose to take the car out of the driveway. take the car out of the driveway. take the car out of the driveway. And he chose to drive. And he chose to drive. And he chose to drive. And two blocks from our house, he hit a And two blocks from our house, he hit a And two blocks from our house, he hit a family and killed somebody family and killed somebody family and killed somebody while drinking and driving. while drinking and driving. while drinking and driving. My son was a good boy. My son was a good boy. My son was a good boy. He had always got good grades. He had always got good grades. He had always got good grades. And he made the choice to do that that And he made the choice to do that that And he made the choice to do that that night and he's in prison. He's serving 8 night and he's in prison. He's serving 8 night and he's in prison. He's serving 8 years in prison. And I lost my home over years in prison. And I lost my home over years in prison. And I lost my home over the legal expenses and we moved to Las the legal expenses and we moved to Las the legal expenses and we moved to Las Vegas and now I drive Uber cuz Vegas and now I drive Uber cuz Vegas and now I drive Uber cuz that's what I've got to do just to that's what I've got to do just to that's what I've got to do just to support my family. And she it made me support my family. And she it made me support my family. And she it made me think and she said the choice to leave think and she said the choice to leave think and she said the choice to leave my husband really affected my son. And I my husband really affected my son. And I my husband really affected my son. And I thought, yeah, the choice your son made thought, yeah, the choice your son made thought, yeah, the choice your son made really affected his life. Those were two really affected his life. Those were two really affected his life. Those were two life choices that both of them made that life choices that both of them made that life choices that both of them made that altered the direction of both of their altered the direction of both of their altered the direction of both of their lives. His choice, that good boy made lives. His choice, that good boy made lives. His choice, that good boy made one choice that altered the direction of one choice that altered the direction of one choice that altered the direction of his life. And I think if you evaluate, his life. And I think if you evaluate, his life. And I think if you evaluate, there may not be something that there may not be something that there may not be something that dramatic, but there's been probably five dramatic, but there's been probably five dramatic, but there's been probably five choices if you're my age, if you're in choices if you're my age, if you're in choices if you're my age, if you're in your 40s. your 40s. your 40s. There's probably been five major choices There's probably been five major choices There's probably been five major choices in your life. Maybe it's who you decided in your life. Maybe it's who you decided in your life. Maybe it's who you decided to marry or not marry, a relationship to marry or not marry, a relationship to marry or not marry, a relationship you got in or out of, a business you you got in or out of, a business you you got in or out of, a business you started or didn't start, something you started or didn't start, something you started or didn't start, something you left or began, a friend, a house you left or began, a friend, a house you left or began, a friend, a house you bought or didn't buy, an investment you bought or didn't buy, an investment you bought or didn't buy, an investment you did or didn't make. did or didn't make. did or didn't make. You know, a decision you made in your You know, a decision you made in your You know, a decision you made in your fitness one way or the other. Maybe it's fitness one way or the other. Maybe it's fitness one way or the other. Maybe it's um it's stopping using alcohol or using um it's stopping using alcohol or using um it's stopping using alcohol or using too much alcohol. The first time you too much alcohol. The first time you too much alcohol. The first time you tried a drug that you're now addicted tried a drug that you're now addicted tried a drug that you're now addicted to. I don't know what those choices are. to. I don't know what those choices are. to. I don't know what those choices are. But those handful of choices alter the But those handful of choices alter the But those handful of choices alter the direction of your life. And I want you direction of your life. And I want you direction of your life. And I want you to begin to become conscious of choosing to begin to become conscious of choosing to begin to become conscious of choosing the emotions you want because they will the emotions you want because they will the emotions you want because they will alter the choices you make every single alter the choices you make every single alter the choices you make every single day in the small choices. They will also day in the small choices. They will also day in the small choices. They will also alter the decisions you make on the five alter the decisions you make on the five alter the decisions you make on the five big ones in your life. If you're very big ones in your life. If you're very big ones in your life. If you're very clear about the emotions you want to clear about the emotions you want to clear about the emotions you want to experience, if you're very clear on the experience, if you're very clear on the experience, if you're very clear on the person you are as you build your person you are as you build your person you are as you build your identity, if you have those two things identity, if you have those two things identity, if you have those two things wired, I'm clear about the emotions I wired, I'm clear about the emotions I wired, I'm clear about the emotions I want to experience and I'm clear about want to experience and I'm clear about want to experience and I'm clear about who I am and my identity and my worth who I am and my identity and my worth who I am and my identity and my worth and what I'm worthy of and what I and what I'm worthy of and what I and what I'm worthy of and what I deserve, they will guide you in making deserve, they will guide you in making deserve, they will guide you in making the right choices in the small ones and the right choices in the small ones and the right choices in the small ones and the big ones. They will guide you the big ones. They will guide you the big ones. They will guide you towards the right patterns. The answer towards the right patterns. The answer towards the right patterns. The answer to changing these patterns, the answer to changing these patterns, the answer to changing these patterns, the answer to making the right choices, is perfect to making the right choices, is perfect to making the right choices, is perfect and specific clarity on the emotions we and specific clarity on the emotions we and specific clarity on the emotions we want to have in our life on a regular want to have in our life on a regular want to have in our life on a regular basis, and on who we are in our basis, and on who we are in our basis, and on who we are in our identity, so that we produce the lives identity, so that we produce the lives identity, so that we produce the lives we believe we deserve, that we're worthy we believe we deserve, that we're worthy we believe we deserve, that we're worthy of. They will be your compass in making of. They will be your compass in making of. They will be your compass in making the small and big choices. They will the small and big choices. They will the small and big choices. They will help guide the patterns. If you're help guide the patterns. If you're help guide the patterns. If you're somebody who's addicted to being somebody who's addicted to being somebody who's addicted to being blissful and happy, and you begin to run blissful and happy, and you begin to run blissful and happy, and you begin to run a pattern and program that you know a pattern and program that you know a pattern and program that you know doesn't lead you there, doesn't lead you there, doesn't lead you there, it sort of blows it up. It's like a it sort of blows it up. It's like a it sort of blows it up. It's like a virus in the program. You'll be aware virus in the program. You'll be aware virus in the program. You'll be aware and you can't run it. You'll begin to and you can't run it. You'll begin to and you can't run it. You'll begin to choose to create new patterns. If you've choose to create new patterns. If you've choose to create new patterns. If you've got an identity of somebody who's worthy got an identity of somebody who's worthy got an identity of somebody who's worthy of great relationships and abundance and of great relationships and abundance and of great relationships and abundance and success and peace and fitness and health success and peace and fitness and health success and peace and fitness and health and all of the great things, if that's and all of the great things, if that's and all of the great things, if that's your identity, your identity, your identity, you won't be able to run patterns that you won't be able to run patterns that you won't be able to run patterns that lead you in this place on a regular lead you in this place on a regular lead you in this place on a regular basis. There is something called basis. There is something called basis. There is something called cognitive dissonance, which is when we cognitive dissonance, which is when we cognitive dissonance, which is when we begin to behave in a way that's not begin to behave in a way that's not begin to behave in a way that's not consistent with our thoughts. And the consistent with our thoughts. And the consistent with our thoughts. And the antidote to that is both of these things antidote to that is both of these things antidote to that is both of these things combined. It's the ability to begin to combined. It's the ability to begin to combined. It's the ability to begin to choose consciously the emotions we want choose consciously the emotions we want choose consciously the emotions we want combined with our identity. When you're combined with our identity. When you're combined with our identity. When you're conscious of choosing the emotions you conscious of choosing the emotions you conscious of choosing the emotions you want to experience, and you're want to experience, and you're want to experience, and you're completely conscious of choosing who you completely conscious of choosing who you completely conscious of choosing who you are and what you're worthy of deserving, are and what you're worthy of deserving, are and what you're worthy of deserving, you have to act in congruence with both you have to act in congruence with both you have to act in congruence with both of those combined. One missing from the of those combined. One missing from the of those combined. One missing from the other can cause us to make poor choices. other can cause us to make poor choices. other can cause us to make poor choices. Both of them missing Both of them missing Both of them missing is a choice not to choose and will lead is a choice not to choose and will lead is a choice not to choose and will lead us into pain and mediocrity, worry, us into pain and mediocrity, worry, us into pain and mediocrity, worry, fear, and all the emotions we don't fear, and all the emotions we don't fear, and all the emotions we don't want. Having one of them in place will want. Having one of them in place will want. Having one of them in place will guide you to a decent destination, but guide you to a decent destination, but guide you to a decent destination, but when you have both combined, the when you have both combined, the when you have both combined, the identity and the choosing, the conscious identity and the choosing, the conscious identity and the choosing, the conscious intentions for the emotions you want, intentions for the emotions you want, intentions for the emotions you want, you begin to have great choices being you begin to have great choices being you begin to have great choices being made in your life on a very regular made in your life on a very regular made in your life on a very regular basis. Not every day, not every time, basis. Not every day, not every time, basis. Not every day, not every time, not every moment, but enough of the time not every moment, but enough of the time not every moment, but enough of the time where you make progress towards your where you make progress towards your where you make progress towards your dreams, progress towards the man or dreams, progress towards the man or dreams, progress towards the man or woman you're capable of becoming. And woman you're capable of becoming. And woman you're capable of becoming. And when you have the combination of these when you have the combination of these when you have the combination of these two things, these patterns begin to two things, these patterns begin to two things, these patterns begin to change. We begin to replace them. So, change. We begin to replace them. So, change. We begin to replace them. So, I'd ask yourself today, what are the I'd ask yourself today, what are the I'd ask yourself today, what are the patterns you're running that don't serve patterns you're running that don't serve patterns you're running that don't serve you? Begin to be aware of those you? Begin to be aware of those you? Begin to be aware of those patterns. Know who your real identity patterns. Know who your real identity patterns. Know who your real identity is. Get conscious of choosing bliss over is. Get conscious of choosing bliss over is. Get conscious of choosing bliss over blank. See those patterns when they're blank. See those patterns when they're blank. See those patterns when they're happening. Interrupt them. Continue to happening. Interrupt them. Continue to happening. Interrupt them. Continue to work on your identity. These two things work on your identity. These two things work on your identity. These two things combined, I think, are the critical combined, I think, are the critical combined, I think, are the critical components to making the decisions and components to making the decisions and components to making the decisions and the choices in our life that when we the choices in our life that when we the choices in our life that when we look back, I don't want you to end up in look back, I don't want you to end up in look back, I don't want you to end up in your 80s or 90s and regret the choices your 80s or 90s and regret the choices your 80s or 90s and regret the choices you made. I want you to go back. I put you made. I want you to go back. I put you made. I want you to go back. I put it through what I call the rocking chair it through what I call the rocking chair it through what I call the rocking chair test. That someday for all of you who I test. That someday for all of you who I test. That someday for all of you who I love so much, who I believe in so much, love so much, who I believe in so much, love so much, who I believe in so much, I want that rocking chair test for you I want that rocking chair test for you I want that rocking chair test for you for you to pass it. And that is, I'm for you to pass it. And that is, I'm for you to pass it. And that is, I'm proud of the choices I made. My life proud of the choices I made. My life proud of the choices I made. My life wasn't perfect. I made some mistakes, wasn't perfect. I made some mistakes, wasn't perfect. I made some mistakes, but I chose the emotions I wanted. I but I chose the emotions I wanted. I but I chose the emotions I wanted. I worked on my identity. I created worked on my identity. I created worked on my identity. I created patterns that empowered me and the patterns that empowered me and the patterns that empowered me and the people around me. And you know what? By people around me. And you know what? By people around me. And you know what? By and large, I'm proud of the choices I and large, I'm proud of the choices I and large, I'm proud of the choices I made in my life. I'm proud of the man or made in my life. I'm proud of the man or made in my life. I'm proud of the man or woman I've become. That's how we know woman I've become. That's how we know woman I've become. That's how we know we've had a great life. I don't want you we've had a great life. I don't want you we've had a great life. I don't want you to be in that rocking chair someday to be in that rocking chair someday to be in that rocking chair someday and regret the choices you made. and regret the choices you made. and regret the choices you made. Regret the patterns you ran and that you Regret the patterns you ran and that you Regret the patterns you ran and that you just unconsciously went through your just unconsciously went through your just unconsciously went through your life without choosing life without choosing life without choosing the direction of it, choosing the the direction of it, choosing the the direction of it, choosing the decisions, choosing the emotions, decisions, choosing the emotions, decisions, choosing the emotions, choosing to be the man or woman you're choosing to be the man or woman you're choosing to be the man or woman you're worthy of, choosing the life you worthy of, choosing the life you worthy of, choosing the life you deserve. The final piece of the puzzle deserve. The final piece of the puzzle deserve. The final piece of the puzzle today is, what are the three to five today is, what are the three to five today is, what are the three to five choices you must make in order to create choices you must make in order to create choices you must make in order to create the life you want? Right now, what are the life you want? Right now, what are the life you want? Right now, what are the choices you must make? The big ones. the choices you must make? The big ones. the choices you must make? The big ones. The people that need to be in your life The people that need to be in your life The people that need to be in your life or out of your life. The patterns you or out of your life. The patterns you or out of your life. The patterns you will no longer run again. The choice will no longer run again. The choice will no longer run again. The choice perhaps to work on your identity like perhaps to work on your identity like perhaps to work on your identity like you never have before. Evaluate what the you never have before. Evaluate what the you never have before. Evaluate what the three to five decisions are you've made three to five decisions are you've made three to five decisions are you've made so far in your life that have taken you so far in your life that have taken you so far in your life that have taken you a certain direction or what are the a certain direction or what are the a certain direction or what are the three to five you need to make in order three to five you need to make in order three to five you need to make in order to change your life and take it in the to change your life and take it in the to change your life and take it in the direction you want. These patterns will direction you want. These patterns will direction you want. These patterns will lose their power over you. Your identity lose their power over you. Your identity lose their power over you. Your identity and your conscious choice will begin to and your conscious choice will begin to and your conscious choice will begin to take charge and I know you're going to take charge and I know you're going to take charge and I know you're going to have more happiness and produce more have more happiness and produce more have more happiness and produce more results and have a much better life and results and have a much better life and results and have a much better life and that's what I wish for you. So, I have a that's what I wish for you. So, I have a that's what I wish for you. So, I have a funny feeling that today impacted you on funny feeling that today impacted you on funny feeling that today impacted you on a deep level because we all have these a deep level because we all have these a deep level because we all have these patterns we need to look at. We all need patterns we need to look at. We all need patterns we need to look at. We all need to consciously choose the emotions we to consciously choose the emotions we to consciously choose the emotions we want and I have a feeling that it made a want and I have a feeling that it made a want and I have a feeling that it made a difference in your life. I want to go to difference in your life. I want to go to difference in your life. I want to go to something you said. You used the word something you said. You used the word something you said. You used the word imagination earlier and in my book imagination earlier and in my book imagination earlier and in my book I wrote about this. I'm just curious as I wrote about this. I'm just curious as I wrote about this. I'm just curious as to I don't want this to be Pollyanna to I don't want this to be Pollyanna to I don't want this to be Pollyanna either because I know you and I are both either because I know you and I are both either because I know you and I are both very tactical and strategic, but I want very tactical and strategic, but I want very tactical and strategic, but I want to go to that for a minute. So, I have to go to that for a minute. So, I have to go to that for a minute. So, I have this theory that you know, I think this theory that you know, I think this theory that you know, I think children are happier than adults for the children are happier than adults for the children are happier than adults for the most part cuz they operate out of most part cuz they operate out of most part cuz they operate out of imagination, vision, dreams. That's imagination, vision, dreams. That's imagination, vision, dreams. That's their prism. And at some age, it could their prism. And at some age, it could their prism. And at some age, it could even be very young for so if you go even be very young for so if you go even be very young for so if you go through childhood trauma or whatever it through childhood trauma or whatever it through childhood trauma or whatever it might be, but at some age almost all might be, but at some age almost all might be, but at some age almost all people, 99%, start to operate out of people, 99%, start to operate out of people, 99%, start to operate out of history and memory. And that's sort of history and memory. And that's sort of history and memory. And that's sort of their filter or their pattern of their their filter or their pattern of their their filter or their pattern of their life. It's it's history and memory. life. It's it's history and memory. life. It's it's history and memory. And I asked often, how do I break that And I asked often, how do I break that And I asked often, how do I break that pattern? I think this all begins when pattern? I think this all begins when pattern? I think this all begins when you have fear, you go to history and you have fear, you go to history and you have fear, you go to history and memory and then they're telling you what memory and then they're telling you what memory and then they're telling you what to believe. How does one begin to to believe. How does one begin to to believe. How does one begin to operate out of their imagination, operate out of their imagination, operate out of their imagination, imagine new skills, imagine a new life, imagine new skills, imagine a new life, imagine new skills, imagine a new life, uncover their version of their own uncover their version of their own uncover their version of their own genius. How does somebody do that, Tony? genius. How does somebody do that, Tony? genius. How does somebody do that, Tony? What's a skill or a strategy that you What's a skill or a strategy that you What's a skill or a strategy that you would recommend to somebody who says, I would recommend to somebody who says, I would recommend to somebody who says, I need to flip from this history and need to flip from this history and need to flip from this history and memory, these patterns I have, to create memory, these patterns I have, to create memory, these patterns I have, to create a new ones and I think that starts in a new ones and I think that starts in a new ones and I think that starts in your imagination. How does somebody do your imagination. How does somebody do your imagination. How does somebody do that? that? that? >> You have to shift your your physiology >> You have to shift your your physiology >> You have to shift your your physiology first. If you try to paint a compelling first. If you try to paint a compelling first. If you try to paint a compelling future, you know, why are people future, you know, why are people future, you know, why are people depressed? One of the main reasons depressed? One of the main reasons depressed? One of the main reasons people are depressed is they don't have people are depressed is they don't have people are depressed is they don't have a compelling future. In other words, you a compelling future. In other words, you a compelling future. In other words, you can deal with any tough today if you can deal with any tough today if you can deal with any tough today if you have a compelling tomorrow. Anybody can have a compelling tomorrow. Anybody can have a compelling tomorrow. Anybody can do that. But today people think, oh my do that. But today people think, oh my do that. But today people think, oh my god, I can't go outside. Oh my god, oh god, I can't go outside. Oh my god, oh god, I can't go outside. Oh my god, oh my my my choices are taken away. Oh my god, we're choices are taken away. Oh my god, we're choices are taken away. Oh my god, we're all going to die in 12 years cuz of an all going to die in 12 years cuz of an all going to die in 12 years cuz of an environmental crisis, which is total environmental crisis, which is total environmental crisis, which is total but there are people that have but there are people that have but there are people that have been taught this and they're kids today been taught this and they're kids today been taught this and they're kids today they're saying, not going to have I'm they're saying, not going to have I'm they're saying, not going to have I'm not going to have children because this not going to have children because this not going to have children because this is the world I've entered into cuz they is the world I've entered into cuz they is the world I've entered into cuz they have no compelling future." But if you have no compelling future." But if you have no compelling future." But if you try to paint a compelling future when a try to paint a compelling future when a try to paint a compelling future when a person is in a lowered energy state, it person is in a lowered energy state, it person is in a lowered energy state, it won't work. They'll just reject it won't work. They'll just reject it won't work. They'll just reject it because in a lowered state, your brain because in a lowered state, your brain because in a lowered state, your brain goes into survival mechanisms. In the goes into survival mechanisms. In the goes into survival mechanisms. In the survival mechanism, you're always survival mechanism, you're always survival mechanism, you're always looking for what's wrong. What do I have looking for what's wrong. What do I have looking for what's wrong. What do I have to fight or what do I have to fly from to fight or what do I have to fly from to fight or what do I have to fly from or what do I have to freeze and hope it or what do I have to freeze and hope it or what do I have to freeze and hope it don't hurt us. That's the part of your don't hurt us. That's the part of your don't hurt us. That's the part of your brain that's 2 million years old, and brain that's 2 million years old, and brain that's 2 million years old, and it's well wired. But we don't have a it's well wired. But we don't have a it's well wired. But we don't have a saber-tooth tiger to deal with. So now saber-tooth tiger to deal with. So now saber-tooth tiger to deal with. So now we worry about what people say to us or we worry about what people say to us or we worry about what people say to us or will we have enough money or what will we have enough money or what will we have enough money or what somebody's going to write about you in somebody's going to write about you in somebody's going to write about you in social media, and we have a similar social media, and we have a similar social media, and we have a similar reaction. The way you overcome that is reaction. The way you overcome that is reaction. The way you overcome that is the way you drive your nervous system. the way you drive your nervous system. the way you drive your nervous system. So I'll give you an example. When I was So I'll give you an example. When I was So I'll give you an example. When I was at my worst, and I was in a place where at my worst, and I was in a place where at my worst, and I was in a place where I I gained 38 lb and I was feeling sorry I I gained 38 lb and I was feeling sorry I I gained 38 lb and I was feeling sorry for myself, and I come home one night, for myself, and I come home one night, for myself, and I come home one night, literally, I ran out of gas on Pacific literally, I ran out of gas on Pacific literally, I ran out of gas on Pacific Coast Highway in Venice. I had a little Coast Highway in Venice. I had a little Coast Highway in Venice. I had a little apartment down there. And I didn't run apartment down there. And I didn't run apartment down there. And I didn't run out of gas because, you know, I forgot out of gas because, you know, I forgot out of gas because, you know, I forgot to fill the tank. I literally had no to fill the tank. I literally had no to fill the tank. I literally had no money. I pulled over, locked the car, money. I pulled over, locked the car, money. I pulled over, locked the car, and prayed it didn't get towed cuz towed and prayed it didn't get towed cuz towed and prayed it didn't get towed cuz towed would be 50 bucks. I didn't have 50 would be 50 bucks. I didn't have 50 would be 50 bucks. I didn't have 50 bucks. bucks. bucks. And then I walked a couple miles home. And then I walked a couple miles home. And then I walked a couple miles home. And I lived there on Pacific Avenue, And I lived there on Pacific Avenue, And I lived there on Pacific Avenue, 2516 Pacific Avenue, apartment 3A, if 2516 Pacific Avenue, apartment 3A, if 2516 Pacific Avenue, apartment 3A, if you ever want to go by. I did recently. you ever want to go by. I did recently. you ever want to go by. I did recently. It's pretty funny. But anyway, I walk up It's pretty funny. But anyway, I walk up It's pretty funny. But anyway, I walk up the stairs as the sun's setting, and the stairs as the sun's setting, and the stairs as the sun's setting, and there's a note typed and stapled on my there's a note typed and stapled on my there's a note typed and stapled on my door, and I don't know if you've ever door, and I don't know if you've ever door, and I don't know if you've ever had the had the had the joy of having one of these experiences joy of having one of these experiences joy of having one of these experiences in your youth, but it basically says in your youth, but it basically says in your youth, but it basically says you've not paid your rent, remove you've not paid your rent, remove you've not paid your rent, remove yourself and your things. If you don't yourself and your things. If you don't yourself and your things. If you don't pay within 3 days, the sheriff will take pay within 3 days, the sheriff will take pay within 3 days, the sheriff will take your stuff, and you will lose your stuff, and you will lose your stuff, and you will lose everything, right? everything, right? everything, right? So I open the door, I go into this So I open the door, I go into this So I open the door, I go into this place, and I place, and I place, and I and I light a candle. and I light a candle. and I light a candle. And I I didn't light it because I was And I I didn't light it because I was And I I didn't light it because I was spiritual, I lit it cuz I also not paid spiritual, I lit it cuz I also not paid spiritual, I lit it cuz I also not paid my electric bill. It's a true story. So my electric bill. It's a true story. So my electric bill. It's a true story. So I'm reading by candlelight my eviction I'm reading by candlelight my eviction I'm reading by candlelight my eviction notice. This is how low I gotten. And notice. This is how low I gotten. And notice. This is how low I gotten. And then if that wasn't enough, I get this then if that wasn't enough, I get this then if that wasn't enough, I get this banging on the door, and I got three banging on the door, and I got three banging on the door, and I got three locks cuz I haven't paid anybody, right? locks cuz I haven't paid anybody, right? locks cuz I haven't paid anybody, right? I'm looking through and it's a friend I'm looking through and it's a friend I'm looking through and it's a friend I've not seen in a couple years, and I I've not seen in a couple years, and I I've not seen in a couple years, and I got a beer belly on me and I've grown got a beer belly on me and I've grown got a beer belly on me and I've grown out, you know, this shaggy little beard out, you know, this shaggy little beard out, you know, this shaggy little beard and I was just in the worst shape. I and I was just in the worst shape. I and I was just in the worst shape. I open the door partially, "What do you open the door partially, "What do you open the door partially, "What do you want?" He's like, "Tony, it's me, you want?" He's like, "Tony, it's me, you want?" He's like, "Tony, it's me, you know." I let him in. He goes in my know." I let him in. He goes in my know." I let him in. He goes in my house, which is this little 400 square house, which is this little 400 square house, which is this little 400 square foot bachelor apartment. You can't even foot bachelor apartment. You can't even foot bachelor apartment. You can't even turn around. I'm cooking on a on a hot turn around. I'm cooking on a on a hot turn around. I'm cooking on a on a hot plate on the trash can. I'm washing my plate on the trash can. I'm washing my plate on the trash can. I'm washing my dishes in the bathtub. And so after he dishes in the bathtub. And so after he dishes in the bathtub. And so after he left, I was so humiliated. The whole left, I was so humiliated. The whole left, I was so humiliated. The whole thing is just I it's like, I got to do thing is just I it's like, I got to do thing is just I it's like, I got to do something. I didn't know what I was something. I didn't know what I was something. I didn't know what I was doing then, but now I understand what I doing then, but now I understand what I doing then, but now I understand what I did. I hit rock bottom and it's like who did. I hit rock bottom and it's like who did. I hit rock bottom and it's like who I am is more than what I'm living I am is more than what I'm living I am is more than what I'm living spiritually, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically. So I'm old enough to have physically. So I'm old enough to have physically. So I'm old enough to have had a Walkman. I think you might have had a Walkman. I think you might have had a Walkman. I think you might have had one at one time or had one at one time or had one at one time or >> Absolutely. >> Absolutely. >> Absolutely. >> And you got to really love your music in >> And you got to really love your music in >> And you got to really love your music in those days, right? Because you had one those days, right? Because you had one those days, right? Because you had one cassette in there. So I took this group cassette in there. So I took this group cassette in there. So I took this group called Heart and I put on this song called Heart and I put on this song called Heart and I put on this song called Barracuda. I said, "I'm going to called Barracuda. I said, "I'm going to called Barracuda. I said, "I'm going to run this beach till I spit up blood." run this beach till I spit up blood." run this beach till I spit up blood." I'm just And I did. I ran as hard as I I'm just And I did. I ran as hard as I I'm just And I did. I ran as hard as I could and when I thought I couldn't do could and when I thought I couldn't do could and when I thought I couldn't do any more, I ran harder. And I got to the any more, I ran harder. And I got to the any more, I ran harder. And I got to the end of it and I had left this journal on end of it and I had left this journal on end of it and I had left this journal on the ground. I drew a line down the the ground. I drew a line down the the ground. I drew a line down the middle. I wrote everything on that list middle. I wrote everything on that list middle. I wrote everything on that list that I really that I really that I really hated that was in my life, which was hated that was in my life, which was hated that was in my life, which was most of my life. And then everything I most of my life. And then everything I most of my life. And then everything I was committed to changing. And I didn't was committed to changing. And I didn't was committed to changing. And I didn't have all the skills and tools I have have all the skills and tools I have have all the skills and tools I have today, but I had changed the ignition. today, but I had changed the ignition. today, but I had changed the ignition. It's like you got the greatest computer It's like you got the greatest computer It's like you got the greatest computer in the world, there's not enough in the world, there's not enough in the world, there's not enough electricity, your screen's going to be electricity, your screen's going to be electricity, your screen's going to be messed up. Without that energy change, messed up. Without that energy change, messed up. Without that energy change, >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> you're really not going to make the >> you're really not going to make the >> you're really not going to make the change. That's why everyone that comes change. That's why everyone that comes change. That's why everyone that comes to one of my seminars, you know, it's a to one of my seminars, you know, it's a to one of my seminars, you know, it's a physical experience. You're not sitting physical experience. You're not sitting physical experience. You're not sitting on your ass for, you know, 12 hours. on your ass for, you know, 12 hours. on your ass for, you know, 12 hours. You're going 12 hours a day for three or You're going 12 hours a day for three or You're going 12 hours a day for three or four days. Now people are at home in 100 four days. Now people are at home in 100 four days. Now people are at home in 100 countries and they're going full tilt. countries and they're going full tilt. countries and they're going full tilt. Like they're in a stadium for full time Like they're in a stadium for full time Like they're in a stadium for full time and all of a sudden their energy and all of a sudden their energy and all of a sudden their energy changes. Well, in that place, now we can changes. Well, in that place, now we can changes. Well, in that place, now we can start to create this compelling future. start to create this compelling future. start to create this compelling future. Now we can start to make the And your Now we can start to make the And your Now we can start to make the And your nervous system says I'm ready. You know, nervous system says I'm ready. You know, nervous system says I'm ready. You know, Stanford did a study. They came to me Stanford did a study. They came to me Stanford did a study. They came to me during the pandemic. during the pandemic. during the pandemic. It's fascinating. They said, "Tony, we It's fascinating. They said, "Tony, we It's fascinating. They said, "Tony, we had two people go through your Date With had two people go through your Date With had two people go through your Date With Destiny, that little six-day seminar I Destiny, that little six-day seminar I Destiny, that little six-day seminar I do." do." do." And they said they were both clinically And they said they were both clinically And they said they were both clinically depressed and they had no symptoms of depressed and they had no symptoms of depressed and they had no symptoms of depression. We've never seen anything depression. We've never seen anything depression. We've never seen anything like it. You know, what data you have on like it. You know, what data you have on like it. You know, what data you have on this? I said, well, I have thousands and this? I said, well, I have thousands and this? I said, well, I have thousands and thousands, tens of thousands of thousands, tens of thousands of thousands, tens of thousands of testimonials. You go, no, but like testimonials. You go, no, but like testimonials. You go, no, but like scientific data. I said, that's not my scientific data. I said, that's not my scientific data. I said, that's not my focus. They said, you mind if we did a focus. They said, you mind if we did a focus. They said, you mind if we did a study? And then they showed me something study? And then they showed me something study? And then they showed me something fascinating. fascinating. fascinating. 40% of the people that get treatment for 40% of the people that get treatment for 40% of the people that get treatment for depression, and by the way, depression depression, and by the way, depression depression, and by the way, depression has gone through the roof since COVID has gone through the roof since COVID has gone through the roof since COVID and since all those limitations, I know and since all those limitations, I know and since all those limitations, I know you know, suicide's gone through the you know, suicide's gone through the you know, suicide's gone through the roof. roof. roof. And it's horrific, but only 40% get And it's horrific, but only 40% get And it's horrific, but only 40% get better through treatment of drugs and better through treatment of drugs and better through treatment of drugs and therapy. Like SSRIs, you know, Prozac, therapy. Like SSRIs, you know, Prozac, therapy. Like SSRIs, you know, Prozac, Zoloft, all these things, right? 60% Zoloft, all these things, right? 60% Zoloft, all these things, right? 60% don't get an ounce better. Of the 40% don't get an ounce better. Of the 40% don't get an ounce better. Of the 40% that get better, on average across the that get better, on average across the that get better, on average across the meta studies, they find they get about meta studies, they find they get about meta studies, they find they get about 50% better. They're half as depressed as 50% better. They're half as depressed as 50% better. They're half as depressed as they were. Now, some people get totally they were. Now, some people get totally they were. Now, some people get totally better, some not at all, but that's the better, some not at all, but that's the better, some not at all, but that's the average. I said, that's not much better average. I said, that's not much better average. I said, that's not much better than a placebo. They said, you're right. than a placebo. They said, you're right. than a placebo. They said, you're right. I said, well, what's the best you've I said, well, what's the best you've I said, well, what's the best you've ever seen? They said, 2 years ago, Johns ever seen? They said, 2 years ago, Johns ever seen? They said, 2 years ago, Johns Hopkins did a study where they took Hopkins did a study where they took Hopkins did a study where they took people for 30 days of psilocybin, magic people for 30 days of psilocybin, magic people for 30 days of psilocybin, magic mushrooms, and therapy for 30 straight mushrooms, and therapy for 30 straight mushrooms, and therapy for 30 straight days. days. days. They got results that were four times They got results that were four times They got results that were four times greater than they'd ever seen in greater than they'd ever seen in greater than they'd ever seen in history. 53% of the people 30 days later history. 53% of the people 30 days later history. 53% of the people 30 days later had no symptoms. Never seen anything had no symptoms. Never seen anything had no symptoms. Never seen anything like it, but psilocybin's illegal, it's like it, but psilocybin's illegal, it's like it, but psilocybin's illegal, it's not really duplicatable. So, they said, not really duplicatable. So, they said, not really duplicatable. So, they said, what if we model their study? We'll use what if we model their study? We'll use what if we model their study? We'll use the exact same criteria, but we'll have the exact same criteria, but we'll have the exact same criteria, but we'll have you with no drugs and have your people you with no drugs and have your people you with no drugs and have your people go through the seminar, we'll send go through the seminar, we'll send go through the seminar, we'll send people in that are clinically depressed, people in that are clinically depressed, people in that are clinically depressed, and so forth. And so, they did it. And and so forth. And so, they did it. And and so forth. And so, they did it. And the study with the results were so the study with the results were so the study with the results were so profound, they sent the data out to two profound, they sent the data out to two profound, they sent the data out to two different organizations blinded to get different organizations blinded to get different organizations blinded to get the data back cuz they wanted to make the data back cuz they wanted to make the data back cuz they wanted to make sure it was accurate before they sure it was accurate before they sure it was accurate before they reported it. 100% [clears throat] reported it. 100% [clears throat] reported it. 100% [clears throat] of the people 30 days later after Date of the people 30 days later after Date of the people 30 days later after Date With Destiny, had no symptoms of With Destiny, had no symptoms of With Destiny, had no symptoms of depression, but even better, 19% of depression, but even better, 19% of depression, but even better, 19% of those people had suicidal ideation. None those people had suicidal ideation. None those people had suicidal ideation. None had suicidal ideation. 11 months later, had suicidal ideation. 11 months later, had suicidal ideation. 11 months later, 11 months after 1 week, they changed so 11 months after 1 week, they changed so 11 months after 1 week, they changed so much, their negative emotions had much, their negative emotions had much, their negative emotions had dropped 72%, their positive emotions up dropped 72%, their positive emotions up dropped 72%, their positive emotions up 51%, and now this last week, 2 weeks 51%, and now this last week, 2 weeks 51%, and now this last week, 2 weeks ago, I did another Date With Destiny, ago, I did another Date With Destiny, ago, I did another Date With Destiny, and they did a study with 750 people, and they did a study with 750 people, and they did a study with 750 people, the largest study of its type. But why the largest study of its type. But why the largest study of its type. But why does it work? Because we're not only does it work? Because we're not only does it work? Because we're not only helping people shift the way they helping people shift the way they helping people shift the way they perceive the world, like you don't perceive the world, like you don't perceive the world, like you don't experience life, you experience the life experience life, you experience the life experience life, you experience the life you focus on. you focus on. you focus on. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> If you're focused on things that piss >> If you're focused on things that piss >> If you're focused on things that piss YOU OFF, YOU HAVE TO BE deleting the YOU OFF, YOU HAVE TO BE deleting the YOU OFF, YOU HAVE TO BE deleting the things you could be grateful for. If things you could be grateful for. If things you could be grateful for. If you're grateful, you're deleting things you're grateful, you're deleting things you're grateful, you're deleting things that could piss you off, right? So by that could piss you off, right? So by that could piss you off, right? So by changing their beliefs and values, they changing their beliefs and values, they changing their beliefs and values, they do this, not me, there's a huge shift, do this, not me, there's a huge shift, do this, not me, there's a huge shift, but it's also the biochemical change. SO but it's also the biochemical change. SO but it's also the biochemical change. SO THEY TRACK MY BODY for 3 years, and they THEY TRACK MY BODY for 3 years, and they THEY TRACK MY BODY for 3 years, and they found crazy like, you know, you found crazy like, you know, you found crazy like, you know, you know cuz you're you're an athlete, but know cuz you're you're an athlete, but know cuz you're you're an athlete, but you know, I jump a thousand times in an you know, I jump a thousand times in an you know, I jump a thousand times in an average program on one day. And I weigh, average program on one day. And I weigh, average program on one day. And I weigh, you know, 285 lb, so every time I come you know, 285 lb, so every time I come you know, 285 lb, so every time I come down, it's four times your body weight. down, it's four times your body weight. down, it's four times your body weight. So imagine 1,000 lb times 1,000 jumps, So imagine 1,000 lb times 1,000 jumps, So imagine 1,000 lb times 1,000 jumps, it's a million pounds of pressure. So I it's a million pounds of pressure. So I it's a million pounds of pressure. So I did my bone density, and they go, "These did my bone density, and they go, "These did my bone density, and they go, "These are humans, you know, this is great are humans, you know, this is great are humans, you know, this is great athletes, this is you." And everything athletes, this is you." And everything athletes, this is you." And everything like this, like I'm a gorilla from just like this, like I'm a gorilla from just like this, like I'm a gorilla from just the demand, right? If you've been the demand, right? If you've been the demand, right? If you've been running with a friend, and you can't running with a friend, and you can't running with a friend, and you can't talk anymore, it's cuz your lactate is talk anymore, it's cuz your lactate is talk anymore, it's cuz your lactate is at four. I'm at 18 and still speaking. at four. I'm at 18 and still speaking. at four. I'm at 18 and still speaking. >> Crazy. >> Crazy. >> Crazy. >> the most interesting thing. >> the most interesting thing. >> the most interesting thing. They tracked my audience and me, and They tracked my audience and me, and They tracked my audience and me, and they found something really fascinating. they found something really fascinating. they found something really fascinating. There's a group that does studies on There's a group that does studies on There's a group that does studies on like Tom Brady, on the Tampa Bay like Tom Brady, on the Tampa Bay like Tom Brady, on the Tampa Bay Lightning that's won mul- multiple times Lightning that's won mul- multiple times Lightning that's won mul- multiple times in the you know, the what do you call in the you know, the what do you call in the you know, the what do you call Stanley Cup, and they found there's a Stanley Cup, and they found there's a Stanley Cup, and they found there's a place biochemically that people who are place biochemically that people who are place biochemically that people who are under stress perform at the highest under stress perform at the highest under stress perform at the highest level, that's why they win. level, that's why they win. level, that's why they win. And they call it the championship uh And they call it the championship uh And they call it the championship uh bloodstream. And what happens is, your bloodstream. And what happens is, your bloodstream. And what happens is, your testosterone surges, so you have this testosterone surges, so you have this testosterone surges, so you have this incredible drive, but your your incredible drive, but your your incredible drive, but your your cortisol, which is the stress hormone, cortisol, which is the stress hormone, cortisol, which is the stress hormone, drops to the ground, so you think so drops to the ground, so you think so drops to the ground, so you think so clearly. That's why Tom Brady's down by clearly. That's why Tom Brady's down by clearly. That's why Tom Brady's down by 14 with 2 minutes left, and he comes 14 with 2 minutes left, and he comes 14 with 2 minutes left, and he comes back to win, right? Well, I produce that back to win, right? Well, I produce that back to win, right? Well, I produce that in my body, but what's even more in my body, but what's even more in my body, but what's even more fascinating, if you know about mirror fascinating, if you know about mirror fascinating, if you know about mirror neurons, everybody in the seminar neurons, everybody in the seminar neurons, everybody in the seminar literally, cuz they did it to people literally, cuz they did it to people literally, cuz they did it to people around the world at home, and they around the world at home, and they around the world at home, and they mirror neurons exactly the same mirror neurons exactly the same mirror neurons exactly the same biochemical change. That's why a year biochemical change. That's why a year biochemical change. That's why a year later the change is there. If I said, later the change is there. If I said, later the change is there. If I said, "Where were you on 9/11?" everybody "Where were you on 9/11?" everybody "Where were you on 9/11?" everybody knows, even in foreign countries they'll knows, even in foreign countries they'll knows, even in foreign countries they'll remember who they were with, what they remember who they were with, what they remember who they were with, what they saw. saw. saw. But if I say, "Where were you on 8/11?" But if I say, "Where were you on 8/11?" But if I say, "Where were you on 8/11?" most people don't know because most people don't know because most people don't know because information without emotion is barely information without emotion is barely information without emotion is barely remembered. So I make sure those are remembered. So I make sure those are remembered. So I make sure those are merged and that's why we get these merged and that's why we get these merged and that's why we get these lasting changes. So it's not enough to lasting changes. So it's not enough to lasting changes. So it's not enough to just understand what to do or paint a just understand what to do or paint a just understand what to do or paint a compelling future. There has to be a compelling future. There has to be a compelling future. There has to be a shift in your identity and the way in shift in your identity and the way in shift in your identity and the way in which you feel physically and that's why which you feel physically and that's why which you feel physically and that's why the combination is so critical. the combination is so critical. the combination is so critical. >> Okay, I'm going to tell you something >> Okay, I'm going to tell you something >> Okay, I'm going to tell you something I've never said out loud anywhere and I I've never said out loud anywhere and I I've never said out loud anywhere and I haven't told you this. So by the way, haven't told you this. So by the way, haven't told you this. So by the way, thank you for calling me an athlete and thank you for calling me an athlete and thank you for calling me an athlete and the reason I say that to you is the reason I say that to you is the reason I say that to you is I purposely adopted that identity at I purposely adopted that identity at I purposely adopted that identity at something you did. And and I was an something you did. And and I was an something you did. And and I was an athlete, I was a college athlete as you athlete, I was a college athlete as you athlete, I was a college athlete as you know, but then I sort of I gained weight know, but then I sort of I gained weight know, but then I sort of I gained weight too too too and people ask me all the time, you and people ask me all the time, you and people ask me all the time, you know, because I have been through know, because I have been through know, because I have been through several of these winters like you have several of these winters like you have several of these winters like you have as well. I'm fit, I'm sure there's a as well. I'm fit, I'm sure there's a as well. I'm fit, I'm sure there's a vanity aspect to it, a wellness, a vanity aspect to it, a wellness, a vanity aspect to it, a wellness, a health aspect to it, but for me it's my health aspect to it, but for me it's my health aspect to it, but for me it's my it's it's my neurochemistry being where it's it's my neurochemistry being where it's it's my neurochemistry being where I want it to be so I can make choices, I want it to be so I can make choices, I want it to be so I can make choices, my imagination is open, I am in flow my imagination is open, I am in flow my imagination is open, I am in flow state. This has been the most critical state. This has been the most critical state. This has been the most critical thing and for years it was really just thing and for years it was really just thing and for years it was really just fitness people that were fit, not fitness people that were fit, not fitness people that were fit, not business people. But you had an event business people. But you had an event business people. But you had an event you would you don't do this anymore, you you would you don't do this anymore, you you would you don't do this anymore, you probably can't in culture today, but I probably can't in culture today, but I probably can't in culture today, but I don't know if you remember, but I was don't know if you remember, but I was don't know if you remember, but I was very young, I'd gotten a little bit out very young, I'd gotten a little bit out very young, I'd gotten a little bit out of shape and back we're in Maui at one of shape and back we're in Maui at one of shape and back we're in Maui at one of your events. You and I didn't know of your events. You and I didn't know of your events. You and I didn't know each other then. each other then. each other then. And you did this thing where I've never And you did this thing where I've never And you did this thing where I've never said this before, but I want you to know said this before, but I want you to know said this before, but I want you to know this. You did this thing where you this. You did this thing where you this. You did this thing where you basically had the women in the room sort basically had the women in the room sort basically had the women in the room sort of ranked or lined up by their financial of ranked or lined up by their financial of ranked or lined up by their financial status. Do you remember this? status. Do you remember this? status. Do you remember this? >> Yes, I do remember that. >> Yes, I do remember that. >> Yes, I do remember that. >> The dudes, it was their fitness. And >> The dudes, it was their fitness. And >> The dudes, it was their fitness. And [laughter] and do you remember doing [laughter] and do you remember doing [laughter] and do you remember doing this? this? this? >> OF COURSE I DID BECAUSE GUYS THINK >> OF COURSE I DID BECAUSE GUYS THINK >> OF COURSE I DID BECAUSE GUYS THINK THEY'RE HOT when they're like in a beer THEY'RE HOT when they're like in a beer THEY'RE HOT when they're like in a beer belly, RIGHT? belly, RIGHT? belly, RIGHT? >> WELL, SO DID I. >> WELL, SO DID I. >> WELL, SO DID I. >> WOMEN CAN [laughter] BE TOTALLY >> WOMEN CAN [laughter] BE TOTALLY >> WOMEN CAN [laughter] BE TOTALLY BEAUTIFUL and they're hard on BEAUTIFUL and they're hard on BEAUTIFUL and they're hard on themselves, right? themselves, right? themselves, right? >> Yes. Yes. But it changed my freaking >> Yes. Yes. But it changed my freaking >> Yes. Yes. But it changed my freaking life. I'm on this call with you, we're life. I'm on this call with you, we're life. I'm on this call with you, we're doing a podcast because of this moment. doing a podcast because of this moment. doing a podcast because of this moment. So he has the women sort of say which So he has the women sort of say which So he has the women sort of say which guys are fit. And then the fittest dudes guys are fit. And then the fittest dudes guys are fit. And then the fittest dudes get to walk up on the stage. Well, I'm get to walk up on the stage. Well, I'm get to walk up on the stage. Well, I'm young. I should be crushing this room at young. I should be crushing this room at young. I should be crushing this room at the time, right? There's a bunch of the time, right? There's a bunch of the time, right? There's a bunch of dudes in there that are in their 40s and dudes in there that are in their 40s and dudes in there that are in their 40s and 50s. I'm like, I don't know, mid-20s, 50s. I'm like, I don't know, mid-20s, 50s. I'm like, I don't know, mid-20s, early 20s, and I don't get picked. And early 20s, and I don't get picked. And early 20s, and I don't get picked. And then you're going to then you're going to then you're going to >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> THERE'S THE DUDE, AND watch the ladies >> THERE'S THE DUDE, AND watch the ladies >> THERE'S THE DUDE, AND watch the ladies in the room cheer for the hot guys. And in the room cheer for the hot guys. And in the room cheer for the hot guys. And I wasn't picked. And I remember going, I wasn't picked. And I remember going, I wasn't picked. And I remember going, "This is never going to happen to me "This is never going to happen to me "This is never going to happen to me again." And it wasn't It wasn't just again." And it wasn't It wasn't just again." And it wasn't It wasn't just that I wasn't picked. It's like, "You that I wasn't picked. It's like, "You that I wasn't picked. It's like, "You aren't living the things he's teaching." aren't living the things he's teaching." aren't living the things he's teaching." >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And you need to change your physiology >> And you need to change your physiology >> And you need to change your physiology on a regular This was an indication that on a regular This was an indication that on a regular This was an indication that my physiology wasn't being shifted on a my physiology wasn't being shifted on a my physiology wasn't being shifted on a regular basis. And it wasn't one of my regular basis. And it wasn't one of my regular basis. And it wasn't one of my patterns to shift my physiology. patterns to shift my physiology. patterns to shift my physiology. Everyone listening to this, you have to Everyone listening to this, you have to Everyone listening to this, you have to have a pattern of shifting your have a pattern of shifting your have a pattern of shifting your physiology. physiology. physiology. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> in those moments your genius flows, your >> in those moments your genius flows, your >> in those moments your genius flows, your imagination flows. These skills and imagination flows. These skills and imagination flows. These skills and tactics start to happen. And it also I tactics start to happen. And it also I tactics start to happen. And it also I want you to speak to this. I just want want you to speak to this. I just want want you to speak to this. I just want you to know that. I credit that with you you to know that. I credit that with you you to know that. I credit that with you with that experience 150 [laughter] with that experience 150 [laughter] with that experience 150 [laughter] years ago. years ago. years ago. >> That's awesome. >> That's awesome. >> That's awesome. >> And I want everyone to know this, but I >> And I want everyone to know this, but I >> And I want everyone to know this, but I also want people to hear this. also want people to hear this. also want people to hear this. I want you to speak to this if you I want you to speak to this if you I want you to speak to this if you would. I think the other thing that you would. I think the other thing that you would. I think the other thing that you and I with the people that we see that and I with the people that we see that and I with the people that we see that are higher-level achievers, their are higher-level achievers, their are higher-level achievers, their preparation freaks. You and I are preparation freaks. You and I are preparation freaks. You and I are prepared today. You're prepared. But prepared today. You're prepared. But prepared today. You're prepared. But they have a lower threshold of what they they have a lower threshold of what they they have a lower threshold of what they think they need to know and order to think they need to know and order to think they need to know and order to step into action. step into action. step into action. >> That's true. >> That's true. >> That's true. >> Right? And so, how does one build that? >> Right? And so, how does one build that? >> Right? And so, how does one build that? Cuz there's a lot of people going, Cuz there's a lot of people going, Cuz there's a lot of people going, "Okay, I got to overcome my fear. I got "Okay, I got to overcome my fear. I got "Okay, I got to overcome my fear. I got to move my physiology. I've got to to move my physiology. I've got to to move my physiology. I've got to anchor the right emotional state in. But anchor the right emotional state in. But anchor the right emotional state in. But man, I'm just ill-prepared." And you may man, I'm just ill-prepared." And you may man, I'm just ill-prepared." And you may be. That may be true. be. That may be true. be. That may be true. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> But you think you have to be so prepared >> But you think you have to be so prepared >> But you think you have to be so prepared that you never move. You never take that you never move. You never take that you never move. You never take action. And now it'll be 2024, action. And now it'll be 2024, action. And now it'll be 2024, and we'll be on another call, and you're and we'll be on another call, and you're and we'll be on another call, and you're going to want to get going again. So, going to want to get going again. So, going to want to get going again. So, how does one build that resourceful, how does one build that resourceful, how does one build that resourceful, aggressive, whatever you want to call aggressive, whatever you want to call aggressive, whatever you want to call it, nature to go when they don't know it, nature to go when they don't know it, nature to go when they don't know everything? everything? everything? >> Well, you've got to first see what's >> Well, you've got to first see what's >> Well, you've got to first see what's preventing it. What's preventing it is preventing it. What's preventing it is preventing it. What's preventing it is everyone has the same two deepest fears. everyone has the same two deepest fears. everyone has the same two deepest fears. All humans. I don't care. I've dealt All humans. I don't care. I've dealt All humans. I don't care. I've dealt with the greatest athletes in the world, with the greatest athletes in the world, with the greatest athletes in the world, multi-millionaires, you know, guys in multi-millionaires, you know, guys in multi-millionaires, you know, guys in prison, you name it, kids. We all are prison, you name it, kids. We all are prison, you name it, kids. We all are afraid we're not enough at some point. afraid we're not enough at some point. afraid we're not enough at some point. If you feel like you're not young If you feel like you're not young If you feel like you're not young enough, strong enough, old enough, enough, strong enough, old enough, enough, strong enough, old enough, mature enough, funny enough, rich mature enough, funny enough, rich mature enough, funny enough, rich enough, something enough for someone who enough, something enough for someone who enough, something enough for someone who you really want to be enough for, it you really want to be enough for, it you really want to be enough for, it brings up an even deeper fear, which is brings up an even deeper fear, which is brings up an even deeper fear, which is if I'm not enough, I won't be loved. And if I'm not enough, I won't be loved. And if I'm not enough, I won't be loved. And love is the oxygen of the soul. You love is the oxygen of the soul. You love is the oxygen of the soul. You know, if a baby is not kinesthetically know, if a baby is not kinesthetically know, if a baby is not kinesthetically loved, it develops what's called failure loved, it develops what's called failure loved, it develops what's called failure to thrive syndrome. We are a unique to thrive syndrome. We are a unique to thrive syndrome. We are a unique species in that love is our competitive species in that love is our competitive species in that love is our competitive advantage. If you're born as a baby and advantage. If you're born as a baby and advantage. If you're born as a baby and there's no mother or father there, there's no mother or father there, there's no mother or father there, you're a lizard, you live. But if you're you're a lizard, you live. But if you're you're a lizard, you live. But if you're A CHILD, YOU DIE. WE NEED EACH OTHER. We A CHILD, YOU DIE. WE NEED EACH OTHER. We A CHILD, YOU DIE. WE NEED EACH OTHER. We have a long dependency on each other. have a long dependency on each other. have a long dependency on each other. You know, you know, some of the longest You know, you know, some of the longest You know, you know, some of the longest animals other than primates are like animals other than primates are like animals other than primates are like whales that are dependent for a year, whales that are dependent for a year, whales that are dependent for a year, but 5 years, 10 years, these years, 35 but 5 years, 10 years, these years, 35 but 5 years, 10 years, these years, 35 years. Some people are still dependent years. Some people are still dependent years. Some people are still dependent right up on their parents to make sure right up on their parents to make sure right up on their parents to make sure things work for them, right? things work for them, right? things work for them, right? >> fear of mine with my kids. >> fear of mine with my kids. >> fear of mine with my kids. >> So, but the but the point is that those >> So, but the but the point is that those >> So, but the but the point is that those that fear that we're not enough is that fear that we're not enough is that fear that we're not enough is what's getting in the way. And you don't what's getting in the way. And you don't what's getting in the way. And you don't get over it, you get beyond it. And the get over it, you get beyond it. And the get over it, you get beyond it. And the way you get beyond it is you just train way you get beyond it is you just train way you get beyond it is you just train yourself. And as you just said, that's yourself. And as you just said, that's yourself. And as you just said, that's why in the seminars, it isn't just the why in the seminars, it isn't just the why in the seminars, it isn't just the content, it's putting you in a state content, it's putting you in a state content, it's putting you in a state where the content can land. And when you where the content can land. And when you where the content can land. And when you put yourself in that state on a regular put yourself in that state on a regular put yourself in that state on a regular basis, those flows happen. Now, you want basis, those flows happen. Now, you want basis, those flows happen. Now, you want daily practices as well. So, you know, daily practices as well. So, you know, daily practices as well. So, you know, every day I've got a variety of daily every day I've got a variety of daily every day I've got a variety of daily practices, but one of those things, I practices, but one of those things, I practices, but one of those things, I jump in freezing cold water every day, I jump in freezing cold water every day, I jump in freezing cold water every day, I think you know. But I don't do it think you know. But I don't do it think you know. But I don't do it because I like it or I want it. There's because I like it or I want it. There's because I like it or I want it. There's never a day I look forward to it. But I never a day I look forward to it. But I never a day I look forward to it. But I don't hesitate. I don't negotiate with don't hesitate. I don't negotiate with don't hesitate. I don't negotiate with myself. It's both physically great cuz myself. It's both physically great cuz myself. It's both physically great cuz it flushes your blood and your lymph it flushes your blood and your lymph it flushes your blood and your lymph system completely. You feel like a system completely. You feel like a system completely. You feel like a million bucks coming out of it. Going in million bucks coming out of it. Going in million bucks coming out of it. Going in it is painful as hell, but it's like I it is painful as hell, but it's like I it is painful as hell, but it's like I don't say in a minute, when I'm ready, don't say in a minute, when I'm ready, don't say in a minute, when I'm ready, or maybe tomorrow. It's like I say go, or maybe tomorrow. It's like I say go, or maybe tomorrow. It's like I say go, we go. So, it's a mental training as we go. So, it's a mental training as we go. So, it's a mental training as well as it's a physical training, right? well as it's a physical training, right? well as it's a physical training, right? And when you do that over and over, and And when you do that over and over, and And when you do that over and over, and then you say I'm going to do this, your then you say I'm going to do this, your then you say I'm going to do this, your brain doesn't negotiate. You've trained brain doesn't negotiate. You've trained brain doesn't negotiate. You've trained your own mind. A lot of people have your own mind. A lot of people have your own mind. A lot of people have these discussions in their own head back these discussions in their own head back these discussions in their own head back and forth, and that's just a habit. All and forth, and that's just a habit. All and forth, and that's just a habit. All these things are patterns. You know, I these things are patterns. You know, I these things are patterns. You know, I get up and I do my priming, which is get up and I do my priming, which is get up and I do my priming, which is putting myself in a state for just 10 putting myself in a state for just 10 putting myself in a state for just 10 minutes, a form of meditation, but it's minutes, a form of meditation, but it's minutes, a form of meditation, but it's a directed meditation. I think of three a directed meditation. I think of three a directed meditation. I think of three things I'm grateful for about a minute things I'm grateful for about a minute things I'm grateful for about a minute each, and I live them. I don't remember each, and I live them. I don't remember each, and I live them. I don't remember it over there. I get in the roller it over there. I get in the roller it over there. I get in the roller coaster as it's going down and feel it. coaster as it's going down and feel it. coaster as it's going down and feel it. And I get associated to what I'm most And I get associated to what I'm most And I get associated to what I'm most grateful for because gratitude destroys grateful for because gratitude destroys grateful for because gratitude destroys the two emotions that mess up your life, the two emotions that mess up your life, the two emotions that mess up your life, which are fear and anger. which are fear and anger. which are fear and anger. You can't be angry and grateful You can't be angry and grateful You can't be angry and grateful simultaneously. simultaneously. simultaneously. You can't be fearful and grateful. So, I You can't be fearful and grateful. So, I You can't be fearful and grateful. So, I train my nervous system every day to train my nervous system every day to train my nervous system every day to start with that. Then I do this form of start with that. Then I do this form of start with that. Then I do this form of a prayer or blessing. Then I do this a prayer or blessing. Then I do this a prayer or blessing. Then I do this three to thrive, which is a minute each three to thrive, which is a minute each three to thrive, which is a minute each on what I really want to make happen, on what I really want to make happen, on what I really want to make happen, but I don't think about making it but I don't think about making it but I don't think about making it happen. I see it as done and complete, happen. I see it as done and complete, happen. I see it as done and complete, and I train my brain to feel celebratory and I train my brain to feel celebratory and I train my brain to feel celebratory in that area. And in 10 minutes, I've in that area. And in 10 minutes, I've in that area. And in 10 minutes, I've changed my body, I've changed my mind, changed my body, I've changed my mind, changed my body, I've changed my mind, and then my third discipline is I and then my third discipline is I and then my third discipline is I usually text or call someone to leave a usually text or call someone to leave a usually text or call someone to leave a message, a sincere acknowledgement, message, a sincere acknowledgement, message, a sincere acknowledgement, because I like to start my day to because I like to start my day to because I like to start my day to brighten somebody else's day. Yeah, but brighten somebody else's day. Yeah, but brighten somebody else's day. Yeah, but I don't ever I don't go, "Oh, I don't ever I don't go, "Oh, I don't ever I don't go, "Oh, you're cool." I'll go, "Listen, I saw you're cool." I'll go, "Listen, I saw you're cool." I'll go, "Listen, I saw last Thursday, you know, in the meeting last Thursday, you know, in the meeting last Thursday, you know, in the meeting you did this and this and this. I just you did this and this and this. I just you did this and this and this. I just thought that was so amazing. I just want thought that was so amazing. I just want thought that was so amazing. I just want to thank you for being that kind of to thank you for being that kind of to thank you for being that kind of person." And so, it starts my day with person." And so, it starts my day with person." And so, it starts my day with momentum. Physical momentum, mental momentum. Physical momentum, mental momentum. Physical momentum, mental momentum, relationship momentum. So, momentum, relationship momentum. So, momentum, relationship momentum. So, there's disciplines like that. Then there's disciplines like that. Then there's disciplines like that. Then there's my workout just like you, right? there's my workout just like you, right? there's my workout just like you, right? You know, you have your workout that You know, you have your workout that You know, you have your workout that >> You look great, by the way. >> You look great, by the way. >> You look great, by the way. >> that pop on and I make sure in that >> that pop on and I make sure in that >> that pop on and I make sure in that workout I do something that's incredibly workout I do something that's incredibly workout I do something that's incredibly difficult, so that I'm always pushing a difficult, so that I'm always pushing a difficult, so that I'm always pushing a little bit stronger, getting a little little bit stronger, getting a little little bit stronger, getting a little bit better in some area. And then what bit better in some area. And then what bit better in some area. And then what that does is it creates a foundation that does is it creates a foundation that does is it creates a foundation that when winter's here, you go, "Give that when winter's here, you go, "Give that when winter's here, you go, "Give me winter, you know, bastard. me winter, you know, bastard. me winter, you know, bastard. I'll rip through this I don't care I'll rip through this I don't care I'll rip through this I don't care what it is you want to do. I'm ready." what it is you want to do. I'm ready." what it is you want to do. I'm ready." But most people, you know, they're But most people, you know, they're But most people, you know, they're living their life in front of a screen, living their life in front of a screen, living their life in front of a screen, a lot of people today. They're living at a lot of people today. They're living at a lot of people today. They're living at home. Right? Their shoulders are down, home. Right? Their shoulders are down, home. Right? Their shoulders are down, they're breathing like this, they get they're breathing like this, they get they're breathing like this, they get distracted by all the things around distracted by all the things around distracted by all the things around them. There's no energy really at a them. There's no energy really at a them. There's no energy really at a vital level. And then so what happened vital level. And then so what happened vital level. And then so what happened there's no stimulus from being at the there's no stimulus from being at the there's no stimulus from being at the office for some people anymore. And so office for some people anymore. And so office for some people anymore. And so what happens is people's lives have gone what happens is people's lives have gone what happens is people's lives have gone down to a low level of energy. down to a low level of energy. down to a low level of energy. If if you forgot everything else that I If if you forgot everything else that I If if you forgot everything else that I teach you skill-wise, financially, teach you skill-wise, financially, teach you skill-wise, financially, emotionally, business, all those tools, emotionally, business, all those tools, emotionally, business, all those tools, but all you did was constantly increase but all you did was constantly increase but all you did was constantly increase the strength and energy in your body as the strength and energy in your body as the strength and energy in your body as a resilient source, you're going to find a resilient source, you're going to find a resilient source, you're going to find the answers, whether I taught them to the answers, whether I taught them to the answers, whether I taught them to you or somebody else. YOU'RE GOING TO you or somebody else. YOU'RE GOING TO you or somebody else. YOU'RE GOING TO MAKE UP THE ANSWERS. MAKE UP THE ANSWERS. MAKE UP THE ANSWERS. >> GUYS, this is a hundred Yeah, I got to >> GUYS, this is a hundred Yeah, I got to >> GUYS, this is a hundred Yeah, I got to sorry to interrupt you, but I have to sorry to interrupt you, but I have to sorry to interrupt you, but I have to say this. It's so say this. It's so say this. It's so This is true, what he's telling you, This is true, what he's telling you, This is true, what he's telling you, okay? Not that you need me to second okay? Not that you need me to second okay? Not that you need me to second something Tony Robbins is saying, but something Tony Robbins is saying, but something Tony Robbins is saying, but he's right. I've lived it. He's a he's right. I've lived it. He's a he's right. I've lived it. He's a thousand percent right. Do the things thousand percent right. Do the things thousand percent right. Do the things we're talking about. These will make we're talking about. These will make we're talking about. These will make changes for you. The other thing he changes for you. The other thing he changes for you. The other thing he added to that that I must say that is added to that that I must say that is added to that that I must say that is brilliance is that when you are feeling brilliance is that when you are feeling brilliance is that when you are feeling helpless, get helpful. Help people. He helpless, get helpful. Help people. He helpless, get helpful. Help people. He You had a video out recently that you You had a video out recently that you You had a video out recently that you recorded you about the feeding the recorded you about the feeding the recorded you about the feeding the families this year. You were so families this year. You were so families this year. You were so emotional. It moved me cuz I know I know emotional. It moved me cuz I know I know emotional. It moved me cuz I know I know how This is the richness of your life is how This is the richness of your life is how This is the richness of your life is helping other people. It's the same in helping other people. It's the same in helping other people. It's the same in mine. And I think people think, "Well, mine. And I think people think, "Well, mine. And I think people think, "Well, once I get over the stuff I need, then once I get over the stuff I need, then once I get over the stuff I need, then I'll do these things." That's what they I'll do these things." That's what they I'll do these things." That's what they think. They think, "Once I get my own think. They think, "Once I get my own think. They think, "Once I get my own stuff handled, then I'll be that stuff handled, then I'll be that stuff handled, then I'll be that person." No, you'll you'll get that person." No, you'll you'll get that person." No, you'll you'll get that stuff handled when you're that person. stuff handled when you're that person. stuff handled when you're that person. And I'm I'm writing I just want to say And I'm I'm writing I just want to say And I'm I'm writing I just want to say one thing about you with that morning one thing about you with that morning one thing about you with that morning message. message. message. Uh the FBI did this study recently. I Uh the FBI did this study recently. I Uh the FBI did this study recently. I know you know about it where they're know you know about it where they're know you know about it where they're talking about the releasing of hostages. talking about the releasing of hostages. talking about the releasing of hostages. Yeah. And how do you get a hostage Yeah. And how do you get a hostage Yeah. And how do you get a hostage release? And is it When someone's taken release? And is it When someone's taken release? And is it When someone's taken a hostage, is it Is it the fact that you a hostage, is it Is it the fact that you a hostage, is it Is it the fact that you meet their demands that actually you get meet their demands that actually you get meet their demands that actually you get the hostages back? Actually, it's about the hostages back? Actually, it's about the hostages back? Actually, it's about the same whether you meet the demand or the same whether you meet the demand or the same whether you meet the demand or you don't. Believe it or not, there's a you don't. Believe it or not, there's a you don't. Believe it or not, there's a 2,000 times greater likelihood of the 2,000 times greater likelihood of the 2,000 times greater likelihood of the hostage being released if the person who hostage being released if the person who hostage being released if the person who took the hostages believes you took the hostages believes you took the hostages believes you understand why they did it. understand why they did it. understand why they did it. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> That they feel seen. And one of the >> That they feel seen. And one of the >> That they feel seen. And one of the things when if If want to be seen as a things when if If want to be seen as a things when if If want to be seen as a person, see other people. I have this person, see other people. I have this person, see other people. I have this thing I do, Tony. I'm writing a book thing I do, Tony. I'm writing a book thing I do, Tony. I'm writing a book about it right now. Let me tell you about it right now. Let me tell you about it right now. Let me tell you about you. I love doing that with about you. I love doing that with about you. I love doing that with friends. Let me tell you about you, but friends. Let me tell you about you, but friends. Let me tell you about you, but something he said, not your awesome or something he said, not your awesome or something he said, not your awesome or your cool or your fun. Something really your cool or your fun. Something really your cool or your fun. Something really true that they go, that is true. I did true that they go, that is true. I did true that they go, that is true. I did do that. I do have that. So, I just want do that. I do have that. So, I just want do that. I do have that. So, I just want to acknowledge the brilliance of what to acknowledge the brilliance of what to acknowledge the brilliance of what he's sharing with all of you. he's sharing with all of you. he's sharing with all of you. >> I'll tell you a I'll tell you a >> I'll tell you a I'll tell you a >> I'll tell you a I'll tell you a two-second story about that. It's two-second story about that. It's two-second story about that. It's interesting. I remember when I was going interesting. I remember when I was going interesting. I remember when I was going to my 10-year high school reunion. When to my 10-year high school reunion. When to my 10-year high school reunion. When I was in school, I was in school, I was in school, I was really a driven kid and I was not I was really a driven kid and I was not I was really a driven kid and I was not popular. I was popular with certain popular. I was popular with certain popular. I was popular with certain girls, more like more friend girls than girls, more like more friend girls than girls, more like more friend girls than anything else. I had like all the anything else. I had like all the anything else. I had like all the cheerleaders on my side. I became cheerleaders on my side. I became cheerleaders on my side. I became student body president, but I ran it student body president, but I ran it student body president, but I ran it like a real thing. I went to all the like a real thing. I went to all the like a real thing. I went to all the different groups and said, what do you different groups and said, what do you different groups and said, what do you want to do? And I went to the principal want to do? And I went to the principal want to do? And I went to the principal and I said, I don't think this will and I said, I don't think this will and I said, I don't think this will work, but I think I can make this work, but I think I can make this work, but I think I can make this happen. So, it taught me that if you're happen. So, it taught me that if you're happen. So, it taught me that if you're sincere, even if you weren't popular, sincere, even if you weren't popular, sincere, even if you weren't popular, that you could have the kind of impact. that you could have the kind of impact. that you could have the kind of impact. it was a real shaping experience for me. it was a real shaping experience for me. it was a real shaping experience for me. And so, but I remember I had some guys And so, but I remember I had some guys And so, but I remember I had some guys specifically that were older than I was specifically that were older than I was specifically that were older than I was that were competitive with me and were that were competitive with me and were that were competitive with me and were really brutal. I was 5'1". They were really brutal. I was 5'1". They were really brutal. I was 5'1". They were like you know, my head nose guard was like you know, my head nose guard was like you know, my head nose guard was 6'6" and he he just would brutalize me. 6'6" and he he just would brutalize me. 6'6" and he he just would brutalize me. Come and pour milk over my head and So, Come and pour milk over my head and So, Come and pour milk over my head and So, now my 10-year high school reunion comes now my 10-year high school reunion comes now my 10-year high school reunion comes up and so, I'm going to be what? 28 up and so, I'm going to be what? 28 up and so, I'm going to be what? 28 years old. You know, I've become pretty years old. You know, I've become pretty years old. You know, I've become pretty successful. I've got books and I'm successful. I've got books and I'm successful. I've got books and I'm having impact around the world. And you having impact around the world. And you having impact around the world. And you know, I've been seen all over the world. know, I've been seen all over the world. know, I've been seen all over the world. So, I'm getting ready to go and I got So, I'm getting ready to go and I got So, I'm getting ready to go and I got kind of I don't know. I got really kind of I don't know. I got really kind of I don't know. I got really uncomfortable. uncomfortable. uncomfortable. And I part of it was I realized like I And I part of it was I realized like I And I part of it was I realized like I don't know if like don't know if like don't know if like I don't know if I even relate to any of I don't know if I even relate to any of I don't know if I even relate to any of these people. I don't know if they'll these people. I don't know if they'll these people. I don't know if they'll even remember me or anything else. And I even remember me or anything else. And I even remember me or anything else. And I remember calling my mom and my mom was remember calling my mom and my mom was remember calling my mom and my mom was an interesting character and rarely did an interesting character and rarely did an interesting character and rarely did she have advice, but she I was talking she have advice, but she I was talking she have advice, but she I was talking to her. I was driving in the car up to her. I was driving in the car up to her. I was driving in the car up there and I always imagine I'd go up there and I always imagine I'd go up there and I always imagine I'd go up there in my limousine and you know, I'd there in my limousine and you know, I'd there in my limousine and you know, I'd have the the three women in my life that have the the three women in my life that have the the three women in my life that would be there or whatever that was, would be there or whatever that was, would be there or whatever that was, [laughter] you know, that was my picture [laughter] you know, that was my picture [laughter] you know, that was my picture as a stupid boy, right? And you know, I as a stupid boy, right? And you know, I as a stupid boy, right? And you know, I had a limousine at that point. It was had a limousine at that point. It was had a limousine at that point. It was funny as hell, but I didn't take it. I funny as hell, but I didn't take it. I funny as hell, but I didn't take it. I took my least expensive car. I drove took my least expensive car. I drove took my least expensive car. I drove myself. And I'm talking to my mom on the myself. And I'm talking to my mom on the myself. And I'm talking to my mom on the phone and I said she goes I said what phone and I said she goes I said what phone and I said she goes I said what are you doing? I said I'm going up to my are you doing? I said I'm going up to my are you doing? I said I'm going up to my 10-year high school reunion. She goes 10-year high school reunion. She goes 10-year high school reunion. She goes wow, she goes you feel funny there's wow, she goes you feel funny there's wow, she goes you feel funny there's something funny about you right now. I something funny about you right now. I something funny about you right now. I said what do you mean funny? She goes said what do you mean funny? She goes said what do you mean funny? She goes I know what it is. You were so different I know what it is. You were so different I know what it is. You were so different in high school. in high school. in high school. And you're thinking about you're not one And you're thinking about you're not one And you're thinking about you're not one of them and you're going up there. She of them and you're going up there. She of them and you're going up there. She was so intuitive. was so intuitive. was so intuitive. And I said well, I guess yeah, I think And I said well, I guess yeah, I think And I said well, I guess yeah, I think you're right. She goes honey, you know, you're right. She goes honey, you know, you're right. She goes honey, you know, one seminar you touch more lives of one seminar you touch more lives of one seminar you touch more lives of people than your entire high school of a people than your entire high school of a people than your entire high school of a couple thousand people. She goes you couple thousand people. She goes you couple thousand people. She goes you know, look what being different got you. know, look what being different got you. know, look what being different got you. And I remember after you hung up the And I remember after you hung up the And I remember after you hung up the phone I realized you know, I'm so phone I realized you know, I'm so phone I realized you know, I'm so focused on well, how will I connect and focused on well, how will I connect and focused on well, how will I connect and all this which I never would all this which I never would all this which I never would think normally because normally I'm think normally because normally I'm think normally because normally I'm thinking about how to give. I'm not like thinking about how to give. I'm not like thinking about how to give. I'm not like how do I receive? And so I I started how do I receive? And so I I started how do I receive? And so I I started thinking I was driving up there about thinking I was driving up there about thinking I was driving up there about the people I might bump into and some of the people I might bump into and some of the people I might bump into and some of them that actually kind of tortured me them that actually kind of tortured me them that actually kind of tortured me at the time and I thought you know, at the time and I thought you know, at the time and I thought you know, I'm going to get fascinated by their I'm going to get fascinated by their I'm going to get fascinated by their lives. I'm not here to talk about mine lives. I'm not here to talk about mine lives. I'm not here to talk about mine or tell them how great it is. I'm not or tell them how great it is. I'm not or tell them how great it is. I'm not going to do that. going to do that. going to do that. >> [clears throat] >> [clears throat] >> [clears throat] >> And I remember you know, you go to your >> And I remember you know, you go to your >> And I remember you know, you go to your high school reunion I don't know if you high school reunion I don't know if you high school reunion I don't know if you ever did this but they have the old ever did this but they have the old ever did this but they have the old picture of you when you're in high picture of you when you're in high picture of you when you're in high school and I had you know, hair down school and I had you know, hair down school and I had you know, hair down beyond my shoulders and you know, beyond my shoulders and you know, beyond my shoulders and you know, [laughter] and I was this little guy and [laughter] and I was this little guy and [laughter] and I was this little guy and so I walk in and I never forget the so I walk in and I never forget the so I walk in and I never forget the first guy that comes up to me. He didn't first guy that comes up to me. He didn't first guy that comes up to me. He didn't recognize who I was and he looks his recognize who I was and he looks his recognize who I was and he looks his eyes were at the level of my chest here eyes were at the level of my chest here eyes were at the level of my chest here where my stomach and he goes where my stomach and he goes where my stomach and he goes Tony? He looks like this. It was the guy Tony? He looks like this. It was the guy Tony? He looks like this. It was the guy that used to torture me, right? It was that used to torture me, right? It was that used to torture me, right? It was the guy. I was kind of hard on you. I the guy. I was kind of hard on you. I the guy. I was kind of hard on you. I was kind of rough and I said you know was kind of rough and I said you know was kind of rough and I said you know what? I deserved I had a I had a really what? I deserved I had a I had a really what? I deserved I had a I had a really bad mouth. I didn't have much respect. bad mouth. I didn't have much respect. bad mouth. I didn't have much respect. And I just tell him about you and I And I just tell him about you and I And I just tell him about you and I SPENT THE WHOLE NIGHT GOING AROUND SPENT THE WHOLE NIGHT GOING AROUND SPENT THE WHOLE NIGHT GOING AROUND TALKING TO PEOPLE ABOUT them nothing TALKING TO PEOPLE ABOUT them nothing TALKING TO PEOPLE ABOUT them nothing about me and I had the best night. about me and I had the best night. about me and I had the best night. Because it's like if you really focus on Because it's like if you really focus on Because it's like if you really focus on others, you disappear. It's like I used others, you disappear. It's like I used others, you disappear. It's like I used to have these long mission statements to have these long mission statements to have these long mission statements and change the earth and all that. Now and change the earth and all that. Now and change the earth and all that. Now my mission statement's really simple. my mission statement's really simple. my mission statement's really simple. How can I help? It's like every day I How can I help? It's like every day I How can I help? It's like every day I get phone calls from people. Somebody's get phone calls from people. Somebody's get phone calls from people. Somebody's got cancer. Somebody's you know, I've got cancer. Somebody's you know, I've got cancer. Somebody's you know, I've done so much in the health area. done so much in the health area. done so much in the health area. Somebody's got something in their Somebody's got something in their Somebody's got something in their business. Somebody knows somebody's got business. Somebody knows somebody's got business. Somebody knows somebody's got a challenge. It's like how can I help? a challenge. It's like how can I help? a challenge. It's like how can I help? And nothing makes me more grateful. So, And nothing makes me more grateful. So, And nothing makes me more grateful. So, I think people, as you grow, you you I think people, as you grow, you you I think people, as you grow, you you know, the hopefully, you know, you and I know, the hopefully, you know, you and I know, the hopefully, you know, you and I are at a stage of life where we can are at a stage of life where we can are at a stage of life where we can mentor people cuz we've been through so mentor people cuz we've been through so mentor people cuz we've been through so much crap. Right? much crap. Right? much crap. Right? You know, you know, overcome so much. You know, you know, overcome so much. You know, you know, overcome so much. And then my hope is that the people that And then my hope is that the people that And then my hope is that the people that listen to you that listen to Ed listen to you that listen to Ed listen to you that listen to Ed personally, I I endorse Ed as a friend personally, I I endorse Ed as a friend personally, I I endorse Ed as a friend because Ed lives this stuff. I mean, because Ed lives this stuff. I mean, because Ed lives this stuff. I mean, there's very few people that live it. there's very few people that live it. there's very few people that live it. You know, that's one of the reasons I You know, that's one of the reasons I You know, that's one of the reasons I love you and respect you. You work out, love you and respect you. You work out, love you and respect you. You work out, you train, you do this stuff. You're not you train, you do this stuff. You're not you train, you do this stuff. You're not somebody just interviewing other people. somebody just interviewing other people. somebody just interviewing other people. You're somebody who lives it. And that You're somebody who lives it. And that You're somebody who lives it. And that unfortunately is rare. But when you find unfortunately is rare. But when you find unfortunately is rare. But when you find those rare people, you want to learn those rare people, you want to learn those rare people, you want to learn from them because we all become like who from them because we all become like who from them because we all become like who we spend time with. And the good thing we spend time with. And the good thing we spend time with. And the good thing about a podcast is you get to spend time about a podcast is you get to spend time about a podcast is you get to spend time with somebody like Ed. I think it's with somebody like Ed. I think it's with somebody like Ed. I think it's fantastic. fantastic. fantastic. >> Everyone listening to this, including >> Everyone listening to this, including >> Everyone listening to this, including you and I, wants to improve our life to you and I, wants to improve our life to you and I, wants to improve our life to some extent. We want to find even other some extent. We want to find even other some extent. We want to find even other level of happiness, another level of level of happiness, another level of level of happiness, another level of bliss, another level of contribution. We bliss, another level of contribution. We bliss, another level of contribution. We want to help more people. That's what want to help more people. That's what want to help more people. That's what everybody wants. But people fall into everybody wants. But people fall into everybody wants. But people fall into patterns. In fact, humans are patterns patterns. In fact, humans are patterns patterns. In fact, humans are patterns to some large extent, right? And that's to some large extent, right? And that's to some large extent, right? And that's another part of this energy piece I want another part of this energy piece I want another part of this energy piece I want you to talk about. But in the terms of you to talk about. But in the terms of you to talk about. But in the terms of humans and their patterns cuz humans and their patterns cuz humans and their patterns cuz I've watched people, they've got a brand I've watched people, they've got a brand I've watched people, they've got a brand new business they're all excited about, new business they're all excited about, new business they're all excited about, but they still run the same thought but they still run the same thought but they still run the same thought patterns, these same energy patterns in patterns, these same energy patterns in patterns, these same energy patterns in their life. Or they're in a new their life. Or they're in a new their life. Or they're in a new relationship. So, there's a new person, relationship. So, there's a new person, relationship. So, there's a new person, but somehow they run a pattern of every but somehow they run a pattern of every but somehow they run a pattern of every relationship they've been with just a relationship they've been with just a relationship they've been with just a new person in the relationship. They new person in the relationship. They new person in the relationship. They don't change the pattern. So, do you don't change the pattern. So, do you don't change the pattern. So, do you notice those things? And is there any notice those things? And is there any notice those things? And is there any advice you can give to somebody on that? advice you can give to somebody on that? advice you can give to somebody on that? >> Every day, every client, every group, >> Every day, every client, every group, >> Every day, every client, every group, every Zoom, everything I'm doing, every Zoom, everything I'm doing, every Zoom, everything I'm doing, >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> it's to get people to recognize what are >> it's to get people to recognize what are >> it's to get people to recognize what are those patterns. And I'll say to them, those patterns. And I'll say to them, those patterns. And I'll say to them, you know, you're coming to me right now you know, you're coming to me right now you know, you're coming to me right now because you want to fix your grief. because you want to fix your grief. because you want to fix your grief. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> I can't fix your grief. >> I can't fix your grief. >> I can't fix your grief. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> I go, I could raise your awareness. I >> I go, I could raise your awareness. I >> I go, I could raise your awareness. I go, here's the difference. go, here's the difference. go, here's the difference. You need to plug your phone into the You need to plug your phone into the You need to plug your phone into the outlet to charge it. outlet to charge it. outlet to charge it. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> You want to plug into me. I go, I'm I'm >> You want to plug into me. I go, I'm I'm >> You want to plug into me. I go, I'm I'm just an anchor anchor block. You know just an anchor anchor block. You know just an anchor anchor block. You know what I'm saying? I can give you a little what I'm saying? I can give you a little what I'm saying? I can give you a little bit of a of a of a boost right now. bit of a of a of a boost right now. bit of a of a of a boost right now. >> I go, but when you go back to not being >> I go, but when you go back to not being >> I go, but when you go back to not being around me, your phone's going to be around me, your phone's going to be around me, your phone's going to be almost dead again. I said, so you need almost dead again. I said, so you need almost dead again. I said, so you need to figure out how to recharge your own to figure out how to recharge your own to figure out how to recharge your own phone, right? And you got to charge your phone, right? And you got to charge your phone, right? And you got to charge your own phone in your own way, not in my own phone in your own way, not in my own phone in your own way, not in my way. I can share with you what works for way. I can share with you what works for way. I can share with you what works for me, me, me, but that's the that's like the but that's the that's like the but that's the that's like the equivalent of somebody like, you know, equivalent of somebody like, you know, equivalent of somebody like, you know, hiring a nutritionist and getting a gym hiring a nutritionist and getting a gym hiring a nutritionist and getting a gym membership and doing nothing with either membership and doing nothing with either membership and doing nothing with either one of them and going, one of them and going, one of them and going, I'm fat. Like, I can't lose any weight, I'm fat. Like, I can't lose any weight, I'm fat. Like, I can't lose any weight, you know? And like that that that is the you know? And like that that that is the you know? And like that that that is the like if you ever come to me, like that's like if you ever come to me, like that's like if you ever come to me, like that's the place not to go cuz I'm brutal. the place not to go cuz I'm brutal. the place not to go cuz I'm brutal. But people like, you know, am I ever But people like, you know, am I ever But people like, you know, am I ever going to lose weight? Drop the fork, going to lose weight? Drop the fork, going to lose weight? Drop the fork, join a gym, like do a diet, like don't join a gym, like do a diet, like don't join a gym, like do a diet, like don't ask me questions like that. So, from a ask me questions like that. So, from a ask me questions like that. So, from a from a pattern standpoint, you can get from a pattern standpoint, you can get from a pattern standpoint, you can get you can get physical fitness and weight. you can get physical fitness and weight. you can get physical fitness and weight. You can understand if you don't make You can understand if you don't make You can understand if you don't make changes, you don't see results. So, this changes, you don't see results. So, this changes, you don't see results. So, this is energetic fitness. If you don't make is energetic fitness. If you don't make is energetic fitness. If you don't make changes, you won't see results. You're changes, you won't see results. You're changes, you won't see results. You're going to see the same thing. And oh my going to see the same thing. And oh my going to see the same thing. And oh my god, with the excuses that people make. god, with the excuses that people make. god, with the excuses that people make. So, if they come to a person like So, if they come to a person like So, if they come to a person like yourself or they work with a life coach yourself or they work with a life coach yourself or they work with a life coach or if they go for a reading and you see or if they go for a reading and you see or if they go for a reading and you see the potential of opportunities where the potential of opportunities where the potential of opportunities where they can make changes and then they give they can make changes and then they give they can make changes and then they give you all the reasons why that can't you all the reasons why that can't you all the reasons why that can't happen, happen, happen, then why are we talking? then why are we talking? then why are we talking? It's like you got to be willing to make It's like you got to be willing to make It's like you got to be willing to make the changes. You're not going to the changes. You're not going to the changes. You're not going to negotiate with malignancy. You're going negotiate with malignancy. You're going negotiate with malignancy. You're going to cut it out, right? to cut it out, right? to cut it out, right? So, it's like, okay, are we going to So, it's like, okay, are we going to So, it's like, okay, are we going to like, you know, talk to our cancer? like, you know, talk to our cancer? like, you know, talk to our cancer? Or are we going to get rid of it and Or are we going to get rid of it and Or are we going to get rid of it and treat it? So, you got to figure out treat it? So, you got to figure out treat it? So, you got to figure out what's the toxicity in you. what's the toxicity in you. what's the toxicity in you. So, again, real world example. I like to So, again, real world example. I like to So, again, real world example. I like to work with both medical doctors as well work with both medical doctors as well work with both medical doctors as well as holistic approaches. So, one of my as holistic approaches. So, one of my as holistic approaches. So, one of my doctors has a holistic approach and he doctors has a holistic approach and he doctors has a holistic approach and he said to me, I noticed that you have a said to me, I noticed that you have a said to me, I noticed that you have a lot of fillings. And I go, I do. lot of fillings. And I go, I do. lot of fillings. And I go, I do. So, he goes, we need to get rid of some So, he goes, we need to get rid of some So, he goes, we need to get rid of some of the mercury. of the mercury. of the mercury. Great, no problem. So, you gave me a Great, no problem. So, you gave me a Great, no problem. So, you gave me a directive. I'm going to go do it. So, I directive. I'm going to go do it. So, I directive. I'm going to go do it. So, I talked to my dentist. I don't have a lot talked to my dentist. I don't have a lot talked to my dentist. I don't have a lot of time in schedule. of time in schedule. of time in schedule. I might have made the mistake of doing I might have made the mistake of doing I might have made the mistake of doing it all in one sitting. it all in one sitting. it all in one sitting. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> A six and a half hour day >> A six and a half hour day >> A six and a half hour day >> Oh my gosh. >> Oh my gosh. >> Oh my gosh. >> All of it was done, dental dam, did the >> All of it was done, dental dam, did the >> All of it was done, dental dam, did the whole thing. Go back to my doctor and he whole thing. Go back to my doctor and he whole thing. Go back to my doctor and he notices and he says, notices and he says, notices and he says, "Oh, wow." He goes, "Oh, wow." He goes, "Oh, wow." He goes, "How how often did you go?" And I go, "How how often did you go?" And I go, "How how often did you go?" And I go, "Doc, I did it in one day." "Doc, I did it in one day." "Doc, I did it in one day." He goes, "Sit down." And I go, "What?" He goes, "Sit down." And I go, "What?" He goes, "Sit down." And I go, "What?" He goes, "We're doing a mercury test on He goes, "We're doing a mercury test on He goes, "We're doing a mercury test on you." you." you." I scored the highest level of mercury I scored the highest level of mercury I scored the highest level of mercury that he's ever seen [laughter] in his that he's ever seen [laughter] in his that he's ever seen [laughter] in his entire career. entire career. entire career. And he goes, "Now we're going to do a And he goes, "Now we're going to do a And he goes, "Now we're going to do a chelation treatment." I'm like, "Okay. chelation treatment." I'm like, "Okay. chelation treatment." I'm like, "Okay. What does that mean?" He goes, "It means What does that mean?" He goes, "It means What does that mean?" He goes, "It means that we're going to be sitting here and that we're going to be sitting here and that we're going to be sitting here and we're going to do a chelation We have to we're going to do a chelation We have to we're going to do a chelation We have to pull the mercury out of your system as pull the mercury out of your system as pull the mercury out of your system as best." So, I had like two or three best." So, I had like two or three best." So, I had like two or three chelation treatments over a period of chelation treatments over a period of chelation treatments over a period of time time time to be able to get rid of the mercury. to be able to get rid of the mercury. to be able to get rid of the mercury. So, now So, now So, now I laughed and said, "Okay, I laughed and said, "Okay, I laughed and said, "Okay, I'm psychic. Should I have known that?" I'm psychic. Should I have known that?" I'm psychic. Should I have known that?" No. No, I should not have known that. No. No, I should not have known that. No. No, I should not have known that. Should I have done my research to know Should I have done my research to know Should I have done my research to know that? Yes, but what I did was I looked that? Yes, but what I did was I looked that? Yes, but what I did was I looked at my schedule and said, "Oh my god, I at my schedule and said, "Oh my god, I at my schedule and said, "Oh my god, I can get it all done right here, right can get it all done right here, right can get it all done right here, right now. And let me get it out of the way." now. And let me get it out of the way." now. And let me get it out of the way." Not always the best idea. Sometimes you Not always the best idea. Sometimes you Not always the best idea. Sometimes you need to do things and and and it's got need to do things and and and it's got need to do things and and and it's got You have to be able to And I should have You have to be able to And I should have You have to be able to And I should have known better, honestly, cuz I use an known better, honestly, cuz I use an known better, honestly, cuz I use an analogy. I say, "You can't frost the analogy. I say, "You can't frost the analogy. I say, "You can't frost the cake until it's baked." And right now we cake until it's baked." And right now we cake until it's baked." And right now we have the ingredients sitting on the have the ingredients sitting on the have the ingredients sitting on the counter and you can't talk about the counter and you can't talk about the counter and you can't talk about the frosting. So, I frosted the cake before frosting. So, I frosted the cake before frosting. So, I frosted the cake before it was baked. it was baked. it was baked. >> It's so interesting to me. >> It's so interesting to me. >> It's so interesting to me. >> for it. So, >> for it. So, >> for it. So, >> You see, you talk about the IFS therapy >> You see, you talk about the IFS therapy >> You see, you talk about the IFS therapy in the book. There's so many things like in the book. There's so many things like in the book. There's so many things like this, too, but you touched on this this, too, but you touched on this this, too, but you touched on this trigger thing and then your pattern. So, trigger thing and then your pattern. So, trigger thing and then your pattern. So, let's talk let's talk a little bit about let's talk let's talk a little bit about let's talk let's talk a little bit about triggers and patterns cuz I think even triggers and patterns cuz I think even triggers and patterns cuz I think even that terminology may be new to most that terminology may be new to most that terminology may be new to most people. Right? People that have been in people. Right? People that have been in people. Right? People that have been in therapy are probably familiar with that therapy are probably familiar with that therapy are probably familiar with that or even if they know how to They read or even if they know how to They read or even if they know how to They read some of my stuff on changing their state some of my stuff on changing their state some of my stuff on changing their state and being a peak performer, they know and being a peak performer, they know and being a peak performer, they know how to create a trigger and patterns. how to create a trigger and patterns. how to create a trigger and patterns. But do you feel like So, discuss that But do you feel like So, discuss that But do you feel like So, discuss that for a second. But do you feel like also for a second. But do you feel like also for a second. But do you feel like also like just being aware of the pattern like just being aware of the pattern like just being aware of the pattern like what you just said, like, "All like what you just said, like, "All like what you just said, like, "All right, I'm doing it again." That to some right, I'm doing it again." That to some right, I'm doing it again." That to some extent the awareness of the pattern can extent the awareness of the pattern can extent the awareness of the pattern can help it lose its power and grip over help it lose its power and grip over help it lose its power and grip over you? you? you? >> Absolutely. And actually, that's >> Absolutely. And actually, that's >> Absolutely. And actually, that's actually one of the first That is the actually one of the first That is the actually one of the first That is the first exercise in the book, which is first exercise in the book, which is first exercise in the book, which is really about witnessing your triggers, really about witnessing your triggers, really about witnessing your triggers, how do you feel, and then what are you how do you feel, and then what are you how do you feel, and then what are you doing to run from them. doing to run from them. doing to run from them. What that's doing is in IFS language, What that's doing is in IFS language, What that's doing is in IFS language, internal family systems therapy. internal family systems therapy. internal family systems therapy. It's nothing to do with family therapy, It's nothing to do with family therapy, It's nothing to do with family therapy, although it kind of comes from that core although it kind of comes from that core although it kind of comes from that core core model, but it is based on your core model, but it is based on your core model, but it is based on your inner family. inner family. inner family. Inside of us, we have multiple different Inside of us, we have multiple different Inside of us, we have multiple different parts. parts. parts. So, we have these child parts, the So, we have these child parts, the So, we have these child parts, the little boy Ed whose dad was an alcoholic little boy Ed whose dad was an alcoholic little boy Ed whose dad was an alcoholic and and and wasn't telling the truth and you know, wasn't telling the truth and you know, wasn't telling the truth and you know, whatever the the storyline is. Those whatever the the storyline is. Those whatever the the storyline is. Those little exiled parts, little boy, he's little exiled parts, little boy, he's little exiled parts, little boy, he's locked up. He's like under lock and key. locked up. He's like under lock and key. locked up. He's like under lock and key. You know he's there, but he's like real You know he's there, but he's like real You know he's there, but he's like real down there in the dungeon. You know, down there in the dungeon. You know, down there in the dungeon. You know, we're not talking to him, lock him up. we're not talking to him, lock him up. we're not talking to him, lock him up. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And then we've got all these protector >> And then we've got all these protector >> And then we've got all these protector parts. parts. parts. I'll speak for my own, right? I've got I'll speak for my own, right? I've got I'll speak for my own, right? I've got my little girl, she's locked up and the my little girl, she's locked up and the my little girl, she's locked up and the little girl that was abused, she's little girl that was abused, she's little girl that was abused, she's locked up. But my protector parts are locked up. But my protector parts are locked up. But my protector parts are the controller, the controller, the controller, the cocaine addict, right? Even though the cocaine addict, right? Even though the cocaine addict, right? Even though I'm in recovery, that addict part is I'm in recovery, that addict part is I'm in recovery, that addict part is present. Uh the the out knives out is present. Uh the the out knives out is present. Uh the the out knives out is one that I call. The the outraged part one that I call. The the outraged part one that I call. The the outraged part of me that wants to be like, you mess of me that wants to be like, you mess of me that wants to be like, you mess with me, you mess with that girl, like I with me, you mess with that girl, like I with me, you mess with that girl, like I am going to come after you. And so all am going to come after you. And so all am going to come after you. And so all these parts are very extreme and they're these parts are very extreme and they're these parts are very extreme and they're very protective. And often you might very protective. And often you might very protective. And often you might consider them bad habits. You might be consider them bad habits. You might be consider them bad habits. You might be looking at it and say, oh, that's my my, looking at it and say, oh, that's my my, looking at it and say, oh, that's my my, you know, my the the the the part of me you know, my the the the the part of me you know, my the the the the part of me that's that wants to go pick up a drink that's that wants to go pick up a drink that's that wants to go pick up a drink because I can't feel that or the part of because I can't feel that or the part of because I can't feel that or the part of me that just wants to zone out and me that just wants to zone out and me that just wants to zone out and freeze because I can't handle this. freeze because I can't handle this. freeze because I can't handle this. You know, [clears throat] so we have all You know, [clears throat] so we have all You know, [clears throat] so we have all these different protection protective these different protection protective these different protection protective mechanisms, but they're really in IFS mechanisms, but they're really in IFS mechanisms, but they're really in IFS called protective protector parts. called protective protector parts. called protective protector parts. The they're not bad. These parts are The they're not bad. These parts are The they're not bad. These parts are very valuable. They have had a very very valuable. They have had a very very valuable. They have had a very important role in our inner system and important role in our inner system and important role in our inner system and the role is to keep us safe from the the role is to keep us safe from the the role is to keep us safe from the extreme terror, shame, extreme terror, shame, extreme terror, shame, and fear of these exiled child parts. and fear of these exiled child parts. and fear of these exiled child parts. >> Gosh, Gabby, so good. So, can I ask you >> Gosh, Gabby, so good. So, can I ask you >> Gosh, Gabby, so good. So, can I ask you about that? So, like about that? So, like about that? So, like when you're looking at yourself, when you're looking at yourself, when you're looking at yourself, everybody, one of the things that I everybody, one of the things that I everybody, one of the things that I discovered in Gabby's book and it like discovered in Gabby's book and it like discovered in Gabby's book and it like I'm reading the book and it's pretty I'm reading the book and it's pretty I'm reading the book and it's pretty emotional for me cuz emotional for me cuz emotional for me cuz you know, the sort of trauma I've had in you know, the sort of trauma I've had in you know, the sort of trauma I've had in my life my life my life maybe there were parts of it that were maybe there were parts of it that were maybe there were parts of it that were very different than how I thought they very different than how I thought they very different than how I thought they affected me. Like I give you one crazy affected me. Like I give you one crazy affected me. Like I give you one crazy trigger stupid example with me for trigger stupid example with me for trigger stupid example with me for everybody in here. When I go on the road everybody in here. When I go on the road everybody in here. When I go on the road and I'm traveling and I'm speaking and and I'm traveling and I'm speaking and and I'm traveling and I'm speaking and stuff I often get room service stuff I often get room service stuff I often get room service and I'll eat in. And it's just really and I'll eat in. And it's just really and I'll eat in. And it's just really weird. I've said this for like 20 years weird. I've said this for like 20 years weird. I've said this for like 20 years on shows and stuff. I'm like I'm just on shows and stuff. I'm like I'm just on shows and stuff. I'm like I'm just introverted so I kind of hide out in the introverted so I kind of hide out in the introverted so I kind of hide out in the room. And then I realized something as room. And then I realized something as room. And then I realized something as I'm reading your book I sort of had this I'm reading your book I sort of had this I'm reading your book I sort of had this flash of like all the restaurants we flash of like all the restaurants we flash of like all the restaurants we would go in when I was a kid if my dad would go in when I was a kid if my dad would go in when I was a kid if my dad was drunk. was drunk. was drunk. And the confrontations that would happen And the confrontations that would happen And the confrontations that would happen in there and the shame and embarrassment in there and the shame and embarrassment in there and the shame and embarrassment of my dad yelling at a waiter or of my dad yelling at a waiter or of my dad yelling at a waiter or whatever in these restaurants in public whatever in these restaurants in public whatever in these restaurants in public restaurants. And I just like I got restaurants. And I just like I got restaurants. And I just like I got emotional reading the book. I'm like, emotional reading the book. I'm like, emotional reading the book. I'm like, "Oh my gosh. That's why the restaurants "Oh my gosh. That's why the restaurants "Oh my gosh. That's why the restaurants are trigger for me. I don't want to go are trigger for me. I don't want to go are trigger for me. I don't want to go in these places I've had multiple in these places I've had multiple in these places I've had multiple experiences in restaurants like this in experiences in restaurants like this in experiences in restaurants like this in public places where we were completely public places where we were completely public places where we were completely shamed as a family and I was ashamed of shamed as a family and I was ashamed of shamed as a family and I was ashamed of it. And so I've realized these little it. And so I've realized these little it. And so I've realized these little tiny things about me that for everybody tiny things about me that for everybody tiny things about me that for everybody listening this like think about what listening this like think about what listening this like think about what what does trigger you. You know, for me what does trigger you. You know, for me what does trigger you. You know, for me the reason I think I'm such a big the reason I think I'm such a big the reason I think I'm such a big communicator is I would talk to my dad communicator is I would talk to my dad communicator is I would talk to my dad and he would be not there like literally and he would be not there like literally and he would be not there like literally sitting there in the room so gone with sitting there in the room so gone with sitting there in the room so gone with alcohol in his system. And my dad got alcohol in his system. And my dad got alcohol in his system. And my dad got sober it's a great story but but those sober it's a great story but but those sober it's a great story but but those days like, "Are you hearing me dad?" And days like, "Are you hearing me dad?" And days like, "Are you hearing me dad?" And then I have to work on being a better then I have to work on being a better then I have to work on being a better communicator just to get him to hear me. communicator just to get him to hear me. communicator just to get him to hear me. So many of you have all of these So many of you have all of these So many of you have all of these patterns and triggers in your life that patterns and triggers in your life that patterns and triggers in your life that if you just become aware like I'm doing if you just become aware like I'm doing if you just become aware like I'm doing it again, where's this come from? You it again, where's this come from? You it again, where's this come from? You can sort of start to unlock sort of the can sort of start to unlock sort of the can sort of start to unlock sort of the code of you. Why does it matter? And code of you. Why does it matter? And code of you. Why does it matter? And then I want to ask you a question Gabby. then I want to ask you a question Gabby. then I want to ask you a question Gabby. Cuz this is what life's about everyone. Cuz this is what life's about everyone. Cuz this is what life's about everyone. There's two things in life. It's There's two things in life. It's There's two things in life. It's understanding more about ourselves and understanding more about ourselves and understanding more about ourselves and hopefully understanding more about the hopefully understanding more about the hopefully understanding more about the spiritual parts of our lives of where spiritual parts of our lives of where spiritual parts of our lives of where we're going. That's why this show today we're going. That's why this show today we're going. That's why this show today is so meaningful to me for all of you is so meaningful to me for all of you is so meaningful to me for all of you cuz as you're hearing Gabby tell her cuz as you're hearing Gabby tell her cuz as you're hearing Gabby tell her story I want you thinking about your story I want you thinking about your story I want you thinking about your story and your awareness of who you are story and your awareness of who you are story and your awareness of who you are and why you operate the way you do. The and why you operate the way you do. The and why you operate the way you do. The name of today's show, name of today's show, name of today's show, what I want you to write down, I think what I want you to write down, I think what I want you to write down, I think this will just you know, potentially this will just you know, potentially this will just you know, potentially really serve you is that this. Write really serve you is that this. Write really serve you is that this. Write this down. Success requires no this down. Success requires no this down. Success requires no apologies, failure permits no alibis. apologies, failure permits no alibis. apologies, failure permits no alibis. Success requires no apologies, failure Success requires no apologies, failure Success requires no apologies, failure permits no alibis. Where did I get that permits no alibis. Where did I get that permits no alibis. Where did I get that from? It's not mine. It's actually out from? It's not mine. It's actually out from? It's not mine. It's actually out of the book Think and Grow Rich that I of the book Think and Grow Rich that I of the book Think and Grow Rich that I just referenced earlier. One of the just referenced earlier. One of the just referenced earlier. One of the original versions I'm holding up my dear original versions I'm holding up my dear original versions I'm holding up my dear friend Robin Sharma sent to me. And so friend Robin Sharma sent to me. And so friend Robin Sharma sent to me. And so that is not my quote. I can't stand when that is not my quote. I can't stand when that is not my quote. I can't stand when people use my content and quotes and people use my content and quotes and people use my content and quotes and don't give me credit. That's not my don't give me credit. That's not my don't give me credit. That's not my quote. That's out of Think and Grow quote. That's out of Think and Grow quote. That's out of Think and Grow Rich. But the theme of today is that Rich. But the theme of today is that Rich. But the theme of today is that listen, success requires no apologies listen, success requires no apologies listen, success requires no apologies and failure permits no alibis. We can't and failure permits no alibis. We can't and failure permits no alibis. We can't be making alibis. And so how do we be making alibis. And so how do we be making alibis. And so how do we create change in our life? How do we How create change in our life? How do we How create change in our life? How do we How do we make moves through this difficult do we make moves through this difficult do we make moves through this difficult times? Cuz no matter what time you're times? Cuz no matter what time you're times? Cuz no matter what time you're listening to this, it'll be trying. listening to this, it'll be trying. listening to this, it'll be trying. There's always things to overcome. There's always things to overcome. There's always things to overcome. That's what life's about. One of the That's what life's about. One of the That's what life's about. One of the things in Think and Grow Rich that I things in Think and Grow Rich that I things in Think and Grow Rich that I love is in the book. This is so profound love is in the book. This is so profound love is in the book. This is so profound and I hope this gives you hope that in and I hope this gives you hope that in and I hope this gives you hope that in the book he talks about going through the book he talks about going through the book he talks about going through adversity, going through trials and adversity, going through trials and adversity, going through trials and tribulations. tribulations. tribulations. And he ends up saying in the book that And he ends up saying in the book that And he ends up saying in the book that if you can get to the other side of if you can get to the other side of if you can get to the other side of these trials, if you don't quit, that these trials, if you don't quit, that these trials, if you don't quit, that you get introduced to your other self. you get introduced to your other self. you get introduced to your other self. Your other self. And so what if it is Your other self. And so what if it is Your other self. And so what if it is that all of the tragedies, trials, that all of the tragedies, trials, that all of the tragedies, trials, tribulations, difficulties in our lives tribulations, difficulties in our lives tribulations, difficulties in our lives are all set up there so that on the are all set up there so that on the are all set up there so that on the other side of it there's another version other side of it there's another version other side of it there's another version of us. On the other side of it we get of us. On the other side of it we get of us. On the other side of it we get introduced to our other self. introduced to our other self. introduced to our other self. I'm [snorts] I'm [snorts] I'm [snorts] 51 years old when this comes out and I 51 years old when this comes out and I 51 years old when this comes out and I must tell you must tell you must tell you that I've been introduced to many that I've been introduced to many that I've been introduced to many different versions of me and the only different versions of me and the only different versions of me and the only way I got to those versions of me was to way I got to those versions of me was to way I got to those versions of me was to have to go through something difficult have to go through something difficult have to go through something difficult that tried me, that pushed me, that that tried me, that pushed me, that that tried me, that pushed me, that caused me to question myself, doubt caused me to question myself, doubt caused me to question myself, doubt myself, almost give in, almost resist. myself, almost give in, almost resist. myself, almost give in, almost resist. If you think about it for you, If you think about it for you, If you think about it for you, the things you have achieved in your the things you have achieved in your the things you have achieved in your life, where you are today, this version life, where you are today, this version life, where you are today, this version of you has been put together, has been of you has been put together, has been of you has been put together, has been developed, has been created because of developed, has been created because of developed, has been created because of the things you learned, the things you the things you learned, the things you the things you learned, the things you went through, the lessons you gained went through, the lessons you gained went through, the lessons you gained through difficult times. So when you're through difficult times. So when you're through difficult times. So when you're hitting these difficult times, just hitting these difficult times, just hitting these difficult times, just remember on the other side of this time, remember on the other side of this time, remember on the other side of this time, whatever it is for you, whatever it is for you, whatever it is for you, is your other self. is your other self. is your other self. How beautiful is that? And when you step How beautiful is that? And when you step How beautiful is that? And when you step back and look at one's entire life, even back and look at one's entire life, even back and look at one's entire life, even if you have children, and you all were a if you have children, and you all were a if you have children, and you all were a child at one point, think about the child at one point, think about the child at one point, think about the difficult things and you got introduced difficult things and you got introduced difficult things and you got introduced to that other version of you. I remember to that other version of you. I remember to that other version of you. I remember going to high school, so scared. There going to high school, so scared. There going to high school, so scared. There was this whole thing when I was going to was this whole thing when I was going to was this whole thing when I was going to high school, they would put the freshman high school, they would put the freshman high school, they would put the freshman in trash cans, you know, and I didn't in trash cans, you know, and I didn't in trash cans, you know, and I didn't know anybody, and you know, was anybody know anybody, and you know, was anybody know anybody, and you know, was anybody going to like me? But the person who going to like me? But the person who going to like me? But the person who walked in my freshman year of high walked in my freshman year of high walked in my freshman year of high school, I think you'll agree, a totally school, I think you'll agree, a totally school, I think you'll agree, a totally different person walked out my senior different person walked out my senior different person walked out my senior year. year. year. I got introduced to my other self. And I got introduced to my other self. And I got introduced to my other self. And then when I started my business journey, then when I started my business journey, then when I started my business journey, you know, there's one guy that started, you know, there's one guy that started, you know, there's one guy that started, and then after the first trial and and then after the first trial and and then after the first trial and tribulation I pushed through, I got tribulation I pushed through, I got tribulation I pushed through, I got introduced to another self of me, and introduced to another self of me, and introduced to another self of me, and then another self, and then another then another self, and then another then another self, and then another self, and then another self. In self, and then another self. In self, and then another self. In relationships, you've been introduced to relationships, you've been introduced to relationships, you've been introduced to other selves of you once you've gotten other selves of you once you've gotten other selves of you once you've gotten through them or learned from them. And through them or learned from them. And through them or learned from them. And so, what you're going through right now, so, what you're going through right now, so, what you're going through right now, the beauty of it is, it's preparing this the beauty of it is, it's preparing this the beauty of it is, it's preparing this other self, this better version of you. other self, this better version of you. other self, this better version of you. And you got to remind yourself of this And you got to remind yourself of this And you got to remind yourself of this because it's so easy not to want to because it's so easy not to want to because it's so easy not to want to outlast the temporary. I did a big long outlast the temporary. I did a big long outlast the temporary. I did a big long coaching call with Arête Syndicate on coaching call with Arête Syndicate on coaching call with Arête Syndicate on this. I'm not going to get into what I this. I'm not going to get into what I this. I'm not going to get into what I covered there. I'm going to cover covered there. I'm going to cover covered there. I'm going to cover different things today. different things today. different things today. But I just want you to think about this But I just want you to think about this But I just want you to think about this for a second. Without it, for a second. Without it, for a second. Without it, it's just you all the way through life. it's just you all the way through life. it's just you all the way through life. There's no change. There's no growth. There's no change. There's no growth. There's no change. There's no growth. And so, this trial, this thing that And so, this trial, this thing that And so, this trial, this thing that you're going through, or maybe just this you're going through, or maybe just this you're going through, or maybe just this thing you're trying to accomplish, maybe thing you're trying to accomplish, maybe thing you're trying to accomplish, maybe it doesn't even feel trying, maybe it doesn't even feel trying, maybe it doesn't even feel trying, maybe you're just trying to accomplish you're just trying to accomplish you're just trying to accomplish something that's difficult, right? The something that's difficult, right? The something that's difficult, right? The other self is on the other side of that. other self is on the other side of that. other self is on the other side of that. And I just want to tell you, chase that And I just want to tell you, chase that And I just want to tell you, chase that version of you. Chase that person. version of you. Chase that person. version of you. Chase that person. Embrace it. And when you see this Embrace it. And when you see this Embrace it. And when you see this adversity coming at you, right? See it adversity coming at you, right? See it adversity coming at you, right? See it for what it really is. for what it really is. for what it really is. It's this introduction to the new you It's this introduction to the new you It's this introduction to the new you waiting for you on the other side of it. waiting for you on the other side of it. waiting for you on the other side of it. I love one of the things I'm going to I love one of the things I'm going to I love one of the things I'm going to read to you out of Napoleon Hill's book read to you out of Napoleon Hill's book read to you out of Napoleon Hill's book a little bit right here. a little bit right here. a little bit right here. But he says, uh, and again, a lot of But he says, uh, and again, a lot of But he says, uh, and again, a lot of this stuff was written for, you know, this stuff was written for, you know, this stuff was written for, you know, back in the day where we he would say back in the day where we he would say back in the day where we he would say men instead of people, but men instead of people, but men instead of people, but he says, uh, "If the first plan which he says, uh, "If the first plan which he says, uh, "If the first plan which you adopt does not work successfully, you adopt does not work successfully, you adopt does not work successfully, replace it with a new plan. If this plan replace it with a new plan. If this plan replace it with a new plan. If this plan fails to work, replace it and in turn fails to work, replace it and in turn fails to work, replace it and in turn with it another and so on until you find with it another and so on until you find with it another and so on until you find a plan which does work. Right here is at a plan which does work. Right here is at a plan which does work. Right here is at the point at which the majority of men, the point at which the majority of men, the point at which the majority of men, people, meet with failure because of people, meet with failure because of people, meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating their lack of persistence in creating their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of the old new plans to take the place of the old new plans to take the place of the old ones with faith which fail. ones with faith which fail. ones with faith which fail. The most intelligent man living cannot The most intelligent man living cannot The most intelligent man living cannot succeed in accumulating money nor to any succeed in accumulating money nor to any succeed in accumulating money nor to any other undertaking without plans which other undertaking without plans which other undertaking without plans which are practical and workable. And his are practical and workable. And his are practical and workable. And his point in the chapter was this is where point in the chapter was this is where point in the chapter was this is where most people quit. This is where most most people quit. This is where most most people quit. This is where most people give in. They surrender at the people give in. They surrender at the people give in. They surrender at the sign of adversity rather than pivot, sign of adversity rather than pivot, sign of adversity rather than pivot, rather than innovate, rather than create rather than innovate, rather than create rather than innovate, rather than create a new plan, they give in. And what costs a new plan, they give in. And what costs a new plan, they give in. And what costs you when you give in is you rob the you when you give in is you rob the you when you give in is you rob the world and you of this other self. world and you of this other self. world and you of this other self. Those are my words, not him in this Those are my words, not him in this Those are my words, not him in this case. But that's what gets robbed. And case. But that's what gets robbed. And case. But that's what gets robbed. And quitting becomes a habit. It's habitual. quitting becomes a habit. It's habitual. quitting becomes a habit. It's habitual. When you quit on one thing, you'll quit When you quit on one thing, you'll quit When you quit on one thing, you'll quit on other things. And so finish, adopt, on other things. And so finish, adopt, on other things. And so finish, adopt, adapt all the time in your life. I want adapt all the time in your life. I want adapt all the time in your life. I want to share something with you. to share something with you. to share something with you. Why do we Why do we Why do we get so worked up? get so worked up? get so worked up? Why do we Why do we Why do we Let me share something with you. Let me share something with you. Let me share something with you. You have emotions that you're familiar You have emotions that you're familiar You have emotions that you're familiar with. with. with. Okay? And some of these emotions serve Okay? And some of these emotions serve Okay? And some of these emotions serve you and some of them don't serve you. you and some of them don't serve you. you and some of them don't serve you. It's called your emotional home is what It's called your emotional home is what It's called your emotional home is what I call it. I call it. I call it. And often times in our lives, we will And often times in our lives, we will And often times in our lives, we will find a way to get that emotion we're find a way to get that emotion we're find a way to get that emotion we're addicted to. addicted to. addicted to. Our heart and our emotions move towards Our heart and our emotions move towards Our heart and our emotions move towards what we are most familiar with. I'm what we are most familiar with. I'm what we are most familiar with. I'm going to cover this in two places today going to cover this in two places today going to cover this in two places today for you. And I hope that this is one of for you. And I hope that this is one of for you. And I hope that this is one of these life-changing shows you're like, these life-changing shows you're like, these life-changing shows you're like, "Yeah, man. I'm glad he didn't interview "Yeah, man. I'm glad he didn't interview "Yeah, man. I'm glad he didn't interview somebody today. This is better." somebody today. This is better." somebody today. This is better." So I have to say this to you. So I have to say this to you. So I have to say this to you. You have an emotional home and it's You have an emotional home and it's You have an emotional home and it's important to take an inventory of what important to take an inventory of what important to take an inventory of what is that home because you find a way to is that home because you find a way to is that home because you find a way to get it every week. Whatever those get it every week. Whatever those get it every week. Whatever those emotions are. They could be peace, joy, emotions are. They could be peace, joy, emotions are. They could be peace, joy, ecstasy, passion, right? ecstasy, passion, right? ecstasy, passion, right? All those great emotions that you could All those great emotions that you could All those great emotions that you could have. And by the way, they aren't good have. And by the way, they aren't good have. And by the way, they aren't good and bad. Just some serve us and some and bad. Just some serve us and some and bad. Just some serve us and some don't. don't. don't. Then there's other ones. Pain, fear, Then there's other ones. Pain, fear, Then there's other ones. Pain, fear, anxiety, worry, depression, frustration, anxiety, worry, depression, frustration, anxiety, worry, depression, frustration, anger. anger. anger. You all know people as I describe those You all know people as I describe those You all know people as I describe those emotions, you thought of different emotions, you thought of different emotions, you thought of different people, didn't you? When I said anger, people, didn't you? When I said anger, people, didn't you? When I said anger, you thought of someone you know who's you thought of someone you know who's you thought of someone you know who's regularly angry. When I said fearful or regularly angry. When I said fearful or regularly angry. When I said fearful or depressed, you thought of somebody. depressed, you thought of somebody. depressed, you thought of somebody. Maybe you thought of you. And so, if you Maybe you thought of you. And so, if you Maybe you thought of you. And so, if you have this primary emotion that you're have this primary emotion that you're have this primary emotion that you're getting on a regular basis, you find a getting on a regular basis, you find a getting on a regular basis, you find a way to get it, don't you? way to get it, don't you? way to get it, don't you? You do. No matter what's going on, you You do. No matter what's going on, you You do. No matter what's going on, you find a way at some point during your find a way at some point during your find a way at some point during your week to get your fear. week to get your fear. week to get your fear. Why? Because it's familiar. And we move Why? Because it's familiar. And we move Why? Because it's familiar. And we move towards what's familiar. This is how towards what's familiar. This is how towards what's familiar. This is how human beings are. So, the reason we want human beings are. So, the reason we want human beings are. So, the reason we want to go through difficulties is because if to go through difficulties is because if to go through difficulties is because if at the other end of that we can get at the other end of that we can get at the other end of that we can get another self, maybe we can get another another self, maybe we can get another another self, maybe we can get another emotion. Because self is really emotion. Because self is really emotion. Because self is really emotions. What you really don't want is emotions. What you really don't want is emotions. What you really don't want is a jet or cash. You You want how you a jet or cash. You You want how you a jet or cash. You You want how you think that will make you feel. What you think that will make you feel. What you think that will make you feel. What you really don't want is just a really don't want is just a really don't want is just a relationship, it's how you think the relationship, it's how you think the relationship, it's how you think the relationship will make you feel. You relationship will make you feel. You relationship will make you feel. You don't just want to win that contest don't just want to win that contest don't just want to win that contest you're in right now, it's how you think you're in right now, it's how you think you're in right now, it's how you think it'll make you feel. So, what you're it'll make you feel. So, what you're it'll make you feel. So, what you're chasing is the emotions. See, I know chasing is the emotions. See, I know chasing is the emotions. See, I know people with absolutely no money who feel people with absolutely no money who feel people with absolutely no money who feel rich. I know a bunch of people with a rich. I know a bunch of people with a rich. I know a bunch of people with a lot of money who feel broke. lot of money who feel broke. lot of money who feel broke. Right? So, what we're really chasing is Right? So, what we're really chasing is Right? So, what we're really chasing is our emotions. So, for me, I'm How do you our emotions. So, for me, I'm How do you our emotions. So, for me, I'm How do you do that? You become very intentional do that? You become very intentional do that? You become very intentional about what they are. You become about what they are. You become about what they are. You become intentional. My primary emotion I'm intentional. My primary emotion I'm intentional. My primary emotion I'm chasing right now that I can experience chasing right now that I can experience chasing right now that I can experience anytime I want, but I don't have to anytime I want, but I don't have to anytime I want, but I don't have to chase it. That's That word's probably chase it. That's That word's probably chase it. That's That word's probably not well said. I can experience anytime not well said. I can experience anytime not well said. I can experience anytime I want because it exists within me is I want because it exists within me is I want because it exists within me is peace. peace. peace. And when I'm not getting peace, I get And when I'm not getting peace, I get And when I'm not getting peace, I get intentional about seeking it. I'm not intentional about seeking it. I'm not intentional about seeking it. I'm not going to do things in my life anymore going to do things in my life anymore going to do things in my life anymore that on the other end of it can't that on the other end of it can't that on the other end of it can't acquire me more peace. I may lack some acquire me more peace. I may lack some acquire me more peace. I may lack some as I do it, but I'm going to get more of as I do it, but I'm going to get more of as I do it, but I'm going to get more of it on the other side of it. Starting to it on the other side of it. Starting to it on the other side of it. Starting to become intentional. And I'll share with become intentional. And I'll share with become intentional. And I'll share with you, we all have emotions that don't you, we all have emotions that don't you, we all have emotions that don't serve us. We all do. One of mine is serve us. We all do. One of mine is serve us. We all do. One of mine is chaos. I love chaos. Isn't that chaos. I love chaos. Isn't that chaos. I love chaos. Isn't that interesting? interesting? interesting? I love chaos. I just realized this is a I love chaos. I just realized this is a I love chaos. I just realized this is a adult. Like adult. Like adult. Like I always create chaos in my Why? I I always create chaos in my Why? I I always create chaos in my Why? I thrive I always say people, I thrive in thrive I always say people, I thrive in thrive I always say people, I thrive in chaos cuz I do. I'm familiar with it. chaos cuz I do. I'm familiar with it. chaos cuz I do. I'm familiar with it. Why do I always create chaos? Even when Why do I always create chaos? Even when Why do I always create chaos? Even when things are great, it's like, nope, I got things are great, it's like, nope, I got things are great, it's like, nope, I got to do this, I got to do that. I got I to do this, I got to do that. I got I to do this, I got to do that. I got I get create a chaotic state, I create get create a chaotic state, I create get create a chaotic state, I create chaos around me. chaos around me. chaos around me. I've become aware of this. I've become aware of this. I've become aware of this. Why? Because chaos is familiar to me. Why? Because chaos is familiar to me. Why? Because chaos is familiar to me. Why is chaos familiar to me? Because to Why is chaos familiar to me? Because to Why is chaos familiar to me? Because to some extent in my childhood, it was some extent in my childhood, it was some extent in my childhood, it was chaotic. Most of you know that my dad chaotic. Most of you know that my dad chaotic. Most of you know that my dad was an alcoholic. Greatest guy in the was an alcoholic. Greatest guy in the was an alcoholic. Greatest guy in the world, sober for 35 years after that. world, sober for 35 years after that. world, sober for 35 years after that. But in my early upbringing, it was But in my early upbringing, it was But in my early upbringing, it was chaotic. It was unstable. I didn't know chaotic. It was unstable. I didn't know chaotic. It was unstable. I didn't know was he coming home? Was he not coming was he coming home? Was he not coming was he coming home? Was he not coming home? What mood's he going to be in? Are home? What mood's he going to be in? Are home? What mood's he going to be in? Are mom and dad going to stay married? You mom and dad going to stay married? You mom and dad going to stay married? You know, all those kinds of things. And it know, all those kinds of things. And it know, all those kinds of things. And it was chaotic, and I became familiar with was chaotic, and I became familiar with was chaotic, and I became familiar with chaos. And so, I find a way in my given chaos. And so, I find a way in my given chaos. And so, I find a way in my given week or my month or my day to find week or my month or my day to find week or my month or my day to find chaos, don't I? And I do. Anybody that chaos, don't I? And I do. Anybody that chaos, don't I? And I do. Anybody that knows me knows that's true. And I thrive knows me knows that's true. And I thrive knows me knows that's true. And I thrive in it. Chaos, by the way, can be used in it. Chaos, by the way, can be used in it. Chaos, by the way, can be used positively. Chaos has caused me to positively. Chaos has caused me to positively. Chaos has caused me to become wealthy. Chaos has caused me to become wealthy. Chaos has caused me to become wealthy. Chaos has caused me to not want to be overweight and to be fit. not want to be overweight and to be fit. not want to be overweight and to be fit. Sometimes that chaos, I've learned to Sometimes that chaos, I've learned to Sometimes that chaos, I've learned to thrive in it. But you have to ask thrive in it. But you have to ask thrive in it. But you have to ask yourself, and I had to ask myself, do I yourself, and I had to ask myself, do I yourself, and I had to ask myself, do I want to live all my life in chaos? No. want to live all my life in chaos? No. want to live all my life in chaos? No. And then I got intentional. If chaos And then I got intentional. If chaos And then I got intentional. If chaos doesn't serve me that way, what emotions doesn't serve me that way, what emotions doesn't serve me that way, what emotions do I want? I want more joy. I want more do I want? I want more joy. I want more do I want? I want more joy. I want more laughter. I want more peace. And so, I'm laughter. I want more peace. And so, I'm laughter. I want more peace. And so, I'm intentional about getting it, and I'm intentional about getting it, and I'm intentional about getting it, and I'm aware aware aware when I'm starting to generate chaos when I'm starting to generate chaos when I'm starting to generate chaos unintentionally. And that awareness for unintentionally. And that awareness for unintentionally. And that awareness for me, that awareness, causes it to lose me, that awareness, causes it to lose me, that awareness, causes it to lose its power over me. So, in your case, I its power over me. So, in your case, I its power over me. So, in your case, I would ask you, what emotion is your would ask you, what emotion is your would ask you, what emotion is your emotional home that you get the most emotional home that you get the most emotional home that you get the most regularly? Is it really joy? Is it regularly? Is it really joy? Is it regularly? Is it really joy? Is it really peace? really peace? really peace? Is it really ecstasy? Passion? Right? Or Is it really ecstasy? Passion? Right? Or Is it really ecstasy? Passion? Right? Or do you get a little bit familiar with do you get a little bit familiar with do you get a little bit familiar with worry, anger, frustration, worry, anger, frustration, worry, anger, frustration, melancholy, whatever you want to call melancholy, whatever you want to call melancholy, whatever you want to call it? it? it? Fear, Fear, Fear, right? right? right? And it once you know that, ask yourself, And it once you know that, ask yourself, And it once you know that, ask yourself, what are the emotions I would want to what are the emotions I would want to what are the emotions I would want to experience on a regular basis? And get experience on a regular basis? And get experience on a regular basis? And get intentional about them, and become aware intentional about them, and become aware intentional about them, and become aware when you're doing the ones you don't when you're doing the ones you don't when you're doing the ones you don't think serve you, all right? And then ask think serve you, all right? And then ask think serve you, all right? And then ask yourself this. yourself this. yourself this. What would I have to think or believe in What would I have to think or believe in What would I have to think or believe in order to generate that emotion? order to generate that emotion? order to generate that emotion? Right? Because a lot of times we have Right? Because a lot of times we have Right? Because a lot of times we have thoughts that don't serve us. Thoughts thoughts that don't serve us. Thoughts thoughts that don't serve us. Thoughts generate emotions, right? It's not an generate emotions, right? It's not an generate emotions, right? It's not an event event event that generates the quality of our life. that generates the quality of our life. that generates the quality of our life. There's an event, then there is our There's an event, then there is our There's an event, then there is our perception of the event, perception of the event, perception of the event, our thought about it, which creates the our thought about it, which creates the our thought about it, which creates the emotion. So, it's not the events of our emotion. So, it's not the events of our emotion. So, it's not the events of our lives. You can be going through a very lives. You can be going through a very lives. You can be going through a very difficult time and have peace. You can difficult time and have peace. You can difficult time and have peace. You can go through a very difficult time and go through a very difficult time and go through a very difficult time and feel strong. feel strong. feel strong. It's being intentional about it. And so, It's being intentional about it. And so, It's being intentional about it. And so, I would challenge you to begin to think I would challenge you to begin to think I would challenge you to begin to think about what would I need to think. What about what would I need to think. What about what would I need to think. What do I normally think that causes me, and do I normally think that causes me, and do I normally think that causes me, and I'm going to tell you in a minute, what I'm going to tell you in a minute, what I'm going to tell you in a minute, what do I normally think that causes me to do I normally think that causes me to do I normally think that causes me to get this emotion that get this emotion that get this emotion that creates [snorts] stress for me? And what creates [snorts] stress for me? And what creates [snorts] stress for me? And what would I need to think in order to get would I need to think in order to get would I need to think in order to get the ones I want when the same stimulus the ones I want when the same stimulus the ones I want when the same stimulus happens? happens? happens? So, So, So, in Think and Grow Rich, in Think and Grow Rich, in Think and Grow Rich, he says there are six basic fears. he says there are six basic fears. he says there are six basic fears. By the way, in the power of one more, I By the way, in the power of one more, I By the way, in the power of one more, I show you how to overcome these fears show you how to overcome these fears show you how to overcome these fears with daily strategies. with daily strategies. with daily strategies. So, it's not just the thought, it's the So, it's not just the thought, it's the So, it's not just the thought, it's the action you would take. I mirror the action you would take. I mirror the action you would take. I mirror the thought in congruency with the action, thought in congruency with the action, thought in congruency with the action, and that's why the power of one more is and that's why the power of one more is and that's why the power of one more is such a really unique book. Having said such a really unique book. Having said such a really unique book. Having said that, these are the six basic fears that, these are the six basic fears that, these are the six basic fears according to Napoleon Hill, and they're according to Napoleon Hill, and they're according to Napoleon Hill, and they're really interesting. He says, "There are really interesting. He says, "There are really interesting. He says, "There are six basic fears, with some combination six basic fears, with some combination six basic fears, with some combination of which every human suffers at one time of which every human suffers at one time of which every human suffers at one time or another. Most people are fortunate if or another. Most people are fortunate if or another. Most people are fortunate if they do not suffer from the entire six." they do not suffer from the entire six." they do not suffer from the entire six." Named in the order of their most common Named in the order of their most common Named in the order of their most common appearance, they are, this is appearance, they are, this is appearance, they are, this is interesting, in sequence. interesting, in sequence. interesting, in sequence. The number one fear is the fear of The number one fear is the fear of The number one fear is the fear of poverty. And just process that. Do you have the And just process that. Do you have the fear of poverty? Do you have the fear fear of poverty? Do you have the fear fear of poverty? Do you have the fear that whatever you're going through right that whatever you're going through right that whatever you're going through right now, you're going to be broke? now, you're going to be broke? now, you're going to be broke? You have the fear that you're going to You have the fear that you're going to You have the fear that you're going to run out of money, that you're not going run out of money, that you're not going run out of money, that you're not going to eat, or whatever it might be, the to eat, or whatever it might be, the to eat, or whatever it might be, the fear of poverty. fear of poverty. fear of poverty. Number two, the fear of criticism. Number two, the fear of criticism. Number two, the fear of criticism. Right? By the way, these are the bottom, Right? By the way, these are the bottom, Right? By the way, these are the bottom, not the top, excuse me. not the top, excuse me. not the top, excuse me. The fear of criticism. The fear of criticism. The fear of criticism. Do you have any of that? Do you have any of that? Do you have any of that? The fear of ill health. The fear of ill health. The fear of ill health. Okay, so those are the bottom three, not Okay, so those are the bottom three, not Okay, so those are the bottom three, not the top three. Bottom three. the top three. Bottom three. the top three. Bottom three. Fourth fear, the fear of loss of love of Fourth fear, the fear of loss of love of Fourth fear, the fear of loss of love of someone. someone. someone. In other words, someone you love will no In other words, someone you love will no In other words, someone you love will no longer love you. Okay? Okay? Five, the fear of old age, getting old Five, the fear of old age, getting old Five, the fear of old age, getting old and missing your prime, missing your and missing your prime, missing your and missing your prime, missing your moment, missing your life. moment, missing your life. moment, missing your life. >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> And then lastly, the fear of death. >> And then lastly, the fear of death. >> And then lastly, the fear of death. And so those are the six fears, poverty, And so those are the six fears, poverty, And so those are the six fears, poverty, criticism, bad health, loss of the love criticism, bad health, loss of the love criticism, bad health, loss of the love of someone, old age, and death. And of someone, old age, and death. And of someone, old age, and death. And usually, I think you'll find that when usually, I think you'll find that when usually, I think you'll find that when you're experiencing stress and anxiety, you're experiencing stress and anxiety, you're experiencing stress and anxiety, it's born out of one of those fears. And it's born out of one of those fears. And it's born out of one of those fears. And I know you're sitting there going, "Ed, I know you're sitting there going, "Ed, I know you're sitting there going, "Ed, this is damn good. Thank you for doing this is damn good. Thank you for doing this is damn good. Thank you for doing the show today." I hope you are. And if the show today." I hope you are. And if the show today." I hope you are. And if you do feel that, share it. Fastest you do feel that, share it. Fastest you do feel that, share it. Fastest growing show in the world, share it. So, growing show in the world, share it. So, growing show in the world, share it. So, I'm aware of the fears that I have, and I'm aware of the fears that I have, and I'm aware of the fears that I have, and that's why success records is no that's why success records is no that's why success records is no apologies. I'm not worried about apologies. I'm not worried about apologies. I'm not worried about criticism. criticism. criticism. And failure permits no alibis. And failure permits no alibis. And failure permits no alibis. There are no alibis. There are no There are no alibis. There are no There are no alibis. There are no excuses. There just aren't any. And you excuses. There just aren't any. And you excuses. There just aren't any. And you can go, "Well, Ed, you don't understand. can go, "Well, Ed, you don't understand. can go, "Well, Ed, you don't understand. I do have this excuse. I do have this I do have this excuse. I do have this I do have this excuse. I do have this issue. I do have this situation that issue. I do have this situation that issue. I do have this situation that isn't fair for me." isn't fair for me." isn't fair for me." By the way, you're probably right. And By the way, you're probably right. And By the way, you're probably right. And if you think it, you're definitely if you think it, you're definitely if you think it, you're definitely right. right. right. What you have to ask yourself is, does What you have to ask yourself is, does What you have to ask yourself is, does it serve you to believe that? it serve you to believe that? it serve you to believe that? Or what would you need to believe in Or what would you need to believe in Or what would you need to believe in spite of that? spite of that? spite of that? You say, "Well, hey, I started too late. You say, "Well, hey, I started too late. You say, "Well, hey, I started too late. I don't have enough money." What if you I don't have enough money." What if you I don't have enough money." What if you started to think, man, what a story this started to think, man, what a story this started to think, man, what a story this is going to be that I started with no is going to be that I started with no is going to be that I started with no money? Or you know what? I'm a money? Or you know what? I'm a money? Or you know what? I'm a particular group of people that's particular group of people that's particular group of people that's marginalized and it's more difficult for marginalized and it's more difficult for marginalized and it's more difficult for me. I would just submit to you that me. I would just submit to you that me. I would just submit to you that isn't the story going to be sweeter when isn't the story going to be sweeter when isn't the story going to be sweeter when you do win? Isn't it going to even be you do win? Isn't it going to even be you do win? Isn't it going to even be more inspiring when you do win? Isn't it more inspiring when you do win? Isn't it more inspiring when you do win? Isn't it going to move more people? Isn't your going to move more people? Isn't your going to move more people? Isn't your test going to be your testimony? test going to be your testimony? test going to be your testimony? Whatever this thing is that is the alibi Whatever this thing is that is the alibi Whatever this thing is that is the alibi that you have in your life, whatever it that you have in your life, whatever it that you have in your life, whatever it is. Someone hurt me. This overcame. I is. Someone hurt me. This overcame. I is. Someone hurt me. This overcame. I I'm in this situation. You don't I'm in this situation. You don't I'm in this situation. You don't understand my health situation. Listen, understand my health situation. Listen, understand my health situation. Listen, if it serves you to believe that, keep if it serves you to believe that, keep if it serves you to believe that, keep believing it. But as your friend and believing it. But as your friend and believing it. But as your friend and your coach and a mentor to you and your coach and a mentor to you and your coach and a mentor to you and someone who loves you and cares about someone who loves you and cares about someone who loves you and cares about you, I would say this does not serve you you, I would say this does not serve you you, I would say this does not serve you even if it's true. even if it's true. even if it's true. Even if it's true. What would you need Even if it's true. What would you need Even if it's true. What would you need to believe about it that now gives you to believe about it that now gives you to believe about it that now gives you power instead of kryptonite? power instead of kryptonite? power instead of kryptonite? And you begin to ask yourself these And you begin to ask yourself these And you begin to ask yourself these questions. So, questions. So, questions. So, you know, you're going to show up, so you know, you're going to show up, so you know, you're going to show up, so that's one thing. You're going to show that's one thing. You're going to show that's one thing. You're going to show up 20 years from now somewhere. up 20 years from now somewhere. up 20 years from now somewhere. The question is where? The question is where? The question is where? And what I would submit to you is that And what I would submit to you is that And what I would submit to you is that one of the ways out of difficult times one of the ways out of difficult times one of the ways out of difficult times is huge, bold, God-sized dreams. Like, is huge, bold, God-sized dreams. Like, is huge, bold, God-sized dreams. Like, what is your huge bold The one you're what is your huge bold The one you're what is your huge bold The one you're embarrassed to tell people about? The embarrassed to tell people about? The embarrassed to tell people about? The huge, bold, God-sized dream in your huge, bold, God-sized dream in your huge, bold, God-sized dream in your life. And the more of it you can to life. And the more of it you can to life. And the more of it you can to project into [snorts] that dream state project into [snorts] that dream state project into [snorts] that dream state of what you want in your life, the more of what you want in your life, the more of what you want in your life, the more it gives you the inspiration. If your it gives you the inspiration. If your it gives you the inspiration. If your dreams are bigger than the adversity, dreams are bigger than the adversity, dreams are bigger than the adversity, you'll get through it. But the minute you'll get through it. But the minute you'll get through it. But the minute that adversity, those emotions are that adversity, those emotions are that adversity, those emotions are bigger than where you're going, bigger bigger than where you're going, bigger bigger than where you're going, bigger than your dreams, you're toast. You got than your dreams, you're toast. You got than your dreams, you're toast. You got to reevaluate that. to reevaluate that. to reevaluate that. You got to look at it. You got to say, You got to look at it. You got to say, You got to look at it. You got to say, "Wait a minute. What's my big dream? "Wait a minute. What's my big dream? "Wait a minute. What's my big dream? What's my big goal? What's that big What's my big goal? What's that big What's my big goal? What's that big emotion? What's that thing? What's that emotion? What's that thing? What's that emotion? What's that thing? What's that place? What's that person? What's that place? What's that person? What's that place? What's that person? What's that contribution?" Whatever it might be, and contribution?" Whatever it might be, and contribution?" Whatever it might be, and you got to begin to obsess about it you got to begin to obsess about it you got to begin to obsess about it because what I said earlier is true. because what I said earlier is true. because what I said earlier is true. Your mind moves towards what it's most Your mind moves towards what it's most Your mind moves towards what it's most familiar with. familiar with. familiar with. So, if you're most familiar with your So, if you're most familiar with your So, if you're most familiar with your fears, those six fears, or these fears, those six fears, or these fears, those six fears, or these emotions you don't want, or your emotions you don't want, or your emotions you don't want, or your problems, or your setbacks, or the problems, or your setbacks, or the problems, or your setbacks, or the things that are are not in your favor, things that are are not in your favor, things that are are not in your favor, then you're going to move towards them. then you're going to move towards them. then you're going to move towards them. Let me say that to you again. You may be Let me say that to you again. You may be Let me say that to you again. You may be right about this adversity. You may be right about this adversity. You may be right about this adversity. You may be right about your circumstance. You may right about your circumstance. You may right about your circumstance. You may be right about all that. be right about all that. be right about all that. But does it serve you to believe it? But does it serve you to believe it? But does it serve you to believe it? Because the way the mind works is it Because the way the mind works is it Because the way the mind works is it moves towards what it's most familiar moves towards what it's most familiar moves towards what it's most familiar with. And the reason some people are with. And the reason some people are with. And the reason some people are successful and most aren't is the successful and most aren't is the successful and most aren't is the successful people have the ability to successful people have the ability to successful people have the ability to begin to program into their mind the begin to program into their mind the begin to program into their mind the things they want, the dreams they have things they want, the dreams they have things they want, the dreams they have over and over and over because they know over and over and over because they know over and over and over because they know this to be true. They belong in their this to be true. They belong in their this to be true. They belong in their dreams. dreams. dreams. Their dreams are not some hallucination. Their dreams are not some hallucination. Their dreams are not some hallucination. They're not a joke. God gave you those They're not a joke. God gave you those They're not a joke. God gave you those dreams as a glimpse, as a preview of dreams as a glimpse, as a preview of dreams as a glimpse, as a preview of what's possible in your life. what's possible in your life. what's possible in your life. And the more you understand, these And the more you understand, these And the more you understand, these dreams don't just come from me. How do I dreams don't just come from me. How do I dreams don't just come from me. How do I have these dreams? Where do they come have these dreams? Where do they come have these dreams? Where do they come from? They come from God in your life. from? They come from God in your life. from? They come from God in your life. Or they Whatever you believe about that. Or they Whatever you believe about that. Or they Whatever you believe about that. I'm a Christian. I believe they come I'm a Christian. I believe they come I'm a Christian. I believe they come straight from Jesus, straight from God. straight from Jesus, straight from God. straight from Jesus, straight from God. But whatever your faith is, the But whatever your faith is, the But whatever your faith is, the universe, whatever you believe, universe, whatever you believe, universe, whatever you believe, they come from outside of you and they come from outside of you and they come from outside of you and they're not a joke. They're a preview of they're not a joke. They're a preview of they're not a joke. They're a preview of what's possible. what's possible. what's possible. And the more you move towards those And the more you move towards those And the more you move towards those thoughts, those dreams in faith, boldly, thoughts, those dreams in faith, boldly, thoughts, those dreams in faith, boldly, strong, strong, strong, and not towards these six fears you and not towards these six fears you and not towards these six fears you have, or this circumstance. And I'm not have, or this circumstance. And I'm not have, or this circumstance. And I'm not talking about don't deal with reality. talking about don't deal with reality. talking about don't deal with reality. I'm not saying I already said, I'm not saying I already said, I'm not saying I already said, you need to pivot. You need to course you need to pivot. You need to course you need to pivot. You need to course correct. You need a better plan. correct. You need a better plan. correct. You need a better plan. Clearly, you need a better plan. But Clearly, you need a better plan. But Clearly, you need a better plan. But what you don't need is to be moving what you don't need is to be moving what you don't need is to be moving towards the thoughts that don't serve towards the thoughts that don't serve towards the thoughts that don't serve you, because you keep getting them, you, because you keep getting them, you, because you keep getting them, don't you? You keep drawing the don't you? You keep drawing the don't you? You keep drawing the circumstances into your life that don't circumstances into your life that don't circumstances into your life that don't serve you, because your mind moves you serve you, because your mind moves you serve you, because your mind moves you towards what you're familiar with. towards what you're familiar with. towards what you're familiar with. Please, sister. I love you. Please, Please, sister. I love you. Please, Please, sister. I love you. Please, brother. Listen to what I'm saying. brother. Listen to what I'm saying. brother. Listen to what I'm saying. Begin to feed these thoughts to you Begin to feed these thoughts to you Begin to feed these thoughts to you regularly. And begin to take the actions regularly. And begin to take the actions regularly. And begin to take the actions in congruency with them. And when you in congruency with them. And when you in congruency with them. And when you begin to think and act in congruency, begin to think and act in congruency, begin to think and act in congruency, you become a force in the world that is you become a force in the world that is you become a force in the world that is unstoppable eventually, if you can unstoppable eventually, if you can unstoppable eventually, if you can outlast the temporary. Not right away. outlast the temporary. Not right away. outlast the temporary. Not right away. See, there's two things people lack. The See, there's two things people lack. The See, there's two things people lack. The Bible says, "Where there is no vision, Bible says, "Where there is no vision, Bible says, "Where there is no vision, the people perish." People lack vision, the people perish." People lack vision, the people perish." People lack vision, but oftentimes when they get a vision, but oftentimes when they get a vision, but oftentimes when they get a vision, the other thing that they suffer from is the other thing that they suffer from is the other thing that they suffer from is depth perception issues. They think it's depth perception issues. They think it's depth perception issues. They think it's further than it is. They think they're further than it is. They think they're further than it is. They think they're further away than they really are, and further away than they really are, and further away than they really are, and so they pace themselves and they act so they pace themselves and they act so they pace themselves and they act like it, and they don't let their mind like it, and they don't let their mind like it, and they don't let their mind go there regularly, and so they go there regularly, and so they go there regularly, and so they constantly stay in a perpetual state of constantly stay in a perpetual state of constantly stay in a perpetual state of being far from it. being far from it. being far from it. The premise of my book, The Power of One The premise of my book, The Power of One The premise of my book, The Power of One More, is very simple when you get it. More, is very simple when you get it. More, is very simple when you get it. And it's this, you're a lot closer to And it's this, you're a lot closer to And it's this, you're a lot closer to your dreams than you think. your dreams than you think. your dreams than you think. You're a lot closer to these emotions, You're a lot closer to these emotions, You're a lot closer to these emotions, these feelings, that life, that other these feelings, that life, that other these feelings, that life, that other self than you think you are. And let me self than you think you are. And let me self than you think you are. And let me tell you what you are. You're one tell you what you are. You're one tell you what you are. You're one decision away, one possible meeting, one decision away, one possible meeting, one decision away, one possible meeting, one relationship, one thought, one emotion, relationship, one thought, one emotion, relationship, one thought, one emotion, one strategy in my new book, away from one strategy in my new book, away from one strategy in my new book, away from changing it. You're a lot closer than changing it. You're a lot closer than changing it. You're a lot closer than you think. you think. you think. So, stop thinking it's so far away. So, stop thinking it's so far away. So, stop thinking it's so far away. And stop thinking about all the things And stop thinking about all the things And stop thinking about all the things all the time that don't serve you. all the time that don't serve you. all the time that don't serve you. Right? By the way, what is thinking and Right? By the way, what is thinking and Right? By the way, what is thinking and how do I think better? What's a thought? how do I think better? What's a thought? how do I think better? What's a thought? A thought is the process of asking A thought is the process of asking A thought is the process of asking yourself a question and answering it. yourself a question and answering it. yourself a question and answering it. So, ask yourself better questions and So, ask yourself better questions and So, ask yourself better questions and you will have better thoughts and better you will have better thoughts and better you will have better thoughts and better answers. So, if you do have this answers. So, if you do have this answers. So, if you do have this detriment, that's that's this this thing detriment, that's that's this this thing detriment, that's that's this this thing that's this it's a hindrance and you that's this it's a hindrance and you that's this it's a hindrance and you know it's a hindrance and it's a know it's a hindrance and it's a know it's a hindrance and it's a challenge or you're going through challenge or you're going through challenge or you're going through something, something, something, right? That's okay. The question is, ask right? That's okay. The question is, ask right? That's okay. The question is, ask yourself a better question about it. yourself a better question about it. yourself a better question about it. Instead of saying, that's why I'm going Instead of saying, that's why I'm going Instead of saying, that's why I'm going to lose, it's hey, how can I overcome to lose, it's hey, how can I overcome to lose, it's hey, how can I overcome this? What are the answer to this? Who this? What are the answer to this? Who this? What are the answer to this? Who are people like me that have won? Who's are people like me that have won? Who's are people like me that have won? Who's over What is my story going to look like over What is my story going to look like over What is my story going to look like when I win? How's it going to feel when when I win? How's it going to feel when when I win? How's it going to feel when I get there? What's the tactic or I get there? What's the tactic or I get there? What's the tactic or strategy that I need to implement to strategy that I need to implement to strategy that I need to implement to overcome this that other people don't, overcome this that other people don't, overcome this that other people don't, but I'm going to because I deserve to but I'm going to because I deserve to but I'm going to because I deserve to get there because these dreams are a get there because these dreams are a get there because these dreams are a preview of who I'm supposed to be. preview of who I'm supposed to be. preview of who I'm supposed to be. So, get these familiar thoughts, get So, get these familiar thoughts, get So, get these familiar thoughts, get these familiar emotions, know that all these familiar emotions, know that all these familiar emotions, know that all pain is temporary, outlast the pain is temporary, outlast the pain is temporary, outlast the temporary. temporary. temporary. >> One of the things I want to wrap up on, >> One of the things I want to wrap up on, >> One of the things I want to wrap up on, Ed, and it's, you know, the power of one Ed, and it's, you know, the power of one Ed, and it's, you know, the power of one more, you talk about it, is just every more, you talk about it, is just every more, you talk about it, is just every person has the potential to be the one. person has the potential to be the one. person has the potential to be the one. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. And I didn't call it that, And I didn't call it that, And I didn't call it that, but if you meet my family, they will but if you meet my family, they will but if you meet my family, they will definitely say like we're Sugars. definitely say like we're Sugars. definitely say like we're Sugars. >> Dan Dan went first. >> Dan Dan went first. >> Dan Dan went first. >> Yep. >> Yep. >> Yep. >> And then people always say, well, were >> And then people always say, well, were >> And then people always say, well, were your brothers and sisters in trouble your brothers and sisters in trouble your brothers and sisters in trouble growing up? Yeah. But it seemed like growing up? Yeah. But it seemed like growing up? Yeah. But it seemed like once I got my life together and I and I once I got my life together and I and I once I got my life together and I and I changed the energy that everybody just changed the energy that everybody just changed the energy that everybody just kind of came with us and kind of came with us and kind of came with us and like like like how beautiful is it? And this is the how beautiful is it? And this is the how beautiful is it? And this is the thing I I I I want to acknowledge is um thing I I I I want to acknowledge is um thing I I I I want to acknowledge is um the moment you realize that there was a the moment you realize that there was a the moment you realize that there was a one for your dad. one for your dad. one for your dad. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Your dad was an alcoholic and somebody >> Your dad was an alcoholic and somebody >> Your dad was an alcoholic and somebody showed up and was that for him and it showed up and was that for him and it showed up and was that for him and it shifted his life and your life. shifted his life and your life. shifted his life and your life. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And my life. >> And my life. >> And my life. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Cuz I'm here with you. >> Cuz I'm here with you. >> Cuz I'm here with you. >> Yeah. So, thank you for asking that. I >> Yeah. So, thank you for asking that. I >> Yeah. So, thank you for asking that. I wrote The Power of One More and I um wrote The Power of One More and I um wrote The Power of One More and I um A lot of it has to do with my dad and A lot of it has to do with my dad and A lot of it has to do with my dad and you know, one more was my dad got sober you know, one more was my dad got sober you know, one more was my dad got sober one more time and then he would stay one more time and then he would stay one more time and then he would stay sober one day at a time. sober one day at a time. sober one day at a time. >> It's interesting cuz that's a little bit >> It's interesting cuz that's a little bit >> It's interesting cuz that's a little bit of the book but the rest of it is like of the book but the rest of it is like of the book but the rest of it is like really detailed stuff as you know. really detailed stuff as you know. really detailed stuff as you know. But after I wrote it, it was about 6 But after I wrote it, it was about 6 But after I wrote it, it was about 6 months months months after I wrote it, it was out actually. after I wrote it, it was out actually. after I wrote it, it was out actually. Woke up right down the bedroom right Woke up right down the bedroom right Woke up right down the bedroom right below where we're sitting right now. below where we're sitting right now. below where we're sitting right now. >> house? >> house? >> house? >> Yeah, in this house. I was really I was >> Yeah, in this house. I was really I was >> Yeah, in this house. I was really I was crying. crying. crying. And And And Christiane woke up, she goes, "What's Christiane woke up, she goes, "What's Christiane woke up, she goes, "What's wrong?" And I said, wrong?" And I said, wrong?" And I said, "Babe." I was kind of gasping. I'm like, "Babe." I was kind of gasping. I'm like, "Babe." I was kind of gasping. I'm like, "Someone helped Daddy." "Someone helped Daddy." "Someone helped Daddy." And she's like, "What?" And she's like, "What?" And she's like, "What?" And I go, "Someone helped Daddy." And And I go, "Someone helped Daddy." And And I go, "Someone helped Daddy." And she goes, "What do you mean?" I go, she goes, "What do you mean?" I go, she goes, "What do you mean?" I go, "Someone helped my dad get sober." "Someone helped my dad get sober." "Someone helped my dad get sober." Why in the world this never occurred to Why in the world this never occurred to Why in the world this never occurred to me before, but in my dad's program me before, but in my dad's program me before, but in my dad's program someone helps you. And she goes, "Oh my someone helps you. And she goes, "Oh my someone helps you. And she goes, "Oh my gosh." She said, "This person has no gosh." She said, "This person has no gosh." She said, "This person has no idea I'm my dad's son." So, the ripple idea I'm my dad's son." So, the ripple idea I'm my dad's son." So, the ripple effect, they did something great with effect, they did something great with effect, they did something great with their life, they helped my dad in the their life, they helped my dad in the their life, they helped my dad in the darkest, lowest moment of my my father darkest, lowest moment of my my father darkest, lowest moment of my my father may have been taking his own life. may have been taking his own life. may have been taking his own life. Certainly was going to lose his family, Certainly was going to lose his family, Certainly was going to lose his family, certainly losing his career, but maybe certainly losing his career, but maybe certainly losing his career, but maybe his life. In my dad's lowest moment of his life. In my dad's lowest moment of his life. In my dad's lowest moment of his life, some precious human being his life, some precious human being his life, some precious human being stepped forward and said, "I see you." stepped forward and said, "I see you." stepped forward and said, "I see you." "I see you. "I see you. "I see you. I can help you. Let me tell you about I can help you. Let me tell you about I can help you. Let me tell you about you." you." you." And they changed and saved my dad's And they changed and saved my dad's And they changed and saved my dad's life. That person has no idea that life. That person has no idea that life. That person has no idea that because they helped my dad, I'm his son, because they helped my dad, I'm his son, because they helped my dad, I'm his son, I've reached millions of people. They I've reached millions of people. They I've reached millions of people. They have no idea the ripple effect of that have no idea the ripple effect of that have no idea the ripple effect of that one act of kindness, that one act of my one act of kindness, that one act of my one act of kindness, that one act of my intention intention intention is to serve you. Now, is to serve you. Now, is to serve you. Now, that's incredible. My wife goes, "Oh my that's incredible. My wife goes, "Oh my that's incredible. My wife goes, "Oh my gosh." I said, "That's not even the most gosh." I said, "That's not even the most gosh." I said, "That's not even the most amazing thing. The most amazing thing is amazing thing. The most amazing thing is amazing thing. The most amazing thing is what qualified this person to help my what qualified this person to help my what qualified this person to help my dad. dad. dad. What qualified this person help my dad What qualified this person help my dad What qualified this person help my dad is the very thing most of us thinks is the very thing most of us thinks is the very thing most of us thinks disqualifies us from ever being disqualifies us from ever being disqualifies us from ever being successful. It was the things that human successful. It was the things that human successful. It was the things that human being was most ashamed of, most being was most ashamed of, most being was most ashamed of, most embarrassed by. You know what qualified embarrassed by. You know what qualified embarrassed by. You know what qualified them? They were also a drunk at one them? They were also a drunk at one them? They were also a drunk at one time. They were also a drug addict. They time. They were also a drug addict. They time. They were also a drug addict. They were also a liar. They were also living were also a liar. They were also living were also a liar. They were also living in the shadows. They were also ashamed in the shadows. They were also ashamed in the shadows. They were also ashamed at one time in their life. And because at one time in their life. And because at one time in their life. And because of that, the thing that they thought of that, the thing that they thought of that, the thing that they thought disqualified them was the very thing disqualified them was the very thing disqualified them was the very thing that was qualifying them to change my that was qualifying them to change my that was qualifying them to change my dad's life and be the one in my dad's dad's life and be the one in my dad's dad's life and be the one in my dad's life. life. life. In our lives, we are constantly stacking In our lives, we are constantly stacking In our lives, we are constantly stacking things that we think disqualifies my things that we think disqualifies my things that we think disqualifies my bankruptcy, my business failure, this bankruptcy, my business failure, this bankruptcy, my business failure, this sin of mine, this thing I cheated on, sin of mine, this thing I cheated on, sin of mine, this thing I cheated on, this mistake I made. Maybe it's none of this mistake I made. Maybe it's none of this mistake I made. Maybe it's none of that. I'm just always been invisible and that. I'm just always been invisible and that. I'm just always been invisible and average and ordinary, so I'm average and ordinary, so I'm average and ordinary, so I'm disqualified going forward from not disqualified going forward from not disqualified going forward from not being. And we stack these things and being. And we stack these things and being. And we stack these things and believe we're disqualified. Nothing believe we're disqualified. Nothing believe we're disqualified. Nothing could be further from the truth. You are could be further from the truth. You are could be further from the truth. You are most qualified to help the person or most qualified to help the person or most qualified to help the person or people you used to be. people you used to be. people you used to be. You used to be. And in my dad's case, You used to be. And in my dad's case, You used to be. And in my dad's case, right? That guy used to be a drunk. That right? That guy used to be a drunk. That right? That guy used to be a drunk. That dude used to be an alcoholic. That dude used to be an alcoholic. That dude used to be an alcoholic. That person used to be a liar and a drug person used to be a liar and a drug person used to be a liar and a drug addict. That's what qualified them. So addict. That's what qualified them. So addict. That's what qualified them. So they could look at my dad and go, "Let they could look at my dad and go, "Let they could look at my dad and go, "Let me tell you about you." me tell you about you." me tell you about you." >> I know. >> I know. >> I know. >> I know who you are. I'm also that person >> I know who you are. I'm also that person >> I know who you are. I'm also that person and I changed. And that's also why it's and I changed. And that's also why it's and I changed. And that's also why it's so important in life to continue to grow so important in life to continue to grow so important in life to continue to grow and change because every time you evolve and change because every time you evolve and change because every time you evolve into the next version of you, you're into the next version of you, you're into the next version of you, you're more qualified to help the people you more qualified to help the people you more qualified to help the people you used to be. And so you're not used to be. And so you're not used to be. And so you're not disqualified from being successful. disqualified from being successful. disqualified from being successful. You're not disqualified from being the You're not disqualified from being the You're not disqualified from being the one. In fact, probably the things that one. In fact, probably the things that one. In fact, probably the things that you think are the disqualifiers are the you think are the disqualifiers are the you think are the disqualifiers are the very things God would prefer to use to very things God would prefer to use to very things God would prefer to use to help you change other people's lives and help you change other people's lives and help you change other people's lives and ultimately your own. ultimately your own. ultimately your own. Even that mistake I made with my family, Even that mistake I made with my family, Even that mistake I made with my family, I could have that family that I didn't I could have that family that I didn't I could have that family that I didn't know. I could have easily lived the rest know. I could have easily lived the rest know. I could have easily lived the rest of my life going, "Man, I'm of my life going, "Man, I'm of my life going, "Man, I'm disqualified. I didn't help that disqualified. I didn't help that disqualified. I didn't help that family." That's not the case. The case family." That's not the case. The case family." That's not the case. The case is I'm immensely qualified because I is I'm immensely qualified because I is I'm immensely qualified because I made that mistake to never do it again made that mistake to never do it again made that mistake to never do it again and to help all these other family Do and to help all these other family Do and to help all these other family Do you know how many families I told I'm you know how many families I told I'm you know how many families I told I'm not leaving here tonight because let me not leaving here tonight because let me not leaving here tonight because let me tell you about this mistake I made once tell you about this mistake I made once tell you about this mistake I made once and I'm not making it tonight with your and I'm not making it tonight with your and I'm not making it tonight with your family. And how many of them were family. And how many of them were family. And how many of them were persuaded by that story to then persuaded by that story to then persuaded by that story to then participate? So the thing I thought participate? So the thing I thought participate? So the thing I thought disqualified me actually qualified me disqualified me actually qualified me disqualified me actually qualified me most to help the rest of the families. >> Ooh. It's true. >> Ooh. It's true. That was powerful. That was powerful. That was powerful. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Cuz I think most people wouldn't have >> Cuz I think most people wouldn't have >> Cuz I think most people wouldn't have connected the connected the connected the shame the area of life that they feel shame the area of life that they feel shame the area of life that they feel less than deficit as the the the tool less than deficit as the the the tool less than deficit as the the the tool that they should be using to go serve that they should be using to go serve that they should be using to go serve the world. the world. the world. >> and if you're not, that's okay. >> and if you're not, that's okay. >> and if you're not, that's okay. Everybody listen but if you're Everybody listen but if you're Everybody listen but if you're faith-based, if I'm the adversary and I faith-based, if I'm the adversary and I faith-based, if I'm the adversary and I want to get you to quit on your dream, want to get you to quit on your dream, want to get you to quit on your dream, there's one weapon I'm going to use there's one weapon I'm going to use there's one weapon I'm going to use against you, discouragement. I'm going against you, discouragement. I'm going against you, discouragement. I'm going to get you discouraged and believe to get you discouraged and believe to get you discouraged and believe you're disqualified cuz if I can get you you're disqualified cuz if I can get you you're disqualified cuz if I can get you to believe that, you have no chance. And to believe that, you have no chance. And to believe that, you have no chance. And most people are walking around most people are walking around most people are walking around discouraged thinking they're discouraged thinking they're discouraged thinking they're disqualified and they're actually disqualified and they're actually disqualified and they're actually hanging that lie hanging that lie hanging that lie onto the very thing that is probably onto the very thing that is probably onto the very thing that is probably their qualifier. That's the irony. It's their qualifier. That's the irony. It's their qualifier. That's the irony. It's like if you really In politics right like if you really In politics right like if you really In politics right now, what you do in politics if you want now, what you do in politics if you want now, what you do in politics if you want to win, you accuse the other party of to win, you accuse the other party of to win, you accuse the other party of the very thing you do and you do it the very thing you do and you do it the very thing you do and you do it before they can accuse you. And so in before they can accuse you. And so in before they can accuse you. And so in life, what we do the adversary does is life, what we do the adversary does is life, what we do the adversary does is he gets us to accuse us with the things he gets us to accuse us with the things he gets us to accuse us with the things that are the very thing that would be that are the very thing that would be that are the very thing that would be the key to get us to go change our life. the key to get us to go change our life. the key to get us to go change our life. Uses it as a weapon against us. And so Uses it as a weapon against us. And so Uses it as a weapon against us. And so don't let anybody do that to you. don't let anybody do that to you. don't let anybody do that to you. >> [music]